Dealing with Horrible House Guests That Don’t Know When to Leave 

What Adrienne said about feeling the need to entertain people when they stay over is facts. This is one of the reasons I don’t like people staying over, that pressure

As an African I never enjoyed staying over at people’s houses. Going to your aunts’ house meant you were going to wake up early to clean. Especially as a female, you had to cook and clean, whereas your male cousins would hardly have to do something. I understand that you have to help out as a visitor, but don’t treat me like a maid either.

Loni's story about James was hilarious!! LOL!!

Loni stays playing James on national tv 😂 she don’t have to do him like that 😭

I hate staying at someone's house I can't be myself totally. I prefer a hotel where I have room service and housekeeping

Your husband’s friends staying over for a month? That’s absolutely ridiculous. Do people not have any shame? Lol

Loni's story has me deceased!! 🤣🤣🤣

Adrienne, I feel you. I am not so good at getting into other families' routines. Feeling guilty about the house chores, what if I want a cup of tea at 3 am. What if I want to wake up at 11 am?

I don't mind houseguests IF: I know you, and I have advanced notice. Nothing annoys me more than a family member coming to town, the day of, accompanied by a random person I never met 🙄

I feel you Adrienne, I also don’t like when ppl insist on coming over and you don’t want visitors.

I don't let people get to comfortable with me to the point where they are asking to come or inviting themselves over. My home is my sanctuary, and I am not trying to have people's spirits and nonsense in my home. People can come to your home with clandeistine motives, and I don't have time for that. People get nosey and too familiar.

I like the anonymity and peace of a hotel room over staying as a guest at family since there is an expectation of obligation on either side.

James story is hilarious!! Laughted so hard🤣🤣🤣🤣

A month? So, they don't have a job? 🤔 I wish I could take a month off work and just stay at a friend's mansion for a month lol..

I was trying to understand why this segued into a James story, but I'm so glad it did because it gave me everything that I needed. 🤣

I also hate when I have friends over for the weekend and on Sunday evening people are still hanging around. Like go away, I need to decompress, and prepare for the new week. Why don't people know when to leave? I start planning when to leave as soon as I wake up in someone's house

Kandi has been killing it on her guest co-host rounds the past month. Love her personality.

Kandi: don't talk to me to death 😂😂💯

Nothings worst than being the first of your friends to get their own place 🤦🏾‍♀️ they always want to come over. Same as if you’re the first of your friends to get a car as teenagers,,l everyone always wants a ride somewhere

Loni's impersonation of her man gets me every time 🤣

Garcelle needs a fashion channel cause she looks good on every show! Gonna miss this show so much 😭

Loni is Hilarious 🤣🤣… Gosh im gone miss this show when it ends 😩😩

I don't mind low-maintenance house guests. Meaning I will have food there for you but you have to cook it. You get fresh sheets but if you spill something in them you need to wash them. I will not be entertaining you. Don't bother me after I go in my room for the night, unless you dying or somebody done broke in.

If you're not invited, you're not coming over. Plain and simple. I don't like unwanted guests. I think it's rude to invite yourself into someone’s home. Be polite. I love how animated Loni is with her stories. She is hilarious. Her story about James was great!

James story is hilarious!😂😂😂😂

I don't like sleepover with family homes I'm with Adrienne I like my own space😂

The circumstances are everything!! If someone’s in a pinch and I care about them, family etc. stay as long as you need. If you’re just dropping by to Kiki or want a vacation, you’re not sleeping over lol. I only like guests if it’s for 1 or 2 days and pre-planned months in advance.

I’m 100% like Garcelle. I’m not arguing with anyone and I’m quick to unfollow/unfriend permanently when someone disturbs my peace.

Everyone I know is super respectful as a guest,and I’m happy to use our space like a hotel for our friends. We live in Beverly Hills with a spare bedroom, and hotels are so expensive. I’d love to help my friends be able to travel without worrying about accommodation

James said, “I’m crazy, not stupid!” 🤣

This was a really good segment 😂😂 I’m gonna miss these ladies.

I hate that they canceled the real!

If your a person that wears out your welcome and it has to take that host saying “ alright it’s been fun” for you to leave it’s a problem 😭

I am 56 years old I might gt hurt 😂😂😂

Loni talking about James had me rolling!

James is crazy!😂😂 but he ain't no fool 😂😂

I would never stay at someone's place for their and my own comfort.

Was Adrienne talking about staying with friends? She has mentioned before about always staying with her mom or sister. And a few others before she got her own place.

I thought this was an introvert problem. I definitely went through this before but with my own friends. 😫😅 and its so hard to not come off as an asshole lol and thats so funny about James. I literally cant picture him getting mad at anyone lmao

When you live out of town friends and family will try to use your place as a free vacation spot . Assert boundaries

I honestly don’t even really like having company over to visit, unless it’s close family or close friends. I feel like I have to feed you, let you control the tv, and worst of all entertain you. It would be super awkward with someone staying the night.

You just ignore the message or you have plans, as simple as that. I’m a people pleaser but learned that I needed to put boundaries in place for those “special peeps”because you do feel the pressure to entertain even though they invited themselves over! 🧐🤨 Not only that, we take care of and pay for everything.

I like Kandi. She’s pretty and it feels like we can hang out with her and have a great time 🥰

This video cover so much 🤣🤣🤣. "James, do a breathing exercise"

I would just say, "Hey so glad that you are coming. I'm so busy but let's meet for lunch or brunch or something." If they actually then still ask, say, "I wish I could but my house is such a mess and crowded, but I can point you to some great places to stay." If you have the money, then you can also say, "Oh well I can pay for your hotel/motel stay while you are here if you want." I personally hate having people over because growing up and post that my parents would have everyone come stay in our house. I have had so many things snooped through, used, and destroyed by people I did not even care for.... And my family picked my room to hand out to people because I would decorate it so well in every place we lived. But that my parents love showing off to strangers and fake friends and put family second is another story. So anyway, I also do not stay in anyone's house when I travel now. I would rather not burden another nor be indebted to people when I can pay for my own stay. And if I stay at their house they feel like their family, acquaintances and friends now have a free pass to live with me.

Nah if he drove to the park and got out the car he gotta finish what they started💀he in too deep na 😭

Loni using "the voice" to mimic James. 🤣🤣🤣 that almost took me out

Its good to hear such honestly concerning the feelings about houseguests.

The James story had me CRACKING UPPPP

I don’t have extra bedrooms that aren’t being used for something so theirs no room so that’s how you avoid your house even being an option. I also don’t like staying at anybody’s house that’s not my moms and definitely don’t like staying at his moms house ever!

I feel Adrienne 100%

I liked this episode, lol. Cause EVERYbody is different about the way they handle guests! 😂

I love what kandi brings to the table but anyone else wondering where Jeannie is at? I hope she didn’t leave the show like tamera. I love Jeannie and her energy that she brings to the conversations.

Adrienne is giving me major Leah Remini vibes with this hair and look. ✨

Do not invite me to your house if it is messy, unorganized, or a hoard. Disrespectful!

Garscell looks so beautiful and classy

People know I have a kid so they avoid us 😂

Put them to work!! Great idea!!

Loni story about James lmaooooo omg 😭

James!!!! Nooooo! 😮😲😳😆🤣🤣😂

Maybe it’s me but I just don’t like to stay over at someone’s house when I happen to be on my period that time LOL 🤷🏽‍♀️

I love sleep overs but I guess that fades for some people lol

Adrienne's white dress is the cutest thing! She needs to tell us where she got it from!

I just tell them that they are getting on my nerves and they need to go

Omg Kandi you have two mansions next two each other just have them stay in the other house and you never have to see them if you don’t want to. Also I agree with Kandi everyone isn’t Michelle Obama if you go low I’ll go lower me being the bigger person won’t teach you nothing

It’s called: GET A HOTEL!

Uncle James aint no punk....well...lmao

Love Kandi's shoes

I don't know how this went from bad house guest to James. 🙄😴.

I was put in an awkward position last year, my friend came from overseas knocked on my grill, when I went out she just said 'open the grill'🤔🤔I said why and she just casually said I'm staying by you. I was disappointed and I felt disrespected 😤 and used. She stayed for three days and the worst thing about it she always goes out and eat then come home and sleep. Total shock.

im so opposite i dont like people coming over but i loveeeee spending time staying over my friends and close family !

Omg the james story 🤣🤣🤣

I’m unfollowing you, I’m not gonna deal with this. Givenchy 💀😂😂😂

Not the Givenchy 💀🤚🏼😂

This new generation where people don’t want to talk laugh with family and friends stay with them it’s just not it! what is wrong with communication talking over breakfast having sleepovers ,like I really don’t understand this new generation everything is bad and negative.

It’s common in Norway to spend weekend at someone’s house when visiting someone who lives far away from you. This can be really nice IF no one overspends their welcome, and the guest shows gratitude, is wiling to partake economically and help out with everyday chores etc. I live in rather small apartment with two female flatmates. We are all students with exams and such to concider, so when someone wants to stay over we really have to check in and make sure all three are okay with it. I’ll usually be okay with short time visitors, but there is a difference between when I am the one hosting vs. when my flatmates are the ones responsible for the guest. If my flatmates are the ones responsible, I usually won’t mind having a guest over a few nights, and I don’t really mind being the host as long as it doesn’t crash with the times when I’m the busiest. We live in the capital, and I have several friends who lives elsewhere but take on gigs here from time to time. Some of them only need to spend a night or two, which is usually fine (- They just need a couch to crash on and not much attention from us otherwise,) but we’ve had people stay for a month and that was a lot.. Also, certain people are much easier to house than others: like what A said about there being people whom you feel like you have to entertain and do every single thing with and for them, whilst others are very autonomous. Some guests buy their own food and clean their dishes etc, whilst others truly act like they’re staying at a hotel. We had this one guest who stayed with us for several weeks without ever buying any groceries. The reason this felt a bit economically invasive is because all three of us who live in this apartment are students, whilst SHE was staying with us to WORK without having to spend money rent a place. It felt a bit like the “You give an inch and they take a mile”-situation. If the roles were reversed, and I the one working and in a stronger financial situates than her, I wouldn’t have minded it. But it made me realize how important it is to not take blessings and peoples kindness for granted, and to be aware of others circumstances. Another guest I had: He came over in the evening and i set up a bed from him in the living room. I understood that he hadn’t brought any food for breakfast (which was perfectly fine since he was only staying one night) and told him where the different foods are and that he can take whatever he needs in the morning (because I like sleeping in and wont wake up to cook for this grown man. Also: this guy had been at out place several times before. ) I woke up at 11:30, and this man had been awake and hungry since 07:30 without eating anything. I felt guilty,, even though I had warned him that he would have to make his own breakfast. Whenever this person stays over, I know now that I’ll be responsible from his meals and to entertain him, because he’s shy and awkward, and wont dare to do anything on his own. He is someone whom I can’t have staying over when I can’t make time to take care of him. So the lesson is: As a guest, show consideration and gratitude. If you stay for several nights, be even more considerate: offer to split bills or pay for groceries if you can, try to help out with chores where you can. At the very least be autonomous enough to be able to make yourself a meal and not be totally reliant on the host - cuz she ain’t your mama. Also, I know some people can be reluctant to take others food because they want to be considerate (which is actually very sweet), and in those situations it can be wise to bring a little something: Either a snack for yourself to munch on when hungry or something that you bring to the household so that you don’t just “take” their food but you are also contributing. But if you’re hungry and someone tells you that you can take some food, it really is okay to do so, (as long as you don’t go bananas or literally steal from them.)

James walked right back into that truck 😂

Dang, well when I didn't have kids I'd always go visit my siblings from out of town. And I'd stay with them, never thinking twice about it. Now that I'm married with kids, I'd feel like it's too much. I guess I should had been more respectful, and asked. I'm the youngest and I'd assume I'd always have a place to call home when I visit family.

Unwanted guests? Absolutely NOT. I also have rules. IF you are invited, you can't stay for more than 3 days AND you have to be tested for covid. That's just to be able to sleep here. There are more rules once you are allowed. Lol. If that doesn't sound appealing, go to a hotel ✌🏼

Im not a houseguest (i like my privacy) but i love my culture for its houseguest culture excluding the extremes. We dont charge people etc

Yeah, I stayed at a friend's family house for a couple of days during a hurricane watch. I ate all the meals with them and even made conversation with them and I then chilled in the room they gave me because I'm an introvert. Then my friend came at me like you need to apologize to my parents because they are offended. I was like seriously? I then sat uncomfortably with the family, but I refused to apologize cause now you made me uncomfortable when you're the one that invited me over and it's the way you went about it. How about knocking on my door and saying, " Hey the kids are playing a game, would you like to join?" that would be less awkward than you sending your son over to tell me your offend cause I'm not hanging out with you. I'm still cool with the mom, but yeah never sleeping over there again next hurricane watch I'll just stay home lol

Adrienne looks so pretty with her hair like that.

I am in love with Kandi

That story about James SENT me!

Loni 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 oh James

Jameeeeeeessssssssss! 😂 😂 😂 😂. That was very funny! Thanks for making me laugh today Loni! 💕

There's no place for anyone to stay at my house. I don't entertain anyway. I don't have that problem.

James said he out here in these streets come see about him!

I can see Loni being that person dropping in .

I hate having people stay over at the house specially my nieces and nephews they trash up the house and they are very loud and annoying it’s not even my house I’m ready to have my own place I don’t want people staying over at my house not even a month like i am a person who doesn’t like living with people who are messy

Kandi and the lady who said Todd was on the come up. Kandi gave her a thorough finishing

I wonder now if Todd friends/family are going to want to stay the night anymore😳

James bless him

how can I find the way out of this troublesome situation...✈️

😂 that James story

A month is ridiculous! I see a week, a month...get a hotel..

I love my Birthday tiwn kandi ♉️👑❤️❤️❤️🎉🎊💯🤣

🤣 taking away James street cred with that story poor man going to get squared up more often now

Arg man poor James 😂😂😂😂.

I know 2 or 3 or maybe 4 folks like this who take your kindness for granted. 😂 I ain’t gonna mention no name’s. I will say though that if i stay at your house, I’m going to help keep thing’s clean and maybe help cook and clean. Like yo, if you staying for more then a couple day’s the pick up a broom or a rag.