Dear Parents... 

It hurts so much if you've narcissistic parents. Thank you so much for this video. May Allah give you Jannah!

brother Belal has taught me calmness, knowledge and so much more, i didnt have parents for guidance, this brother inspired me. I pray so much for him, i know its not been easy for him yet his smile and faith in God always brings me back to Earth and gives me a reality check. Thankyou dear brother for your teachings.

How nice to hear this. Too late for those of us in our 40s and 50s damaged by first generation pakistani parents who saw their kids as servants.

I have so much trauma from being forced to be with someone I did not want. My parents called me the worst of names/insults and abused me for months for ending it. I lost my joy & happiness from how my family treated me 😢😣

Asalam alaykum, I am a single mother with a teenage son. I’m a revert so my son is not Muslim. He is a good boy, very compassionate, considerate and caring however very challenging also. Some of my family or friends still don’t know I’m Muslim as I’m scared to be labelled stupid or laughed at, and I’m scared that they will try to convince my son to stay away from Islam, as this has already happened with those that do know I’m Muslim. Because of this Ive become very isolated and have no one around me but my child. I feel blessed as I know Allah guides who he wills, I feel blessed to be a Muslim and this isolation has brought me closer to Allah however I still feel very lonely and finding it difficult to balance deen and dunya. I feel like a failure in every aspect and others confirm this. I feel ashamed that some people sill don’t know that I’m Muslim, as I’m proud to be one but I’m scared of the influence it may have on my son. Please keep my son in your duas, may Allah guide him, ameen.

As parents we have to change ourselves to help our children to have good life.

JazakAllahu kheir for this reminder. As children we often hear about how we should be with our parents but not the "etiquette of islamic parenting". May الله help us all be good children and good parents.

3 x Allahu Akbar 3 × Alhamdulillah 3 × Subahnallahi wabihamdi 3 × Subahnallahil Azim Good deeds for you and me ♥️

Ameen. wallah i love this teacher for the love of Allah may Allah give you everything good in this life and the next.

I have the same problem even with my family members I didn’t know how to react I'm struggling with a lot of traumas I had enough of them today I Even questioned myself but when I saw this video I was relieved again, even though I have a lot of mistakes as a human being they can't treat me like this. It's 3 years I've been struggling with deep depression and no one in my family knew I have this condition I'm still struggling because they are the cause of my mental illness but alhamdulillah I really want to show this to my parent but they don't understand English Unfortunately. I always pray for their goodness please pray for me and my family after all of that I love them so much 😢

Daily Dhikr Reminder ♥️💚Bismillah 1. SubhanAllah 2. Alhamdulillah 3. La illaha il Allah 4. Allahu Akbar

Thank you so much for sharing. What you have shared are things that I longed for as a child, but never received it. Although my parents love me, but mom is a narcissist, insults us, talks nasty stuff about dad, and loves to quote bible when she can't even achieve it herself. While dad always puts work first, and rarely has time for me to share with him my thoughts and feelings. Feelings to him are for wimps. It took me most of my adult life trying to find my identity. And now as a new mom, I wish I could live up to your advice to do the best I can for my child.

I understand this is my test being born into a dysfunctional and toxic family and evil lineage having grown up in a toxic environment, there was no Islam witnessing abusive fights between parents and domestic violence and abuse.

Jazakallahu Khair ya sheikh honestly this was something I needed to hear

ASSALOMU ALAYKUM BELAL ASSAD,you are the best and extremely honestly person i have ever seen in my life.Thank you for all of i love this channel from UZBEKISTAN🇺🇿🇺🇿

ASSALOMU ALAYKUM VA RAHMATULLOHU VA BARAKATUH to be honest I really love your all videos and you are helping me for improving my listining skill and religious knowledge and so I'm sharing ur videos with my friends I believe that you will send more and more videos like these I love these channel ASSALOMU ALAYKUM VA RAHMATULLOHU VA BARAKATUH

May Allah Azzawajul grant brother Belal the highest station of paradise Ameen

99% parents are narcist now days I have tons of people complaing the same. They are inclined towards one child being unfair to the other. Ibn qayyum said in the hereafter children will get first priviledge that Allah will ask them how did your parents raised you before asking the parents how you raised them. Hazrat Ali said make your child a musheer when 15 years old. Musheer is means an advisor but parents listen all except their children. Sadly, the downfall of this ummah.

This is common in African homes our parents will never listen to us. They are used to give instructions and command, they were all raised like this. I can't remember when last I have a discussion of one hour with my father. They are authoritative. Reading some hadith about how the Prophet Muhammad treated his families and people around him it baffles me how our parents are not following this sunnah

Jazakhallah brother. Just what i needed to hear today.

I think he is the best father mashaallah!❤

Salam ou halaykoum Wa RahmatuAllahi Shaykh/all, Gazek Allahu gairen brother Shaykh, my child is 15y mashAllah. She is my great love, the oxygen in my lungs SubhanAllah. That I may and can feel this love, Alhamdoulilahi. May Allah swt protect all children's Fitra, Allahuma Amien. As a mother, I find this topic fundamental, it is wisdom. We should nurture our children with love and compassion from birth. If we fail to do so as the first affective relationship (bonding), then we are single-handedly destroying dispassion and self-confidence in the child. Shaykh, I am so proud of you, as well as your parents who raised you with this love. Allahuma Barek in everything you do AND good for you. Wa halaykoum asalaam 🌸

Watching this in tears

You're right Belal. Sometimes you just need to listen. You don't have to give advice on every single issue that's put forward.

Ameen ameen ameen.🤲🏼. Maa shaa Allah, beautiful advice. You covered all angles and I appreciate that. May Allah help this to reach the hearts far and wide ameen. Jazakallah khair.

Love this!! 💙🙌🏽

I feel very blessed to hear your lecture.

Jazakhallahu khairen

MashaAllah Our father is the best he even helpsus with cooking..❤

Jazak Allah O Khyr

Thank you so much for all you do brother

❤❤❤🎉 Subhan Allahi Rabill Alamiin v. Nice reminder Allah Almaighty gerant jannat naima wi ur fimeleils

جزاك الله خير 🙏

Beautiful advice.

Thank you so much my beautiful brother belal

What a beautiful perspective may Allah reward you.

Ameen dear brother 🙏🏼

Masha Allah

جزاك الله خيرا الجزاء

اللهم اميييين ya rabbbb🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽

Ma’Sha’Allah Jazak Allah khiran,for your beautiful advice Shaikh Assaad

Why is this so true 😢

sukron for your enlightenment I hope you are always healthy thank you for opening my mind about parents :)

Thank you brother for this reminder.. Let’s do constant dhikr in our lives, May Allah (swt) give all parents (current/future) this type of mindset.

Allah salamat rakhe. Aameen

Jazak Allahu Khayr dear Imam. I'm from NYC and am going through tests w/ my children and wife, kindly keep me in your duaa. May Allah SWT grant us to be among His most beloved slaves and protect us from all harms.

Thank you. It was a very important lesson to learn.

Masha Allah sheik great advise great video thank you for speaking on this topic May Allah reward you immensely Ameen ❤️🤲🏼

ALLAH humma baarik dearest beloved shiekh beautiful advices may Allah subhaanahu ta aala help us to act upon what we learn of goodness Aameen 🤲💝💯💎🤲

SubhanAllah

Beautiful video Brother. I would love to hear more videos about parenting.

Alhamdullilla I’m blessed to be able to listen to your lectures MashaAllah tabarakaAllah❤

MASHALLAH.

AAMEEN YA RUB UL AALAMEEN 🕋 🤲🏼 😭

Allhamdullila

A much needed video for our society for parents nowadays. They think that it's for the children to obey to respect to love to care their parents to talk with kindness, and not for them to do the same for their kids. I realllyy loveee thiss video and i want to thank you for speaking on this. جزاک اللہ خیرا. ❤❤❤

My mother always tells me that i dont do enough and that i dont do work and when i show her an example of me doing work she days u did it only for that day and never again....yesterday i just lost it and had an angry outburst on her and now i regret it...she may have been wrong but i shouldve not gotten angry....i stopped myself so many times but this time i had enough and i just couldnt stop myself May allah forgive us and grant us jannah. May allah grant our parents jannah. Aameen.

Ameen

my parents never give me time or understand ptsd from courts an jails an prisons and why life is a bit harder

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✨Can u talk about forced engagements/marriages? Parents justify it by saying kids have to obey them. Plz. It is really traumatic to go through this especially if somebody is vulnerable 💜

JazakAllah sir.. for this beautiful topic but i want to highlight a point. Sir parents in asia are not much on social media especially when it comes to these type of lectures. All they do is force their childeren either emotionally or physically for everything even if its about their studies or marraiges or general basic life choices. Im so sad to mention that my own parents expect from me to obey them even if im not happy at all. I love them alot and i might also agree with them on every point but from inside im empty broken. And i dont know how to makw them understand and this is so much common in pakistan. Parents dont want their child even if that nice if that good child ask them something they dont want. I love my parents i obeyed them my whole life in every matter of my life but since i asked them the only thing , they consider me disobedient, they call me gunnah gar. But they want to listen to me at all. Please give these lectures on such platform that are parents are able to listen and understand. JazakAllah kher .. asalamu alaikum

This is exactly what i want from my parents, but if i just want them to listen this video they might take it wrong and misunderstand this message and my intention.

How do you deal with depression that stems from a parent that said hurtful and unforgivable words? I initially had a close relationship with my mother but recently words that were said that don’t think will ever be forgiven. This has caused contemplation to even pray for an early death.

the elders community I grew up along had more than 6,7 ,8,9 10+ children one after the other Not only did they have no clue to raising children with Islamic values They were emotionally blackmailed by grandparents to have more grandsons to marry the future female cousin from the village for the passport marriages To Gain financially. Leading to parents neglecting religious obligations some now adult children have left islam altogether some are Muslim by name Mohamed is mo ect Some are Eid Muslims jummah Muslims It’s disheartening to see the youth falling into haram and the parents allowing it once again for financial gain

I moved out of my Family Home, they disbanded me They hate me I converted to Islam back in 2018 when they saw that I got kicked out off the house But today I live in some Work in Progress Home Alone Since 5 Year I pray for my Parents to be alive They are fine But hate me Help

Jazaakullah Khayr Sheikh - as a mum I definitely needed to hear this. Made me emotional- and made me reflect upon my actions as a mother also. May Allah SWT Reward you. Aameen. May Allah SWT Help us & Guide us in raising our children. Aameen Ya Rab🤲🏻🤍

My mom is a cronic narcissistic. It hurts so much ya Allah... This is so hard for me. I almost hate myself

Assalaamualaikum Please advise children who are already adults too, on how they should treat the parents Nowadays the parents are respected if they are working parents even if they are old.

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The main problem is there is so much stress on obeying parents these days that they start believing themselves as gods. Parents start controlling & abusing their kids due to this. We need to send out a clear message that obedience is for Allah alone & He asks us to treat them kindly. We need to stop parent worshipping in the name of obedience. The clerics, speakers, imaams etc need to stress the point that parents are human beings too. They are fallible. Parents need to accept this reality Asap. They need to be humble. Arrogance only leads to hell.

I have a question, am a singel mom I don't have no kind of contact with the dad of my kid since our divorce, my baby was just 3 months when we broke up, the dad didn't reach out and I didn't want to have any contact with him my baby is now 7 years old I've never told her who her dad is, and I dont plan to do it honestly. Is that a bad thing? Is it haram? Cause since he hasn't showed any kind of interest, i dont want to be the one that reaches him out. What should I do? Can someone help me?

@belal.assaad: Dear Sheikh, Please give us one talk of yours on the topic of Hijrah (ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-xhz6W9lZ3b4.html ). Do we have to leave Europe (born europeans, migrated to europe, revert europeans etc)? Because French ban the Abayah. Can you please give us Quran, Sunnah related one video, so that as not shcolar we can compare and take decision. Allahumma Barik.

I have a quick question & story to share, i would appreciate if you can make a video, i was born in the UK and got forced to marry my cousin in bangladesh like many others, but i started seeing goodness in him and i love him for the sake of Allah. My question is, in Asia especially, the Eldest sons who have came abroad, are being opressed in our community where even after marriage they have to financially look after their parents and Siblings, even when father and siblings are perfectly healthy to earn, that includes paying for living, travelling, studying expenses all including getting them married, basically like a fathers role, i understand looking after parents and i’m all for taking care of parents but is it obligatory to financially support siblings as an eldest son? Moreover not being able to keep wife and children fully satisfied because he has too much pressure from his family back home, The husband thinks if he doesn’t take responsibility as ordered by parents they will be upset with him and he will get punished so he is trying to keep parents happy by doing so… I am willing to sacrifice for husbands sake but not happy within as we are struggling and it is destroying me mentally and physically the stress is having an impact. What is the advice in this scenario, who is right who is wrong as there is not many info about thiscsort of scenario, but there are many being opressed. I think even the husband is confused of what to do for the sake of Allah, there isn’t much information about this situation, he doesn’t want to hurt anyone but he has so much pressure, he’s a troubled and stressed out soul himself. Also the Society will say he hasn’t looked after his siblings after coming abroad, they expect him to give them a better life too, bring them to the UK somehow. This is happening to alot of the Elder son’s & their wifes, suffering silently. Please i would appreciate if you can make a video or add it to one of your lecture. Jazakallah khair.

Понимать бы о чем он) к сожалению,английский не знаю

I know it might be the young man in me talking, but I usually fantasize of having a loving wife and kids.

A hope Brother Bilal has already made or will make a partner speech to this one titled as “Dear Children…” considering we have all kinds of parents AND children as well.

اخي او اختي انا اعلم ممكن ان تقولو لى هذا غلط ولكن ضروفنا اكثر من قاسيه و اجبراتني على هذا ارجوكم ان تسامحني 🙏💔 انا يأاخى والله ثم والله اني ما بدي اطلب احد بس الظروف حكمت عليه و خلينى اطلب منكم وبعد وبعد ما مات الله يرحمه ما أحد وقف معنا والله يا اخي وعندي اطفال نحمد الله على كل حال 💔 ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اني دخلة على الله ثم عليكم انا اختكم أتوسل اليكم لوجة الله... اخواني انا عندى صغار ولا يوجد عندى شي الاكل الحمدلله انا ارملة من فلسطين اقسم بالله لايوجد شي. عندي ومعي صغار وارجو منكم ان تقف معي لكي اعين الصغار وانا و اسرتي بيتنا ايجار الشهر و تركمات علينا الديون من اجار بيتنا الى عدة شهور وصاحب البيت يريد ان يخرجنا بسبب عدم دفع الرسوم السابقة ويريد يطردنا من البيت الى الشارع لعدم ما قدرنا على دفعه لموعد الأ جار بدون رحمه و اني اسالك بالله العظيم يا اخي لو انت تحب الخير 00970592511969 ارجوك ان يا اخي الامر لله وحده ربنا يعطيكم الصحة والعافية وعندي صغير مريض ويحتاج الى عمليه للقرانيه فى العين وقال لى الدكتور يجب ان اعمل العمليه فى اسرع وقت ممكن حتا لا يكون خطر على النظر فى المستقبل على الصغير الله يحفظكم من كل سوء يارب. ومن الممكن روية بنفسك الحال الذي انا فية و يوجد كثير كثير فى حياتى من المشاكل وديون البقالة والكهرباء والماء وثمن العلاج وغير ذلك كثير من الديون وانا دقيت ابواب ناس كثير ولكن انتم تعلمون كيف نعيش في بلادنا بسبب الحصار الظلم. غير قادرة اتكلم حتا اليوم قررت اكتب علي اليوتيوب واشارككم قصتي وانا فى امس الحاجة لكم فى هذه الايام انظروا لنا فى عنين الرحمه والشفقة وكونوا لنا اخوان سامحوني على هذا الازعاج لكم فى موقع اليوتيوب ولكم هذا هي الطريق الواحد الذي ممكن ان تشركوني فى هذه الحياة وان يصل لكم حياتي💔💔 &&&&»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»» اللهم صلي على سيدنا محمد 🌺

The most sad part is that parents forcing their children to do Shirk and of if the children lectures them n try to make them understand the concept of thouheed, they start saying bad words n abuse the children

من فضلكم عن ماذا يتكلم الفيديو للان لغتي الانجليزية سيء

I nearly lost my daughter she was very depressed cause I was too strick with her I was doing it for her safety. Cause of family problems it effected my children terribly you have to make a happy atmosphere in the house aswel.

My parents are kaafir, but alhamdulillah they still act like they're following the Sharia by coincidence

I was under a great mental trauma because of the the mistreatment of my parents. I couldn't make them understand my feelings. They always makes me feel inferior to others. During the lock down of COVID-19 they mistreated with me a lot. As a result i fell into a great depression. I also didn't have any friends in school or siblings to share my felling. I would cry everyday and every night locking my door. I even can't make any sound while crying and it's painful and chocking. I listened to pop songs to forget pain. But it didn't lessen. I even thought of committing suicide. But i wasn't brave enough and i knew Allah is my creator and there is a afterlife though my iman wasn't strong at that time. I would always blame myself for everything. I developed a massive low self-esteem and i was very unconfident. I wouldn't speak or express my feelings. And i would get paniced before any person. It was very painful. I forget about the blessing of Allah. I asked Allah 'why it is me? ' And this though was always inside my head for two years. I was very painful. I did pray every prayer. But i didn't know their meaning. I recited Quran without understanding. And i remember one day i told Allah in amy own language to bring me out of this pain. And gradually from that time i stated to listen to Islamic lectures. But it's was not enough to get me out of sadness. Because i was addicted to fell sorry all the time. But alhamdulillah when i started to read al Quran with understanding the meaning i deppressed disappeared within six months. Alhamdulillah now i know Islam is very beautiful. And Allah is always with me whenever i am. Now the mistreatment of my parents don't seem so painful. Because this life is a test.

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U shud do one for children too. We all went for these struggles as kids we had it worse. Privacy still needs to be minitored to a extent. New parents the problem they use western values to raise to kids. As a teacher the common thing we see parents is ' im not gna force them to pray and learn Islam' but force them wen it comes to school

Allow them to go to camping with girlfriends and alcohol with them?