Paul, Speaking from experience, it depends on the individuals personal situation. I was divorced and retired from the military. I was always part of a family and took a job overseas working for U. S. Government. I was living by myself and always going home to an empty house. I started to get depressed and knew I had to do something about it. I decided to look for a Filipina wife to have companionship. I also was thinking of adopting Filipino kids to give them an opportunity for a better life. I met a Filipina who had three kids( 5,4,1) and we got married. It got me out of depression and brought joy to the house. I was helping her and the kids but at the same time they helped me by bringing love and purpose to the house. Later, my wife and I had 2 biological kids of our own and we became a family of 7. We have been married 18 years, 2 oldest boys are now in military, oldest daughter working at U.S. base, and 2 youngest finishing school. I did not want to die alone and my Filipino family has rejuvenated my life. I share this with you because it all depends on what the individual wants to get out of life.
Great story, happy for you. I am in the same situation looking for a ready-made family. My biggest worry is always how the biological father fits into it. Does the mother still have feelings for him ? Do the kids still want to see him ? How about the In Laws, do they want to see their grandchild. Thing I absolutely dread is hearing her child say, "Mom lets go back to the Philippines and be with Dad", and she knows she can get divorced here and take a lot of money with her. Don't think I could handle that.
I would agree it is not to meet the children until a couple is serious about taking it to the next level. I have seen far too many mother's eager to introduce her children to her "boyfriend" early in their relationship and then it doesn't work out. Now she has children that become attached to this man as a father figure and it causes physical and emotional trauma to the kids. In some situations, only after a few dates the filipina is calling her boyfriend "Daddy" and refering to him by the same to her kids. In turn, the kids are now calling him daddy as well...I think this is a huge mistake and shouldn't happen unless they are in a long term relationship and/or married. This is emotionally scaring the children if things don't work out.
In Sydney Australia I have a girlfriend who is 17 years younger than me. I refuse to move in with her, due to the leagal ramifications & I have very little tolerance for whining. She owns a 3 bedroom apartment & I own my house. I don't have any children, however, she has two girls. When I first met her, the girls were one & seven years old. Since the fathers live in other states, they very rarely see the kids. I always tell them I'm not your father, however I treat them very well & they are always excited to see me.
it really depends on the situation because some filipinas are just looking for a man to pay for her mistake and you feel like an ATM machine. You can tell after many months if she really likes you or just likes your wallet. Take your time to get to know her and try to find out a little about the father if you can. If she knows very little of the father then you need to ask yourself if it was just a fling? If so whats to stop her from having another fling after you marry her. Men really need to do their homework as anybody can put their best face forward for few months. Also single mothers have very little time for you as the kid comes first, meanwhile you are expeted to pay all the bills while the real father gets a free ride Just something to think about
Looking forward to more vids Paul, the internet is sorely lacking common sense these days and anyone dishing out common sense fatherly advice is much appreciated.
You are 100% correct. My youngest daughter is 17 and she is not my biological daughter I became a father when she was 6 months old she didn't know until she turned 14 when me and her mother told her. We asked her if she wanted to know her biological father. She told us she already knew who her father was and that she loved me very much. Blood makes you related love makes you a family
I married before to a Persian woman and she had a 8 year old boy. We got married and had a great family experience. We were married 23 years and wouldn’t have changed a thing. I love the instant family, and I don’t need my own child to make my life complete. I’m looking for another relationship currently and I don’t mind at all to date another single mom and take care of her and her children. ❤🙏
HAHA Paul. The ending was hilarious. Filipina's once they are dating you are attached like Mia. They want to be with you all the time, unlike western women that think they are independent and want there space. Glad to have you back.🙏
Maya’s reaction to Paul’s comments about dating is seeing each other one to two times a week was interesting. As Paul says “dating is dating”. Otherwise it is not a dating relationship, ie becomes a commitment way too quickly!
Yes this is true. It pushes things too hard sometimes. I sometimes think it is about trying to lock the relationship in before the guy’s head clears. But anyway, I have met some lovely Filipinas. Have also met some really good people who are a joy to know. So basically, it’s up to the way things work out. Main thing is for the guys is to understand that for Filipinas it is not a casual thing.
This is why you should always watch all the way until the end of the video. They get full credit from the youtube gods, and Paul is left trying to squirm out of talking about a previous relationship 😅.
Hey Paul, welcome back brother, I missed ya, man. Yes, you’re absolutely right, Paul. Expats, you need to man up, step up to the plate, brothers, 😎😉👍🏼. Otherwise, get off the field.
15 million single moms living in the philippines. Majority of filipino men will never marry or even date a “single mom” She is considered a “used” women. Most pinoy men only want a fresh women that has never given birth. If a filipina becomes a single mom, Her dreams of having her own filipino family with a pinoy will basically become zero percent. 95% of filipinas first option is and always will be a pinoy….never a foreign man. Single moms have very limited options in the philippines….become an OFW, find a single dad as a partner, find a foreign man, join the LBGQ dating scene or stay single.
I'm moving to the Philippines for 12 months. As it's an easy place to live for a year without Visa issues. I'm curious what you would recommend in terms of should I go straight to Cebu or Manila, my only requirement is fast internet. I'm looking to meet a more traditional and younger woman. And need high quality gym access. Thanks for your input!
Cebu is good; it has good gyms and fast internet too. In the city, though, it's rare to find a traditional woman since there are a lot of expats there already and it's a city, so it'll be hard. I guess you can go outside the city of Cebu and meet a Filipina there. In Manila, I reckon they have a high-quality gym and, of course, good access to the internet as well, but still, it's a city, so it'll be harder to find a traditional woman.
I know a few handsome Chads that can get the DINK lifestyle in the West with hot women. But, I don't see many Normies finding that, and no older or Sub-5 males. When I was in PH, I found it obsessed with family, procreation, blessings of women for motherhood, etc. It wasn't emancipated. The DINK lifestyle with no marriage seems mostly transactional ($ugar daddy). I could not find the DINK lifestyle in PH. I was nothing more than a walking ATM.
