"MY KIDS CAN GET PLASTIC SURGERY" | We need normalize mediocre looks. 

Aba hit it on the nail. In the Colombian culture we put so much emphasis on looks at such a young age. Ffs at a young age my mom and aunts had me wear a fajas (waist trainer) as my body was still developing. Doesn't also help where Colombia is known for its plastic surgery and is encouraged to look meet these expectations by society.

The woman that had over 200 surgeries is no longer doing it for looks, she’s definitely an addict.

"just because something is common, doesn't mean it's good." A lot of people need to accept that in this day and age.

Damn, she went to the plastic surgeon 270 times and not once did she consider stopping by the psychiatrist. That's crazy

I love how he described Ariana grande as "little white girl that stays 17 forever"😂

*This is why I support **_body neutrality_** over body positivity. No, not everyone is beautiful and that's OK* To clarify: body positivity seeks to combat unfair beauty standards and pretty privilige by claiming that everyone is beautiful. Therefore, it buys into the faulty premise that beauty is important. Body neutrality acknowledges that some people are ugly, and that it has no bearing on their worth or value as a person.

My mom had plastic surgery, she's a size 0 use to be a size 16. I was small until I had my baby. I gained about 50 pounds. She told me I needed to fix my body so my husband doesn't leave me. Then proceeded to tell me what all I needed to get done. My husband overheard this and told her he DID NOT feel that way and he would never do anything like that. She then looked at me and said "aw you have such a good man" I remember thinking "dang I wish I had a good mom" 🤦🏾‍♀️

I used to be obsessed with my looks crying everyday that im ugly as a teenager and one day my dad told me, "youre not the ugliest person in tbe world and youre not the prettiest, youre just in between like everyone else" and it just turning point fot me and i got over it after that. Even if i became the 10 i could be, i will still find someone else to compare myself to and be unhappy. So i had to change my mind frame.

I had a breast reduction at 16, they were so big they gave me scoliosis. To me that is acceptable. If it's for HEALTH, go for it.

The lady that got 225 surgeries is just in to deep to have regrets 😂

my mom got a liposuction after she had me and never told me, all while pressuring me to be thinner and thinner, causing a LOT of ed's. Only found out when I was at my worse(but "skinnier") and she laughed it off, not realizing what she did all these years. Parents, don't project your insecurities on your children, please.

When my daughter said she didn’t like her nose, that it’s too big(it’s definitely not big) and wanted to have work done. I had to have a deep conversation about Euro centric beauty standards, the dangers of plastic surgery, the influence that media has, changing trends, the long term effects,etc.Your features come from your ancestors, generations of people, that passed those features down to you. I had her ask herself is it her nose she doesn’t like or is it her heritage(she got her dads nose, who got it from his mother, who got it from her parent) and if she can’t find beauty, especially the beauty that everyone except her sees, then she will probably find something else she would want to change after getting a nose job. If she still feels the same way when she gets older then she can do what she wants. Our mentality, self esteem and even features change as we age and something as permanent as plastic surgery needs serious self reflection and research, there’s things I wanted to get done in my teens but over time I grew out of my insecurities and learnt to appreciate all of my features even the ones that don’t even fit the conventional standard of what is considered beautiful.

Recently my best friend called me to tell me she’s getting a bbl with her mom. She goes on to tell me her mom didn’t want to get it alone, so she made her get it. My heart shattered because her body image has always been very negative because of the way her mom made her feel when she was younger and thicker. now she’s barely 21 getting surgery. I try to support her and make her not feel bad about it, but I can‘t pretend like she needed this. I can’t help but be mad at her mom for making her think that she needed this.

Hot take: getting surgery to change your body doesn’t help you overcome body image issues , it just removes the things you’re self conscious about

*The thing about getting plastic surgery, is that once you start, you will just keep finding more things that aren't "perfect" with you. It's rare that a person will go in just for "1 surgery", my issue is the fact that people are afraid to age. I'm in my 30s n I already have laugh lines, I worked hard on those lmao, I love to laugh.*

Honestly, it’s scary how people talk about plastic surgery. It’s still FUCKING SURGERY. I’m in the fitness industry I’m 26 now and when I was 22-24 everyone got their boobs done. At one point all my instructors took time off for it. In the fitness industry it’s so normal and I thought I had to do that to be normal. I lost a lot of body fat strength training so my boobs were the first things to go. What shifted my mindset was tearing my ACL & Meniscus and having to have surgery… it wasn’t a choice and I wish everyone could see how hard my recovery. I’m still affected two years post op.. I wish people could see how much your body is affected when you go under the knife. You will never be the same after the surgery even if everything goes perfectly.. After my ACL surgery I will never voluntarily go under the knife…it seems crazy to me that I even considered getting my boobs done. You won’t be young forever and making permanent decision regarding your body is honestly sad and I feel for all the young women & men making that decision. After my surgery I really focused on how I was fueling my body and my boobs grew and they fit my body and now I love them.. Start with diet & exercise and see if that helps before you cut yourself without even knowing if you will like the result.

“Your imperfections can be dope.” - Aba Great line!

Insecurity has become such a norm that people find ways to “fix” whatever makes them insecure, instead of accepting themselves.

This also happens with black women telling their daughters they have beautiful hair but they always have weaves, wigs, perm etc. I had to cut my hair and keep it natural for my daughter to start appreciating her hair! Parents should lead by exemple!

Feeling like pretty privilege is one of the contributing factors why we couldn't accept our average features, we want to be accepted and treated special

Every time I see Monique (she’s well known for her surgeries), I feel so bad for her. Her ear is attached to her jaw from a botched face lift. It also amazes me that there are people who can afford to do this, yet there are people who cannot afford to get a bad tooth pulled.

I don’t like calling people ugly. I consider someone ugly when their personality is extremely distasteful. Now, if someone is not my type they are simply unattractive.

Robin Williams’ character in Good Will Hunting said it best: “You’re not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense - this girl you met? She isn’t perfect either. But the question is: _whether you’re perfect for each other._ That’s the whole deal, that’s what intimacy is all about.”

I’m watching this as I currently have a splint on my nose as I’m recovering from my 3rd rhinoplasty (the first 2 were botched) at 23 years old. I’ve been getting Botox, filler, etc. since I was 20 and I do it more so for preventative purposes. But it did hit me the other day that despite all of the pain, I do continue to willingly put myself through this time and time again and that I sometimes question why. But I think back to how I was treated before my procedures vs. how I’m treated now the emotional pain of the way that I was treated before far surpasses how people treat me now. It’s incredibly sad and messed up, but people are much kinder to me than they used to be. As much as I hate the fact that I’m contributing to that behavior in a way, there’s also only so much a person can take before they give in.

When I was younger I was extremely self conscious about my nose. I begged my parents to let me “fix it”. I even had a therapist I saw that had tried to tell my mother the benefits that would come from letting me get surgery. I was only in middle school. As an adult, I have two beautiful daughters who have my nose and I couldn’t be more grateful that I did not get that surgery. Thank you for making this video!

What’s sick is the obsession with body parts women perpetuate. Our bodies change so much that once you make your identity your body, you’re doomed for a life of depression

I’m a woman and these two men have just taught me that my boobs are okay the way they are. I’ve said countless times how much I wanted to have surgery so they’re more even and literally apologized for them being a little different. Thank you 🙏

24:00 Aba is soooooo right!! I'm a huge nerd when it comes to teeth, I'm a dental assistant and thinking about being a dentist myself. So veneers are dumb, and so are crowns, let me explain. It's the easy way out, and it compromises the health of your teeth. Natural teeth will, when taken care of, outlast any and all fake work, including but not limited to, crowns, veneers, and any filling material that's put into cavities. Once you start drilling into natural teeth structure, it's similar taking years off of your life, except it's taking years off the life expectancy of that tooth. Straightening out your teeth, correcting your bite via braces is a better way to go if it's a healthy option for you. And braces are ONLY a good option if 1, your dentist determines it and 2 you actually take care of your teeth once you have the braces. You gotta understand how hard it is to keep your teeth clean and be willing to put in the work.

Agreed. My mother is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. She always received compliments on her beauty no matter where we were. Though she never received plastic surgery, as a child everyday I witnessed her pick herself apart. I’ve been told how much I am her twin but, I never found myself attractive because of her low self esteem. My thought process is, if the woman I could only hope to be as beautiful as doesn’t like herself, how could I see myself as beautiful? Even her telling me how pretty I was/am I perceived as a lie. How could you love the features you hate on me but not you? It’s a mind screw. I work on that daily. I couldn’t imagine how a child of a parent who received elective surgery feels.

I think what Aba says about detecting rhinoplasties is what it's called "uncanny valley". Our brain is structured to detect what is "unnatural". It happened with CGI as well in movies. No matter how perfect the representation is (Peter Cushing in one of the Star Wars prequels), our eyes are telling us, that is doesn't move normal or it doesn't look like a real person. It's a self-defense mechanism to identify threats.

Most people are average. We need to stop thinking that you can only be happy when you are a 10/10.

I think I know what their problem is. It's easy for you Aba, to come out and say you're average and be fine with that, but when you grow up all your life hearing that women must be beautiful and that large boobs are sexier, it gets to your head and it never leaves. They had these surgeries because of a mental imagine that never left them. Cause of people constantly shoving the perfect feminine ideal in their face and not meeting that standard.

The craziest thing to me, is that there's not one single standard, but this weird system where everyone feels bad about themselves and wants what they can't have. White? Go tanning. Black? Bleach. Asian? Double eyelid surgery. Slim? Implants and BBL. Thick? Lipo and breast lift. Curly hair? Straightener. Straight hair? Curling iron. Short? Should be taller. Tall? Too tall. Big forehead? Hair implants. Small forehead? Electrolysis.

“That small white girl that looks like she’s 17 forever” had me on the floor 😂😂😂😂

3:00 because "body positivity" has always just been about people wanting to justify their eating patterns and cope with their obesity. There is a reason why all the "plus size models" are just chubby women but with beautiful faces. It has never been about "every body is beautiful". Real body positivy would have been models with a crooked nose and shit.

I’m filled with so many insecurities that it took me long time to accept the way I am.. it’s okay to be average, we can normalise that. Presenting the best version of ourselves is something which can be easily achieved and bring up the confidence.

Literally had a friend and mother of four die on the surgeons to get a BBL this week, I'm 30 a little bit chunky with stretch marks and got in the gym and learning self discipline, determination,and graditude during the journey actually developed my self love so much more. Don't risk your lives lady please.

We need normalize not being perfect and stop lying to ourselves.

I considered getting a breast reduction and cutting out my stomach fat. I’m so happy that I don’t feel that way anymore. I have come to love my breast. Even though my stomach is still an insecurity, I will never get surgery for it. If I went through with it, I would find something else to fix and I think eventually would have grown to resent myself. Going to the gym and doing yoga makes me feel so much more content and driven then going under the knife ever can.

I just wanna let Aba and Preach know that your views on this particular subject has given me A LOT to think about. I've always wanted to change a couple of different things about my body but I think that we need to manage our insecurities in healthier ways and get to the bottom of why we feel so insecure and less than. Society telling us we are ugly unless we get surgery to all look the same is so outrageous the more I think about it. I appreciate these types of videos and am glad I stumbled on this one. Absolutely love you guys!

“Normalize being average” Pls louder for the people in the back! So many people ignores amazing average-looking women/men who aren’t “IG”-friendly, meaning you can’t show them off and fake it till you make it..the amount of shallowness is too damn high but thankfully it’s easy to spot them. And yes plastic surgery is another tier on the privilege tier list.

They needed someone who actually needed plastic surgery based on an accident to contrast the ones who are doing it more for looks

Honestly, I wish I had women in my life that told me I was fine just the way I was. All of my aunts, cousins, and mom and everyone else had implants and constantly say boobs make you worthy. Same as the one in the white shirt. I ended up getting breast implant illness (immune system attacks foreign objects in your body) and nearly died. I’ve spent so much money getting boobs to be worthy of love, had to pay again to have them removed, and still need another surgery to get them back to a size that even looks normal for my small frame (5’1). It isn’t worth it to me. To each their own, though. Nobody can really know in advance if their body will reject the implants. Total luck of the draw. But do I really want a man who loves me because of my cup size? I was brainwashed by societal pressures. Younger me deserved better influences

I wanna thank you guys. Before this video, I was always insecure about my breasts because they are oddly shaped. Granted I am out of shape and I plan on fixing that, but even before that I wasn't happy with them. I didn't think they looked "normal." But after hearing Preach say that oddly shaped boobs are normal, I shed an actual tear. It felt like something that had made me feel like shit for years was finally lifted off my shoulders. I've never shared the subject of me being insecure about my breasts with anyone, and now if I ever do, it'll be because my mentality has changed for the better.

My moms sat me down and warned me long time ago that insecurities gonna come at me hard if I get on too much social media without getting to know and love myself. Good thing I listened. I know too many females, who's mentality is utterly recked, because of idolizing this "picture perfect" nonsense and throw about the same "ur perfect sis" crap. Yet if they see another more attractive woman they have a whole fvckin mental breakdown.

No no no! Don't let your insecurity ruin your kids who literally cannot consent to this life altering process!

Crazy, I grew up hearing kids call me fish lips, big lips, etc for years. At 17, I could not wait to get surgery. Met a stranger on a seek work project, and she talked me out of it, telling me people are buying my lips. I held on saying one day I’ll make enough money to go South Korea and get it done. 13 years later and I love my lips, they fit perfectly to my face thanks to lockdown and having to see them everyday. I went to get a makeup lesson recently, and learnt that i should be wearing colour lipstick and lipgloss. I’ve spent years trying to hide my lips so I stayed away from these things that magnify them. Now they are the most beautiful part of me, if they were smaller, that would be awful especially as I love walking out the house with nicely done lips and a little lotion on face. Like Preach said, trends change. Natural now then new trend and considering there is nothing new under the sun, this trend is here to stay. Glad a I stayed natural- sorry for the essay!

2:11 "from the surgeons office" preach was so quick with that xD

“Who’s that small little white girl who looks like 17 forever” “Ariana” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

At 26, I’m absolutely ok with being average and the way I look! Even after having a baby, I haven’t thought about changing a thing. But I used to extremely self conscious and insecure about my body and looks growing up. Being teased for being skinny, no butt, no boobs and I felt horrible. But since I’ve gained about 10 pounds and I work out here and there to keep toned but I’m glad I never felt the need to go change anything.

I never thought I'd get plastic surgery but now I'm booked in for next year. Honestly, I wouldn't be getting this unless I had to. My muscles are pulled apart due to pregnancies and it's impacting on my spine (which also needs repairing). Unfortunately I can't get the muscles fixed without also getting a tummy tuck.... ffs. That actually really pisses me off, I just want my muscles fixed but I have to also get skin cut off now. So fuck it! Go big! Get rid of all my baby stretched skin. But what I'm excited about is finally being pain free after 14 years of chronic pain 🙌

I don’t know about you, but I find little imperfections like a gap in the front teeth, laugh wrinkles, or grey hair are charming as hell. It’s more important to look human than it is to look perfect

It's gone from "It's ok if you're not perfect, nobody is" to "It's ok, everybody's perfect in their own way". If everyone's perfect, no one really is...

Thank you! Women these days are like "Self-Love" but constantly try to change themselves. It makes no sense to me. I have a daughter now and hope she never gets plastic surgery. She is beautiful inside and out. These are people that seek so much external validation that I feel bad for them. If she wants to get healthy when she is older without obsessing about it that is one thing and we will do it the right way diet and exercise. I appreciate ya'll speaking on this because this blows my mind. What we really need to focus on is education in this country. I wan't my daughter to most importantly have a beautiful brain. I also hope whatever she chooses to do in life she helps others. Society is so fucked right now. We need to change our ways of thinking for sure.

To lean into Abas love of anime a good quote is from Kurosutchi in the series Bleach regarding how perfection is boring & stagnant, imperfect things always have room to improve and grow in interesting ways.

"We don't treat the underlying issue." The motto of our times in so many ways.

People never talk about the scars! People love to say all the good but never the negatives. I had a breast reduction and the conversations I have with people who think they can cut open their body and not have scars…It’s mind blowing.

"I don't regret it,, except when I wish I was natural and regret it" Genius level intellect right there! 😂

This made me feel good about the gap in my teeth! Good to know some people see it as a good thing to have flaws.

I worked in a health clinic for 3 years and the amount of women who came in with Breast Implant Illness was shocking, it's not without risks.

“Some of you guys watching now are ugly” -Aba 😂😂 he's telling the truth.

With all these beauty standards, I'm starting to think wearing burqa might not be that bad of an idea. My face and body can be as ugly as it can be and nobody would see it, it's convenient lol

This was lowkey one of the most inspirational, for a lack of better words, videos you guys have made you said a lot summing up to learn to accept yourself its okay to be you.

Fortunately, I grew out of a lot of my insecurities, but something that completely changed my perspective forever was becoming a mother. Looking at my child and seeing some of the characteristics that I used to be insecure about or just seeing myself in them period gave me a sense of compassion and love for my younger self that I didn't have before. When I look at my children and feel so much love for them, how could I hate myself when I'm in them and they are so pure and deserving of love. And the child I used to be is the same way, deserving of love. I feel so protective of my children I never want them to feel the way about themselves that I used to feel about me, so I have to show them they are worthy of love by loving me. I hope that made sense to someone lol.

People often forget plastic surgery doesn’t change your genes so when you have kids and they have the same features you used to, it’s gonna be a problem. A young girl is gonna look at her mom and wonder why I don’t look like her.

I love your ‘uneven boobs’ comment! The fact you guys have no weirdness about that is beautiful. I salute you both. Thank you for celebrating women as they come. Xxx

It’s interesting because for the longest time I wanted my nose done, my boobs done, lip fillers etc. But as I got older I grew out of it. I also learned how to really love my features. I wonder if everyone waited kinda like the wait a year before you get the tattoo kind of thing if they still would’ve gone through with it 🤷🏻‍♀️

"Just because it's common, doesn't mean it's good" sooo applicable to various things in modern day culture right now. Well said.

As a 44 year old woman, I feel the pressure. However, I can recognize that I’ve slats struggled with my body image. Despite being a former athlete and still in good athletic shape…I still find myself “competing” with not being thick enough, things sagging, or sadly becoming less desirable do to stretch marks or more elasticity in my skin. I refuse to get surgery (due to health risk) but I do fantasize about “having that look” . I’ve realized that this is deeper rooted and surgery will not change how I feel about myself. As a result, I will continue to work on my core self-beliefs. Thanks again for these post. These discussions are important!

This is always an interesting topic to me. I’ve never really dealt with self esteem issues so I always sit out on the discussion because I don’t know what it feels like to think I look ugly. But I think one thing that has helped me is the fact that I really don’t play into compliments about my looks. Like I acknowledge them and receive them but they don’t make my day or stay with me long. I just register it as “This specific person thinks I look nice,” instead of “Yeah I know I look nice because they confirmed it for me.” I always tell people I’m average looking because for everyone person that find me extremely attractive there’s one that would be offended if you suggested they found me attractive. I’m okay with knowing I am ugly to a large group of people and I’m average to a large group of people. These have no bearing on my life. 😂🤷🏾 I just wish people accepted the fact that you’re never going to be highly attractive to everyone. I also wish people would prioritize complements and comments about actual life defining things like your attitude and behavior.

I loved the coverage on this topic. I believe people are made perfect- but perfection is not the absence of flaw, rather the wholeness of your design as it was intended to be. You are made and will develop as you are intended to be. So when your kids look at your face or body, they won’t look like you and you might not like them because that’s what you paid to get away from

We need to normalize being INSECURE! That’s the root to all of this. Society tells us your not allowed to be insecure and your the outlier for feeling secure so you MUST eradicate that feeling at any cost.

I had to have a breast reduction. It started affecting my health, my back, shoulders, etc. They took 6lbs out of my chest. Very happy I did.

When he said early 2000s I knew it was that tramp stamp LOL. I know what you're saying about the filler lip look...they usually dont have a cupid's bow anymore. Like for instance, Kylie Jenner's top lip is completely straight across. Lol anyway yea why are people getting SO MUCH plastic surgery and so young?! My mothers had 2 breast jobs, and shes 60 now and has had them removed and she regrets that shit now. She thinks it's caused her "breast augmentation syndrome" (a cluster of bad health symptoms people with boob jobs tend to complain of).

I needed to hear this while high. I just realized why im so uncomfortable to get naked around my significant other.

When Hollywood talks about diversity, I think they should include diversity of attractiveness. Why does the protagonist of every story have to be smoking hot?? And the one time they cast an ugly lead, is for a movie that revolves around them being ugly. Interesting stories happen to people of all looks.

I am dusty been dusty and I am gonna stay dusty.

There is one way to deal with your own plastic surgery while keeping kids out of it. Tell them "I didn't know better options and I'm at peace with my path but it was tough and I wish to offer better options to you."

Ember: I overcame body image issues by getting my nose and boobs done. How about when those implants start to really sag and stretch your skin? You didn't solve an issue, you created an issue and decided the only solution was surgery. Breast implants in cases where there is severe asymmetry or reconstructive surgeries, I understand. This stupid, "I want them bigger." When the risks of Breast Implant Illness, cancer, scar encapsulation, stretching of the areola, sagging etc. You have to get them taken out and replaced throughout your life.

I think it's okay to let minors have plastic surgery if it's medical. I have friends who developed DD-F cups before we were even 16 and it hurt their backs. They always complained. A good bra for them is beyond being a Godsend. One upperclassmen got a reduction as soon as she turned 18 because it bothered her so much. When you're in that much pain it's not vanity, it's medical. I also think it's okay if it's for reconstruction after an accident or life changing illness like becoming disfigured after removing a tumor.

I have two friends with breast implants (one has her nose done as well); one is more of an aquiantance, and the other is a really good friend. They often post on their instagram all this body positivity, loving the body you're born in, and shit like that, and every time I see those posts, I just roll my eyes. Like, to me it seems a condradictory and hypocritacal message coming from them.

I was at my county fair today and a guy told me to eat and called me a skinny bitch. I watched this video when I really needed it. I’m still a teenager and the guy screamed it real loud so it was really embarrassing. So many people in my generation, their mind is SO brainwashed because we grew up with people like the Kardashian’s and so many of the people I know were exposed to porn at an early age and only like unrealistic body types. Anyone reading this no matter fat, tall, short, dark, light, or even a skinny bitch like me, learn to accept who you are and slowly learn to love parts of yourself. We’ll never fully love ourselves but you should never totally hate how you look! Everyone has beautiful aspects of themselves :)

Just putting my crap out here, I’m 58 and 1 of my boobs is a whole cup size smaller then the other. I’ve lived with it and I have some insecurities about it but I wouldn’t go under the knife to get it evened up. That’s just me. I’m just an average biotch. Love y’all’s content, keep it up.

people need to realize that when you spend time trynna please every single person that criticize you, your gonna end up looking like a monster and become disconnected from who you are

I never liked my nose, not because it was ugly - it just didn’t look like my family, come to find out my dad had reconstructive surgery when he broke his. Had I known this at an earlier age I wouldn’t have had that insecurity!

“From the surgeon’s office!” Lol That’s where you come from 😆

I listen to your guys’ videos cause I can’t actively watch them at work. I find it hilarious that as soon as Monique starting talking I could hear in her voice that she had an insane amount of work done. Just goes to show too much plastic surgery has negative permanent side effects.

Parent: you are perfect the way you are Kid: *literally have the face the parent got rid off*

How sad is it when an obituary says “ she died tried to get a bigger butt”. That’s her legacy.

I howled out loud when he said 'trends' LOL.

The fun history of plastic surgery is that it has decent roots: It really hit its stride during World War I, because young men were being maimed in the trenches and coming home with injuries that basically left them unable to function in society (do not google it unless you have a strong stomach, seriously. When I say 'maimed', I do mean *"maimed").* There was a very realistic understanding that while you may be physically healthy, you might have an injury or deformity that causes you intense social distress and impairs your quality of life overall. There are so many legitimate uses for plastic surgery, where injury or deformity prevents someone from being able to function socially. The problem is that nowadays people have a screwed up definition of what will reasonably impair your ability to function in society. You do not need a BBL, you do not need a tummy-tuck, you do not need to have your buccal fat sucked out in order to function smoothly in the world. And too many people have this weird idea that because a surgery is cosmetic that it isn't "real" surgery, with all the same risks attached. Don't even get me started on the ones who go outside of the U.S. to get procedures done because U.S. doctors refused to do it.

My teeth are perfectly straight and all, but I do have a gap. My parents told me they'd close it with braces and then the price hit them and they were like hell naawwww. I'm 27 now, and while I kind of don't like the gap, I don't know that I can see and accept myself any other way than with it. It's cute some days, ugly some others. I deal.

It’s sad but we really are living in the most narcissistic era of all time

THANK you. Not enough people talk about health issues after surgery or society's standards.

What the guy said about body positvity and plastic surgery and their correlation was a remarkable observation. Being from a completely different culture to see these young women overcoming their issues by taking route of plastic surgery makes me realize the extent of severity of confidence issues they must be facing because of different reasons. Of course I have my own insecurities too but I would never think of taking that route because of how unheard of it is in my culture but seeing them stating all those things without an issue felt kinda surprising that changing their bodies wasn't such a big deal... it must have been truly hard then the pressure from whatever factors for these women to take it so normally.

“I was so beautiful and confident that I had surgery/surgeries to get rid of superficial insecurities.” I can’t believe people can actually say shit like this with no hint of irony.

"I had a lot of bad experiences..." Preach: "Yes...yeeesssss"

Wow Preach is really empathetic ❤️ love that he's really trying to understand why these people do the things they do. It's the underlying issues that's the problem.

Body modification has always been about moving away from 'natural' beauty where as boobs jobs etc are have been to move towards the beauty standards - coming from a woman with 20 years ongoing tattooing /piercing. The pink hair etc and all the usual teenage stuff and experimenting... not so much, but 14 years working towards becoming an emergency room nurse/trauma co ordinator etc whilst continuing to colour my skin, in comparison I have a box of letters and cards under my bed saying 'I'm sorry I didnt get the nurses name but she was so kind or what not and has the most beautiful butterflies flying all the way up her arms, I hope you find out who it was because I didnt think I was gonna make it home that night...

In high school, I took a creative writing class. We all got asked “what is something you can change about yourself” I recall saying “i wish I had different colored eyes” the teacher automatically told me “why do you feel this way, how would that change who you are” I am grateful for that conversation. You have to love who you are, the exterior doesn’t matter. when we leave this material world, we don’t take these looks with us or even material possessions.