She sees and knows her dad was hurting to do what he did, and is hurting not to be with his family now, so she's struggling to feel her feelings without breaking him more. So much for a kid to carry.
It is when your dad has lied to you and he knows your hurting and he knows what he did was wrong. Then he says he won’t do it again. Then he does. So yea it is mean when you are in her situation. And she knows it and she doesn’t deserve to go through that
Right usually i hear about moms being petty as hell to their kids dads and acting like that isnt mentally damaging for the kid and its for their own good when in reality its out of their own bias because their little relationship didn't work out.
@@jimmyneutron6766 i know first hand what a petty mom is like. She didn't let me speak to my dad over the phone until a while after he got in jail, and after that she would always talk crap about him.
It's hard! My daughters father is in Prison. We make sure she gets to speak with him everyday or video visits and in no time We'll get to do in person visits. I have her in therapy. It's huge not having the other parent, even more so if they had a relationship with them and then bam, they are gone in prison. She feels neglected at only 4 years old😭 It's heartbreaking.
This not only helps the children, but it also helps the prisoners. They get to feel love. They get to feel human. You can't lock people up and expect them to retain their humanity. They need to have the chance to feel that. THAT is what will help them reintegrate into society when they get out.
That’s part of why I appreciate the prison system in my country, Norway. It emphasizes reform and in turn among criminals there’s a high percentage of one-time offenders who serve their time and stay out afterwards, instead of going in and out of prison.
@@ThatGreenCrystal That greatly depends on the level of security the inmates require. My dad served time in a high security prison, which more so resemble prisons in the US. When he was later transferred to a low security prison he got decent meals, got to watch TV, his kids and wife could visit, we could even apply for a certain amount of time where he got to spend time with us outside of prison, like a 24 hour period (sometimes less, sometimes more). He was also allowed to get a job and work if he was monitored by either an ankle monitor or someone who worked in the prison. He wasn’t considered a flight risk or a threat to himself or others so he was given more leniency there than if he had stayed in the high security and clearly wasn’t trustworthy.
This happened 6 years ago. I really hope these dads have found a better path in life. Their children deserve this change of life and I hope they are all in better places now.
@@malonembappe6509 This is so sad... I know it's hard to stay out of this life when they get out of jail for different reasons but these kids deserved better :(
7 years now 😢 This is so sad I don’t know what I would do without my parents they are such a big part of my life and without them I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
They need more help they are trained for prison, they are not helped to become self-sufficient or psychological fitt. We have good prisons that help then to go back and work or get themselves help.
The little girl sleeping with the picture with her dad next to her shattered my heart into a million pieces 😭this program should be all over the country, so heart warming to see.
I've volunteered with them twice (once inside the prison, once outside for low-level offenders) and it's truly such a remarkable organization. Yes, it's for the kids, but the dads are treated with deep dignity and respect- they're not known by their wrongdoings but as their identities as human beings and fathers. It's a weird and humbling dynamic and I wish more people had the opportunity to experience this group's mission.
@@annasloan2472 Yeah, and I bet you also treat r@pists and murderers as decent human beings just because they have children and you ignore what they did in the first place, huh? These criminals wouldn't be criminals if they just didn't commit crime. They have no one to blame but themselves. I have zero sympathy for them.
@@brandonizaguirre2963 wow, what the hell man. It's never as simple as that and you should know it. Also, I'm pretty sure there's an extremely heavy screening processes for the prisoners/fathers that get to participate. I'm sure they have to have impeccably good behavior to earn the opportunity and much more. Every case is unique. The father who was a murderer was in a bar fight. It was probably an unintentional murder. Still murder, yes, but it was probably something like involuntary manslaughter. (alcohol + bar fights don't go good together). A rapist would be unlikely to participate in something like this that, again, is FOR THE KIDS more than anything else. Hopefully you at least have sympathy for the children.
I hate that judges dont care about that some of the People have children they desereve a childhood And that problem can affect inoccent People in bad ways
Ali Haidar seriously? The judges must have no biased opinion. Though they have families, they did what they did. The judges need to judge fairly for the victim. The people behind bars aren’t really the victim here. It’s really their own fault.
I feel that prisoners who have kids not only need to love their kids and be happy with them but realize that having kids gives them a purpose to grow, change, and rehabilitate themselves into better people.
Agreed. It seems obvious to us that they'll know that they're hurting them by going to prison .. but maybe, they have to SEE it first hand & spent those moments bonding to really understand that they're actions are hurting the ones they love the most. ❤️ Maybe, this will be an eye opener for them to not go back. For their kids. I wish this program was everywhere. It's truly incredible.
@@katelyns419 "Not to go back" sometimes it's not that easy. You can't just get a job after having been in prison, or get a house. If you come out of prison and you're homeless and hungry, with a box of your stuff and a Starbucks giftcard that's 10 dollars (if you're lucky) then what would you do?
Man listen. Even though my dad has never been in prison, videos like this helps you appreciate what you have even more. I’m 25 years old and I am a blind man and I am living on my own now. When I first moved into my own place my dad helped me out a lot and spent a lot of time with me and has seen me develop into my own person in my own apartment. I appreciate my father for doing that. Thank you dad for everything.
@@slovelyyx7718 Go to a single class on sociology. Your refusal to help these people will only lead to more trauma and struggle for their families and communities. I’m not arguing with someone who lacks basic human empathy and fails to understand the disparity that some people are set up with from the beginning of their lives.
This made me cry a lot. I had my father growing up but he was emotionally unavailable and I would say abusive. Sometimes not having a dad all the time isn’t as bad as having one there. I felt like these dads showed more love and support than my dad ever did throughout my life. He’s changed a lot now and is better. I do love him but seeing what I missed out on has made me emotional.
Exactly. People like to ignore how children feel when they have an abusive dad's, it's actually worse. It ruins your perspective of things , it ruins your trust... Its misogynists who like to throw around the narrative of needing fathers because they prioritise males even when they are abusive. They mess up the system for kids.
Same here, my father was absent most of the time (having affairs). When he was home, he was abusive and negligent towards my mother and I. It is a relief that I haven’t seen nor heard from him for many years now. At least The fathers in this video WANT to be a father figure for their children.
Atleast someone relized the first comment is horrible my mom is in and out of jail my hole life she just got out a month ogo my dad abanded me when i was 3 i got adopted by my gram 😢
I'm a person who has been benefited from one day with god. As a kid i never knew my dad like that. I only knew him by his voice and by his jpay messages. I never knew what it was like to have a daddy daughter dance. When i first heard that i was going to see my dad for the first time since i was 4 it had GREATLY affected my mental health i was in TEARS like my mom told me i was going to a program called " one day with god" I was full on SOBBING ( she has told me inside of a restaurant and everybody was staring i didnt care nor notice though). you never realize how much you love and miss your dad until you see him. When i first went to that program we had mentors and i remember them telling me when i see him come out of those doors i need to run so fast and jump into his arms and MAKE SURE he falls over and guess what i did and it felt so good to finally hug my dad. after that we ate cake, made a bunch a drawings, made a goal book, made this lamp thingie, and we had a dance, and at the end we released balloons and i got these gifts from my dad i had got a portrait of us, a blanket with the words " dear, (my name) i know how hard it can be to not have me there with you so whenever you miss me just hug this blanket and remember i always love you
It's not about what the dad deserves. Its all about what the kids deserve. The children never murdered anyone never sold drugs. They are the innocent of the guilty
These kids need to be protected from their deadbeat dad's whom don't keep their word when they're released and commit crimes just to be incarcerated again!! Not fair to these children.
@@carmenm.478 don’t you see that’s to these kids they don’t see a deadbeat or a prisoner, they see their dad that they need in their life. They need those opportunities to even remember what he looks like.
I read the comments. I knew it'd be emotional. I knew I'd cry. But I did NOT expect to be bawling with joy, pain and admiration. It really is about the kids. Scottie. We need people like you in the world. Thank you so much for doing this for the kids, the silent victims. Thank you.
I feel for the girls in this video, my father has always been in and out of prison and jail. It hurts me to know he makes promises and can’t keep them, saying he’ll be better and he’ll stay out of prison but he ends up going back breaks me. Then the part of getting comfortable talking on the phone and some awkwardness when talking in real life, face to face. Amaya and her father remind me so much of me and my father, along with some bits with Arkinya and her father too.
@@ItsBloxy379 I do, but personally I’m a girl, a female. So I can’t say how the boys may feel themselves, though they may as well feel the same but then again, I’m a female not a male.
The way Amiya sounded was so mature, she understands that her father does bad things, and the fact that she told him he only had one more chance because he has broken a lot of promises makes her sound so much older then she is. But as soon as I heard her scream for her dad I realized that she’s just a little girl who misses and loves her dad regardless. edit: wow this got more likes then I expected! and yes I noticed I spelt her name wrong and fixed it :)
That little girl who told the other she knows how she feels ... Heart breaking ❤️ 😭 she knows so much for her young age. I hope this special event is an eye opening experience for these dad's. ❤️ I truly hope for these kids sakes.
Be strong. My dad died of cancer when I was 5. I am now 32 years old and after watching this it moved me to tears. May God watch over your dad and I hope he will be home soon.
I started crying when they were running to their dads. i also started crying when they were dancing, and also, when they were saying goodbye, this is so wholesome ❤
It made me cry when the dad said it was his fault not his sons. I also started tearing up when the little girl said that it means everything to be back with her dad and its like he is at home, i hope they are all back home now. ❤
When that dad held his son and told him that he loved him, and that it wasn’t his fault, I was holding back tears. This was 8 years ago, I wonder how those kids and fathers are doing now. I hope everyone’s in a better place.
okay ngl two things broke me: - the girls speech about meeting her dad - the boy crying to his dad, which the dad was saying 'its not your fault its mine.' like how do you handle this much emotion
My dad did jail time & I can still remember (some 40+ years later) how it felt when he was locked up. Being 11 years old & not being able to have dad for the holidays or on the weekends. This video hit hard.
My kids dad moved 5 states away, she was & is still hurt. When I see a dad actually parent, it warms my heart. A man can really change his soul when he fully commits to being a good dad. Props to all the dads that are there for their kids.....
@@Cassxowary that's wrong..we shouldn't let someone suffer in regrets..it will just make you bad wanting someone's life to be miserable but if the person hasn't repented, reflected and tried to change then s/he may not experience that yet.
@@Cassxowary thats the same as killing a person. It is rlly bad to kill/hurt a child in anyway but they should be forgiven if they are really sorry. But I see what you mean, it would be very hard to trust them after that. It would take probably years for me to forgive them
as someone whos dad was in prison, i can tell and feel how much they really love and care about their children, my dad never cared enough to see me, he would call me once every now and then to tell me not to come see him but im so happy that these young children get to have this relationship with their father.
This program needs to be in every prison. Breaks my heart. Yes, children are the silent victims and they need their fathers and their fathers need them. Just because a man’s incarcerated doesn’t mean his ability to love and parent his kids stops. It doesn’t mean that he is not a good parent. These types of programs benefit both parent and child and helps to foster self-worth and attachment.
I absolutely agree with you on that. My ex husband has been in jail for almost a year now and it breaks my heart that my daughter is the one who showed me this video. I'm heartbroken right now and there's nothing I can do to help her. My fiance passed away from brain cancer 2 weeks before her father was arrested and she was just as close to him as she is with her father so she has been through so much. Unfortunately the jail doesn't allow any contact other than video chat or phone calls which cost more for 10 minutes than most people where we live make per hour. The children involved are the ones who are suffering the most and I hope that more facilities will have programs like this one available to help the children not punish them too.
I’m 17 years old when I was younger my dad used to verbally and physically abuse my family. In grade 4 he was charged with sexual assault, the case remained open and he lived with my family again. Those years were terrifying, I was always afraid of him hurting me. In 9th grade, I came home to see my mom and my sister distraught. They told me my dad had been arrested, I couldn’t even hide my joy. He’s been gone for more than 3 years now. I don’t want him to come back. But I do miss him, because he was my dad. There were happy moments with him too. I always just wanted to feel safe around him.
Im also 17, and my dad was accused of sexual assault when I was 11 or 12. He had seggs with someone and they falsely accused him of sexual assault. I didn’t know that he was gonna go to prison until 4 days before he went, and he finally told me and my brother. I was 13 when he went away. I miss him so much. My mom tries to make me feel like I shouldn’t love him. But I do love him, he is my dad. He always put work before me and my siblings, but I still think he was a pretty good dad. I have some good memories with him. I had to go from when I was 13yo until a few months ago (17yo) without seeing him. When I was 13, I used to cry at night fearing that I would never see him again, and I would think “all I want is one hug from my dad”.
Watched my great nephew grow closer to his Dad as his prison sentance neared the end. He was 10 when he got out and loved connecting with him and finding out they both were artists. The father went to live with my sister the boy's grandmother and we thought he was on his way only to return to his thieving, drugging ways eventually disappearing breaking my great nephews heart. Now my great nephew has a son but he doesn't know how to be Dad so the family is all pitching in to try and help him learn how important the bond is needed and wanted.
My dad is in prison, he went to prison when I was 12 almost 13. I took out my anger at school by getting into fights and getting into trouble. Some kids would bring tequila to school and we would drink it at recess, and I did this to numb the pain of missing my dad. Then the next year (8th grade) when I was 13, I met a girl and we got along great. I was excited to go to school because I knew I was gonna see her. Eventually we had sex. We had sex a lot of times and I never had access to condoms because I couldn’t get anywhere to buy them or ask my mom because I was only 13. She got pregnant and immediately told her parents who were the most supportive parents ever. But I never told my mom, and her parents didn’t tell my mom because they thought that she might get scared and want an abortion. My son was born when I was 13. I’m now 17 and my dad is still in prison. But now I have a beautiful 3 year old son who I would die for. I travelled back to USA (I had to move away from there when I was 14), and got to spend the entire day with my son. It was the best day of my life. But leaving him was extremely hard. I cannot describe the pain of having to stop hugging him, put him down, and get into the car and drive away knowing it could be another year before I see him again. I don’t know how to be a dad. I’m only 17, and I don’t live anywhere near my son. But I still love him more than anything on this earth, and he loves me too.
Don’t know why these guys are willing to do serious crimes when they have a child waiting for them. A real man is willing to work whatever job it takes as long as he can see his family at the end of the day and keep a roof over their head.
@@_rtx_ but once kids come around it can change the life's of them and make them want to be better and want to spend more time with them and I know this from my life
As a father, this hits home. It’s amazing what this organization is doing; it’s changing lives. Humans that made mistakes still deserve the simple things in life, including a child’s heart. I appreciate this movement so much and wish nothing but love and ‘better tomorrows’ for all. Love - keep it simple.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha! I'm not even in jail. Never have been. Downside to having a kid with the daughter of a millionaire: lawyers and finely-tuned custody arrangements that you don't have the money to fight. One blown transmission later & you're fucked for years because the agreement doesn't include phone or video calls, and the vehicle for visitation has to pass inspection even if you're not leaving the meetup park.
@@robinfro but what if your child wants to meet up by their own accord outside of the time assigned by custody? Or if your child reaches out to you through social media?
We need so many more ms. Barnes in this world!! I absolutely adore what she's trying to do. & Respect her so much for doing something so many people would be too afraid of doing.
God bless the woman that started this program! It was rooted in a lot of childhood pain. I’m so glad God used that pain to make something so beautiful. It changes the lives of so many children!
Got a friend in jail for 7 years so far , 5 years left and his girl raising 2 kids, a 9 and 8 year old, she hasn’t even thought about dating either, waiting for his return. Talk about loyalty ! I can’t even get a text back 🥺
@@ramirami3924 It's because he's a father. Sure, he did a crime but he was a father and it can be devestating, but it doesn't mean there can be excuses.
Guys what she means is, its sad for the kid he gets to know that his dad will be in prison forever. No dad to teach him to be strong and stand up for himself. To show him right from wrong. To teach him how to shoot his first basket, or kick his first soccer ball, etc... Even though he did commit murder witch is worse than horrible... Guys think about it, being in jail, watching some of your inmates leave, going to their families while he stays there untill he dies... never just getting a fully normal day to sit at home with his family...
The little girl with the freckles broke my heart.. "he lied to me" will follow and haunt her into every relationship and next thing you know she's the crazy, angry girl who can't stay out of trouble..
My absolute best friend for the past 10 years had both his mother and father werelocked up when he was 9 years old and whenever his mom would call from inside it was amazing how much effort she put into being apart of his life. She would get to know all his friends and would always make him happy. His mom got out 3 years ago and she’s one of the best human beings I’ve ever met. I honestly think of her as a second mom.
+JacobChunioo sometimes... You wouldnt know unless you've been to jail it can fuck you up being in a room 23 hrs a day ive done it and im not proud but I never want to go back. to much life to live 4 walls all day make you squirrelly
The father once told his son "be careful where you walk" The son calmly replied "You be careful, I follow in your footsteps" I cannot imagine being in either situation, but giving people in Jail a chance to reconnect with their kids is a powerful motivator to turn things around. It's such a shame that we haven't been doing programs like this since day one.
Every kid deserves a loving and involved dad that’s a role model. Us grown ass men let too much crap get to us and allow our kids to suffer. Step it up men! We got this!
I remember doing this with my dad! It was very nerv racking, it was awkard, but it felt nice being with him just for a little while, i havent seen him in 6 years til then, now i live with him, and sometimes i need to be reminded how much i really appreciate him.
I had the chance for a father daughter dance once....I was to embarrassed to get up and dance with him.....we thought he was going to die yesterday.....next time I'm going to dance with him. I dont care if im embarrassed or not I will dance with him cause I dont know if that will be the last time i get the chance...i love you daddy! i will always be a daddy's girl!😊
Nope Paul do you have any passion for those kids finally getting to see their dads? the dads know they did their family , the world and themselves wrong. they know that they have to accept the consequences , but they finally get to see their kids, again.
I had a Puerto Rican student with autism whose dad was in jail for the 6 years I knew him. He only mentioned his dad in private moments, but he loved and missed him very much. Finally, the last year I knew him, his dad got out of jail. I was anxious that it would be overwhelming, but his mom and he handled it well. I’m so proud of that boy (and mom) for being so strong and working so hard in school without a dad to support him at home.
My boyfriend was put in a mental hospital for four days. I hated it so much, but I can't even imagine if he was gone for a year or life. I cried every second of the 4 days when he was gone. This is beautiful I cried the whole time. And I've seen this so many times.
The scene where the daughter who spoke in the mic with her father behind her, made me tear up. My dad (who I never met), was in prison in some point of his life. He was out, for God knows how long, and I've always wanted to look for him and meet him for the first time in my life, but... sadly, I never got that chance because he passed away in 2018. Even though he's gone, I'll always forgive him. If he was alive today...(gosh I'm getting emotional here. trying not to tear up), he would be very proud of his son. For the dads out there, I give my respects for being great fathers for your child or children. And also a question for the dads if you can help me. Like a son to fatherless child seeking greater advice. (dont worry I still have momma) How will I know when the right girl is looking for me, and not the other way around? I'm nervous to just walk up to her and start a conversation then have her think it's weird. Any tips or good ideas?
I know for a fact that whomever God has for you to be part of your future and your life, He will reveal her to you, and you will know in your heart that's the one. You'll just instinctively know when it's time to speak or smile or have that nice eye contact without words. Somehow, your paths will just happen to cross at the proper time. You'll feel it. But just try to not let a special opportunity slip by is all.....❤God bless you.
Yes, of course it should. But it takes a lot of time, effort, planning, money, etc. to accomplish something like this. && America (THE GOVERNMENT) doesn't care about us citizens - AT ALL - if you haven't figured out yet😉 Therefore these things have to always be done by foundations like the one named in this video. Good ol' Merica for ya !!!!!
but i don't want to be the fun Killer.. but it's their own fault.. u heard the 1 of the daughters say that he promised that he would take care of her..but then he goes back to jail..its not fair for the kids i agree. but when that daughter said i was damn...
Actual Bias Trash I know I my self is like those kids I did this program and it was really fun and I hop there will be another day where I can spend a day with my dad
I have watch/seen this video 4 yrs ago, cant even count how manytimes i have watched it but it always pears straight into my heart..i wonder why this poor kids and dad makes me cries all the time.i love them so much i hope they all live happily.wish all the sucess,love and all the very best.
omh this is heartbreaking. the dad who was kissing his son’s forehand and you could see him crying and then says it’s all his fault, really made me cry
What an amazing program! Memories are being created, if for but a fleeting moment. A lot of healing taking place there. Thank God that there are caring humans that can see beyond offences and just look at the parent - child relationship that needs support.
I fr started crying as soon as I saw these fathers crying with their children. It really reminded me of how me and my father haven't really had a strong relationship with each other since hes always at work and he never really had parents around growing up. These kids and parents deserve so much.
African Beauty some of the kids can’t travel there every time. Like the reporter said that one of the kids traveled from Florida to Michigan so she could see her dad.
The United States prison system is not about rehabilitation, sadly. It is about the most pain and torture possible, in order to break a person and make them stay in a hardened hearted place. It should not be this way. Programs such as these are not common at all.
@Nevaeh Nevaeh This program is a Christian program and all the father's are hand selected. Im not sure if uou heard correctly but only 20 prisoners were alowed to participate im sure becuase of good behavior. You know Grace is a gift no one deserves not even the most law abiding citizen. I belive im everyone being held accountable for thier actions buf i also stongly belive in redemption. I just think its sad that we are so condemning like we never needed a second chance before. We are all sinners. Some more than others. Its becuase of thise mentality that the united states is overflowing with prisoners becuase programs that offer you Gods grace are belittled and not supported. Its mote convenient for the pockets of the country to make more jails and continue cramming them in than to offer grace to a selected few that want to recive it..
