Daughters, Dads, & Their Complex Relationships | Over 50 & Flourishing

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Father’s Day can certainly generate strong feelings about the relationship we either have or had with Dad. A father is a daughter’s first and most influential love. That relationship plays a critical role in a woman’s choice of romantic partners and how she sees herself. Relationship coach Laurie Gerber joins me in this open, heartfelt, and transparent conversation about how our connection to dad impacts our relationships with men and dating. We also share our journeys toward improved daddy-daughter bonding, and it’s never too late to start!
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@EvieAswiti 11 дней назад

I’m not over 50, but I thoroughly enjoyed this podcast. My father passed away when I was a baby, so I don’t have any memory of him. Not sure of the letter I would write, but I believe this conversation blessed a lot of women, me included. 😊

@turragorman59 12 дней назад

My father died at 56 year due to complications of long term alcohol abuse. Sadly, he died alone because he put fear into everyone in the family and tried to control everyone's life. It has been 28 years ago he passed and I forgive because of my salvation in Jesus. I feel nothing regarding him, just sadness that so many others have also experienced life with an addict. Truly in the end, addiction kills the addict and leaves its mark on those who loved them. I hate to say it but my dad's passing brought peace to my family. We survived and thrive in a much more positive universe because we did let it go. Thanks for bringing great content and help to others in difficult relationships.

@indiahmayfaire9878 9 дней назад

I hear you. Same situation though after he passed I finally learned why I had been on the receiving end of terrible abuse while my younger sister was coddled, cuddled, and extremely financially rewarded both before and after he died. My mother confessed to me that I was not his biological daughter. She had married him in a hurry after finding out the results of what she termed an "unfortunate indiscretion" but took to her grave the identity and anything she should have shared about who that was. It would have been wonderful to know anything, even any little thing, about him. The memories remain but I long ago put aside the emotions attached to those memories so I guess that's kind of a form of forgiveness, at least, worked for me.

@carlaummels618 11 дней назад

I am 64 jr. now. My dad was old fashion as most people then. My whole live I feld save and very very loved. He was so proud of me (and my sister.) when I think of my dad I only can smile and be grateful .

@welcomwelcom9882 12 дней назад

I was blessed in having the most incredible Dad He was my claim to fame! Everyone who knew him loved him Brilliant sense of humour highly intelligent sensitive loving and a devoted father husband My parents really did have a perfect marriage until my Mom passed

@chrissutherland236 9 дней назад

In a one hour podcast Laurie has imparted more information and understanding of this issue than many professionals are able to do in ten years if ever. She is absolutely incredible.

@user-im3tk9ri7e 9 дней назад

I was a very contemplative child, always curious about about how the human mind works. I enjoyed interactions with adults, parents or otherwise, and developed an understanding of why we do what we do. Not necessarily an accepttance, but an understanding. I was also the oldest of four children, which I think put me at an advantage for seeing the bigger picture. I knew that both of my parents loved and respected me, but in different ways. They were very different from each other. My mom was was a stay at home mom more insecure, more creative, interested in the arts and in exploring human nature. My dad was very involved, but more pragmatic, a protector and provider, and I will admit that I didn't relate to him quite as well as with my mom until I was in the business world and understood the challeges there. So bottomline my parents were not perfect and I didn't expect them to be, since no one else was either, including me. I realized that my reaction to my parents said as much about me, as about them, and that their comments/suggestions/advice came from love, not criticism. Their parenting helped me to be self confident and hopefully able to be a better parent myself. I just hope my children have the ability to recognize that my shortcomings are never meant to hurt them and they feel the the same understanding, peace and love I feel regarding my parents. And the last thing... I wish it was true, but I disagree that we have evolved into more emotionally healthy people. I think the mental health and addiction issues that are so prevelent today indicate otherwise. Many of the basic guidelines have been removed and we seem to have lost our way. My hope is that we'll find it. Not that It's... All about you... Or it's all about me... But it's all about us.

@wilnabrown5377 8 дней назад

Dominique, thank you for this podcast. My father is still alive, in early Alheizmers. I am blessed to have him. I was the only daughter of three, at 54 I'm still daddy's little girl. I know that a lot of women do not have that. I am so grateful and it has definitely shaped what I look for in a man. This culture focuses on mothers but fathers are so important as well. Again thank you for this podcast.

@Silverlining224 5 дней назад

I waited 24 hrs before responding to this because I needed time to think. First, I am so happy for those of you had great dads! Congrats. I was not so lucky. When I was 14 yrs old my father beat me with a belt so bad that it left welts and severe blisters all over my back. I could not sleep because it hurt so bad. I left my home that night because as I told my mom, " I cannot live like this". I came back the next morning to face him again. He said to me at about 10:00am that morning that if I ever made my mom cry like that again, "He would kill me". Trust me he meant it. I was afraid the rest of my life of him. So when you tell how great a dad you had ---- I get mad because I did not have that ever. So please don't tell how great your life was when someone else is in fear of their life.

@cherietoll3661 9 дней назад

Dominique, I was at the Dallas presentation last night….your 80 year old new friend. I would love for you to send me the four categories you talked about. They were so meaningful and I would appreciate reviewing them. Thank you for a wonderful evening, meaningful and insightful. You were great. You snd Courtney are beautiful women. Cherie

@leereyneke5374 10 дней назад

I'm SO very blessed with a wonderful husband who is the greatest dad to my 3 sons from my previous marriage ❤

@peacequeen2579 6 дней назад

I've had terrible relationships with men and devastating endings that felt like someone was murdering me. It took me until my 50s to realize my absent father who never bothered to care about me created a woman completely unable to have a healthy relationship. Now im 61 and just accept it was never meant to happen.

@CJ-tf5yd 11 дней назад

I used to drive my dad crazy asking so many questions, but now that he’s gone, I’m full of information about my heritage. My brother and his kids ask me a lot of questions about our family, and I’m happy I can answer their questions. My father was a strange guy. He could be quite abusive emotionally, and was full of rage, but he could also be the kindest most loving dad. It was a roller coaster, but I miss him every day. Thank you for this podcast!❤

@kristinetank3959 11 дней назад

I am lucky to have the best most loving father...xo he is my hero!

@jenA9026 9 дней назад

Same:)

@ceanieparks8110 6 дней назад

"Everyone is self centered as they should be"! I've replayed this many times. I'm not sure this is so smart. Maybe we need to live in a "WE" world instead of a "ME" world and part of this is understanding, kindness. and it might be to OUR reactions to the past. Another quote I replayed is getting is "as much as we need"...this world isn't all about you! And although I know and understand this first hand, feelings are just that feelings. That "I perspective" can be very dangerous! I live in a "WE" world and maybe others should too!

@user-co7iy9hz5i 12 дней назад

What a wonderful, honest and raw podcast. Laurie gave me insight and ideas of how to process my pain even though my Dad is deceased. Thank you Dominique and Courtney! Happy Heavenly Father’s Day:)

@RosemaryOltarzewski 10 дней назад

Great advice, i was adopted so never knew my Dad. So i never experienced what to have a Dad was like. But I'm a good person so i hope he was. 😊 love to all from Rosie 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

@robinpankratz4415 12 дней назад

My parents were together sometimes with conflict. I am older my parents were from the start of of the 20th century. I felt like your host said, protection, self affirmation, regard for something better than me such as religion, acceptance not prettiness so much although I am attractive I feel. The main feeling is support. If I had to talk to somebody, it was my mother. I was blessed.

@RKHellmarque 9 дней назад

My father was very intelligent fellow, but also hands off and non-judgemental. I should say that I'm from the day when we didn't focus on relationships.

@leereyneke5374 9 дней назад

My daddy was the kindest, most loving & generous man I ever met ❤ Dad was my emotional support, my protector, encourager & a wonderful husband to my mother. Unfortunately my mother was always the opposite 😟

@Silverlining224 5 дней назад

Thank you Dominique for bringing this but unfortunately, I have had terrible nightmares about it. I did write a letter and thought that i forgave him UNTIL I grew up and realized that what he did was unforgivable. I don't have to forgive anything. I realize his terrible childhood but it is still unforgivable how someone could do something like this to their child. I have no more words.

@gloriayouchisonbrown7734 12 дней назад

I remember my father’s story About how many miles he walked to school in the snow. Great video on fathers that answers questions about how they think❤

@beckylusch4191 10 дней назад

My father was wonderful. One of the best of the best of men. Unfortunately, I did not marry a man like him. Of course none of us are perfect, my Dad was pretty close to perfection.

@caminante0409 10 дней назад

What a great Podcast ! Thank you Dominique and Laurie ! It was a great gift to us! 💖🥰

@rosemaryhernandez7949 12 дней назад

This was very healing. Very good recommendations. It’s sad that lots of us could not confront the parent who hurt us. Bring her back. I would love to continue the conversation. 😘🌹

@katliven 12 дней назад

Great episode and ties into how parents can be so critical and we often don’t understand their motives or their trauma. Would love to see a version on daughters and their moms and also how mental health affects relationships both ways.

@MichelleRussell-pl3ur 12 дней назад

What a beautiful woman. Thank you for knowledge, ❤

@LR-dm8wp 12 дней назад

🤓 GREAT CONVERSATION ! A REAL EYE OPENER. MORE POWER TO THE DAUGHTERS WHO CHOOSE TO SEEK AND RECEIVE HELP THEN HEAL AND LET GO AND LET GOD…🍃

@kayburris8464 11 дней назад

Gave us lots to think about. Thank you ladies!

@lindaelaine1850 11 дней назад

I found this podcast insightful and helpful. Please do one on mother/daughter relationships.

@annecox1161 9 дней назад

Enjoyed the podcast Dominique

@anneliekerremans71 12 дней назад

Thank you both 🌸and see you in the next one !! luckily I had magnificent parents 💕lot of blessings and healing to everyone 🫶🏻🌎

@PM-gx2bp 12 дней назад

Work on yourself. Can’t change anybody but yourself. My parents were not perfect but they tried their best. They had their issues with their parents and I’m sure they tried their best also. We are so needy nowadays wanting everyone to understand us and bolster our feelings. I’m just so tired of that. Sorry for the rant.

@nunuhaam 11 дней назад

I agree with the sentiment. Genuinely asking, is understanding not required for genuine relationships?

@cc_bloom 4 дня назад

@@nunuhaam I'm struggling to understand your question or point. Could you elaborate please?

@nunuhaam 3 дня назад

I believe and agree that people thesedays feel entitled (that's the problem) to emotional catering / understanding. In order to have a **genuine** relationship, though, understanding is required. Do you agree or disagree with this statement?

@kimlevy1726 10 дней назад

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@FA-uq8lm 12 дней назад

Love all the topics and valuable info. Could you do a podcast on writing 'your story' (our story)? How and where to start chroniclizing memories (something to leave our children).

@BugsyB1979 11 дней назад

I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but Jordan Peterson has a program called Self Authoring that you may like to take a look at. 😊

@annenishioka5138 12 дней назад

How do you heal with the emotional abuse he did with my mom or us kids after your dad has passed away?

@pisicacutecat4869 12 дней назад

Forgive, forgive and then forgive some more. My dad passed away over 30 years ago and I still have to forgive when I remember how emotionally abusive he was towards my mom. Only by the grace of God have I been able to forgive him.🙏

@janetgile6499 12 дней назад

Very needed conversion. Just a thought and a question about adult sons who have abandonedment issues from their dad .

@lisaa8437 11 дней назад

My dad was the kindest and most loving person!! I know that he loved me, he died in 2018 and I miss him every day. My mother is a rotten narcissist and she has never loved me.

@carolablue5293 9 дней назад

Father's Day is a Hallmark card day for my husband. (I had no Daddy issues, either.)

@SpecialK711 11 дней назад

Took me decades to find freedom from abusive parents & foster care system. Parents are people, not vending machines & people can't give what they don't have. This is why the bible warns, 'call no man on earth your father' Matt 23:9 God, our Heavenly Father fills all in all ❤

@lorismith9006 12 дней назад

Wonderful podcast!! Please bring her back soon! Thanks for all you do Dominique ❤

@marlenekerrmarlene1259 12 дней назад

wish I could wear those glasses like you can

@cc_bloom 12 дней назад

Maybe we feel complete powerlessness as kids, but as adults, we can separate ourselves from them-I mean, differentiate ourselves from our parents. Maybe when Dom sent that letter to her dad explaining how she felt, she was letting her dad know. I have a feeling her dad expected no less from Dom, and it put a smile on his face. Just a thought.

@inaduplessis5312 12 дней назад

It is so sad to had an issue with your Dad. Can you do a session on when you grew up and your Mom has hated you all her life. My Dad was the most wonderful Dad and I know how much he loved me. My Mom was a different story. I was her cleaner, cookand doing the washing for 6 people in the house and that is all I remember about my childhood life.

@Nina-ev4xl 12 дней назад

Amazing conversation! Very interesting and eye opening! Thank you for sharing this and providing insight on this complex relationship!

@michellehadley7734 12 дней назад

Such a thoughtful podcast. Terrific guest and conversation. More podcasts with Laurie!

@CarolMilhorn-lt1lw 11 дней назад

❤listening I am well over 50

@rockster1226 12 дней назад

Wow. Dominique, thissss - woah - what it is all about. Thank you for this, and for her. AMAZING conversation - life-changing, wonderful. Thank you both, sooo much!

@mandybradley3079 3 часа назад

Can you cover women living alone, or widowed and how to stay safe. You know home protection.

@knstew75 12 дней назад

Absolutely loved this conversation. Thank you both!! ❤❤

@christinap7287 12 дней назад

Great topic and interview! Please have a topic on Daughters, Moms, and their Complex Relationship. No need to wait for next Mother's Day - would love to hear it sooner than later. Thank you for always having great content!

@cleanqueen75 12 дней назад

I was 15 when my father passed away so I didn’t experience a lot with him.

@user-bo2jh3bs7l 7 дней назад

❤❤

@laurawolf9613 5 дней назад

🥰

@CarolMilhorn-lt1lw 11 дней назад

❤😊

@leereyneke5374 12 дней назад

My wonderful daddy always spent playtime with me after work throughout my childhood in the 70's & 80's ❤ Tragically my daddy went to heaven when I was only 27 years old 😢

@sandilang3845 12 дней назад

You are definitely a very lucky girl to have such wonderful memories of your dad. I wish you a lifetime of incredible happy memories of him.

@ElenaElena-wz5gz 12 дней назад

Красивая женщина 🌷🤩

@jms7300 9 дней назад

Laurie's examples from her own life are so cute. But completely the wrong approach for someone who was abused and neglected by their father. There is no need to write a scenario from an abuser's perspective. Part of the abuse is the gaslighting and dismissing that they do, so trying to understand the abuser's perspective is triggering and awful advice.

@anneseys608 12 дней назад

May be you still have some family in Germany who can give you informations on passed times ? I'm french and one of your followers for years...sometimes i feel you think like an european women.

@lauraz3580 11 дней назад

This podcast really hit home for me. I am in midlife, and to this day I am hyper vigilant and hyper aware of myself and actions. A therapist in a casual conversation once told me that my parents stuff is not my stuff and I needed to let it go. Easier said than done. My father has passed, but the wounds are still there.

@LovingGodnLife 11 дней назад

As a Christian life coach I'd tell you forgive (that doesn't mean he was right or even asked for forgiveness ) The Bible says forgive. Don't talk to any spirit except the Holy Spirit . He grieves you and is sad when we aren't there talking to him . Our loved ones are with God. We will see them again but not now . The oldest trick in the book the devil has is to come after us when we're grieving our loved ones. He and his fallen angel followers will try to present themselves as our loved ones just like he presented himself to Eve in the garden and throughout the Bible . He is a deceiver. There is no placebo effect. When you write letters or try to speak to a spirit or someone who has passed away instead of the Holy Spirit, you're opening up the door to Satan and you're allowing him to havoc in your life. According to the Bible, you have to shut that door cast out Satan repent and be in good standing if you ever do that, and the only thing you've accomplished is allowing yourself to be deceived and allowed the devil to hurt you . Please know that with a loving heart, I will be praying that the Holy Spirit reveals this to you and that you talk only to God. He's the only one who loves you and the Holy Spirit is the only spirit you need. He lives inside of you and is grieving when you won't talk to him about things . It says in the Bible, the Holy Spirit grieves us . imagine God sad and the Holy Spirit sad I know that breaks your heart . I've seen everything Gods done in your life. He is not finished and he will take care of this. He loves you more than anyone. 💜✝️😇 I'll be praying and I know this too shall pass! I promise. 🥰