I would really wish someone as therapist would come there and explain to the moms why invading privacy is such a harmful thing to do and the way it affects their trust in the future, and also to validate daughter's feelings. 😢
@@crystaldufour4719so your telling me that you would be ok with your parents checking ur phone everyday just because u have nothing to hide???Everybody deserves privacy
because partnership and parenthood are different features entirely . i love my eldest child and i hated her mother long after we've separated ( feeling was 100% mutual ) . and er.. we fought a lot ( not just with words ). it is nice to be picture perfect on both fronts but reality is different for some of us.
@@PHlophe Partnership and parenthood go hand in hand, especially in terms of the environment you are fostering for your child. This environment can set them up to either fail or prosper. Disagreement among partners is normal and fine, but fighting (not just with words) is not. Reality is objective, not relative-in every partnership, it is wrong to be abusive.
The risk of her chosing a partner for herself like her father was to her mother is a great risk. Thats why i agree with you you cant possible see them individually especially if its something she even experienced! Would it be a "only" story of the experience it could have been different(i personally even dont understand it than)
@@jada39748 They do not. That’s why so many marriages fail after having a child. You can be an amazing partner and a horrible parent, a horrible partner and a wonderful parent, horrible for both, or great for both. As a child of divorce, not every couple is meant for children, and not every child is meant for parents who are married.
The story about the mom writing a story about her daughter and calling her the b word made me so emotional. The mom should be ashamed of herself and its nothing to laugh about. I'm so glad the other mom asked if her daughter was okay.
You can see exactly what kind of parent that mom is. She used her daughter for content and quick clicks and her daughter has to live with forever having that piece follow her. In job searches, relationships, if she has kids. The girl was nervously looking around the room when she shared it and that whole display of a hug… I hope the daughter can heal and find peace
AND it infuriates me that the daughter is literally forced to emotionally soothe HER, and she still can’t say sorry or take accountability. It was all ‘maybe I shouldn’t have BUT’ 🙄
Totally get ur side but I will admit that her reasoning for writing the article was to show the sides of motherhood and many mothers feel this way at times. Not saying it’s ok to call your daughter a b but she should be able to write her experiences.
@@Hoochiemamaxoshe literally says sorry and hugs her and said it haunts her. You are either so chronically online or have your own issues your pushing onto these people if 10 minutes of scree time makes you think you know this entire relationship. You clearly have issues
@@Hoochiemamaxo did u even watch the video? ur so chronically online go outside and touch grass. the mom literally apologized to her daughter and hugs her , the daughter clearly loves her mom and said dont worry about it. stop pushing ur issues onto other people.
She was so quick to admit and didn’t even try to play it down! That surprised me. Definitely an invasion of privacy. I think it’s pretty standard for parents to check on on their kids phones occasionally until a certain point, but monitoring every text, photo, web search, etc, is so intense.
Agreed. I think beating your child's mother disqualifies you from the "Amazing Father" description. I understand mental health was a part of it, so maybe there's been some healing and forgiveness and all that now that the issues been addressed. But still.. I don't know if I could get past that.
My dad use to beat my mom but now he has stop but still yell at her when he get angry, he use beat me and my siblings often but I have moved out I remember one time my younger brother stole money he beat him till blood coming of of his head but still my mom is with him, I feel like she's scared about what other family members and friends would say
The first mom who admitted to putting spyware on all of her kids' devices is out of control. You're looking at her images, texts and browsing history?! That's a massive no no! If I was her daughter I'd want to get out of her household asap. That's too far. Update: Just heard the part when Artista explains that her kids' father beat her so bad that she was almost UNALIVED and the daughter says he's her best friend...each to their own ig but there's no way I could refer to someone who did that as my "bestie".
My mom did this many times to me and she never did so to my brother. Her idea was that she didn't need to control him, only me cuz girls are "naive" and "need to be controlled and kept pure"
@@tramarthomas6105 probably means some of their conversation got heated or revealed things they didnt want aired in the ep. happens more often than youd think
@@mirayoon1992the daughter acts like a psychopath that believes her mom should’ve gone through the abuse just to enable them to be able to afford more expensive, designer clothing. Did you even listen to her talk? Did you even pay attention to how she reacted to her moms recounting of events? Ffs…
My speculation is that when she says "he's a great dad but a terrible husband" is code for "he's a great manipulator who has convinced my daughter he's a great dad and I'm too scared to rock the boat".
Coming from a dynamic where my father is this way its very complex. The dad and the husband are two different entities. & while they do overlap eliminating the existence of a parent in your life is hard. Especially when they have changed and are working on being a better version of themself. If we cut off our parents for every mistake many of us would not have any interaction with them at all. It hurts us and of course you want to stand in solidarity with your mother and there is resentment that is built when you may learn the things that she went through as a woman. It’s soul crushing but it also would have been soul crushing to be a little girl growing up without a father who showed up for her. It’s hard and I’m still processing the forgiveness for him and mourning the young woman for her. & I’m almost 30
You can see through Sarah. The run up to her daughter was so performative. And the article’s still up… Who would write something like that regardless of clickbait?🤦♀️
This happened 15 years ago .allot of stuff was different back than. It's messed up but she isnt that person anymore .like what did you do 15 years ago ? What if people still judged you based on who you were back than? Like come on lol
@@maddiemaryanne426 Even in the video you can see that her mom still seems unruly. She definitely hasn't changed and she should be criticized rightfully so for making that article. Trying to embarrass or humiliate your daughter online even if it was long ago is pathetic, even more so since it hasn't been taken down.
@@gloriazduran2556 she doesn't have the rights too take it down .see you dont even know what's going on .youre walking blind with hatred 😅 grow up. An the story didnt even seem bad if you fully listened. Its a bad mistake .you can recognize it was wrong an also be mature enough too see people grow an change an you dont get to decide that off one video of a whole person like youre weird
How does your dad beat your mom and you're still "besties"?!?!?! I could neverrr and I will never. Whoever lays a finger on my mother is absolutely dead to me forever.
I rewatched that part now and it sounds like forgiveness there after they learned that the dad has schizophrenia... even though it's not easy to forgive someone who is abusive 😬
I think they were joking about the job thing. Also she mentioned in the comments that she did take it down, but other places (like the LA times) wrote about it so she can't take it down from those places.
lmao every argument with my mom ends with me saying "you're so dismissive" and her saying "no i'm not".... and then me saying "THAT response was dismissive" ....
@@Al-gg4mmimo she def doesn’t regret what she did bc if i were her and i was that horrible of a mum, i would be humiliated to even think of coming online showing my face and saying yes i was such a horrible mother. shame on her honestly for still trying to justify her horrible actions.
the mother-daughter dynamic is so sacred yet can be so toxic. especially when a mother is envious of her daughter, usually in regards to beauty, opportunity, or her father’s unconditional love.
notice how that mom also her body language was facing away from the other mothers aswell, and how the mother and daughter felt safe enough to talk about problem, but the other mothers and daughters didn’t feel safe enough to do that
Dude the fact that she didn't take it down after she felt "bad about it" is really not cool. I also think the fact that she used the "mommy blogging" as an "outlet" to make money online and her kid has been clear it's harmful to them that people can still see it, is just really the definition of exploitation
Sarah was like, “I went through my child’s phone because the internet was new and we didn’t know the implications.” And in the same breath share that she was a mummyblogger and shared private details of her children’s lives? Mmkay.
It’s only excuses excuses excuses with that one, it’s clear Izzy can’t take up the space she needs, her mom seems like a full on narcissist. Aside from the content of what she said, she seemed performative and not authentic EVERY step of the way. Like there was no real moment with her at all.
The mum that called her daughter a b!tch online is actually insane the fact that her daughter will have to live with that online for the rest of her life is horrible in my opinion I think that is such a arrogant and irresponsible thing to do as a mother to ur own child……
My problem with it was how she chose to respond to her daughter about it. It was very invalidating and a "well it was a past mistake so it doesn't matter" type of angle. Yes mistakes happen, but you never learn from them when you don't take accountability. She never (truly) apologized for the way that affected her life. You can literally hear the loathing behind the "I'm sorry😒"
The mother justifies herself by saying that she called her daughter a b** because she was expressing a “younger sister view”, which is just terrible gaslighting. All she did was project her childhood grievances onto her daughter and this unhealthy relationship, and it’s a pity that even at such an adult age she did not understand this.
She said it was a click bait-y title. In her defense, it's an incredibly engaging title that probably did very well as an article. She's not projecting her childhood grievances, she's offering her view on a sibling relationship.
The first girl afraid of writing in her journal due to some one reading it, I found out my step father had cameras in all our rooms and a bug on our phones and would listen and watch, I will never be the same, I feel like someone is listening or watching me all the time, like I don't have the ability to be myself even by myself because of this. You need to heal this part of you before it gets out of control. I've been working for years.
Hopefully he isn't in your family's life anymore. That feels so much more intrusive, that it might also be illegal, depending on how much he's watching. Did he see you changing? There's a law based on a girl whose stepfather was spying on her changing in her room through her webcam years ago. I believe he got arrested after they made the law.
@girlofanimation yes I saw this too, I know they were in our rooms and I always thought other places, there is no way too know, my mom told me and my sister, but know way to prove it now, I've been out of that house since 15 I'm 32 now, Thank you though I appreciate your words. Unfortunately he is in my life he is my little sisters father but I distance myself from him as much as possible.
Notice how the one mom only thinks about her own feelings. *I* was going through a lot when you needed physical therapy. *I* needed this (public and permanent) outlet to talk about *my* experiences. *I* felt bad about calling you a b1tch. It hurt *me.* Not even mentioning that title.
I'm not trying to excuse her actions but 15 years ago it didn't feel permanent at all and also it was way harder to find anything on the internet. Like nowadays we KNOW. Back then people put anything online without hesitation. It felt more like a diary nobody you know will ever seen lol
The privacy prompt triggered me because my mom always tells me that I'll only have it when I'm in my own home. I'm 19 and moving out for college for that reason.
Well then your mom doesn't seem to know about children's rights (not to mention that you're not even a child anymore) I hope your move will be everything you hope for ❤
see, and that's why i like the black mom's approach (granted she is raree) she tried to teach her daughter the lesson but didn't go too far in invading her privacy
i relate a lot to izzy’s relationship with her mom. izzy is so strong for forgiving her mom and still trying to have a relationship with her even after those invasions of privacy. her mom is definitely projecting her youngest sibling trauma and i wouldn’t be surprised if she hasn’t processed that still
@@DGen7if thats how u do it its fine, personally as someone whose phone has never been looked through.. i would do things like age restrictions for apps, teach them toxic or bad friends ane dealing with it, stranger danger and teach them how to deal with certain things in life. Its always great to give a safe space and privacy for them
@@rose-gl4io Yeah, that's how the internet works. Many people regret the things they've put on the internet. Also, the internet and blogging were new when her mom did that. Also, it's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with it. Maybe it's my sense of humour, but it wouldn't be a big deal if my mom did that. The article is also pretty hidden, it doesn't even show up unless you dig for it. So, yeah it's in the past and we are in the present.
"My daughter is a b-tch, and it's not my fault." WT actual F. Who would say that about their child?? Jeez. I don't care if it's clickbate. It is totally NORMAL for older siblings to be annoyed with younger siblings. Poor kid. What mom would put that out there.... It's wrong on many levels.
they think that resentment and discomfort their child feels will dissipate overtime, + they think they own their children so they deserve no privacy, its gross
Because no one should have access to every move you make in your own life. That's called being controlling or living vicariously through your child. Your children are your their own people. Constantly monitoring them is dictator like and makes them appreciate you less as a person because they don't even act like they trust you or care about your own rights. This is coming from someone who has parental monitoring on everything. No child should only have the bathroom or shower as a source of privacy.
Ok but the way the mom that wrote the article switched things to where the daughter was the one hugging and telling her it was ok at the end? Dude what
Whew, when that daughter who called her dad “bestie” really sits back and thinks about what she saw her mother go through… Lord have mercy. At least she has her mother to help her through.
Just from watching the video, she's obviously been through a lot and who knows what else she's been through that we haven't seen in the video. It's likely she's lived through several traumatic experiences and is doing what she thinks will help prevent her kids from similar experiences. I don't think it's her trying to be controlling, but a trauma response she likely needs to work through. Just an assumption and obviously not a justification. Hopefully one day they can all get support and heal.
@@tramarthomas6105 almost being beat to death and having to still have somewhat of a relationship with that person because he's the father of your children (and evidently your daughter's bestie) is pretty damn traumatic... i'd say that's a fair impression given that story alone
@@sarahgonzalez01 I like that these are the types of comments you find on Jubilee videos. A lot of reflexive stuff, yes, but compassionate and understanding comments like this too.
@@MissingYouser being a growing teenager and child? a parent that does that is cutting their child off from needed social interaction that other children are getting. its creepy, and itll only lead to the child abandoning their parent eventually, not to mention how parent/child relationships like that paints their future relationships. very gross
@@tramarthomas6105 Those parents are probably trying to only cut their child off from the bad social interaction which is extremely common. A large amount of school children are either bullies, sexually irresponsible, mentally unstable, substance abusers, or just inappropriate in general. All of those kinds of people want friends and they may be friendly to your child while also getting them wrapped up into bad stuff.
Listening to lizzy not liking her mother blogging about her as a child bc now that info is out there for literally EVERYONE to see & she couldn’t consent to it bc she was a CHILD- no wonder many influencers are deciding to not show their children online!! Privacy is a key part in allowing children to grow up safely
the mom in the green dress with her onyx colored hair inspires me, i hope i look like that when i am older. she has such an elegant, cool and caring vibe!
i feel really bad for izzy, i think that article situation is really crazy and she seems super sweet so she probably doesn’t want to not have a relationship with her mom
yeah, makes me so sad the mothers think they have to 'protect' their children from the truth of their dad's so they still have a relationship with him, those dad's deserve nothing
As asian American, that would be hard for me with mom since mom scoffed at some of my decisions. I sense my mom doesn't want to get in trouble with my therapist while my parents doesn't accept alot of my decisions as an adult 😓
@@AlignWithJesus but therapy is an outlet, everybody needs an outlet + it’s a great way to receive diff perspectives/tools!!!! self awareness + critical thinking is so important
poor Izzy was socialized by her mom to accept that things that happen to her are her fault. she was accepting apologies that were never given to her. this will affect her for the rest of her life, and in all her relationships, romantic, friendship, even work relationships. and Sarah DOES NOT CARE about the lasting damage she’s done. Izzy you deserve love. the things that happened to you were not your fault and it is OK to stand up for yourself and insist on boundaries. I’m so sorry.
The mom who called her daughter a b**** online seems hella toxic. She's continually downplaying her behavior, making excuses and the daughter seems like she's drinking the tea. I hope that the daughter has the energy to unpack that and find closure because it clearly still bothers her despite her saying it doesn't.
I really hope izzy is like an adult and living in a different home or sum.. or else the car ride would be so akward and i can tell by izzys mom's strares (personal expirience) after she talked about certain things she was NOT HAPPY
@@HenriCobbsshe is weird who calls there own child a B1CH ?!!?? How does that even cross one’s minds oml the way she justified it like listen to the ‘context’ and she proved NOTHING all that gaslighting is really nasty. All this time she was finding excuses every sentence like those aren’t your 9yo fault tf
Bro. The mom that wrote that article about her daughter didn't really stick well with me. Like yeah, that past is in the past, but it's STILL going to be there and be on the Internet. Not to mention, it will stay with her daughter, Izzy, for a long time. It will be that one thing that's in the back of her mind. How would **you** feel if your mother wrote an article about you, titled, "My daughter's a b***h"?
My mom had no boundaries. Went through diaries. Put hidden recording devices around the house, went through my phone that I bought, while I was working full time, buying my own groceries and school supplies then used photos I had as blackmail. Now she knows nothing of my life as she is not in it.
Wow. Shame shame shame on you for having first thoughts like that. Yes that happens for no reason, parents (a lot of them) are and can be toxic af. Speaking from experience. So do your reaserach first bud. @@ChaseBurns-kc7xg
Me screaming no when Irene asked if she should talk to her child about her divorce. Like as someone who has gone through my parents divorcing when I was an adult, I wish more than anything that they would leave me out of it. Of course there’s levels to honesty, but keep that between you and your friends. The stress it puts on your child sucks
I would have appreciated some discussion when my parents decided to divorce. My parents basically spoke to us for 3 minutes: "We're getting divorced. Don't be upset, this has nothing to do with you. Stop crying. Go to your room."
I had to pause when she said "black people never think about owning people. That's my baby." powerful! Wish I could share an experience like this with my mom
@@Al-gg4mm You've replied to a large proportion of the comments under this video and all you comments are about Sarah. I'm fully convinced that you are Sarah at this point tbh. You're outing yourself.
Literally I would never recover. And the parents saying that is okay is actually crazy I feel bad for their kids honestly. Yeah I get you try to keep your gives safe but if you want them safe so bad then don’t give them a phone there’s phones that don’t have social media and just have text and call so it’s possible. And there’s also called compromising and letting your kid know about the dangers of the internet and how you wanna keep them safe there’s that option too, but parents will still do stuff behind your back which is insane ! this is why some kids don’t trust their parents and are very sneaky.
After listening to the abuse Artista experienced with her husband tbh it makes sense she went into control over drive with her kids. Not healthy or okay, but it makes sense.
The mother in green just keeps talking about herself and her perspective and how she felt. Meanwhile completely ignoring how her actions have affected her daughter. Disgusting behaviour and absolutely no laughing matter. She should be ashamed of herself as a person and a parent. Show your child some respect and love smh
Jubilee, please thoroughly review any sponsorships you take. Better Help has been known to be incredibly harmful and toxic!! Edit: y’all please stop fighting in the replies 😭
The mom seeking consolation from her daughter after silently being ridiculed by the room after saying she wrote that article, is sickening behavior. You should not be consoled after feeling the tension in the room after admitting you wrote that about your 9 y/o daughter
@@Al-gg4mmAre you Sarah?? Because you’re commenting under every person complimenting Sonya like a jealous Karen. Sonya looked a trillion times better than Sarah plus she’s a way better mother. She’s also not youthful at all so stop lying. Weirdo.
@@Charlottefwyou I mean what were your thoughts on how she seems? Also I don’t know why she wanted me to compliment her style but any thoughts on that too?
@@Charlottefwyou yeah but she told me that those jeans were designer jeans, and same goes for her top but then again I don’t really know, people were out to call her on that and say they were mom jeans 😂
Jubilee, I am kindy requesting a "extended/unseen scenes" portion of this vid. There are some answers that I would love to hear that were not included.
Would not go well for so many 😅 Daughter-in-laws don’t have to have the filters that the sons do. They’ve also heard the deep side of childhood from those husbands.
@@Al-gg4mmdidn’t seem genuine the way she kept trying to justify her actions of exploiting her own child for some mere clicks. Crazy. Izzy apologized more than that thing did it’s really saddening I hope Izzy gets better it seems like she’s used to the gastlighting she got that extremely apologetic mannerism that what that thing should be doing not her.
Yep, she's extremely manipulative and disgusting, she goes in for the hug as a get out of jail free card pretending to be emotional about the situation, when her eyes don't have a single ounce of regret. Just social acceptance pr.@@j_me
As korean American, it would be hard for me as well. When I told mom that my parents doesn't accept alot of my decisions as an adult, she scoffed.. ☹️ my parents have dementia
Izzy - the answer to your mom's passive aggressive bull$#!t question of "how often?".... is "too often". Sarah is going to have to do some serious digging out for me to have any respect for her and I'm only 7m in. Dude... you need to set boundaries.
So that mum ruined her daughter’s life but she’s the one that’s hurt ??? Sara the mum actually deserves nothing but the worst, and Izzy is making so much excuses for he narc of a mum trying to forgive her is so incredibly sad
Why are you so obsessed with her. You give me weird vibes. Commenting on lots of comments talking her up and putting the others down at the same time @@Al-gg4mm
I relate alot to Taia and Artista. I also grew up in a home where domestic abuse was happening and we had to leave home alot, but my mom really wanted us to have a two parent home. My dad eventually got disgnosed with bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and ptsd and once he got the help he needed it did get a lot better and they’re both amazing parents to this day. ❤
That's amazing 💜 so glad your dad was able to get help too. Noone deserves to suffer abuse from someone they love. But we were young and he had an undiagnosed mental illness and was overlooked by healthcare professionals. Sad that people who just need help, often go so long before receiving diagnosis's that can explain and get much needed treatment. Taia's Dad is so much better on his medication and I'm grateful he got the help he needed so he could be there for the kids when they were older.
the fact that artista didn't talk poorly about her ex husband toward her kids is sooooo mature and important. so many parents who split up act so negatively and toxic toward one another, and it shows a lot of strength to go through a bad relationship and not put it on your kids. MAD RESPECT for her.
Lowkey I can respect Sonya for wanting to remain true to her beliefs while also wanting to embrace her daughter heather even when the things heather does may go against it
@@heyspeckle8782she’s clearly not homophobic, there’s no hate, it’s okay to believe that love is between men and women if you don’t mistreat other for your believes
