I had this teacher in school, who wasn't muslim, but, subhanallah, he was one of the most righteous people I ever met in person. That teacher used to say that he used to *hate* his father so much when he was a kid, because his father would never punish him for anything, His father would just look him in the eyes and tell him "You did wrong. I'm so disappointed in you." And that would feel worse than any physical punishment.
that was lucky cos our kids ,if u don't punish them,will never realise ,still parents try their best and some of the children are terrible.may Allah guide our children
This is such good information. As a child, because we were punished for everything, I began my lying conquest. I had to lie to get jobs when on my own a 15 years old. I lied so much, I began to think that I was actually 18!!! Crazy but true. Then when I actually became a Muslim at 18, I had to start praying to Allah SWT to help me not lie anymore because it was my way of saving face for myself. Allah SWT has been so merciful. The more I studied I actually had to decide what truth to tell. Since I did not have much practice with that, Allah SWT graciously blessed me with balance. Lying is no longer a problem after all these years, however,it was a challenge not to say something that was small in nature, but was not the truth in the early years of speaking the truth. Alhamdullilah for liberation from disbelief to Islam.Islam saved my life.
This is great advice from Ustad Nouman. I never thought like this. I just want to add that if parents do it themselves i.e. they don't lie, they don't say bad things about other people, they don't get very angry, they respect their own parents etc. then it will be easy for children to learn and do the right thing. Sometimes parents themselves do bad things but beat children when they do the same bad thing. And children cannot understand why it is ok for mom/dad but they can't do it. May Allah (swt) help me follow my own advice and also help others, ameen.
JazakAllahKhair. In my opinion what is more important is that we don't constantly test our children. What I mean is whenever we know that a child did something wrong. DO NOT ask him if they did something wrong. Explain to them why it is wrong and if they would like it if that was done to them etc....... Don't give them the opportunity to lie in the first place because then they will get more and more used to it and more and more better at it. Of course if you've been always testing your child and accusing them of lying(which you should never do either) then its going to take much longer and much more patience to go back the right way but its never too late. Muhammad (saw) never embarrassed anyone of the general public or family or friends by testing them or saying what they had done in front of others. He always brought up the subject in a story or in an indirect way to teach them so that their mind is their guide and not the fear of the parents. May Allah swt help us all and keep us on the right track.
أدعوا الله رب البيت العتيق . . أن يخرجك ِ من حلق الضيق . . إلى سعة الطريق . . بفرج من عنده قريب وثيق . . و يكشف عنك كل شدة و ضيق . . و يكفيك من السوء و الأذى ما تطيق و ما لا تطيق . .
If you tell your child that you trust and believe them when you really don’t and when you really know they did something, then you are also lying. The best way to to notify them that you know, but assure there is no harsh punishment for it. Then they build trust in you and are subsequently less likely to lie. But I would never advise to lie to your kid by telling them you believe them when you know otherwise. Then it’s circular and they feel they got away with it. Allahu alam.
Nah. This one is hard. So, brother/sister after 5 years, did you get any good answer? I've been encountered with liars and one thing, lying is already in their blood.
you cant change the adults, because they have already learnt how to lie throughout their life, ie as a child. They can only change themselves or if they dont, then they will have to carry this burden on the day of judgement.
i love how you start off these videos about how kids lie when the harsh reality is parents also lie, and like to their families. i want to know how to cope with that
My father would beat me up one day for skipping school. Then he finds me in the library the next time skipping classes and all i could think of is " ya Allah. Save me". When we arrive at hope he just tells me to do chores and all am thinking is " it's coming anytime soon" by the time i finish all the chores he just ignores me like it never happened. It's real messes me up psychologically because I didn't get punished and barely dodged a bullet. Ever since that day I never skipped classes.
how do you cope with elderly family members who lie? especially if unfortunately you have to point it out to them? and they still don't acknowlege they lied? I ask because when family lies it tears relationships apart very quickly?
“Woe to the Arabs from an evil that has approached.” This sentence is part of a Hadith related by Al-Bukhari in his Sahih (authentic) Book of Hadith, Kitab Al-Fitan (Book of Trials), Chapter on (the Prophet’s statement: “Woe to the Arabs from an evil that has approached.” The Hadith is as follows: It was narrated on the authority of Malik ibn Isma`il from Ibn `Uyaynah from Al-Zuhry from `Urwah from Zaynab bint Um Salamah from Um Habibah from Zaynab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her) that she said: The Prophet (peace be upon him) got up from his sleep with a flushed red face and was saying, “La ilaha illa Allah (there is no one worthy of worship but Allah). Woe to the Arabs from an evil that has approached! Today a hole this big has been opened in the barrier of Ya'juj and Ma'juj (Gog and Magog)” (Sufyan made a circle with his thumb and forefinger to illustrate this). It was asked, “Shall we be destroyed even though there are righteous people among us?” He said, “Yes, if evil becomes widespread.” May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions. Say this at the end of every prayer (before "as salaamu alaykum") to be safe from meeting the dajjal : وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "إذا تشهد أحدكم فليستعذ بالله من أربع، يقول: اللهم إني أعوذ بك من عذاب جهنم، ومن عذاب القبر ومن فتنة المحيا والممات، ومن شر فتنة المسيح الدجال" ((رواه مسلم)). Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "When anyone of you has done his Tashahhud during Salat (prayer), he should seek refuge in Allah against four things and say: "Allahumma inni a'udhu bika min 'adhabi jahannam, wa min 'adhabil-qabr, wa min fitnatil-mahya wal-mamat, wa min sharri fitnatil-masihid-dajjal (O Allah! I seek refuge in You from the torment of Hell, from the torment of the grave, from the trials of life and death, and from the mischief of Al-Masih Ad-Dajjal (Antichrist)." [Muslim].
Assalamualaikum. What's this background music? Are we in a church? Did our prophet (SAW) when he was explaining something he had a background music with him?
I agree with most of everything said but I do have to disagree with pretending to hit the other child to entertain the other, it really really teaches the wrong message, hitting is not a funny or entertaining thing, I was severely abused as a child and can not see the fun in it. Please understand I am in no way rigid I have a great sense of humor but I truly believe we should teach our children to love one another from a very early age and NOT want to see the other punished wa Allahu Alim
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 My parents used to do this all the time. I'd run back crying being like. I DID IT REALLY SORRY MAMA & BABA Now I've never told a big lie to my parents. Just little things like. Yea I washed my plate when they really know I didnt
I am an compulsive liar. I know It's wrong and I feel sorry. But I cannot seem to stop. Why? I have mental health issues. Will God punish sick or blind people? I wish I could stop this but It's not that easy..
My friend lied to me again and again , should I stop forgiving him. Or should I tell him when he lie, he stammer or sound a little suffocation in his word. What should I do? Please advice..
that is a nice teaching in the western mindset i like it,but here in middle east where i work my boss is a saudi,he can lie everyday, and he's a very nice person, but he can lie, is that normal? i think it's normal to them.
if we analyse the video,he is solving a problem according to what man is doing,you cannot stop man from sinning, i have find out that God is stopping us from sinning inside our heart and mind, he said if you think that your brother a fool your sinning of murder, and if you lust in a woman in your heart your sinning of adultery, God cut it from the core, i have to study more,
JazakAllah khier i just remember my childhood punishments for lying and my crimepartner was my little brother thats why my mother slapped me more cause she thought i was his mastermind and my elder sister was our spy😃
I also wants to stop lying ....but it's nt psbl for me ...i lied in flow just for proving my point is ryt ....what shuld i do ...i m lying without any purpose bs ho jata h😐
43 Why do you not understand what I am saying? It is because you cannot hear My word. 44 You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies. 45 But because I speak the truth, you do not believe Me. 46 Which one of you convicts Me of sin? If I speak truth, why do you not believe Me? 47 He who is of God hears the words of God; for this reason you do not hear them, because you are not of God." (John 8:43 - 47, NASB)
Personally, I don't agree with the advice of letting the child get away with it. There is a real risk that it will set a precedent for the next time that they lie.
I am a Christian from a Christian country in Africa, I traveled abroad I met a wife and husband from Senegal 🇸🇳, they pray and the woman covers 24/7. But these people can lie too much, ad steal, especially the covering wife, honestly they made me doubt Islam, because I was so disappointed, they take money from people, and they never pay back anyone, so evil 😈. So I need someone to talk maybe directly to them, but I don't know who and how to get the person. It's too much
Johnson Crane Islam is not the behavior of one person or a group of people. Islam is in the Qur'an. I've also been in Sénégal, and all I can say to you is that it is a beautiful place with lots of nice and caring people, but also with many liars and people who want to take advantage of you (not judging, this is from my experience). Just keep your eyes open over there.
I have been brought up man children. This advice aahhh I am not so sure there is a fine balance that must be maintained throughout their lives. I have seen children who are grown up that lies in front of parents and the parents obviously know their childrens personalities will covered up their lies in plain sight!
Assalamualaikum,, just want to ask if was it permissible if your husband keeps on denying you infront of other people that i was only her gf,, eventhough wer married, was there any punishment in denying you spouse? thankyou so much and ma ssalam
islam says its ok to lie in war.. can it be taken metaphorically.. these days we have wars with other people in the sense if someone's our enemy.. or if someone is sinning, or sinning against us.. I really need to know..
