Narcissists occur on a spectrum of severity. It's not an on/off switch. We all have to have a low grade level of narcissism to ensure our needs get met. It is only when an emotional injury happens (or failure to grow) that this drive grows out of proportion. I know many people with varying levels -- myself included--because I was made the family scapegoat. I responded/compensated by becoming more self centered and self protective. Seeing this, I work to grow beyond this coping mechanism. Family members with this trait love me as much as they are capable of, and I've seen growth in them as I maintain healthier boundaries. Seriously.. demonizing people and pointing the finger, calling them demon possessed is extreme. Have I known such individuals? Oh yeah. I also know Jesus loves them too and isn't done with them yet. I'm leaving that type to wrestle with God without my interference. The labeling, though..and finger pointing comes across like someone who doesn't want to take responsibility or accountability. I picked my narcissistic ex. That's on me to figure out why I chose him, what I didn't recognize, and why I waited so long to bail. I don't believe in blaming and pointing the finger.. It gets in the way of maturity..and God wants me to grow up.
The narcissist do what I call a fake apology. They say, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” They do not accept responsibility of their actions. A real apology is when someone is repentant.
@@Caliryeomgosh metoo. I was told it's because we haven't trained our brains to say no and we are trauma bonded to them. We need to break those cycle and tell our brains NO !!!. If we go back, we'll know it will be hard and difficult to get out .
Absolutely!! Got that too. Mine showed up at our Babysitters house at 3:30am accusing me of having a boyfriend when he was the one out cheating. Sickening
Yup, mine did the same. I was home taking care of my son and was questioned about cheating…like what? I was recovering from a c-section and had such bad anemia I needed a blood transfusion.
Well, a snake is a snake and not an image-bearer of God. Humans know to not “play with snakes, lest you be bitten or killed”. We have knowledge and a conscience. It’s so much worse for human beings who choose to follow satan and do his bidding.
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
Going through this right now with a girlfriend. I almost feel as if I'm a prisoner and if I stand up for myself all my past issues as well as made up ones are held over me. It's exhausting and at this current time miserable and don't know what to do.
@@andrewbeckman7687 I realized into it that I wasn't happy but it's not easy to get away but once away the peace comes back but not entirely bc they leave a huge mess for me to clean up. Emotionally and financially they left me these problems but luckily I didn't fall in love bc they were just playing me or so They thought
Yup, I come from a narcissistic family too, my whole family are narcissists, my parents, and my two brothers as well. If I wasn't an Empath/Pisces, I would be one too.
When they come back it's too destroy you. Trust me, they take more and more time to come back and study how they will destroy you. Never forgive them and forget what they did to you. How they made you feel.
How about Face book cheaters? 2 weeks after marriage to my GF of 4 years, I discovered, she had been carrying on an affair, for months, on FB with an old boy friend. When confronted,she lied,gaslighted,and denied . After showing her copies of her conversations from messenger logs,She sort of apologized. She then began to gaslight again.cheating is cheating, motel bed,or secret Facebook messages, it’s all the same.
"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Ephesians 6:12 They need deliverance just like we did when we were saved and born again
Thank you for that reminder that dealing with people who are trying to destroy you (in my case, a co-worker), we are dealing with the hierarchy of the demonic realm and need to address the issues through prayer.. Even so, dealing with this person has completely knocked me down. I'm almost at the point of my prayers consisting of, "Lord, please help me!" Jan 📖🥀🕊
@@cookiemama4 God bless you. I'm in the same state of mind as you. God please give us strength and wisdom to know how to manuever each day around and away from our enemies. No weapon formed against us shall prosper in Jesus mighty name. Amen. 🙏💞🙏
That is true. My husband died the day after a stressful confrontation at church by about 20 of us and then the pastor went around telling people my husband died because he went against him and then did a sermon insinuating my husband is in hell despite texting me on the evening of his death to say how much he loved us. Speaking out of both sides of his mouth. More than half the church left. We realised we were basically in a cult.
@jenniferhall3566 or wife, I believe my wife is a covert narcissist. We are currently separated. Trying to work things out but honestly often I'm not sure I want to stay in what often feels like a one sided relationship. Best part is it got more complicated bevause we just had our 3rd child.
My first husband never apologized for anything in the 23 years we were together. I finally divorced him and later remarried to another narcissist this one was the gift giver. Praise the Lord He showed me what kind of man he was. I am happily single and I do not date. My heart belongs to Christ only and I have never been happier.
What is happening, so sad literally......so called Christian Fiance and his mother are narcs .... marriage has been booked, my mother has always been so understanding caring. ...but today no one is believing me....because fiance and his mother (especially) highly manipulative.....😢😢 Jesus is my last hope only, yesterday night my mother became ill, just because of these things going, everyone is thinking that I am wrong and fiance and his mother are right😢They think I am thinking negative
This breaks my heart,as I'm only now seeing how damaged I am from my 22 year marriage to a master narcissist.!!!! I lost myself way more than I realized!!! Why did I not get out sooner 😢
I spent 29 years with mine. I forgave cheating, ignored huge red flags, it's humiliating. It's been a year no contact. Hang in there. It gets better if you put it in God's hands.
Don’t blame yourself. You had no idea you you were being manipulated. Happens to the best of us. That’s why people like Kris are here to help us through these hard times. But whatever you do, don’t blame yourself you did the best you could.
Hang In there 251 I got burned bad but in a much shorter time, I seen it I thought it was some other issues she had, but I was wrong.she was a master manipulater. Hang in there.
You are fortunate that you woke-up now and can begin the process of healing. Some never get out and even eventually die from it. Death is not only physical, but also (and usually from them) mentally/emotionally or your spirit, or can be all of the above. God bless and support you during your healing process. 🙏✝
@@doremifasolatido-ro7zsThat’s my Dad. He’s so fake when people are over but SO abusive when only family are around. Sometimes he’s rude in front of people when the mask slips
When i was younger i don't believe poeple can be so evil until i dealt with a few Narcicis , they almost kill me physically & mentally. Now that im healed i've becomes a kinder & stronger person who have boundaries. The journey i went through up to my healing was very long and painful and i dont wish this upon anybody.Those evil are real but it doesn't mean you should stop being a happy & kind human and just be bitter about life & everyone around ,Thats what the Narcicis want!! To break you,so please don't . Heal yourself !! you're stronger than you think.Shine your beautiful light around,it usually scares them in the end 😅❤❤🙏🏼
last year, I prayed for weeks for god to show me the true intentions of my then gf. and boy, he got her to put on a show i will never forget even if i still have feelings for her. the same happened a few months later with my family. this makes me continue. i am not sure where i am going, but he seems to give me some warnings lights here and there. and thats invaluable! 4 years ago, with my exwife, i didnt pray...and i got to the point where i felt id die soon if the marriage continues. i learned from that to always ask god for some hints while i am trying my best. nothing else has worked. feel stupid for not trying earlier. ironically, it was my exgf who got me closer to god while she was still lovebombing me... ;)
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
Accepting gifts and favors from a narc is like accepting a ride across the Nile from a crocodile. Dont be surprised when he eats you on the other side, if not before.
Oh yeah and then they want to tell you how much it cost them to do whatever it was that they did for you and of course they do this in a very subtle way
My cousin wants to help me get started w krypto and give me his good info he researched. I was excited until my stomach turned that night remembering narcissistic ppl are transactional. I stopped the set up process and felt I couldn’t trust him. I’m super trusting person…it’s so hard.
The best thing to remember about narcissists and any other person who abuses, kills or uses another person: GOD KNOWS. And HE is on His throne. Our Lord is both just and justifier and will righteously and appropriately deal with those who are evil. Selah
I say the very similar things to myself frequently. Keeping in mind that God will not be mocked. What a man/woman SOWS they WILL REAP. It’s that ol’ saying of “you can run, but you can’t hide.” Sad because they ultimately get what they’ve dodged their whole lives.
Creates entrapment - he falsely convinces you that you had bad behavior. One night at 11pm when I was exhausted and almost falling in bed He shouts from the bathroom about hotel billing tax questions (he knows that I panic about that). I answer in a grumpy angry way. He turns it around that “I killed the Pope” - harangues me for 2 hours as to the terrible thing I did and pushes me to stay up the rest of the night to write out his rendition of the events. Years later I wised up and and would go to him to talk. Pushing the envelope he would purposely talk nonsense and start in the middle being intelligible. I then countered with “what’s the context?” Match and set! Gotcha! He would quit that game and start another one without a heart beat. The evil intent just kept on coming.
@@lovejoy71422they don't value you enough. Need more drip... From other sources. It's not because you're not enough. Nothing is enough for these people. They have low self esteem actually, and project that on to their victims.
I was best friends with a psychopath. I always admired how calm he was. Cool and calm. He was a nice guy. Former preacher. He always drove as fast as he could. Drove in the left lane. He faked empathy. He future-faked me all the time. He betrayed me in the end. After 12 years of friendship. I now realize that psychopaths want to see you beg. It makes them feel powerful. He did the same thing to his ex wife. He abandoned her when she was pregnant with their baby. He refused to help her. I now understand why she despises him so much. He has no conscience. He lies to everyone. He steals every chance he gets. If you meet someone who shows little emotion, watch out!
That wasn't his fault. Was he really a psychopath? His brain doesn't work as it's supposed to. Most high-profile politicians and CEO are psychopaths. It has to do with the amygdala that doesn't work. It's a physical problem that has psychological symptoms. I know this because after 51 years, I just got the diagnosis. When I was a teenager, they thought I was autistic, but they finally got me to have an MRI test, and that's what they explained to me. I also did a cognitive test called the Hare test, and both clearly shows that I have that disorder. I'm not violent but I don't have a high emotional range, I'm angry or normal. I do care about my kids and close family members. It makes me a good manager.
I wonder if a church is just a playground for the narcissist? Some churches consider the narcissist behavior a Spirit of Jesabel. I believe Jesabel, as described in the Bible, would be a good fit in a description.
Mom my died Monday morning. I'm unable to go to her memorial & funeral because of my sister's narcissistic takeover of my mom's arrangements. I'm in such a terrible place right now. CLINGING to the robes of Jesus!
Your sister would love for you to not be there. Can you try totally ignoring her? If she triggers you just walk away without a word. No reaction at all.
Since your mom passed away, you do not have to see your sister anymore. Well, unless your dad is alive, and you have family get-together's. If you're able to, it sounds like no-contact with your sister would be the best remedy. My sister lives over 800 miles away, and she doesn't come to visit, even with her mother, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's
@@Snack-well My children & I have decided not to attend. She would attempt to manipulate me & my adult kids. We have decided to honor my mom with a celebration of her life away from my sister's spectacle. My father will be at my sister's "show" & we don't want to cause him any more stress or harm. I will go to visit my dad after the Donna show is over. He'll need support then.
Since I’m not reacting like I used to, he’s now accusing me of infidelities. If I’m not jumping for him, then I’m jumping for someone else. I must not care anymore. It’s exhausting. They only give to get something back. They want you to be unconditional, but they don’t have to.
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment. I can tell your very positive person, if it's . Okay with you l'd love to be friends❤
My experience, they are all about Power and Con-troll, usually with lies, Secrecy , threats and intimidation or false charm and love bombing, and Everything that matters to you Will become a weapon in their hands.
My Mother and brother are narcs, my Dad has dementia I have been looking after him for 3 years.my dad is very wealthy all of his property was given to my mum and brother.my mum and dad are seperated .I have been given nothing and I'm totally OK with that. I work full time and look after my Dad in the evenings 7 days a week he lives on his own.I have gone no contact from my brother and mother since last September. Looking after my Dad has me burnt out , so I told his health care team I will not be providing care for my Dad much longer as my marriage is suffering due to working full time and looking after my Dad.they told my mum and brother, what did the narcs do???????? They rang the police and told them I was being abusive and violent towards them.even though I haven't spoken to them in 5 mts.they were panicking as they don't care for my Dad and they might have to start doing something to help with his care.the police seen straight through them and told them they will arrest them for social disorder if the called the station again.yesterday evening when I was at my dads house my brother said to me would I like a house???? One of many that my dad gave him, he was trying to buy me, I told him where he could shove it, then he offered me money, I refused it and god knows I could do with it, but if I took anything from them they would make life harder for me.they have destroyed me mentally and physically, and it's killing them that I won't take anything from them. Narcs are the most evil demonic people that you can meet. I can feel God with me evey step of the way guiding me and helping me, thank you heavenly father for looking after me and giving me the strength to remove myself from those evil people Amen
@@marilynschmidt6400 I agree. Narc gift trap owe forever. PTL the police could see it for what it is. God bless them and give them and you even more wisdom and discernment, bless your marriage.
It sounds as though you truly have the Holy Spirit within and supporting you, giving you much strength to resist their deceptions and manipulations. God bless you in Jesus's name.
They entrap you, and continue to entrap you and when you disengage, react, or other, they’ll flip it and say you ignored them, you overreacted. They’ll never take the blame.
The most dangerous narcissist are the ones claiming to be Christian! They will do all of these things and says God is to their favor!!!! Bring a lot of confusion!!!!!!!
Oh yeah I don't know how anybody can really believe that God is a just God yet He will stand by and let them lie cheat manipulate cause emotional harm to others and use them for their benefit I do not know how somebody can do all those things and still think that they're a believer I just do not get it
@@tracyannaleclair9320I think it’s because they are self deceived. Our previous pastor literally believes everything he has done was right and even more than half the church leaving hasn’t changed his mind. He’s just doubled down and subtly inserts digs at various people in the sermons ever since.
5:54 You are spot on 100%! I realized a few years back that narcissists operate in the demonic realm and their deception is witchcraft! This video is heaven sent!
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
My narc keeps coming back to haunt me me even after he told me time after time what a terrible person I was and that I should stop flattering myself because I’m not that desirable. Hard to understand why he can’t leave me alone if I’m that undesirable.
The put downs are to erode your self worth. The returns are because you’re ‘meant’ to be vulnerable and pining for them Truth is, you’re not a terrible person Here’s a mantra I use: ‘Those who misrepresent me do not love me.’ And that included misrepresenting you to YOU. Love and light
Can you cut ties completely with him/her? This type thrives on engagement. If you give them zero engagement (no contact and no response) they have nothing off of which to feed.
You hit every torture I went through. The sad thing is that I believed his lies, manipulation, deceit, for awhile. I began to think I was a horrible person and it just about destroyed me. Thank you God he made me get out.
My narcissist mother got mad at me for telling her no and wished cancer on me. When I quit speaking to her for 2 days she started her campaign of guilt tripping. It is evil, maddening, and mentally exhausting trying not to respond to her lies in order to not engage. Anyone having to deal with a narcissist on this level I send to you healing, love, light, and strength.
Yes! Mom and sister. Took me 54 years to finally walk away. I still talk to them but only with large family gatherings. They have told so many lies about me to all family that I have lost other relationships. It’s ok though because God knows what is truth. Stay strong my friends. You are not alone. ❤
@@Strudle_Baker Ugh, thats horrible. My mom is also a narcissist and I have to distance myself. That hurts my heart that a mother would say that to her child.
Focus on "you" . Care for yourself & what makes you feel good, you're strong I'm sure of it. Confidde in family or someone you trust, maybe you can find your way with having someone in your corner. Sometimes it makes it easier for us that way. Not as scary, if you will. I'll pray for you to find strength in what ever you decide to do ❤❤🙏
pack and leave overnight / while he's away without telling him and block him on everything. people like this will go berzerk if they know you're leaving - learned this the hard way.
Their demons want to reproduce. So they draw out bad behavior in others through interactions. Master manipulation. Trying to heal from growing up with a 'Christian' narc Dad and siblings. So glad to have found this channel. So many narcissists in church.
I'm dealing with narcissists neighbors who are torturing my sleep and peace of mind almost 24/7. I'm exhausted and need to move. Please pray for me as I desperately need them. God bless you all. 🙏💞🙏💞🙏
@@carolejackson8357 yes, unfortunately high grade narcissists will torture you while exploiting plausible deniability so that nothing can be traced back to them. Heck, they might even manipulate everyone to think they deeply care for your wellbeing and the community before launching another covert attack. Laws just work on lower level narcs
Poor you. 🙏 I completely understand I'm pretty much surrounded by them on my floor here & one above me. Thank the Lord that he is my hiding place. + he is destroying them. Psalm 35. One even had a swarm of hornets in her flat. Scareee when someone crosses one of his kids...ie me
Thank you JESUS, 4 removing narcissist, wrong people out of my life & sending the right & godly people. Thank you Kris Reece, 4 your powerful counseling. GOD bless you!
God said Judge and you will be judged Narcissists are that way always thinking they're better than you. They think they can do anything at all to you. It has happened to me here where I live.
This is not what that means b/c there is more to it than that. We have two types of judgment and the bible is cherry-picked to fit ea person's narrative. "Judge not lest ye be judged'" means that if you can dish it out - you should be able to take back someone else's judgment. It also is teaching how to not be a hypocrite: If I tell you how to work out b/c I am a fitness instructor, then I better be able to be fit too and not obese and sick. I can judge b/c I am living up to my own preaching. So if I am judging properly, I can take any criticisms b/c I know I am strong enough due to being right so I can take it. If we judge RIGHTEOUSLY we are judging in a fair way. If you know them by their fruits as scripture says, we can see who they are. We are not supposed to judge the heart but are supposed to judge the behavior. If you let someone abuse you, you should be able to judge their bad behavior to judge how you need to leave them or strategize a way around them.
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
Everything kris said is absolutely spot on….everything she said is my narc ex husband… the red flags were there from day one… 37 years ago, I just didn’t know about narcissism way back then, I just thought he was a bossy person with a bad temper…I couldn’t see the gaslighting, the manipulation, patronisation, silent treatment, punishments… because I was so in love with him…plus, he was so good at blaming me for everything that went wrong, I would apologise profusely, cry, plead with him to talk to me when he was giving me the silent treatment…little did I know that he was loving every minute of the way he was treating me…getting pleasure from my pain, what evil sadistic, nasty, horrible people they are.
Well, I'll tell you the truth! My daughter wants to look like a goody-goody two shoes! She would not be nasty in front of others! Only in front of me! Her mother! So she takes all the younger and all the frustration out of me, and he's going to destroy my life, because I cannot sleep, I'm taking medication for sleeping; even then I cannot sleep horrible, all I do is pray to God, Lord Jesus Christ to help me, please answer my desperate, plea; thank you so much😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
My nex used to say things like: 'You think you could find someone better than me'? Making me doubt my decision to leave him. He also said in the beginning : 'You won't find someone more honest than me'. Meanwhile he was a deceiver manipulating demon all along.
I was seeing a woman who would end our dating relationship for not texting her back right away and other minor things. She would break it off then draw me in again with gifts and apologizing. You're info. helped me see that it is not a normal behavior.
My covert narc mom is queen of the mind games. I've been so confused for years trying to make sense out of something I will never understand. As an adult I'm just now realizing how manipulative and a gaslighter she is. For example, she'll push me into a job but then when the job laid me off and it was a toxic company, she was like, "You should've known that was a bad company. I knew all along that wasn't going to work out." And she'll keep giving me the "I told you so." even though she didn't say a word before. She'll also tell me she's so worried about me when I go out anywhere and will call and text me. I accidentally forgot to let her know that I would be home an hour later than I said. I apologized and promised I'd make sure to let her know in future but she gave me silent treatment, refused to accept my apology, rolled her eyes and ignored me when I gave a sincere apology, and told me she didn't care if something bad did happen to me. Days later, she acted like we were best friends again. I don't get it though. How can she proclaim to be a Christian and tells me that she prays for me and wants the best for me but constantly manipulates, gaslights, and controls me?
The best prayer ever is the one when you put your hands together and pray from your heart with true belief in Jesus hearing and assisting you. That is what faith is All about.
The narci that was my husband ,bought me knickers ,When I was walking with him ,I asked him a question ,he got angry and asked me to give him everything ,that he bought me ,I took off knickers ,shoes ,and a hat ,I walked on barefoot until we got home and he was happy to carry the stuff .when we got home ,he demanded sex ,I refuses because I was upset ,again he demanded everything he bought me ,I packed everything and gave him back .we stayed like that for weeks ,no talking ,later on he apologised and said ,you made me do it but I love you so much ,after apology ,the sex was intense ,after that I felt used and dirty ,but I was only in my 20s and new to marriage life .I left him with loads of health issues after 20 years .Its been 4 years now ,I am on the run .
@@janlaurel7830 so sorry this has happened to you. I've decided everything she says is because she's unwell, this has freed me up a bit because I now feel sorry for her but, I'm still keeping away from her!
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
My narc brother checks all of the boxes. Its uncanny 😮!! It's a hard pill to swallow that I've been manipulated like this by him my entire life. Another bitter pill is that his actions were to purposefully bring me down to make himself feel better. I'm slaming the door shut, double-locking it, and will never open the door for him or his ilk ever again. You are truly saving lives right here. God bless you.
Everyone has to know the good deeds they do. It is a very high price. They will never help you grow to help yourself. They just cut you off from help and support. It's so covert. You'll appear to be lazy or unteachable and accused of being ungrateful. Its really sad.
People don't understand that judge thee not lest ye be judged, means if you judge people, they have every right to hold you to the same standard. Narcissists hate when their accusations are turned against them. They believe they are entitled to criticize you and hold you to a standard they refuse to even consider applying to themselves, which is why they get so offended when their logic is used against them.
My wife does every single one of these demonic mind games. Because she has mind ****ed me with these tactics for 25 years I have had no clarity or vocabulary for what was happening. Thank you for your videos and information. After yet another verbal and physical assault from this demon, I have finally moved out of the house. Since I have left, she has acted, acting being the operative word here, contrite and overly agreeable. I’m not falling for it. Thank you again!
When you confront a narcissist about their mistake ( even if it’s obvious and no doubt about it ) instead of apologizing or being accountable, the narcissist will always make sure to press all your buttons to trigger you, once you get upset or raise your voice the slightest, they trick you that you are wrong because you got upset.
6:53 Yes they always say you are cutting them off, when they actually cut you off mid sentence all the time and all you want is to get one statement out and it will take forever because they won't be quite to listen for a minute...
They slander you to others when you confront them. Such people are found in the Healthcare system especially those that work with the disabled and seniors 😢
KRIS, GOD IS USING YOU SO MUCH IN MY LIFE! My 2 older siblings have made me their scapegoat, smeared me, been triangulating & cruel to me for many years. Many Christians who haven't experienced this will say "love & forgive & sacrifice more like Jesus did". But Jesus love was so much more than that! You help take Scripture and apply it practically in these unique situations. Dont ever stop helping us all like you do!! PLEASE IGNORE ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS FROM PEOPLE! I was just thanking God yesterday for allowing me to find your videos. I get daily encouragement and have even been able to read my Bible again (reaffirming my identity in Christ) because of your validation as to where the lies and cruelty is coming from and how Satan has always had this pattern in using people. Very few pastor/teachers talk about Bible passages that tell you how to respond (or not respond) to evil people and I thank God that He is using you to truthfully address this and help bring such hope & healing to your viewers! ❤
...also some of that advice from fellow Christians, that I spoke of, will lead you down the road of trying to appease & please the narcissists, which God NEVER asks us to do (its a bottomless pit)!! It also made me constantly wonder what Ive done wrong or should have done. I've learned that Satan loves to keep us on that treadmill so we will be stuck and paralyzed. Jesus never wondered how he could make evil people happy! God has so much more in mind for our lives. He's not only love & mercy, He's also truth & He is just. Jesus never let others control him but he was exactly what He needed to be toward each person he came in contact with, according to the condition of their heart and motives. He gave grace to the humble but opposed the proud. An older person once said "You would never send your child out to play with the neighborhood bully, right? So why would we do that to ourselves"?!! That's SO freeing! Jesus wants us to be free to love and trust HIM, not chase after evil doers, trying to obey their selfish whims & demands. Thank you again Kris for naming the issues and exposing what scripture practically says about it. No, the Bible will not describe each of our own particular situations but the wisdom and answers are all there to be applied. Thank you again!
Well maybe not my narcissistic mother since she anti Christian and promotes idolatry towards offspring "If another man preaches another gospel, let him be accursed"
I have a sister who is so much like this. She likes to "give gifts", and I have heard many times when you don't she what she wants, she will say, look at all what I did for you. I have come to a point that I don't want her to do anything for me.She is one who comments about your looks or something about you, and then says "oh it was just a joke". She laughs at what she says.. I find no humor in it. I didn't think of her as a narcissist, but I am convinced she has a lot of these traits. I am so far from perfect and I am sure I have some of these traits because of our parents and how we were raised. It took me too many years to realize what kind of person I was. I have repented and cried many tears and still do, especially in how I treated my own children😢
I also have a sister exactly like that…throwing digs all the time and then is offended you didn’t find humor in her joke, and we are therefore too serious and looking for a fight…smh! Insanity at its finest
The mention of any and all past wrongs (or perceived wrongs) is spot on. Was in a relationship with a woman who had very short memory for good things, but almost unlimited memory for bad things. In disagreements, sure enough those would be dumped out, piled on, in the middle of criticising, blaming, shaming, guilt, etc. Like a multipoint attack on your spirit, soul, heart, to just crush you and beat you down so she could 'win' at all costs. This has also been called "emotional baiting" and "induced conversation." It pokes your wounds or weaknesses. Then you want to defend yourself, to set the record straight, so you get more emotional. Then they act calm, because "look, you are the crazy one, you are unstable, you are the narcissist..." This is then called "reactive abuse" where you get conditioned to react in a shorter and shorter time, till even just their look or tone of voice, or sigh of annoyance can push your button. Then they love to do that in front of another person or counselor, etc., painting you as a horrible person who is mistreating or abusing them, they are so good, you are the problem, and on and on. You doubt your own mind, memory, feelings, and are confused. Then each time it makes you more cautious to 'rock the boat' on any problem, avoid problems, avoid feelings, wants, needs, etc. because those would be criticised as well, then when you don't agree with or support her victim mindset, you are accused of being selfish, no empathy, a bad person, etc... I didn't realise a person could fake empathy, then accuse you of not having any, so you feel guilty or shamed that you are a 'bad' person... Nothing could pump her up enough, or fill that deep emptiness, there seemed to be an unnatural desire for you to validate / compliment / praise / dote on her, and she was still never happy. Then she would remind you of how you are not loving or supporting her.... or attack your mental health, your memory, self-care, etc... just depleting your very life energy, day after day.
I have lived all this word to word. God, only God's mercy pulled me out of the pit they dug for me, just on time!They used many witchcraft that pop up like confusion, fear, blurred vision... Sadly,many believe them more than me.
I am also….. grand children now used as well as weapons. This recent incident as usual came out of left field as they all seem to do. This is exhausting 😢
Four steps to unlove them : First step : Realise that you have been abused. Second step: Accept that it was not your fault, and this is the way they relate to many like you . Third step : Remember that you were always anxious, nervous, & stressed with them. Your body was rejecting the relationship and you miss what "could have" been. Forth step : Forget them ! Move on like you never knew them; Because in reality, You didn't.
@@andrewbeckman7687 it’s not about unloving someone as God always loves his children. It’s about setting boundaries, healthy boundaries for yourself and you can still love them.
They steal things from you,and act as if they're concerned,They will help you look for the missing item,with a sly smile on their evil face knowing they have it and you will never see that item again.
I feel like my narcissist doesn't realize he plays these games consciously. It's built into his personality and he isn't aware of any other way to be. He just IS.
@Mt4evr Nothing seems to help. I have a psychology degree and that isn't even getting me anywhere. I am not able to discern without bias. 3 years and no progress. Thank you for your reply.
My loved one is a narcissist and pathological liar. She had a traumatized childhood. Her father left her when she was an infant with a reason “not mine”. Her classmates call her “the unwanted”. Her mother lived as a mistress to raise her. She witnessed her grandfather tied her grandmother to a tree to beat her up. I tried to help but she teamed up with a demon to break my spirit. But God came to save me and heal her wounds and restore her soul . Since the day I offered my heart for God Almighty, I haven’t lost a battles. God taught me love all and forgive all; just as the sun shines and the rain falls on the grateful and ungrateful hearts. No demons can stand against God’s Glory. No wounds are so deep that God’s Love can’t heal. I am not a Jewish and not a Christian, but in suffering I cried out to God and He came. I leave this sign post here for wandering souls in darkness that God is real and His Love is true. With God’s Love 🙏❤️🔥🪷
Jesus says in Matthew 14:6, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." I'm glad you and she both sound healing. Give your heart to Jesus so you _can_ have mercy and go to Heaven.
You're really good at calling it like it is and relating it to the Bible, which is very important to me. I haven't found many reliable advisors so far. Thank you for helping me understand that I was stuck in a mud up to my neck, and it was only by God's grace that I didn't end up in a mental hospital.
Amen. Going through the same right now. I'm not in the mental hospital because I've lost my mind but not my soul. Praise be to the Lord Jesus Christ. King of endless glory.
@@clintonnagy1662 you have to remember who God is, it changes everything. He is always on our side. He is already the winner... the battles we fight are supposed to toughen us up and teach us to fight like God. May God strengthen you every day 🙏❤️.
My parents are narcissist. They blame me for my past mistakes and proceed to gaslighting me to make me feel bad i can't communicate with them . They love to use the trigger game they don't listen they do everything that you are saying I already have anxiety. Thank you I don't want to do it anymore.
You are the truth like your father !!! So happy you connected Demonic to the word narcissist because that’s exactly what they are people who are possessed with Demonic spirits,❤ I believe some are trapped and others are just happy to be that way
You can heal from these evil acts. Take the time to peel yourself like an onion. Shed all those evil things that you have absorbed. If you are a Christian, walk with the Lord and cast your cares upon him. After you have peeld yourself bare, build yourself up with qualities that are virtuous. If you are a Christian, cloth yourself in His righteousness and know that he loves you and will establish your footsteps as you make your plans. All the best.
