@@fellinluv777it’s 100% normal. restrictive eating leads to cycles of binging so ultimately you’ll be healthier if you practice intuitive eating and work on feeling less guilt around food
The interesting thing is that once you accept emotional hunger as valid it doesn't lead to overeating anymore... the stigma around emotional eating creates the need for even more emotional eating... so you're not just eating the small amount you needed but a huge amount... also taste hunger is the reason why "just eat an apple" when you really want chocolate doesn't work... different tastes... in the end you'll eat 20 things instead of one if you'd just had the chocolate
Also, emotional eating doesn't have to mean eating low-nutrient foods. People often have an all-or-nothing response to the emotional eating. They view it as bad, so they eat "bad" foods when they do it. Sometimes emotional eating can mean eating a nutrient-dense meal to lift your energy and mood (and if it doesn't, that's also okay!)
@@Emily-hd9sm I love the way you phrased this! I usually tend to restrict food when I’m upset/stressed, so I try to do the opposite and it really works.
As far as emotional eating, I think it’s totally valid to eat in response to your period. Between the pain, the mood swings, the discomfort, you deserve a little treat for getting through all that. Not to mention denying yourself doesn’t do much to help this natural function of your body, so all you can do is take care of your mind.
yup. so true. i'm on my period right now and i've been craving chocolate ice cream so i had some. it might not be "healthy" or whatever, but it's good for your stress hormones to satisfy cravings therefore for your body too.
Why? Because you have nothing else to treat yourself with. The problem is not that you're eating something, but relying on food to calm you down. So you eat every time you need comfort. It is bad. It's a lack of regulation mechanisms. Same goes with alcoholics. There is nothing bad in a glass of beer or wine but if it's the only thing that can comfort you, you're screwed
@@annastasia.1 ugh I'm not sure if this is meant as rude so I won't address it as that??? but if you only have food to rely on emotionally, yes, not the greatest, but if it's just once in a while it's alr.
i have autism and one of the issues i face due to it is being unable to tell when i'm hungry, thirsty, tired, need to use the restroom, etc until it is to an extreme (ie: feeling like my stomach is eating itself, feeling like my bladder is going to explode, being so thirsty that there are air bubbles in my saliva.) i hope one day i can recognize all of these types of hunger :'D
Omg same! I’ve never met anyone else who felt like that (then again I haven’t met that many other autistic ppl irl). I just try and solve it by having intensely scheduled meal times (breakfast is at 10, lunch at 12, snack at 3, dinner at 6 every day) but that leads to complications when I’m busy during those times 🥲 for water I’ve had to start keeping track of every time I drink something because otherwise I would get to a point where I couldn’t remember whether I the last time I had water was 4 hours ago or 24. Hopefully I get better at this eventually, I’m only in high school so I have time :)
Oh yeah my stomach has to hurt for me to realize that it is time to eat, doesn't mean I listen because yk I'm a busy person doing absolutely nothing. I would recommend trying to establish some routine when eating, sadly it doesn't work with me because I can't eat unless I'm hungry and I'm never hungry with the same amount of time between food but it is something that helps many autistic people.
I struggle with this so much. And feeling full is such a sensory nightmare for me as well, having my stomach gurgling and churning processing a meal is just so overwhelming it makes me actually angry sometimes. I'm trying to eat little and often by setting times to eat, regardless of hunger, but it is HARD. ❤
I hate the act of eating. Everything about the texture and motions make me wanna never do it again. But flavor can make it bearable or worse, make it so I only feel comfortable eating foods that aren't good for me at all in such excess Also water must be cold Hot tea is great with vanilla, milk, and sweetener, but I can only drink at most 4 ozs before it's disgusting Soda is only good if made with actual sugar And I'll stop there even though the list of how my pickiness works would make the unabridged English Dictionary look like a pamphlet I also have the other issues you mentioned AuDHD stinks
And remember, if your stomach starts hurting all of a sudden maybe it’s time to check the clock and see how long ago you ate because it is 100% possible to forget (speaking from experience)
Sometimes it's headaches. I start to feel this dull pain in my head out of the blue, it literally hurts to think and I start trying to figure out what circumstances could have caused it, but then I remember I forgot to have breakfast.
Yes, breaking down hunger into these different categorical definitions is very helpful & validating! I can totally recognize when I've experienced each of the four. I will definitely be keeping them in mind as I go forward!! :)
Thank you, as a 12 year old dealing with body image, this really helped. I would always feel guilty for eating unless my stomach was rumbling or I was getting cramps from hunger. You have no idea how much this helped❤❤❤
This channel and Nutrition By Kylie are both awesome if you are struggling with your body image! They’re both really good with being non judgmental and using very neutral, fact-based language to talk about food (and exercise on this channel). I get the struggle, I’m in my mid 20s and I’m finally getting to a place where I can decide to eat something based on how it’ll make me feel instead of obsessing over calories. Just remember, you absolutely do not have to fit into the smallest size imaginable to be beautiful or worthy of love and respect. As long as you maintain a balance of body-nourishing and soul-nourishing foods, and (if you’re physically able) you exercise in a way that feels good, you will look exactly how you’re supposed to look. Personally, I don’t particularly like running or doing a lot of “traditional” exercises, and dance workouts have been a super fun way to move my body! The Fitness Marshall here on RU-vid is a really wonderful channel that spreads a lot of love and positivity, and they have a few free workouts posted to their channel if you’re unsure/ can’t afford a subscription. I know you weren’t asking for advice here, sorry for the long reply, but I know how much work it can take to unlearn unhealthy habits and how much it sucks to let body image control your life. I’m rooting for you! I hope you’re able to feel good in your body no matter what size or shape you are, and that you’re able to surround yourself with people who lift you up and don’t equate your value to the number on your clothes.
It breaks my heart that society expects women to be this, be that, do this, but not like that and set these absolutely impossible standards to how they look like to the point where a TWELVE year old child has to heal from it. You should be doing kid things, watching bad movies and running around with friends, not thinking if you deserve to eat something. You're a growing person! You need to eat!!
i second what the person above me says!!! its completely normal to eat at any time for any reason, and especially when you're young and need ALOT of energy to GROW UP!!!
you are so young. your body is still growing! our bodies always need food, but when you are still pushing into adulthood being nourished is extra important
As someone with ADHD and autism, I struggle a lot with figuring out my internal body signals. Thank you so much for teaching me new language for describing my hungers! This is truly so helpful.
Emotions that are harder to manage or seem to have come from nowhere may also be hunger cues! As someone who takes a stimulant my physical cues aren’t great, but if I am suddenly anxious or sad, there’s a good chance it may be hunger!
Absolutely! As my gf is recovering from an ED, she's had to try and re-learn her hunger cues. So far she still doesn't really feel physically hungry, but she's starting to connect that feeling absolutely awful about or overwhelmed by everything can oftentimes be related to hunger for her. It's not an easy process, but I'm so proud she's now slowly making that connection. 💛
@@musicaddict1046 I totally get her. I'm recovering from anorexia and the feeling of hunger is totally gone for me. there's no appetite ever, I feel the pressure in my stomach but I have to remind myself that it's actually hunger because I just don't want to eat ever.
@@musicaddict1046 💜 that process is a tough one! There are also other physical cues like hands being shaky, nausea, etc that are all signs of hunger. Those can be easier to pick up on while she waits for hunger cues to return!
Love this take. Culturally, food plays so many more roles than simply satisfying a biological need. It'ssomething you do to meet mental or emotional needs, for enrichment, and as a show of affection even- a companion etymologically originating from "one to break bread with". As an autistic kid in school, eating helped me calm down and prevent meltdowns. I brought a bag of macadamia nuts with me to every class- the texture and the sound of the crunch helped ground me. I love food and the way it's interwoven with the human story :)
Excellently explained and beautiful advice. I often forget the “practical hunger” one. I forget to eat often and then when I do finally realize I’m hungry, overeat. I’m working on it and already doing better.
I actually hate eating when I'm super hungry because chances are I'll 100% overeat. So I kind of have to remind myself to "eat now", according to time, and fill my stomach properly before I get to the point of wanting to eat everything in sight
I think emotional eating in some situations is so healthy and necessary (at least for me). Sometimes having a small treat is the only thing that can pull me out of a dissociative episode. Our brains are wired to associate eating with safety, so having a bite to eat is a great way to signal to your body "we are safe now" so we can start to process our emotions. It's like the scene in Spirited Away, when Chihiro eats the riceballs that Haku made her, and how she just starts sobbing as she eats. He says to her that they have a spell to give her strength, but that scene hit so close to home regardless. Comfort food is called that for a reason, and it can give us the strength to cry. 💖
Wow I really appreciate it being laid out this way! I struggle with eating. I have ADHD and my meds mess with my appetite as well so I will often just forget to eat until it physically hurts. I'm gonna try keeping these in mind more often and see if it can help my eating habits.
Yep. And I've noticed that I have the habit of losing appetite when I'm angry (which used to happen a lot when I was younger) but I'm trying to get over it since it's not healthy for me to do that even if I don't get angry often anymore 😅
This is so good to hear ❤ it's hard to admit we're always in recovery but wow I really appreciate the message you share and the info you gather to show us. Makes me feel way less guilty about living and the way I eat.
You’ve spelled out what I felt for years! Emotional eating I would say has been beneficial for me, in that it helped me cope immensely with stress (of course all in moderation, excess of anything isn’t healthy)
For me, it was very helpful naming that hunger you call "taste hunger", because then I could ask myself "is this 'belly hunger' or just 'mouth hunger' and if it is the latter, whether I want to indulge that or not. Before I made this clear distinction I would often eat more than was good for my stomach and would feel sick because of it.
As someone with spd (sensory processing disorder) i dont feel physical hunger until I havent eaten long enough that my body is in pain. So about 6 hours after being awake. Also i eat to satisfy my need for oral stimulation that isnt feeling my teeth with my tounge. You said everything so well.
This stuff is interesting for me, because I feel and experience hunger in an abnormal way. I seem to have a very unusual metabolism, which also affects the way my body absorbs medications, for example. I have multiple kinds of physical hunger and sometimes I really have to eat something sweet after main food because I don't have enough immediate energy available to process the food I've eaten - I need a little touch of fast energy to get things going properly (or I'll need to just lay down feeling kind of uncomfortable for a while). I can do straight to low energy and anxious without ever feeling stomach hunger. I have to be really careful in my food choices sometimes and being mindful of my macros
I can relate to having different types of physical hunger lol. I NEED to have carbs, protein, and fat together in every meal or I downright get ill. I've tried having "healthy meals" with no carbs and I'll end up nauseous, weak, shaky, have headaches, it can even go far enough to cause fainting or small seizures. Without fat or protein, I'll stay ravenous and my stomach will generally hurt pretty badly. It's all about balance!
@@vickypedia1308 Funny you say that, I tried keto once. Ended up having a mental break featuring panic attacks, paranoid delusions, hallucinations, and nearly ending my own life after days of not sleeping- not to mention going from a healthy weight to underweight in just a few weeks. My whole family had actually gone on the diet and my brother had seizures which resolved immediately upon being given some fruit juice. In hindsight I may actually have had seizures back then as well but I didn't end up going to the hospital and my memory of that time is really fuzzy, so I'm not sure. So... Yeah idk, I think there's something weird with my digestion or metabolism where I genuinely seriously rely on carbs to function lol. I've also managed to get a mild(?) form of refeeding syndrome after not eating for only a couple days before
I'm in a similar boat! Usually, I need toast or a little something sweet (usually dried fruit or some pastry) in the morning to kickstart my stomach and have the energy to make and eat a breakfast with balanced macros. Same thing when that afternoon brain fog hits. It's a popular diet approach right now, but I could never completely cut out sugars and simple carbs, even if I didn't really enjoy their taste! I'm AuDHD and a therapist once told me that ADHD people can have a bit more sugar than non ADHD people and encouraged me to grab a lemonade or a small handful/one serving of my favorite chewy candy or some chocolate for an afternoon boost or when I sit down to tackle a difficult task or studying. I also either eat less than I think I do at meals or I metabolize it really quickly, because I'm always looking for a snack a couple hours after each meal (practical hunger, plus some physical hunger). Based on other cues and metrics, I do not believe I'm exceeding my nutritional and caloric needs.
I have a lot of gi issues, an ed and chronic illness. This has caused almost all of my hunger symptoms to not just say “oh you’re hungry go eat something”- it’s immediately “ YOURE STARVING YOURE STARVING” and now I am so nauseous that I can barely eat in general. I also barely get cravings or “taste hunger” anymore. Let alone a desire to eat if all I feel is pain instead of normal hunger. Eating more frequently definitely helps, but it also means I’m hungry more often.
wow thank you for this video... its helping me heal my relationship w food. "Emotional eating" made me feel guilty and continue a harmful cycle-when i know that soup or sushi will make my whole body feel a bit of relief
Definitely appreciate the reminder that emotional eating and taste eating is okay ❤ perfect timing for me too, as I think about having some dessert 🧇 🍓 😋
I love the way this was explained! I mostly eat on practical hunger cues (unless I forget or get caught up doing something 😬), because eating a full meal when I'm really hungry hurts my stomach and slowly refueling just prolongs the suffering.
I've found that chewing gum that you really likes helps a ton with that. Keeps your mouth occupied. However the down side of this is I go through an absolutely inhumane amount of gum in a short amount of time 😂
Bored hunger is a sign you need to find something else to do. But, I also personally find it very helpful to drink water because dehydration can present as hunger, and bored hunger is a common result in my experience
@@vaughnhaney7020 you can get bored hunger if you're doing something, reading, driving, watching television. The only thing that effectively stops it is being completely absorbed in something and it's unrealistic to imagine you can find completely absorbing activities all day long. I'm not sure what the psychological explanation is but I've had it occasionally in my life and it's tricky. I usually stockpile grapes, popcorn, and other low calorie snacks.
I’ve been intuitive eating since 2009 and at this point I’m basically OMAD. And I’m in the best shape of my life. It’s so freeing to listen to your body can’t recommend it enough
I had an ed but recovered already. The only thing that'll never be gone tho is the feeling of guilt after you had a large meal or something that was high in calories. Thank you for telling me once again, that I shouldn't be feeling guilty after I had something to satisfy myself.
I'm glad you didn't demonize emotional eating. One of the worst days of my teens I got home to the smell of spaghetti and meatballs. I cried happy tears. Food can comfort. This is a good thing. We should learn to use it versus demonize it
I'm someone who's recovering from an ED but also has MODY(Maturity Onset Diabetes of the Young, aka I randomly started having blood sugar problems) so now a new part of my recovery is having to be okay being conscious of what I'm eating. It also is making me have to curb the habit of sugar loading and not eating for a few hours. So I'm trying to learn to listen to my body better. I've been doing a lot of my own cooking and baking just so I know exactly what's in my food without reading a calorie label. I am really excited to add this knowledge to keeping me and my body healthy.
emotional eating comes after work for me. i work in a high stress environment, so i make tasty, sweet, and healthy snacks to help satisfy myself emotionally when i get home. this week i did dark chocolate covered frozen bananas with natural peanut butter. i used to crave alcohol when i got home, stating the old “i need a drink” line after a busy day, but my new method is just as sweet and even better.
As someone who has never had problems with their weight or diat this feels just like common sense. I can't even comprehend how much some people have to think about what they eat when... I just eat when I want to eat
Although I (personally) find it very good to start with physical hunger, even for a day. Just only focus on eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're not anymore. Also your body will probably start to know how much you can eat. I'm normally very active, but when I'm on vacation I noticed that I eat too much. So I sometimes just take a day where I really focus on my physical hunger. Obviously this might not be for everyone, but for me this works really really well.
The more I find out about intuitive eating, the more I realize how horribly the diet industry has treated me. Gonna try and implement this mindset and see if it helps with the hunger issues I have been facing around bedtime
as someone who had an eating disorder, deprive myself of food to “fix it” only to develop into a drinking disorder, this video is literally life changing. years of therapy haven’t done half of those few sentences you spoke lmao
In some cases emotional eating can even be good. I have disordered eating and often struggle to finish a meal with lead to unhealthy underweight. So the times when I want to eat more are actually really good for me. Im always very proud of myself when I managed to eat more than a slice of bread so fuck yeah emotional eating! Fuck yeah all eating!
Emotional and taste are like all i do, i almost never get physically hungry unless im depressed and lose my appetite(which isnt often for me fortunately)
I normally experience taste and emotional hunger. When I was younger I was never taught the difference between that and physical hunger, so I ended up developing a very dependent relationship with food, and still struggle to eat healthily
I think in the back of my mind, I knew all this. But somehow, actually sitting down and having someone spell it out for me makes it actually click that I don't have to be starving to sit down to a meal. I struggle with disordered eating and a lot of the time the reason I don't eat is because I don't physically FEEL the hunger. So it helps to know that I should still feed myself even if I'm not getting the physical cue, instead of letting the whole day pass without a meal. Thank you so much for taking the time to make videos like these and doing so in a way that's both informative and kind. 😊
omg thank you! I'm autistic and my physical cues are practically non-existent until I'm shaking and dizzy, so i have to eat on the clock a lot or else i forget to but this helps a little
This is so helpful! I only thought I should eat if I’m feeling physical signs of hunger, and sometimes I don’t feel it until it’s painful! Now I know better
As someone with adhd, I frequently have cravings for nutrients that im low on because my diet is so erratic. Apparently other people don't get these unless they're pregnant. Lol, i think this is often confused for taste hunger. But it's different. I only really discovered that this was my thing after getting the app cronometer and seeing how I would naturally stop grazing as I hit certain nutritional targets. (Found out Putting the amount eaten in at the end of the day, lile when busy or away from the internet).
I needed to hear this right now 😅 been fighting myself for the last hour on whether or not to go make an early breakfast when my stomach is not in physical hunger mode.
Your muscles, your skin, your hair, say that the intuitive eating is just right for your self. Listen to your body and not beauty standards and latest trend. Respect your self before everything else, and you will flourish.💖💎😌💪🌱🌿🌺
i think the hard thing for me (and for many others) is that if you're used to emotional eating/you've fallen into a pattern of emotional eating as a primary coping mechanism, you don't realise until you start emotional eating automatically for even little things. after that, it can be scary to *ever* emotional eat, because it feels so easy to slip back into bad habits without even noticing.
I love your content so much! Ever since I stopped avoiding eating meals, I always have leftover snacks. Once the intuition is 'tuned' in, I can distinguish these different hunger easier and funnily all those serving sizes on processed food/snacks actually make sense😂
These days I'm never physically hungry, so this is really validating to know I'm allowed to eat because I'm hungry in other ways, or i guess a good reminder that I've forgotten to eat (because i wasn't hungry)
As someone who dealed with anxiety and only ate 1 meal a day when I was only (9!!) Cause anxiety hit me early in 3rd grade I was 7 pounds over the normal weight for a 9 year old that hit me hard and i resolved to crying every night shortening meals throwing up and eating 1 meal a day became a habit, girlies if you do this while your still young it does actually take a really bad turn. I resorted to self harm if your overweight underweight eat how you like.
I eat when I’m bored and have nothing better to do. Only time I’m ever hungry, idk why but I just forget to eat so easily and only remember when I’m bored lol
Perhaps someone can correct me if I’m wrong, but as I understand it, the “good” sort of emotional hunger is when you recognize feelings like unusual irritation or sadness as a result of hunger, even if you don’t yet physically feel it. The “bad” sort is when you use food as a coping mechanism for negative emotions arising from a source other than hunger.
I don't know if anyone needs hear this but it's something I struggle with. It's also okay to eat a snack before dinner, if dinner isn't till 7 and you're hungry at 5 just eat something, if you're not as hungry by the time dinner comes around just eat a smaller portion
As a kid I would tell my mom when finishing a meal that "my mouth could eat but my stomach couldn't", now I learned there was some theory behind it - bio vs taste hunger :D
As someone who has PCOS with insulin resistance, ADHD and is also clinically depressed with very little motivation most days, if I wait for physical hunger to arrive to have my food, I'm already doomed. I need to be having small meals every few hours or else I'm gonna crash badly which ripples into at least the following week. I have alarms set up to have my meals because I always forget and then don't eat anything until I can hear my stomach grumble.
I was only aware of physical hunger and emotional hunger, that fact that there are two more types of hungers make me feel less guilty for my eating habits
Sometimes it takes time to acquire and analyze good information before you are able to act on it. I hope you're getting the help you need to get healthy, and that one day what you've spent this time learning will help you be confident in the choices you make to nurture yourself. (I apologize if I'm saying the wrong things. I just want you to know people care about you, even random internet strangers, and I didn't want your comment to sit without a response.)
I usually differentiated between hunger and appetite. Hunger being the physical hunger with my stomach growling whereas appetite would be the feeling of "Oh, that sounds tasty. I wanna eat that."
Practical hunger is something i have to eat for almost everyday. I have work a few hours after school (school ends at 1, work starts at 5) and i dont typically feel hungry at all after school, but i need to eat a meal before work or else im going to be so cranky
Love thisss. I've been trying to make peace with eating a lot more carbs at certain time of the month, it's ok that some weeks I NEED more calories and I just eat more 😅 diet culture is insane, this is refreshing ❤
idk if this is anything you would know like what it is but i don’t ever feel hungry. I could go the whole day with only eating one thing and i’m fine, no hunger at all. Sometimes i’ll go the whole day without eating and not realize. I also get fully very quickly and stay full. The times where i do feel hungry, i need to hurry and grab something to eat cause if i wait maybe 10-15 minutes i lose my appetite and feel full. idk what this is. I never used to be like this, i’ve lost around 25 pounds bc of it
I have a binge eating disorder and have been on my journey to fix it. Part of having this disorder is the intense guilt that follows an eating episode. And while yes i am trying to heal this disorder, i need to curb this guilty feeling i have and remember that healing takes time and that i shouldn't feel guilty for my disorder but rather be proud that im able to contfint this and say "i need to fix it. I can fix it." Im trying to stay within the healthy range so knowing when my body actually needs to eat vs it being my disorder is necessary to keep myself from overweight or underweight by adjusting my eating in an unhealthy way. This video has helped me understand the different types of hunger and helpedguve me perspective on my own eating habits moving forward and that is so important to me 🩷
personally I've been struggling a lot with eating if im not wanting to eat anything specific. i have a hard time even telling if I'm hungry until my stomach aches, but when I don't have any specific thing in mind that I want to eat, i find it really hard to force myself to have a meal :-( even if i have food I *like* on hand, if I'm not specifically hungry for it I'd typically rather not eat anything eating feels overwhelming or like a chore when I don't have a specific want in mind, and it's made harder by the fact that i only eat very few foods already/could be considered a picky eater :[
I always thought emotional eating was a negative thing, resulting in me ending up in a downward binge eating spiral. I hope that i can change my mindset so i can emotional eat in a normal and healthy way
I have a problem with the emotional eating, when I get super stressed and sad I want something sugary. So my way of working through that is knowing exactly how much a serving size is, get as comfortable as possible, eat my sugary snack, and have the bag as far away as possible. I’m then too lazy to get up and get more. To be honest, this doesn’t work every time, and I have eaten half a bag of dove chocolate in one sitting. You have to make sure you are just tired enough to not move.
I was literally sitting in the dark just now waiting for my ramen to get done trying to work out the different kinds of hunger in my own head and then this video came up!
I feel like with emotional eating a lot of people see it as 2000s movies binge eating after a heartbreak or something when sometimes it's just maybe eating your favourite food on a bad day
I have been on a medication since i was twelve, and because of it, i have never felt physical hunger since. I eat when it would be smart to keep myself healthy and when i crave foods. Otherwise, i have no hunger
This time of the year, it would be foolish of me to _not_ go out in the garden and do some taste eating every day, because there’s so much deliciousness to pick. And of course I’m also picking a good deal of it to keep for later.
