Im gonna keep it real. Im a woman that likes men and they could be an 11 in looks but if his dick is small i wont even bother. You might ask what my preferred size is and ill say anything over 8. That means the guy could be a 5 or 6 on looks but with the big D it takes them to a 10. Plus points if he really knows how to work it. Obviously personality is also counted. And i dont discriminate that much on height. Im 5'4. If he is a 5'7 or 5'8 which is pretty average, im fine with it too. Call me superficial but whatever Lol. And, all races welcome hahahaha!!!!
@@jenniferjuliana10 those apps are for data miners, bots, & scammers. Thus they don't have to racial preferences,because they(the site) PREFERS EVERYONE. All these apps have fake profiles with real people behind them.Sometimes women didn't know they were talking to "a picture of a hot guy" that was a bot.Why didn't they know? Well, you have to keep the users engaged somehow. User engagement is key to increasing the metric for ad dollars. This technique has been around forever. Women fall for it too.
My awkward online dating story, was chatting with a guy for two weeks, thought it was going great, ran into him at the gas station, neither of us knew where we knew each other from and we're talking, then his wife walked up..... And at that moment we realized where we knew each other from.... I'm out!!!
"Some of you will stay lonely forever" being alone doesn't make a person lonely. You can be lonely in a room with 50 people and you could be all by yourself in the mountains and never for a second feel lonely. Don't conflate the two.
100% agree. There is something to be said about people being social animals though. These are the exceptions that proves the rule. For most of us, human interaction is as much a need as eating or sleeping. Some people just 'eat' less. Is a hermit in the mountains an example of a normal _healthy_ human being? I'm not convinced. It's like a lion living outside of a family unit. It's not normal.
@@Oddness or a wolf that has the skills & prefers to hunt alone. It just depends you haven't met every human on this planet to determine their reason as to why they prefer to BE ALONE. In order to explore that line of thought you'll have to get into the extrovert/introvert argument. How do introverts meet people as oppose to how extroverts meet people(*which we can usually speculate how). It depends. Preferences go as far as specific smells. Smells can affect attraction. Symmetry affects attraction. These are just some of the reasons why Jubilee really honed in on this one. Some people are naturally born with the "look". Some have game tons of it. I know a guy who looks like Captain Cave man but can probably charm your wife or girl to sleep with him. Why??? Because he is a man's man. This makes him attractive. It just depends. NOW (what I see at least) is that we've gotten into this overtly HOT OR NOT title shitshow which is pushing the narrative of "YOU MUST HAVE THIS...OR HAVE THAT IN ORDER TO COMPETE". This allowed preferences to become even more of YOU GOT IT OR YOU DON'T SITUATION. Soooo now you are left to say either you want to participate in something like that or try your hand elsewhere. People go overseas & get a better chance at lust or a partner.
Comment of irony and hope!! Let this be a spark for Asian men and Black women perhaps opening up to love with each other more lol, that’ll help crush the stats lol 💖 I’m Caribbean+Afro-Latina (caramel skin, so aesthetically I look black) and my man’s Punjabi. Met on a dating app and we’re years-in strong. I don’t have a type but surprisingly was approached mostly by South Asian men which I never expected. My hubby and I are obsessed with each other in the sweetest ways, he’s an incredible man...So we beat the statistic!! It happens and I vouch for how amazingly attractive, sexy and adoring Asian men are toward their significant others, I came to understand how a desire to be in a beautiful, committed relationship is more so a part of the culture and prioritized, and they take it seriously. He’s appreciative that I’m a reciprocating strong Black woman by his side. It’s been great.
I've dated more Asian men than any other race. Also I see so many Asian men with so many different race women. I don't know if this statistic is still accurate. I think it really depends on how attractive people are rather than race.
I find asian people in general to be some of the most beautiful looking people and as a caucasion woman I prefer to keep my blemishes and freckles away from such flawless looking men.
People like that have to recenter their purpose in life. My aunt wanted to get married, never did. She developed friendships and centered her life around her career as a special ed teacher, and her students were like her children. She was pretty much renowned within her district. It's sad, but clinging to what's long gone is gonna keep it sadder. Fortunately I don't think I'm in that situation, lol
..I'm sure there is someone out there for everyone, most people just wouldn't settle for that person even if they did happen to meet them...an average American in a large city, active social life, a couple of kids that go to school and plays sports, etc. will meet approximately 470 people in their lifetime (outside of family). The chance of actually meeting your "soulmate" is very slim...
A lot of times when someone speaks slowly it’s because they are a recovered stutterer. One of the first tricks you are taught are to slow down and think about your words. I wouldn’t be shocked if that dude was a stutterer.
Jhai La personally I stop talking when I stutter think it out for a second then try again on the sentence. I never actually went to speech therapy because my stutter is very mild. But stopping works for me.
MsDragonbal776 haven’t actually tried it because I don’t speak any other languages but apparently saying the word you’re stuck on in another language helps.
I used to be very articulate as a kid. I would talk fast and I would speak clearly. But after of associating with people who would stumble over their words or had a difficult time with the English language (my granma and ma mostly) I later ended up having more trouble, mispronouncing things, misarranging sentences, stopping dead in my tracks because I lost a "single word" and struggled to complete because that word is temporarily lost in the nexus of my mental dictionary, and then are times when I just "uh..." or mindlessly repeat a word until I can get back to it. I've also heard people stutter a LOT even as they're speaking slowly and mindfully. Sometimes, the vocalization part of our brain just fogs up.
Ray Gallardo Which I don’t really get since I find black women really attractive and usually extremely down to earth. I’m not into men, but I do find Asian men to be extremely chill and fun to hang out with.🤷♂️
I feel like there’s a lot of body language, chemistry, mystery, implication etc. that u feel when u talk to someone in person but it simply doesn’t translate over tinder
When im really wanting to get dates I can kill it in person. Leave a solid impression, give off fun/flirty vibes and all that. Online it’s just lame and seems like too much work.
I live in a small town, and it seems like everyone has slept with everyone at this point so I always try to date online outside of my town!! But it’s hard to find genuine people, so I’m leaving it up to god now
Is it weird that I’ve never actually had a type? I mean yeah I’m attracted to funny and nice people but physically my type changes a lot. There’s so many different attractive physical characteristics people can have and only being attracted to one type of person just limits you on possibly finding the love of your life 🤷🏻♀️
Camille Collins exactly, every day I have a new type of guy. For black guys I have a type, for white guys i have a type, or mixed guys, for Asians, Indians, and a bunch of other races, and it changes almost all the time cause people are beautiful lol.
It’s interesting how good people swipe right on people that looks good in their photo. Some people are super photogenic but in real life aren’t that good looking. Others might not be photogenic but look really good in real life
Sure, but what else are you going to go by? All you can go by, appearance wise, is their photos, until you meet them. Unless you want to take the time to read their profile, which still doesn't tell you all that much.
I haven't used a dating app in years, but I used it almost polar opposite to most people. Pics are nice, but if the profile is trash, boring, or vain? I'm out.
🤣 but I'm glad they did. I'm kinda bored with the 'you go girl! You so pretty omg!' But then I'm the unwanted one 🤣 kinda refreshing someone is being real.
I put on my bio that I had no patience for messaging back and forth. Any discussion would be for the purposes of organizing a date, and we would be going dutch, no questions. 1st girl that agreed to those parameters was actually pretty cool. Glad I remembered to get her an anniversary gift today.
That's great! I love that and wish more men would be this direct! So many men have nothing in their bio and hmmm and Hah around, playing games and wasting my time. I even have it in my bios not to waste my time if you arent looking to meet up in real life and STILL my time gets wasted and wasted...
MarcusBlue i think the reason why people say tinder is for hookups cause a decent majority is 18-24 year olds which is just horny college kids but definitely can find some keepers.
He might just have social anxiety. I have social anxiety and whenever I got called on in class I would speak and act like that. He might be nervous about what people would think of him and want the conversation to be over.
The guy in the yellow sweater almost always resonates with me, he is 10x smarter then he realizes. He formulates his sentences so god damn compact. I love it. Excuse me for my terrible English.
20:05 I disagree. Here's why: I met 2 out of my 3 best friends by chatting up a stranger. I prefer in person approaches. That being said: the number of people that look at me like I'm crazy when I talk to them in public, has increased in correlation to the rise of online dating
When I go to concerts (often by myself) more often then not I end up chatting with a stranger. They start a conversation or I do. I know people who became besties at Comicon. I think at events it's natural people will talk to strangers as they already know they have something in common. Or lines - TSA, bathrooms because you can always gripe about how long it it.
@@chrissyb7916 I go to conventions and Medieval Festivals just to be connected with like minded folks. Events truly make it easier than dating apps, at least for me.
The difference about picking someone based on looks on dating apps is people get to choose the version of themselves they would like to show (specific poses, lighting that make them look the most attractive). Vs in person there’s no filter, the you people see is the real life you do there’s probably also lower standards for beauty. Online all you see is the best versions of people so the standard for attractive is higher
Online dating seems more fake to me which is one reason I never bothered with it. You are seeing a scripted and edited version of everything about them, from their pictures to their carefully worded profiles. It seems like it could be a narcissist’s playground to gain victims for supply.
Hope u find someone that fits you’re personalalitt bruh!! It’s hard, but I’m sure you’ll find someone. If it makes u feel good I’m an ugly cunt and I’ve gotta girl; peace brotha!!
@Rybo Stain front & back?It's so Funny When I was younger I was like ewww hairy chest, till I met my husband and he usually buzzed it - until he didn't and I was like ohhhh mama likes...I was in my 30s then....How do woman respond to the back hair??
Hit the gym. Focus on yourself. Don't look for gratification from others. Worst thing that happens is you enjoy your life. Don't expect someone else to fix you.
I live in Iowa and I am black. So I chose to never really date on apps. I have made a profile, I'm average looking and I have a lot of personality so I get enough interaction in my personal opinion. I even met a guy that was quality but it didn't work out. But because I live in Iowa which is literally 98% white I've chosen to 1. Meet people in person 2. Open up my options(not limiting it to just Black men) 3. Connect seriously with people with similar interests as me. I am currently engaged to my partner at 31 years old expecting our first child after 2 years together. We met in person. As a black woman I really don't think that online dating is for me. I am able to connect with people better in person and I understand that isn't the case for everyone. But for me because of statistics I honestly was turned off by the prospect. I didn't have the worst results but I just didn't want to put myself on a place where I feel unwelcomed.
@Manga Is you can have 20 years old wife or gf when you're 40, and being a christian or atheist or devil worshiper, and it's okay. what's with these being muslim thing??
Well, July is right around the corner. I agree. We need another mini-Apocalypse to add to the never ending year of crazy. This video could very well be the herald of what is yet to come.
@ungratefulmetalpansy they basically bring people of all worldviews on to have interesting conversations. The cringe videos are generally dating related, the rest tend to be pretty good
Wait, doesn't Tinder actually rank you and after a while match you accordingly how hot other people think you are? Or when you get swiped right a lot, you're shown more and vice versa? And then you "can" pay to be more visible.
Also, I broke my ankle a few weeks ago and RU-vid was keeping my mind busy, it got boring until I found your channel and I managed to watch all your videos, even “dear mother” from seven years ago, you guys are awesome!! 👏🏼
@Jesse Gutierrez You're an idiot. They're liking a positive review from a viewer and thats it. Stop reaching and projecting your own simp insecurities!
@@thomassmith4579 Its mentioning race...its racist bro. Also, preference isn't the same as generalization- which is prejudice. Noone wants to hear about someone's preferences.
@@jonathanmorris2283 The point is nobody gives a fuck about your preference when you're making a backhanded compliment dumbass. When you mention race...automatically it becomes racist. It would be better to keep your mouth shut, and not say stupid shit like that. If you dont get it- give up stupid ass. Black women and women of ALL race' come in different shapes...sizes.....and colors. Youre a liar if you say youre not attracted to ANY black women. That's fucking dumb. To single out one woman as if she represents ALL black women is racist. That's the definition of racism. Categorizing an entire race based on one entity. You are what's wrong with the world.
I see the top pinned comment is from a girl saying that sex is all men are looking for on those apps. The thing is, and this also applies to real life, men DON'T want just sex, unless sex is all that you have to offer.
True, if you have nothing to offer but sex then men will only come to you when they want sex but not when they want to do other stuff but most single women won't understand that because they themselves never tried anything what a man wants with a man beyond sex. I'd love to spend time with women that have the same interests.
I don't see how that's weird tbh. Maybe I've just been overexposed to seeing weird stuff on the net but I genuinely cannot see how daydreaming about your future husband is weird.
Biggest reason online dating is so necessary right now is because neighborhoods aren't designed for healthy spontaneous interaction. You get in your car, go to your destination, meet transactional people to do transactional things, go home, and never brush shoulders with anyone else.
Jj J because I enjoy this channel. They are insightful and funny. And at a certain level I like to see the train wreck that is modern America. Plus I had 20 minutes to kill.
I met my wife online; was dating for 4 years and have been married for 1. Online gave me more confidence and allowed us too learn about each other’s personalities before meeting up in person
I think dating apps are all about looks, validation and attention. It’s almost impossible to find someone who can like you for who you really are. That’s why even when a lot of guys end up getting matches, it’s almost impossible to hold a conversation with the other person because they actually don’t really like you, they just want the attention and to validate that they can get whatever guys they want... it’s all about ego basically.
With all of the dating apps that exist. I’ve heard more dick appointment stories than date appointments. At the end of the day they’re all designed for hooking up. We are all social creatures and are designed to procreate and recreate not finding true love.
Not true we‘re made to make deep emotional connections. We have some of the most emotional komplex systems there is. Yes we‘re not made for monogamy. But not for hookups only
Met my wife on plenty of fish. She lived in the next town over, wasnt far but id never had gone there otherwise never would have met her without it. Weve been married nearly 5 years and our daughter is nearly 4 and we have a son on the way and are very happy together
I never understood the idea of "discrimination" in dating. People have preferences and they find you attractive or not. Sure, sometimes you may become attracted to someone by getting to know them even if you weren't interested initially, but that doesn't mean that everyone is entitled to a chance at seduction. edit: I mean discrimination in a negative way. Discriminating in and of itself isn't generally a bad thing, but it is often inferred colloquially as negative, hence the quotation marks.
If you think all members of a certain race are disgusting and all members of another race are all more attractive, and you chose to ONLY date one race then it is discrimination, based on race. Same goes for religion or ethnicity.
"Sometimes your type is the reason why you're alone" YES PREACH I see so many guys complaining about girls wanting really attractive guys and saying no-one wants them. But they're not attractive inside OR outside. You might have a repulsive personality. Be realistic. I've definately experienced rejection, actually quite a lot for a girl tbh. I'm not everyone's type, my personality isn't for everyone and not everyone is for me. Don't idolize women or completely disrespect them. We're humans and some of us are cool and some of us suck. And it's not the person who rejects you's fault they don't like you. It's your problem, because YOU are the one who wants something from THEM. If I held a grudge against everyone who rejected me, I'd be a bitter ass person. Ho
Both men and women when they get rejected and or betrayed in a relationship some become REALLY bitter. Even with improvements, they get pissed the moment it is recognized. Like a hypothetical "I got out of debt and I still get curved" It's really hard for some people to change, I simply walked away from the game because the effort wasn't worth the results I was never happy.
Miss Hisoka Paints I agree with you to a point. I think it’s more complicated than it’s just a you problem. Some people with the worst luck in dating have great personalities but that doesn’t guarantee you’ll secure someone. Sometimes it is the person who rejects you’s fault. They might not be able to appreciate something good when they see it or have their own issues that they project onto you.
red dead Most people don’t have skin cancer or dwarfism. Most people are average and 75% of people are average or above average. Yet, there are SO many bitter men in this comment section that are bitching about their dating life. And sorry to say but I can tell why they are having issues strictly based on their messages. You can’t disrespect women and then think they are going to want to be with you. It makes no sense. And all those guys believing the “red pill” will just attract low self-esteem women, because no decent women will put up with that kind of treatment.
@@ExeErdna I'm sad to hear that. I get bitter for like a few weeks then I get over it. It's that person not everyone on earth. Keep trying if that's what you want. But if it isn't and you're fine with giving up, okay cool🤷🏾♀️
You guys are forgetting someone: the ones who are born.... "genetically unfortunate." They're going to die alone too, but through no fault of their own.
not only that, but those unfortunate souls will be socially awkward. People generally have a natural disdain for them. For example, an ugly can say hi to a random pretty girl, and she can be like "eww, creep!" A simple "hi". Maaaaaaaaaaannn..... not even a "hi," how about just a smile??
I've just recently deleted online dating as I've found it so frustrating to be constantly talking to timewasters, a lot of women are on there for you to stroke their ego's, anyone thinking of online dating, give it a try, but never pay for it, maybe you'll have more luck than I did, but beware, there are alot of women who will want to use you
Ironic that she brings up the OkCupid study on race, but then conveniently forgets to mention that OkCupid also put out a study on preferences and found that women rated 80% of men as less than average.
They like to bring one statistic that fits their narrative. They do not talk about the entire story. Women saying they struggle online dating I'm not even going to take serious.
She didn't mention that because she was talking about race. Why would she talk about women rating most men as below average when she's talking about racism?
Both of y'all assessment was dead on. Having too many options can be overwhelming for people with anxiety like myself. Social media does make it easier for women to approach men, because it does not happen to me in person👽
not true, but I have had to accept only being in open relationships with good looking women. To expect a hot woman these days to be faithful to you, unless you're basically having the relationship be a business transaction, is becoming a fairy tale if you're meeting them through a dating app.
@Inebriatd It doesn't mean you'll be automatically successful if you're attractive. But if you're average looking then your chances are much much lower.
@Inebriatd Dating is the gambling that we all deal with. If you have more resources, you can play the game longer and have opportunity for success. For regular casino gambling, that would be your own money, house money, and a line of credit. For dating, for men those resources are your physical appearance, your status, your job, your humor, and your future prospects. Likewise for women, since the only thing man can 'obtain' is physical appearance or sex, those women who don't have those resources have a harder time. Short version of this... ok, you're hot. That just gets you into the game. What are you doing to win?
He called me a Dragon Ball Z character I'm weak Lmaoo I appreciate this reaction though. Hit the Like if you think I look like Goku. Follow me on IG @Mr.NoDaysOffpercy
Learning how to approach women in real life is a huge learning experience for men that builds confidence and courage. Bypassing it via dating apps might get you a girlfriend but you miss out on the personal growth that comes with doing it the hard way.
A lot of my past relationships I have met through college, concerts lines in Seattle, and tattoo shops. Being in a place where you already have something in common makes it easier to approach somebody in conversation. Funny enough when I moved away from Seattle and gave dating apps a try. It took about 2 years of time wasted before I found my Wife. One thing I do remember is dating in person was generally finding out what you have in common with someone and online dating was more about focusing on things you don’t have in common and hyper focuses you on dealbreakers because before you matched, you looked at hundreds of candidates before them
@@manjitkapri1816 I've done my best to do that, but I can't really get rid of liking cute things. I think the girl I have now is adorable u wu, but she also wants to live her life her way, and I love it. You don't need to get rid of being shallow, but learn to love people for who they are.
@@borussiagermania7428 I make sure I'm looking out for my best interests, I still chase my dreams, j still play games and keep my mental health well, I still do what I want to do. We support each other.
"There's some of y'all that are going to stay lonely forever" damn I felt that and it's true. Not everyone will find a partner and I really hate when people that there is.
The issue with me if you have high standards for yourself and bio is gucci with me you'll get a like from me But I see through your pictures it's not like your bio nothing adding up I'll pass
Q Lock It's not about being lazy I asked a simple question, because you mentioned something and I expected you to answer it without the attitude but yet I'm the lazy one. So I'll make the assumption that this "80/20 rule" isn't a thing since you can't provide an explanation on it.
afrodamus ah okay I see. Thank you for being kind enough to provide an answer to the question asked and giving insight to the matter. I appreciate that.
Yeah, I don’t know what those apps are like, but in the old days it was a little different I guess. I honestly didn’t take it seriously at first but then I ended up liking him....and now here we are 😂 I never had luck with meeting people at clubs/bars. Those guys always came across as drunk and sleazy. I had relationships from school (first husband didn’t end up working out), then meeting people at work always got awkward when co workers would find, or things ended. So I figured why not give online a try! It does work for some people. We also have friends who met on eharmony and are married with a child.
She is telling the truth! I was raised by a single parent and we have those talks about what happened that led her to being a single parent. At first her and my father were married and divorced shortly after. I ask both of them because it took two to start and it took two to finish. My mom had it rough, as all single parents do. She fussed at me, she took out some anger on me but she never trash talked my dad. As a teen and young adult I asked my mom often "why?" and told her I will never be a single parent. I dont want kids. Its hard, I'm grown and still call my mom and ask how to do certain things! So I can only imagine having a kid for LIFE! You're a parent for life! It takes a very strong person to be a single parent. There were times she cried, she didn't know I heard her. I saw how she had to sacrifice what she wanted to do for the better of her children. She did a great job in showing me how strong one person can be but she also never denied that it can be easier with two parents. So for me and my uterus we won't be having any babies anytime soon.
@King nothings wrong with a chilled life. The quote essentially is saying don't ask for struggles to get easier but ask for strength to conquer them. Plus i would say i hope you find fulfilment in your pursuit of computer science.
I’m really happy that my first ever relationship happened through the natural events of life rather than using the online world. I don’t know what my life would’ve been like otherwise
I was in Chile, my husband a syrian man living in NY. We have been together 7 years, 4 married :) Online does connect your best friend/partner that probably is hidden somewhere in the world.
15:40 - "No. I don't think there's someone for everyone. Some of you - are gonna stay lonely, forever" Delivered while wearing a tshirt with "Positive Mind" on it 😂 I love this channel
I read somewhere once that the reason the grocery store Trader Joes (USA) is so successful was from the idea of the paradox of choice. The company uses primarily their own brand with limited options of each item and that's what makes them so successful. The buyer is less overwhelmed with the amount of choice provided. It's one of the most crowded groceries in my area so I believe it lol
🖤🤔us ladies need to lead by example... right? 🙂 Show you gentlemen how we prefer to be treated. If we want ya'll to be self-aware...we need to show you how... by being accountable ourselves & not just telling you how you aren't "good enough"... Or do you disagree? 😘🖤
@Josip exactly. And bitterness doesn't give either sex the right to act like a used-up douche bag. You use people, you get used. You attract what you display. 🖤😉🖤 Don't want a gold digger (male or female) ? Stop acting shallow af. 💋😎
@Josip I don't have that problem. All my exes have been varied and I usually leave them better than I found them... Build up the ones I love. 😉 I love men and I have found that as I evolve and grow, so do the types of men that approach me. That's why I said... Like attracts like... If your type isn't changing... That's on you and your self-growth. Yeah, some sick sharks will circle pray that isn't suitable for them... But that should not be the majority of the ones you encounter. If all you're getting are sick sharks... You need to take a moment to self-reflect & adjust yourself before getting back out there. If you don't... It's on you. You know what I mean? I think that's fair to say for men and women. If, ladies & gentlemen, you are attracting a particular shitty type... And you don't like it... The change must come from within. Change your own shit first. Just sayn... We all are part of the problem here ... Not one sex over the other. 🖤😘🖤
@afrodamus some people take kindness as weakness. I've been on the receiving end of it myself more than once... So I feel your pain. But if it turns folks like us cold.... Those shallow feckin arse holes win. We just have to get better at spotting them and showing them the door faster... And get better at allowing healthier folks in when they do come knocking... You know that sort of way? I think men are equally guilty of setting expectations just a bit too unrealistic as well... Most folks these days are seeming a bit guilty of wanting more for doing less. 🖤
The Long Boarder seems to give everything a lot of thought and has perfect points on the subjects everytime. Great call Aba and Preach on how he takes his time to speak clearly and not stumble.
As a pretty attractive female, I have to say to the statement "online dating makes it harder to commit to one person" that it depends on the person. I have had 2 relationships, one previous and one I m currently in both long distance and both I've met through the internet. Even though I have many options and there were many dudes hitting on me, I could choose and stay faithful. I just feel like online dating enables the behavior of people who already have trouble committing in the first place because it makes it easier.
I hope this makes someone feel better: I am a light skin black man with long dreads and I'm like big muscles type ripped and called a "pretty boy" at times and now a model. I have trouble getting matches too. Side note I'm also well educated. Dating apps are fun but still kinda blah for most men I think and probably women too, I wouldn't know their perceptions of their experience. I know we as men are used to significantly less matches and responses than they are. 🤷🏽♂️ Hope this helps someone feel better about their lack of matches too. 💛 Edit: I used to be obese at risk of diabetes. I was only hoping to convey that you're not alone whoever you are and dating apps are hit or miss regardless coming from my experience. I described how I look now to give perspective. I posted 4 recent videos on my RU-vid so you can politely assess how I look if you'd like. Some of you think I was lying. 😊 Thanks to those who understood I meant this post to be a positive one. 💛
Honestly, you’d prob have a better shot on a black dating site bc the women are all looking for a black man. I know that all my friends who use the apps where you could filter race only put white and hispanic and so black, asian and middle eastern men don’t even show up.
I see online dating as people collecting cards. I think the aspect of is the next one going to be better plays a big part as well... You have to treat it as you would if you got a number in real life, time is of the essence. I have a business like method with dating apps as far as time goes. Two weeks in conversation is still dragging? Unmatch. I'm not going to wait 6 months for you to ask me out.
It's bad NOW. I met my wife 22 yrs ago on AOL. Today these kids want to keep it online and it's about money. Back then it was about dating and taking it offline.
To hear Aba say he's always seen himself as unattractive is mind boggling to me, in my opinion he's a very attractive man. His personality is great and he can dance which makes him even more attractive, over all, in my honest opinion, he is extremely sexy.
He is simply talking about his physical appearance. He is about a 6 I would say. He doesn´t need someone to defend and support him on that front when he himself just sees it as just being real.
I think just going on looks, he's attractive, too. And remember that if it weren't a pandemic, he might look better bc maybe he'd be getting haircuts and a shapeup. Idk, but...he said in HIS opinion. But we all know he knows others feel differently bc they're all up in his dms.
Theres kinda 2 sides to this coin... some ppl are just better at conversation in person, I'm one of them. Another reply mentioned saying something interesting/quirky as a first line and I've tried this to dismal results. I usually get no reply or the guy is dismal at conversation after. It's a 2 way road. If a girl/guy comes in with a lame "hey" a conversation can still be built after, but if the guy/girl is terrible at convo as well then 🤷♀️ Also u both may just not have anything in common. After a few probing questions the conversation falls flat cuz u guys just move in different worlds really.
Aba saying he's not attractive hurts my self confidence, and I'm someone who *does* think I'm attractive. Not to sound cocky, I just mean that I have confidence in my looks. If nobody else thinks I'm attractive, that's fine cause I think I look good.
