Daddy Issues: This Is Why Women Are So Unhappy?! | The Happy Wife School Show Ep.4

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In this episode, I am answering two common questions I often get asked:
1) Why are women so unhappy and have such unhealthy relationships with themselves and men?
2) How can men share my videos with their wives without getting blasted?
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Timestamps:
0:00 Welcome
2:00 Topic Introduction
3:45 Why Women Are Unhappy
34:26 How Men Can Share My Videos with Their Wives
49:57 Questions and Comments

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@thehappywifeschool 2 месяца назад

Video Timestamps: 0:00 Welcome 2:00 Topic Introduction 3:45 Why Women Are Unhappy 34:26 How Men Can Share My Videos with Their Wives 49:57 Questions and Comments

@kenelder5182 9 месяцев назад

I don’t know why this is. Most men can sit in a terrible apartment, eating terrible pizza, drinking terrible beer, watching a football game with our buddy and we are happy as a clam. Most women, you could take them on a first class Hawaiian vacation to an ocean front villa at the Four Seasons hotel and they will complain that the restaurant doesn’t have gluten free croutons for the Caesar salad. There’s always something wrong. Always something not quite right. Always something that could be just a little bit better. And your job, as the man in the relationship becomes being the one who has to put out her never ending steam of emotional wildfires that keep popping up like the worlds worst carnival whack a mole game.

@brazidas58 8 месяцев назад

My dad and mom where married over 64 years. A few years before my dad past away , as I was visiting them I asked my dad why mom seemed to be annoyed at something. He turned around and told me" unfulfilled expectations" remember this boys, women are impossible to understand or satisfy .

@robertreilly4946 7 месяцев назад

Never said better.

@AndrewTheFrank 7 месяцев назад

Or a way to put it is that a woman, when single, will be content with the former, for herself, but as soon as she is in a relationship expects the latter yet is never happy with it.

@ralphfurley4217 6 месяцев назад

There is no such thing as 'terrible pizza'

@charlesrochon3836 6 месяцев назад

I have noticed that as well. Always something to gripe about. It always seems to minor stuff that I would just ignore.

@Runawayslave2023 9 месяцев назад

Wonder if “Daddy issues” is another layer of avoiding accountability.

@thehappywifeschool 9 месяцев назад

Bingo.

@mysticone1798 9 месяцев назад

Modern women live by 2 rules. Rule No.1: It's NEVER good enough. Rule No, 2: It's ALWAYS somebody else's fault!

@thisoldgoat3927 9 месяцев назад

Amen@@mysticone1798

@annarboriter 9 месяцев назад

Blaming a man is the standard reaction to any shortcoming and daddy is yet another man

@edheldude 9 месяцев назад

@@mysticone1798It's always the men's fault. Then it's the society and she has no personal autonomy or accountability.

@Steverz32 9 месяцев назад

The sad part about some women is that they are not happy with men or women.😮it’s like nobody taught them how to be happy & enjoy the little things in life.😊

@non_ideological_transexual7414 9 месяцев назад

Sociologists & psychologist try to hide this but lesbians have higher rates of violence and conflict that heterosexual couples .

@YoungSantasGroupie 9 месяцев назад

Being told you are a princess your whole life will have that effect on women. Pampering and constant comparisons to others are the thieves of joy.

@nobledarkmoon 9 месяцев назад

@@YoungSantasGroupie we unfortunately have to many soft men focusing on ideals, rather than taking the bumps of reality. Ignore the bratty childishness, be confident do your thing, set boundaries and enforce them. This is leadership, and she will learn to be happy. She takes comfort in knowing there are limits.

@YoungSantasGroupie 9 месяцев назад

@@nobledarkmoon Yup, us men have a big role to play in this too. Regardless of whether modern women take accountability and shed the delusions of their upbringing, men need to do the same if they were raised soft. I work in the adolescent mental health field and I see both sides of it. Coddling hurts girls and boys but our society continues to coddle more and more. It’s a really insidious problem, parents thinking that coddling is the new, progressive, evolved way to parent but in reality they set their kids up for failure. It’s not easy for young men to be told their whole lives to be ashamed of their masculinity and to have women tell them to be the soft man, to let women walk all over them. Especially if these young men have no male role models to help them become strong and stand firm. Regardless how hard it is, once the boy becomes an adult man, this is what he must do. Even when all the women around him tell him otherwise, he needs to embrace the masculine. It would be great if society stopped demoralizing and shaming men at every step. In some ways it makes men stronger but in others it does not. One way or another, the reality of the world will force all of us to become stronger. We have some very tough times ahead and this is following so many years of things being too peaceful and prosperous for our own good. Better to be proactive and start becoming stronger than to wait for reality to force the issue. For a lot of modern women, it’s likely reality will hit them like a ton of bricks. They think they live in an oppressive patriarchy? They really have no idea. In history, when societies become as soft as ours, they were taken over by aggressive, violent and domineering men of other cultures. Just imagine modern women waking up to an actual patriarchy.

@RobertPool-nz5ss 9 месяцев назад

They don't even enjoy the Luxury lifestyle they nag millionaires until He throw them out and then he a woman hater.

@TephaRhi 9 месяцев назад

I don’t blame anyone but I do wish all people knew how very important fathers are.

@JRRodriguez-nu7po 9 месяцев назад

Yes, her views here are not applicable to all cases. Not widows, but single mothers by choice, have the highest correlation with crime, poverty, low intelligence and a long list of social problems. This woman seemed to have a good father, and a terrible therapist to convince her otherwise. When there's no father, or truly a horrible one, it is VERY difficult for a child of any sex to rise above. Possible yes, probable no.

@drmachinewerke1 9 месяцев назад

You mean dads. Everyone has a father

@ytcensorship8180 9 месяцев назад

@@drmachinewerke1quit with the bs. there's no difference between dad and father. it's one and the same. you look for friends or buddies you want them to treat you on same level as them ?you shouldn't look for it in parents. that's what separate them from other humans. They have a role in your life not the title that people want to label them.

@bedebill 6 месяцев назад

True and as the evidence shows there is a great many really shit fathers.

@johnrpizzaguy 5 месяцев назад

@@drmachinewerke1great comment, I never thought of it like that. I’m a dad to 2 great people along with my wife of 42 years.

@legislatedanarchy1380 8 месяцев назад

Daddy issues is finding another man to blame for a woman's life choices.

@ackbuilder8262 3 месяца назад

Especially finding a stepfather for their children

@RodneyKimbangu 9 месяцев назад

Please talk about how many mothers nowadays ruin their daughters' lives and relationships!

@Aryankingz 6 месяцев назад

exactly ...

@Miss22Sunflower 6 месяцев назад

Girls being born into homes with emasculating mothers of course creates emasculating daughters. Let's hope more women like my self can wake up to the truth and if I ever am a mother I will be an example of how to lovingly treat a man. My future daughter will grow up in a household where she sees a good wife always respecting her father. Not until a woman can wake up and change then can she become a role model for her daughter.

@simonschneider5913 3 месяца назад

seems like we arent there yet. because youre so spot on, but this comments isnt up there! damn...

@CDRFINANCE 2 месяца назад

…and their sons via emotional boundary crossing down to the core, sets you up for a second round in a marriage.

@simonschneider5913 2 месяца назад

@@CDRFINANCE very true. i am one of those, and there are many more..

@joejones4296 8 месяцев назад

My ex wife fits what you describe. Always entitled and the victim. I am that good man that endured that for many years. When I decided to not cater to her she divorced me. 32 years of marriage. She took option 2, I would have stayed with her forever and been miserable because of a sense of duty. I suppose she did me a favor. No one yells at me any more.

@69saved 7 месяцев назад

Same for me but 41 years.

@mahkuntizitchy2083 6 месяцев назад

There's no "special place" in heaven for marriage martyrs.

@b.d.hooten1785 6 месяцев назад

@@mahkuntizitchy2083 then clearly your "word" and integrity are about as valuable and durable as the toilet paper I just used. Its about making a promise and keeping it - no one says is going to be an easy ride or bump-less ride; but its the promise/commitment/bond that I will be there. And it wasn't made in private - it was made before family, friends and God! Its only in being married that you begin to crack open the door to realize God's infinite love/patience/forgiveness for each of us - because you need ALL of those qualities to survive a marriage. And if you're lucky enough to find that special 1% of women that are emotionally and intellectually mature to handle marriage - you'll be the luckiest and happiest man on the planet! For the rest of us - we have to carry our family on our backs.....including our wives. And what makes it so frustrating is that if the woman would just chose to mature and learn to gain some self-control (which we all had to do as men so we all know its "possible") - she'd be the "helper" that God intended her to be. The womans "liberation movement" destroyed a womans self-confidence and somehow convinced her the role that God perfected for her in the first place is bad. Its only when we oppose Gods intentions does the bottom fall out from under us.

@Crottinger 6 месяцев назад

Hose b hose. Never forget

@racebannon96 4 месяца назад

Same for me. She reduced my sentence to 10 years. I got the kids. She took her alcoholic boyfriend that was on dialysis.

@lanevotapka4012 9 месяцев назад

It’s amazingly refreshing to see a wise woman encourage other woman to love their husbands.

@milo555100 7 месяцев назад

I agree. Im not a perfect husband but I certainly try. This kind of humility has me completely awe struck. Im sitting on the edge of my seat. Makes me understand and want to meet my wife in her struggle. She doesn’t know she is struggling. She loves me and tries hard also.

@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor 6 месяцев назад

As a husband I actually thank her for trying to help women love themselves. My wife told me this morning she's filing for divorce and I still want her and my children to learn to love themselves.

@postmodernmining 5 месяцев назад

Women have to be taught to love. It is not automatic in their nature.

@grant6991 6 месяцев назад

Being happy is simple. Low expectations and a high amount of gratitude for the gifts you have. Therefore women are unhappy because their expectations are too high and they’re not thankful for what they have

@user-ww4xs6dz7h 3 месяца назад

When you awaken to the fact that you are responsible for your life, and you alone, you can collect yourself, take your power back, and be who you never thought you could be. Most dont do this because of how uncomfortable the change is. Our subconscious will do anything to remain in the comfort zone, even if that zone is misery.

@louisaklimentos7583 4 месяца назад

My dad was very bad tempered and he use to break things from his temper . My mother had a mental breakdown. The doctors put her on Valium and elavil plus she had 8 electric shock treatments which caused problems to her memory . Later she started hearing voices and then diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. In 2006 she was re diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and psychosis . My mother was not happy but never left my dad’s side . Back then women tolerated abuse from their partners . You can’t blame my mother for being unhappy and be living in fear . So who is the victim, my mother is ! These women who have good men should be happy and yes these women need to heal internally if they are still unhappy .

@DosBear 9 месяцев назад

If you really want your woman to be receptive to listening to this content, sit her down and listen to it with her and be quiet & see how and what she responds to & in the way she does. Once you do sit her down, listen without interruption & refrain from giving her a play by play of what you think and then listen to what she thinks. That would be a good start. Let this happy wife do the talking for you.

@dat581 9 месяцев назад

That’s not how they work. They will twist it around instantly to be one of two things: She’s not like that or more likely, it’s someone else’s fault.

@DosBear 9 месяцев назад

That's a bit stereotypical don't you think? @@dat581

@mattiavelli 9 месяцев назад

That should be just fine. The idea is to get the thoughts started in her head.

@DosBear 9 месяцев назад

Exactly and by using the utmost respect while doing so,, afterall, this is normally your best friend.@@mattiavelli

@greghunter6951 5 месяцев назад

My wife refuses to listen or watch the videos I have sent her but I keep sending them. No responsibility, no accountability, ridiculous amounts of entitlement.

@ricks341 9 месяцев назад

My wife has passed, but I have 3 daughters I will absolutely be sharing your channel with! You have helped me be more patient with my girls reactions to me and helped me understand why my wife and I fought so often. So many misunderstandings. Had we both just known what you're teaching our marriage would have been happier.

@markcavandish1295 9 месяцев назад

Sorry for your loss.

@elefanteluzvioleta 6 месяцев назад

My condolences to you and your family!!

@bigtomboye 5 месяцев назад

Bless your family 👪 🙏 ❤

@bagotavesw 9 месяцев назад

How to relate to the world without an "other" to blame is actually radical.

@fredrikdippel3664 5 месяцев назад

Spot on! Not everyone can have daddy issues! It's the victim mentality and the feministic influences from society and friends!

@JoyComesInTheMorning16 2 месяца назад

Always blaming the patriarchy

@apdg385 6 месяцев назад

First of all, thanks for the videos! My husband sent me one of your videos, the things you are saying my husband has said to me for years and I refused to listen or accept it. Your videos help me to understand my husband better and realize what he has been saying is true. Now I'm a wife on the path to becoming a happy wife... I am wondering if there are any books you can recommend about improving emotional intelligence. Low EQ is definitely something that I struggle with (and impacts my marriage greatly) and want to know some exercises to become in control of my emotional state.

@bedebill 6 месяцев назад

Men didn't build this world Corporations did , it doesn't suit us and many of us are miserable. Start from there.

@Runawayslave2023 9 месяцев назад

Does the modern world indulge women too much? What would have happened if a modern woman acted like this in 1850? I think it would be shut down pretty quick and she would not get the provisioning and protection she desires. Modern society rewards women for this behavior (see divorce courts).

@chipsteve 9 месяцев назад

I genuinely appreciate your perspective. To me, attempted emasculation is straight up disrespect. And when disrespect happens - & it's unequivocally intentional - I'm done. Not even gonna work on the relationship at that point, I'm gone. Although I would never get "stuck" by getting married (which is just sadomasochistic for men in 2023) - I suppose this is good advice for men who are trapped with a disrespectful succubus & have to choose the "least worst" path forward.

@jimmymaracas6442 9 месяцев назад

Couldn’t agree more, imagine spending your whole life being subtly undermined and attacked by the one person that’s supposed to have your back.

@jackdeniston59 9 месяцев назад

Yeah.All this nonsense about 'setting boundaries'. It is too late if I have to, the chick has failed.

@chipsteve 9 месяцев назад

Yeah if we're gonna go back to traditional gender roles, the model is "man - leader & woman - helper" ... trying to emasculate is the polar opposite of helping.

@jimmymaracas6442 9 месяцев назад

@@chipsteve exactly, and that’s why it seems like what the creator is saying is just another manipulation because she essentially says that the woman is going to keep doing the same shit she’s already doing, but what’s going to change is that the man is going to not let it bother him anymore. But likely, he was already trying to not let it bother him so in reality, nothing has changed except that she’s “trying.”

@neue01 9 месяцев назад

Be careful of misogyny. Don’t become the opposite

@DeadlyPlatypus 9 месяцев назад

Many women (and thus society) believe that TALKING about emotions is "Emotional Intelligence," rather than actually CONTROLLING their response to their emotions. Women indulge in emotions, men do not. And men are called "emotionally unintelligent" for not doing so.

@bedebill 6 месяцев назад

yes but when you are with the one you love surely you can let it all out.

@eddieraines2844 8 месяцев назад

I have shared your videos with my wife. I started by just listening to you myself. I haven't accused her of anything. Just letting her think on her own. Just so you know I can't imagine my life without her.

@TephaRhi 9 месяцев назад

Thank you SO much for addressing my question!! I really like how you said “we are a product of our choices”. It’s so important to have examples and teachings to help guide those of us who weren’t taught and really made wrong choices for many years. I’m blessed my husband didn’t give up on me❤🙏🏻

@denverspin 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for the willingness to play the game. Not only for you and your husband, but for the example you get to share with others, who are totally lost.

@AndrewTheFrank 7 месяцев назад

Yes, men and women think differently and I can remember back to when I was a kid and my sister and I were being diagnosed with stuff such as ADHD and being given medication. My solution was to attempt to act "properly" and show i didn't need medication. It was to modify my behavior to solve this problem I was being faced with. My sister's method was to, however, use the diagnoses as an excuse for all of the bad behavior she wanted to do. For me the diagnoses was a problem to overcome and so i sought to attempt to fix it. If it can't be fixed then how do i work with it or work around it. For her the diagnoses was a tool to be used in her ability to manipulate others. She'd later be diagnosed with bipolar and the likes and would use those just the same. I think a term like "daddy issues" and other such terms are used similarly by men and women. For men such things are something to be understood and worked around. For women they are an excuse to justify one's behavior. A reason to avoid accountability.

@antonioamaral7471 7 месяцев назад

Concordo porém sem generalizar homem x mulher. Apenas isso: pessoas (homem ou mulher) inteligente busca aceitar, entender e superar os obstáculos. Sempre em direção à melhora

@TimmyCramer 9 месяцев назад

Awesome subject and discussion! My old girlfriend was in therapy for years, on depression meds, and literally Never Happy....probably to this day. I love being around Happy non victim peeps!! Timmy C Arizona

@Soulja4ChristWeAreAtWar 6 месяцев назад

This is literally the definition of calling women to be what they are supposed to be according to the Bible: a quiet and gentle spirit.

@b.d.hooten1785 4 месяца назад

Amazing what happens when we make decisions that go against God's intentions and design.....we lose. The human always loses.

@Soulja4ChristWeAreAtWar 4 месяца назад

@@b.d.hooten1785 Precisely! 🙏

@ramonzavala3875 4 месяца назад

😊 I agree with your statement. Most woman don't want to admit that the reason they're so angry and refuse to do their part in a relationship, especially intimacy, is that they are still stuck with their daddy issues. Especially if they come from a family that the father was extremely abusive and the child saw her father beat up their mom, and be very selfish, and emotionally abusive to the womans mother. Many women wont admit this as the source of the issue which stems from her childhood trauma. This parental behavior effects the children's minds and is transferred into a womans relationship in her marriage . Negativity and sexual deprivation usually follows. Terrible thing for a husband to go through. Sadly , these signs dont show up till day later in a marriage 90 % of the time this marriage ends up in a divorce.

@Soulja4ChristWeAreAtWar 4 месяца назад

@@ramonzavala3875 I agree with you that certainly is a cause, but it is statistically the least common cause. However, I am certain that more often these 2 things are the cause: 1, feminism in the culture taught by both mother and father if they had both and her mother ran the show and belittled her father, and 2, no father in the home and her mother belittles all men as not to be trusted. These all form the daddy issues you speak of. 👍

@n9wff 5 месяцев назад

I have spent the last four years in my marriage trying to explain her angst is because it came from her father and his unfaithfulness to her mother and how it now reflects toward me. Four fruitless years... You cant change a victim until they see the walls they built. Simply, I gave up chasing her, she kept pushing me away. Now we sleep in different rooms for the last year. She wants control. Im not following the dangling carrot anymore. Until she changes, I am no longer doing the chasing.

@ruckusbuck 9 месяцев назад

Acknowledging "daddy issues" is important in gaining understanding of why you made certain choices. The path forward to healing is changing mindset and accepting responsibility for your actions.

@electrifyingct4303 9 месяцев назад

There is ONE self-reflecting, honest, and respectable WOMAN in the world.... and about 4 Billion lonely good men. LIKE, COMMENT & SHARE so this woman can teach and educate to produce MORE!

@nobledarkmoon 9 месяцев назад

In the early part it sounds like symptoms of abuse and a lack of purpose. The big issue is purpose, that wasn't defined. What are you accountable for? The other point is accountability allows for you to develop, victimhood gives you reasons not to develop. Victimhood shifts responsibility and accountability away from yourself. Point 4 is the woman is wanting the man to become a strong and take a leadership role. She wants you to take responsibility, so she doesn't need to take responsibility to develop. It is in this leadership role, that you can then guide and help develop your wifes values.

@1montanaherb 2 месяца назад

So on point. All I ever heard was that me and everyone else need to change for her to be happy.

@Handleitnow933 9 месяцев назад

I tried therapy, was a female therapist. She used the same talking points of my bm therapist. I think the system includes the new age “strong independent women” stuff. I didn’t last long with her. I I was told the same things a female friend of mine told me in personal conversations. Btw some how I don’t think therapy from a women helps men, doesn’t help women either. Imagine a single mother therapisy, theraping a single mother client who both have father issues or mom issues. My experience was unsatisfying.

@ytcensorship8180 9 месяцев назад

this is very good take. I don't like therapists because they look at the problem from one perspective and often they have their own issues. another take is , if everyone trying to be therapist there's lesser chance to find a quality one.

@rissroo4325 8 месяцев назад

I think having a plan helps or having an idea of what you need to tackle before heading to therapy and doing a lot of your own internal work helps. If you go just to go, yeah, you’re probably not gonna get anywhere. I was in a sexually/emotionally abusive marriage plus a difficult family of origin situation that I definitely needed to get help for and I’m progressing. But I have no plan to stay in counseling. As soon as I’ve thoroughly dealt with these issues, I’m leaving counseling. Counseling can be necessary and you can learn some great coping skills but I think it’s rare that anyone needs to stay in it.

@Handleitnow933 8 месяцев назад

@@rissroo4325 great point. At the time I was dealing with my babies mother who was operating as my enemy. I was getting sick. Nothing I did was enough, I worked long hours and asking for a clean space and nourishing food was a fight and gas lighting. I asked her to keep my work schedule, my hobbies, my purchases to her self bc my business was out to all of her “friends”. To ask of this was a problem. I was becoming a shell in my own home. I have a daughter with this women. My attempt at making more money, walking up early, studying for a certificate etc was interrupted continuously. Therapy was to check in with an out side source of my deficits. The more accountability I took of my self, the more I asked if the women. She was not having any of it. Rather then be accountable she regularly reminded me that I’m not god enough. Therapy was to clear my head and rediscover ways I can maneuver my situation. I suffered in silence while my name and business was out there. The aim was to see where I b was going wrong, what I can do better, how can I provide better quality for my daughter and her mother. Therapy gave me some good points but I quit when the therapists started saying the same things I’ve heard the promiscuous women say. Promiscuity and the family don’t mix.

@patrikback739 5 месяцев назад

Im curious, what were your issues and what advice did they give you?

@rachelfrazier6786 7 месяцев назад

How many people are on FB and IG and seeing the presented green grass in our friends lives and think our grass is brown? I got off of all social media and started to see how wonderful my life was! Read Proverbs 31 and ask God to make you a woman like that. In Christ we can all be a Proverbs 31 woman!

@antonioamaral7471 7 месяцев назад

👍🏻👏👏

@antonioamaral7471 7 месяцев назад

Facementira: todos são felizes, bem sucedidos e bonitos. Só que não. IG ou ZAP: aplicativo da enganação e superficialidade.

@georgesontag2192 9 месяцев назад

After 10 years of marriage and 2 children, my wife said she is divorcing me because I don't remind her of her father. ...... I cannot compete with that perspective and lost house, land, children, savings in divorce. Get a pre nup if your a man. You have no idea what your wife is going to say.

@CDRFINANCE 2 месяца назад

I also experienced the full wrath and lost (stolen) a fortune from an ex wife who unloaded all her issues on me starting with her Father, who always treated me like a King, funny that.

@alaalfa8839 9 месяцев назад

Make sure she falls in love with your lifestyle, not necessarily just with your looks, because your lifestyle is part of your charisma, looks may change over time, but charisma rarely changes, good lifestyle rarely changes for worse. but looks may change for better if you exercise and makes you look healthy etc For example, if you are a kind guy who likes people and humor and helps people, and has a bunch of friends, It's called lifestyle, you share advice about sports, music arts, and culture with friends. Charisma is part of lifestyle and lifestyle is part of charisma. She falls in love with it much more than just with looks. If she sees he helps his friend or colleague with something, she sees his priorities. The spiritual priorities and his humility, which is attractive thing. Maybe therefore long-term relationship works with people who work in the same industry, for example, music, playing violin or instrument. So she feels safe because all the people colleagues around him feel safe, and she will feel safe with all those people. For example musicians, and athletes. Except if she is the kind of person who wants to live in isolation from people or doesn't have time for them.

@susanhaines7358 5 месяцев назад

Absolutely correct!!!! The lifestyle and who he is ❤❤❤❤ I have so much to say on this. Thank you!!!

@JoyComesInTheMorning16 2 месяца назад

I’ve seen many a woman morph their likes/dislikes to what a potential husband likes. After marriage the truth came out. It’s more about finding someone who is not self centered, who is personally happy, and taking responsibility for herself. I will say lifestyles changes as well. I’ve been married 33 years, we live very rural now compared to our very social, suburb living we did the first 23 years.

@VirginiaNative1646 9 месяцев назад

Are we shaped by our environment or are we the products of our choices? The answer is yes. It’s both/and, not either/or. When you say that “daddy issues” are not a thing, you’re actually greatly diminishing the vital role fathers play in their children’s lives. This is not to say that people aren’t responsible for their behavior-they are. However, behavior is also modeled and how our parents behave does affect how children behave as adults. You can’t get around that. In terms of responsibility, you have the responsibility to deal with your childhood issues rather than inflicting that trauma onto others. Nobody can do that for you.

@popps33 5 месяцев назад

I agree with this! I don't see your approach counter to Circumstance Camp.. instead, I see it as the salvation. Because, what it offers is the opportunity to answer "Where do we go from here?" Change happens in the present. The only thing we can do with the Past is to Accept & Learn. Change is something done only in your camp! Big Props!

@meekoosh 6 месяцев назад

Not about daddy issues. My wife’s dad is a good man. However I am always sad to see him be emasculated by his wife. She has 100% control over his life. It’s sad but he’s made that bed. My wife often channels her mom in being disrespectful to me but I don’t tolerate it, because I’m my dads son, that is, my dad was never emasculated by my mom. We learn these behaviors from our parents, one or the other. But we can’t blame them. The conflict we have in our marriage due to this is difficult and may result in separation im afraid, even though I care for her.

@davidkwong3369 9 месяцев назад

My Daddy taught me how not to be a Daddy! I look to the Father for my wisdom.

@damionhenry6730 6 месяцев назад

This woman is a God sent!!! I go through this. I think this in my head. I just couldn't put it out in words. Thank you for what you're doing for us!!!!😊

@1montanaherb 2 месяца назад

“Our emotional state is coming from us not to us” is a great observation or statement. Pretty much sums it up.

@mwco79 7 месяцев назад

I am thanking God for your videos and testimony because it is very timely and answer to my prayers regarding my own marriage. Now at 23 years, 28 in a relationship with my wife, we have been having issues. In one of your short videos, you concisely and accurately described absolutely everything I've been going through and seeing for the past 3 years, accurately describing what my wife has been doing and believing... I don't know how to bring your videos to her attention in a way that might help her to be receptive. But I'm praying that God shows us the right way forward

@daveshore8671 9 месяцев назад

The whole world tells women they are princesses and the best at everything. And yet they are still not happy. It’s Satans trap.

@stevejameson9324 6 месяцев назад

Karyn On this teaching you mentioned that you don’t need to address issues of the past in relation to father wounds, just make choices in the present and move forward. Although that is good, but you do need to heal your emotional foundations and structures especially if there is father wounds and mother wounds. Without dealing with these issues, individuals will experience triggers of transference and counter transference which can be significant depending on how deeply hurt or wounded the person was in their history. I am a professional counsellor and these are some of the basics, I work through with clients, infant development wounds carried into adulthood, that can be triggered in stressful situations and circumstances and present as dysfunctional behaviour. One major example is childhood wounds of rejection that has never been healed. High level emotional intelligence is great psycho- education but that doesn’t bring inner healing in itself from historical feasting emotional wounds and sores unhealed. I take my clients through an inner healing process intervention and I also help to restore and relay emotional foundations and structure to bring them into wholeness and a healthy sense of sense. Especially where there has been voids and deficiency in parental love, nurturing and bonding, through intervention the gaps and voids are filled stage by stage, layer by layer, then the client feels more whole as a person. I do rate your teaching gifting from God, but you did say you are not a counsellor so I wouldn’t expect you to have a deeper understanding from this perspective! I enjoy your work!

@CrochetNewsNetwork Месяц назад

You utterly have no idea of what you are teaching as a counselor. You are the quintessential narrative of indulging people mostly women in thier victim hood. You will by using your methodology maintain a large client base with with each person visiting you for year until they run out of money, move, or figure out what your are providing either does not work or creates more damage .

@stevejameson9324 Месяц назад

Whoever you are behind this text message, have no life 0:01 experience or working knowledge of hurts or deep hurts, the stuck child syndrome, people suffering with trauma or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, that registers in the body and presents as physical complaints that cannot be traced in the body by blood test or X-ray machine! Psychogenic pain is emotionally rooted pain and trauma that is not caused by an infection or bacteria, it is real because of the brain and body connection. There is a place for medication, a place for Psycho therapy, a place for healthy diet, a place for exercise, a place for good quality sleep to improve health and well-being, it is important to have a healthy balance, I work with Firearms Police men Suffering with PTSD those trauma don’t go away just through denial , surprising emotions and positive mindset. I am talking through working knowledge not just theoretical understanding. People like you will suffers dysfunctional cycles or conditions for years misguided , through a lack of knowledge!

@funcygames Месяц назад

You lost me at "infant development wounds"

@stevejameson9324 Месяц назад

@@CrochetNewsNetwork This is a reply to the person who responded to my comment. You clearly have no working knowledge or experience of dealing with trauma and deep hurt. The post traumatic stress from historical soul wounds are real. Trauma registers in the body. I hope you personally never find yourself in a traumatic event, you will remember this psycho education, awareness I am bringing to you now, one day you will experience trauma, that cannot be relieved by medication and you will quickly change your position. Wishing all the best!

@stevejameson9324 Месяц назад

@@funcygames Soul wounds of trauma registers in the body and can be triggered through stressful situations and circumstances, the technical term for this is called transference and counter transference.

@johnstuartkeller5244 2 месяца назад

28:49 Of this video and what it illustrates, my Dad would say, "There're more truth than poetry to that." 😂

@smokedawg9371 9 месяцев назад

That was absolutely wonderful! You’re helping me understand women :)

@martindowd5538 6 месяцев назад

Hi! Hi! Hi! I really LOVE your stuff!!! I am Martin, an Irishman in Latvia. Been emotionally abused by a right b1tch, and ended up divorced, but I had to leave my 3 children behind. Between alienation and then gaslighting and hoovering... after 16 years, I have still not spoken to them because I do.. not.. WANT to know that she knows that I am happy without her! She had made "mommy's little soldiers" of them! I finally left after 23 years of marriage, because I caught her smiling at her cruelty to me! Why do women have to be so cruel & controlling???

@ralph1655 7 месяцев назад

I love your segments, if only I could get my wife to watch. You make me feel better about my marriage and the lack of sex. Thank you so very much.

@Soulja4ChristWeAreAtWar 6 месяцев назад

I have watched several of your videos now. I think this is by far one of your best, if not the best video you have made that I have watched thus far.

@DosBear 9 месяцев назад

Great point, not everything is based on the past relationships with others. The truth is, life is tough and it's not gettng any easier to be happy in a society that makes it so difficult to provide. Many are unhappy simply because they are and you actually have a reason to be and your hormonal levels, from month to month, do not make it any easier. Unfortunately, the justice system is setup to eliminate the Fathers and this also plays a large role in many not having a relationship with their Fathers. Start paying attention to the calendar and you will see that most of this is due to your hormonal levels that cause you to behave in an uncontrolled fashion. Your Father loves you but he can't do much when the women he created you with is sabotaging his life. You basically become collateral damage due to another women's emotional instablity. Just a thought.

@josephzsoka874 9 месяцев назад

This was interesting... keep em coming !

@joycewatt8289 9 месяцев назад

7:59 👈🏽this is the same thing I’ve come to believe and say all the time. Life is about CHOICES 9:03 good or bad they are ours to OWN.

@rogerhuggettjr.7675 7 месяцев назад

I am a creative and emotional man but realize that to be a leader and successful provider, that portion of my identity needs to be suppressed if I am going to be effective in my role in the family. Women are and should be encouraged to be emotional as that creativity brings flavor and softness to a home that it can be a haven to the family. I think women often are frustrated because feminism says that they must at least share leadership and "power" or they are a doormat leading them either to neglect the beauty that is a woman to make the hard choices a man should make or to take their soft idealism to choices that that trait isn't suited to and derail long-term goals that had logic demands. A happy home needs hardness and softness and when the roles are reversed no one is happy.

@antonioamaral7471 7 месяцев назад

Movimento feminista falso e prejudicial

@Mark-bh1tz 6 месяцев назад

Recently found your channel. So far, I love the wisdom and education. Had a comment on the RxR tracks. When I wake every day, my tracks are going everywhere too. I prioritize and rationalize then start my day. Soon I'm looking at a one-track day. Thank you for your time.

@ramonzavala3875 4 месяца назад

❤ your videos. Especially this video is describing exactly what I'm experiencing with my wife and 40 years of it is enough. Thanks for the information

@durandus676 3 месяца назад

5:52 I told my little sister Rory from Gilmore girls is a horrible person ruining her own life and blaming everyone else for years. One day we were both visiting parents and she went something like “you know, you’re right about Rory” I WAS ECSTATIC SO PROUD OF MY SISTER

@Sgb-oq3oy 9 месяцев назад

What you say makes a lot of sense. I believe that true religious women are happier in life. The religious message is to think about others, not the self. When you think about others, you are happy to help them. My wife is religious and we are in our 60th year because of her view of the world and her part in it. When we were at the shore, she would get up early and drive to where she could see the sunrise better. She did the same thing at sunset. She published two books, and wrote a musical play which was performed six times in three cities. She is now in a nursing home with dementia but her personality is intact. She did all this and was also a stay at home mother before returning to teaching. She is still happy.

@Paul-qg3iw 9 месяцев назад

I totally enjoy your thinking and means of expression. “As adults we are a product of our choices”. Sure there is a correlation between “circumstances (AKA past etc) and “choices” but if we chose to defer the latter wholly to the former, then we give up all agency. Thanks for the videos. I find them educational and helpful as I seek to navigate my own challenges and opportunities (and happy birthday for November-)

@JRRodriguez-nu7po 9 месяцев назад

Congratulations on going from camp victim to what I call camp victory. Your understanding has greatly improved, and is still very deficient. Here's a few areas were you still need to understand better: 1 Happiness has different meaning to different people. Example, the happier a country claims to be, the higher the suicide rate. Finland is always reported as the happiest place. Yet they take more antidepressants and have 5x the suicide rate of the USA. 2 Women's brains are in fact more complicated than men when it comes to sex, cross purposes and distractions. This is so obvious that a neuroanatomist can tell the sex of the brain by looking at the corpus callosum. That doesn't mean they're more emotional, next point. 3 emotions are in fact inversely related to complexity. The neocortex is in large measure inhibitory neurons. This is obvious as the general rule is, the adult is more in control of their emotions than the child (I was a rare exemption, my parents saying I was never a child) 4 hating yourself does not necessarily lead to unhappiness. Both my wife, 4 kids and myself all believe we belong in Hell forever, being evil at the core. Yet we're all extremely happy. We've been called the Addams family. This may seem odd to you, but this underlies the hedonist paradox in philosophy. It is also the core of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Nonetheless, I wish to congratulate you on rejecting the current gyncocentric misandric culture which permeates Western society (primarily US and Europe) and moving from camp victim to victory.😊

@bedebill 6 месяцев назад

sounds like shite to me .

@JesusRodriguez-zy3wj 6 месяцев назад

@@Tondaloona03 By your definition, Christ was the simpiest simp ever. Change your cross.

@rja9784 4 месяца назад

This is spot on. I feel like my wife bases her entire self worth and happiness is based on how I make her feel

@ccparker8850 7 месяцев назад

I agree that adults shd take responsibility, be accountable, and have agency in their lives. However, it's a mistake to discount childhood experiences. Neglect & abuse can leave lifelong scars. For some individuals, rising above those scars is very very difficult. These neg experiences can be mitigated. Six yrs of therapy shd have produced some productive insights. Those insights can pave the way for thoughtful adult decision making/choices. Ppl are complicated. A mix of temperament and experience. Nature vs nurture. In my experience, some ppl, seemingly by temperament, choose to be: stubborn, disagreeable, or rebellious. Some choose to be bullies. Many others are the good, kind, open minded ppl Karyn speaks abt. If a wife/wmn has controlling/emasculating behaviours; she is very unlikely to change. If she fails Karyn's 'test', then the only wise option is to leave. Any man with, self awareness, self respect, and seeking a peaceful life, will leave ASAP. 🤔🤔🤔

@CDRFINANCE 2 месяца назад

It’s a trauma bond, a replay of unhealed early childhood wounds. Karen is right in her way, we have to take radical responsibility to be healed as well.

@snowyowlz5992 9 месяцев назад

The railroad tracks image is so true. I don’t know whether to cry, laugh, or both.

@navjyotsinghgill7850 9 месяцев назад

I was wondering how do i share your videos with my girl, thankfully you answered it 😊

@johnwhitesel7828 Месяц назад

that's good stuff. I watch because my good friend is raked though the coals, often. You make sense to me.

@adamproctor483 16 дней назад

I want to start by saying that I love your content. It’s been affirming for me and incredibly valuable for my girlfriend. I know, first hand, that therapy can be a trap. There are so many truly awful, lazy, mindless therapists out there. My experience with therapists is that they’re only as good as they are healed, themselves. It’s not the psychological principles that they know, it’s about the principles that they, themselves, have been able to live.

@gh00stbeard 9 месяцев назад

Once again. It's the man's fault. He got kicked out. She raised them. It's "Daddy's" fault though. Got it.😂

@yellowbloodsilverfox 5 месяцев назад

This woman is a freaking GENIUS. Thank you; haven’t shared you with my wife not sure how she will take it but will stick around to the end of this video to hear that part of the chat 😉. Thanks for the message sticking out for us poor men 😆. Seriously what complex machines I sometimes tell her to simplify her life so I think just like you but could never verbalize it this way. Again thanks for explaining and shedding light on the matter especially for married men.

@nomansland6376 7 месяцев назад

Recognizing the outcomes of decisions is only the first step.. recognizing why you make the decisions that lead to the outcomes they do is part of that. Generally the reason why is because of how one was raised.

@garyking3459 5 месяцев назад

Funny, I shared one of your videos with my wife. It did not go over well or negatively, not certain she even watched it.

@roch145 День назад

There’s always been the debate about nature vs. nurture and how they impact development. It’s a combination of factors. Never a single factor. I think you can’t realistically rule out the effects of your upbringing (not just daddy but mommy too) on your personal traits. You can’t blame all of your problems on your parents, but certainly parents and parenting have an impact. And even if you could blame all of one’s life challenges on their parents, what does it matter? So you know why you are the way you are. What are you going to do about it? Feeling victimized does nothing to solve your problems.

@paulbooij7594 9 месяцев назад

I am scared to share this on Facebook, I don't want to get mobbed.

@Mygrandaddywasplaya77 9 месяцев назад

People don’t like the truth

@daycrow8651 9 месяцев назад

embrace the smoke.

@carlosalbertogarbijr6212 5 месяцев назад

You are the first person to finaly explain what is going on in marriage, why it usually ends, why they become sexless after a short while, it all makes sense. I was looking for this information for a long time since i want to get married but i´m afraid of this. I will surely make my future wife watch your content to prevent it from happening, so we both know what are the bad things to look for and avoid, keeping her happy and the relationship strong.

@Hebrewess8 6 месяцев назад

In my path to real, deep emotional and spiritual healing, I finally realized that couldn’t fix myself, no matter how much will power, desire, intent, focus or anything else- the solution was outside of myself. I’ve heard you mention God, but I don’t know how deep that goes for you. For me, I’m all in! I’m radical, sold out and walking intimately with Him. When I came to the end of myself and my pain and sadness, He showed me what the problem was- all the emotional pain, trauma, abuse and neglect opened my soul and body up to evil spirits. I didn’t even realize that demons could come in through all that mess in life! I thought only sin did that, which I had plenty of too. So I learned in a crash course all about how to get rid of these wicked spirits! The Bible says that they come to steal, kill and destroy us!!! But when you’re walking closely with Jesus / Yeshua, you can make them go out! For me, I had a very strong spirit of rejection in my life, and hatred of men. Fear was right there at the top too. So I had a lot of emotional and spiritual work to do. But it’s been so worth it, because now I’m free of all that nastiness! HalleluYah!!! My own determination couldn’t get me here- believe me, I tried! I wanted to be a good wife! But now it’s all gone and I’m truly and deeply healed. So, yes, admitting you’re the problem is kinda part of the solution, but it’s only like a bandaid. Our own sins and trauma are like gasoline, but demons are the gasoline in the fire! And it rages out of control! I would love to have some conversations about this with you, if you’re interested. Let me know, because there really is a spiritual component to healing that needs to happen.

@deanvanlaarhoven1413 9 месяцев назад

Let's use the phrase " Daddy issues or Mommy issues" going forward, shall we?

@Gk2003m 5 месяцев назад

A lot of folks of both (all?) genders fail to grasp the essence of the vows. I’m not talking obedience or anything like that. I’m talking “love, honor, cherish”. People focus so much on whether a spouse is screwing around that they disregard those other things. And those are the essence of this, the meat of having a good marriage. Constantly finding fault and disrespecting your spouse is the opposite of those things.

@thystheron9147 7 месяцев назад

I don't know whether you are a Christian or not, but the teachings of Christ will suit you like a glove. God gives us the freedom to choose but it has consequences. Thanks for your approach to life !!!

@antonioamaral7471 7 месяцев назад

👍🏻

@ruckboger 5 месяцев назад

I texted that railroad meme to my wife. She cracked up and said it was so true.

@mikeflynn3421 7 месяцев назад

You are a beautiful, brilliant nd compassionate woman. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@MrEliasdl 7 месяцев назад

Daddy issues is blamed for everything a woman chooses to do when she grows up. Nobody wants to mention the person who is in charge of making a house a home called Mom and Wife.

@frogbox4184 9 месяцев назад

I didn't get a notification, dang it I miss the live!

@thehappywifeschool 9 месяцев назад

I am sorry you missed it! I was late to announce it this week, but I'll be back next Saturday at 1:00 p.m. EST.

@LarsPop-Tartus 5 месяцев назад

Been married 38 years had a rough patch 25 years in. You have to both love the marriage as much if not more than one another. Have hobbies and interests apart from one another but with the same sex. Develop a compromise on the sex thing over time problems resolve sex drives moderate decrease touch listen enjoy alone time as much as together time. Throw in a faith even if it’s something less dogmatic like the Unitarian Church. The book the Prophet has a good chapter on marriage.

@user-rr6gr7og9q Месяц назад

I’ll tell you a game changer which is 100% accurate. When a man refuses the offer of sex with his wife then a line has been crossed and a split/divorce is highly likely in the near future. This should ring alarm bells for a woman.

@NoMoreRatRaceForMe 5 месяцев назад

I love you as a friend- been slowly getting my wife to watch some of your videos-

@SG-lc6vi 4 месяца назад

You deserve 10x more subscribers

@matthewwilsonn6748 9 месяцев назад

If a man has a woman who can’t look in the mirror, or reacts poorly to this video or critiques, if she gaslights and says “the man is the problem”, then say no more,…….just get rid of her! Divorce her and let her live life alone.

@BmoreIrish 4 месяца назад

It’s both. We know for a fact that trauma influences decisions. But we also need to allow the idea that people can forcefully and willingly change those patterns.

@therodthruster3800 5 месяцев назад

Thank You..

@JARRETT7121 9 месяцев назад

Advice for men having trouble with you women get rid of them and get one that won't give you trouble 1 in this day and age women look around at everything and if they don't have what everybody else does then you are the problem in her life don't try to fix it get rid of her

@bennaughton8358 7 месяцев назад

Are already blessed!😊

@jasonw2696 4 месяца назад

Truth bomb💣! Us men can find content living in squalor ! Women can't find contentment living a first class life 🤦🏻‍♂️! It is through design couldn't be happy in the garden of Eden 🤷🏻‍♂️ couldn't follow one simple rule🤦🏻‍♂️

@ScrubDaddy265 5 месяцев назад

As others have said, it’s a lack of accountability.

@estuardososa7642 7 месяцев назад

Feels like I came to that list of questions around 20yo. Just accepted it as fine and moved on. I realize I’m broken inside but it’s fine, still have to feed the fam and pay the bills.

@airborneranger-ret 9 месяцев назад

3:45 - "Let's get started"

@hoipoloi2 5 месяцев назад

Thanks

@1montanaherb 2 месяца назад

Funny how had bad she had it living in a 4K sf house, new cars and now she works for 27k a year, sharing an apartment. Yep you go girl..

@Static_Gypsy 5 месяцев назад

I agree that people and women need to be empowered to make necessary life changes, And clearly that speak is sharing her experience of what worked for her. But she’s extrapolating it and applying it generally to all women. Life is nuanced, and assuming therapy is unhelpful for all women can cause a great disservice to many who would otherwise experience great benefits from it. One year, with a trauma therapist, who formed a trusting therapeutic relationship with me, was the catalyst for me to take full ownership of my life, stop ruminating and living in the past, and transform my relationships. There is never a one size fits all approach to healing or building a meaningful life. I encourage people to lean into compassion and empathy for the people whose actions/ behaviors they don't understand. while keeping your boundaries and not remaining in harmful relationships. Being vulnerable with my therapist gave me the courage to be vulnerable with the people in my life that I needed to be vulnerable with the most. It has been through those vulnerable moments that I have experienced the greatest amount of healing. My nervous system finally felt settled. Find what works for you, I’m rooting for the success and healing of all people 🙂

@eugk1364 3 месяца назад

Yeah, just found that she's been cheating on me for already 5 months with her "friend" from her job. Now we are braking, despite our relationship being really good.

@eugk1364 3 месяца назад

So if there are any really good girls, 23 to 27 years old (I have a reason for such age preferences) living in the city of Calgary. We can meet up to talk and see if there's any path we can follow together being happy and helping each other to become better versions of ourselves

@ironwillie7666 9 месяцев назад

Sorry men, you can not share this information with women that are difficult to be with.... You just have to leave her. Sad but true.

@larrylorimer3065 6 месяцев назад

Most women cannot look forward in life and plan ahead. That is why they must bring up the past every day and relive those issues.

@julioestebanperezescudero6246 6 месяцев назад

I appreciate your advice and the way you deconstruct woman behavior. When a woman consistently disrespect a man and uses any excuse to initiate a quarrel, something very serious is happening. In my opinion she is not worthy of any consideration and the relation must end.

@ashandsnow1873 8 месяцев назад

One thing I wanted to point out, despite having liked the segment quite a bit: even when women are called out for being flawed, there is always a silver lining or selling point, something that softens or even puts a positive spin on the cons. For example, look at the train track analogy. Yes, the female brain is represented as a poor looking mesh of tracks, BUT...there are many tracks (compared to a single one representing the male's) suggesting a high level of intelligence, and the females are always labeled "complicated" and "intricate", not straight-up wrong, bad, responsible etc. I find it hard to believe that every woman is this incredibly complicated, super intelligent but maybe slightly damaged/defective being. Females, like males, compose an entire spectrum--some physicists, but many many low-IQ and/or unethical fish in the sea. I have met both highly intelligent and very, very stupid women.