Hi sir.. I am a female student from uttrakhand 5 years back i started my journey i have given 5 attemptsand always rejected by 2 3 exams ..becoming ias officer was my childhood dream...i was very clear so after grad i started preparing now i have came a long way...sir i am really depressed now...i really need help what should i do..now i have no where to go sir....in self doubts i was always a outgoing and brilliant student but now i am.really depressed...plz help me sir i am the only child of my parents ..
@@Didyouknow786-x8m hey, I really suggest you to take a break or some time out for yourself. It's okay to feel this way, but I hope you know you're strong and can withstand whatever comes. Please take care of yourself, and even if it sucks right now, it will get better.
Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude! 🌻💜 Doc, I'm on the borderline, I don't know what the result is going to be, but yes I know I've worked extremely hard for the past year and I'm ready to face whatever comes my way. Thank you for being there.
I don't know if I am going to make it or not but one thing I know that this attempt has been about my improvement, my efforts and my hard work. I am proud of myself whether I make it or not. I am committed to giving it one more chance as I have immensely improved. Thank you Sir for your support and guidance.
I randomly came across one of the videos of Shivin sir, talking about how he went through a bad break-up and loss of a loved one before 2022 prelims. I've downloaded that video in my phone and I have watched it like 1000 times by now only to realise that I'm not the only one with problems. I've dealt with depression in a very young age but i bounced back and now I'm dealing with stage 4 cancer of one of my parents. It is hard and we know the ultimate outcome of it but I feel the depression I had earlier prepared me for this. If I had not got diagnosed with clinical depression that time I wouldn't have been prepared for this in a million lifetimes. it's hard but it's worth it, I'm a gen z so I just take it as my character development! It's my first attempt and I have a chance of clearing this exam but even if I couldn't I'd bounce back because as Elle Woods said in Legally Blonde movie, "Like it's hard?" . Anyways thank you so much shivin sir for existing, I love you so much. I've followed you from your anonymous aspirant journey to now, every achievement and criticism of yours feels personal. The day I crack this exam it'd be because of you even my parents know that.
Hello sir. This is my last attempt and chances of clearing are very bleak but thankfully I have a job of public sector Bank in my hand. I don't like my job, but until I get something I like, this seems to be a great earning option. I will write for state PCS for sure and will try to get a good rank there. I'm married for several years now, and I so proud that despite the responsibilities of home and my workplace, I persevered. Life has not been easy lately, but I believe, it is still beautiful. I would request you to please bring some women counselors on this channel as well so that women like me can relate and find solutions. PS: In this coaching industry of creating and selling fear, I see people like you very rarely to focus more on mental health and broader picture of life! Kudos! Thanks
1st attempt, Feeling numb Not able to find my roll number... A lot of responsibilities My mom - Single Parent .. My family asking to get me married ( really scared of this marriage thing) Did some silly mistakes in exam due to panick and now in a regret of choosing upsc as the career!
Roll no check ,Sir it was my 4th attempt couldn't clear prelims continusly 4th time , now deciding to take break from this exam , it's mentally exhaustively to give continuously and failing continusly , There is no backup , nothing while other PPL are getting good job 😢 Reason of anxiety What next ,now parents also say you are stuck in this preparation , PPL who are not soo gret studies in school doing great jobs and satisfied ,,, Also no backup , coming from humanities history' major , no scope to get good job Otherside my twin brother who got job at age 22 and earning well working in great work culture My close frd job amazing job in state pcs , I m judging myself
My birthday is within 2 days and this was my 1st attempt, i know I've given my best and i also got to know about my mistakes too! Whatever the results might be, I'm ready to overcome my mistakes in the further attempts. I'm accountable to only people who understands me for truly who i am and going to stay humble and grounded. Thank you shivin sir ❤
You've somehow made me come to peace with the fact called "life" . I am at peace with the fact that there will be a desire to change a mistake , or be in control of the tide , but that's the fact to live and just be through it. And it feels like a vacation ! Thanks for the empathy buddy❤ ! Thanks for just being there !❤
An archer will do whatever he can in order to hit the target, but once the arrow leaves the bow, the actual outcome is not up to him. Hitting the target is to be chosen but not to be desired Accept the upcoming fate. If it isn't fortunate, adjust and adapt. I know your pain. None can make you into or out of the list which has been finalised.
I'm writing it down just to tell myself "I'm proud of you" as I haven't heard from anyone....I was mentally exhausted with people's opinions and my parent's criticism. Despite all of this I still remember the sleepless nights,countless revision, scheduling,tears, trying to be motivated all the time.This was my third attempt & i want to remember myself that I worked hard till the 16th morning,i fought for very last minute but still due to silly mistakes I did wrong in some questions I'm bit disappointed for not clearing this time but I know next year I'm gonna see my name in the list I'm very very much confident But I was anxious about my parents reaction ...the whole world is trying to separate me from my dream in every way possible....my only concern is that I wasn't able to stay strong in all the situations , mentally exhausted, unable to concentrate,and felt like choking
Your situation is exactly same as mine, I thought this 3rd attempt was my last as I've done enough hardwork but I've done some silly mistakes due to lack of revision at last moment for some reasons
I'm also in same situation this was my 5th attempt and I really don't know & don't want to know about the results because I know what it will be . I really don't know about giving another nd my last attempt wheather I should give it or not . Not financially secured. Only one thing that I know I will get what I deserve. And it will take time but I'm proud of myself and I'm strong. That's all I want to say ❤ and thank you shivin.
I’m really scared for this prelims result. Uncertain part is my family forcing me for marriage. It’s like either clear a govt exam or marry a govt job guy. I’m terribly stuck. In marriage it’s been 6 guys who kept rejecting me for looks and all these are IAS/Ips officers asking for 20cr dowry. Yes it’s true. People from Up must be aware of it. Shivin sir you are so considerate. Please help me to find a path. I’m the object of everyone’s taunts and frustration. I’m trying my best to ignore but it’s hard. I pray often. My self worth is almost zero. My parents are extremely successful so I have a high pressure to perform. I want to appear again but life’s so hazy.
UPSC exam expects ton of hardwork from aspirants but at the end the results may or may not be positive but ultimately we should try to live our life happily with other opportunities that we don’t look at it now All best for good things to happen 😊
Thanks Shivin. this video helps me to calm nerves. after prelims my mind has gone numb. believe me i have put my heart and mind into this exam. while in prelims i used to be focused and stoic ( calm and composed even though last 2 times i couldn't make into prelims). just after prelims is over, how much i try to be in control, my mind was caught with too much anxiety and fear though i dont admit .but its true. Iam US based software professional , left US in covid times. in the spur of moment i decided to take break from my profession and do something that satisfying. tbh i don't hate that job and simply i don't give any soul satisfaction other than financial freedom and growth. having been failed prelims twice after it, i don't know how to face family friends if i didn't get this. i know my mental health has to be a priority , but i say it many times to myself. that emotional baggage of failure is hard to take, how do i face my family whom i made financially weak as opposed to be comfortable if i continued my job. i somehow know, its just matter of 4-6 months to get family finance on track. how do i justify it now? how do i face friends. for some, i dont get it. why is he trying to leave everything behind when he is comfortable. its the question i face every time and sometimes from my family. for some, i am taking risk that worthy. tbh i didn't think much of them. now iam thinking how do i face them as utter failure forget about them, how do i get over . i will try not to think of it. but this failure is hard to get out of my mind. what is after this, i am able to make anything worthy later on, if i want to do anything i will be pulled down by my fear of failure. how do i get this man. i dont want to go to US on one hand and take job. on other hand it will help family financially and also give me a break. Sorry was thinking and typing at same time, maybe incomprehensible to some extent. i am just trying to let go
I am on borderline and full of anxiety and again on a trip but couldn’t focus on relaxing because of immense anxiety. Let’s hope for the best for everyone. Thank you Dr Shivin .You’re a person aspirants can rely on during time of anxiety and pressure
I started to believe in this line - Man ka ho toh achha, Agar na ho toh aur bhi achha ! hey... Shivin buddy ! I remember days when I used to see your videos you were practicising answer writing and share the same on youtube and also about your daily targets. Coincidentally, I also started giving the prelims from 2021, which was my first attempt. Sadly,since then I have not been cleared the prelims even for single time. I have the memory of the video, where the final results2022 were supposed to be out on the very next day, in which you shared the plan, if not UPSC, what you would be doing then- you chose Teaching, though you selected for the IRS. I dont know what am I going to do for rest of my life, but, for one thing I am sure we dont plan our life, God has planned something better than this. So, better we try to look for best available options. In the end, I wish you for your great Journey !
The tears in my eyes ,feeling like completely stuck . What happened next, don't know. But i am grateful for ur unconditional efforts. When I see u, feel like someone is behind me .Thanku u sir 🙏
Sir your one line was a lifetime stress reliever which i personally believe ," UPSC is the not the end, bahut sari cheejein hai jo hme khushi deti hain". But to be honest i m surrounded by some personalities who pressurize me that upsc is the only thing jo mujhe standardize kr skta hai. I know my result is goin to be negative but i hav improved myself be it ghanto baithkr pdhna ho ,apni vocabs, thoughts etc. ar mujhe na apne upar bht proud feel hota hai , 9-5 job krke attempt krna bht bdi bt hai result chahe jo bhi ho.
This is my 5th attempt,previously due to many reasons and hard luck 2 times failed by( .66,1. something, 2023 csat 65,gs 92)could not clear pre,latter got out in final post from ssc cgl exam,past month failed hcs mains exam may be by some margin,gave intelligence buero acio exam qualified and wrote mains this year most probably would make (if everything goes good),this year cse scoring 96-100 and csat 105 but as decided i am completely exhausted from mental fatigue and have no emotions left (like i had 5 years ago),got to know that everything in life is uncertain and atlast destiny plays the most vital role.Maybe this would be my end of upsc journey if not qualified for pre this time.
Bro settling in Foreign is a great Plan B. Buy a nice car over there and travel alot, which 99% of IAS can’t in their life. And guess what, Canadian/European/Australian passport is much more powerful than Indian Diplomatic passport
I just want to write that I could have worked hard in the last one month before prelims I should have revised the basics rather than overthinking and chasing vague things I should have revised my own csat notes it's a shame that c sat was so easy I prepared for everything beforehand but not revising all of it in the last moment was the biggest mistake I made but definitely I learner a lesson to not lose my sh*t for anything coming ahead and moving steadily even at a slow pace BUT KEEP MOVING IS THE ONLY MANTRAAAA LASTLY I want to thank you sir for everything for every effort for all the support thank you Also there is something strange with your voice today are you taking care of yourself?? Pls stay healthy we all have to go a long way together ❤❤❤❤
I know I'll not Going to clear this year's prelims but definitely I'll work hard for 2025. Your guidance of target tracking helped me alot in this year's pre but I made few silly mistakes that was my fault. I'll start again with your guidance. Thank you so much sir 🙏
This is my final and last attempt, thought to give my best performance but tragedy happened I lost my grandfather 10 days before prelims,with whom I was very close.I really fight hard to make him survive but failed, have to shuttle between hospitals and my study.Don’t know what will be the result very nervous ,going through anxiety and depression. But I am determined that I will work hard and find another job, start focusing on myself and my mental health. I am very grateful to have your guidance and constant support Dr Shivin Sir Thank you so much for your help sir
Could'nt clear sir....😮😮😢😢fearing how to face parents and would i tell them ..i failed twice...i accept that i have not given my best yet...thts wgy i decided to give my best for comjng year abd 2025 will be my last and best attempt ❤
Thank you so much sir for everything I know i can't make it this year & i know the reasons I'll surely improve myself this year & looking forward to prepare under your supervision. Hopefully I'll be done with this next year ❤
This is my last attempt.i missed prelims last year because of csat.this time i am clearing csat but gs is on borderline..i worked so hard this time made so many sacrifices. I didn't give time to my one year old baby...i did spend my days locking my self in room. Even he was crying outside i didn't not open the door. I don't know why i was so harsh because of one exam.. am totally shattered now..jb start kiya tha jor shor se pta ni tha ki upsc itna uncertain hai..apko sunne ke bad ansu rok payi hu...i promise that i will travel now i will stay strong and give time to my health and to my family .
I'm getting anxious because my family members keep telling me I'll be writing the mains this year. Their overconfidence in me is putting a lot of pressure on me. What should I do?
Thank you so much Sir. I used to prepare along with my brother back in 2018, He used to inspire me for this exam as he was also preparing and definitely going to make it but I always had a secure career like you so I did not pay much attention then unfortunately I lost him. I was shattered. Always depressed, anxious and on therapy as well. From the last few months I have started preparing again and gave my attempt. I don't know what is going to happen. Anxiety is prevailing. I am also not completely mains ready. I miss him so much But whenever I watch your videos, listen to your voice, I feel like he is with me, guiding me, constantly pushing me to work more hard every single minute. It's my brother's birthday in next few days and I don't know if I will be in the list this time or not but I will surely make him proud. Wherever he is, watching me pushing my limits, I will surely make this happen. Thank you for your valuable guidance Sir. You are a gem of a person. May god bring all the happiness, health and more success in the future for you.
Thank you verymuch sir... Yes whatever it is happen am ready to face it and am hope and believe my self am going to be write mains... Yes., Of course it happend something want also will preparing 2025 move on myself, My motto is i will do it and never giveup untill will IAS... And entire mythis journey each and every second my mother believe me a lots of me even will she support me also financial and mentally tq amma.. Yes sir.. Am ready to learning, Revision,.... etc.,
Also,i have invested so much into this exam,my youth, financially emotionally, physically that i just can't accept the fact that i quit,just like that..i will clear it thats certain
felt really low after pre i tried my best given my 100% still i am having anxiety . I didn't collect the courage even match answer with answer key i haven't calculated my score. After pre even between pre i recieved calls from my relatives and freinds about the exam. this made me more under pressure and increased anxiety. From the day of prelims i am not able study fluently and not even able to sleep properly . i am having nighmare of not making it to pre list past few days have been really a toll on my mental health.
1st attempt...GS is done with good score...CSAT is on border...I made up once mind to get ready for next attempt with full of positivity and enthusiasm...no regrets...but I'm anaylzing my mistakes with eyes open wide...resumed gym from past 4 days..happy with new chapter...lets leave everything on that pdf...new hope for the upcoming journey...promising myself will work the hardest I ever worked...aur milega kabhi na kabhi...jese hume world cup mila hai...team ki mehnat rang layi..hamari bhi layegi😊JAI HIND
Happy National Doctors Day to you SIR....... You are THE DOCTOR You are THE TEACHER I trusted in u You are THE SOLUTION Either I make it or doesn't make it Thanku Thanku so much DR. Shivin Sir ..... And i promise to u not to open telegram
I m on the border line.....but i am backing myself for the next attempt whatever be the result Lesson learnt- discipline, consistency, I am going to work hard... making choices & piroritizing the things that increases my chance of Clearing the exam I will be having a pragmatic approach ---focusing only on controlling the controllable Regarding the uncontrollable.......let the god will feel shame if he depreives me of what i am passionate for.... But i will be satisfied with my hard work
Sir mera iss baar prelims nahi clear hua hai lekin mujhe 2025 ka attempt dena hai par mera state pcs ka exam bhi hai aur aapka MMP program bhi shuru hora tha to sir abhi kis par focus zyada rakhu .
Hello shivin sir…. First of all thanks a lot for everything I know very I’m not going to clear this prelims. It is not easy thing for me bcz I did a lot of hard work, I read each every day above 13 hrs + , I never compromised even in my tough situations lot sacrifices, I’m heartfully telling I did very genuine hard for this prelims. I’m come from very poor educational background I completely from govt colleges bcz financially not well . My parents are not effort this preparation There is lot uncertainties. But bcz I learned lot things in preparation I Compare myself from last year to this time lot of drastic changes in my personality and preparation. Tqu sir
Being an academically bright child since school and college, I always felt like I could clear any exam, but my upsc journey had other plans. The biggest mistake I made was giving a non serious attempt in 2021, which took away my self esteem and all the enthusiasm which the first attempt brings. I scored 61. Then I put my head down and prepared for 2022. But, I missed Pre 22 by a whisker. It shattered me. 5-6 months I just procrastinated, I lost my vision. Under prepared, I missed Pre 23 cutoff by 15 marks. Now my self confidence was buried under the ground. I compared by current self with my younger self, the little boy who topped school exams and whose teachers and parents had high hopes from him. I was not even half of what I used to be. All I could see were my weaknesses, and my mental health was absolutely destroyed. Familiarity with upsc prep(comfort zone) and family support enabled me to give another attempt. I really really studied hard, honestly I felt horrible because my mental health was no longer a friend, everyday getting up was a struggle, the joy and enthusiasm had escaped my life. But somehow I kept going and I felt reasonably confident one day before Pre 24, and the reason was my competence. Now, according to answer keys my score is 80.67, in with a meagre chance, I am very anxious. Not because I won't be able to do anything else in life, but because I have lost belief in myself, the great gift I earlier had. The last 10 days, I have somehow focused most of my energy on improving my mental health, which is now my priority over any career prospect.
Bro just relax.. if you have scored 80 ,it means you have sufficient knowledge and you might miss cutoff because here guesswork helps you to get that edge( i scored 109.09 in 2023, 72 in 2022, 80 in 2021 and this time hovering around 95.) work on making right guess, take risk(fortune favours the brave) only if you want to do this otherwise there are ample of opportunities to look for. Every individual is unique ,you might perform well at something else. Sorry for giving unasked advice but i could not hold myself when i read something relatable
I'm just on borderline of 84-86 and very anxious .... Unable to focus on my studies Just sitting on table scrolling screen unnecessarily After spending hours on mobile i regret 😔 of wasting my day ... doubting myself am i disciplined enough to clear this exam... I don't know 😐
Uncertain about future... this was my third attempt but even 1 month before prelims I knew that I did not prepare hard for this attempt and will not be able to clear this year's prelims, purely because of some family issues and subsequent mental issues. Want to take a break for some time to heal myself. Won't give 2025 but will give 2026.
Please make a video for parents because somehow we will deal with our failure and will rebuild ourselves but parents trust and support affect us more than we think...their reaction impact us the most even if we know they are wrong and unfortunately most of the parents dont know how to support and trust their children..we are already broken but when we see our parents not trusting us, it breaks our confidence to the core..please make a video for parents in detail.
Not opening telegram is the best advice! I was going paranoid about reading those comments under your post on the channel. I will start with not looking at my phone till evening otherwise I get tempted to open all the stress inducing apps. Hopefully, I slowly I can manage this paranoia until the results. A billion times thank you for the hand holding support you have given sir at every step of this exam and otherwise.
I won’t say I did target tracking but yes it pushed me. I have given attempt before but this time something was different that was your efforts sir. I’m on borderline idk what to do. Obviously anxiety is there. I’m confident and anxious at the same time. I have confidence on my god that he will never let me down ❤ Har Har Mahadev ❤
This is my second attempt. I felt for the first time that I can clear prelims. I checked some keys and found that I did some silly mistakes which could be improved. My family is not supporting me. They are telling me to get a bank or other job, then take a break and prepare. I am confused what to do. I am trying to concentrate on my optional in the mean time. I am so stressed and feel lonely.
At this time family's support is very important but what i am getting is that upsc is not in your destiny explore other options. I used to live in hostel after pre i came back home for a break without any books so they are like if u are not studying here then we don't think u would be doing there and that's why u fail this break me more than the result or anything right now feeling very lonely having suicidal thoughts i just expect to be someone there atleast from my family only just to hear what am i feeling but no one wants to hear a loser and i realised i am alone
First of all, You should know one thing that you are not alone, there are many facing same, even worst....... In life we are accountable to ourselves first then family then anyone else....... If you have believe in yrself, and ready to work hard them have patience yr time will come..... Maximum they can do is that they will stop supporting you and it's okay...still Many have already done it .... And you also can... Just have believe in yrself, in yr hard work...when you will be successful same people will start talking good about you... Even if they don't, it shouldn't matter... Be proud of yrself.... And always remember.. You are not alone as our Sir always say🤞✨
People start cheering - when you are near the borderline or have already won , The rest 98% of this journey is about being your own biggest cheerleader that's what I believe in. Hope all my hardwork and perseverance pays off and l be able to make it next year .
Sir,, iam a state psc candidate,, i was not able to give upsc this year bcoz of my pregnancy complications,, but i gave hppsc exam yesterday,, i know iam not able to hit that, just with the margin of 10-15 marks margin,, although that was my mistake as i got little lethargy few days before exams, as iam in my third trimester........ But iam very happy with whatever i did in exams,, that only bcoz of u,, ur guidance gave me motivation to work harder and, i will definitely clear my goal next year.. Iam confident enough just bcoz of u.. Thankyou soo much sir.
Sir ..i am uncertain whether i will clear or not but my life shattered after that because the uncertain part is that may be family start looking for guys for my marriage which i dont want ..i want to do something in my life but i dont have time now .. i m just a history graduate what can i do after that if i dont clear ...
I have tried my best come what May. I have given every possible effort this time to make sure that this is the bestest attempt of me clearing upsc prelims .But I am not sure of making it to the exam. But yes I have tried to make up my mind for following a backup plan . Let’s hope for the best . Thank you Shivjn Sir for my contact support . Looking forward to get trained from you for mains too . Signing off :)
This was my 2nd attempt but am not clearing Prelims this year too. Koi nai Next year dekh lenge. Let's see what happen. But Yes I can see positive changes in preparation than my first attempt and personality too. Thank you sir
This was my 3rd attempt and even in this attempt I'm not going to make it but what I've got from this attempt is the belief that I can do it in the next attempt. I haven't talked to my parents about my results till now because I'm not able to make them understand that's the reason of my anxieties.
Me and my friend are consistently working since your target came from january. Regardless of results we are satisfied whta we did till now will proud of ourselves that we can extend ourselves that much and the direction was given by only you sir. Thank you so much for it!!
Roll no not found .....i know it before results ...i am frustrated really ...i lossing my confidence ,feel too low ,i do my best.... work hard ... still nothing get it.....i went to cry ... badly but tears didn't come ....felt like in shock .... didn't able too express my self through which i am going through ........... At last ....i give my 2025 attempt and i give myself to clear it......
I did my best but if today i dont make it i will be prepering for mains because its my call it was my 3nd attempt the 1st attempt was nonserious just study 1month but this attempt was the best i gave everything and i will prepare for mains
I don't I am scoring quite good in gs 100+ but csat me shyad nhi ho rha... I literally worked very hard aab samaj ni aa rha kya karu. Mummy ke bhi tabiyat theek nhi h onko chor ke kaise jao preparation karne ghar pe toh padhai ho ni paa rhe h... Mene papa ko bola tha kisi ko mat batana about I am preparing but ab sabko pata h and sab result ka wait kar rhe h but phir me yeh sochte hu why should I be accountable to them , it was me who was crying but still studying, it was me who was not sleeping but studying... I know people gonna text me to know about my result but I am not accountable to any single one of them
i am writing this before prelims result . last year i have a feeling that i would fail due to my own non preparation of reasoning.and i failed in 2023 pre but this prelims i have done everything knowledge ,aptitude and most important confidence. this time i have a feeling that i am clearing prelims 2024 . lets see what god has decided for me hoping for the good
Sir..due to family background and financial issues I didn't join any coaching earlier but kept on giving attempts and exhausted them all and this is my last attempt...OBC ...34 years age..left a good job after 7 years of working...my father went to heaven this Jan...married and have a kid... Some how I got courage to leave job and family believed in me Now I am very very very tensed... Relatives have already started cursing and blaming for being eccentric... Road ahead? I have thought about UPPCS as well.. One thing I must say, after taking your course on Environment and Science, my confidence increased and I am confident that your Write smart and Mudit sir Ethics and Essay initiatives will help me in other exams also...but the risk I have taken is huge and as a person I have been very coward throughout my life and very ordinary student but this time I don't know how I took this decision. This was also my father's dream and He suffered from brain hemorrhage in 2018 and gradually deteriorated till 2023 Dec. Last time he spoke to me was about UPSC :(
At 30.5 yr now i can see i am like you on many aspects I was hesitant to join the private job till now but cant continue without a job We all the best for you sir. This hard work will surely be utilized somewhere. Job ke sath UPPCS soch sakte ho if u have exhausted ur attempt.
Getting 98.88 and I’ve studied really hard before the exam and I didn’t fall back while preparing for it I did my best and this was my 2nd attempt nd i am afraid of my parents expectations and others that they will screw up my mind nd mental health they will mock me.. I promise I won’t open telegram and I don’t want to check it too but i am afraid of what will happen if i couldn’t make it
