DATING A FRENCH MAN: What We Wish We Knew Before Dating/Marrying French Men!! 

un mec qui critique ta façon de t'habiller ou de faire le ménage alors qu'il ne bouge pas le petit doigt c'est pas un français, c'est juste un con.

Okay so as a French person, I disagree with most things that were said in this video. If my boyfriend/husband commented on the way I clean up the house or the way I dress, that would be totally inappropriate. It would also be inappropriate for my mother in law to comment about my weight. And while it is true we don't celebrate graduations very much, a little "congrats" wouldn't have hurt.

Mon mec me sort que j'ai mal nettoyé l'appart pendant qu'il est sortit je l'envois voltiger jusqu'à mars ou pluton

I'm French, and my boyfriend took me to wonderful restaurants. He washes our apartment every week, alone ! He never criticized my physical appearance.. even when I ask ! He just loves me without make-up in a beautiful dress. No problem with "exes" : Confidence is the key of a relationship ! You just didn't pick the right guys. I disagree with most things that were said in this video. If my boyfriend/husband commented on the way I clean up the house or the way I dress, that would be totally inappropriate.

Are you guys serious? I am french and so is my bf and my exes. I always went to nice restaurants and had gift for valentine's day for example my boyfriend flew me to the canarie island for our first Valentine's day together. My bf always do big romantic gesture he litteraly still celebrates monthly anniversary with me (we are 4 years into this relationship)... Your boyfriends take advantage of you knowing they can blame it on the culture. The "are you going to wear that to work" 😂😂 Any french women I know would have given him a mental slap. This is very rude. Not cultural. 70% of what you said is absolutely not my experience with french men...

Sorry but most of the things you say aren't cultural at all . Just your boyfriends aren't really considerate towards you .. I'm french so obviously I dated a lot of French boys but Scots, Finns, Swiss, Koreans etc as well. And I still don't think it has anything to do with your origin . Some are assholes or impolite , some are not , period . :)

I lived right outside of Paris for a few months and had a French boyfriend at the time. He, too, was very direct with his opinions, but I didn't find any other French people like that. Well, except for his mother. However he gave me his opinions when I didn't ask for them, and they were never positive. It was always something like "are you really gonna wear that skirt?" or "it would be great if you would like to tone up your butt and thigh area" or on my last day in France, I had had really bad luck with atms so we'd been all around Paris trying to find one that worked and when we waited he said, out of the blue, "I'm only doing this for you because it's your last day". I don't think these are naturally French things, I just think he was an asshole.

As a french girl dating a french guy, I think we have better specimens available XD

Im' a french guy ..and a advice , change of men because they seem very rude and not very funny!!

Interesting point of view, as a french man, i think that some of the men's comentary you are talking about are rude and inapropriate. The cultural argument don't excuse these comportements. Like when he says that you can keep this cloth but not the others. Or bein too honest and hurting. It's not normal. It's not because they're french. Those behaviours must be stoped and you can protest and contest them. Please do it :) so it's my opinion and you are free to disagree ^^ just wanted to share my thouhts with you. Bonne continuation :)

I'm french and moving abroad has lightened my mood, cut my arrogance and sneeky comments from 100% to 0.1% still trying harder. Sooo much more positivity about every day little things...

Happily married to a Frenchman for 6 years. He is completely the opposite to what you two describe. He is very romantic and most important, he is respectful. His mother and the rest of his family are polite and never said anything inappropriate to me. You are in sad relationships. This behavior is not cultural. They are just jerks.

Bravo les filles ! Vous avez plutôt bien mis le doigt sur les différences culturelles entre les anglo-saxons (je généralise, c'est plus simple) et les français. Je vis en Australie depuis 2 ans et la surexpression des sentiments et des émotions par les australiens me choque toujours autant. "OMG, that's amAAAzing!" Je trouve ce genre d'attitude superficielle voire forcée, même si je sais que ça ne l'est pas pour les anglo-saxons. Les français sont beaucoup plus pudiques concernants leurs émotions et leurs sentiments et de ce fait ils les expriment beaucoup moins. Le fait que les australiens ne soient pas directs me manque aussi parfois. C'est sympa au quotidien car moins "agressif", mais au final on ne sait jamais vraiment ce qu'ils pensent. Ils peuvent te dire que ta robe est magnifique juste pour être gentil alors qu'ils ne le pensent pas du tout, alors qu'un français n'aurait juste rien dit ou si tu lui demandes : "non j'aime pas du tout", "ça ne te met pas du tout en valeur". Ca ne fait pas forcément plaisir sur le coup mais au moins c'est sincère. Tout comme si un français dit qu'il aime quelque chose, il aime vraiment. Il ne fait pas semblant juste pour être poli (ça peut arriver mais ce n'est pas la mentalité de base). Pour ce qui est des célébrations : la Saint Valentin, c'est commercial !!! L'amour se prouve au quotidien, pas seulement le 14 février ! Et là on retrouve une grosse caractéristique de la culture anglo-saxonne hyper-consommatrice. Les français ne sont globalement pas (encore) hyper-consommateurs donc ce genre de fête a beaucoup moins d'impact en France. Tout comme Halloween...On fête en famille ou avec les amis très proches les évènements importants. On en revient à la pudeur des émotions des français qui va à l'encontre de l'hyper-expression des anglo-saxons (d'un point de vue français évidemment). Ce que je trouve marrant aussi, c'est que les anglo-saxons vont beaucoup plus facilement être dans le compliment, le rapport sympa à l'autre, mais ça reste très superficiel. Il est très difficile d'entrer dans une vraie conversation intime et profonde et de "copiner" avec les anglo-saxons. Ils vont être super sympa et agréables quand tu les rencontres, mais ça s'arrête là. Il n'y a rien derrière. Le français va être moins expressif de prime abord mais il va plus facilement s'ouvrir et lier une amitié. Pour ce qui est de l'esthétique... Grand débat ! D'un regard français, les 3 cm de fond de teint sur le visage, les sourcils ultra dessinés, les faux cils et les faux ongles colorés, ça fait très superficiel et c'est pas classe du tout... Les françaises savent s'apprêter tout en restant naturelles. Au moins il n'y a pas de mauvaise surprise au réveil ! Je pense que c'est lié à notre rapport beaucoup plus proche avec la nature en France. On attache beaucoup moins d'importance au paraître, mais aussi à ce que les autres pensent de nous. Concernant les ex, c'est très personne dépendant. Beaucoup de personnes qui se sont séparées ne restent pas du tout en contact en France... Le fait que l'on reste ami avec nos ex est loin d'être une généralité. Ca dépend juste des situations et des personnes. Tout ça pour dire que oui, bien que les pays anglo-saxons et la France soient des pays économiquement équivalents, il existe de grandes différences culturelles, qui ne se voient pas de prime abord, mais qui sont profondément ancrées en nous. Il n'y a pas un pays meilleur que l'autre, c'est juste différent. Il y a du bon et du mauvais des deux côtés ! ;-)

Really funny and damn right ! As a french women, I see it from an other perspective that might explain a lot. 1. We have indeed the tendancy to appriciate "authentic" people and that might make us rude. We "try" to make prevail honesty (that include: no small talk with strangers to pretend that we do care, light makeup or you can be considered as a ... or have a lack of taste, something to hide and so on), respect (that means for instance not making too much noise in a restaurant e.g. typical US tourist :p *love you guys*), etc. 2. In more details, halloween and valentine's day are considered as they propably are: some commercial US new celebrations. Of course, the valentine's day seems more appriciate by french women than french men ! 3. We rarely celebrate graduation except if the graduate dude organises himself the party or... if he graduates from a prestigious institution/school. Otherwise, it's pretty commun for french to think that we must have a high degree, it's not a big deal. Most of the time, studies are paid by the goverment. It needs a little less commidment somehow... i mean: no need to work aside to pay your studies ;). 4. In general strangers are so ... excited about everything all the time ! That's like little girls with sparcling in there eyes. Really cute (from my point of view) !! But it seems cultural, not really natural for us (are we depressed :x?). 5. Finally, we have the inverse problem of yours. It's really hard emotionnally for us if we don't pay attention to that cultural differencies... Why ? Because when we meet a super sweet and nice stranger, speak a lot and spend some time ... we may think that he became our friend ! In reality, he is just nice with everyone and you mean nothing at all to him (was he hypocrite ?). If you think of him as a friend you'd do anything for him. But when you realise the gap between you, damn, it hurts. Specially when we live abroad, it's hard to make real good friends... I hope this glimpse of what we think and feel helps understand us a little better ;) Btw, I love your videos !

As a French girl I had the opposite experiences! French men are romantic and usually are very sweet and won't say what they think but will tell you compliments... I don't get how both of you could have so negative experiences with French guys

Hi, I'm french and I find yours guys particulary rude. I can't beleive it when I see how pretty you are. If I was your boyfriend I will be so romantic and do anything to keep pretty girls like you. In anycase my behaviour is not like you say, don't do a generality, or change guys they don't deserve you. Frenchies are not definetely like that, whe have a reputation to defender. Sorry for the mistakes

As a Frenchman, I think you both are pretty accurate, maybe except for the St Valentin day. This is THE day of the year when you HAVE to show you care for your gf / wife. So it's a nice gift, a fine dining, or a nice activity to do together (a spa session, a romantic week end..). But a Pizzat Hut? Girl, you need to make a point here with your husband. Be direct just like he is, and tell him about your frustration. Be more French :)

Niels ? Robin ? Are you sure you're actually dating French guys ? :-)

Why would you stop celebrating the special moments in your life because of the particular preferences of one man...? Who cares whether he celebrates the occasion or not? Carry on! It sounds like the pair of you have made A LOT of sacrifices for your french bfs. Both of your bfs sound like uber dominant types and I would suggest wrestling back some measure of control/balance in the relationship before it's too late. To me honest, you both sound a bit ridiculous...It's not the 1950's ;-)

Wow, they sound a bit controlling. I’d be having serious words with my partner if he told me what to wear and criticised my cooking, make-up or how I cleaned the house!

I'm an American living in France and I really enjoy that my French boyfriend is upfront with me. It makes the compliments more authentic even. To me, doing my makeup is just fun it's not for appearances as much as it is a ritual if that makes sense? He was completely willing to help me throw a little thanksgiving dinner and he knows that certain things are just important to my culture.

1. French guys are generally romantic. (if not, change) 2. Pizza hut, really for Valentines Day ? 3. If your bf doesn't like what YOU like about yourself, he's a douch 4. We celebrate quite every week end, just to see friends and get drunk, that's why we don't celebrate as you do, because we do it all time, everything is an occasion to celebrate. 5. France is magic (not sure about this one) xx

From what you said, it sounds like your men are from Paris or nearby. Comparing all Parisian men to all French men is like comparing New Yorkers to all American men! Not really accurate, IMHO.

Staying friend with exes is a personal, individual thing, it's not a french culture thing at all. Same thing with boyfriend commenting your outfit !

As a French woman, it's quite interesting to see a foreigner's point of view on French culture and habits of living. I just want to react on the last thing you girls said about exes. I guess it really depends on the type of person cause not every French man has his exes hanging around. In fact most people don't keep in touch with their exes unless they've had kids with them. Personally I've never met any of my boyfriend's exes, and there's no way on Earth I'd be okay with him staying friends with an ex.

about the quiche, french men tend to think (and say sometime) "If you don't like the answer, don't ask the question". When my ex girl friend asked me if she became fat since we where together, she didn't like my answer :-)

apparently you're just dating jerks...that has nothing to do with the fact that they're french or not aha ;) My boyfriend (he is french) always accept me, whatever how much makeup I have on my face. Sometimes I wear a lot of makeup because I really like it and he compliments me about it, and when I don't wear any make up he says i'm as beautiful as usual. I'm always beautiful to him actually. :) Some staff are true, like we don't celebrate, or the fact that we say what we think, but in a couple relationship some men try to take care of the way they talk. For example I made a diner last week. I'm a very bad cooker, and the diner was really disgusting, even I, I didn't want to eat it. But he was trying to say nice things about the cheese, the dessert etc... lol And I'm really estonished about the behaviour of your men when you show your new cloths. They are really mean!

Some of those points really make it seems like they're assholes rather than French habits, because telling your gf how she should or shouldn't dress or how she handled cleaning is definitely not cool. The makeup point is rather true tho

I have a French boyfriend and he does nothing that you said in this video haha but good video anyway

The issue with French men being too direct and not considerate of feelings may be part of French culture, but I think this may not particular to just the French. When I was young, I always prided myself in speaking honestly and directly. I never thought about how hurtful this could be. It wasn’t until after my divorce that I grew to reconsider my approach. I believe that men who behave this way may simply be young and immature. There are two things to consider when talking to someone. One is honesty, but the other is to convey your message with consideration of the other person’s feelings. When weighing these factors, not saying anything may be the best thing to do. Honesty should not trump the other person’s feelings. There are times when raw honesty is needed, but we still need to be careful.

I'm French and dating a French. He doesn't care about my clothes or looks as long as I feel good, appreciates efforts even if he'll give direct feedback and we do celebrate every month/year anniversary and Valentine's day... Some guys are real angels too ❤️

Pizza Hut pour la Saint Valentin, il est radin. Au minimum un vrai restaurant (pas une chaine) avec un décor agréable, un cadeau est fortement recommandé.

La quiche mouillé c'est peut être à cause de la crème fraiche allégée, ça devrait être interdit la crème fraiche allégée

Wow, all the guys you have dated seem really rude!

ladies, as a french woman, I can say that yes, we don't like holding big parties, I celebrated my own diplomas eating an ice cream or drinking a coffee with friends, an nothing more, because for us, it's not a big deal, just a step towards the next year of studies or the search for a job. I don't celebrate Chritmas nor saints because I'm an atheist ( and we're numerous in France) so it's not part of my familial culture. Some people do, it's really up to the individuals actually. Yes we are direct, because we tend to think that if someone ask for our opinion, he or she wants our opinion. So better be prepared to hear the truth and not a polite lie. But we act the same with our french friends, it's not only towards foreigners. BUT, for the man who says "ho you cleaned it's cool, but its poorly done" thats not something we will all say. For many french people, this cross the border between being frank and plain rudeness. Be assured that no matter his nationality, my answer to that will be something between "well, since you're such an expert at it,I promise not to get in your way anymore, I'll gladly let you do it for the rest of your life" or "say one more word and my foot will quickly get in touch with your buttocks" depending on my mood. Sorry that you had to hear something like this, we're not all rude like this 😓

I am french and I also lived abroad (London, Germany Switzerland Morocco etc..) and I totally disagree with what you are saying. When I lived in London with my English boyfriend he never celebrated my birthday or st valentine or Easter etc so I always was crying because I was thinking he did not love me but I realised his friends and family was similar and they treated me as a sensitive and romantic french woman ..So I disagree with what you are saying about french guys as they are much more romantic than English, Irish, German men. Please don't say things about french which are not true as I could do the same with other nationalities. Just admit and understand that it was YOUR own experiences and not all french are like what you describe. I am french and I can tell you that I was unhappy with foreigners because they never celebrated special days or occasions.

OH LA LA !!! vous faites un amalgames de vos rencontres les filles !! sans vouloir être disgracieux, tous les Français ne sont pas comme ceux que vous avez décrit !! Heureusement !!! Je ne me reconnais pas dans votre description....Pas de saint valentin ou partir à Pizza Hut...MDR !!! vous êtes tombés sur des fainéants de la fêtes...Bref, je vous souhaite le meilleur pour la suite mais vous devriez éviter de généraliser vos témoignages... A+

Oops, your guys unfortunately don't represent guys in general here in France. They just sound a bit mean, you can't blame those flaws on their nationality because they aren't all like this, BY FAR

Hey, I know this isn't the same because I live in Spain and my hubby is Spanish and I'm American, but I think that life is hard when you are a foreigner and your partner should be willing to go the extra mile to be understanding of you and make you feel that you matter. My husband makes me feel supported and loved. People here claim to be rude too but I don't let them walk all over me and say whatever they want about weight, my clothes, my people etc.. Your point of view matters too, and just because the people around you are all doing something doesn't make it right. If anything it's a valuable opportunity to teach them! I'm not willing to swallow my feelings just because I'm living in another culture and things are different and I don't recommend that anyone do it either, especially with such personal topics!

So glad to find you guys!! I've been married to my Frenchman for about a year and it's fun to see people who have gone through similar things 😊

Hi ! I must say that not everybody is comfortable with staying in touch with his/her ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm a french guy and I couldn't be with a girl who is still in touch with her exes, for the reasons you said, like in my romantic state of mind, if two people got together, they just can't go back to nothingness or any kind of healthy friendship. And that kind of messing with exes sometimes hides secret sexual affaire and/or leads to getting together again when the official relationship breaks down. Well, just to say that this is not the same with every french guy ! and by the way, I liked this video ! really interesting !

Hello, I'm French, and I find your first boy friend rude for not celebrating your success. When my wife did get her exams, I was there for the ceremony so we could celebrate together. So that kind of behaviour is not "all french guys like". About Valentine's day...some celebrate it...lots find it a bit commercial and don't even care about it : that's my case, my wife knows and agrees with me. About the comment after you did some cleaning...well you just have a husband who is very careful about that very point. When my wife just tidy the house, I'm already glad and I don't care that the windows are not perfectly clean ;) About make up : completely agree although I can't say it's general in France. I know a lot of guys who will love girls with make up. I don't. About fashion, well, can't say : I hate fashion and I just don't care about it. If you look good, that's perfect ;) Good video overall ;)

Being French and now living abroad and dating foreigners I got to realise that all of the above are true. I definitely got in trouble for forgetting 6-month anniversaries, I got in trouble for giving direct feedback to my friends, I got in trouble for basically everything you said.

Greetings from USA. This was VERY helpful!

Can you do a version for guys, like have your forgeiner guy friends and have them express their opinion on French women

Bonjour! Juste pour vous dire que certains des points que vous avez abordé ne sont pas des problèmes dû à la culture mais bien à vos hommes les filles. L’histoire de la st Valentin du diplôme et des ex qu’ils soient français ou non c’est pas ca le problème battez vous un peu parce que là y’a des raisons de le faire je suis française mon copain a grandi ici et jamais j’accepterais ça de sa part.

Have lived in France over 14 years, and #1 about about not celebrating holidays is 100 % percent accurate. Your videos are fantastic..!

Wow, this was sure educational. I appreciate the effort you ladies made & the comments your listeners took the time to write. I learn a lot from them as well. My impression of French men ( from movie’s, books, TV etc) being an American , was totally wrong. So thankful I never had an opportunity to be attracted to one; I would have had my feelings hurt every day. Many people, especially in the southern states were raised with the saying “ if you have nothing good to say, then say nothing at all”. I try very hard to think positively of others. If I can truthfully find something complementary to say;I will, even to a stranger on the street. It will be heartfelt & not “ fake” as your French listener’s seem to think. I have never lived in another country & I am blown away on how different our cultures are. I can see how many misunderstandings could occur. Thanks for the lesson.

I'm a believer in less makeup. Perhaps a good followup video would be to do the same thing with the boyfriends. Find out what they wish they had known.

What a great and funny video! Can't wait for part 2. 😘🇫🇷

The birthday and all of this kind of thing, it's almost like a meme in France, to remember it, i mean, there are movies about it x)

Just found your channel and love it. Was engaged to a Frenchman and this would've helped. C'est la vie!

Wow, my experience was SO DIFFERENT to yours!!

Love this video ❤️ part 2 please ! Coming from an Asian background, the down-with-the-exes is def a big shock for me and I still cannot get used to it.

the day my boyfriend will say a thing about my clothes, he can just walk by the door, naked, and never come back. I swear !!! ahah

My experience has been a little different! The French guys I’ve dated also didn’t celebrate every little thing, were also very direct with feedback, and had vocal opinions on my clothes. But they preferred just as much makeup as I usually wear, just less dramatic eyeliner and neutral toned eyeshadows. As for hair, they both preferred “natural looking” waves as opposed to my actual naturally curly hair. It’s so funny that you mention the ex situations. That’s something I also found to be quite true! Great video ladies, cheers x

This is so interesting, thank you for sharing!

Yes I can really relate. On just the first few weeks of dating here in Vancouver, my Parisian man told me, "I think those sunglasses don't quite suit your face so well." Well! As a Canadian woman I was caught off guard but laughed it off. Later comments followed on my nail polish, and an occasional item or two made me sensitive and a bit hurt (and stubborn and digging in my heels, as you mentioned, ha!!). UNTIL-- I read a book on French vs American culture and it explained that they just do this as a "looking out for your best interests" kind of a thing. Gosh, it explained so much. ...Even now though I regret that I do think we misunderstand one another more than we might just due to cultural differences, and I find that a bit sad. I think I still take offense more than I might for example about how he says some things. However I'm learning to give it back to him with honest feedback eg "I think you need a haircut soon", or "hmmm, I'm not crazy about that jacket." And definitely, the two things I said looked poorly on him he threw away, (yay!) so I thought that was a win. Although still-- if someone likes something and are happy in it, shouldn't we just keep our mouth shut? (So Canadian of me. I felt guilty bringing it up. ). However... maybe that explains how fashion here has really slipped and too many wear sloppy outfits without any consideration, hahaha. None of us are keeping the other in line. ;) Oh- however he did say what a relief it was to be here in Vancouver and not to have to fit so much to the pressure that exists in Paris to be, or look a certain way. It's a bit more relaxed here; well generally. Some of us still care! ;) I also ended up in tears one night when he had returned home from travelling and I'd taken the trouble to do a shop for him while he napped and recovered, and then to make a meal. Because I'd expected appreciation for the effort and got a critique (well meaning though it was) instead, it was too much! Okay, so one of the dishes was an utter failure (so horrible I had to throw it out, -- okay wait, I threw it over the balcony to the squirrels below while blinking back angry tears, hahahahaha) I laugh now, but that stung at the time. And he was surprised it upset me. ;) And the other similarities: honest interest and critiques on my outfits, hairstyle and homewares, and because he has such an excellent sense of style (mostly) I can trust his opinion very well. He's a joy to go shopping with! And yes, he wears the cliche scarfs, and yes he smells really good, and knows his way easily around a boutique cheese shop. And has charm to spare. ;) I also love that he always carries my heavy bags for me. He is also-- the most selfish and carefree driver (it's so embarrassing here in Vancouver--- haha) and has no trouble nudging ahead when pedestrians should have the right of way, or shouting and insulting someone if they have done something he deems outrageous. I actually rolled down the window once and apologized to a pedestrian once!! Ahaha! My boyfriend of course was insulted. (I'm laughing). And it's true how the French just throw themselves into the beginning of a relationship, and are mortified that we sometimes lightly date a few people over coffees before we feel like we want to really date one person in earnest. Because N Americans, we need time to consider first! I think a compromise between the two is the best approach. And of course neither approach safeguards against possible future heartache, so I suppose both have merit. And now we are exes and he has started dating someone new. Fortunately although I am not French I subscribe to the "more friends the merrier" approach and I'm sure when I meet his new girlfriend I won't have a difficult time being friendly. (Hopefully). But of course it will be easier when I have a new boyfriend myself !! (Preferably another French). Yes there is something I fell in love with about these guys. But I'm sure you two know all about that! x

I would love to see another video of you together, this was so much fun to watch

These are soo true! Wish I would have known this 10 years ago. Especially the stuff about direct feedback and fashion. I’m super sensitive and it’s hard to get over my husband telling me the salad had too much lemon, or my sister in law telling me my hair is “dry”! Or a friend saying he doesn’t like one of my tattoos! The directness is part of what I love about French culture, but it’s difficult when directed onto you 😂

So timely. I've been dating a French man for a year. Your experiences have basically mirrored my own. I have learned to minimize my expectations and also that things move at a different pace (s l o w e r...) when dating a French man, or at least mine. Looking forward to part two.

Hi! Just discovered your channel, and this video is spot on! French men... can’t live with them, can’t live without! 😜

I love this video 😊 You two are amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Btw, I just found this channel and I can't wait to see more.

After reading the comments I’m surprised at other people’s reactions 😅 These are definitely things I have experienced and had to deal with as an anglophone dating a Frenchie. Mother in laws can always vary (I ditched the worst one 🤣) however from my personal experience I have noticed this behaviour in most French guys I know! Especially their opinion on clothes!! I just reply that I really don’t care, but that doesn’t stop me getting the remark in the first place, and his close friends do this too! (And then I start getting crazy with my fashion choices to wind them up / embarrass them in public 🤣)

Hey, I just stumbled upon your video. Pretty interesting^^ I'm a french man myself, living in Quebec, and currently dating a girl from there. It's pretty interesting because I can see a bit of what you're talking about. For exemple, about being direct, that's something I always have to be careful, because she'll be doing something, and I'll make a critic about it and she'll take it very badly. Thing is, I still recognize what she did was great, and I say it to her, but it doesn't seem to matter as soon as I make one small comment... which is weird... But hey, at least I realize it's not just me^^

Strict boundaries lead the way for me so I cut all communications with exes and their family members. If we didn't work out, chances are you won't add value after the breakup. I choose to put that energy into my current love circle. I've never invited men to shop with me and usually don't encourage them to participate in female oriented activities. Certainly not style or body criticism because it forces them to focus on what is important to our future. I have a demanding career and simply won't put up with negativity at home. In return, I expect a strong leader and decision maker.

Being direct and honest is a good thing.

I really enjoyed your video. It reminded me of my life when i was living in france.

I don't recognize myself in any things that you talk about. As many people says in comments the most of french guys are not like you describe us. Sorry for my enplish i hope you will understand after all. I respect women I'm romantic and my wife can wear what she want. I respect all difference of culture and i adapt myself. Good continuation girls

Pizza Hut for Valentine's day ?! I'm french and I just think your man is rude !

On point for Direct Feedback. I just told my guy this morning I’ll go out for a run and he told me “I wasn’t asking for your time. Enjoy it.” I was hurt until I saw this. Thanks for sharing guys.

Super vidéo avec beaucoup d’humour 👍👍👍

As a French woman, this video and the comments alike just inspires me with : " Yeah, typical French machismo and assholism in general. ( and female obsession with being thin- kind of low scale anorexy, depriving yourself from food every day because being thin is compulsory, and preaching how natural all that is) I think French men are unfortunately often just not very respectful of what their wives and girlfriends feel , and like to impose their views and expect women to conform to what they think. Latin culture basiccally. I understand that for Anglo-saxon women, it might be shocking. Well actually it is. Not all French men are that way however. I know of a few who are not , and they wouldn't tell you that kind of behaviour is normal. But you have to find them , not that easy. In conclusion, to me it just shows how women are still just second -grade citizens in France, the subservience that's expected in public life , the lack of equality in terms of wages etc, is mirrored in the private life. Or the other way round. You can still find yourself at a party with friends, and the ones cooking and serving the food are still women, while the men remain seated the whole time and get on chatting pretending not to see the plates have to be changed... Still a long way to go...

I think you guys were too much into the cliché. As a French who's live both in mainland France (Paris, Lille...) and in the Caribbean, this ultra romantic cliché is false. I mean there's romance but not more or less than in other cultures. Also, that notion that French girls are always well dressed up LOL. I mean most tourists will tend to go to Paris and would tend to stay in the centre -; and depending on where you go, yes you'd see some nicely dressed girls... and moving away from there, most girls are quite simply dressed in general. Yes most French guys aren't into girls being overdressed and baked up in make up. It gives the impression of someone being full of herself and to be honest it's just quite weird here. I personally think that this comes from Paris vs. the rest of France. Paris has given an image to the country that not many people share (fashion, lifestyle...) and factually, from my experience, a lot of French people are just not conceiving themselves in the cliché Parisian mold that France is known for. In the north of France for example, most girls will wear jeans and normal clothes casually. Some would still put heels obviously and other feminine stuffs but it never really "over the top" like certain girls I've seen in Paris chic areas. Don't forget that France cut the heads of kings and queens in the past (for instance in the French revolution in 1759) and has had quite a hard time reconsidering the opulence of royalty and the heritage that comes with it. It's also true we are extremely direct in our relationships with other people. We don't really like to turn around the pot. You can observe that regularly and many sociological studies have shown that. France is known for Voltaire or Montesquieu and are probably the best at sarcasm/irony. So most of times its not meant in a bad way but complaining about everything and nothing [even if it's meant to please] is a national sport here ^^ Any ways, I've been on many sides in France and my conclusion is that basically, the marketing cliché has worked well with Paris but simply does not reflect the reality of the country in terms of lifestyle by any means. We're just normal people like any others and while it can be flattering to be qualified as the most romantic people in the universe, that's just entirely subjective and depends on the personality of the person you fall with, where you are in France etc.

Thanks ladies for making this video I enjoyed watching🌟

Nice video, i have apreciated it ! ^^ Your point of views are interesting. And you seem very complicit, and respectful towards each other :) it's very enjoyable.

Wow, quite accurate! If I can add something: if a french guy does not give you direct feedback, it might mean he just doesn't care. We start to be direct when it actually matters.

Great video, I love your videos so much and could never get old of them.

Je suis contente avec te trouver!! Je suis une kiwi qui apprends la français, je suis allée en France pendant les vacances d’été et il me manque beaucoup 😭😭 mais tes vidéos sont très cools, merci!!

i just found your channel! and hell yeah! you two are so freaking right! I'm with a french guy and still discovering a lot of things i wish i knew before lol!

I've got to say, as a frenchman, that French women do all mostly just wear jeans and black/gray, quite formless and conservative, and I don't find it very attractive. I personally like to see colours! and skirts! and yes seeing some skin sometimes is quite nice too IMO.

Pizza hut for valentine's day?Ahah so romantic :D

On point yo, ON POINT GIRLS You're painting quite a grim picture (unintentionally, I guess?) but I can't deny I recognize myself in all almost of the points you brought up, specially the no make-up, no celebration and exes ones.

Hahahaha Valentine's Day. OMG, I feel so much better now.

When we meet people from another culture, it’s always hard to know what comes from his own personality, and what comes from his culture. I had this experience with a japanese girl. As a french guy, I think that some points in this video are true, but others are more relative to your experience than the french culture in general. - The fact of not celebrating much is true ! I love that about the american culture. The way you celebrate everything is awesome. - About being direct, it’s a nice way to talk about negativity (in my opinion). I don’t think people in the USA are more hypocrite than french people. I experienced hypocrism everyday in my life here. I think that french culture has a way to more stress out negative stuff than americans. But the truth is probably in the middle (between being direct and being negative) - About seing the exes, it’s absolutely not in the french culture, but probably more in the people you’ve met. From my experiences, we usually don’t keep seing the exes in France (unless you have no choice) - About comment on weight, i wouldn’t say everyone does that here in France, it’s still a minority of people, but indeed it would be more common than in the USA indeed.

I laughed sooo much with this both videos because my boyfriend is french, we have been kinda one year together and all the video i was like... yes yes oh yes that too!. The funny thing is that i told him about it and he was like nooo i dont do that hahaha. He doesn’t eat domino’s but sometimes he gave me one against his principles.

You are both very nice and funny .It is a pleasure to see you laugh ! All my compassion for your frustrating experiences ...

you're just so cute! i stumbled across your videos and watched all of them one after another; they're so nice bc i can't afford to travel but it feels like still i get to learn authentically about france and new zealand in a way i couldn't from just reading about it!

Seriously I work with French men who speak English and the experience these 'girls' are having with the men they are with may be constructed because of socioeconomic class. Not all French men behave they way these women have prescribed them to be.

As a french man (and I first have to apologise in advance for my poor english), I'm a little bit irritated with the way you depict our way of life and being. I certainly don't want to be rude, but I can't agree with some of the things you said. We french people don't celebrate as many things for sure, but we do celebrate a graduation (but you were right with the no gift argument). As for a Valentine's day, I would definitely do something to show my wife that I love her, some kind of a little show of affection, and I would make her dinner in a romantic ambiance, with music, candles etc etc. (in order to wipe any ambiguity, I've been married for 4 years, and we've been in a relationship for 14 years). I do agree on the other side that we french people might be quite direct and frank, but we also know when to be polite (I woudn't have tell you that your pie (was it ?) had something wrong, unless being told to be honest, because you made it in a good end.)

Really enjoyed this! Well done 👍 💕

SUCH a good video! 👍

C'est très intéressant comme témoignage car ce sont effectivement des différences culturelles auxquelles on ne penserait pas. Ces différences amènent à des conflits alors que chacun (français ou néo-zélandais/américains) croit être dans son bon droit. C'est donc une bonne chose d'avoir en tête ces différences de perception pour pouvoir s'adapter à l'autre. Merci pour la vidéo !

i don't understand why people from other countries believe our men to be so romantic and with an obvious caring side and all.

thanks! that helps in understanding my man :)

You are so funny ladies…. Love this video!

indeed, the cultures are different, probably the most striking on the video, indeed we french, we do not celebrate many events. For my diploma of the Baccalaureate, I received my administrative paper and no party, I was happy in my heart, it is enough obviously ... We are too much concentrating our events on "what are you going to do after" rather than the moment present of joy. My husband is American, I could clearly see the difference at the party of one year of the daughter of his friends. The party was huge, everything was shot around the little one, a party with a lot of people and a lot of attention paid to the little girl. In France, this is rather clearly in a small committee, between family almost. And it's not a real big event even itsd celebrate too. Couples birthdays, that too, not really considered important even if it is celebrated, in the restaurant often. Most part of things happens probably in our heart for sure, but not so much ostentatious. For the friendly relations with the exes, strongly agree, it is not rare at all to have to share his life with the ex, we have a very neutral look at past relationships and especially as long as the relationship is healthy , there is no problem in staying in touch with someone who has shared our existence, builds our personality. its very important to be open minded about it usually. For the wedding, the French do not marry very much, I am the only one of my entourage to be almost married, and I am 34 years old. And it was to be able to live with my American husband. Otherwise the French do not marry too much, except to facilitate the life of the home financially perhaps. France is a nation built on a lot of paradox and indeed sometimes a feeling of pessisism peculiar to people, but it is reflected much more massively in the capital where it is gray and it rains often. In, what is called, land, (the countryside) people are much more regarded as happy, everyone says hello, and I think the values ​​are more exacerbated. In a French relationship, couples respect a lot the independence of the other, and we can have the feeling over long years of relationship that nothing is ever acquired,granted, that the relationship is shared on two parallel roads, without merging on one single road. It's my personal feeling, of course .... like everywhere, everybody is different ^^

French people are never happy seriously it's quite frustrating (i'm french)

I'm surprised, maybe i'm not french finally... Nice video !

This is interesting. Until very recently, I was not particularly interested in France or the French until I stated tutoring a young Frenchwoman in English. We are not only building her English language skills, but I am beginning to see cultural aspects of the French like these you describe here that are quite appealing to me. Now it's time to formally study French and learn much more!