I highly suggest reading “Growing Up With Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay Gibson. Not just about parents, it creates a framework for understanding emotional immaturity and general and forwards a way to cope with people who are emotionally immature. Sounds like you took really good steps in this situation!
Woah, what a great title for a book, ha. I'll put that on my reading list. Thank you! Often person A/B have reminded me of children throwing tantrums, but when you get older you become better at actually hurting people.
Sorry you and person C have been going through this for that long. Abuse is cumulative and although we learn to cope with it, the only solution for those who get abused is to leave the situation and rebuild - away. You naturally assuming the role of peace maker or peace keeper makes sense as you have by far the highest emotional intelligence and maturity in this group. But eventually and it's always saddening, it's no solution. Person C who's the target must leave this group. The cost on their health, the stress, damage on self-image, personal development is guaranteed to be too great to allow this to last any longer since it's recurring for years already. While listening I had a lot of thoughts but you addressed everything near the end, step by step. Spot on. This image stuck in your mind of the person shouting at you, finger pointing at your face is a reminder that you must process this and make change happen. And the fact you made this video holds you accountable on that 👏👍 I hope you'll find an environment, people that fits better your capabilities and enable you to keep growing emotionally instead of holding you back.
Yea, things that build gradually are always the hardest to deal with. The ol' frog boiled alive metaphor. Sometimes emotional explosions lead to change for everyone involved, which is my hope, but as you say, protecting yourself and others comes first.
@@foltsy true, emotions are here to guide us and in this story everybody's suffering. Even the abuser's life will improve dramatically after learning emotional regulation tools instead of degrading over time. But it's hard for them to believe it can get better because of the denial, intense shame and defensive mechanisms.
