"there are a million ways you can live as your biological self [...] it's always okay to be a woman how looks like a boy but isn't or vice versa [...] you can't demand people to ONLY ssay good things about you, it's impossible" - Marcus Dib
Yep. Can confirm that first one. I'm Fluidflux to be more specific but I've been stuck in this demiboy state for quite a few months and just recently had a femboy week. :) It may be annoying to keep changing to make the disphoria less bothersome but it's nice to switch it up sometimes. Just takes awhile to get used to.
Thank you... I've been feeling this way. So, I could feel like a boy for one day and be masc presenting that day, but feel and be feminine presenting the next day and be that way for a month straight, and I'd still be genderfluid? I get told I'm not genderfluid if I'm a girl way more than when I'm a boy...
My sibling and I are both gender-fluid and we make jokes because I dress femme and they are very masculine both of us pretty consistently. I have an incredibly snazzy sibling
I most of the time know when people adress me Since I'm afab people will adress me as a girl And based from this I know If I feel like it's me, like it isn't or I just dont csre
especially the one where you don't just wake up and say "wow im a ___!" im genderfluid and i tend to just forget gender exists then i think about it and just go "yeahhh that sounds about right for today."
@@UNlTED_KlNGDOM also not trying to be rude /gen, but thats not what it is. fair warning, this is probably gonna be a long explanation that you didn't mean to get lol the quick response is, your right, no i can't chose wether im a boy or a girl or whatever else. but thats not quite what i mean lol. ok, very long explanation-- when people are transgender, its not quite a choice. you can't really control what you are or are not, and thats okay. its also incredibly difficult to understand, which is also okay. sometimes people think that when i say im trans, they think what im saying is "i know im in the body of a female, but i think its male now", like being transgender means to change your sex (based on physical attributes) rather than gender (based on mentality/comfortability) which, while the confusion is understandable, this is not the case. because theres a difference between sex and gender, they are not always interchangeable terms. everyone is assigned male, female, or intersex (which you might wanna google or something if you don't know what that means) when they are born. for example, i was born female. which means that even if i don't feel comfortable with my body or whatever else comes with being this sex, i cannot truly change that. no amount of surgery, or hormones, or whatever else can change that. the majority of people who are trans understand that. gender is different from sex. this is something much more fluid and malleable. while there are the main two sexes, there are many more genders, and yes, it can be difficult to understand. for example, im genderfluid, which means that the labels im comfortable with change (in case your wondering: yes it's infuriatingly confusing, no i don't force anyone to try and make me comfortable, 99% of the time i just use neutral terms like they/them to make it easier, and no its not just being indecisive). other people can come out as the opposite gender than their sex (ie FTM (female to male), MTF (male to female)), some people have it a bit more complicated, and some people don't quiet align with anything (agender) or simply don't want to have a label. (if you choose to do research about different genders and see something like dreamgender or cakegender (both actual things i saw, unfortunately) or whatever else that is equally super weird, please ignore it. people who make these are trolls and the only purpose these "identities" have is to mock others) pronouns are an entirely different thing, but to simplify it, pronouns to not equal gender. for example, you could be born male and go by all pronouns, yet still be cisgender (when your gender aligns with your sex). basically, gender is kind of messy and difficult to understand. but it doesn't hurt to call someone what they want to be called, unless its something really weird but thats not a gender thing so we don't need to talk about that :D just try to be respectful of others, its not too difficult and it can make them feel more comfortable and could really make their day :] and i apologize for this super long reply lmao, probably not what you were expecting. if anyones actually read it, then i hope you have a good day/night
It's because you feel like you have to keep up this bs gender fluid charade around your generation of friends to be accepted. Ditch the friends and just stop worrying about which gender you're going to represent yourself as today. You're driving yourself nuts. That's why over half of y'all are ki**ing yourselves. You're just not happy with how God created you because you have this peer pressure that you have to be trans or whatever to be accepted. Find God and be who you are and live your life and you will be fine.
As Genderfluid when people ask me what gender or pronouns I have decided to respond with: "Dont give a shit. Call me a bitch, sir, ma'am dont care. Just dont piss me off"😂
For me it is like taking two drops of different coloured dyes and placing them in a glass of water. As you watch them decending as pillowing clouds they intersect, swirling around each other in layers, slowly intertwining mixing. There is always movement, there is always fluidity. No point is fixed but I expirence being simultaneously at a multitude of varying poins at any given moment.
Doesn't the fact that you associate certain feelings with a feminine gender and certain ones with a masculine gender make you worse then those horrible binary folks you are in conflict with? You're the ones mandating certain feelings to a certain sex.
@@sevilliane here’s an example: do you feel like your gender? A genderfluid person feels like a gender the same way you do, only what gender it is changes (if you need an example of how that works you can just reread the comment)
my girlfriend came out as genderfluid a while back, and I understand and knew about the myths, as I am a demigirl, but my favorite way to ask them what pronouns to use for the moment is always "tits or pecs".(yes I did ask if she was okay with it first)
@@GhostRider-yc7kr You guys just can’t stop spreading hate, can you? You always gotta turn something happy into something bad just cause you feel like it.
I'm a demigirl and the last one was really well said. like sometimes I wake up without knowing how I feel so I just choose some clothes that I like at the moment and when I'm outside I realize I don't like them because they're for example too feminine and I feel more non-binary at the moment and it usually lasts for the rest of the day. so yeah, I usually realize who I am when I'm already around people and can't change anything about my visuals anymore (':
@@sevilliane Demigirl is someone who identifys with womanhood partially and something else. There's a lot of different cases and it can be different person to person. For example I use they/them pronouns and for the most part consider myself non-binary but I don't mind my female body too much and she/her pronouns sometimes.
@@sevilliane granted that you began this with "either your a boy or girl", I don't think you will be very respective to what I have to say, and frankly I'm very tired today, and don't feel like having to defend my gender to a stranger, (note this is not meant to be aggressive) I do ask if you wish to learn more then look it up, on RU-vid their are many non-binary and demi perspectives that can help you understand and took the time to explain in way I probably could ever. With all due respect, if you truly want to learn.
A good thing to think about when people assume an identity dictates presentation: A non-binary person doesn’t need to be androgynous to be nb, just like a woman doesn’t have to be feminine to be a woman, etc This applies here too :) to be gender fluid, you don’t have to play into what ppl think gender fluid ppl should look like
@@slipknotmfkrlocust8843 just spreading facts. People think Gender Fluid is a thing, it's not because it doesn't exist. Everyone should know that already
I have a gender schedule I’ve figured out a bit. I wake up: feel too tired for gender. Agender. Get ready, feel preppy, feel feminine: Demi girl. Move through the day, non binary. End of the day, I’m tired, I feel strong and chill, guy. Sleep, I dream and am not affected by the cycle. And then some weeks, or days, I’m just stuck in one gender.
I have a race schedule similar to yours: Mondays i feel lazy so im black. Tuesdays i feel hardworking so im Asian. Wednesdays I feel like blowing shit up so im middle eastern. Thursdays i feel like dominating people so im white
mood... I'm mostly female, but sometimes fluctuate into a specific subset of xenogenders, that seems to keep expanding, and the amount of times I started out the day as a woman and then suddenly started feeling more like a potted plant, to a snow leopard, to a marionette, and then just ordinary woman again is, wild.
@@sourwitch2340 🤣🤣🤣 i know, I also wake up as male but suddenly i feel like i need to be launched into space because i get the feeling i should be a planet in our solar system!!!
This is helping me with my gender Og i thought i most likely genderfluid then i heard myths and said oh most likely not then Right now im Agender and i feel comfortable but im not sure if its my gender yet!
Something that confuses me. To all the people who say that the person in this video is looking for attention. Do they not realise that the person in this video would already have attention anyway? They are gorgeous, they will already have people flocking to their feet, LGBTQ+ or not.
Every human has varying degrees of masculinity and femininity. So, to state the obvious fact of being gender fluid , is just as useful as saying you identify as a human. Claiming your gender, or how you present is a fairly obvious way to gain attention or to seek validation through arguably artificial means. So, instead of focusing on true character attributes….kindness, empathy, determination, love, etc., we focus on trying to get instant validation through classification. Why else would you make a video or state what you are or how you present so vehemently? Yes, in 2023 we are unbelievably egocentric. Very sad.
@@historyrepeated4239 Trust me, there is nothing masculine or feminine about some people I know. You are just using the abelist cop out card to belittle people who are different. Like I say this person in the video is gorgeous, there are far more effective ways to gain attention than declaring gender.
@@johntrevy1No, it is not. To immediately turn this into some kind of accusation of belittling is not useful. Although personal attacks might be preferred by some to shut down conversation. We are all different and I’m certain you don’t really know every masculine or feminine thought in these people you know.
@@historyrepeated4239 What is wild to me is how people use hormones and not feel right. FtM They use Testosterone, #1 complaint is a emotional state of apathy Mtf They use Estrogen, #1 complaint is that they aren't emotionally stable. How can you know what you are but than be surprised as you chemically assimilate. Neither side really knows how it will feel. Chemically w/ your phycology. Your psychology after people start treating you different, actually seriously see you as the one sex you were going for. I mean bio women don't really know how bio men perceive things, same with the reverse. It is not as if we don't have many long videos of people who de transitioned (which sadly get their voiced snuffed out because if regular people hear them they will stop believing in the "science" of all this) The social sciences, they have never led us astray.
I have a genuine question. I identify as non-binary and have for a while, but I’m starting to notice that I feel more masc on some days and more fem on others, and some days like neither. I’ve been wanting to find someone gender-fluid to ask this, but can gender fluid people be non-binary sometimes? edit: i’m genderfluid now lol
Feeling like neither is agender. Sometimes I feel like this. You sound like genderfluid. I am too, sorta - demifluid. Changing but not feeling a lot of anything. It’s all under the enby umbrella.
If course! I’m trans genderfluid and non-binary but that doesn’t (have to) mean that I always feel like neither male or female. Sometimes I do, sometimes I feel more feminine (which is why I also call myself a demigirl or demi-non-binary) and sometimes I feel like I’m both male and female (though I still struggle to accept my male side - when I discovered that I’m trans I initially thought in binary terms and rejected my male side (though I’m still not sure whether me feeling male is because I was raised male). I think your question is also about labels. I myself am often not sure whether I should use labels because I feel like there isn’t the one label that fits me so I use several. I would recommend to just experiment and try to use different label to see which ones fit or if any fits at all. It’s all fine. Remember, you decide what labels you use just like with pronouns - these things only you can decide. Don’t let anyone tell you what to use.
MYTH 3 OMFG THANK YOU!!! I CANNOT COUNT THE DAYS I WAKE UP AND MY FRIENDS ASK HOW IM FEELING (for compliments if my gender jumps around more than usual) AND I JUST SIT THERE TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT. you are amazing fr tho
@@insertname1452 Why would I be scared of insecure zoomers following a fashion trend for social approval? Plus 'gender fluid' people aren't the same thing as 'gay' people. You're not too bright, are you?
Thanks for educating Keara!! You bring such a personability and realness to these topics that straight clinical notes definitely wouldn’t. This is way better. Thanks!!
Watching tik tok/youtube shorts is obviously gonna be more fun than reading clinical notes. Or reading anything... that requires more that 20 seconds of attention. I'm thinking people should read/listen/watch more things like Jung and his Animus and Anima.
Can’t speak for others but I can speak for myself. Im not genderfluid because I want attention. Im genderfluid because Its how I interpret my feelings and no ones stopping me from expressing them in this way.
@ferrisbueller9991 its not anymore popular nowadays, it just seems like it because people are getting more educated on these new terms that describe our lived experiences. At one point in time, being left handed wasnt accepted in society and no one talked about it. Does that mean left handed people didnt exist?
Will someone explain to me what the hell masculine presenting and feminine presenting even means?! Like seriously.... You're literally enforcing gender stereotypes by using that very sentence. Like make it make sense....
Whenever you feel like your AGAB and you're like: "Oh God, I'm faking. I'm lying for the attention. I'm making it all up." Even though you change again later and have only told like,,, 2 people
Honestly I never really knew about this. But I’m already done with being Gender Fluid , cuz I’m jus a lot much better jus being as a female only. Even though I am a lesbian.
Sometimes in the middle of the day I start feeling too masc in a unconfortable way...and then I start being dysphoric because Im feeling like a girl. I WAS ASSIGNED GIRL AS BIRTH!!!!!
As I've said before, Sometimes it's T-shirt and jeans to feel masculine. Sometimes it's a hoodie and leggings because I feel nothing or both. Sometimes it's a dress and pretty ribbons because I feel fem AND THEN THERE'S DAYS WHERE YOU WANT ALL AT ONCE OR YOU DO ONE AND THEN FEEL THE OTHER It can be so damn frustrating LMAO
Finally someone said it!! My gender usually changes in small steps over long periods of time, so I go by they/them pronouns almost all the time and don't really feel the need to change my presentation. I always feel nonbinary, just different levels of feminine and masculine, but since people think genderfluid equals "boy on Monday, girl on Tuesday etc", I just tell people that I'm nonbinary 🤷
I sympathize greatly. Myself I am non binary so not a whole lot of questions as to who what when but boy oh boy people can be a bit of a pain sometimes
@@sevilliane well to me, being a man or a woman never sat right, with me it makes me uncomfortable being referred to as a woman and the same for being referred to as a man, so i just chose the middle ground and it makes me comfortable with my body and who i am
As a genderfluid person (that identified as a demigirl for a while) I love this! I used to use they/she pronouns but now I use they/she/he/any pronouns, and for so long I felt invalid as a they/she genderfluid person. Thank you for this
sometimes in the day I just have to reflect to myself he, she, they and see how i feel gender wise. if your cis do you wake up and i mediately go GIRL ‼️‼️ or BOY‼️‼️‼️ no, it takes some reflection
@@rainbowflyingllammmaaa7839 they are destroying our culture and our society. If they can't figure out left from right, up from down, or xx from xy, they have no place in society. I don't hire these people, because of how toxic and selfish they are, and how destructive they are to everyone around them.
@@rainbowflyingllammmaaa7839 so that mental illness doesn’t spread in to wider society. Suggestion: we build a dome round you all, and you can all have your own little world where men and women are the same. You can also just randomly decide to be neither a man or a woman. You can all tell eachother your preferred pronouns and dye each others hair. And in the process, you all leave the normal, functioning members of society alone and stop bothering everyone with your identity crisis’? Sound good?
Thank you! My gender sometimes changes after a month or two and on occasion every other day. I always thought to be genderfluid it had to be daily and it greatly confused me in my gender journey
Woah. I think I just found a new term for myself???? I did NOT know this is what genderfluid meant. I never really cared about my pronouns so I always said call me whatever. I don't care. Some friends call me he and others call me she.. etc. It doesn't bother me. Ofc though I like being called by my birth name but is that what Gender fluid is? A dress honestly however I want and what I want. I was born a female and am comfortable in my body and the parts it has. It's the pronouns I don't really care about.
if being genderfluid is a social media trend then my goodness, so is being a super masculine dude or a super feminine woman, because those things are also everywhere on social media...just because it's not your personal experience doesn't make it a "trend".
who you are born biologically isnt how you have to be your whole life, im not lgbtq or anything and like, i dont understand the hate? you only see the cringe of it on the internet, people with these preferences in the real world you would never even notice unless they told you. this "embrace who you are biologically" is complete bs and ignorant as hell. get real 😘😘😘
