Difficult Family - Nouman Ali Khan - Khutbah at Dar Alnoor 

Family trauma and problems are the hardest test ever. May Allah give us strength to pass this test.

There needs to be more frequent lectures & conversations about this topic. People are living a life of hell, not knowing how to manage family relationships. May Allah reward Br Khan.

I personally find problems inside the family the toughest of all. Because of you want to please Allah SWT you should never let go and abandon the family or cut ties. Especially if they are your parents. It's a great test and may Allah give us the strength to pass it.

Even if you are born in difficult family, don't give up. One day, even if it's 20 years from now, you will see sense in everything and be happy to be alive. You have a power to direct your destiny no matter how insignificant or small that power looks to you now 😊. Keep on moving however it looks for you

Sometimes i would wish to have a normal family but then i realise that im not normal too, so how can i have a normal family.. so i just get on with my life. Another thing is that, ive stopped putting any expectations on my family members and do things for the sake of Allah, that has saved me from a lot of pain.

Takeaways from the video: 1. Do not associate Batil with your family members who have caused conflicts, because their views, ideas, and character can change 2. Maintain hope in Allah, that the problems in your families can be solved 3. Try to look at the bigger picture to all conflicts in your families, and contemplate on solutions to the problems within the family 4. Be grateful to Allah for not only the existence of your family, but the relationships that you have with your families, regardless if they are bad or good. 5. Remember your purpose in life

I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.

My sister is going through a tough time and is in sever depression, please pray for her.

I listened to this at such a hard time and moment in my life. I will keep listening until it’s engraved in my head! Because I never saw it this way!! 😢😣😞 May Allah Swt bless you brother for this lecture.

Forget and forgive is the way forward, but it's easier said than done. May Allah guide our heart to repent and forgive and make our hearts soft towards our family and their relations.

Living with a narcissist is beyond explanation to top it all co-parenting with narcissist is literally living hell every day. But hikkmallah, we know less, Allah plans. Trust Allah🤲

Allah puts us in difficulty for us to find a way of seeking Allah.

It also depends how you define severing ties. You can keep a healthy distance but still keep them in your dua, or send help when needed. Being concerned about their welfare (even when you are not physically present) is not severing ties i believe. 🙏✨

The word of Allah! SO SO POWERFUL!

I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.

This why setting boundaries with families is a must !!!! I won’t cut ties but limit my communication with them .

Thank you so much for this, I've been dealing with this issue all my life and got no one to talk to, may Allah give us strength to find the hikmah and guide us along the way. May Allah bless you.

سلام عليكم.. سبحان الله العظيم.. Sometimes we are Tested by Allah.. In ways we don't understand..

May we never give up on our families, communities, and ourselves. Ameen. Thank you for this lecture. May Allah bless your wisdom and families. Ameen /Amazing lecture.

Turn challenge into ni'mah.Allah has brought us together in a family for a reason.Allah wants us to stick together Being grateful & iman

I finally heard what I need to hear. Alhamdulillah.

Salaam alaikum! I believe that the 'difficult' people ALLAH AWJ put in our lives are part of our growth and we become part of theirs. We all are ways to get closer to ALLAH because of the charity we give each other. We are also given opportunities to develop 'beautiful patience' when we interact especially when we disagree over many things. ..that sort of things. And ALLAH AWJ knows best. 🙏🙏🙏✨ Wassalam

Im so blessed alhumdulilla i needed to hear this. Perfect timing.

my take away: don't put a "batil sticker" to anyone coz human beings can change,grow and evolve 💫

Thoroughly apprciated from Bukhari borned city , uzbekistan . May Alloh bless you Nouman Ali Khan and grant with jannatil Firdavis 🤲

Im tired not gonna lie exhausted, no energy to fight anymore

Beautiful perspective mashaAllah. A big knock back for the modern family-eroding trope of "narcissistic" parents/family/spouses etc

Ustadt Nouman Ali Khan conveys the DAWAH so profoundly and proffesionally knowledgeable ALHAMDULLILAH AMEEN May ALLAH SAW PROTECT you ALWAYS AMEEN

Jazakumullahu Khoiran Kathiran Ustaz...I am a 67 yr old wife and mum of 4. Allahu Akbar. I needed this so much...Alhamdullillah for this lecture...I shall share this with fmly and friends.

This was truthful and painful in the same time… thank you Bayyinah 👍

This is definitely one of the best khutbahs in a long time. On the other hand there were some assumptions made that need to be made plain. One assumption is that to exercise or experience Allah's favor or blessing it's important to acknowledge or be aware of the stories we make up about other people. Other people say and do what they do and we have an opinion or a judgment about it and then we impose that opinion or judgment on them and use that opinion and judgment to determine our behavior towards them. If we're not clear on that and we fall into or rather we are not accepting or exercising Allah's blessing.

I think his is the most diffucult Thing to muslim family speciallly in the pakistan To Fix family issue The pain, the humiliation,the stress The trauma,the drama, the unjustified and evil culture that Burden us more than anything else The useless talk The hatered and then jelosy It all so diffucult and sometime you Just have to know the limit and what is possibile I Mean in other hutbah Nak Said that its ok to have space and to get distance from abusive People even if They are They parent and relative But regardless ... Just Fix what you can At you Best,With Wisdom And if cant Just distance Even if its Just silence.

May Allah protect you and bless you Ustadh. Thank you so much

I always listen to your khutbah mashallah my allah bless you

Beautiful khutba as always جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا ❤️

Every family has a problem, difficulties between its people... I got the notification and I was literally stressed then... And it felt so good so relaxing so surprising too... That Allah doesn't want me to go into sin... He doesn't want me to be despair... Subhanallah... There are always signs for us to come closer to him... As we do that...we are doing for ourselves... If we do good it will give us good... If we do bad... The bad will come to us... Allah loves us that's why He always make us to make it... And He will continuosly do that until we the end if we also co-operate... And ask for sabr... Subhanallah 🌸✨

Masha Allah Sir Nouman Ali Khan. You really place things into perspective. Subhana Allah

Alhumdulillah, Jazakumullahu Khair brother. Those Ayats are like magical. Which has changed the way l think. Subhanallah

Oh finally a lecture on real worldly problem! And I so wish I can break that wall, but a wall against a strong narassist mother is pretty hard one 😥😥 Io actually figured her out at age 41, how am I suppose to change now after grieving that I never had a normal mother. And brother never forget your family might be a lot different than my mine:)

The best part of bayyinah videos is that, there is no kind of halal or haram music in the beginning or the end of the video.

May Allah bless u brother u changed my narrative completely coz of which i was going through pain since years

Jazakillah khair for giving these kind of khutbas. They really benefit our inner believes. May Allah reward you immensely for bringing up real issues and their solutions.

it is literally an awesome khutba جزاك الله خيرا

I ask Allah to reward you with the best reward and increase you in knowledge, understanding and faith.

Fantastic way to change our view of human beings. All of us have done good and bad. May Allah Forgive our bad and Increase our good Ameen

I hope my sins be forgiven by going through all of this test. I think this trial is a blessing for me as it was an option for me to be able to be forgiven. Allah know best. There are times when I feel the "reality" is so harsh, I tend to run from reality by believing in "fiction (baatil)" such as movie/cartoon etc (it's just an act/lies). I think I was lacking patience to face reality and to forgive. May Allah help me. The hope to be forgiven is what makes me feel stronger to move on. Based on my experience, communicating with pious person heal the heart very fast. I hope Allah forgive me for any mistake I wrote on this comment. May Allah forgive us, and heal our heart which is scarred by our sins.

Thank you 😭 MasyaAllah my dua has been answered ✨

And then there are people like you sir, blessing by Allah. May Allah give hidayat to all of us.

No words just golden words may Allah bless u happiness Aameen

Nauman you are doing great Alhamdolillah.Your knowledge is an immense treasure. Subhan Allah

Thankfully, I have watched this. I hope Allah guides us all to see the wisdom behind all fights 🙏🏼🙏🏼

I cut my family relationship after 9 years they had been ignored, bullied, fitna and zhalim to me when I was broke, lost my future husband, friends and lost my mom. Only in the worst time you finally found the true colors of your people surrounds you. They forgot what I have done for them when I was UP. Alhamdulillah.

We need more on this.... NAK is now becoming a brand.... MASHAALLAH jazak ALLAH, and love you sir........

May Allah azzawazal bless you enormously 🥺

Jazakumullah khairan ustadh NAK, love from Nigeria, west Africa...

Mashallah Mashallah God bles you Brother Amin ALLAH love from Kosova Albania 🇽🇰🇦🇱

Wallahi very deep understanding Allah bless and guide us all,in sha Allah my kids who watched this video will now understand why my nature is the way it is, it's not me but by the mercy of Allah

Amazing lecture on a much needed topic. May Allah bless you all.

Thank you for being here for us right on cue, May Allah increase you in knowledge & reward you, thank you

Please share with Turkish subtitles. I would very much like to listen and understand these beautiful conversations...

Masha'allah Masha'Allah My God protect you Very nice talk Thank you Jazak Allah khier

May Allah make us among His pious believers, and may He accept all our right duas. May Allah protect us from every evils of people, May Allah make a way out of our difficulties with khair o afiyat & shower his mercy upon us 🤲

Subhanallah.....such an eye-opener....need to listen multiple times to get it engrained....Jazakallah khair Brother

Very important topic to every human being. Knowledge is the key and been open minded is the key to salvation. جزاك الله خير الجزاء شيخنا الفاضل

Aameen to all duas May ALLAH SWT guide all of us and all our families and all teh generations to come till Do J Aameen

I find this topic a really interesting one and always have always learned a lot from Nouman Ali. I get what you are saying in this speech and it is very good advice; however it doesn't take into account the fact that no matter how many meetings you have with some family members to address issues of concern to establish peace, the outcome isn't going to be a desired one and actually nothing is going to be resolved. Even if you sit down and have a conversation with some people, always being respectful, people that are narcissistic are going to avoid accountability and responsibility for any hurt or pain that they have caused. In my experience, it is best to acknowledge that these people are the way that they are and Allah knows best; but for your own peace and mental health, just pray for these people but keep your distance. This way, you can't keep getting manipulated and gaslighted by these people and you're protecting yourself from ongoing abuse.

MashaAllah, his khutbah gives me goosebumps because there is one friend who was disliked by most of my friends. and they like to judge her and that she will never change... do who are we can decide the future? :"(

Thanks a lot, feeling the same pain that u r discussing among family relationships,u r wonderful person,may Allah give us hidayat through u,Dr khan,,,want a lot of lectures on this topic in Urdu too

Alhamdulila Alhamdulila. Thank you!

I don't have these blessings, and I pray to Allah to bless me with these neamts/blessings in this tough period of my life while I am feeling so lonely and I am tired of living alone far from my family and in a open environment that sins are really easy to do. May Allah protect me and all other Muslims.

When you are grateful to Allah you find positivity in everything

الحمدلله رب العا لمين ما شاء الله والله الكبر ♥️

May Allah bring family members closer and solve the problems between.

Masha Allah ❤❤

Having father is blessing but having islamic father is more blessings😢

Salam Nouman BarakaAllah ou fik I'm exactly in this situation I don’t know how to deal with my family I will try to make a step and see how it goes

Jij hebt dit zooo mooi uitgelegd dank je..belgium

Thank you so much Sir, I really needed it to hear this. May Allah bless you for all you do.🦚

I m 49 years old in my life till now I have found peace only with my parents n I can say alhamdulillah they are ablessing allah has given me I have not found any thing peaceful in this world prayer n parents

Thank you so much Allah bless you always ❤

Aap Sabse Guzarish Hai Ki Mere Abba Amma K liye Magfirat Ki Dua Kare

SubhanAllah! Brilliant explanation; May Allah Reward u infinitely and May He Help us to understand and behave as He wants us to, Ameen

Ameen Sheikh, waouh great understanding from this

اسلام علیکم ورحمته الله استاد گرامی متشکرم ممنون شما سلامت باشید ❤

Jazaka’Allah. This changed my life.🙏🏽

Jazakallah khair brother Ali

I really need this khutbah at this time jazak Allah NAK.....

Jazaq Allah khair shaikh 💐💐💐💐

I've cut my sister off because she has hurt me in lots of ways. It's clear to my family and friends that she's done me wrong. I haven't done anything to cause her mistreatment of me, nor have I sought revenge. I stopped talking to her, and I no longer consider her family. I have forgiven her in the eyes of Allah, but I will never forget the deep hurt she's caused me.

Ya allah make is easy for everyone who is struggling with not nice parents

Very enlightening lecture. I learned a lot from it. Bottom line is to understand where they coming from rather than putting a label on them.

Lâ Hawla wa lâ Quwwata illâ billâhi'l aliyul Aziim. Assalaamualaykum (peace be upon you). Alhamdulillâhi Rabbil âlamiin. Allâhumma Salli alâ Seyyidinâ Mawlâna Muhammadin wa Sallim. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. May ALLÂH SWT Reward you. May ALLÂH SWT Make it easy for all and Guide, Protect, Bless, Help us and Grant all of us Jannah. Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen Ameen…

Going trough hardship later gives a better life

Listening to hutba of ustath, I thought Allah teaches us the psychological aspects of our life

جزاک اللە خیرا

Alhamdullilah!❤🤲

He really gave me some things to think about in this lecture. This was very helpful. Jazakallah kheyr.

Wish I could attend Bayyinah Institute with you, Ustadh.

The only way to be continually grateful to Alllah SWT is to acknowledge and give thanks for each and every grants that we are given and for each and every lack we are deprived of. Alllah SWT knows best what we need and what we don't need الله علم

Assalamualeikum so beautiful lesson love you all for the sake of Allah