Dad with dementia doesn't remember daughter but still feels the love 

A lot of people do not know how to deal with this. I do because my mom had Alzheimer's. Just go one day at a time. Love them while they're still with you.

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@@donnywenner4998 I lost my grandma to Alzheimer, and I gotta say, death is a relief next to this travesty.

bro is faking it

fake

God is always G capital

@@Noor-y1p7n yes, they just werent typing with grammar is all

@@Noor-y1p7n Your god either did this or did nothing to stop it. Congratulations

@@holdmusic_ my God told us this life is transient. Heaven is in the afterlife and we must strive for it. He is everyone's God and loves everyone. Lucky are those who are brave enough to look for the truth

​@@Noor-y1p7nye and those who don't get to spend the afterlife burning in Hell. If your god exists he is a monster.

Yesss :) God bless

Indeed!

That self awareness and empathy is astounding

Scary if you think about. People usually call me more logical person than feeling one and it's horrible to see that logic does nothing. You just can't beat memory loss. Of course you can place those stickers everywhere to tell you "hey your name is [..] and you are a dad to [..]! You have dementia!" But these are all alien sources of info for you. Just like in this video all that she says is alien info for her dad. Maybe he WISH to remember, to truly believe what she says but no, it's not that. Imagine yourself now. You wake up one morning and some person in your house tells you "good mornin' mom/dad (depends on your gender, right)" Your first thought would be "who are you and how did you get into my house??" Reaction ofc depends on your memory loss. But any sticker you will read this day, any kind words you'll hear they all will be unnatural for you. Implement logic all you want, draw connections, discover things you own, named jewelry, family photos...it all will be in vain. I think people with such diseases constantly feel out of place. Always like they are new in their own family. Sorry if my english is bad and you misunderstood something.

@@TylerWhitlock i think it is in all of us. but most peolpes mnds are not proseccing that way or never learned. But to be fair, a lot of people have developed to be trhis wonderful even without a conditon that slowly lets you degenerate.

Said three normal sentences but ok

​@@christopheredig1884 Nice comment, Johnny Cage. Must be a hard life living fast, eh?

@@karnagefails333 you can't articulate more than 3 sentences without sweating?

He does articulate very well, considering he has dementia.

Brings tears to my eyes though.

Absolutely.

Yes she is amazing and so patient

And the man himself! I hope they have years of joyful times ahead of them

Just in this moment

Well I'm sure she's not a teenager anymore and she's probably got kids of her own at this point so it's probably not too difficult especially when your whole family loves each other and it's not a difficult thing to do to be around each other. And no I'm not calling you out, I'm just calling myself out because it was very difficult for My family to be around each other for some reason

Yes

Perfectly said, Dutch. Logic and empathy. Thank you.💚

@@jimmorgan6837 I read that in Arthur Morgan's voice.

Sadly the logic will fade away. But the emotions stay until his death.

Depends what you class as Logic. But the feelings remain, you just cant remember what those feelings are linked to.

Yes. I cried for sure.

This is the only dementia video that has moved me so far.

he is so young... we are so fragile..

That's exactly what I thought too. It's heartbreaking :(

hate to see her treat him like a baby tho

Yes. Even if he can’t remember who he is, it doesn’t stop him from being kind. I’m really so touched by these people 😢

@@wancheng89 , me too. Me too.

He probably doesn't have ftd and the part of the brain that regulates emotions etc hasn't been hit badly yet. Just wait..

@@chanabayla1823 , I know in the long-term, they can become shells of who they were. My Oma was governed by fear mainly. Afraid of everything and everyone. Was devastating to my mother. She had no idea is was her daughter that was always trying to improve her quality of life. Only feared she was somehow hurting her. Awful to watch. Let’s hope he stays like he is.

@It’sMe 100% this. I’ve seen patients go in either direction or stay consistent with who they were. My grandma became very sweet. (She always expressed herself as if she hated my brother and I for existing-we weren’t our dad’s first children and she wasn’t fond of my mom because my mom grew up poor) Anyway, as her dementia progressed, she became kind. We just never really know what we’re going to get with dementia.

Im sure he did the time as a dad. Good for both of them.

@@AldoFelt I have no clue on the specifics on how his daughter grew up with her dad. All i know is, I wish my daughter would love me as much as this if i ever go down under…

She will ​@@CapoKabar

Unfortunately we "All" going under

impeccable daughter , eternal bondings

I have an uncle like that, it’s one of those bonds where he would take a bullet so I’ll live vice-versa

💗

its called instinct

@@escapeanimation Nope, Heart has neurons, it's like a peripheral memory.

His mind doesn’t remember. His soul does.

He's at least trying to absorb what she tells him. Not everyone does that.

It gets a little easier with practice unfortunately. But just when you start to get comfortable, they get worse. And you start over.

Been through it, it hurts but it feels better being able to even agree on feelings. She probably was just happy to have a connection. This may have been a good day, trust me the bad days are ones I wouldn't have wanted to record

I bet she bawled her eyes out later when she was on her own. I would have.

@@MrVariant well it’s not like they are not trying. I’m Not sure if you are referring to people in general or to dementia patients. Those patients they are just not in control of their thoughts most of the time. It’s very heartbreaking. They don’t want to be this way. But they can’t control it.

❤

I'm sure you're right.

I can't control tears

I absolutely believe she knew and I hope you take comfort from that loving moment.

The same thing happened to me my father died last year. My family and me sat next to his deathbed and in the very last days, he only moved his eyes from right to left recognising us. He could not speak anymore since his strokes. The only thing I remember is that right before his last minutes, his eyes moved more quickly looking at us, while tears came out of his eyes. I’m very happy that I could share his last moments with my family together, but it tears me apart if I think of it. I often think of him and wish that he would be here, but at the same time, his pain was relieved and now he is in a better place. ❤

Terribly sad. No words.

This can be reversed. It is cooked foods that are causing this. If the person still has his/her wits get them onto a 100% fruit diet specifically grapes, berries, citrus and melons to pull the acidic mucus out of the body and get the lymphatic system flowing again. It will take some time but it works. If the person is too far gone and is angry and confused its over. Look up Dr Morse TV. The guy helped me cure my mum.

Yeah I know he looks so dang young

@@ilacallya324 definitely the shots are terrible

@@ilacallya324 🛑 making crap up. They do not cause dementia.

right? I hope I notice if anything like that happens to me when I get older, so I can go in peace instead of just disappearing slowly

That’s what I’m thinking. This guy can’t be much older than 45 right? Looks pretty healthy too.

Early onset dementia can progress really fast. I had a neighbor around 55 years old who was a brilliant engineer with several patents to his name. I met when I moved into my house. He said excuse me if I seem a little off, I have dementia. Within a year he didn’t recognize anyone (including his wife) and became angry and difficult to manage. He died a short while after. It was so sad.

@@Pawnband More lake late 50s

Dude looos like he’s in his 30s...😢

sorry to tell you the 'soul' you can see is most likely the effect of the extremely potent medication he is on.

​@@dd52161 Nasty people can't hide it when their memory goes. This man is worried about hurting the feelings of a woman he doesn't know.

@@dd52161 What medication is that?

The brain is a receiver/antenna, and the signal is consciousness.. for some reason this illness disrupts that signal. Once we understand consciousness we understand ourselves.

@@dd52161 you think that guy is on coke? No shot

You should never ever say a family member handled a situation with a parent correctly or believe that a healthcare provider is in any position to pass judgement. You can pass judgement on us as staff but unless it's abusive don't alienate a parent's children by stating they are communicating properly with their parent. Your probably going to see them a lot. Many new nurses do and it invariably becomes an issue.

@@anklebiter9116 How is that alienating?

​@@anklebiter9116you're*

oh god, no, if i ever suffer from dementia i don't want people around me to lie to me in order to make me comfortable. if someone i have never seen before walked into my house and explained that i have dementia and handed me a DNA test that proves the connection, then all i would have to do is ask about something we did together. if they can come up with a highly detailed answer on the spot, then it would make logical sense that they're teling the truth and i do have dementia. im the type of person to consider the possibility that at any point, my mind could be cloned in the far future in a simulation and to not freak out if that happens. however, if you talked to me in a wishy-washy way like the girl is here, it would probably just freak me out since it's weird that you lack certainty on our connection. everyone has different brains. i don't think there should be "textbook" guides for interacting with disabled human beings.

@@Test-tu9mb With all due respect, is it possible that we-able-body and able-minded people-can accurately predict how we would hypothetically process and respond to information in the event that we began to suffer from loss of cognitive functioning?

Great quote. One I think of often when I’m talking to strangers. I hope you have a lovely day and thank you for reminding me of such a great quote.

Maybe the most important quote that human beings could remember. The world would be so much better if everyone did

I had to write this quote down. Thanks for re-sharing it! It’s a beautiful QUOTE!

Amen.

@@NBC09 indeed. A beautiful quote that can help us in life

I agree. The way he tried to be careful not to upset anyone is incredibly empathetic.

You gotta get it together Usko.

@@rockscousteau its too close to home. My mother had dementia

Me too. Heartbreaking but the pure love is still there.

The moment you lose memory, you lose identity the only thing that remains is the core moral construct and character of you as a human. You can see one at that point if is a good person or not..

No she’s not. Why is she putting this for the world to see. These people are scary. They cant even preserve their own parents dignity 🤮

@@cestbonbon5961 , Perhaps her father was an open person, and she takes after him. I understand your concern. But, on the flip side, too many people hide their loved ones like they're an outcast. She is giving him dignity by letting him share his emotions and not treating him like a child.

@@cestbonbon5961 she put it here for me , I needed it , so there's that

@@cestbonbon5961to show positivity with all the negative news. It’s really simple

@@cestbonbon5961she wanted to show the world it’s ok to struggle, ok to have dementia, ok to be forgotten by father, it’s nothing shameful but still can love each other. including for the people just like you

Yes, you could really feel the pure love there.

Yes, really heartwarming

The apple falls ❤

@@stephaniesmith5793 My thoughts exactly.

@meh There's always gotta be one guy like you....

Definitely!

His mind has forgotten her but his soul knows they are family. That closeness goes beyond the body to spirit. This was so beautiful

@@eckankar7756 His soul knows? What does that mean? Don't be mawkish. Think of something that actually means something honest and real.

@@judithrandall4690 Oh stop being so superficial! You'd understand him if you tried a little harder.

@@judithrandall4690 what a buzzkiller!

You cant miss what you cant remember. Thats a mercy at least.

​@@tzimiable we'll have to agree to disagree 💔

@@tzimiable , I suffered from emotional neglect from my childhood. So you are saying I never missed emotional connection because there were no memories of it? BS

Early stages are the toughest for the sufferer, when they're aware they're losing themselves. Then it progresses to a point where they aren't aware but the family are, and that's where it seems to get less difficult for the individual but harder on the family

Non ce n’est pas navrant ,c’est douloureux et émouvant .pas navrant

A real man? Wtf does that mean?

@@adkads27 Probably that he has a penis and has strong moral values, if you were tryna make a jab at the guy wait until someone uses the "Real man" thing in a negative way at least. Why make something bad out of a positive intention.

@@adkads27 He lost the fight to an awful condition at such a early age because he doesn't look that old tbh and the fact that his family has the dedication to take care of him instead of putting him in a nursing home goes to show that he is indeed a real man who supported and provided for his family until he couldn't

@@adkads27 Look how well spoken and caring his daughter is. It's obvious he raised her well and she is taking care of him now because he was a 'real man.' Does that phrase offend you for some reason? It really shouldn't.

​@@PsicosisYT Its just a weird and completely unrelated statement to make in a video like this. Not intentionally rude, but definitely tone deaf. If a person with dementia is unable to remember their family members, does that make them less of a man or woman? Of course not. The implication is that his effort to remember them shows the characteristics of a "real man." I guess it sucks to suck for all the people with late-stage dementia who lost their "real man" status because their "strong moral values" have faded away into complete cognitive disarray.

And you know all that about her from a 2 minute clip? No wonder there is a mental health epidemic when people trivialize other people's personalities. As if that can be condensed into such a short video.

She's so strong. She is incredible. But you can tell he was an amazing strong and emotional man as well.

Probably took some time to get to that point.

@@RP-dy5mu He complimented them and you think thats mean?

@@RP-dy5mushe finished his sentences but regardless

Or daughter

Sometimes you do when you live those kind of situations. But you do it in private, because the other person will have no idea why you are crying at all. It takes a lot of strength and love to hold it

@@camilobogado3331absolutely agree and you stated it well. It reminds me of speaking with a small child about something very difficult. The strength needed to hold in huge emotions for their sake takes serious strength!

Its why we have to share the love we have for them now, while we can. 🙏

​@@tom58358because he doesn't recognize her as his daughter and that hurts him. But he remembers the feeling of love.

He's seems very self aware of his dementia and that it could be impacting those around him. He doesn't know who she is, but he knows it's because of his disease. That level of selfishness is amazing

It is truly amazing

@@AlgaeEater09 i think you meant selflessness

YES. This person gets it. Thank you for saying this. Stop thinking we are blanks. My mother asked me to visit her friend from years before who had "dementia" and was put in a nursing home when her husband died. I brought her a small plant and sat with her, told her memories my Mom had of her friend helping her with first child during war. She was so happy. I didn't know she hadn't spoken in a couple years. I told her daughters at the husband's funeral and they looked at me like I was nuts. The woman died the next day. Dangerous to our lives to believe we have no thoughts or memories.

I was just thinking, isn't this guy too young for dementia? My God.

In Jesus Name, Amen 🙏

Praying won’t do anything, specially when you don’t mean it.

@@pandy__ Praying is Powerful!!!!!! Don’t buy into a lie, it’ll cost you everything. Pray in Jesus Name!!!!!! I’m alive bc of prayer 🙏!!!!!

@@TermlessHGW my grandmother got dementia at age 52...she's 73 now and I believe it's caused by stress..but major stress..I won't get into details but mental health is everything! I love her to death and I'm glad she is still with us but it can be very hard sometimes..

If it’s prefrontal lobe dementia it can appears in adults in their 50s. It’s the same type Bruce Willis was just diagnosed with last week.

​@momokoblue that and it might be alcohol induced dementia (yes its possible if you drink too much alcohol)

My Dad had dementia in his late 40's, which progressed until he passed away at 55 in 1995

@james lovitt I know it's been almost 30 years but I'm so sorry for your loss

Well sorry about the bad news but they recently just found a 18 year old with it so apparently age can't be the only factor

right? I feel you there man.

Being sensitive gets a really bad rap because people typically only focus on the fact that sensitive people feel hurt deeply and easily but it also means that they feel love and all the other emotions deeply as well and are usually fine tuned to picking up energy that others give off and they can be very empathic. Being sensitive is not always "bad"

Don't fil bad I'm over 60 broke down right off the bat and you see this man's love by how his Daughter is interacting with him. That's love.✌️🙏😎

I’m not crying, we are crying 😢. The first thing I thought was they should both get a tiny tattoo on their little finger. There’s so many different ways dementia can affect memory

Me too brother x

Yes! She also cares for her mom who has a traumatic brain injury. Two parents who aren’t fully there in the mind and also have health issues. Whew it’s a lot. On top of that, her father used to be abusive. So has a heart of gold.

​@@SickandTired95i actually thought i noticed a gleam of abusiveness when he said "how does that make you feel?" Im glad that my intuition was confirmed.

Selfless? All her conversation was revolved around her

Theres also Brain Tumor-Associated Dementia

He was an alcoholic and went through a failed suicide attempt resulting in him having brain damage and alcohol related early onset dementia that’s why he’s so young. His wife, the mother of the woman in the video, also has memory issues. She and her wife are full time care takers of her parents. It’s quite sad but most of her videos are very sweet and super informative

@@megan7292 - I see, thxs.

Thats sad I assume it runs in the family then? And he most have progressed it earlier with the brain damage

I worked in a dementia facility, and we had a woman who was 50 at the time with dementia. It just happens. No she never did drugs or drank excessively.

this part broke me... He's conveying his love for his daughter but speaks like he's expressing that love towards a stranger. Either way, the love knows.

"Emotional intelligence". Now that's the exact perfect way to describe his approach. 5/5! 😊

​@@Bert_de_Wit emotional inteligence Is not a real psychologycal construct like IQ por personality

@@nowayjose2082 Thank you for your correct scientific observation. However, "emotional intelligence" is a figure of speech, and not a scientific analysis.

@@Bert_de_Witim glad mate, some people think its an actual psychologycal construct that you can measure

- "He doesnt even know that you are his son!" - "But I know that he is my father."

So true

My grandpa had dementia and had been unable to remember any of us for a while. At one of his last birthday parties I came in wearing one of his old shirts and he said 'nice shirt' and everyone was in shock bc he had been unable to speak for quite a while. Later on I gave him a hug and he said 'Jenna Jen' (what he used to call me when I was a kid). I'll never forget it.

I flew cross country several times a year to see my mom. People asked why, because she didn't know me. I'd just reply that I know her. I miss her so much now...

​@soozkoozhooz5902 that comment slammed me with emotions

He was diagnosed with Wernicke's encephalopathy after years of battling alcoholism. That explains why he has dementia at a relatively young age. 😔

@@posysdogovych2065 really?? Where’d you get that information?? Just curious !!

@@alexthebeastxx you can see the original uploader's name in the video. if i had to guess she has more videos on her channel where you can get more information

Thank u for what u do I know it’s not easy - from someone who dad had it

مؤلم جداً

You're serving God bro

@@dinozaurpickupline4221 No he's helping people living with dementia

Very well said.

I follow they ttk account and all the videos are so sweet. It’s was cause by alcohol, so came really early, his dementia. He tried to k*** himself, she was the one that found him…and every time he ask her to tell what happened, why he doesn’t live in his own home anymore, she tell everything and he always apologised to her. They relationship it’s amazing 😢❤

​@@jacquelinealves1975Alcohol is such a dangerous drug.

On her TikTok she says he wasn’t a nice man until the dementia.

And all the others in the comments experiencing something similar

Not really i would gladly pay this price for him to be alive.

I wish I was never born, there are so many unimaginable horrors in this life

Having dementia is the equivalent of having someone die slowly. They are alive but their brain is slowly dying. Without their brain, who you know and love is also dying, even if they are still breathing. By the time they leave, you've probably already come to terms with their loss. It's still going to hurt but not the same as if they just suddenly died. Its a terrible disease that I hope someday science finds a cure for it or at least finds an answer on how to prevent it.

you're 100 % right

​@@iiCounted-op5jx​ Most people who have survived a suicide attempt realized very quickly how desperately they wanted to live.

@@andrewkash7273 good luck to you, too. Mourning the loss of who I was -was odd, especially since I did it often at first because my brain is a bit of an etch’s-sketch now. 🙂 My best moment was when I realized that none of us are who we were 10 years ago. That helped me feel good about who I am now over comparing my ‘now’ to my ‘then’. Thank you for your comment!! I hope you enjoy your day, everyday!! 🥰

She probably has been dealing with this for quite a while, enough so she can be a little tougher about this than if it was the first thing. This disease is slow and horrible

@@amai-w8f Definitely. I think you have to develop a different type of strength to be able to care for a parent in this condition without being too emotionally crippled.

Hard, but very sweet. You will never forget how much he loved you. The pictures seemed to be a good idea. I had not heard of doing that.

please share this study with me. my grandpa is very old and has next to no memory left. I wasn’t very close to him as a child, but as an adult visiting him, I feel and know he had loved me even when I didn’t understand it at the time, and it makes me sad that the time I have to really connect with him is more or less gone. To try and make up for it, in the last couple of years I try to visit him whenever we get the chance, and in the last visit of dec 2023, he insisted that I come visit him again next year, something he had never said before. He doesn’t even remember my dad, much less me, but if his mood is improved after being visited then I couldn’t be happier for what I believed to be my vain efforts to reconnect.

@@linwong1494 Hi, that's a lovely experience to hear about. In looking for the study, I'm not sure I can find the exact one but the good news is that this is because there are now so many others with similar indications. Most use films to induce emotions because this is more standardised than real-life relationships. Many are behind paywalls but you should be able to read this one. Guzmán-Vélez E, Feinstein JS, Tranel D. Feelings without memory in Alzheimer disease. Cogn Behav Neurol. 2014 Sep;27(3):117-29. doi: 10.1097/WNN.0000000000000020. PMID: 25237742; PMCID: PMC4175156.

@@linwong1494 Also, by the way, music can be very helpful for mood too and there are even videos of people playing the music people with dementia used to listen to and triggering sudden lucid moments.

@@colmwhateveryoulike3240 yes i know about this. I tried to share music with him, but he came from a very poor family that wasn’t able to enjoy cantonese operas. no tvs either or radio i think. we still show it to him though in case he likes it. Also do you have a link to that study in particular?

Not about you

@@ericmharper ??

God Bless You

This is one day and a single moment, I can guarantee there are moments that are not as charming. There's good and bad times, it's tough seeing this happen to someone you love but it's the reality of this disease

@@bigbay1159 you are absolutely right I’m happy though that they both got to have a moment like this one though

Can’t watch this without crying? Really? Your daughter needs a father and a mother not two mothers. I don’t mean that in an insulting way but your child needs to see some inner strength from her father, and not someone crying all the time. I’ll apologise in advance if this comment triggers you, but I’m just being honest.

You have a good, beautiful soul. Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise. That's what your daughter needs most- love and compassion.

@@Optics2024 as a daughter of a father who cried often at sweet things, this is categorocally wrong. Seeing my father care so deeply is one of the most lovely things and makes me believe in humans genuinely caring about each other.

​@@hernameispekka_Rebecca don't mind it, that's a classic lowlife troll

@@KontauriC07 I don't mind it, and I didn't comment because I thought I might change their mind. I commented for the people that might scroll by and might internalize that view.

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

Is he on instagram?

Can dr.porass send to me in UK?

Not about you

@@ericmharper The fact that you perceive this message of presenting vulnerability back after witnessing someone else's vulnerable moment as a way to not only wholeheartedly empathize but also show admiration, as it being "about me" says, ironically enough, more about you than about me.