I would have never seen this coming but I do love it. Great to see you still post whatever the hell you feel like and not just stuff you think might do good to grow your channel
This video resonated so well with me. As a 55+ male who has lived with mild chronic depression for 45 years or more, it warms my heart and soul to see those younger than me dealing with the same issues discussing their experiences and not silently living and bearing the weight of depression. Thanks for your courage to honestly discuss this and to explain you are not an expert but these are the things that apply to you and your experience. Bless you for sharing your experience.
EDIT 1 year later: Unfortunately, I'm going to have to bump "running" up to A-tier. I'm sorry, y'all. Running still sucks, but at least for me none of the other things on this list work if I don't also have regular aerobic exercise. It feels like for me it's a prerequisite that lets the other stuff work (booooooo.....) I want to re-iterate: (1) this applies to me, I'm not saying it applies to you, and (2) there is no S-Tier Silver Bullet, just a bunch of A-, B, and C Tier stuff that you've gotta mix and match. Also, this video is like my "College Major Advice" video, it's not my typical video. I'll be back to project stuff soon.
You are amazing!! Your detailed breakdown and personal perspectives offered me more insight in 8 minutes and 54 seconds than hours with a less than stellar therapist. Keep it up!
The dog advice is pretty spot on. One of the most powerful feelings (unless you're a sociopath) is caring for someone close to you, and humans suck at taking care of themselves. There are many studies where they've compared humans giving themselves medicine vs giving their pets medicine. People are significantly more likely to make sure their pets take medicine to completion, than making sure they themselves take their medicine to completion.
This has been a real struggle for me. The last few antidepressants have each made things worse for me in different ways, and therapy has only been good for lightening my wallet. I guess that's reality when your depression comes from a concussion. I don't have any advice other than to say "be careful not to hit your head on a household object by accident ever".
Good vid. As someone with crippling body dysmorphia brought on by spending years in the gym and never being happy with how I look,, lifting is A++ tier
ive never been so early to a video before let alone a video from a youtube i dont knoq but i am early and now i know you and now i love you this art thank you for your service my man
thanks, i find your perspective on this subject very relatable. this video is pleasantly honest, direct, uncomplicated, and a little bit funny and as such a very positive, approachable place to start which makes it so much more useful than almost anything else. had an amusing doubletake every time you said 'awe' at 5:46, it took my brain a good minute to compute past: 'wait what? Carter is actually chinese and muslim, i wasn't expecting that!.'
running and lifting is crazy to me. whenever i tried it it would make me think of how painful and boring it was just to feel okay. eventually i figured out there are fun forms of exercise that exist out there - rollerblading, skating, ddr, vr games, swordfighting, literally any physical sport etc....
Same! Bouldering is the thing for me; physical puzzle solving. I don't want to think about how my body is tired, I want to be pushed to solve something.
Here is how I managed to get meditation into a habit: A lot of people will do checklists along the lines of "Meditate Every Day", and check each day they meditate off on a calendar. I found that this eventually got demoralizing for me, because when I missed a day, that empty spot would be staring at me, every day. Also, you don't have to meditate daily. I believe that more meditation is generally more better, so meditating 5 minutes is better than not meditating, meditating shittily is better than not meditating, meditating 3 sessions in one day is better than 2, but 1 is also better than 0. Etc. Meditating every day super mindfully isn't too important, as long as you enjoy it and do it sometimes. I made a very tolerant, easy checklist, and taped it to my door. 20 minutes of meditation, doesn't have to be good quality either, and I get to check the box. It's not a calendar. Don't meditate for a whole week? Miss a month? The next time you meditate, simply check the next box. There are never any gaps in your habit tracker that call you a failure. More is better, less is not bad. Unlike a calendar, you can do 3 or 0 in a day without penalties. And if 20 minutes doesn't work for you, make it 5 minutes. 5 minutes is better than 0. This works for me. Just sharing. Good luck.
I used to waste so much time on my smartphone, it made me weak, slow and unable to pay attention to anything. Instead now I try to do something that has purpose everyday, the only things that really drive me are my goals (career/passions, relationships). It's also necessary to relax. Take a walk, watch a movie or play an intresting videogame. Social media and call of duty are just a waste of soul honestly..
Dude good on you!! Thank you for continuing to normalize mental health care. Your honesty is endearing. Cyberdecks and mental health the chocolate and peanut butter of RU-vid!
If you don't want to invest too much time in a pet: get a cat. My cat wakes me up because of food, wants pets all the time (got me through COVID), and is just great to have around. Also therapy is nice, I'm finally starting mine next week and I should've done that a year earlier. And Carter, what's your opinion on anti-depressants? I'm looking into those because I'm doing a lot on your list and still failing (hence the therapy).
I'm just a nurse. Medication can be a game changer for some, for others it really just is a "rising tide lifts all ships" sort of function. Cognitive behavioral therapy frequently scores better, but my best friend was nearly transformed by Fluoxetine and regular therapy.
Tbh, I’m tentative to say more than I said in my video on RU-vid. Gotta refer to professionals for med stuff. For me, I’ve got a complex relationship with them (I hate taking meds in general, always argue for the lowest prescribable dose and then am surprised when it stops working, etc). However, I did put it in A- tier. Once they get it right and it does have an effect, it helps. You can then use the unlocked ability to experience positive emotion to build up some some positive-feedback-loops and habits, that way you’re making use of it and don’t risk habituating over time and ending up back to the same state as before. For me, it’s been a critical element, even if I dislike it.
@@CarterHurd Thanks for your elaborate response. I've been trying for such a long time without medicine and therapists might be nice, but the bad days come knocking at times I don't expect them, which makes doing something about them really tricky. What you describe is exactly what I am looking for; just something that helps me stay in the positive feedback loop instead of the opposite. I'm in contact with my GP about this but I haven't tried it yet as I also hate taking meds and generally don't use anything unless I really need to.
@@girthquake1413 for me it's just that the bad days can just happen without anything leading up to it. I can even return from a nice get together with friends and feel down as soon as I get home for no reason. So I'm skeptical any therapy works because there doesn't seem to be anything that causes them. I'm eating well, exercising twice a week, sleeping quite well, but my head still refuses to give in. That's why medicine seems like an option to explore.
"Turn to God" == "New Lens" "Turn to God" == "Find your dark why" "Turn to God" == "Random Acts of Kindness" "Turn to God" =/= "let God do all the work"
@@CarterHurd i respect this reply, you show integrity. the heuristics you follow when ranking the advice are those of a buzzfeed pillow-muncher weakling journalist👍 i won't give my advice; i'd be wasting my time
