Dad with mixed-race family confronts own racial bias 

And its forgivable. However, if he had said and sincerely felt that he stood there bc she was a woman sitting alone that would've made all the difference. But I admire the fact that he's able to reflect from within re his shortcoming and its resolve. Healing had begun.

@@lela658 I wonder if he would have done the same thing if it had been a black woman or any woman of color sitting there.

@@perri_6 Ummmm, this is really a difficult one to answer and has proclivity to just be from my own personal experience as a black woman. But I find that typically white men taunt and don't have our best interest at heart as such before they reach out to assist especially when it comes to this sort of black vs black situation. Not all of course, bc as well, I've run into a few who have been kind and caring or may just be observers from a distance. So it's difficult to determine just from a hunch. 🤦🏽‍♀️

@@lela658 It was kinda rhetorical. Only he knows for sure. 🙂

@@perri_6 Exactly. Not easily determinable at all. 😌

Well put

What if she was not pretty. Would it make a difference?

@@amaz-ing3376 no

Why now?

Steph I'm so proud of him,my God this was so touching 😊

Yes!

Whst was important to me was his awareness of his bias not many would have that awareness of themselves

Right me too

Yes! So much, its quite refreshing.

Agreed!!

❤

We all judge people.

Based on their skin color*

Well said!

Absolutely

100% agree with you.

K. Lee. I take off My hat to You for your Great analysations. It is most wisely summed up. Good on You 👍

@@sammiedee7838 ...thanks... however if we live long enough...we are all fortunate enough to learn that ...none of us has this all figured out. This life is trial and era, and no matter how hard we try NONE of us will ever be free of sin. None of us will ever be perfect. And when we cast out stones of judgement ...we have to remember to use that same judgement scale for ourselves. Hopefully we all can remember to do that.

After you.

After you!

@@gavinminty4974 No, after you and your friend. Neither of you came to the table to break bread, but instead to be antagonistic. It's a shame even on a topic like this the same, "no you!" small mindedness permeates through.

@@leonfrancis3418 as you can see it's never going to happen.i hate to say it but Let's just get this thing over with already 🔥 🔥

@@analyticalmindset well nate, is not about you. It's about a giant portion of the black community that you don't even associate with (judging hard from your picture)..... that gives him his biases. He feels guilty because he has a black daughter, and it's understandable. For 5 years I poured money into programs like BB&BS to help, but there's a certain black culture out there that doesn't give an F about you, just as there are certain white cultures that don't give an F about me. It's image association. If every black man was a lawyer/ store clerk/ doctor/ accountant, with only a few bad apples.... do you really think the black community would have the same perception the community has had since the late 70s? Everything is perception. It will take at least 2 generations to fix that from within. If nothing changes with that community, then the biases will start the same. It's a tragedy, and you know it's the truth.

@Albert Lopez you're right, he's probably always had these views and now he's realizing that it's a problem in his life. Let us know when you have that realization too and we'll also pat you on the back for trying to change for the better!

You would lose all that respect for him if you see the way he talks about her on FB, and argues with black ppl that he knows what it's like to be black because his daughter. He posts his black daughter 3 times a week with race captions and has never once posted his white daughter. This is all an act

I met him too! Nice guy.

I hope people take what he did and use it. They needto let him speak at schools about this.

@@baron6797 that makes you part of the problem. By the way, there's no-one named Albert Lopez here,or are you a bit doolally?

The danger is that it's there, in your heart. The things that are in your heart, you act upon eventually. Maybe in a small way, but you do act upon it. It's the matter of the heart that we MUST deal with. It's not enough to say "I didn't act upon it." That's just justifying it's presence. It's not okay for it to be there! We have to remove it from the heart by the roots that planted it there in the first place It's like lusting after your brother's wife, and then saying "well, I didn't act upon it". That's not okay! Not okay.

@@littlestepperspreschool3278 - People frequently say what you wrote, but what you wrote is simply not true. As a related example, people have murderous thoughts when another party cuts them off in traffic... but a tiny percentage of a tiny percentage of a tiny percentage... succumb to road rage and commit murder. This is why the “implicit bias test” is not used in court. Your thought is logical, but it isn’t supported by research. Logically, we wouldn’t wear seatbelts when driving in our neighborhoods... because we are driving so slowly. However, we are conditioned to put them on every time we enter the car. That observation is a photographic negative attack on logical behavior, also. Humans are weird... and flawed.

This is a deep-seated issue that unfortunately will never be resolved as those who have the thoughts, acts and behaviors are the same ones who say there is no racism. That's within itself is a problem.

@@judithm.8191 - Ma’am, human societies have been trying to rid murder and rape from their midst a lot longer than they have tried to rid racism from their midst. They haven’t been successful, but they have made enormous progress. The same applies to racism (racial prejudice is likely the more accurate terminology in the vast majority of scenarios).

@@judithm.8191 And you have a perfect thought life, I take it? Lol :)

Exactly.

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

Raise children is tuff

Raise adults is better then raise kids.

Wow. What an experience. You should really tell your story. I can't imagine all that y'all went through emotionally. I 🙏🏾 pray y'all are stronger now as a family.

Anonymous hate mail, I’m guessing. That’s so sad. Who can take those people seriously when 99.9999999% of them don’t have the courage to put a face or a signature to their hate. Blessings to you in your healing.

I'm familiar with that region of the country, and in that particular time period. You don't have to convince me. I would have predicted that had you said nothing.

@@noble604 right kinda like the democrats antifa who hide there face while committing political crimes and the district attorneys just bail them out

@@lafondawilliams you really brought politics into this 😐

If you wanna make the world a better place? TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF AND MAKE THAT CHANGE

No not just black ..ok children from other groups too/ races

@@steviepigford1912 just because she said black doesn't mean she's excluding or saying other races don't have the same issues, why is that every time black people speak of our issues, someone as to diminish our problem by adding the "you're not the only one" Statement, its as if you're saying so what it's not just you suck it up, and it only happens to us, no one says when any other races as fuckin problem, smh

@@nicechasinchasegods7051 I understand...however,..she needs to LEARN ...how to formulate a statement in clear precise articulation so there will not miss interpretation.

@@steviepigford1912 no YOU need to learn how to take the statement for what it is and not add your twist or place a false narrative in the topic, just like when people say "Black Lives Matter" for some reason you hear "Only Black Lives Matter" when that wasn't said or implied in any way, you need to learn not her

@@steviepigford1912 oh and her statement was very clear precise and articulate, stop with the micro aggression

It’s not a spirit stop outsourcing your personal problems.

@@bionic6man don’t talk to her like that demon!!!

Amen

@@vibe2248 I love being called a demon because I’m the spirit of racism and I rebuke you in the name of Jesus prince of the dark one

A spirit? Is there a racist spirit?

Amen❤👍🏽🙌🏾

Yesss

Amen to that.

Not true. So now next time he’s not going to watch.

@Eric EH : . Ive experienced racism by many half black half white people. Racism is in every one. You didn’t say anything wrong. Mixed couples CAN be very racist, too.

@Albert Lopez you ain’t helping NOTHING with a nasty attitude like that. You need to love yourself bro. This poison you spit out only affects you.

@Big SAINT! u do realise south asian countries r racist too

@Big SAINT! yeah but it has nothing to do with white peoole as u said earlier

@Big SAINT! discrimination was there from ancient times.

Humans are born with tribal instincts. People generally prefer their own kind and there's nothing wrong with that, it's natural.

silverbullet2008bb but that is totally different from hating. being confused and curious because someone is different from you is okay. someone doesn’t come out hating another person because of their appearance.

Lil it’s natural and normal to support your own people. Only until recently this was the case

Smash you didn’t understand my comment. i know it’s natural to be more comfortable with your own people, but that’s different from hating other people because of the color of their skin.

Lil I don’t think anyone hates anyone for skin color. Maybe it’s spending time around a group of people changes opinions of them

Lonely Alien Unlike courage, at least he’s not too cowardly to admit to bias that every person on the planet has!

I agree

I disagree with also as a Black Man you gain more and more comfort in who you are as an adult children are not as acutely aware of the racial animus that this world brings. The man that prompted this discussion is absolutely correct in how he in retrospect was able to open not only his eyes but his conscience to the fact that people sometimes form opinions based on stereotypes created by generations of past. I applaud him for having the desire to understand not only himself but the fact that we as a country need to address questions and concerns of racial interactions and how to separate the masses from the individuals.

Brother, you got me right there. Absolutely right on the safety senses. Your comment sir is right on point!

The difference being racism affects every facet of live for minorities in America. Simply being bias against white Americans is meaningless.

How does the world work? Has racism become worse over the years?

@@johnny10grasp3 Racism did not go away over the years is the problem.

@@abel5467 No one said it did but its hasnt got worse. Thats for sure.

@@johnny10grasp3 it's more blatant. Maybe for you it's not worse, for others it is.

@@may8043 lol... If you think it's worse then your crazy. Blatant? You mean it's more obvious? How could it be more obvious now when their use to be laws that said it was ok. It's people who think it's gotten worse who are part of the problem. Let me guess.... You also think black people can't be racist? CRT.

Racism is not taught it is called otherness and it is a natural human behavior

@@musicmusic5836 just because i have my family does that mean i should hate other people families and have negative assumptions about them? No, yes we feel closer to people of our own kind, that is a natural human behavior, but hating someone for not being our kind is not, its taught

No it is not. It’s called otherness . It is a natural human behavior .

I’m not a big believer in the whole “our own kind” thing i think we are human my point is that otherness isn’t about biology only. It’s a deeply ingrained psychological defense mechanism that has to do with survival instincts. a good example of this would tbe how the danish created the Tutsi and the Hutu. they took two random selections of people and rewarded them differently , and were very shortly to create intense rivalries that led to the gemocide . That was not done with mind control in an overt way . It was a psy ops

@@musicmusic5836 it may be a natural human behavior but it can be harmful. Everyone has biases that are socially constructed and internalized and humans are intelligent enough to keep those biases in check so they do not harm others. Just bc sex is natural doesn’t mean I’m going to just have sex whenever,wherever I want. Humans have the ability to control themselves.

I hear the train comin

crystal murphy I don't know about you but everybody is not impressed or influenced by the media because a lot of people is extremely aware of the media circus and really not influenced but it's need

We are all slowly waking up. Media does not influence me. Well stated what yoh said

Very well said. We should all examine and judge ourselves before judging another. Jesus said to hate is like murder in the heart. If ANY one hates ANY group of people they need to repent of their hate and learn to love everybody.

@@tatasmith3844 99.9 percent are influenced by media proof in the pudding from the real world to online the proof is there

I’m proud of you 👍. As a Christian I used to too. But I’ve learned to love everyone the same.

Long as you’re working on it cool. We are not perfect. And everybody deserves the same respect on the same level. Stay safe 😊

Me too. And I'm so proud of myself and you!!💜

I wore a dress when I was 10 for a laugh and my father beat me with his fist. That combined with constant homophobic speech growing up has imprinted bias on me. I try not to but I still struggle with this. I hope we can be better than our fathers, my brother.

I'm glad there are people like you! Because I've been struggling to accept myself as a gay man since I come from a religious background. I don't want to affiliate with the LGBT community because I find it toxic, and I don't believe in forcing idealogy onto other people. People should respect other people's opinions, and I think that why the alphabet community gets a bad rep. I lost a few of my straight friends because I told them that I'm gay, but that's okay because I don't expect them to understand, and I respect their opinion because I don't know their background. But understanding both sides is a good way to resolve a conflict, so props to you!

Yes, though at the point where someone is instinctively having feelings about someone based on skin color, it's gone beyond ignorance because it's reached emotions and those are difficult to combat. You can know something intellectually and still be unable to resolve conflicting feelings about it. I doubt the man was sitting there thinking 'oh there's a black guy, all black guys are more dangerous than others so I better be sure he doesn't hurt anybody'. I promise you, it was more a feeling he got, a gut feeling brought on by indoctrination/brainwashing most all of us suffer through some of in society, and just went with his feelings before thinking about wait a minute. This isn't right. He clearly knows people aren't more dangerous based on their skin color and that it's a dangerous stereotype, yet his instincts went with it at first anyway. Feelings can lead us all astray if we're not careful and examine things when we're calm.

Why can't you get over her being so cute as a baby because she black??

@@losoulblocka0524 I’m Black myself 😊

I understand what you’re saying but not everyone is cute. All people are beautiful.

@@Camis.locjourney Guess you didn’t see where I said she’s cute as a baby and beautiful as a young lady 🙂

Did you realize that the 11-year-old girl didn’t even want to hug him when she came down the stairs?

@@tummieflowers2681 no I didn’t see that part, I’m going have to watch it again

@@glamgoddessd9008 . Check at 0:33

@@tummieflowers2681 ok

@@tummieflowers2681 😳😳 don’t know how I messed that lol

I’m sorry about your dad. We don’t get to choose our biological parents but can find good people to fill those roles in life. I hope you understand that him not caring about you has more to do with himself then with you. I see you and love you. Be well 💕🙏

Akiko Bae I agree

REALLY?

i also have some biases against men as i have been sexually abused by them. they make me uncomfortable. i am scared of men unless they are feminine or lgbt+. sometimes i just feel so hopeless because i dont want to be scared of them but unfortunately my bias is reaffirmed pretty frequently. i know there are good guys out there but i always think about the ones who hurt me. it has even caused me to go through an identity crisis. i was fairly sure i was bi, but because of my trauma and how i feel i only persue women... i dont know if i'll ever be able to like a man, and sometimes it makes me question whether i only like women or if i can like men too.

@@koo-core7274 As a man, I am so sorry about how you were treated and the mental agony that it has caused you. I just want to tell you that Jesus Christ loves you, and the answers to the questions/concerns in your previous comment can be found in Him.

He admitted he only looked because he was black lol , not because he didn’t see skin complexion and wanted to make sure the lady was fine. Simply just looked because the man was black .

@@OurForeverMemories that was wrong but generally speaking we should be looking out for woman and children who are alone in some empty places. You know how creeps can take advantage

@Albert Lopez that doesn't make sense with what was said, but okay.

@Albert Lopez jesus christ lmao. Okay dude.

@Albert Lopez Everyone,everyone is a product of their environment and you'll agree that the U.S. is about 5he most toxically racist environment there is. Of course he's racist, what else would he be? BUT he's a conscious, he is an unwilling racist and her certainly not irredeemable, or he would never have adopted across races. Deserves respect.

@Albert Lopez Speak for yourself we don't both know anything! Seems to me you're both in the same boat but he's trying to get out of it...You should try sometime.

@Albert Lopez Oh yeah Al, I'm ever so racist. Lol. You have a far greater problem than video subject. And you don't even know it You need prayers.

Right here, with what I said, was racist. ALL ppl have their degrees of discrimination. Not just white ppl. All ppl. Black, white, asians, Spanish, etc. Until we treat ppl individually by their actions, we will never solve this problem....💖

@@agirlhasnoname1422 It would take more then the space allotted here to truly discuss and get to the roots of these tensions which is deeper than the limited history the Corporation of the United States has allowed in their "white washed" text books. Its deeper than even the misnomer terms of Black, White, Hispanic (Spanish is a language, not trying to be on no rudeness but your only considered Spanish when your actually from Spain) or whatever label that was generated to further divide from the fact that we are one family split into tribes. Also, no offense, my people are taking teachings and news from a group of people who seek our destruction. On top of that this is from a group of people whose existence can only be traced back to roughly 10,000 (at the most possibly 25k) years when my people are indigenous and can be traced back to over 500,000 years even a million years. Please don't come to me with that. Too deep over here on the truth, not emotion, which is what that comment contained more of. Not trying to sound rude again but this runs deep and its not about hate or again emotions but its about facts and accepting truths. Look up Alim El Bey, Dr. Francess Cress Welsing and Kaba Hiawatha Kamene. Oh also Bobby Hemmitt. Hotep, Know Thyself🙏🏽👑💛

@@allisonjohnson5349 as an Anthropologist and Archeologist, i have never died so hard while reading a comment on youtube. The oldest indigenous tribes are only roughly 20,000 years old at most dude. Also, do you know what the word indigenous means? EVERY ethnicity is indigenous to some geographical location; do you think White folks just popped out of the ground fully formed? Modern anatomical homo sapiens only developed a dozen or so thousand years ago my man; unless you’re saying your straight up descended from Homo Neanderthalus, Florencis, or Erectus, you’re lineage is nowhere near that old

@@allisonjohnson5349 here’s a simple knowledge test; how many mass migrations were there out of Africa? When did they happen? Which populations went where? What populations mixed to produce their modern equivalents? What populations died out? I guarantee you that you can’t answer any of these without google, that “white washed” history your on about lmfao pretty racist to assume only white people could write a history book man

lol shut up

I thought the same thing when she dropped the dog... I love animals... Beautiful family and a sweet story

You people always trying to point out things that are not important for no reason. She's a kid, leave her alone. Jeez

@@singlesandmarriedtherapy3671 Shut up that was important. The dog could have broke his leg.

@@niasmith1358 No, you shut your ass up. Give the little girl a break. You sound so dumb and make your self feel you're perfect. Idiot

The dog is fine lol. She/he was trying to jump out her arm at the same time she was putting it down. And it knew to turn right back around for the treat. My small dog does it all the time outside and in the house. I promise you it's not as bad as it looks.

I know right?! 😬

Oh please. She looks a lot more well adjusted and happy within herself than a lot of blk children growing up in blk housholds. Nitpicking and judging to deflect from what's going on in our own backyards is a cheap and transparent move.

@@pagethreemodel I fear for the emotional health of all children of color that live in a society that subliminally teaches them they are less than. It's a reality that parents of children of color, especially black children, have to face head on. They can't assume that they'll learn self-love through osmosis if it's not taught explicitly. But I do think it's interesting that you felt this was deflection. Very interesting. Anyway, have a good day.

@@pagethreemodel why did you compare her to black children in black households? Damn. You need some self analysis

@@KhaosDancer because I can. Take heed of your own advice. There's enough videos and articles about toxic blk household environments written by blk people all over the Diaspora, that support what I said. Bye now!

Hi Kendra, how are you doing?