DEALING WITH REJECTION | TMI Podcast KE | Episode 27 

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I always tell myself, 'So much has been given to me to dwell on that which has been denied.'

Am a private person but today lemme TMI coz this one touches a nerve . My story in summary : pursued me for years , finally caved , had the happiest 1 month of my life in that relationship .He travels to shagz,we are to meet for a date when he returns , calls unanswered for 24 hours . Smitten but naive me pesters ,I even report missing person . That’s the day I learnt what ghosting is . Lord 🤦🏾‍♀️ it hurt so bad I left the country .

Rejection is painful. A man ghosted me 2 months ago after we'd agreed on a date. That stung so I texted him days later telling him to learn to respect people's time. Weeks later, he reappeared from the dead and started commenting on my social media posts☹️ I ignored him. A month after that, he texted me saying "I owe you a good fuck before the year ends." I had to tell him off. I don't block such people. Instead, I tell them off when they return and go on with my life. It's upon them to notice that I've moved on because I don't owe a ghoster any amount of explanation. I think ghosters are immature, cowardly and disrespectful humans. Ghosting is also emotional abuse. It's like silent treatment.

Yeah my experience from rejection is from ghosting!!! Waaah talk about ‘character development’!! I was ghosted by my fiancé and I had to find a way to get over it as I was overseas studying at the time. I found that you can get on with life without ‘closure’!😂

Rejection can be painful but it brings out the best in someone provided you deal with it in a positive manner. I deal with mine but getting a distraction and staying away from people who are negative and people who are not helping me grow out of it. Anyway am here for more lessons as usual

You have no idea how you guys are really helping me manoeuvre my mid-twenties and helping me appreciate myself and my worth and also discover my Identity. Thank you so much, I am officially a subscriber. ❤

Hey Murugi and Lydia, This was an awesome show. I would love to contribute on two things; First, its okay for you guys to be called big sisters. The title 'Big sister' is not about age, it's associated with wisdom and you ladies are saturated with some. So just embrace it yoh.💌 Secondly, about that dilemma you ladies handled. I have been there before. I had never dated seriously, I would in fact disappear when men become serious with me. So many times I even changed my telephone number, I was afraid of being more than a friend with men. I was okay on my own. This was because I lived with an aunt of mine while in Primary School and Her hubby used to cheat on her with different ladies, beat her up when she complained and threaten me not to tell on him every time he brought home a lady. And so, I knew these ladies, I knew my aunt was being cheated on but I never had the courage to tell anyone. This became a good breeding ground for all my insecurities as far as relationships with men is concerned. Forward to when I met my husband after campus, we connected so well and I opened up to him about what happened to me and how insecure I was. The guy made it his duty to help me heal and he encouraged me to allow myself heal. He hid nothing from me, he validated me every single day and I slowly learnt to trust again and for the first time I allowed myself to love. Then he proposed to me and we got married. I got married a healed person with zero insecurities. Right now, there is nothing about me that someone can say to pin me down and there is nothing my husband does that makes me seriously hurt and I freely express myself about serious and delicate issues without involving my emotions. So, I just want to encourage that lady that she doesn't have to separate with that guy to heal while apart, because how can you heal from something you aren't confronting? Its okay to be in a relationship and still have all your baggage, its okay to feel insecure about things and it is okay to confront your partner whenever you feel insecure about somethings. The guy should know, she isn't accusing him, she just needs disclosure, with time, she will gain trust and those confrontations will tone down. Otherwise, I wish her all the very best in her new relationship and kudos to you guys for this quality podcast! Cheers!

Thank you so much ladies, for sharing your rejection stories with us❤️❤️❤️ When Lydia said "Maybe he's dead" 😂😂😂 He's just not that into you.. Murugi's story: "Went for a walk and never came back" Wueh!? I'm never letting mans go on a walk by himself again😂😂

Rejection is painful... especially being ghosted without no communication..one time you good the next you are alone..and you start questioning if the problem was with you...time heals anything though

Silent rejection really hurts,it makes you question your worth and everything in you, I prefer someone to speak up and say this won't work or am not your type rather than just ghosting me and making me feel insecure about myself

I have been ghosted and it hurts did the thing, moved on dint take long before he found out I had started dating again, then the late night text and calls started again, we met a couple of time coz I wanted to give him something he never gave me, respect(3years in a relationship)but I knew I was done with him, to cut the long story short, I changed my number once I made it clear I was not interested in getting back together, 10 years down the line he still calls my sister to check up on me…

I've been ghosted so much in my life from being rejected by my own blood father to highschool to now in the real life as a grown ass ID holder that through all those experiences made me a ghoster too And now i ghost unapologetic I am trying to stop it but its just so difficult

Each day we keep learning and I love TMI for the lessons...i was kinda rejected from a guy who I felt liked we vibed and i kept doubting myself but when I listened to this podcast I've moved on finally and made peace with myself....sasa ni kuoga na kurudi soko😁

Am going through it now,so i confronted the guy to know why he rejected me only to tell me on my face that i was too skinny for him ,i ended up eating alot and have gain alot of weight and lost my confident but so far am healing its is just seasonal.

Things which feel bad are meant to feel bad 💯💯💯💯

Hey lovelies,,,I can't believe how I have grown from your episodes 🥺❤️you guys are such a vibe,,,,🥳🥳🥳

I also faced rejection when i told a guy i liked him and he ghosted me and changed . He used to lead me on and i thought the feeling was mutual . We are co-workers but when he rejected me it made me question myself . What i did wrong or what i did to deserve that rejection

I recommend a book called the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Oh my this book is powerful and it gives 4 agreements that one can use to overcome self doubt,rejection etc and create the life you want..🧡

Rejection is really a good deal ghetto but every time you face it you learn ways to get over it esp those job rejections

Right on time coz the crying I have cried today coz I see the rejection coming from the ghosting and all.,💔💔 Thanks

I'd not wish ghosting on my enemy, it leads to a lot of fear of abandonment in future.

Today's sound is much much better.

Rejection hurts but learning to move on is a life skill✔️ On today's dilemma, I'll reiterate what you said. The guy has a past and has been honest about it, I feel like she should give him the benefit of doubt and trust him unless he gives her a reason not to by acting a fool🤷‍♀️ Say he does cheat or whatever, that doesn't mean that the lady should feel guilty because she should have "seen it coming". It only means that she trusted him and he broke it. Simple. Also, cheers to self awareness! 🥂

Murugi.... you were just too good for him, periodt!

A mans rejection is God’s protection 🤎

TMI is therapy for sure Thanks guys

I told this guy who i had major chemistry with that I’d love to be the step mom of his child just coz i thought it would make us get even closer . And Let me tell you Maina that’s the last conversation we ever had 😭😭.

Yesss!Napenda the dress and hairstyle coordination😍😍. If only i could subscribe more than once I would😘. Topic moto hits home💔,1st rejections are hard to get over. We learn and move different.

Is it only me ama Kuna mwingine anaona Hawa wawili wanafanana? I like your content girls...

Silent rejection is painful.. i prefer the spoken one

I was currently rejected by a company because I didn’t had a passport and instead I had a naturalization document which is as good as a passport… to heal from it i applied in a better hospital and they gave me a chance… rejection hurts so bad

Absolutely love the thumbnail ♥️😍

Yes TMI is back

You guys are so sweet amazing and so transforming ilove you two from the bottom of my heart. Igot got from one wic left me in my power in my whole self so happy peaceful grateful and more compassionate.

😅😅😅😅😅🤣24.42 Lyd just said maybe he's dead😭?

These ladies look goodddddss💕💕💕💕💕💕 loving this podcast and going to binge watch u and subscribe 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

A shot for each time Joan says "kind of thing".. haha

Just curious to why the structure of the episode changed? Dope conversation either way

U guys are wonderful

I appreciate rejection because it really saves me alot of time😂😂whew!

Rejected by my own mother just because of reasons I don't know.....it hurts , will I heal!! I don't know!!

Is it me or does Murugi resemble Danny from Sistas🤔🤔🤔

Hey I’m currently 23 and dating.I’m on all apps ..bumble hinge tinder and I constantly connect with men go on dates.This is the second guy who has ghosted me and I’m like what I’m I doing wrong.After my first ghosting I cried and went back on the app but now the second time I’m like wait what am I doing wrong .Yes I’m back on the apps but why me .I’m not sure if I can survive another ghosting 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Perfect timing 😉😉

Why did you guys drop the first intro song. It had some awesome vibe!

Current situation...I just needed to hear this... thanks gorgeous ladies for the heads up...it's time to move on...silent treatment is weird... blueticks..no reply...hahaa

It's the real gherro out here but we move regardless.I had someone give their experience .that they liked this guy and could speak every now and then now they had not spoken for a while and she texted him and said " hey you've been silent " and his reply was " I wish you did the same" 😂😂 that was it💔💔

Me asked a guy out via text who I have been friends with for along time, and he ignored the part in the msg where I mentioned I had feelings for him. Yooo!

Those chairs 💺 👌 😍 and that set is giving better vibes 👌

I am here fam .

Rejection really sucks but I would appreciate actual communication like, this is not for me.

This is so timely.

Okay, today I'm early😋. Love you guys!

Beautiful attires... I love

Silent rejection is for rodents on the ground🤣🤣🤣Lydia!! Loud/spoken rejection is better as it gives closure.

Yaaas another episode 👯

Lydia 🥺🥺💜💜💜

With your help in 2021 I got rid of that stupid mongoose ....I sed I ain't taking him in 2021....na mniite niwafanyie interior design

Am aghoster and have learned that this sucks 😔😔😔

Love your topics so much you are really inspiring

Loved the show, Lydia r u ok? Ur coughing

😅😅To be sincerely honest in my humble opinion without being sentimental of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view and without hiding any thoughts in my mind and without lies,to the actual truth with my clear open mind and clean heart,expressing what ever is embedded inside me for a long time which I didn't say just because I was nervous.But Today, by gathering all the courage and motivation, I just want to say that I actually feel and think that I have absolutely nothing to say. Oooh I almost forgot I love every one of you who is reading this😉😘

I'm just here to ask what kind of bras y'all are wearing. You look great.

Bomb episode.

Episode 27...

😅😅we don't blink in the streets 😅

premier gang!

Silent rejection..is worse..

I also ghost but this is because I would not want to hurt that person

Been in this getto

Miss the games

Such an informative conversation

This chemistry is just off 🤣🤣🤣

Its been great

Today I am in the premier gang

he went on an adventure 😂

Only 400 to 30k... I have over 1k contacts let me go share the link for them to subscribe!

😂😂😂😂😂 ati silent treatment is for the rodents😂😂😂 someone call 911!! I'm so dead.

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Hae ladies

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Queen Inbetweeners

those who have never been ghosted ,how does it feel to be GOD`S favorite ? anyway another thing about rejection is also that you are being rejected because you are too good for them they can not handle your worth ,so it is not every time you are rejected that you are not good enough and the rejecter🤫 most of the time don't have the courage to tell you that .so they make you feel you are not good enough

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