My father down to a T. Inconclusively jealous throughout his whole existence. Used to think my mother was having affairs all the time. He'd pay people to spy/stalk her while he was at work. He even got jealous of my uncle once, my own mother's brother, for putting his arm around her during a family gathering. My mother was 💯 loyal and faithful to him during their marriage, wouldn't so much as cross eyes with another man. He was also narcissistic, coercive, physically violent, controlling and codependent. Sadly he passed away from liver cancer. My mother now has severe PTSD and never remarried after his death...
@@hiran4935 He would purposely swerve medicals in order not to get diagnosed. I think he knew he was in a bad way& also it was that antiquated stigma mindset of potentially coming across as weak.
This phenomenon is truly fascinating. I have witnessed how patients thought they were cheated on only because their partner wore a different lipstick than usual or because they used a wrong type of bread for sandwiches. And sometimes this ends really badly.
True but there are a lot of cases involving cheating in societies which have set aside religion or human values of contact, close knit community relations, etc., in modern times the behavior of affections itself are cold often relationships turning sour due to problems of the modern era.
If you think your partner is cheating on you get out don't waste anybody's time staying because it's miserable to be with someone who thinks you're lying and cheating forget the marriage the kids will be better off without you.
I was like this comment mention once, and later on I had to articulate why. I haven't watched the video yet so I can't comment on that. I had really horrible experiences with lying and cheating, and it never had any reasoning behind it, nor did it have any conclusion and so on. Then I met a girl who would gaslight the shit out of me. It was like you would never know what was coming home after she was away. It slowly drove me insane. When our relationship started, I was feeling great, and I never got jealous. I thought that if it happens it happens, and that I didn't believe it would, and if it would, I would leave. She also assured me as I did her that it wasn't going to happen. As an example, she would say outrageous things and promise too much, and she would also lie about things. , She would then turn around and pretend to be ignorant or childlike about things she was doing. She would not communicate, and only demanded. This was the worst part that drove me to insanity. No communication, no real assurrances, but only sort of misleading or avoidance. Everything was left wide open for me to interpret, and of course with enough hints and my past horrible experiences these interpretations turned negative. She would go out, and come home totally plastered carried my her friends who all seemed like something was wrong. I asked her and she have me nothing, and after a while would say no. She would say things like "this random guy wanted me to fix his zipper on the street, so I knelt down in front of him and used a pin to close his zipper, hee hee." She would carry this on and on, and then turn it around like I was being crazy for asking what was up. I then stopped asking, because I of course didn't want to be crazy. It of course did nothing to alleviate the situation. People have this sense of social awkwardness and people also often leak their intentions, unless they are completely psychopathic. I actually left her pretty soon after I realized things were going wrong, but I ended up back with her because the other option was to be homeless. This might have been the most unfortunate event ever, because of course everything that I had sensed was wrong was actually wrong, and she was lying, about everything. She ended up cheating on me for reasons I had asked her to admit to me years earlier, and I think the last thing I ever said to her was, "Why didn't you just telle all of this years ago when I begged for the truth from you?" I had told and shown her she can talk about anything, but she turned around and said how I got upset once after she told me something. I had gotten upset in the past because she had not only lied but had tried to convince me of the opposite of something, and so on. So when someone is jealous, there is a chance they are being totally paranoid or that their alarm system is broken for whatever reason. It's also possible that even though a person has not cheated yet, the other person senses that something is off and then if it is not properly addressed, it will get out of control. The last option of course is, that the other person is totally cheating. This is what makes these things so crazy. How do you know if an intuition is, correct or not when you can't articulate something that comes naturally. You can't point it out accurately enough, or the other person dismisses it without even thinking about it. The last thing she ever sent me was, that I was right about her all along.
Good news, it was not you. Instinctively you probably knew the truth but did not believe in yourself enough to act on it. On the other hand you did what you had to to stay off the streets. Hope your living situation is better now.
Never heard of this , my father definitely was like this in his last years , it got so bad with the jealousy and insane delusions , he started to see and hear stuff too and to him it just validated everything he was accusing her and would talk about it all the time to us , it’s very exhausting and heart breaking.
🙌 Mine too. My father down to a T. Inconclusively jealous throughout his whole existence. Used to think my mother was having affairs all the time. He'd pay people to spy/stalk her while he was at work. He even got jealous of my uncle once, my own mother's brother, for putting his arm around her during a family gathering. My mother was 💯 loyal and faithful to him during their marriage, wouldn't so much as cross eyes with another man. He was also narcissistic, coercive, physically violent, controlling and codependent. Sadly he passed away from liver cancer. My mother now has severe PTSD and never remarried after his death...
The woman in question stopped having sex with the man and her excuse was 'I'm afraid to have more kids". What a bullshit excuse . After ten years of no sex, OF COURSE she was cheating.
@@hoadinh1293 He didn't drink or take drugs directly infront of his family per se but it's funny you should ask that because when he got diagnosed from liver cancer the doctor in question said to us all that his liver was as damaged as a potential alcoholic's which obviously now, as an adult, makes me think he might have lead a double life he didn't tell anyone about where he was so insecure and had crippling low esteem and used alcohol to cope with life which eventually finished him. How come the question?
There is thing ,the people in older generations used to look older even at young age. I think V sauce made a whole video explaining why that happened. It is mainly because of skin aging due to heavy sun exposure.
This is really sad. Imagine the man you love suddenly becoming convinced that you are the devil incarnate, that you're a cheater, and that your entire marriage has been a lie. This form of psychosis is one I've never heard of before. Such a rapid onset, and not at the typical age range of a schizophrenic! I wonder what his "proof" was. When someone breaks like this, they can become extremely dangerous. I wouldn't trust him around the kids.
@@yafayafa9601or his increasingly psychotic behaviors turn her off. Women are not robots you know? He says the issue started recently… he wife may say it went on for 10 years. He said his sex life is almost nonexistent not that is totally nonexistent.
@@itss_leahh The issue that "started recently" was him becoming overly-suspicious about her (as a partner). Thats what i understood ( i will probably watch it again one day). And the lack of intimacy between them had been on for 10 years. Yes, of course women aren't robots, thats why i wonder why she is still with him (unless she COULD handle staying married to him because she was nurtured from somewhere else). The case can't be made entirely clear by just this one video.
We weren't married, but this happened to me. It's terrifying. He would watch pornographic videos & accuse me of being in the video with men- specifically black men. He'd take screenshots of the videos & zoom in to find any similarities of me & the women in the videos. Dark hair, tattoos, light skin.. so scary
He made his family and wife suffer all the same. They got the brunt of it. He’s vilified his wife and hates her because of his delusions (this is if the title of the video is true) and he says he dislikes the thought of the kids ending up at all like her though he also says she’s a good mother. Perhaps he cares most of all about the fact that they’re in _her_ custody rather than anything else.
@@sweetestaphroditethese people cannot help their diagnosis as much as they want to escape it or never do it, it can never be helped, it serious mental condition
The man might not be a delusional as they say and I really feel for him. I got that sensation one December a couple of years back. I thought I was going crazy too. But I trusted my gut feeling and found out it was true (with absolute proof) . I think we give intuition less credit than it deserves.
The difference here is that this man has no proof whatsoever. A rational thinking person would at least TRY to believe their spouse until they had good proof or conclusive evidence otherwise. A delusional person, on the other hand, will always defend their delusions first and foremost and at all costs.
@@scotlight1895 agreed. My ex husband was exactly like this. If I did anything out of the ordinary he took it as proof I was cheating. He’s get so pissed he hit me a few times. It was so scary.
Here is a classic example of how a person with Delusional Jealousy (Othello Syndrome) can really make their story sound legitimate and believable. If you didn't know any better you would think what he was saying was all true. He may believe what he's saying on a conscious level, but believe me, these people know when to omit facts, exaggerate things and explain away things that show them to be wrong... and they are very good at getting people to feel sorry for them and playing the victim. The telling part here is that he has no proof whatsoever and all of the "evidence" he mentions to back up his story are all things he just sort of made up in his head. People with this condition come across as normal, regular-minded people when they are not talking about their delusions but in reality they are very sick people.
See there is a logical problem in your analysis. The lack of evidence doesn't disprove infidelity itself. But jealousy without prima facie evidence of reasoning to believe this there could be possibility of infidelity could be potential Delusional Jealousy Syndrome. Now sometimes very minute actions of hiding infidelity can seem no obvious evidence, but can trigger a gut reaction of doubt of infidelity. Now the question is, what can we do in that case. We cannot gather such evidence, cause it's very subtle, can't be presented as proof. On the other hand, people might believe you have jealousy syndrome. So in essence, i believe this syndrome is most difficult to diagnose.
And then you meet his wife who you find out is the village slut but his mental block to accept it true keeps him trapped in another illusion that some how is a place of safety than the real truth. Which for some when they find it end in tradegy. No he is not that sick than his nieghbour or you or me. The world is sick and he is just another peice of it
This is how my ex was to me and he would beat me and beat me convinced i was lying to him and I loved him so much i wouldnt have ever thought about another man i only wanted him but he was so convinced mentally that i was a cheater and liar. I had to leave him or he would have killed me . All over psychosis and delusional thoughts
I just realized right now, that my father had it too. One day, my mother wore a perfume. And he was sooo sure that this was proof that she was cheating on him. He started beating her up and unfortunatelly, after this incident, it got worse and worse. If she wore her hair differently, she was cheating (according to his brain) so he beat her up again. If she wore a new shade of lipstick, obviously she was cheating again. So again he hit her. Everything she did - even the most normal basic things - were triggering to him and were a confirmation that she wasn‘t loyal. And everytime, he hit her agressively because obviously his jealousy was too much for him to handle. Until she grabbed me and left him to escape and survive.
It hurt me to see how real it was for him and i would reassure him i was not and would never cheat on him but that meant nothing to him mentally its the most scariest thing because his rage from it all was so terrifying then he would break down and cry and apologize and say he knows i wouldn't ever hurt him and the cycle would repeat until the beatings started happening more frequently than the reality of the love we had for each other.
Exactly how my experience with this disorder went. It's heartbreaking. I really do love him, but he doesn't want to get help to give his mind some peace & get these thoughts out of his head
Well at least this guy above got help by mental health staff in a treatment center and was honest about his struggles. Never should have left him alone but she was probably trying to get a break from him even then. I don't believe all this started happening during one month in July when he was bored and started ruminating. It just intensified. I hope they got divorced and the long suffering wife could move on. Staying together for the sake of the kids is never good. But since his own father was a deadbeat father I am sure he didn't want to put his kids through that.
He said he couldn't leave the kids with the mum because they would end up like her, but then goes on to say she's a great mum and he can't fault her in that department. Make it make sense 😅
Yeah, a guy who 's wife refuses to have sex for over ten years and her excuse is "I'm afraid to have more kids". This makes him "delusional"? Unless she was frigid and inhuman, It does sound like she may have been going elsewhere.
I don't think he is delusional, tbh. If indeed she didn't have sex in 10 years, most probably she would be in this hospital too, with some mental issues. While she is a very good mother (as he says), stable, healthy, going on vacation with the kids... chances r that she was doing pretty well (while having him out of their life as a couple, for so many years).
@@Valkonnen Is it all about penetration to you? Women aren't objects for you to bust a nut in, whenever you please. The wife had every right being scared of falling pregnant... again. He could have left her at any time, but he didn't - which is his own fault. He also admitted he wanted to hit her, at the end. But she's the crazy one, right? Good grief... Not justifying her cheating, but based on this interview - I believe he drove her into it.
He won’t be an actor, just like the children. Just have no rights your under state care. Legally different now. All these ppl would have past away, decades ago
@@MentalHealthTreatment Pas du tout! Ce sont des patients réels souffrant de pathologies avérées! Je ne comprends pas que vous diffusiez ces vidéos sans même avoir vérifié les sources pour pouvoir donner les bonnes informations.
@@freehugs8670 i wasn't in france at the time but i would guess by the way people are dressed, hair length, (including other interviews from the series) etc. the 60's or the 70's. black and white tv, movies, etc. was still common in europe at that time.
I don’t know what to think about this specific diagnosis nor his situation. What if he was right all along and she truly was cheating on him? How is the doctor or therapist supposed to decipher her “truth” from his?
@@luxaeterna6477How do you know how many languages the person has heard, knows of or can speak? I can say French has a unique sound. It flows easily and is considered the language of love. Spanish, Chinese, Arabic and Russian are nowhere near as graceful sounding. I live in the Windy City. There are so many different languages spoken so I have been privileged to experience hearing them and can easily offer an opinion without leaving my city...
This man clearly says that he started having thoughts based off being the bud of jokes what exactly the jokes were if any we do not know…. We are only seeing a few minutes of this man’s life honestly! This man also says he knows he has no real proof & that the thoughts escalated…. But in 2023 & trust me this sounds similar to how many people think in relationships that have developed or never had any trust….. whether they have been cheated on or not & that can be for various reasons…. People start relationships and things happen married or not. I feel the issue is he feels this way for a reason we don’t know his home life/marriage but he clearly understands his feelings and admits to not finding real proof! Hey the show cheaters was created off of premonition 😂along with entertainment hahaha….. but seriously a lot of people go through similar thoughts in some of these videos and I feel like sometimes it’s just a part of being human…. We all aren’t created the same or think the same everything does not have to be deemed a psychological problem….. it’s life & people handle things differently now if he is trying to hurt himself or others & I know conditions like that exist then of course intervention is needed…. For anyone especially if they feel they need help in an area…. Sounds to me like he became obsessed with not being able to get solid evidence based off his discernment these days people either choose to divorce such as he suggest, cheat or stay & well like he says despise his wife and again this happens even today so guess they better go scoop them folks up! The mind & body is complex and somethings humans can’t label or fix thats when we call on the universe to help lol! This is coming from me a person who already feels like an alien on earth so pay me no mind for I’m sure if I ever sat down with a psychiatrist they would label me something 😂Whoever reads this 😂possibly she is having a manic episode 🤣No, I just feel comfortable talking most times. I like saying how I feel & I feel I have a level of awareness that I was born with and I do not hate that at all!
I experienced similar situation with one of my partner I felt signs of her cheating but I don't want to accept it and one day I caught her with one of my best friend.
@@LaCitoyen Sigmund Freud states of one case about a girl who is accused by her own mother by being delusional turns out that little girl had witnessed her mother’s secret relationship with someone in order to hide that affair the mother imprisoned her own daughter in a sanatorium though Freud figured this out during her therapy sessions he stayed silent because he, at that time, thinks he should not expose the secrets of personal life. I have never met any cheater that accepts accusation without the undeniable evidence.
If I had not met such a person in real life, I would not have understood. I wouldn't believe it. my ex was like that. it was 6 months of hell. 6 months relationship. these are really mentally ill people🤯😤🤬 once I almost died. he choked me. then he cried, apologize🤬🤬🤬
They cannot help it, othello syndrome makes you not realize yourself at the same time your sane enough to know you want to get out of it and can’t help it you know it isn’t you but this serious mental condition is a constant battle you can’t get out off, people with this don’t choose too
I've never heard of Othello syndrome but I've heard of edipal complex against a man's brother.and his mother it was in a medical journal account I read one time.theyre family were arguing kind.
Have you heard of a wife who refuses sex with her husband for over a decade and then gives a bullshit excuse ? That's what I heard. I also saw a fragile man institutionalized when he spoke up .
WHY does a delusional jealously has a disorder even if it is TRUE that the partner is cheating?, because a) the person has a pathological attachment, the person needs the partner to stabilize their mind, b) a normal person would suffer but their conexion with reality wouldn´t be lost, people with PSYCHOSIS lose their minds under stressful events like infidelity; infidelity is something horrible to a person but a sane person would suffer under the reality of being cheated but the level of insanity will be measured on the damage that the infidelity causes on the person, suffering, depression, or psychosis
I'd say he may have been right about his wife cheating. Sometimes all we have is a gut feeling, and can't prove it; the cheaters are that good. Instead of psychiatrists, it would've been better for him to simply divorce. It seems he was just stuck on wanting proof, so he could really go off on her and the other man. He seemed to really love his family, and didn't want to believe it. Got himself caught in a web of psychiatrists, as well as his wife's deceptions. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, just divorce and leave. Better to lose your money and family, than to end up in the hands of a psychiatrist.
I am french and after watching this video (and others), I still do not really see any mental health problem. He is just a normal guy talking about his wife cheating on him. True or not ? Who knows ? But based on this video, how could anyone say that this guy is mentally ill ? Are spychiatrists normal guys ?!? I am seriously starting to doubt about it.
My father down to a T. Inconclusively jealous throughout his whole existence. Used to think my mother was having affairs all the time. He'd pay people to spy/stalk her while he was at work. He even got jealous of my uncle once, my own mother's brother, for putting his arm around her during a family gathering. My mother was 💯 loyal and faithful to him during their marriage, wouldn't so much as cross eyes with another man. He, however, was also narcissistic, coercive, physically violent, controlling and codependent. There was always fear that he might do something dark like you mentioned. Sadly he passed away from liver cancer (he was still my father nonetheless). My mother now has severe PTSD and never remarried after his death...
@@Judy122550 She is elderly now although she did see someone briefly after his passing, yes. The long lasting effects of delusional syndrome ravages&impacts families. We've all suffered as a knock on effect. It was a triggering yet heartbreaking video to watch this one.
@@MandyD445 yes it is awful,my Dad did not have that ,he had other issues, after he fought in the Battle of the Bulge,he found Mom they married had 6 of us , he thought we were the enemy can you imagine tiny kids, he would line us up on the couch with the gum pointed at our heads, the brutality was beyond, the saddest thing of all our church knew & the school,but NO ONE would help us. I never married until I was 33 I shook like a leaf when my husband footsteps sounded he would hold me telling me he would never hurt me I knew that but sounds & smells set me off. I am 73 & still sleep with a light on at night Mom will be 94 & still screams in the night I was in therapy from the time I was 14 until I married at 33 Mom left him with us 6 kids when he said he was going to keep me in the basement I told Mom I would pick up a gun & kill myself if we did not escape ,he had a loaded gun in corners of the rooms. I did not learn to years later my brothers planed on shooting him when they went hunting thank God they did not the abuse was beyond . Years later 7 years before he died he accepted the Lord as his Savior I had to forgive him because Christ forgave us when he hung on the cross. He died of cancer in his throat he needed help in those days they did not give military help,Mom escaped to her sisters house she had 4 kids of her own then us 6 kids & Mom until Mom found a place for us My brothers are so messed up it is awful my baby brother he is 67 still cries . I get so upset when I hear of abuse , it still goes on for others .take care
The comments really… The wife and the kids are a victim and we should feel bad about them, I’m not taking that out, i just can’t help but feel bad about the guy as well, he is struggling to an illness that he has no control over whatsoever, the comments just looovess to identify the victim and antagonize the aggressor so quickly without having to see the story of both sides, seeing things only in a black and white picture
@@Duvmasta It's fairly common and means the connection between the brain and eye is messed up, with various causes. The main thing is that if it's not corrected in childhood it will become permanent.
How did you gather that from an interview about a man with Delusional Disorder? Emphasis on the delusional. As in, psychosis. Causing delusions. Besides, cheating isn't "for the streets", it's simply cruel and immoral. The man was very much suffering, as it was his own mind that caused his paranoia
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This man comes off very insecure and has a “dark”aura. He was asked of the “proof” he had and it was nothing more than his own thoughts. His accusations could’ve been a projection for things he was doing or wanted to do? Why was your family on holiday without you especially if the backlash was going to be you accusing your wife of infidelity? It’s imperative we heal as individuals before we start mating and creating families 😢
💯. My father used to accuse my mother of cheating during their marriage. She was a housewife who barely had any friends. He proceeded in givingmy mother an sti as he'd been sleeping with sex workers...Couldn't agree with you more. Self healing is paramount otherwise things get messy to say the least. Sending love&hugs to you. 💙 🙏 💪 🤗 🕉️ ⚓ ☯️ ✨
Thank you for sharing and it’s such a shame for you and your mother you all had to go through that ❤️🩹I really appreciate you sending positivity and hugs my way. Not sure who you are but you sure are awesome. I receive your positive energy. Thank you kindly and sending hugs right back 💛✨🙌🏾
@@ChakraZulu1 I'm an empath that also sensed "dark" energy in this video as it identified with my father therefore felt compelled to leave a comment. Trying to pick up the pieces of a fractured childhood, self healing&now spreading a little love online where possible. Many thanks for replying&I also receive your hugs wholeheartedly. Best wishes. 🤗 🙏 💞 💪 🌈
I think my wife has it too. She become aggressive and always ask me where I’m going when I put aftershave on. She often call me to check on me. Her father has the same, aggressive jealous. Self medicate with alcohol. He got divorced. Do you know what to do abort this?