Dating (when you're autistic) 

LMAOO MAC 😭😭

MAC😭😭

lmao

HEYY MACC

omg mac!

This is quite common sadly. I have a lot of autistic friends and quite a few have excperienced this

It could be a double edged sword however. I am not sure I would have put effort if I was told from the start I was "lagging" behind, maybe even using it as an excuse. That said, the opposite is also true as stated by your comment. As mentioned in the video, everybody is different.

My parents did the same for me. I don't hate them for it, they have apologized and are trying to do better, but it still stings. I can't get those years back and those were the foundations of who I am now.

My dad knew I was autistic and legit would physically abuse me for bad grades knowing why I got them..... told me years later he knew I was autistic when he punished me for not knowing how to get good grades as a autistic child in a Christian school

0:00 AYO WAS THAT THE KLUDGE FROM BIG CITY GREENS?!?!

How about we stop normalizing turning mental illness into an identity. If you fit the "neurodivergent" architype, use your intelligence to learn charisma and communication. People universally will never respect weakness.

@shawngaliley8830 what's your 5 favorite disney shows?

​@@joshwright4799Pooh's heffalump movie.💜🐘🦘

This is to true though

@@Blade-Animations indeed.🌈🏳️‍🌈🫂👍

Off-topic, I love how Illy bleeped out the word, "hell" when saying "modern hell would taste like!" Don't know why though. I find it very funny! LMAO

Being Autisic Myself there were some cringey moments in my childhood.

Fr I try to make everybody happy but most of them end up being fake and making me break down crying like every day lol

​@@PeachyyyBobaaren't you also being fake by trying to be a "people pleasure"??

I am the gosh-darn biggest people pleaser you will ever meet, I always say I’m not, but I am, let’s be honest. Thats not healthy though, I wanna stop but I can’t. It gets really annoying sometimes. That’s not the only thing going for me though, I also have ADHD and OCD, so my mind is basically split in half, I’m always in a cluttered space, and it annoys me, but I can’t do anything about it! Good stuff, eh? Ps. I’m not 100% sure, but a lot of people think I’m autistic, not because I socialize differently, but because I’m really smart? I don’t know they are comparing me to Young Sheldon. Should I look into it, Y’know, like try to figure out if I am?

@@Era_Manaj_Was_Here no need to get that checked, I can very easily tell based of your response ya ain't super smart

I'm there with you! My last ex didn't understand my issues at all. He was a nice, giving person but he was extremely logical. I was often made to feel dumb, insensitive, lazy, etc. I blamed myself for the two years we were together. But one day I suddenly just realised that we don't mesh well. He couldn't get me, and I needed to be understood. Situations like that are really sad sometimes.

i really hope you’re healing and doing better!! you deserve so much more and i’m rooting for you!

@@carlybarker6180 ❤

It was certainly hard at first. But as of right now, I'm doing better than ever before.@@sherbetron

thats how you know he's a keeper

Usually that happens the other way around, at least for the opposite genders but I’m really rooting for these two! They’re super cute!

i believe we shouldn't downplay size... she did say MASSIVE sword

@@Parsnip5782 Oh yeah. She said *MASSIVE* To undersell that would be blasphemous

@@willpower8289 nice word "blasphemous" it fills my soul with entire bushels of jolly joy.

I feel all of that

A FELLOW TRIPLE A BATTERY

I don’t have autism, but my brother does, but he is non-verbal

TRIPLE A BATERY I CAN'T 😭

i’m also a triple a battery along with depression and PTSD

Stay strong out there! ❤

"but on the light end" Just because your autism isn't as noticeable to others doesn't mean it isn't as noticeable and important to YOU! ESPECIALLY with masking!

Gods I’m so sorry she withheld such important information from you 😢. I hope you’re doing alright ❤

i think your mom did the right thing would you really want to know for all of high school that your autistic some people use autism as a excuse for stuff

Same 🫠

​@@radicaldude2000No. She definitely did not do the right thing. Witholding important information like that from a struggling child just makes it worse.

bruh

oh yes, the grieving and pain of finding out you’re autistic would be sooo hard i bet

My mom didn’t tell me I was autistic until I was 14.

I was told when I was 8 or so but my parents found out they where autistic in there 30s or so

I’m not sure if this is just a me experience, but I was also diagnosed when I was 13 and since my whole life, I was treated like the outcast and everyone kind of knew I was some kind of neurodivergent except me it felt like the stars align when I was finally diagnosed and so many things were explained! Of course I still struggle a lot and some days I wish I wasn’t but at the end of the day I’m really proud to be who I am!

There should be a dating app just for neurodivergent people 😭 meeting people is exhausting

DIDN'T ASK, + I MAKE SUPERIOR CONTENT LOL

@@ItzzCrowvaI didn’t ask about your comment.

@@ItzzCrowvayou don’t have to ask for this person to share their opinion ?

⁠@@merlin88888YES. Dating/friendship finding app for neurodivergent people, where there’s a little category for special interest pictures and another for sensory overloads. So you know EXACTLY what the issues are and the special interests so you can ask about them and make that person you met VERY happy. 😂

DIDN'T ASK, + I MAKE SUPERIOR CONTENT LOL

@@ItzzCrowva SHUT UP! >:( /j (You're funny but also unfunny at the same time)

Tbh, you might benefit from watching the TikTok gave me autism video. (Can't link it or YT nukes me lmao)

I have the exact concoction, on top of not really knowing until I was older. This video was made for me I swear

i have a question

how does it feel to be autistic

@@radicaldude2000something tells me its not in good faith jfc dude☠️

@@wafflecandy4236 no im just interested its just because i have a autistic kid in my class and i wanna just know how he is feeling

true true id say for me its more like cold and quiet, which for sure prolly would come off as extra rude when someone like a teacher is tryna help out and im just purely siltent and unresponsive, doodling

DIDN'T ASK, + I MAKE SUPERIOR CONTENT LOL

@@ItzzCrowva you are so creative

I related so hard to that part of the video! My fiance calls it "feral goblin mode" for me when I get in that headspace lmao

I'm better@@kaitlin9288

DIDN'T ASK, + I MAKE SUPERIOR CONTENT LOL

​@@ItzzCrowvaNobody asked about ur content

@@ItzzCrowva imagine not having a father figure

@@ItzzCrowva I'm seeing these comments everywhere.

​@@Nacreous99being honest, people need to stop using the wird "fatherless" as an insult, it's a serious thing people go through and it's not funny as someone who has a friend with no father it isn't easy with just one parental figure, I'm not fatherless myself although it must be hard for people with just one parental figure, stop using it as an insult

Same here! Also got diagnosed at 19

Yeaah my mom has struggled w mental health and bc of that and getting diagnosed and ostracized from people she was afraid to have me get judged… but bc I didn’t know I was just ostracized more by peers 💀🚶‍♂️

I haven't been diagnosed as my parents did not want me to "use it as a crutch" and be ostracized as "the kid with autism." Unfortunately it makes things harder as they don't see my hearing sensitivity as real and I get bullied and s-harassed on a daily basis in school. It's not a very easy existence being me.

@@FryingPanOfDeathI’m sorry your going through that❤❤

Was diagnosed at 22 😢cried when I found out like great another label 🏷️ but helped and answered a lot of questions

I agree I too have W rizz(I'm autistic)

Yeah. I understand that. Although even after I found out about being autistic. I really, really did not want to use it as a crutch. No one told me to not use it as a crutch. I just didn’t want to make it a problem for anyone. And I’ll admit it was easy for me, because I’m on the very mild end of the spectrum. And not being told until I was 13-14 benefited me in a way. But I do agree we deserve to know, and have an explanation. We all have different needs after all.

Facts, but at the same time it is not fun at all because people will react like you have the plague or another virus and you'll get bullied by kids, adults (they will tell their kids to stay away from me) and even my teachers. Like: come on people! I am not poisonous, you can't "catch" autsim

and just like the broken leg, there is 2 ways to deal with life, sit back, do nothing and expect everyone to understand your situation, or try your best to go out and learn how to live day to day life with your broken leg.

I'm also an autistic teen/young adult (don't want to reveal my exact age) and I get the same crap. What makes it even more infuriating is that a great deal of the people who say this will also treat you completely different due to your autism. They can define you entirely based of your autism, but you can't let autism define you at all.

I am not autistic however i have psychotic depression and honestly i feel so alone. I struggle more than a lot og autistic kids in my school simply to complete non function due to depression. And for months i was also hallucinating as well. However there is rarely a community or presence of this kind of stuff online (psychosis). Depression is just something else. Everyone talks about mental health but people who severely struggle with it dont actually get the help they need or get it too late. Its so strange. I dont know. I guess what im trying to say is that with autism, people can build a positive identity with a supportive community, but the same cannot be said for depression. There is no upside to depression and nothing to be proud of like a lot of autistic people feel.

i read "COMMUNISIM" in full caps well scrolling through comments and thought "why is there a communist comment on a lilymation video??"

@@coledoesyt7788 dyslexia moment (real)

@@kixen13 yes, because when i read this i read "dementia moment" im not dyslexic, just stupid lol

@@coledoesyt7788 HELP THATS SO REAL

Another huge lesson is that a good kermit impression is a great benefit

That sounds so nice :)

Maybe you’ll attract another autistic person so don’t worry about it

Same here! I wish you the best of luck

Best of luck

Same

I know your pain my friend my anxiety gets the best of me all the time

This would’ve did numbers 8 years ago

This, I feel this so much. It took a diagnosis for my parents to admit they always thought I was somewhere on the spectrum. That should've been communicated and even if they weren't sure, there were ways to go and get tested that wouldn't have been financially devastating at the time. It infuriates me to no end that people can just casually say they had a feeling, like a whole family collectively know something and not do anything about it.

My parents said the same thing lol expect it was for ADHD. My Grandma said she didn’t wanna me to be "Highly Medicated" aswell.

Bro I told my parents I thought I was autistic once and my mom said smth like “yeah I thought you had it” I thought I’d hopefully get tested but didn’t. My dad also said I was fine as if autism is a disease

I had the same issue with my brother. I'm 35 and told him I'm very likely autistic and he said "Well duh". Would've been nice to have 1 person speak up, at least earlier.

Oh ... see, one of my best friensds (I know them from 3years) has a lot of autistic-adjacent traits ? They hold their morals to very high standards, have sensory issues, socialize differently I guess, and also a passion for ATLA. I dunno, the thing is I think they're kind of aware of it, and I always got the vibe they were uncomfortable about digging more into it, and I respect that ? It feels like if I talked more explicitly about it to them, I would disrespect their wish. But now that I've read your comments, maybe I'm actually cowering out of helping them. I dunno xD Also as a side note, I'm usually very clueless about this stuff, it was actually only after an ex-common friend made a remark about how they are obviously autistic bc of how weird they are (??????) that I kind of connected the dots. I confronted them afterwards ofc and turns they were ignorant and not actually *this* offensive, but still glad I cut ties lol Anyways yeah if someone read this comment and has any advice It'd be awesome :)) have a nice day stranger 🤍

DIDN'T ASK, + I MAKE SUPERIOR CONTENT LOL

@@ItzzCrowvayour content is terrible buddy.

@@ItzzCrowva I do not recall anyone inquiring thy whatsoever

and tbh kermits reaction is still warranted even if he didn't have autism. like "the worst she can say is no right" she hit him with the WHY! and left

Also I hope ur doing good illy all the way from nc :,))

saying “with autism” isnt right n technically its kinda ableist… u r autistic u dont have autism

⁠@@yokunethere isn’t a right term. There’s been tests of person-first vs identity-first language and sure the majority of autistic people prefer identity-first, but it’s not like that makes the people who prefer the other suddenly ableist… almost everyone says they have, not are adhd too and it’s not like that’s really made it more harmful.

@@yokuneit’s their neurodiversity. Why should we get to decide what they call it?

​@@yokune ​I'm someone who says both "I have"/"with" and "I am". To me there's no much difference, like having a life and being alive. It's usually ableist when the person suffers because of labels of the ways of saying it.

i like to say i have the 'tism XD

Congratulations! Hope you have a beautiful life with them! ❤

@@spice4life. 🥰🥰🥰 thank you!

U will find love buddy, just keep swimming

You can! I did, and he loves my stimming! You can do it!

as a fellow tism, i don't wanna find love. I wanna HUSTLEEEEEE

What does that MEAN!? You SOUND just like any other guy!

Same here

I think an even more advanced and not self hating(as in internalized mysoginy)take of it is saving wether the way you are or what you like are popular or socially acceptable or encouraged at the time doesn't make you or your interests any better or worse than other people and their likes. Like... I mean is there even a way to be a girl or even many ways of being a girl? There are people and all people are different on their each way, girls are just a fraction of people so like they are still people, every girl is different just like every boy is different person and behave and have different tastes! There's no personality entity like all girls are Y and like Y and all boys like Z and are Z , each person I'd different regardless if they happen to be a boy or a girl :)

​@@lmcb8447 why are you bring in mysoginy every one wants fit in jeez

Eh, I disagree. The phrase "I'm not like other girls," in my case, came from a place of shame and self-loathing---it was basically what Illy said in the video; a way to validate an insecurity rather than confront it. But saying "I'm just like other girls" isn't right either; I can tell just by looking at the girls around me that I present differently from most of them. And I can tell by engaging in conversation with these girls that we have (mostly) different interests and outlooks on life. But there's nothing wrong with that. You don't have to say that you're the same as someone else in order to respect them. You just have to know how to respect yourself. And you don't have to be "just like the other girls" in order to do that. /nm

The I'm like other girls mindset is what i used to have as a mentality now i realize how lame no reason for all of us women to put each other down for not being the same

@@lmcb8447 based

@dreamis_studios what's your 3 favorite disney shows?

Same!

@joshwright4799 why are you asking?

that video led me on the path to realization too 😊

For questions

Same❤

yes

Haven’t Been through it ?

@kadeorade5296 what's your 4 favorite disney shows?

Same :)

My mom and sister know my brother has autism because it is so obvious even though he isnt diagnosed, it makes me really mad but they don't want to tell him because idk they think its something bad

​@@CrazyKidPapaya youre his sibling just like your sister...... You can tell him easily. Dont put it all on her.

Me egg donor and sperm donor were awful people for different reasons but he never entertained the idea of me being autistic, in fact he always bashed people for being "autistic" whenever they couldn't understand him (a college professor). She always denied my autism but always whine about my obviously autistic behaviors like forgetting to greet or not following some hierarchies/hierarchical roles. I had to find out I was autistic on my own and then helped my wife (while we were still dating) to accept her own autism. I just knew she was autistic the moment I heard her talk so she was very surprised when I asked if she was on the spectrum.

I have told him and my mom has even told me not to before@@spacebar9733​

you arent alone and you will not be left behind! you have a whole community out here rooting for you!

@@illymation

@@cottagecorefrog-ru9jb*insert cat here*

i have not been diagnosed, but i relate to both this comment and the video a lot

Seriously it really is. The timing, the insights, so so good

Literally I honestly started tearing up. I want what they have 😭♥️

Aro moment

What's cringy about romance? If it's healthy, it's beautiful.

​@@Kyriakos703 sometimes romance can just be.. too sweet to the point where it's too much sweetness to take in. I think that's what they meant

TRUE

these are more common than people think, most undiagnosed people think that's just how people always live

10:15 dats a big word for Elmo XD

A literal conversation I had “Hi there” “Hi ….. wanna f*ck in a fox costume?” “…. no thank you” Look, whatever you’re into, that’s fine you do you. But maybe wait till the 2nd conversation before dropping that nugget?

@@Talongirl333 Yeah ppl are weird like that, and when it is behind a screen people are even weirder. For me it was always hard to find someone who would match and when we matched alot of the time I could tell I was the third or fourth match the person was chatting with. Like: Me: "Hey, how was your day?" The next day: Her: "Hi, it was ok" .... Like it took you a day to answer that?

So true !!!

Yeah weed is a real problem on the apps! Even in my country where it's not legal anywhere!

Actual 1st message I got Him: "Hi, I'll be over your's in 15mins and have you on all fours." Me: how about you buy me dinner first, or at least a drink? He blocked me 😂 Dating in general is so hard, adding having a only pamphlet for my social skills just made it a shit show. Honestly Hinge is so great and I met my finacé on there.

Me too! I really thought I was alone...

this sounds very cruel. is it?

it happned more often than we think. happened to me too. they told me in middle school

@@justonechessguy yea it is i spent my childhood trying to tell people i felt different only to be shut down and called "narcissistic" it was very traumatic

same. diagnosed at age 8, and then i thought about it and like logic'd my way into thinking i had it, asked my mom if i did and she confirmed i did (i was 14 when i realized)

I saw that and was like "holy shit. that's me." And I will now be talking to my therapist about it first thing in our next session :D

EXACTLY!!! for me my rsd is horrible. literally one sentence can wreck an entire half hour (edit: fixed the spelling mistake)

Omg same! And they put the ADHD character there because they forgor is basically me. I have ADHD and it's hard because it's my fault for for forgetting but also not? And then the rejection sensitivity just sucks

SAME

@@SkiNekoKitty fr!!

Also thank you so much for liking my comment!!

Same! My mom is looking into getting me a therapist to help control my anger issues and anxiety, and forget about the problems that I’m facing in life, too!

Its a really great tool to use. My therapist asked me to have to bowls at my table and replace the spoons with something else, i choose cute rubbers in many shapes haha! Then she asked me to put them from one bowl into the other during the day so i could visualize how much energy i used on different tasks, it helped a lot to have it in front of me too 😊

I was dx'd with autism at 6, but at 18 I was (mis)diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I'd noticed how I get really excited about something, to the point where I get anxious (or even depressed) if I don't do whatever that thing is. When I do the thing, I feel euphoric. Anyway, so for about 8 years, I went through the standard depression/anxiety treatment regimen. I tried every antidepressant, anxiolytic, therapy, etc. they threw at me. In the middle of all this, I was diagnosed with ADHD, but my providers decided not to add ADHD treatment to my treatment plan. I then read a news article about a man with ADHD, who was suicidally depressed and - like me - couldn't find any relief from the depression treatments they gave him. In this man's case, one doctor suspected ADHD and started him on a stimulant. That stimulant lifted his mood tremendously. So I began to suspect that I wasn't depressed - it was my neurodivergence this whole time. I've since had that suspicion confirmed by the opinion of a wonderful psychiatric NP who's heard it all so much.

I was pretty much the same way, except I was diagnosed (in about 15 minutes) as schizoid personality disorder in 1980. The more I learned about it the more I thought, "That's not me." The therapist said I don't fit the criteria for SPD, but a proper autism diagnosis is to long and expensive for older adults, but I do fit the description, so let's just call it good. Fine.

@@moonman239 Yes its interesting because ADHD actually has a lot more to it then you would think. It can actually drain you like someone with autism gets drained, but for a completely different reason. I myself have no issues socialising (in that I am not socially awkward etc) but I sometimes stumble because emotionally its a lot rather than it just being an actual struggle no matter what in the case of autism. It turns out emotional dysregulation caused by ADHD can actually drain you a lot, give you problems socialising and even make progressing a career difficult. Despite not having any inherent social challenges, you just have no net to filter emotions and it just becomes so overwhelming even if nothing is actually happening and sometimes normal conversations can get you down or make you anxious. I can confirm ADHD meds fix it completely, in fact I am able to hold relationships down and take on endless job responsibilities whilst on them. It literally feels like god powers.

I agree with you! As an autistic person, I hate when people call it anything else but a disability because it literally disables me. (Or like when people say to use people-first language, person with autism, instead of autistic person) it annoys me so much, because my autism made me who I am, I would be totally different if I didn’t have autism. In a way, it also makes me better in certain areas, and because of that probably better at my future career. (I’m in college study sociology on the mental health counseling track)

I completely agree. It really makes navigating life more difficult. Sometimes I ask myself "why am I this way, everything is so difficult"

Idk, I kinda disagree. Ig it depends on who you are, but being called disabled can make me feel like there's something wrong with me or that I'm broken in some way. It is disabling admittedly but I guess be told that can drudge the emotions above. Maybe it's just me but that's how I feel.

@@christhefro2844 that is completely understandable!! While I feel different I see why you feel like this, can you please explain why?

@@catskura99 I don't think that's what they meant but sure

Clarification if anyone needs it. What I meant is that I do the masking thing in my everyday life at school without even noticing it and hearing her talk about it made me realize that I do it subconsciously

@@The_fastfreddy Same, I thought I was the only one who did this! Like, I don't consciously mask (I have tried and failed miserably), but at times it seems like my neurotypical peers don't even notice. So, maybe I unconsciously picked up some habits from them as a kid?

That’s crazzzzyy afff

hi same

@@Hazza645 yayyyy I’m glad ppl can relate 🫂

it is hard and with the combenation of other disabilitys it is hard i di coment if u wana read it u dont got to just wanted to say@@Sleepydollyyy

Why do you feel like you need to tell her this. Only fueling the argument that his community is harassing hee

DAMM THATS CRAZY

Damn, i better quickly learn how to do a good cookie monster impression. Apparently its the optimal mating call for autistic people.

@ClownlyChuckles the right one is out there somewhere. I found mine during my time being homeless. Engaged 5 months today in fact. She's Trans and (possibly) Autistic too - she's looking to be tested. I hope you find your true match soon. You are just as deserving as everyone else

are those things directly correlated

@@oscard1925 there are studies suggesting that if one is Autistic/Neurodivergent, they are more likely to Trans, but not guaranteed. However, I don't think it has been proven as 100% fact yet and more research needs to be done.

@@ThatAlternativeTransGirl Aw, congratulations!

@@BCCSC966 and you as well (if you have any that need addressing) 😊

I'm so sorry. I hate that phrase so much. Imagine saying that to someone with a visible disability "Don't use your paralysis as a clutch and climb those stairs"😡

This mentality has pushed me so far in life. I've done things most normal people never get a chance to do. Recognize your weakness, but never let it completely limit you. That's what not using it as a crutch means to me. Using it as an excuse why you can't do something you want to do.

My parents told me not to use my autism as an excuse, too, but who decides what is and isn't an excuse when no one knows what's going on in my head, not even me? I did well in school, so people began to expect great things from me when I grew up. So I was told I was just being lazy when I'd refuse to do homework because it stressed me out so much. I still don't know how right or wrong they were. And I still can't tell when I'm asking for something I need or just being selfish.

To me, it's all based on results. You, or any other autistic people may not agree, but I want to integrate with society, not change it. Everyone's focused on making the world better. I'm much more focused on accepting the way it is and changing the easier thing to change, that being my own actions before the actions of others. I can't say that's anyone else's definition of success, but I think that the world's changes are difficult to predict, and even more difficult to direct. I live for me. The direct anthesis of this is wasting my life trying to change the world that may not even take. So I focus not on my current limits, but on what I can do to improve myself. Doesn't matter what others think really, beyond do they accept me. That may never came, but so too may the world change to be more fair. I'd put money on myself becoming indistinguishable from normal before the world changing. Whether or not people think I'm lazy or anything is rather pointless on it's own. I've made great strides throwing myself into some of the most difficult situations. Situations where misstep means the loss of my own life, or the lives of others, multiple even. Firefighting, EMS. Ironically, these are easier than college sports, or fraternity socials and parties. I've had successes, I've had failures. But, ultimately, I am alive. I'm not sitting alone in a corner slowly dying alone. I'm not nailing myself to the wall as a martyr crying about my plight and the plight of others like me. Sure, I suppose it doesn't help others, but I'm not a help everyone kind of guy. I'm more a help individuals, one on one. And, first and foremost, I am happy. I think that's what people forget. In firefighting, there's a priority of priorities. The individual firefighter comes first, followed by fellow first responders, followed by the victims and everyone else. You must secure your own means before securing your brothers, and then everyone else. Because you can't save anyone if you are dead. And thus, my happiness comes first. Afterwards, I help those around me, and beyond that, strangers as I am able.@@sparroweyes498​

​@TurtleSauceGaming I get that, but I feel its different choosing that mindset for yourself and feeling its beneficial to you rather than someone who doesn't have your condition/disability/etc. telling you that any other mindset is wrong, you know? I feel like thats what hits differently

"logical reasoning" maybe you just have an ego and that's what's stopping you from making friends. Not autism.

You have a cool head 👍

I found out I had Autism in 2020 and the more I think about it, It Just very DISAPOINTING of me cause my dad said it himself, that I'm just so sensitive because I feel like he's can be easily upset at me because, of his tone of voice sometimes. he's not mad but, I think that. and the fact that I don't do well around loud noises seems pathetic of me if you really think about it.

i also have clinical ocd and get so exhausted from compulsions and anxieties so everyday shit is double exhausting lol

Holy crap I got POTS and ADHD too ive never met anyone else who has them both

I had such a "holy crap" moment when spoon theory was mentioned. Years ago I read a random comment somewhere that mentioned it, but I could never remember what it actually was about and have had a difficult time trying to explain how my chronic illnesses can affect my energy levels. Can't believe I found it again in a youtube video that was randomly recommended to me

Stop are we literally the same person? 😭

I have also pots and eds plus having crippling depression because of it, it causes me to be so out of society but when one day i went to a meet thing for people with chronic illness i met my gf who also has pots so i understand so much one day youl hopefully meet someone like u that understands u!

Planes are cool 😎

Especially big ones

Like the q400 and b787 are my favorite planes

I was diagnosed at 6. Mom never specifically told me until 13, but she didn't exactly try to hide it either. She enrolled me in various interventions so that we could mitigate the effects of autism. She homeschooled me from grade 2 to basically grade 12, in part because I was the subject of bullying in 1st grade. She was actually surprised when, at age 13, I told her "but I don't have autism" - for context, we were discussing how I might write a Website about my journey with autism. Looking back, I guess she figured I'd pick up on that fact from how I'd behave differently from my peers or attend therapies and stuff that they probably weren't doing or something.

My boyfriend suspects he is Autistic and I can confirm he checks off a lot of boxes. I also think he has ADHD (I was diagnosed borderline in my youth ) and it’s SO much fun distracting him with questions like “I wonder if there are animals that don’t poop” It’s guaranteed he will hyperfocus on google searching that and NOTHING will stop him. Asking him questions and watching him spiral into a google search binge is a good way to have me wheezing 😂

Lmao same

Those fat seals

Yeah, I'm under the impression that people who say that might mean well, it's just... you know, not true. We're not all a little bit Italian, or diabetic, or Muslim, or Opera fans, or what-have-you-there are meaningful differences between people and how they experience the world, and the world's a richer place for it; we certainly shouldn't have to minimize those differences just to treat others decently. Take care, Internet stranger!

@@isaac_buckley I haven’t heard it be put that well before 👍

"Okay well I have an amount that legitimately makes my life really hard. Please stop dismissing that"

I usually don't like it when people say "I'm so OCD" or "My mood swings are kind of bi-polar" or "I'm kind of autistic about that" when they don't have those disorders. It's very diminishing to people who actually have those problems. When it comes to autism, I think the dialogue about autism has contributed to the problem. I think there's been a lot of effort put into "normalizing" autism, so people are less weirded out when they find out you're autistic. However, I think that also contributes to people being casual and cavalier about the use of the word "autistic". I also the research history surrounding autism also kind of messes things up. Autism used to be defined as a rare psychotic disorder where an individual is disconnected from reality. Then, autism was considered to be a developmental disorder and while there are forms of autism that are developmental disorders, currently the autism spectrum has expanded to include high functioning autistic people and people with Asperger's. I think the gradual expansion of autism has contributed again to the casual use of a diagnostic term. Honestly, I think there could be some better definitions of what autism is. At the moment, you have high functioning people who more-or-less can live normal lives with some relatively minor accommodations under the same umbrella as people who can't speak or take care of themselves and can become violent when something upsets them.

Honestly same 😢 I’m 13 and I’m undiagnosed but quite obviously autistic 😅