Dealing with Guilt and Shame 

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💫🦋If you are reading this I hope you know that you are worthy of every single thing you desire and have the capability to receive it whenever you want. You are amazing and wonderful. A gift to the rest of us from the universe all around us.🤗🙏🤗

a video idea: dealing with rejection another idea: dealing with ending of friendships btw i love this video and you especially ur voice it’s so calming:)!!!🤍🤍

& these feelings are totally ok to have. Thank you for giving us resources to deal with them 🙏🏽

I used to feel both hand in hand when I’d get insecure with my ex and then he would make me feel extremely guilty by telling me “if you weren’t so insecure I wouldn’t get angry and yell at you” he made it seem like I was so illogical for having insecurities and therefore justified his behavior by gaslighting and ignoring me for days. Because I’m so empathetic and anxiously attached, I totally lost myself and could never see how toxic he actually was. It wasn’t until months after the relationship where I started therapy and my own therapist told me usually perpetrators blame the other person for their own bad behavior, never taking accountability for their issues. It was a wake up call. I struggled for 6 months have intense regret and guilt for being human and having insecurities. I’m still healing, but wow feeling both guilt and shame at the same time put me into a deep depression.

Oh wow this is exactly what I needed today. My best friend (who is one of my siblings) is the kindest person ever and the one person who stands by me and hangs out with me and understands me more than anyone else. But she's extremely homophobic. She doesn't say anything rude, but when I talk about my sexuality or even say I'm interested in another girl, she stone walls me. No response whatsoever until the topic is changed. And if I don't change the topic she will get up and leave and it never gets addressed. Its extremely difficult to deal with, and I'm only now coming to terms with how to accept myself even when she may never accept me

my therapist told me the difference between guilt and shame so thank you for this

was waiting for this! love youu

i really needed this today, ana, thank you so much!! 💕

Thanks ana I'm struggling with something I did nearly 10 years ago and this has been helpful in my reflection.

This really helped me find something to link my friends and family to because I do work with my therapist on this but I am trying to build interpersonal skills after working on emotional regulation this is super helpful.

I really like the quality of your videos. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. Adding examples is very helpful for understanding those concepts

Hi Ana, This video is very helpful for me to understand better on what I am going thru lately and I needed this as honestly, it has been a rough 2021 this year for me. Btw, thank you Ana!

Thank you for this video - There are moments in my past that I feel guilty about and ruminate about each day. Specifically, moments in my youth where I made mistakes with people in my family. My mom is adopted, so we have some complex relationships in my extended family. I believe I have behaved poorly in the past due to the complexity of these relationships & how I've expressed my feelings about the situation. Thank you for this video - it is great to have resources & information to help me understand what is happening internally & some tools I can use to overcome these difficult feelings. Your videos help a lot. Warm Regards from Vancouver, Rebecca

thank you so much for sharing this, i really needed this

This video is so helpful and useful ! thank you so much for this content

Thank you Ana, this helped me a lot!

This video was very detailed and helpful! Thank you!

Yessss great video!!!! ❤️

just in time. thank you ana

This video actually made me feel better.

Thank you! Your videos are very valuable to me

Guilt and shame are two things I’ve been grappling with from time to time!! Can’t wait to see the video, I’m sure it’ll help me before my first counseling session next week! 💗

Great video, thank you very much!!!

Thank you for posting

Hi Ana, I’m really a fan of your videos. Have you considered uploading them to Spotify as a podcast ? It would be really nice to listen to your knowledge on my morning drives to school!

Please please make a video to how to deal with ending friendships, love your videos and your makeup 😍💙

I need this. Thank you. :)

I needed this so much.I accidentally hurt my SO during our fight yesterday.He kept ignoring me and typing on his phone.I just broke down and asked him to talk to me.He kept that act so I snatched his phone in a fit of rage.I shouldn't have done that.All I have to do is to keep calm,show him that I would never hurt him in any way with my actions.I'm so bummed....

Binging ana's videos. 💜

We’re all gonna make it 🙏💪✅

If you can do a video on tips when having panick attacks it would be great🥺

I am a feminine guy and I had to deal with a lot of shame for being gender non-conforming. It's gotten better and I became a bit more confident, but it is still hard to be my truest self.

Hi Ana, I found you and binge watched you for days Lol.... you are amazing! I have a video request if it's ok ?

This is so interesting! LOVE the video. But what if one feels shame because one thinks other people are judging them for what they did when no one is?

holy smokes. you helped me realize i am in an abusive relationship 😐

Does the guilt feeling fit the fact? Wow you solved 99% of my problems!

Thanks!

Pleaaase make a video on imposter syndrome.

IFS helped me overcome my shame. :)

I find your videos more helpful then my own therapists advice 🙏🏽 where can I find your email ?

For a future video idea, you might find this interesting: www.theguardian.com/science/2016/jan/07/therapy-wars-revenge-of-freud-cognitive-behavioural-therapy As someone who promoted CBT to everyone, I’m a little more careful now and I find the potential issues with it interesting. The article talks about how CBT became popular and what we may want to reconsider. It also contrasts with psychoanalysis.

Would you be interested in making a video on codependency self help? It seems to be a rather common problem which many will respond passionately.

Interesting. I've never associated shame with something like humiliation. Since I first ever felt something that I called shame it has been to me something I thought was necessary. I experienced it as an important and life changing feeling about bad behavior that I'd executed in the past. And I've thought that when someone says 'shame on you' to someone who is behaving 'shamefully', that is good advice. Someone who has been acting blindly in an awful way should feel shame about their actions. Not forever, but it's a necessary wake up call, and a necessary feeling to experience. But maybe that's just what you call guilt. Feeling guilty seems more like a thoroughly un-useful thing to do to oneself.

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This is very confusing i think. How can we know an action can or will be effective?

You.Are.Extravagant.Beauty

My mom treated me like that :(

Can we get the psychology of bronies?

first! wow!!

Wow my mom is abusive

I think the definition in the intro is a bit off. Can you comfirm this holds true? I found that it's not about who says it that's wrong but what the wrong thing is. You can be guilted by others and you can be shamed by others. You can be guilted by yourself or you can be shamed by yourself.