Fifteen years?!?! And lol, she's worried the kids will hate and disrespect her? Meanwhile, she's been disrespecting their father for fifteen years! I'm glad he told them the truth, he still needs to DNA test the kids.
He almost screwed up by giving her a chance to explain it to the kids first. Never ever do this. They will always try to spin a web of lies and make themselves the victim. People are likely to believe what they are told first. Don't give a cheater the opportunity.
what baffles me the most is the audacity to imply that OP was cheating when talking to the children. and the "daddy has to go away for a few years" LMAO
In the last story, you should go for full custody 100% your wife is bringing strange people around your kids and doing these actions in front of them. She is not fit to be a parent whatsoever.
100% custody for OP. Wife felt free to enjoy AP fondling of her in front of child. She wasn't thinking about her son at all, only herself. Supervised visitation for wife and some child appropriate conversations with his son about touching.
@@Nameless82284 its still pretty messed up that adults are doing nasty acts around their kids, because children are very impressionable they could start replicating it and that will end badly for eveyone involved
@@Cyan-ideWell said. If a neighbor or someone notices that, they'll contact the authorities to remove OP's son from his mother, place him in therapeutic foster care, out of state, and then, with another family, through closed adoption, plus, strip the mother of her parental rights.⚠️
Trying to lie to the kids about what happened in front of OP is more disgusting than the affair. Also shows her stupidly for giving up the chance to hide her shameful behavior feom the kids.
I agree that hiding things can lead to disaster. However, cheating and divorce can be discussed as two separate issues at appropriate times. Also, it can backfire the other way too. It depends highly on the children’s ages/maturity levels, the parent(s)’ delivery, etc.
@@jarrodhall3686 the issue is that the party that was cheated on normally tries to protect the cheater by hiding information. Kids tend to follow the one that gives them more information
Yup. I was so angry and confused the whole time my parents were separating. They told us nothing except for when my dad would get drunk and go on slurred rants about my mom and try to drive a wedge between the rest of my family and me. Didn't feel like I could trust either of them since they completed uprooted my entire life with 0 explanation.
she is delusional and she only cares because she got caught which is typical. not sure why she now cares that her daughters will hate her, should've thought of that because before continuing that relationship which in turn made it inevitable for them to eventually find out
Exactly. I predict that when OP's daughters hit their mid-teens, they'll not only see what an evil person their mother is, and disown her, they'll also disappear on her to couch-surf with friends, next, at 18, the oldest daughter will stay with/marry a boy who's also a cheater, the youngest will stay with/marry a boy who controls/abuses her (mentally/ emotionally, verbally, and physically, to the point of landing her in the hospital), then, with kids on the way, and no reliable relatives to take her in, the oldest will move to another state, find a cheaper apartment in a safe neighborhood, and work two jobs to support herself and her kid, the youngest will also move to another state, and have to stay at a women's shelter, until she finds an apartment.⚠️
1st story: I love how she couldn't keep their relationship "private" and just between the two of them. But when he's about to reveal her secrets to the in laws, suddenly its a "private matter only between those two" xD
I hate that I’m addicted to these types of videos… keep giving me trust issues with women which sucks because I found an amazing girl that I can see a future with. To the point I drove 2 hours skipping some things to take care of her while she has a concussion. Today’s our one month and she’s angelic and I strongly believe this would never happen to me, but betrayal always hits hardest from those you don’t expect it from, right? Got some talking to do on Monday at therapy lol… On the bright side at least I know signs to look for and steps to move forward from all this if it were to happen
I hope you have a happy life with her and your story doesn't get posted on this channel. I watch this just to see what happens and what all signs people miss.
Don't ever let the cheater explain the kids or family why you're divorcing. Caught liars are never going to tell the truth. They're going to turn them all against you. Just get over with and get people on your side by telling what your cheater spouse did.
If a truth you discover is eating you up inside, tell the truth to the affected person/people. They need to know, and that is why your conscience is tearing you apart.
Story 2: Given the wife's parents are too naive to confront her about her disgusting actions, they surely won't mind their grandson being taken away by social services, and raised in another state by randos.⚠️
The fact his daughters automatically assumed he was the one who was caught cheating left a really nasty taste in my mouth. If it were my child i dont think id be able to look at them the same if they accused me of cheating when it was infact my spouse who was the one cheating.
I hope you don't have kids. Blaming the kids for obviously thinking the person crying is the one who's been hurt, like be so serious right now lmao.. ofc they aren't dumb but it's not hard to assume that they'd think the person who's been crying has been the one hurt in the situation? And the mother literally manipulating the situation. Lacking critical thinking
This is a prime example of why you should never let the person in the wrong be the one to come clean first or give them ample warning before you out them. They ALWAY find a way to twist it on you.
Sometimes people just don't want to know. That and sometimes they don't care, especially if they've raised the kid for years. Blood or not, that's their baby no matter what, so they don't feel the need to
It's crazy how these types of women will scream, cry and beg for forgiveness, receive it, then do it again. I've heard women literally say "you'd be surprised how they actually forgive you". If you get a good one, treat her right, be good to her. The bad ones are conniving and ruthless
You see, I hate that "Syndrome of Dualism" that modern women have. Some women think that they need 2 men, one to sustain in life affairs (money, siblings, etc) and another to sustain in sexual affair. This is so disgusting. Women that think like that need to live the worst to change their mentality, and no regrets when they pass through the worse .
It's amazing how some people think that their affairs are some kind of drug they can't give up. The woman has an affair for 15 years and only after having a chance to come clean she tries to set herself up as the victim. And then in the second story the woman's parents try to downplay it all.
Depends on the country/state honestly. In some places since stay at home can equal no money, they'll more likely give the children to the parents who is more financially established at that time. That and in some cases, who the children want to be with is heavily considered. When my mom and her boyfriend were fighting for custody, my half sister insisted on living with my mom, and it ended up that way in the end.
@@MrArielK If he has family support (like his parents), the kids could stay with them during his work hours if/when they're not attending school. And if he can afford daycare that's also an option(that or a babysitter)
Guys like this have me scratching my head sometimes you’ve just found out she’s been lying to you for 15 years and you’re gonna trust her to tell your kids the truth I’ve never understood why the betrayed person never speaks out first to stop the betrayer from spinning the narrative
I find it funny that when OP went to his in-laws to tell them about the matter, his wife said it was a "private matter" and to not involve anyone. Is that's so, why did she involve another man's most private area in hers while she was leeching off of a man she never deserved for 15 years?
I'm so sorry OP. You are a good person and didn't deserve that. I have been through something very similar. All I can say is may God be your comfort or as counselor. He will love you through it
Story 1 she was evil, you were literally nothing but her safety net while she was in a relationship with someone else. Solely married for a lifestyle she wanted and baby trapped you while staying in her real relationship
Amy is disgusting greedy, she wanted both OP and Matt and when confronted she was selfish in playing things down and not being 100 with the kids. What a pig
I had a dude tell me this story last month on a sub.....the exact same story.....a couple things were off, but almost identical. It was his gay best friend, not hers. Also it had some pics involved. But same exact scene. This is crazy, either TV's are better than PI's or this is the same dude I gave a spirit to on the train.....
If the 15 year casual relationship means nothing yet you chose to do that knowing it will end your marriage how does that not make the marriage less than nothing? Also she offered to end that casual side thing? At the hotel? No way. She will keep it up and is at her boyfriend's house.
Women will always externalize blame. Always. Most cannot and will not accept responsibility for anything. Then Deflect, Accuse, Reverse Victim and cheater.
Look never listen to the lawyer saying that your which train will be traumatized or women will pick your children to saying that you are the cheater always tell them even if they hate their mother or get traumatized it's better than to be in with a mother that
15 YRS AND THE ONLY THING U DO IS DIVORCE??? how about know here he drinks and maybe something just happen really still giving her 50 % of child??? how about visitation and get child support. and make sure to sue ap as well
1 always tell your kids the truth about your partner’s infidelity especially more so if your a man because women will manipulate their kids to help their needs 100% of the time
Pleading my butt, if she had commitment issues then it's a loss loss to get back with her lol Edit: See, she goes to her lover after she said she cut contact with him, what a joke. Maybe a deadbeat is her type 😂
Well I’m the first story if you weren’t such an alcoholic in denial, maybe this wouldn’t have happened. You were so drunk you missed sign after sign, IF this was real and likely isn’t
"I don't know how she thought she'd never get caught." Dude, you had the blinds in front of you for 15 years. Of course she's going to be confident after so much success. It was by complete chance you even suspected something was off that much later, not for her behavior or a slip of the tongue.
@19:00 Umm FU wife, no it doesn't work that way.... a coworker (E) of mine started hitting on me, he's nice (& admittedly hot 🤷🏻♀️🤣) but the sec. E did this I told my husband of 15 yrs & we'd been going through a dry spell in the bedroom... so it's BS ppl use that rsn or say other shit like this bc it's not how a mature adult relationship works esp. when you RLY love ur SO!!!
