So good to hear some advice from another man. There may be a thousand banners of different bro on this planet. But when it comes to figuring out the mystery of what girls are really thinking about, we are all united as brothers.
I don’t speak or write much Chinese but I agreed with you that learning your partner’s language is key to a happy relationship. So, please educate and take your relationship seriously to avoid misunderstandings. This is one of my greatest reason I have my daughters speak, read and hopefully write Chinese.
Good advice. Just proposed to my Taiwanese girlfriend of 5 years (I met her here in the UK). Of course she made it clear she expects a proposal before I met her family on my first visit to Taiwan! I wanted to surprise her so I waited and proposed at Sun Moon lake as was my plan all along. To her, family and friends opinions matter and being married was important to her, where I would not be overly concerned about what others thought of our relationship with regards to being married or not.
I’ve been in a relationship with a taiwanese girl for 3 years , I’ve met her in a different country and she was timid and nice but scared of everything and everyone , but a completely different person when I travelled to Taiwan two months ago , she was more confident and reassured by her parents she was living with and had no worries . I’ve lived with her parents in the same house , it seems her mother is wearing the pants and she built a business , their father is merely an accessory and he’s the one maintaining the house , my girlfriend’s brother depends on their parents and they all seem to stick around . All this was cool until I realised that this is part of Taiwanese culture , because we planned on getting married I obviously went back home where I was born and started with the whole process of translating and legalising documents and getting them ready at different embassies to come back to Taiwan and get married . This all sounds nice but because she depends on her parents and because she will ask for their help and trust them more than me this relationship is hanging on a thread , she lately started preaching about gender equality and a baby even tho she barely works , barely has any financial stability , she’s rushing and says she does not have too much time because she is getting old . I would say mentality and culture is completely different from Europe ! Parents and kids are stuck together and it seems they die together , which is .. a nightmare for me , I can’t believe anyone who would’t dream about an independent life 😅 .
Hi Gray, thanks for your sharing. In our culture, most people will move out after getting married. But it sounds you still have to live with the family afterwards. Is that so? On the other hand, some Taiwanese girls expect men to take more responsibility, especially financially wise, and that’s why she would say she wants a baby even though she barely works cuz she hopes that you can be the main financial support. Anyway, what do you plan to do next? It sounds like you are kind of in a struggle.
@@LinustheTaiwanese It seems things were much more complicated than I imagined , a lot of misunderstandings because of language barrier I still stand by my main point I was making , but I also do a lot of research about the country over time , about the culture and economy , a man can also be mistaken , I am not form around here of course .
@@EugeneBuvard We got married eventually , a man keeps his promise , we push trough together of course , its just hard to deal with the “ we are equal “ mentality that is pushed nowadays , it seems a man is supposed to be traditional and modern in the same time while a woman do whatever she wants when she wants , no “wife skills” needed and so on
@@Grumpycat95 I think most important is to get to know each other, bit by bit and don't hold grudges. Sometimes culture and ideologies are getting in the way but I also discovered that for us a lot of time we just needed to understand each other personality better and adjust. And we were together 5years before getting married (a bit less maybe). :p
Most is applicable to Western women. But as a foreigner, I met my wife in 1997. She couldn’t speak one word of English. Nevertheless, we loved each other and been together since (27 years) Married. I brought up her stepdaughter who from 5 years old. Best thing I ever did. I’d say #4 is the most difficult for me . I only know if my wife is troubled with something if she goes quiet. It’s like getting gold from a clam to find out what’s troubling her. I’m proud to say that in 27 years I still adore her but have refused to fully learn Traditional Chinese( on the basis that if I don’t understand too much, I can’t argue with the Mother in Law.) Our daughter is now 32 and lovely.
Thank you for sharing your experience. And it is good to hear that you have such a wonderful family!! Cross-Culture Relationship isn't easy at all from any aspect.
I'm of Chinese ethnicity in South East Asia (Would not mention which country just for fun) but, also right now, exploring with a taiwanese met online. Many similarities between us so far in texting but, one question/trouble I have now is this girl wants to do a trip together, but, we haven't even met on a proper date. Isn't that weird? Also, what do Taiwanese girls think about texting in general, because there is room for miscommunication in texting as you know.
Hi Lex, I cannot speak for her, but I would also find it a bit weird if a girl wants to travel with me before we really know each other no matter what her nationality it lol As for texting, it depends, but most Taiwanese girls I know like to text their boyfriends a lot. Like I said in my video, I believe the best way to reduce miscommunication is to learn each other’s languages.
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I guess I was the unlucky one because it was hell marrying my Taiwanese wife, I was practically married to her family and they had so many high expectations from me especially financially that I could not reach since I didn't make enough, plus the pandemic made it worse, no emotional support from them at all, and it felt like my wife was been influencing and listening to her family more than me which drained me almost completely to the point that I almost committed suicide, plus she is 4 years older than me, where her time was running out in having children and I needed to provide for her according to her mom, because that's their tradition they said. . Even though they came from a wealthy family who owns many properties in Taiwan. Greatest thing I did was leave..to save myself...moral of the story..don't marry, only live together
@LinustheTaiwanese oh don't get me wrong, there are wonderful Taiwanese girls out there with humble loving sweet families, I know a few, but they are married, I just picked the wrong one, but it's just another experience in life
Thank you for your essential video! I'm passing this all. We're serious and I'm in step 6. Nearly when I have enough money, I'm going to meet my love's parents and organise there wedding party for them! The only thing... Can you please help me with religion acceptance. I'm a Muslim, and it's too hard to accept the habits and behaviours. I'm a very religious and always when I meet this talk, I'm a speechless... Nothing means something! I thank God for giving me such a great soulmate as a life partner!
Hi Javlon, Thank you for your message. I understand that it must be very difficult when it comes to cultural differences, especially when it comes to sth related to religions. According to what I know, most Taiwanese people are quite open-minded. I am not gonna say sth like “love can conquer anything.” Instead, I would say continuous communication is the key. Try not to be speechless, but attempt to explain your religion more to them, and create more mutual understanding. It definitely takes time, and might, inevitably, arouse some of uncomfortable discussion. However, stay positive and keep the communication. One day, nothing will certainly mean nothing😁
@@LinustheTaiwanese Thank you for your attention and advise brother! To be honest, it would be great if you add more information all about these things! Yeah I see, she is the better than my dreams and imaginations all of these passed years. She has the Purest soul, beautifully inside and such kind of trust she is giving me I've never seen before around my relatives and families which I know. About cultural changes worrying me because.. Just I wanted to earn her trust and not to hurt her dreams, cause she is the only girl in her family. Every person in this world living with dreams and goals, has own path and background, the only goal is to make her happy and create good atmosphere for the happy life, serve, defend and hold forever her hands, until the.. and be with her in Paradise! Just the same when we meet such uncommon cultural behaviour by our side she keeping be silent, and I deeply feel that it may affect her. You know what: there's only way to create unhappy family is trying to change your life partner! I think about it all the time.. A lot of hard work awaiting us in the future, she is hard working! Responsibility and duty! Hope we'll success and after working on ourselves we'll touch the taste of happiness! For more information can you please advise for additional information which you think it's essential for the people like us, for example: what about attention for the parents, what about daily family routine, what is the best thing Taiwanese people keeping in their deep place of their souls. What kind of presents it's usually they like to be gifted, what makes them feel happiness, and what makes them unhappy, every time when I think all about that makes me feel confused, she answers me taking with most care, doesn't want to put the me under stress. Idk...
@@Javlonification I will see if I can organize those details and make a video. It seems to be a big topic and I haven't been a parent yet so it's a bit hard for me to feel the same. I understand that you love your girlfriend so much. As for now, I would suggest that you two should just enjoy the moment as much as you can, and discuss what you should do or how to interact with her parents or anything else with your girlfriend whenever it is needed. However, you should probably focus on her and the things between you two more. Sometimes, thinking and worrying about something else too much might not be helpful. I cannot say my reply is the best answer, but I do hope that you and girlfriend can breakthrough all the obstacles and work this out!!
I’ve been learning Chinese and Japanese and Korean, Chinese is some how the easiest for me to learn every one I know says Chinese is the hardest, Korean is the hardest I’ve been learning the writing system is so hard as a native English speaker
I have a question. Im living in japan and i met this taiwanese girl at a party who just started living in japan for a month now we talk in the party and she ask about my star sign which is new to me and after went back to her friends. We also exchanged social media accounts when we parted ways after party And the morning after she invited me to have dinner. I try observing her if she likes me but our conversations are all general topics nothing romantic talks or flirting. But she always try to speak with me and makes me confused if she likes me or not same time while walking around we sometimes bump into each other cutely and she sometimes grab my arms or hold my arm jacket and then when going home inside the train we stand with each other face to face closely and she ask for my height with is 175cm and her is 155cm little big difference in height. But when at home she don’t write me that much just replies to my messages and write back so slow or not even replying so im a little bit confused. I want to ask her right away what does she look for me is it friendship or relationship she looking? Because for me i need to know right away before i start building my feelings up. Please help me understand ☺️🙏
In my opinion, you can try to ask her out more. If she is always willing to hang out with you alone, there are great chances that she is into you. Let me know if there is any update. Wish you all the best, my friend.
@@LinustheTaiwanese thank you and really appreciated your response. Unfortunately she blocked me without giving reasons why. I never said anything wrong or did something wrong she even said im a nice person but maybe she’s looking for something more. Well better luck next time i guess 😅
Wow I didn’t expect that. If someone would block someone without any reason, she or he is definitely not the right one. Don’t take it person. You will see someone else soon. Wish you all the best!!
There is a Taiwanese girl who talks to me hours in when in person ,i remeber once we spoke more than 4 hours Continuously!! But she called me bro recently what does it mean?? Im too confused!
@@LinustheTaiwanese if a Taiwanese girl really Talk to someone uninterrupted for very long!!! Does there any hope that she secretly likes me,or does Taiwanese girls really do talk to friends for so long?? And I'm taking it in a different!! Sorry for judging but I'm unaware of what goes on mind of girls here
@@LinustheTaiwanese she isn't aware of date!! It's just a casual talk I asked her out to talk! I can ask her out but not a date!!I don't know what she feels!! And asking her for a date,I feel she would take as if I'm pushing her
That's a good question. But older women is rather wide field. But I am curious about that question myself a bit. I am a mid/lat 30s guy that is going to be be in Taiwan for 2 month next year for language studios. Dating was not on my to list to be honest but if I get a chance to date I would not say no in case I meet women that are open to date.
