1. find someone secretly: take your desires to God in the secret place. submit your desires to Him. trust Him with the desires of your heart. 2. find someone in (a church) service: someone who is part of the Body of Christ 3. find someone serving: serving God + people. 4. find someone seeking (God). Matt 6:33 (seek first His Kingdom + His righteousness). Is God truly Lord over that person’s life? 5. find someone serious: person with godly character, integrity in a man: he should be a picture of Christ (obviously only Christ is perfect, but he should love + lead like Christ) - love that is self-sacrificial
considering i got my heart broken a little over a year ago , but i promise the Lord will get you through it, continue to pursue the Lord with your whole heart and accept his love and unfathomable peace that he has to offer , praying for you!
I love the Frankenstein reference. Recently I got briefly involved with a non-Christian. To make a long story short, when it started, just as an acquaintance, I had no idea it would go where it went. But we got very close (emotionally), spent hours talking every single day, for 3-4 months, and sadly, our conversations ended up in a sexual territory after some time, as deeper feelings came into the scene. Thankfully, nothing truly physical ensued, as we did not get to meet that often and it was partly long-distance when he went abroad for over a month. I think I loved him, or something close to that anyway. We broke it off a month ago (thanks to God's intervention, I believe, because I wouldn't be able to stop myself as we had become VERY, VERY attached) but to this day I still experience moments of sadness and I still miss him, even though I know it had no chance of thriving. And I am sorry for allowing myself to even get there, I never ever dated anyone in my 29 years of life, so it caught me unawares. I've learned so so much from the experience but the scars and heartbreak are there, and it had awaken something in me, that shouldn't, and some of our conversations are difficult to erase from memory. And I think I did give him a part of my heart. It just wasn't worth it, and I see that I was deceived, justifying it all somehow, though deep down I knew I should not have pursued this. And I didn't at first, it started off as a friendship with my intention to share the Gospel with him, but it left us both hurt, as we had to end it due to the differences. He knew I was a Christian, and it would simply not work out in the long run. Now the only thing I can do is to pray for him and hope God can still make it work for my good (as I hope I've learned my lesson) and I pray that God will touch him some way, so that he might come to know Jesus. I care about him still (the guy). God bless you all as you seek His will in this. He is good, even when we mess up and He wants what's good for us, even if for some of us, it might not be a spouse. I like to quote Psalm 84:11 to myself these days: "For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord will give favor and glory, for no good thing will He withhold from the one who walks uprightly."
It’s crazy how the Spirit moves as one. I was dwelling/discussing on this topic yesterday with my sister. This is exactly what we were talking about. God bless you and your family! So thankful for the podcast and this channel. The Lord truly is working through you guys.
So helpful I was just talking about relationships with some of my brothers in Christ the other day and looking for the qualities that not only exemplify Christ but magnify his character are super important and it’s important for us to have that as men of God
Hey. I felt the same way a few years ago. I was too broken to date someone, especially after my ex broke up with me. I felt lonely during the time of singleness and while I was in a season of singleness, God worked in me and transformed me first before I met my current boyfriend now. I had to work on myself first in my relationship with Christ before I began to date him. I am honestly very grateful for the Lord to work in me. And as He worked in me and through me, I also prayed for a husband that God will put in my life because I believed that God placed marriage in my heart. Keep your eyes on Jesus. It takes time and a lot of prayer, but He hears you! Keep seeking Him always.
Felt that I was once there for a very long time thought I had too much that I couldn’t be fixed by someone besides Jesus, but he will send someone your way in the right time don’t beg but to receive much love brother. Hope you continue to pray about it. Be patient ☝️his Timing is always right.
Ever since I’ve started to grow closer to God a few months ago, I’ve developed a strong love for people around me, to help them and to be polite. I find myself doing polite gestures for people every single time I get the chance because of a strong urge to do so. I never get angry anymore, I stay calm or sometimes happy. But over time I’ve also started to develop a very strong feeling to love somebody else in a romantic way, I want to make someone else happy, and to feel the warmth of someone else in a hug so badly. Sometimes it even feels like my chest is going to explode because of how bad the desire is, but I remain composed and as of right now I’ve suppressed it by trusting that God will make it happen soon, when the time is right. Thank you for this video, I’ve recently stopped praying to God about romantic love because I wanted to focus on him, and when I saw this video I had a strong urge to watch it through, but now I will pray to God about it again, letting him know everything of how I feel about it. This is also after I found out that a prayer has no expiration date.
That is what we need to do. Take our cares to God. No matter if we think we already know the answere or not, he already knows our cares and he wants to hear from us.
I just got rejected by someone who I think ticks these boxes. I know that rejection is God's protection but it still hurts. I know this means that she wasn't the one God intended for me but I'm heartbroken that she didn't even want to give it a chance. I'm going to have to keep reminding myself of God's word and not let these feelings dictate. Please share if you have any advice!
Alex. I wanted to ask you, from one man seeking to be more like the lord everyday to the other, where should I seek to find a wife? I right now have made myself a husband for the right woman. But I must seek her out. The problem is I only want a Proverbs 31 woman as I plan to be a Proverbs 31 man. I'm a recent engineering master's grad that just moved to Missouri (US). What some suggestions. Who do I need to find myself in the company of? I know church is the main place to look. Are there any other places I should frequent or should I wait for life to occur?
I am a mother of 28 - and 30 year old single successful Christian sons needing to marry. I told them that just as God presented Eve to Adam, He already has that divine encounter pre destined. I tell them they will know because of a spiritual affinity that defies logic. The steps of the righteous are ordained by the Lord. My elder son talks about compatibility, shared goals, and morals,my youngest trusts what I say because it's the Word of God. I tell them it has nothing to do with searching and qualifying, education, money, and family background because God knows, and it will all be aligned in most ways. I have since realized that professing to be a Christian is not the same as being a born-again Christian. Pray for the Will of God to accomplish this in Christ Jesus' name through the Power of His Holy Spirit Amen.
lmao you can fo all that but still nobody would wanna date u so i guess these good if you find one but must people out therr would be beyond repaired and single for the rest of their life by saying this is the standard with no grace room at all
Hey Alex, be praying for me, I am confident and determined in my faith, I met a Godly single woman at my young adult group, however, I do not believe the timing is right. I pray for strength to be a good friend to this woman, and that God may open the door for us to date in time.
Ik dating is a good thing but yk I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s just not gonna happen where I am in life. I’m in high school and I wanna date to marry a person and that’s not likely to happen where I am right now bc everyone’s young immature and we’re only here for 4 years. A lot of the people around me are looking to get into surface level “talking-stages” as we call it where they do all the little cute things that often end as quick as they start. And yk maybe it’s God saying I’m not ready for at as I am now.
I think it's very befitting that you're preaching where you are. It is written, "Don't cast your pearls before swine." However, the swine is dead, and the word that you're speaking is life. A perfect picture of what happens when you speak to those willing to hear what the spirit is saying to those seeking wisdom.
Absolutely! I have heard stories of people who started with little or no knowledge but managed to emerge victorious thanks to Ana Graciela Blackwelder.
I love how nothing on this list is about common interest like oh they like fitness, art ect. Like me then they must be the one. Interest and hobbies change! Wanting the same things and having a love for God is all that matters!
It's funny how this connect to what Bishop Mar Mari said : "for the ladies find someone who is willing to give his life you like Jesus did" and Alex says someone willing to self sacrifice. And then mar mari said : "find a woman who knows Jesus Christ" and Alex also says the same thing. They were both referring to different verses but yet still came to the same conclusion.
My thing is how are we supposed to live in this world financially. I'm seeing a girl for a while and I'm older but I just don't see how here in Europe I'll ever be able to afford a house. Had to move back home recently due to rent increase. What does the Bible say?
Matthew 6:34, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Philippians 4:6-7, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Bring it to God and will lead you. When you start to worry stop and tell God about it.
You're right. The cost of living and taxes are making things more financially difficult. An honorable man, like yourself, wants to support his wife. Rent increase is abysmal. When rent increases but your income doesn't, moving back home is sometimes the only option. Read the Old Testament for wisdom on every subject and guidance including your situation. God bless you, dear.
I’m so hurt I honestly cannot and will not trust any man!! But I want to he loved and be able to trust sooo bad. Please pray for me and my insecurities. I want this so bad I want to be a great wife but I can’t trust anyone.
It’s tuff. Woman ticked all the boxes, found her through a christian dating app. She’s even from my hometown. We texted and all that, but now she just doesn’t want to text back anymore. Wanting on a text from her for 9 days now.. Nothing.. Kinda sad seeing this stuff probably ending like this. Out of the cold too
You may be right. She didn’t text me for 5 days before bc she moved to my town. Seemed weird to me, tho I didn’t say anything. Maybe that’s just how she is? I value answering people tho. Can’t lie but I feel like s*** if she doesn’t answer. Feels like she’s not respecting me
That’s called ghosting my brother😭😭….she may be trying to end things. I never liked the idea of ghosting as it doesn’t allow the other person at least a bit of closure. I think everyone deserves respect when it comes to things like this. I think to myself “At least say you’re done, don’t just leave/say nothing and disappear” but hey who am I? People do as they wish these days with no regard for others or for God. Keep your head up man, Jesus loves you, find genuine contentment in that. It’s hard, but the peace and love you receive from Christ is more than you can imagine.
@@carolinasilva2047 Thanks so much🙏🏼 Turns out she felt bad when texting bc she was getting to know another dude simultaneously. Anyway, she goes to a catholic church, I‘m evangelical and lutheran although I don’t belong to a particular church. Long story short, we stopped texting, it‘s def better this way. I‘m barely an adult, so no rush here. All good💯
Our duty is to glofiy God, to love him with all our heart mind and soul. Our second duty is to love our neighbor as ourselves. Getting married is not our purpose, rather it is a gift from God. Read 1 Corinthians 7 and Matthew 22:34-46
little different, 2 is finding someone in service aka at church. 3 is find someone who is actively serving, many people go to church but dont actually follow Christ 7 days of the week. So you should find someone who volunteers at the church or serves in some capacity.
I would love if you broke down this verse "To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” It pains me everytime I hear it, since i dont think its true that the man should rule over the woman. How would you break this down? I love your videos they bring so much joy in my relationship with Jesus. Amen
1 Corinthians 7:4 ESV [4] For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
“As a result of the fall, man no longer rules easily; he must fight from his headship. Sin has corrupted both the willing submission of the wife and the loving headship of the husband. The woman’s desire is to control her husband (to usurp his divinely appointed headship), and he must master her, if he can. So the rule of love founded in paradise is replaced by struggle, tyranny and domination.” (Susan T. Foh, cited in Boice)
I go to a small church and there is 1 guy there that’s my age, who is single, and I’m attracted to. He barely talks to me, and even though we’ve exchanged numbers, he hasn’t texted or given any sign of interest in me. I’ve asked The Lord about it and I haven’t yet been given a clear answer on what to do so I’m leaving it up to God to make it happen if it’s meant to be. With that being said, would it be unwise of me to ask him out?
If you and him don’t speak in person or don’t speak at all or have small conversations, then I think you should let it go and move on. See him as another brother in Christ
