Dealing With Our Post Partum Depression 

Jamie很幸运，家人和老公的陪伴真的很重要，我在生产不到一个月我的先生已经离开人世，那时我和宝宝还在做月期间，我一个人面对很多事情，产后抑郁真的很可怕，我的忧郁症拉很长的时间才康复，到小孩9岁才慢慢好转，所以我知道那个病症的恐怖，服用药物变成依赖，没有吃药我就开始做一些伤害自己的行为，还好遇到我的闺蜜陪伴，我在从病魔里走出来，加油每一个新手妈妈都会遇到的问题，最重要还是自己要去克服困难

我家第一胎很意外的被告知是唐氏儿时，我最担心的就是太太，怕会得到产后忧郁症。为了让她能够好好的接受现实，我辞了原本的工作，成为全职奶爸。特殊儿的幼儿期是很辛苦且挑战的，所以那种辛苦，彷徨我能够深深的感同身受，只能说加油，世界不是末日。

辛苦你们了！从新手妈妈的角度来看，感觉J-Mie会很庆幸遇到uncle Curtis是愿意和她一起面对和克服产后抑郁的人，而不是逃避问题的丈夫。这样的男生真的很难遇到的呢！你们要加油啊！

Jamie is so lucky to have Curtis's support in her difficult time. Continue to have open communication and it will strengthen your relationship more. It's not easy being a new parent so by having alone time is actually a good recharged time. Good support from your love ones is needed but be reminded it should goes two ways. Curtis need the support too. Thanks for sharing this.

JーMie 幸虧你有一個好先生，能夠理解你，這是每個新媽媽都要歷經的過程，我也經歷過，甚至那個時候還想把兒子從樓上丟下去… 還好沒有！😂我嫁到國外，什麼都一個人，先生也幫不了，小孩睡了，要做家事，小孩醒來要一直抱，－放就哭，沒有人幫我，真的經神上，肉體上無比通苦，這段期間 12:01 熬過，等小孩大一點，你就會比較好了，這時回想，辛苦都忘了，不知道自己是怎麼熬過來，加油你可以的，周邊有那麼愛你的人們，你會挺過去的！不要想太多，日子一天天的過去，這樣會對自己比較好過，累了就請先生，父母幫，休息一下下！

你好棒！jmie很幸运遇到你这样包容，体谅，有担当的丈夫，祝福你们未来一切顺遂。 你们的故事，让我想起了某人，妻子刚刚生产后，希望得到丈夫更多陪伴与照顾，但是丈夫却说不要以为妳生孩子有什么了不起的，很多女人都是这样结婚生子的，这是很平常的事而已😢。。。 很高兴看到你那么体谅jmie的心情与感受。果然，好男人都是别人的丈夫啊😂 相信爱能克服一切困难，好好珍惜彼此哦

庆幸的是J-Mie 找到自己放松的方法 也庆幸的是身边有个懂你体谅你的人 加油💪两位一定可以一起共度这些艰难的时刻☺️

我很理解那種感覺真的真的很痛苦情緒非常差非常負能量不過這一切都是過程而已熬過去真的什麼事都沒有了，堅持再堅持多陪陪老婆聊天這很重要⋯加油啊大家一起加油💪💪

很庆幸 很羡慕jmie 有你这样的老公 真的不是每个男人都会陪老婆经历这段 真的真的非常辛苦 而且不由自主 自己会哭 希望jmie做一个快乐的妈妈 为母则强！坚持下去 妈妈快乐 孩子才会快乐 加油💪

天下没人可以质疑一位母亲是否做的称职，因为母爱真的很伟大，老公也要感谢太太愿意说出自己的感受❤

非常能感同深受，我生第一胎時也是嚴重產後憂鬱。 我的公婆當初信誓旦旦說他們很會煮月子餐，所以我在家坐月子，沒去月中也沒訂月餐，誰知後來30天每天早餐一顆白饅頭、中餐一晚黃湯麵、晚餐便當，吃完還得馬上被催促去擠奶，奶量不足還被酸、現在想起都是噩夢… 老公的陪伴與支持真的很重要，祝福你們希望一切都好，加油。

我也是個媽媽～說真的如果孩子不在預期內懷到～因為未知與恐懼以及突然沒有自己的時間～確實會有憂鬱症～縱使我們真的非常愛孩子也一樣 我第一胎和Jamie類似～我可能更嚴重～當孩子哭不停～甚至想丟掉小孩～ 第二胎就是在規畫內～完全沒問題～孩子如何哭都影響不到我的心情 Jamie加油～這段時間隨著孩子一天天長大～會過去的 如果可以～讓媽媽跟閨蜜去喝喝咖啡～甚至兩天一夜的度假～ 把奶都準備好～爸爸就辛苦一點 Jamie也要相信孩子會被照顧得很好～不要孩子的事都認為自己需要一肩扛起～ 你很幸福～比起單親媽媽～我們是有幫手的～而且這個幫手絕對全心全意照顧寶貝孩子 加油喔～

加油！ 我也是今年孩子才出生 我也经历了短暂的 产后忧郁😢 和家人说的时候他们不解 和他们说当我有有独处的时间 例如 洗澡我会洗特别久 或者吃饭 我会吃特别久 因为这样我就不用面对宝宝 宝宝哭的时候我会很烦躁 每一天都觉得很生气 是真的控制不住的生气 家人都不理解 唯有老公 老公这时候会很耐心的陪我 一整个坐月都在家里陪着我 当你有一个理解你的人陪着你的一起度过 是真的很快会好起来的 加油J-Mie！ ❤❤❤

加油 jamie 💪💪 我觉得你很勇敢了， 生产，covid ， denggue 等等的突发事情 ， 你都可以走过来， 换成是我都不行了 。 多找时间来独自一人享受， 私人空间，会不一样的。 我相信你可以克服的， 加油哦 。。 太喜欢你们的video了 ， 蛮有爱的， 笑容很好， 很温馨 。。祝福你们和家人，健康平安 ， 最后 冬至快乐

I had severe depression and anxiety before. It took me to a psychologist & physiatrist. The way you guys did was correct. This is one of the ways to cure. Now I have come back better and stronger. I hope you guys too.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ 很高兴你们愿意一起克服这些种种困难～太开心了🎉 Jmie你很幸福，当妈妈真的很不容易～你值得被这样的疼爱❤❤ Curtis你也是很棒！新手爸爸同样不容易，因为也要照顾到妻子的情绪。很多男生不会注意到这样的细节，感谢神帮助你们克服了这些困境～🎉

恭喜你们成功跨过成为新手爸妈的第一道关卡！互相包容两人的身心灵的变化、良好的沟通、还有即时觉察和调整自己的状态，你们真的太棒了！ 加油加油加油哦！你们一定会越来越好的！ 如果有需要也可以寻求专业的辅导员或者上辅导课程。相信这些都会对你们有很大的帮助

It's great to hear that both of you have found a way to get things right and to get happy again while facing all the stressors and challenges. Just want to add something, postmortem depression doesn't only happen on first-hand mummies. But, the risks of having postmortem depression are even higher for mummies who give birth to their second child as they would need to take care of their first child at the same time. So do not overlook the mental health of all mummies by assuming they would have able to handle everything by themselves as they already have experience giving birth and taking care of their child.

Hi Curtis and J-Mie, congrats on being the wonderful parents to CJ… it’s a blessing for 3 of you. Thank you for your courage to share so others may learn the strategies you used. Continue to Love each other and be together. One United Heart and Mind will help you through the tough times. May you be blessed always.

我边看边哭，感同身受，我也刚从这种情绪熬过来了，宝宝目前一岁四个月了，一切都过去了😊😊😊。加油你可以的

辛苦了你們，新手爸媽真的需要時間來適應身份的轉變，適當的請親友或是保姆幫忙帶小孩，讓你們有自己自由的時間，這點非常重要👍🏻 尤其是新生兒6個月內還無法睡過夜，爸媽身心都會很疲憊😢 也不用太強求一定要餵母奶，只要寶寶喝飽，其實嬰兒奶粉就夠了！現在的奶粉營養成份都很夠！ 這樣可以讓媽媽壓力不會這麼大！ 時常關懷媽媽有沒有什麼需求，會讓她心情愉悅，覺得她有被關心了，而不是只注重在寶寶身上❤

加油💪，新手爸爸媽媽都辛苦了，兩夫妻成為一個team一定可以面對所有的問題且解決它。

这是初为人父母必须也都会经历发过程，我是过来人，我现在已是为人奶奶，我只想要说jimmy 尽量要放松自己，你很lucky有一个这么棒这么理解你的老公，现在网络这么发达，可以找一些这方面的质料开解自己，我的年代没有网络，经济条件也无法负担心理医生，我的年代也没有所謂的心理医生，老公也不会体贴，家婆是更老一代的妇女，我一个人黙黙承受这一切压力，但我最终挺了过来，因为母爱的天性和动力，现在我儿子都比你们大了，所以要加油，日子会越来越顺畅，孩子一天天大，越来越可爱，祝福你们幸福加油💪

Jamie, you did a good job coping with everything you faced for the past few months. It must be hard for you to have to deal with all these, feeling demotivated and not loved. As what I conclude from this video, I believe that Curtis will always love you like how he used to, regardless the changes on your appearance/ mood swings. You both did a great job dealing with such a hard situation. it's never going to be easy to have a child, let alone a newborn baby. All the best to the both of you, and I hope you guys find joy in everything especially during bad times.

Very common issue as new mom I also suffered from it. Thank you for talking about post-partum depression. Life is full of surprise good and bad but the overcome is always positive. Women are wonderful and we are super mom in our way don’t put pressure on ourself.

Jia you Jmie and Curtis! I am also having a newborn of 3mth old and can relate to the emotion Jmie is feeling. Thanks for opening up and spreading the awareness of post partum depression. We shall have faith that things are just getting better!

加油，J-mie and Curtis! Hope both of you be stronger and everything will be go smooth as what you wish. Cheers

辛苦的过程🥺❤️最近也因为认识到有抑郁症的朋友才开始吸收更多的抑郁知识。所以买了一本书，有写到一个同样有产后抑郁症故事（真人真事）🥺，很心疼不过从中得到的知识是，可以让自己做一些自己喜欢的事情，或者是能让自己感觉到轻松的事，转移自己的注意力❤️ 先生的关心和支持也很重要，加油🌼给个抱抱❤️

加油，加油。 我太太当初也是有这些忧虑。 我就尽力分担我能做的。 让她有自己的时间空间和解压。 GOD bless you and family 💕

加油！毕竟都是需要自己调整心态，老公只能陪伴，体谅与了解

Curtis好貼心，會站在Jamie角度感受, 好sweet的couple ❤️

Curtis, actually a good husband, cherishes and loves each other, seeks more fun, goes to church is a good direction, prays more, and seeks God's grace, mercy and help. Bless you all, as the baby grows up, everything will get better, and I will pray for you.❤❤🙏

I had this as well, even till my baby is 7mo and I keep complaining to my husband on why the babysitter do this or do that. I wanted everything to go MY WAY. But then I came to this phrase saying “child is not ours, we are just the one who brings them to the world”. I start to put down a lot of these “SOP” or “principles” and feel more relax. And ya, mummy still need own me time. Being a mum doesn’t mean we have to put all our time to our children. It might make things worse like mummy lost her own self, and start to put lots of expectation on children. When the child doesn’t meet up to our expectations, we start to put more stress on them and ourselves too. And both of you are lucky that you can communicate well. That’s really the key to all the problems. And it brings the family together and stronger. Love you guys and enjoy your parenthood. It will be fun if you know the right way. 😁

你們很棒！所有人都是在寶寶出生後才開始學習如何做好父母的工作！ 放鬆心情，好好照顧自己和家人，你們將會發現，隨著孩子成長，你們也彷彿又重新回到自己的童年回憶裡喔！ 盡情享受這段家人親密相處時光❤

办法总比问题多，只要坚持不要放弃。能遇上有责任有担当的另一半，这才称得上幸福的婚姻。

It is great that you guys found the way to overcome together. Jamie, you are a gorgeous woman always! Be proud with yourself and be the wonderful you! ❤

没事 过后就好了 给自己两年的时间 这都是过渡期。加油，最重要爸爸陪着 爸爸帮忙。爸爸是扮演着最重要的角色。我也是因为有很爱我很爱我的先生陪我度过这一切。现在孩子4岁了。我很感恩，我老公很棒。

當媽媽兩年多了，，的確現在回想起剛剛開始的時候著真的好累好慘！！如果能自己踏出來休息一下，從媽媽這個身份偶爾請假一下。如果母乳太辛苦也休息一下，我當時混合著。。。。happy mommy,happy baby!!媽媽這個角色好難啊！不過也很幸福！！第一次當爸爸媽媽我們好好適應，也要好好照顧自己！！一起努力！

Me time for mummies is very important. I really appreciate that my hubby for stepping up and doing all the feeding and taking care while I get my me time! 加油！

Curtis n Jmie. You guys are doing the best you can for your family. Thanks for sharing your latest status and feeling. 辛苦了。

It's kinda common to have post partum depression due to the drastic dropped of hormone which was super high during pregnancy. However, alot more external factors could worsen the condition. So it is normal. Dont be worry coz Curtis is a wonderful and supportive husband

I’m not a mom but was diagnosed with minor depression few years before. It will come back once a year before then slowly get better. What doctor said is healthy lifestyle-exercise do help a lot to get away from depression. Workout have been my routine. So do consider it, everyone need exercise for good health inside out.

辛苦了！加油啦！祝福你們天主保佑平安健康喜樂。

My favourite couple! ❤ thank you for being such an inspiration always. @Jmie, sooo glad you’re doing well again 🫶🏼✨

Take it easy. Stay strong J-mie and try to enjoy every moment ~ It will only get better and easier :)

❤❤❤很棒的分享❤❤❤

慢慢会越来越好的。。上帝祝福你们。。愿你们合家平安喜乐，生活美满幸福🙏💪💪💪

偉大的媽媽🥹之前的情緒過去了，沒事了，會越來越好的❤ 應該不是團隊，是家人吧😂😄

噢噢噢噢，这就是你们人生要经理的人生功课！这课业经历很难，可是过了就ok了！加油不要放弃，学会了下次不用再体验这人生课业了。

Come on Jamie！ You are so pretty, you have nice skin and a beautiful smile. Merry Christmas and hope you feel better soon! 🤗 hug~

加油!Love the way you guys see these and communicate , plan and resolve

🫂加油❤

Take it easy and dun stress , everything will be fine , friends and family support is very helpful,try to relax urself mrs fu ,💪 add oil

thank you for sharing. Yes spending 'me' time is very important. Be encouraged and jia you!! Praying for u guys

Keeping u and Jamie in my prayers. May God give you the peace that guards your hearts and surpasses all understanding :)

大家都说jmie会很庆幸有这样体贴的老公。但我想说的是，我倒觉得，是因为Jmie发掘出来的。 所以，jmie，不要小看自己的能力。因为有你，才会有这样的体贴的老公。也因有他，才会有了解这世间的美好的机会。 大家都是互相扶持，一关过一关的。人生，就是这样。如果累了，就喝杯咖啡。当然，如果老公也想有me time，大家也是可以互相配合啦。 辛苦了两位爸爸妈妈。加油。 **我孩子可是从鬼门关爬回来的小孩。所以，你们已经很好了😝

又堅韌又脆弱的狀況會讓人崩潰，但是正因為你們願意耐心溝通，相信未來會越來越順利的。祝你們還有寶寶健康快樂！

雖然我还不是妈妈不能明白當媽的壓力..可是還是希望J-mie能加油，有什麼事要和老公說別自個躲起來哭。會過去的…💪🏼🌈

保护好自己，在脆弱的时候，最痛的是在乎的人的“攻击”, 我那时也是，还没爬起来，另一波又来，只能等之后稳了，休息好了，还你一个能笑的老婆。她也是超级努力着了。

I guess hearing from your story Jamie indeed isn't emotional ready for the baby but she has to now because that what's parents do. Having two helpers and a great husband around but still depress... imagine our parents time when they had no maid + husband busy working till late night and have no time for depression. Time has changed. Hope both of you will get better over time and the baby will bring smile in Jamie rather than tears

J-Mie, stay strong 💪🏻 my dear❤️ Definitely women need times to recover after birth and the total change of being a new mom is not easy. I have gone through the depression after giving birth too, you are indeed very lucky to have very supportive hubby and your family members. Most importantly your are healthy and your family are healthy. Slowly but surely you will be very expert in handling all the new normal in your life. Love you J-Mie ❤

Look after each other. Everything will be fine. Cheers. ❤️

I'm not a fan of yours,but every now and then I watch your videos, I hope you and your wife can get back on track soon and feel better. Send warming hugs and good thoughts to you.🙏🧡🙏🧡God blass.

加油哦 ⛽️！！ 永远支持你们！😊😊

It’s never easy to face life changing events, especially when everything happens at the same time 🙏🏻 Take care

It is good that this thought/feeling is expressed through a husband. Because most men do not understand, not to mention to empathise, then get intolerable with wives' behavioural change. The understanding (not just mere love) is important. Understand the reason of the change and is able to empathise. Hormone change effect is no joke. Yes, both baby and mommy (wife) need the love/care/关怀。 不要把重心都驻在小孩上，而忽略了妈妈。 没有妈妈，何来小孩? But mommies, do not ignore daddies' postpartum depression too. We are a team. Up or down, we go tru together - powerful comfort.

Keep it up. Make our life full of happiness and trust.You are great.

夫妻能一起面對產後憂鬱症真的很棒！我的產後憂鬱只能自己幫自己走出來，甚至更糟糕變成了憂鬱症😅

辛苦了，可以嘗試medical medium安東尼書裡的建議，幾百萬人從spirit of compassion 的資訊好起來，產後憂鬱或是各種身體慢性症狀，希望對你們有幫助😊

宝宝的前三个月就是很容易让妈妈崩溃 后面会越来越好的！加油！

I am considered lucky, I have overcome the postpartum depression within 2 months, I know I am depressed, I know my hb my family is care about me, I just try to recover be positive be active, I start to work after 2 months I delivered, I start to find something to do like going out of house, having a walk, eat something I have craving since pregnant, all this help

Everyone need time off or day off, especially new couples, n arrange a good bonding time individual and more personal time to evaluate your health , your mindset .

Jmie需要中医调理，忧郁症是身体出问题影响情绪，我是过来人，幸好遇到很好的一位中医师才找回健康

加油 媽媽真的辛苦也真的很棒❤

当孩子出来了，才是真正的辛苦。

加油！新手爸妈刚起步真的很不容易！

Thanks for sharing your situation. I wonder if part of it is the side effects of covid. ... Do live in the moment. Think and worry BUT dont over think and over worry. I find taking 5 mins. To say thanks super helpful. 💖💖

加油 Curtis and Jmie❤

加油❤️

Positive mind, jiayou Jamie 💪💪💪

祝福你们 会一直支持 不管好的坏的 谢谢你们愿意分享 并真心祝福 2023更幸福

Hallo totally understand what happening there. I been through the same situation twice. Love, accompany and support is very important for her now. If thing doesn't turn better, get some advice from doctor. Me n my wife go through these after getting advice from doctor and took some mediation. The medicine is mainly to stabilise the hormon and let her be able to rest better and really help alot. Cos doctor said the hormon already take control of her... So is not that she doesn't wanna sleep, is not that she doesn't wanna eat and cheer up... Is the hormon that make her like that. So I strongly advice if thing doesn't get better soon, just speak to doctor and I'm sure that help alot. Life after getting baby will definitely diff. That's what I told others life after marry is just normal, ntg much change until u get a baby. That's the true challenges for a couple. But don't worry I'm sure u will get through all this. Just be patient cos definitely need times to adjust and adapt. Just need more, love, communication and some sacrifice. Like I use to go mountain biking more often before the baby n now only max twice per week. We use to go cinema, go for a coffee time anytime we want. Go holiday, having our sweet time only us. After baby all this have to be adjusted. Once u adapted to it, u will never get bc to the old time again. That's what happen to me. Now like if u want me to go holiday without my kids, I will miss them so much. So used to see them around although my son gv me lots of problems😂 but is just weird,u feel strange without them hanging around u. So just be more patient, more communication, some sacrifice and lots n lots of love. I'm sure u so sweet couple will go through this for sure😁 Accept, Adapt and Change😁

Actually if you compare her for the past months and after birth ..she look great ..guess she is healing ...

J-Mie加油，要幸福快乐❤

如果不是看到这个视频，平时偶尔看Jmie和Curtis的Story真的不知道Jmie 正经历产后抑郁，还经历了蚊症，内心真的好强大才能度过这段时间吧，幸运的是两人还可以一起去解决和理解对方，共同努力。谢谢你们的分享，也蛮喜欢听Curtis用英语说的，正好可以学学英文。影片里提到当孩子出世时，大家都忽略了妈妈，只关注孩子，这是真的，之前读心理学，老师也说大家应该多给与妈妈一些关爱，其实除了妈妈和孩子，给与孩子爸爸关爱也是很重要的，因为爸爸也是一样有着照顾孩子和妈妈的压力，但很多人都会忽视，希望你们也都好好的，先把自己照顾好，才能照顾好别人。加油！

这时候她更需要丈夫的支持，你需要更加包容才能帮助到你太太走出忧郁症的情况。加油

Thank you Curtis for your sharing

Jamie, you are the "BEST" and you are still gorgeous :*

J-Mie，慢慢来，这是一个转变的过程，你现正在成为一个全新的自己。我虽然没生过孩子，但是之前也确症过新冠，症状比别人还要辛苦，痊愈后身体很弱，对一切都不感兴趣没有热诚，只想听感性的音乐一个人独自流泪。我想除了心理疏导，或许有机会也可以去找你们当地中医师好好地慢慢地调理大病后的身体，身体健康改善了在一定程度上对一个人的心情是有很大的帮助的。因为我自己也是中医师😂我也会依靠他医师帮我治病，吃药看病也是一个疗愈的过程，希望我的建议对你们有帮助。

It hurts me to see Jamie so sad. She used to be so happy and cheerful and always laughing. Now she’s like a different person 😢 Hope she gets well soon!

很多產後憂鬱的媽媽是必需獨自吞掉這種負面情緒的，不是所有的人都能理解妳，包括另一半。 真的是苦撐過來

产后抑郁症不是开玩笑，我自己也经历过。当有这个情况时，很多人都会说一段时间就会好，一段时间就会好。对于有产后忧郁症的人来说，一段时间是多长？多久？没有人会给出一个准确的答案。这个时候真的很需要各方面的体谅、陪伴和聆听。我很幸运我走出来了，希望Jamie也能快点走出来，变回以前那个爱笑的女生。

Now the place i staying also mouldy & kitchen with some rooms is almost all the time is in dark, don't have sunlight!!!! Felt so bad because can't move away again, force to stuck in this place till old.

辛苦你们了 加油哦 :)

Body stress, medical treatment also lead to many side effects n recovery problems. Yes, is the ‘Blue” will takes 2yrs to recover….生孩子就是大工程。 男人，你要忍哦。 arrange daily schedule， 妈妈需要attend class , set right expectations everyday….有做到最基本的就可以了。

你们辛苦了

加油!!!!

Omg really the power of cafe time ☕🍰🎂🥤

加油💪🏻💪🏻

你們要幸福。