VIDEO MAP/TIME STAMPS What you need to know about the Jewish backdrop of Jesus’ teaching on divorce. 10:07 Why you should be open to exceptions to Jesus’ rule about not divorcing. 25:53 What all four Gospels have in common on this topic. 37:15 Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Mark 10. 39:00 Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Luke 16. 46:54 Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Matthew 5. 48:42 I’ve been taught that marriage is literally unbreakable’; that it is ontologically impossible to end unless your spouse dies. What about that? 50:16 What did Jesus mean by “sexual immorality”. 54:26 Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Matthew 19. 1:11:00 Jesus’ teaching on divorce in Romans 7. 1:21:22 Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7 vs. 10-16. 1:28:17 Does “not enslaved” allow remarriage after divorce in 1 Corinthians 7:15? 1:37:54 When can a Christian spouse be treated like a non-Christian? 1:51:19 What about abuse or extreme situations? 2:00:49 If you divorce for abuse or extreme situations can you get remarried? 2:08:25 Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7 vs. 17-40. 2:10:51 Who are we to disagree with the church fathers? 2:19:05 God said, “I hate divorce”, doesn’t that mean you can’t get divorced? 2:31:46 What about those who will abuse the exceptions and wrongly divorce? 2:33:53 What about alcoholism, gambling, drug use, etc.? 2:36:28 What about a marriage that was entered sinfully? Should it be broken up? 2:37:29 What about David Instone-Brewer? 2:44:05 Should a pastor marry someone who is wrongly divorced? 2:57:06 Summary of all 16 biblical principles. 2:58:53 What are bad reasons for getting a divorce? 3:02:45 Final thoughts. 3:03:16 There are a bunch of resources in the video description for you to check out as well.
In the timestamp, you have Paul's teaching in 1 Cor. 7 vs 10-16 twice. One at 1:28:17 and the other at 2:10:51. Did you do an extensive teaching on what he taught? Was it intentional? I am sure I will find out as I am going to watch now. I am excited. Thank you, Brother Mike.
I divorced after 5 years of marriage. 4 1/2 years of counseling didn't do much. It was rough. JESUS touched my husband and radically saved him. He was saved before but had narcissistic tendencies. And I struggled with anxiety. It was bad. Now we are remarried for 3 years and it has been incredible!!!!! God is so good!!!!!!
Praise the Lord. This is exactly what i am going through right now. I feel out of hope because my husband is also struggling with narcissistic behavior and i am always so anxious. Praying for his salvation
Hello. Rachael! Are you on fb? Can we connect? I've been separated from my narcissistic husband for 4 years and going through divorce. Ive never heard of a narcissist being delivered but ive prayed for it!! Please and thank you! My fb is @cristina181
My husband of 26 years had me served with divorce papers, I literally thought I was going to die. I saw no way to continue through life without him. That was 4 years ago, I am so much better emotionally, physically without him. He was abusive to us (we have two grown sons, one still lives with me).I found out he had multiple affairs, one with a young girl, underage. He’s a doctor, pediatrician, he’s doing what dr’s do, he is living with his nurse, she’s been married 4 times, with a child by every man. I will never remarry, this is my choice, I cannot go through that again. I’ve got everything I need to finish the race, God is at the finish line waiting to take me home!
@Margaret Clark i think you have took a good decision! If a man isn't loving his wife as Christ loving the Church..Though he may be a baptised christian he is definitely not a born again Christian! After all these problems still your faith in God is unmoved! God has done only good by getting you out of that relationship! Praise the Lord! In your case that guy has proved him that he has no Love of Jesus! So Forgive him totally as he has sinned against you as Jesus Forgives..Pray for him..But dont get along again with him ever..that would be a mess for the remaining of your life..God has made you born again to deserve the Love of Christ! As a brother in Christ i support your decision! My prayers for you! Love you sister! ❤️🙌
I follow JESUS. My husband and I were both divorces for reasons JESUS stated. Long story short people need to stop arguing semantics and realize there is a reason scripture tells us to work out our own salvation with fear and trembling. Stop looking to people for answers and get on your knees before GOD and ask HIM. His opinion is the ONLY one that counts!
@@casiepowell9434 Amen to that! I am getting swarmed by Hypocritical Pharisees right now, who seem to think THEY hold the KEYS to Life and Not JESUS! Lol! 🤣🤣🤣👍🙏
@@heidiranger6106 the truth regarding this topic is already written in the scriptures since all power and authority has been given to Christ. That's why Jesus's teachings and commands are the ultimate authority on this topic. Jesus does not provide and reason's to divorce, but instead clearly states that those who divorce and marry another commit adultery. To say Jesus is in favor of divorce, is in conflict with what he commands against divorce in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, and what the apostle Paul also affirms in 1 Corinthians 12-13.
I was married 43 years to my wonderful husband. I’m heartbroken but I know I see him again. He’s in heaven waiting for me. 💔❤️. He did from Covid almost 31 months ago.
I was married for 30 years I have posted my story above. My first husband got into prescription medication and drinking and a form of adultery. I gave him a year to straight now and he didn’t want to or try. I think my second husband is a narcissist. It is terrible.
I remember listening to this a year ago and the issue felt so far away from me. I assumed I'd be married for the rest of my life. Last night my husband told me he wants a divorce. There will be no counseling or attempts to save our marriage. He is done and I am devastated. I don't know why listening to this is helping me but it is. 1.5 years later update: There was someone else. Thanks for the prayers and words of support. I'm doing ok. The Lord has been good to me.
I'm so so sorry, my divorce four years ago came unto like a storm and it left me feeling unbelievably broken 💔 met friends going thru the same thing, talked everyday, walked together, prayed together and lived thru it to become a way richer, more forgiving, and loving guy. Look up these two verses Habakkuk 2:3 and Genesis 50:20 God bless you!
Even if he has given up on your marriage, you don’t have to and are called not to. Continue to pray, and insist on discussion especially if he’s given you no reason. There’s a reason they have to *ask* you for a divorce. Insist on counseling and do not let go of the covenant you’ve both made with God unless given no other choice. Continue to pray and seek the Lord’s instruction on this trial in your life, He will see you through.
@@haruhianderson4019 my wife left me 7 years ago and divorced me. I did many many hours of study about divorce and remarriage with this as well. Even looked into the greek and hebrew plus the culture of the day. Bottom line is a contract REQUIRES both parties to agree and continue with it to remain in effect. When my wife abandoned me, she broke the marriage contract. Why would God expect me to try to honor a contract that was broken many years ago? And why would God require the innocent party to be condemned to never have a mate for the rest of their life because their prior marriage partner was the offender? No I didn't cheat ever and loved her to the best of my ability. But I have found out that scripture from the old to the new testiment does support my view at least in my opinion. I have been engaged but it didn't work out and have been in a couple other relationships but am depending on God for his time and the right woman.
I saw this thing and I was like ThReE HoUrS!!!??!!?!?!? But then I was like, this is Mike Winger😂😂😂 of course he is gonna study till he drops just to honour and love God with his *mind* as scripture says. Thank you for the nourishment you are giving to the body of Christ Mike. We thank God for you and every other apologetics minister out there who is making a difference. God bless you and yours, Love from Zimbabwe, Africa❤❤🇿🇼
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I went around your country.....I was told that the countries, beginning with a Z are completely fallen apart.......with corruption of tribalism.....and South Africa was in a war, in the townships.....at that time....
My ex was a malignant narcissist, the dangerous and deadly kind. After a short time together, he was plotting to take my life, but I didn’t know it at the time. I was too innocent and naïve, and had a religious spirit thinking I was supposed to stay with this kind of abusive person. Well, I ended up in an abuse shelter but I told God I would stay with him and not break my marriage vows if that’s what the Lord wanted, but if not, I asked the Lord to remove me from the marriage. If it was his will. The next day, I got a phone call that he had filed for divorce. I was given advice by every pastor and marriage Christian counselor and they told me that I needed to get out right away. I fought religious spirit at first. God delivered me thankfully. Since then, I have a come to find that many Christians are unequally yoked with these narcissistic individuals. They were fooled by their charming seduction and deception. They were falsely swept off their feet. They and all those around them were lied to and then they find themselves in the horrors of abuse. I am now working on a book about this subject of narcissism in the church. It has become an incredible fascination for me to learn about this subject from a biblical perspective. I am much more careful now these days to give advice about marriage whether someone should stay in it or not. I could be putting their life at risk, so I have to be very cautious how I proceed in giving any sort of advice on this subject. We don’t often know exactly what’s going on in the marriage. Often times you won’t know because the narcissist is very good at cloaking themselves and cunning destructive behaviors when they are in public, but at home they are potentially dangerous and very very damaging to the life of their spouse in many ways. We must proceed with caution when giving this sort of advice friends and it really helps to know the Bible like this man has described; this can really help and changes things. Don’t live under a religious spirit.
My young 24 year old some married into a relationship just like you did. They have been married going on 3 years, we have had no contact since paying for their wedding as she convinced my son that we are horrible people for calling her out on all her manipulation and lies. They now have a daughter who I fear for because she has turned my son into a shell of a man and I know she will destroy with child with all the demons that dwell within her dark soul 😢😢😢😢
Sounds similar to my situation in some ways. I was told so many times I had to stay with him (22 yrs was enough of walking on egg shells) But if I was given a legal divorce, it is not adultery if a legal divorce was given. I studied Jewish marriage laws so I knew what Christs argument regarding Hillel vs Shammai. I also know Paul’s stance. If the unbeliever wants to go, let them- a believer is not bound in such circumstances! But I still get called an adultress by believers... More abuse on top of what my ex husband did. Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and then tried to convince me I was “such a loser I needed to go to sleep in the garage.”
Everyone, literally EVERYONE, who even thinks they might one day get married ought to watch all 7,352.38 hours of this teaching. And then watch it again when they are thinking of getting engaged with their future fiancee. And then watch it again right before they get married. And then watch it again with their spouse. I wish that I had. I wish my wife had. All I can do now is pray and believe.
I left a violently abusive marriage and have been racked with guilt evening knowing my life was on the line. He also committed adultery so there’s that. You’ll never know the healing I received from this. Thank you so much Mike.
@@tralfazruk1 I recommend going over the scripture in this video again. The Bible does not teach this in adultery scenarios. This woman has been through enough pain. Please leave her to be with Gods grace and healing.
Original hebrew Scriptures say that unrepentant adultery and violence cannot be tolerated. 'If an an unbelieving spouse wants to leave, let him leave. Brother and sister is not in bondage in such cases''. See Str^ongs Concordance, precise translation of original hebrew. Leave in this verse means 'put space between'. Not necessarily only physical space. 'If a man does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever'. Provide - word G4306 means 'to take thought for'. Does he take thought for you if he beats you to the point of near death? So, if he is unrepentantly violent or adulterous with you he is a heathen and has stuck his middle finger to the Almighty. Hell material. Do not stay unequally yoked with him and end up dead. Jesus came to save, not to condemn you to be stuck with an enemy masking as a christian in his words, not deeds and who secretly wants your death. If he repents, things can change.
@@tralfazruk1 Wherever you got that from, it's not biblical. I'll assume you're Roman catholic bc the orthodox have always allowed it, under extremely narrow circumstances as outlined in the texts. Jesus saying that dudes being men-sluts is sinful doesn't magically invalidate the other laws of marriage. Abuse, adultery, and fraud are all valid reasons to divorce. Abuse is obvious bc in a lot of cases if you don't leave, you could die and then also allowing your children to be abused is sinful neglect of your vocation as a parent. Adultery also because the fidelity required in the marriage contract has been violated and it's also explicitly stated. Fraud is also obvious because if they lied about who and what they were, then the marriage was never valid to begin with.
Thank you so much for your clear and intelligent teaching :) I'm living in Saudi Arabia and have no access to a church, but your teaching really helps me to grow in faith.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
@@ajlouviere202 thank you for your comments. I'm definitely not a scholar. I do see that Paul says the Lord says not to divorce and if you do you are supposed to remain unmarried unless you reconcile. Paul then sums it up by saying a wife is bound to her husband as long as he is alive. To me, Paul was making it clear how serious marriage is.
Thank you so much Pastor! I have been in abusive marriage for 12 years. It has been hard and lonely. The advice and teaching I have received over the years kept me in bondage to a man that hates God and hates me. I recently got the courage to have him move out, after having to call the police for his behavior, twice. Once should have been enough, but between the lies and manipulation of the abuser and the confusing teachings from the local church, it took more than that. I'm sure many will use this video incorrectly. But as a survivor of domestic violence, this has been one of a very few Christian resources that touch the reality of what abuse victims must contend with. God bless you. Thank you.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
@@setapartone9311 Did you watch this whole video? Have you shown any compassion to Johanna and the situation she described? The Bible says to speak the truth in love and that doesn’t really come through in your post.
@SetApartOne, shame on you for giving your copy & paste sermon to a woman who was in an abusive relationship. It takes a lot of courage to call the police on an abuser and even more to divorce him. Jesus makes an exception for adultery and Paul for the unbeliever regarding divorce. Paul tells husbands to love their wives like Christ loved the church. Abusing someone does not fit that definition. And, as Pastor Winger pointed out, there are just exceptions for every rule in the Bible, even when it appears there shouldn’t be. Committing murder and not being put to death for it comes to mind.
3 hours flies by so fast when you're a over the road truck driver. I am dyslexic. Which makes reading and comprehending very difficult. I want to read the Bible and understand but with my dilemma I am just so grateful to have you to listen to. Having to drive hours at a time I have become extremely grateful to listen to your Bible teaching and feeling my head with things of God that I would otherwise have a difficult time achieving on my own.Thank you for putting your content out there♥️
As a person who has heard you say; "I dont know enough about this" when asked this question in your videos, you have my respect. I really appreciate your attitude, which strikes me as an honest attempt to follow the scriptures, no matter where they lead. I'm not always in complete agreement with your views, but always come away from your videos feeling that said views are based on your earnest view of the bible, and not some petty political leaning. I wish you all the best.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
@@ajlouviere202 thank you for the comment. I don't really have a reply to give you, which would be good enough, concerning what you have written. I have read your comment multiple times, and will continue to read and learn more from different sources. I appreciate your work.
@@arthurbrugge2457 Amen. If I can offer you a bit of advice on your journey to find the truth, since you will no doubt encounter many things along the way. The things to look for are those who say things like "I'm not sure", and "I heard from God personally about this", along with the many others, who are also proponents of remarriage after a divorce, yet few of them actually seem to have the same word. These are just two examples, but I think you get the point. The scriptures say "God is not the author of confusion", so where you see these things become evident you must allow discernment to cause you to pause, and yield to the guidance of the Holy Spirit to the truth found in the scriptures. That is what happened to me before writing what you see above, which allows all of the scriptures, regarding this topic, to harmonize with one another. I pray the Lord will lead you to His truth.
AJ is a copy and paste artist with no answers of any value. He hesitates to answer simple questions such as. Is God holy? Is God immutable? When asked to explain and prove his suppositions he slip slides away. Beware!!
Thank you for studying the word and presenting it so well. My husband left me a year ago and I've really been struggling with this, having alot of feelings of condemnation. My church told me that since he was acting as an unbeliever to let him go. They went through and did just as Matthew 18 says and he was unwilling to try to keep the marriage together. But the way you teach it really opened my eyes. I know that I am free to marry another if I desire. Although I'm content with staying single so I can focus on Christ. If God wants me married he will bring a Godly man into my life. And I am still fully opened to reconciliation with my ex husband because I know God does work miracles.
I’m in a similar situation and I know that God works miracles and I’m trusting His timing and the will he has for my life. I want my marriage to work and reconcile my family but I’m submitting my issues to God and asking Him to do what He will. Let’s keep each other in prayer because the enemy is working overtime to destroy marriages and families.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
Your church as most churches is incorrect to justify the situation that your husband was not a believer which I believe they were referring to 1 Cor7:15 . It is a wrong interpretation to say that if the unbeliever leaves you are not bound because that word bound or under bondage is not the same Greek word used in Rom7:2 ; 1Cor 7: 27 & 32 which is deo referring to unite or knit together as in marriage. The word bondage in 1 Cor 7:15 is not deo but doulos which means servant or slave which means if your husband leaves you are not his servant . It does not mean that the marriage bond is broken.
In my failing marriage I was tempted into adultery and failed miserably. Ended up getting a divorce and the reproach has never left me even though it was 6 years ago. I haven’t remarried or anything because I feel like ruined goods. I won’t marry an unbeliever and a true believer wouldn’t have me because I’m an adulterer and divorced. Anyone who is married and is tempted, FLEE with your entire being. It is of the devil and will 100 percent guaranteed ruin your entire life and testimony.
Jim in Christ there is forgiveness, walk in the freedom of that! And the power of that n your testimony is powerful! Remember what Christ did to the women found in adultery! Let his love & forgiveness make you on fire & thirsty for his presence! Go out preach the good news to the world. The more proactive you are for the kingdom the less time you will have to dwell in regrets & pain!! Read the story of the women found in adultery. Again & again. If there is freedom & forgiveness for her! Then there is freedom & forgiveness for you too!! Don’t forget there isn’t any marriage in heaven it’s a very temporary thing that we do on earth. Keep your eyes on the prize
You are a beautiful heart. God bless. We shall all meet with the Lord who abide in Him irrespective of older fallen state. I understand you bro. God bless your heart.
@@Jimwin2 it's definitely not worth it especially if you have kids together, Satan knows are weak spots the temptation is real, I know when I prayed about it God lead me to the verse where God Hateth divorce, I didn't obey and to this day I regret it
After uncountable hours of search I found this video, studied FULLY from start to end. One of the principles FREED me from Shackles and chains, I'm at a journey for restoring my life in Christ and this topic was really oppressing my life, thanks a lot pastor. May God bless your wisdom and fear of God!
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
@@lizcutajar9352the exception is if your wife or husband cheats on you then you can divorce. Or if your watching porn because the Bible says who ever looks with lust commits adultery in his heart so it's the same thing. I've heard people say that have gotten married in bad circumstances say they should get a divorce. But divorce is never the answer. That's not going to make anything better getting another divorce ha. God hates divorce. Hope that clears is up for you. God bless you
@@BeStill-zy5ye Yes Jesus does say that having lust in the heart is adultery but when Jesus was speaking about divorce and remarriage he chose two not one word in the same verse. He used pornea i.e fornication and moichea meaning adultery. So Jesus could not have said except for adultery because otherwise he would have used the word adultery not pornea.
I went through hard times and when I was at home and the discussions degenerated between me and my wife I heard a voice asking me: Mihai you don't want to have her with you in heaven and I got stuck because I was in the middle of a heated discussion and I answered yes and I heard these words you did so many things su I Forgave You, love her with My Love) at that moment I realized that I was the person for the example of the ruthless slave and if I do not forgive I will not be forgiven. I made up my mind to forgive and love her with His Love. A few years passed and Jesus returned my wife to Him. Now I have a piece of Heaven in my house and the Love of Jesus is between us. His glory forever Amen
Forgiveness happened on the cross when all sin was placed on the Lord. The body of Christ, the Church is being assembled now and is a new creature that will judge angels. It’s not about what you can do, it is about what He already did. 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 is the gospel that saves.
@@saraadams5505 This I wanted to say about forgiveness, I know that He (Lord Jesus) did everything on the cross but we have our part to do here otherwise we will not have forgiveness Mark chapter 11 verse 26 this is what I meant
Sad to say I divorced many years ago. I talk 90% responsibility. I am happy to report the faithfulness of Jesus in restoring broken relationships. My children and grandchildren bring great joy. Everything isn't always rosy, but keeping my faith is always the right thing to do. 24 years sober now and I love the scriptures. Thank Jesus for his staying with me.
I’m a little more than 2 hours in (not in one sitting - listening as I drive my kids to and from school or as I drive anywhere really). This is so thoughtful and interesting, and I just want to say thank you for all the time and energy you have put into this teaching. A lot to think about. I have a friend who is a believer, but her husband is not. He is extremely selfish and emotionally abusive. He has threatened to end his life, and said this in front of their 5 year old child. He has also shared that he considered killing all of them, including himself, by driving their vehicle into oncoming traffic. I struggled with what to even say. My instinct was to encourage her to leave, but I wasn’t sure what was good biblical advice. I didn’t think God meant for my Christian sister to endure this, but I also don’t want it to be about what I think - it’s about what God thinks. One theme that seems to resonate here is common sense…Jesus’s exceptions for working on the sabbath, David eating the priests’ bread, etc, were exceptions because common sense tells us that a life is more valuable than the law. Thank you again, and please pray for this sister in Christ, her daughter, and her unborn daughter.
She needs to stop thinking about leaving and RUN This will not get better and only further traumatize the kids-if she doesn’t care about herself (many women don’t; their souls are sucked dry and only their love for their kids can motivate them)
This is terrible. Im grieved to hear what is happening to a sister in Christ trapped in this absolute nightmare of a marriage. Any updates on her and her situation? She needs to leave him if she hasnt already. The Bible instructs to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers and it also says we are not bound to any law when it comes to leaving a marriage with an unbeliever. Her husband is clearly not a believer and is now threatening the safety of her and her children. The children are innocent so this is demonic. I hope she left by now.
@@jgilbert8432 SHE may be married TO A religious socio path there is no help here they are unteachable, Dr, Ramani on Narsisism Patrick Doyle helped me to see truth
Why do you believe this video teaches the truth? Christ commands an abandoned covenant husband that he "must not divorce" his wife, and the wife who abandoned him to "remain unmarried or be reconciled" to her husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. This eliminates any possibility of special "permission" from Paul for an abandoned covenant spouse to divorce and seek another marriage. In Matthew 7:13-14, Christ tells us how hard it is to enter the kingdom of heaven; he describes a narrow road leading to life and a broad road leading to destruction. False teachers are one reason many are on the broad road. You will have to make a choice to either follow Christ, and keep his commands, or follow Mike Winger to destruction. Choose wisely.
Mike, you are probably right, some will use this to justify sin… But take this as encouragement: I’m a believer who was horrified to learn that my husband was having an affair with a friend. I was 7 months pregnant with our second child. This man had professed his love for me and God prior to our union… but his parting words were “I’ve never loved you,” and “I don’t even know if I believe in God.” I remember being devastated that there was nothing I could do to save the marriage. I was horrified that his choice to leave would leave me as a 31 year old single parent for the rest of my life OR remarry and become an “adulterer.” That was more than 16 years ago. I have gone through Christian counseling. I am faithfully in God’s word. And this “baggage” has been something I have continued to wrestle with into my second marriage. Personally, I am VERY grateful for the hours of prep & presentation of this podcast. My husband is a pastor. He was left. Blending has been hard & full of challenges- personally, that is why I believe God hates divorce. It’s ugly. It’s painful. The consequences are life long. AND, I’m blessed. I am the bride of Christ. Again, I’m truly grateful for this. My marriage (current) is under God’s covering & I believe holds great value to my Father and those He brings across our path. Thank you, for unpacking this topic & not hiding from it.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
2 Timothy 4:3 For the time will come when *they will not endure sound teaching* , but according to their own desires, because *they have itching ears* , they will heap up for themselves teachers 4 and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and will be turned aside to things that are untrue.
Same! I watched the whole thing in one sitting on my day off! So worth it to hear good thoughtful teaching on this issue! If you like long videos like this, I also suggest one of his friends Braxton Hunter. His channel is called Trinity Radio and he deals mostly with apologetic issues. He's very thoughtful and kind just like Mike. 💜 God bless you!
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel. The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death. The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. But when Jesus died on the cross, he caused the Jews to be dead to the law of Moses so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the law of Moses over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the whole law is no longer possible for those in Israel and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15. Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife. Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned by the unbeliever, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way they word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not under bondage," which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, when this is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 has the Apostle Paul giving permission to remarry do not understand that the abandoned husband in 1 Corinthians 7:11 is expected to also remain unmarried, in order to be reconciled with his wife. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh in marriage puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, by implying that he has issued an opposing command. Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16. The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions. The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24. Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel, because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans and Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
*My wife and I "married" unsaved and The LORD mercifully still blessed us with a son, David, and now we're truly married in the LORD and we are ALL SAVED in CHRIST JESUS🙌❤️🔥✝️🌌👑🪽🥰🙏*
There is no difference in God's eyes between saved and unsaved married couples when it comes to divorce and remarriage. Jesus Christ uses the word WHOSOEVER… And every marriage lasts until death regardless of divorce.
@@DavidAAriellesen I meant: we were "married" unsaved. I'll edit it for quotation marks. But in case you mean you think there's such a thing as marriage between those who are not in Christ Jesus, those who don't believe in the LORD yet, then I'll pray you're led to the truth my friend. Marriage is created by God. There is no marriage without believing in God and that word for believe in the NT means trusting in, relying on, clinging to; not just acknowledging the truth but relying on the truth for salvation, eternal life, for everything. GOD is Who we marry first and if He's already our first love but we pray on it and He allows us to marry if that's something we feel we must do, because we don't want to keep sinning and don't feel we have the ability to not keep lusting etc etc or due to loneliness causing you to sin over and over etc etc, then we will ask Him to connect us with the wife/husband HE sees fit to give us and thank Him with Faith He will do it in His perfect way and time. So if you do end up marrying it will be in the LORD, for the LORD (so you stop sinning and for love, SELFLESSNESS.. Like feeling called to marry and have children; that's not just all for YOU... That's for the LORD, your spouse who represents/reflects your marriage to JESUS, and your children. Yes you'll have Joy from it but that's a mercy and gift from GOD and not the point; love is the point, love of the LORD, love of spouse, love of your children, and love is SELFLESSNESS). Hence why we're taught in His Word to not be unequally yoked to one another. This is especially bad because if you are SAVED, you don't just keep continuously knowingly sinning and I'm so grateful the LORD was patient and merciful with my wife and I to be SAVED pretty close together and thus become truly married in the LORD finally after years of sin. When you get saved for real, one of the first things the Holy Ghost does is identify all areas where you are rebelling against God in your heart, mind, soul, life, etc etc. He works on you over time and helps you overcome it all in His perfect timing, His Way and you trust that because you TRUST IN JESUS GOD ALMIGHTY. I pray you're led to accept the Truth my friend. I only offer it in love and don't intend any offense. Marriage is a beautiful thing but "marriage", though the Lord can and will use it for the good of those who love Him one way or another and may convert them in time so they become truly married in Him like with my wife and I, it's sin until both people are saved in Jesus God and make vows to the Lord and with each other in the Lord, through prayer together, regarding each other that they will remain faithful to Him and their spouse, to bring Him pleasure and GLORY. The whole purpose of existence is to bring pleasure and glory to the LORD according to His Will. God bless you and yours in Jesus' mighty name 🙏❤️🔥✝️🥰
My divorce damn near killed me. I initially didn't want to watch this. Like, "I'm never allowed to have love again?!" But it's a very loving, non-judgmental teaching.
Same here my ex had an affair with my best friend it was a double stab in the back. Through the pain I found the Holy Spirit, and am more alive than I been in my 40 years of being alive! now have an amazing wife who went through the same type of divorce. I wrestled with remarriage until I found her.
Without getting into details, I am divorced and remarried, and I have struggled with this issue myself. In fact, when I first saw this video posted in 2020 I was scared to watch because I was afraid I would be guilty, but I know that was because of sin in my own heart. I need to hear this teaching, whether or not it convicts me in my specific situation, because Jesus has forgiven me either way.
They say the first thoughts are the right thoughts. Not usually true but in this case you hit a tape measure home run. You would have been right to not watch this huge whiff on the bibles answer on divorce and remarriage. David divorce is bad but remarriage is not the answer. Non judgmental is really being intellectually dishonest in this sad overview of scripture. Someone telling you the law and the truth is not Judgmental. The truth sets you free. Tickling peoples ears is the sport of the selfish who like likes on utube and a robust(newest overused word) list of subscribers. Paul called Peter a hypocrite to his face. Jesus called folks white washed tombs and Satans children for all to hear. The bible says line upon line. Giving people outs is how divorce became the locust it is in the church today. How judgemental is that?To love god is to obey god.
You are not allowed to remarry as long as your covenant spouse is still alive. A covenant can ONLY be fulfilled by death. This man is leading many into the pits of hell, by his false teachings. You asked if you were never allowed love again. The answer is NO. Not as long as your covenant spouse is still alive. That's the consequence of our actions. Yes, I understand how you feel !! I've been divorced for almost 9 years. He left me for another woman, but that doesn't give me the ok to sin against the covenant I made with him and God. You can't end or break a covenant with God, you can only sin against it and God. But the choice is yours, God doesn't force of to believe in Him and He doesn't force us to obey Him. We choose to obey Him, because we love Him and want to please Him more than ourselves.
@@sheilamb Mike Winger is not a sound teacher and even more awful at research. Even when the rare moment occurs when he looks in the right places. He is like a pez despenser of bad theology and tortured twisting and reasoning of scripture. MIke doing reseach is what Charlie Brown is to Trick or treating on Halloween. Mike says he does 200 hrs of research on something and presents to us not heavenly treasure but bags of rocks that he is so proud to display not knowing he has a bag of rocks. He does this on nearly everything. Lucy Brown looks like a psych giant compared to Mikes great excavations of wood,hay and stubble. Let not many of you be teachers has Mike Winger's and Sean McDowells picture by it. Pray for their ability to learn how and who to teach or the discernment to find another ministry. These are pits and wide gates no milk drinking christian needs to travel on.
This is so freeing to hear. I stayed in an abusive marriage for far too many years because my pastor implied it was my fault! And that I’d made a vow to God I couldn’t break! Never was it mentioned my ex had broken the marriage vows by mistreating me and children. My daughters and I continue in therapy to this day, finding healing .
Therapy is pagan. It has false deities (Eros and Psyche) and is hostile to Christianity. It has priestesses, mostly, which makes it super even more pagan. Why would a Christian attend a false church like that?
I am in an abusive marriage, 15 years, I am speaking up and seeking a divorce, but people are pushing me to stay married because he is calling people to say he is sorry. he does not want to be alone. So hard 💔
@@claudychiron2432 do whatever it takes to get out! Abusive, narcissistic men don’t change, they manipulate anyone for their benefit. He has violated his wedding vows to love, honor and respect you. Run!
@@claudychiron2432 They can be really manipulative (even if I honestly think they don't get how manipulative their behavior actually is) and really really cute to others. Making you look like....in lack of better words - the one who sins.
Many has been mistreated by the curch, the ungodly churchleaders, rather. I feel so sorry you did not have a pastor of Gods calling to help you. May God bless you and your daughter far above what you even pray for. And may our Father in heaven lead you and fill you both with His peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.
I just found your videos recently and have spent so much time studying the Word with you. None has spoken to me any more than this one on divorce and remarriage. I watched it straight through!! I’ve never doubted my position with Christ because of my divorce and remarriage. I always waited on The Lord even though the first marriage was very abusive. Eventually it was revealed that my husband had been unfaithful for most of our marriage. Even then, I gave him an option of repentance and forgiveness in attempt to save the marriage. He was so far into debauchery at that point, he suggested polygamy. At that point I was sure the marriage was over. I did remarry with no apprehension. Thirty-five years later, I’m convinced that God blessed me with this marriage because I was so faithful in the first and because I waited on Him. Thank you so much for teaching and your humility in your calling. By the way, my first husband was a Baptist minister.
Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Luke 16:18 King James Version 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 King James Version 31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Those are Jesus words not mine in the Matthew Luke mark.Mark 10:9-12 King James Version 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
@@waterca178 James 2:10 - For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. You have no faith in the grace of god for no man is righteous no not one but in Jesus Christ we are covered in righteousness. Tsk tsk read romans. For before the law Abraham had faith bro beans.
@@nathanmccumber8965. Am I understanding you correctly? I’m not sure if you read and understood what she shared. Did you watch the whole of Pastor Mike’s teaching? Please help me to understand you. It seems to me that you using scripture like a hammer on her head.
My first husband was abusive. I thought he might kill me. But I waited until he gave me an STD to divorce him because then I had proof that he cheated on me. I was so scared of doing the wrong thing. I married young so I was divorced and had a baby boy to take care of by the time I was 21 years old. I think that God’s Word cannot be shaken but I also believe that God’s Word is alive and active and sharper than any double edged sword. The Holy Spirit is our Helper and without Him to guide us we will always mold the Word around what we want OR we will twist it into legalistic rules that rely on our own futile ability to earn salvation rather than rely on the grace and love of God. Both of these ways of reading God’s Word are a TRAP. Demons know God’s Word better than most pastors and will use it to hurt you if you aren’t guarding your spirit with The Holy Spirit. Remember the Word of God is a sword. If you don’t know how to wield it you may end up hurting yourself with it. If someone is married to an abusive man I don’t think that it’s God’s heart for you to remain with him and have children with him and have him raise your children to behave like him. Raising children without their father is also a very dangerous situation that should not be taken lightly. Kids need their dads. Seek God with all of your heart and he will make your path straight and show you what to do. He loves you. He loves your kids. He has plans for you. Plans for good and not for disaster. He wants to give you hope for your future. 💙 I remarried when I was 25 years old. My husband loves God with all of his heart. He adopted my son as his own. We have added four more children to our home. Blended families have their own hardships but God continues to shower us with His grace and takes us from glory to glory. He has done a restoration work in my life that I had all but given up on. God is good. His mercy endures forever. 💗
Original hebrew Scriptures say that unrepentant adultery and violence cannot be tolerated. 'If an an unbelieving spouse wants to leave, let him leave. Brother and sister is not in bondage in such cases''. See Str^ongs Concordance, precise translation of original hebrew. Leave in this verse means 'put space between'. Not necessarily only physical space. 'If a man does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever'. Provide - word G4306 means 'to take thought for'. Does he take thought for you if he beats you to the point of near death? So, if he is unrepentantly violent or adulterous with you he is a heathen and has stuck his middle finger to the Almighty. Hell material. Do not stay unequally yoked with him and end up dead. Jesus came to save, not to condemn you to be stuck with an enemy masking as a christian in his words, not deeds and who secretly wants your death. If he repents, things can change.
Please also see Jonathan Kleck You Are Exiles on RU-vid. The original Scriptures translated by linguists, not churchers/powers that be, will blow your mind.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
@thebrazentruth what a wonderful blessing God has brought you in your life. You’re description of interpreting the scripture is eloquently said and spot on. It’s too bad @SetApartOne is a legalistic taking some scripture out of context. God bless!
Thank you Mike. I am divorced and remarried and have struggled every step of the way. I am so blessed to have "stumbled" onto this video. I have never heard anyone go into such depth. Thank you so very much!
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
@@setapartone9311 Jesus also continually forgives us of sin the rest of our lives, til we get to Heaven, once we are safe. We do not stop sinning til we get to Heaven, when we will be made perfect. Yet, are we considered sinful til that time?? No. We are considered "Justified and made righteous by His blood". His blood continually covers us. By the same token, if one commits the sin of adultery, and asks for forgiveness for that sin, Jesus forgives them. Do we sin the rest of our lives anyway in other areas? And every day have to ask Him to forgive us?? YES!! So why is this sin of adultery/remarriage any different? If it's a continuous state? He says our sins are cast into the "Sea of forgetfulness". That would make us pure and holy by His Blood. So if you use that reasoning of "continuous action" /adultery, we are in a continuous state of sinning anyway til we get to Heaven....Yet we are JUSTIFIED by His blood. His blood is stronger than the one sin of divorce. Yes it is sin in some cases. And He forgives it if we ask. And He casts it into His sea of forgetfulness. As He does all our sins. We are justified by His blood over the sin of divorce, just as any and every other sin we commit every day when we confess and repent. ☦️☦️☦️🛐
This is like a doctoral thesis, but it's a 3 hour RU-vid video. In seriousness, I really appreciate this video. It was a long watch, but well worth it. I will definitely use this in the future to inform and debate others on this topic. Thank you.
3 hr video endorsing remarriage by expanding and assuming "new exceptions" when it says in multiple passages it is strictly prohibited. Why didn't Paul explicitly say remarriage is allowed after divorce then? Short answer: You won't find it anywhere. Stop following false teachers and follow God who will lead you into all truth while you study for yourself.
Odd the hostility in many comments. This man doesn't expect you to take his world. He lists all of the resources he used, and he covers the common interpretations of each point, and the history surrounding much of it. Only then does he give his own belief. He stresses at the beginning that exceptions are few and far between and they are NOT the ideal. It almost seems that many commentors feel threatened in their own beliefs, rather than in what the Bible might actually say.
Thank you for this Brother Mike. I had to leave a truly abusive marriage 14 years ago and have always had a burden about it because of a lack of clarity on the scripture.Most Bible teachers only teach from one scripture regarding this subject. I am grateful that this is such a long repleat teaching, because now Ihavea full understanding of the subject. I can never thank you enough. May God bless you, your family, and your ministry.
MY GOD!! Do you mean to tell me that you needed someone to quote some verses in the bible to help you understand what God would have you do or not with respect to an abusive marriage???? Good God woman/man! Get to know God for yourself please and stop depending on the studying and understanding of somebody to enlighten you on matters you should know INSTINCTIVELY because God's spirit is in you to let you know what the truth of a matter is. GHEEZ!
@@aliciamcdonald7105 *YOU DO REALIZE that THAT IS EXACTLY what some people NEED and OUR Father meets us where we are? You do know that do you not? If you had children you’d understand. “GHEEZ” 🙄*
So scripture is not clear enough so you need someone to tell you what you want to hear, Scripture says all divorce and remarriage is always adultery! 1 Cor 7:10-11, Romans 7:2-3, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Matt 19:9, 5:32.
@@IamHzwyfee OH PLEASE! What this person is showing is an OVER RELIANCE on HUMAN understanding and they don't NEED THAT. Abraham had NO BIBLE or SCRIPTURE to read to KNOW that it was NOT IN GOD's NATURE to destroy the righteous with the wicked. He knew that because he had a relationship with GOD. That is what this person and EVERY professing child of God NEEDS. It is because many 'church goers' are depending on FLESH to feed them is why Christendom is in the HOT MESS it is in so much so that it have more 'Christian denominations' than it have religions.
I really appreciate everything you have done, I have watched all your videos including Roman's verse by verse twice. You have been a huge help in my walk with God. I came to christ about 3 to 4 years ago and have found no one that teaches quite like you. I have told my wife that we need to move to California so we can attend your church lol. Just want you to know how much your ministry means to me, I'll continue to thank God that he picked such an intelligent, and honest person to do this ministry. God Bless
This is the greatest study on this subject I have ever seen. Well done Sir. I went five years thinking I could never get remarried. Through my own study some years ago I realized I was in error. This study will help me explain to others God's position on this. Thank you
@************************************ Thanks for telling the biblical truth. I don’t believe one has to endure an abusive marriage though, separate but do not divorce and remarry for reasons given above. The Lord Jesus will help you through, He will never leave or forsake you. (I speak from experience husband committing adultery and leaving).
@************************************ Ah yes, because your salvation hinges on your view of marriage and divorce lmao. Not like it’s by grace apart from works or anything!
(TRUE STORY) A few days ago i woke up in tears and unable to function as i normally do. All i felt was, darkness, sadness and pain. My wife have been pressuring me for months that she wanted a "open marriage" i finally gave in. As I was grapped in tears praying to god and asking him why is this happening me, 20 mins later a very suttle voice wispered to me and said "I will destroy the house that you have built, because it was built on deception and lies, but i will build you a new house, where i l will be it's foundation.". AMEN 🙏 thank you Jesus all honor a praise to you.
Thank you for being so beautifully transparent. God will walk you through every step of the way. Lean not on your own understanding, he's with you. The scripture says that if the Lord does not build it then the builders build it in vain. Some people have a hard time believing that God will destroy something such as a marriage where it's foundation is not clean before the lord. I know of situations where indeed the Lord stepped in and severed the union. Such unions do not glorify his name. But as he said he will be the foundation of the next house he will build. Let the Lord expound to you more. I'm excited for what he's going to be doing in your life. Continue to pray in Jesus name
@@carolynwelsch he should absolutely never do that. If his wife chooses to divorce him over this then that is her choice. If she does actually cheat then he can divorce her.
I really appreciate this. I have gone back and forth on this between standing firm to wondering was I wrong. I divorced my cheating wife (multiple) whom was not acting right; have had our kids full time and can honestly say I didn’t want the divorce and tried everything I could to not “make me” continue through the divorce. It’s been rough but I take it day by day
My father's first wife cheated on him and left him (they were not Christians). When my father became a Christian, he was treated like a "second class Christian" by many elders because he had divorced. Like he couldn't really serve in the church for a long time, I even wonder if some were asking him not to take the communion... It brought a lot of suffering to him. This kind of teaching is really a blessing to discuss and understand such topic. I learnt much more than about marriage and divorce in this video. This concept of "exceptions" shows a very pragmatic and loving side of our God. We shouldn't use it to sin, but it also frees us from an emotional or legalistic prison. As Christians we should also stand up for many people who are legitimately divorced and are wrongfully treated in the church. Especially in our time, they are many.
2 Cor 5:17 - If anyone is in Christ, he is a NEW CREATION.. OLD THINGS HAVE PASSED AWAY.. (the past sins are wiped out) behold, the New has come! (the life of the old man isn't supposed to be counted against the one that's become a new creation in the new life - this is not just my opinion but what plenty of pastors hold to)
Feel for your father. I was treated like a sinner being divorced before I became a beliver. If I had a pastor like Mike I would be strong enough to go to church but thankfully I can at least follow his and others who are genuine christians and pray God lead me to a true christian fellowship. God be with you.
Thank you, Mike! I live in an atheistic country where there is "no-wait" divorce. Couples can walk into the city office and get a divorce on the spot. Your teaching will help my wife and I minister to couples who are going through difficult times, to share with them the love of Christ.
@Andrew Tham if you are teaching others according to what you've been hearing in this video then you will be leading others astray. Jesus is clear that those who divorce their one-flesh covenant spouse, and marry another, commit adultery.
Although Mike is not for easy divorces, he misses the whole point and gives unsound cases for outs and dooes not understand what Jesus himself says and gives pre-k arguments in what Jesus said to try to prove his flawed interpretation.
Malachi 2:15-16 Malachi 2:15-16 KJV And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. Mike doesn't know God if he believes in trinity. Get off RU-vid seek God In his word king James bible.
Hi Mike, I just recently found your channel. I have been separated / divorced for over a decade, and all this time been asking every question you addressed. I’ve heard all the opinions out there. I studied Scripture (I don’t consider myself a scholar). I looked into original language and context. I’ve asked many people I respected on the topic. But was no closer to answers after years of searching. Your video is an answer to prayer! I stood for my marriage long after I should have based on some teachings I’ve heard and have been afraid to even consider remarriage, though I acknowledge the divorce, for fear of displeasing the Lord. Now that worry is gone! I finally have thorough, well thought out, researched, and meaningful answers. I am truly grateful you took the time to do so much research and to make this video! No longer bound! I too watched from start to finish. No apologies needed, this is far shorter than ten years!!!
I'm not even married (though I am praying for my future spouse) but everything Mike covers is amazing. Your brain and your heart for Jesus, love the dedication you put into your ministry, equipping us to think biblically about everything.
I've been following you for a while now. I started with your study on wives submitting to their husbands and what that looks like. Sadly, I'm currently going through a separation likely to end in divorce. I just wanted to let you know that your teachings have been a comfort and have always been clear and straightforward. I'm thankful for what God has done in your life because it has surely impacted mine. All the best, Rachel
WOW Mike, this is the third time I am going through this (this time with my family) and I appreciate so much how thorough you were. I pray that God blesses you abundantly for the care and attention you put into studying and teaching His word, and sharing these lessons freely for all of us. I pray God helps your ministry grow and supports your family in the ways that they need so that you can continue being a worker for His kingdom. Thank you again for the 7000 (lol the hours kept extending haha) that you put into this. God bless you!!
I am going through a divorce right now due to my pornography addiction. I am desperate to be changed and restore my marriage, but that isn’t possible until after the divorce. I am being changed, but it will take time for her to heal. Please pray that we can be re-united.
@@Picca65 thank you. I also recently found out that she had an affair a few years ago. On the plus, she only told me because of the change she was seeing in me and felt I deserve to know. We’re trying to work through it all, and save our marriage.
I just found out about my husband’s 20 year porn/fantasy/masterbation addiction this past year....does Mike Winger discuss this in any depth? I’m 1.5 hours in and in defining adultery he really didn’t touch on this. The hardest part of this was the gas-lighting, lying, silent treatment and leaving our marriage sexless for the most part. Also I would see him desiring other women. He has repented, taken and passed a lie detector test, is seeing two counselors, joined a Bible Fellowship, disclosed to his men’s group.... But I just don’t feel the same about him. I don’t trust him. He is the father of my children, a brother in Christ and I am happy he has changed...but I do not want intimacy anymore...for 20 years I desired him, sought counseling etc...he waited to tell me the truth until I completely emotionally had left...it was too painful to care and want him anymore. We are friends, but that’s it. I just can’t go back...marriage to him represents lies, pain and loneliness to me. I pray you and your wife can regain your marriage. It’s hard.
Please be careful, Ryan. Pray and seek God's will on your reconciliation with your wife. Submit to the Lord completely. Be willing to hear and obey if the answer is "no."
Thank you for all your hard work on this topic. Your video has helped me with forgiving my former church, which damaged my relationship with God for a season. I forgave the unrepentant adulter. Now it's time to forgive the church.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
Thank you so much for this study, it will help so many people. My mother was severely abused by my father, one instance actually led to my sister becoming stillborn. So many times though, many Christian counselors told her she needed to be a good Christian wife and stay with him. She finally had enough and decided to take my siblings and I out of that situation. Till this day though my father has refused to admit that he was in the wrong, and has said that he did it because it was his right and that he was doing it for her. So thank you Pastor Mike, you are a blessing to all Christians that love to study the scriptures in depth. God bless you.
Serena Jacobs abuse is never a biblical grounds for divorce, but she could of separated and lived in a different house, which is the thing to do with a physically abusive spouse....also there are authorities that throw these dudes in jail for physically abusing their spouses and/or children. Divorce, however is not God's will.
@@gustavusadolphus4344 God divorced Israel only to take her up again as His wife, to expose the severity of the sin and highlight God's everlasting commitment to His people, despite the temporary separation as a result of sins.
Just wanted to say thank you Mike, for all the effort you put into this. I'm revisiting this now because I was served with divorce papers a few weeks ago. My wife has confessed to multiple acts of infidelity with multiple men over the last 4 years, and she says she's just done. You really help me to have the proper perspective on things
Respects for admitting when you're confused about something. It gives a good reason for self study and make sure wrong info with good intentions doesn't get spread. With that said, this is definitely going to be a marathon. Honestly I will most likely watch in parts
Extremely well done! Wow. I just went through the last 11 months of being married, neglected then abandoned and all my questions were answered. I had to watch the whole thing to have all my.questions answered, but praise the Lord, this video blessed me! Thank you for your time and effort in this. Seriously well needed for my clarity and understanding of what just happened.
Malachi 2:15-16 Malachi 2:15-16 KJV And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
This is the first video of yours I’ve ever watched. Thank you so much for dedicating your time and hard work on such an important issue. You’ve presented it in such a elegant and studious way. Divorce has devastated my life the past three years and I was beginning to lose hope. Even the church and many believers met me with resistance as I continue to stand for my family and marriage. I did my own study when I first entered this season and found the same principles just not as in depth. It’s felt like the whole world has been set against me and I started feeling crazy. Thank you for reassuring what God has spoken to me through his Word.
I do have one question and maybe this can help me with my journey or identify some beliefs I have that are misguided by my heart. I was living in sin. I was a believer running from God and had a child out of wedlock. We planned to get married but that was ended by and affair where she left for a married man and has since left him and is about to marry another divorced man. Neither of us have been married. This is the only child both of us have. My question is where should a believer stand that has had a child out of wedlock? Should they or are they justified to stand for reconciliation of the family and marriage? Or am I off base to want restoration for my family?
I do know that after having divorced and remarriage I felt a lot of guilt thinking maybe I did the wrong thing being that it might not be Biblical. I wrestled with this for quite some time. Feeling almost sick with worry. I prayeto God telling him that I know I've repented but I can't get the guilt to subside. Then one Saturday I was reading my Bible and came on the passage where Jesus tells a man, "your sins are forgiven". This stopped me because I had just been praying on that and didn't intentionally look for that story. I asked God if He was trying to tell me something. I thought for a second but then went on with my reading. THE VERY NEXT MORNING, I'm following along with my pastor as he preaches his service and we were in another gospel but there those red words came up again, "your sins are forgiven". He wasn't even preaching on that subject but those words were in the scripture he was preaching from. This time I just about heard it in my inner ear if that makes sense. Now anytime I start thinking on past sins from my fallen state I almost hear those words again and a peace comes over me. I don't often say that I heard from God but I think it's safe to say I did those two days...through reading his word. I feel very confident now that my marriage now is blessed. I had a pretty bad health scare 2 years ago where I thought my life was all down hill from there. But with prayer and repentance I was healed. Not only that but now, at the age of 39 God has granted us a pregnancy. I am almost 6 months along and have had numerous tests to ensure baby is healthy. She is perfectly healthy as far as docs can tell. We even prayed for a girl seeing as my husband and I both have all boys from his previous marriage and mine. God has given me a second chance to experience being a mom with a supportive husband who wants me at home with the baby. After years of single parenting struggling, there is no where else I'd like to be but at home, under the protection of a loving husband, and able to love my baby full time. God is so good. People can tell me day in and day out that I am an adulter but I know God is still with me. If I could tell the whole testimony of my health struggle here I would but it would be a novel. The convictions He still lays on my heart, the miracles I see in my health, finances, and marriage, and the answered prayers that were never spoken out loud....I just see Him all through my life. Some say I should leave my current husband because stay is to not be repentant of adultery. To do so though would mean breaking another commitment and it would mean causing great harm to my child also. That feels very wrong. I am sure someone is going to comment and tell me how I'm still sinning...go ahead and speak, but God is with me. He accepts me no matter if the occasional human doesn't. Thank God for the fact that He ultimately judges me, not man.
Your testimony sounds like the Jesus that I know. "Your sins are forgiven." King James Bible, I Corinthians 7:20 "Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called."
Grace 💖 Forgiveness For judgment will be merciless to one who has shown no mercy; but [to the one who has shown mercy] mercy triumphs [victoriously] over judgment. James 2:13 .... For whoever keeps the whole Law but stumbles in one point, he has become guilty of [breaking] all of it. James 2:10 ...... He will again have compassion on us; he will tread our iniquities underfoot. You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea Micha 7:19 People seem to forget scripture like these. We all need the mercy and forgiveness of God. Even the people who have never been divorced need it just as much as the people who have been divorced. No one is exempt. The blood of Jesus is sufficient
The Lord is merciful. Your testimony is heartfelt and convincing. Keep in mind that there are those that want to break up marriages with children, to reunite spouses from former marriages after the breakups of the marriages that they want to break up. This is an abomination unto God, to break up marriages to attempt to reunite partners of former marriages. An abomination is something that God hates before the law, under the Mosaic law, and under the New Covenant under the headship of Christ, because Hebrews 13:8 says "Jesus Christ the same, yesterday, today and forever." How do we know that such is an abomination? A careful reading of Deuteronomy 24:1 through 4 explains this: Verse 1 says: "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. 3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; 4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance."
@@oliochele Keep in mind that there are those that want to break up marriages with children, to reunite spouses from former marriages after the breakups of the marriages that they want to break up. This is an abomination unto God, to break up marriages to attempt to reunite partners of former marriages. An abomination is something that God hates before the law, under the Mosaic law, and under the New Covenant under the headship of Christ, because Hebrews 13:8 says "Jesus Christ the same, yesterday, today and forever." How do we know that such is an abomination? A careful reading of Deuteronomy 24:1 through 4 explains this: Verse 1 says: "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. 3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; 4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance."
I can’t thank you enough for This thorough and clear teaching on such a controversial subject. Divorced after 10 1/2 years of an emotionally abusive marriage that was becoming more and more physical and getting scary. He absolutely refused the idea of any type of counseling and wouldn’t allow me to go either. It got so I didn’t feel safe there anymore. We got a divorce. When I remarried I took a lot of persecution from church folks for it. Some even told me I was not saved. My second husband of 29 years passed away in 2020. Now again I have so many people telling me different things. My first husband is still living and divorced from his third wife. Many have said I need to stay single or try to reunite with my first husband. I honestly don’t feel like I could live with him again unless some miracle happened because of how badly I was treated for almost 11 years. The trust just isn’t there. I never was a leader. I’m a great helper- support person. So I feel I’m not well equipped to better serve the Lord single. But somewhat fearing remarriage because I have experienced so many fake people in the church. This teaching has helped me better understand things. I will follow the Lord’s leading and take things slowly. Thanks again for all the time & effort you put into this much needed teaching. May God bless.
There will always be those in the church who though well-meaning will be persecuting you on this subject. We each have to allow our thoughts to be informed by God's word, not just the explicit parts but the whole, which encompasses his love and mercy. Did he not come to seek and save that which has been lost? Are we not saved by grace through faith, it is a work of God lest anyone should boast? Find your own conviction through the study of and surrender to God's word and the power of the Holy Spirit will convict your spirit of sin and of righteousness -- and then having done everything to stand, Stand!
Malachi 2:15-16 Malachi 2:15-16 KJV And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
Fell asleep listening to one of your other videos with an ear bud and this one automatically played after that one was over. It was very interesting how my dreams were influenced by this! Lol my dreams went through many different scenes, but in every scene, there was Mike Winger having a conversation with me about divorce and remarriage. I can remember a lot about my dream (including a lot of what Mike said), but it's going to be interesting to go back and listen to this video while I'm awake to see if different moments trigger memories of my dream.
Mike causes me not to sleep worrying about his well being and his audiences driving off the cliff if they take his advice on remarriage. It reminds me of the scripture of someone falling down and the person helping them falling down with them.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
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Thank You Mike, I'm recently 2 months divorced. Wife decided to have other relations with men to divorced me. Both believers so I thought I was bound to singleness till she died but treating the situation as her being the unbeliever has gave me new insight. I was grieved in my spirit cause I want love, a wife who prays, and has understanding what a godly relationship is about. I don't want to be alone. I fought for my marriage cause God prefers to not have divorce but the break down and history of the word you provided build a confidence to move forward with no guilt. I just prayed this morning for understanding. Saw 3hrs and said Let's Go!! I've spent way more hours feeling bad, guilty and anxiety and I'm feeling free of it after watching this video. Thank you Thank you. Now praying for my future wife seems relevant.
I would definitely say yes. #1: Masturbation typically involves having lustful thoughts which Jesus defined as adultery of the heart. #2: If you can masturbate without having lustful thoughts or those lustful thoughts are of your spouse, I'd still say it's a sinful thing because you are falling to the carnal and sexual desires of the flesh, and it can easily become an addiction. If you are struggling with this sin I would put your full trust and faith in Jesus and I promise that He can instantly remove those desires from your mind. I struggled with that for a long time and when I was born again I completely lost all fleshly desire to do that sin.
Check out John Piper's sermon on this issue, posted on RU-vid. He supports the view that masturbation is a misuse of the body, the temple of the Holy Spirit, for the believer. He says it equates to not surrendering a lust to the will of God. He clarifies whether it's alright within marriage too.
It definitely is if your thoughts are on someone other than your spouse. If it's part of something you're doing together in your bed, then probably not. My hubby and I sometimes watch each other...a little build up, if you will.
According to this teaching, it is! and now every wife in America has biblical grounds to divorce and remarry!! Do you really think that's what Jesus was saying?? I don't think so.
Speaking from experience- life is just better when you don’t masturbate. Spiritually speaking, we may not be thinking lustful thoughts while masturbating but the sensual nature of the practice affects our subconscious and, I believe, influences us in negative ways. Physiologically, there are many benefits of semen retention. There’s a whole internet-based movement called NoFap. It’s full of testimonials of how people who quit masturbating for extended periods of time have been much better for it.
Greetings from a fellow Swiss! And thanks to Mike for these countless hours of life enriching content! Wow, I've been waiting for this topic to be handled and now... 3 hours? :D I will find time for it soon anyway as it is really such an important topic. Thanks Mike!
read the comments and see if you have found a good teacher....also a book by David Pawson....Once Saved, Always Saved? challenges the very foundation of this denomination....take your time to study this issue...as it is very important to our spiritual life....
Hi! Mike is a great teacher and is so helpful on so many areas. Unfortunately, his personal biases (his parents are remarried) and insufficient study on the subject come through on the video. By allowing for consecutive polygamy (having more than one wife alive at the same time), by divorce and remarriage Mile is going right against the teaching of Jesus that marriage is for life. The Lord taught us that “exceptions” for porneia refer to pre-marital engagement, and belong to Matthew’s context, that is, a Jewish context in the first century. Scripture carefully distinguishes the use of the word porneia to describe pre-marital promiscuity, and the challenges poses by Mike about this word being also used to define other sexual sins such as incest and homosexuality are not faithful to the meaning in the original Greek. There is a rebuttal on this video by Julie Stevenson; check it out, and also check out David Pawson’s ministry for a comprehensive teaching on this subject.
God Bless you Mike for telling the whole truth from the Bible about divorce and remarriage. I went through a loveless 13 year marriage with an unbeliever who used several deceptions to coax me into marrying her. She told me she was a high school graduate while we were dating. She was not. I would not have married her had I known the truth. I told her I wanted children and ask her how she felt about having children. She said "I will do my part." Not exactly a ringing endorsement but I thought may she was just not articulate enough to express her joy at having children. I found out much later that my reading of her lack of enthusiasm for having children was correct but that wasn't all. She deceived me by not telling me she had her tubes tied. Moreover, she openly lied to me three years into our marriage after her son told me she had her tubes tied. I would not have married her had I known she had her tubes tied. Then there was the matter about her lying to me why she divorced her first two husbands. She knew I would not marry someone who was not scriptural divorced so she concocted stories about her two previous husbands being unfaithful. Half way through our marriage, I found out her stories were lies. I was absolutely dumbfounded any person could lie and deceive a person she would marry but I had abundant evidence of her deception. I would not have married her had I known she was not scripturally divorced. Any person reading this can easily think and would be right - just how dumb and gullible can he be with all of these issues, not reading the warning signs and going ahead with the marriage? You would be right - I turned a blind eye to signs that this woman had serious issues and was using deception to get me to marry her. But I married her and tried to make the marriage work even after I found out her deceptions little by little. She eventually filed for divorce. During the depositions, she essentially admitted her lies. We were divorced. I was very generous to her even though she didn't bring anything into our marriage and had no job the entire time we were married. When we were first married, I paid off her considerable debts, I treated her sons as my own, I paid for both her sons' educations as well as hers and supported them with a great life style they had not enjoyed before our marriage. What did I get? Pain, heartache and knowing I was living with a lying spouse. One of my proudest and God given accomplishments is that I feel no animosity to her. She was in deep trouble financially and she saw a naïve and gullible person to latch onto to help raise her sons and to support all of them. I actually understand her desperation. During and after our marriage I was devastated. I never thought my name would be in the same sentence as "divorce." Moreover, the church into which I was baptized is stern about divorce and remarriage and does not allow it except for the cause of adultery. Many members of my church have stayed unmarried for their lives although their spouses cheated on them, abused them physically and mentally, abandoned them or otherwise acted as unbelievers or were unbelievers. After considerable study of scripture, I came to almost the same conclusions as Mike especially in regards to 1 Corinthians 7:15 "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." Those in my church see that passage and say that this passage does not over rule what Jesus said therefore 1 Corinthians 7:15 gives no special dispensation to those divorced under those circumstances and only what Jesus said holds to be true about divorce and remarriage. I am well educated but am not a biblical scholar. However, even though I am not a biblical scholar, my plain reading of the 1 Corinthians 7:15 seemed to be at odds with their harsh interpretation of divorce and remarriage. I remember asking myself "why would Paul say anything at all that was in addition to what Jesus said unless it was in accordance with Jesus' thought. It would seem to me Paul would have violated all of the power given him if he said something contrary to our Lord and Savior. Then I thought how can a brother or sister not be "under bondage" if they were not permitted to remarry and how could they be at "peace" if they were still bound and could not remarry. What kind of "not under bondage" and "peace" can that be? I came to the conclusion after much study and prayer that Paul was either way out of line in saying what he said or that he had the authority to legislate on the many things that Jesus didn't have the time to legislate on during his brief life on this earth. I still have pangs of guilt from time to time about this issue now that I am remarried but, in those moments, I harken to Paul calling me to "peace." I pray for any others caught in the situation covered by 1 Corinthians 7:15 and pray God will give them "peace."
There would be nothing sinful about harboring animosity towards her. It's good that you don't, but it's not sinful if you do. We aren't required to heal relationships with the unrepentant, only offer reconciliation and then heal hard feelings if they accept reconciliation. Even so, if you can manage it without, that's good for your peace of mind. I myself cannot and have not yet with my soon to be ex. Maybe in time, but I'm in no hurry to, nor do I have any interest in it. I'm done chasing unrepentant people and extending unending grace with people actively harming me. If they want it from me, they must stop harming me first.
In Luke 16:18, Jesus says: “the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Seems like you’re ready to judge your ex-wife for her sin but aren’t ready to repent of your own. In those 13 years you were married to this woman, she might have reconciled with her ex-husband if not for the fact that she had another man willing to pay her bills (you). And if she had reconciled with her ex-husband, her children would have gotten to have their father around instead of some random guy (you). But the church told you it was ok, so you’re not culpable… right?
@@brettske178 he's not culpable at all. He was lied to and believed she was properly divorced when she wasn't. It's not a sin to do what you believe to be a state of affairs God approves of but then find out the state of affairs isn't reality.
@@vedinthornyou claim he “believed she was properly divorced,” but I’m saying that’s a distinction without a difference. She was divorced, yes. Jesus’ teaching in Luke 16:18 is clear: don’t marry divorced women. He’s culpable for marrying a divorced woman and for putting his wants over the wants of those children (who likely would have wanted their parents to reconcile). Edit: ALSO, are you really arguing that ignorance of God’s law makes one incapable of violating the same? If that were true, people would be advised to NOT read the Bible, lest they become more knowledgeable of God’s law and, thereby, more capable of committing sin.
Thank you for you kind teachings. Don't worry about people abusing your teaching, as you said, it's on them. People have been abusing the scripture for centuries. Can't stop them.
I have stayed in my abusive marriage for 33 years because that is what I believed God wanted, according to the Bible. The abuse is subtle, so much so that at times, I wasn't even sure it was abuse. He was never physical. He did yell, raise his voice, stomp, throw things, etc. Then out of the blue, he would be loving again as though nothing had happened. At first, there was much more good than bad. This got worse slowly over time. Recently, I began researching narcissism, because his mother moved in and began wreaking havoc, and his behavior became far worse. What I learned was very eye-opening, but also confusing, because while they both have some obvious narcissistic traits, they don't fit the usual picture. Then I learned about something called Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissism and wow, were my eyes opened! So much suddenly made sense, and it became so obvious to me that I had indeed been in an abusive marriage and an abusive relationship with his mother, all this time. This is one of the most destructive relationship dynamics, because it is so covert, so hidden. Often the victim is the only one who can see it. If you find yourself in this situation, or it sounds familiar, please check out the book The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist by Debbie Mirza. I truly believe God led me to this book in order to show me the truth about my marriage. In these situations, the marriage covenant has been broken by the narc person, as they pretend to be someone they are not right from the start. Another excellent book is In Sheep's Clothing by George K. Simon. If any if this rings true for you, please educate yourself on this insidious form of abuse. May the Lord bless and keep you.
Mazzy Collins Jesus said what God has joined together let no man separate.....abuse is never a biblical reason to divorce, you can live in separate places if there is real physical abuse, but divorce is a no, no. Also, overcome evil with good, and it doesn't sound like that is what you're doing....pray for your husband daily, do him good, that's how you overcome evil, not with you taking matters into your own sinful hands and listening to pagan books about what the Bible is so clear on. Is it a surprise to you that your husband is a sinner? It shouldn't be, we all are sinners and the only hope of overcoming the sin in us is Jesus Christ.
You Are Not Alone. I am a man and I have been with my wife for 33 years, solely devoted to her never cheated, never strayed the last 15 years of my marriage was brutal, it became sexless and very very abusive a little bit physical but more mental emotional and spiritual. I had no idea what was going on I was extremely confused frustrated and felt trapped. Because I adamantly did not believe in divorce at all ever. I did not know what to do. I was in so much pain and confusion that led me down a dark path of abusing alcohol which was not who I was. That of course only cause things to spiral legally and then I was to blame for everything as I had been for years, I finally was so broken I sought out a Christian counselor which was a female. After a few sessions and upon my request she called and spoke with my wife she told me she did not know how I had made it this long she informed me that my wife was a covert narcissist. Once I started researching this the light bulbs all started coming on and all the pieces of the puzzle came in place, things continued to get worse we separated she basically kicked me out of my own home took my keys filed a phony restraining order against me after she physically abused me also filed for sole occupancy of the property I couldn't even go to my own home was mainly abusing me in more ways than I could ever explain. It finally broke me to the point that I had to violate everything that I believe and I filed for divorce but I truly feel like that God showed me what was going on in my marriage and I actually felt released to do so. It was still the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. That includes losing my father to suicide and my mother that I love more than anything to a very long illness. I don't hate my wife and still pray for her. I'm in the last stages of divorce after 3 years she's fought me on everything I guess I was supposed to walk away with nothing and she turned on me literally like the devil in court, we never even had children but I was made out to be the worst piece of crap you could ever imagine and of course being a covert now she plays the victim and I'm just the bad guy, she's literally turned all of our mutual friends against me and I will say I did not help my situation with the drinking but I was in so much pain I didn't know what else to do. My divorce should be done within the next month or so finally but by the grace of God and his word I am still here, my head is clear. I have peace that I have not had in many many years. People are too quick to judge people that get divorced and I know a lot of people getting divorced at the drop of a hat but if you to held a gun to my head a couple of years ago there is no way in this world that I would have ever thought that I would have had to file for divorce but I had no choice and after doing a lot of research with videos like this and others I am convinced that divorce is Justified Beyond just sexual sin. I now believe any breaking of the marriage covenant is grounds for divorce and I don't say that lightly. All forms of abuse physical or mental and in my case it was both but the mental was excruciating I thank God he has brought me through.
@@TheHillrat4wd Thank you for sharing your story. It was painful to read so I can't imagine the pain you have been through living out this nightmare. In my opinion, narcissists are either demon possessed, reprobates or both. I have first hand experience with one myself (also a covert). Prayers for you that your heart is mended and that God sends you a kind and loving soul mate.
@@christianmama2441the Bible is pretty clear that 1 John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Romans 4:14 “For if they which are of the law be heirs, faith is made void, and the promise made of none effect
@@TheHillrat4wd Jesus said to pick up your cross and follow Him, He never said cast it aside because you're suffering horribly. I absolutely think you did not have Biblical grounds to divorce. Narcissism is not a reason for divorce. Also, did you read where Jesus says, if someone wants your shirt give them your coat too? Why would you even resist your evil wife in divorce court, you're to renounce all things, don't resist evil ones. It doesn't sound like you obey Jesus, just justifying evil doing. Please don't give me excuses she is narcissistic, I know exactly how that is, my spouse was terribly abusive too with much more serious issues than what you describe. Go back to the sermon on the mount and actually LISTEN to what Jesus says and stop feeling sorry for yourself, time to repent. Matthew 5: 38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic,[h] let him have your cloak as well. 41 And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. 42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you." You're to overcome evil with good, never ever are you given permission to fight for THINGS in court with someone else....Take the loss in Jesus's name and pray for your enemies, don't demand your rights in court. Listen to Jesus, not to the wisdom of this world.
I appreciate you thoroughly covering thie subject. The body of Christ still tends to punish the divorced. I was in an abusive situation where my husband was a very convincing liar, refusing to own any of his behavior. He did everything he could to drive me out. When the Lord gave me a place to go, I left. He needed psychiatric help and refused to even consider it. I got 0 support from mu church or pastor. I was no longer aloud to be the church pianist. I think that if he really thought I was walking in sin, he should have put me out. I would rather he had. Meanwhile, my husband completely avoided church and had for a long time. I eventually met a wonderful man who was the victim of infidelity. We are in our 30th year. I hope that others find hope in this teaching. People used to tell me, "God hates divorce." I finally said one day, "Well, I'm not so crazy about it myself."
Thank you for making this video, it’s been recommended by my cousin whom I consider a brother. I am sadly going through a divorce because of physical abuse. I’ve only read the parts in the Bible where it says that if a women is divorced... she cannot married. That made me very upset and depressed because I thought that now I will probably be that old cat lady. But I never thought of those other bible verses that you mentioned. Thank you again 🙏🏼 it helped me and gave me hope 🙏🏼
the exception is.....porneia....there is no provision, for physical abuse....I would be very careful of a remarriage, when the Bible calls that adultery....
Hey, in Jesus name, feel free to remarry after the divorce, doesn't matter the reason! Look, all this complication about divorce and remarriage was made by pharisees and much more aggravated by the catholic church during the dark age, with a lot of distortions and misinterpretation on NT texts; this wrong doctrination from Catholicism is very rooted in the mind of most of people today, Catholics and no Catholics, believers and no believers. Feel free to marry again in Jesus name!
If you follow this legalism you will be depressed for the rest of your life. If your husband has sex with another woman at some point in the future, how is that not grounds to get remarried? Do you think he will be faithful unto death?
@Olïva PAINTINGS Yes. Once saved always saved is a lie from the pit of hell but once married always married is not, even if the spouse broke the covenant.
Thank you Mike, this has helped me a lot. My wife has been concerned with how Christians might be abusing the Biblical teaching on divorce and remarriage. I'll have to do my own study on this topic as well. I'll use some of your points as starting points of course. Again thank you Mike for your time and dedication to this topic. You are an example of someone who digs deep into the word and are building your faith by trusting God.
Thank you very much for your hard work. My first husband was adulterous but he wouldn’t file for divorce and I was so against divorce it took me a while before I finally filed. After much talking and therapy I filed for divorce based on adultery. Unfortunately Ohio said that was no longer allowed to be used. Thank you for clarifying that my second marriage isn’t considered adultery. I’ve been blessed this time with a Godly husband for 30 years now. Thank you for peace of mind.
Just because the state doesn't agree with the word doesn't mean you can't file for irreconcilable differences and still be truthful. The reason is the hardness of your heart, and divorce is a concession to those who grow hardened towards a partner like yours, it's sometimes better to divorce then to have unforgiveness or bitterness. God bless, im glad you have a man who at least tries to be a Godly husband.
Thank you brother. This has been weighing on my mind and I have been praying to God about what I should do through his word. And your video popped first in my feed today. Needless to say, I was raised in the church, separated from God over the past 20 years and made myself right with him. I’ve been married twice before and both times they committed adultery. They were not holy relationships. My third and current wife is a great woman. She recently left me and moved to TN with her family from CO. She is not an adulterer and has a general belief in God but very liberal. Believes in abortion, questions the Bible, etc. which I do not. I will use the Bible’s testimony in hopes to reconcile and see if she can become a believer before I give up. Going on almost a year since she left me but I want to make it work. Pray for me please. I thank God for taking me back and making me whole again.
2 Questions: - What was the biggest change in your thinking on this issue that came about as a result of your study? (And what specifically convinced you of it) - Regarding Paul's use of "I, not the Lord" (and vice versa) in 1 Corinthians 7, most of what Paul wrote wasn't based on direct quotes/teachings of Jesus from the Gospels, so why does he specify in this case? I don't disagree with your conclusion, but I'm just confused as to why Paul chose to speak in that way in this particular instance, as well as what specific clues in the text lead us to the understand the "Not I, the Lord" phrasing in the way that we do.
Paul probably didn't have a direct word (logion) from Jesus on the matter. He directly quotes Jesus a few times, but he didn't have such a quotation about this topic so he wisely made it clear that HE was speaking.
Mike, you did a great job of studying & presenting an important topic! Thanks! Now, WE all need to do like the Bereans and study it out for ourselves 🙏🏻✝️
Mike....wow....you put so much time, effort and research into this and you gave it to us for FREE. 😊 Thank you for your generosity in doing so. This was helpful.
This is soo strong. The world needs to hear this. God is going to judge all of the people encouraging divorce. People need to stop and remember "the road to life is narrow, and few find it, the road to death is wide." So many people think they get to stand before God and justfy their actins. And, that's just the opposite of what God says... we stand before Him "without excuse."
Well, I'm glad I found this video. I have had issues with my wife and I was scared about divorce. And I was trying to make it work because I didn't want to disobey the biblical teaching. But what you said gave me a peace about the situation. No matter what happens, I have a peace about it. Thanks, Pastor Mike.
Thanks so much for this clear teaching, Mike! My friend has been struggling with this issue after her husband abandoned her and their children. And now I can comfort her with your Biblical teaching! I think most people struggling with this issue are not looking for an "out". They want to please God and feel quilty because so many Christians tells them that God expects them to stay in those terrible situations, and they are never to remarry. I really appreciate all your hard work!!
Hey Mike! This video was super helpful and I appreciate all the research that you do. Is there any chance you could do a video like this on the head coverings mentioned in I Cor 11?
Only 30mins in and as a Christian who divorced 2 yrs ago (my choice), i can here the love and grace! In my situation there was abuse of all kinds of levels, as well as infidelity. The disheartening part was how church leaders made his infidelity a couple issue and not a personal issue. That caused so much harm! And leaders not showing compassion to the claims of abuse because he didnt hit me or even raise his voice. I wrestled with my decision and I still do at times. thank you for this video and for your dedication to teaching understanding God's word!
We need to be careful not to misuse this teaching so we can feel justified. The Holy Spirit convicts of sin. That's part of His job. Ask yourself if you were right with God while making that decision. If so, then check if you were convicted by the Holy Spirit against it or not. The conviction of the Holy Spirit is what you need to pay attention to first and foremost.
So I need to repent for divorcing a man who slept with other women, then put my health in jeapordy by sleeping with me (I was unaware of the other women)? I need to repent for divorcing a man who financially jeapordized the children and I? I cried myself to sleep wishing he would hit me instead of playing mind games! I wrestled and cried out to God desperately before I packed everything and left. What was supposed to be a separation to wake up a sex addicted spouse, had to be turned into a divorce due to lack of repentance on his part. Still being confused is normal due to being raised with the extreme teaching Mike highlighted.
@@michelleanderson7828 yes. Unless you plan on staying single for the rest of your life. 1st Corinthians 7 10 through 11 says that a wife must not divorce her husband. And then it says you either stay single or you go back
@@michelleanderson7828 hey Michelle, I was in a similar situation. Don't let these people beat you down. You did a wonderful thing by looking for other opinions. It can be heartbreaking when someone tries to make you feel bad for escaping abuse, don't let them. There are lots of wolves out there.
Excellent teaching Pastor! God bless you! Right now I’m praying about if whether or not I should get married to a godly woman that came out of a horrible marriage. She was married like 15 years to a narcissist! We’ve been together for about 8 months now. We pray together. Read and study the Word of God together. Serve the LORD together. We love each other so much and build up each other in the faith! She’s been divorced for over three years now and both of us are praying about “tying the knot” sooner than later. Body of Christ keep us in your prayers so Abba Father will give us the wisdom, guidance and direction in what to do. God bless you!
Malachi 2:15-16 Malachi 2:15-16 KJV And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
Thank you Mike , this was the shortest 3 hour video I’ve ever watched, I’ve been having a lot of questions and I feel like you have answered them perfectly with the word of God 🙏 Thank you from the bottom of my heart, God bless you!!
Thank you for your study brother. Hebrews 11:6 comes to mind while watching your video. May our LORD JESUS bless you brother. This has been eye opening.
I'm a Christian Believer, and my wife left me almost 4 years ago, and applied for a divorce. I watched all 3 hours straight through to learn how I should handle my scenario. It was truly a lot to take in. I agreed and disagreed with some things. In the end... I'm going to give my situation over to God. I don't want to be single, I just want to be loved !
God bless you. I have been in your situation. Trust God in everything and be mindful of your decisions. Submit to God in everything, and in case of doubts, seek advice, study the Bible, and pray.
You don't want to be single but just want to be loved? You already are, by God and His love is sufficient enough to bring contentment in our lives. I'm not downplaying or minimizing your loss or singleness. Just a friendly reminder that true love, joy, peace, value, worth, contentment, excitement and so on is only going to be found in Christ. And His love will never fail or let you down. Press into him even more in this time. You can be single and loved at the same time! Jesus was single! Cheers.
Dont let ppl put a burden on you that Christ didnt put. It is not good for man to be alone , not everyone is called to be celibate. Let every man be a liar and trust God for the truth.
Most thorough and excellent teaching on this subject. Well worth the hours to watch and learn! Thank you for all the study you put into this. May God Bless You tremendously!
This is all well and good but when you are unequally yoked with a unbelievable it is hell on earth. My ex divorced me after 27 years. We have 10 children. He remarried 3 more times. He was never happy in life. He never spoke to me in 32 years. Rejected his children and died a horrible death. He was a womanizer. How do men think this will ever turn out good????????
Hey Pastor Mike, I just wanted to say a sincere thank you for this content. I am in an abusive marriage and after I got saved, I immediately went to a Calvary Chapel and approached the pastor's wife to get some sound, biblical counseling on how to proceed. I was told that because my husband never actually hit/kicked/slapped me, that I needed to stay (this was despite enduring lots of other types of physical abuse). I was so distraught and couldn't understand how that could be the hard and fast rule about divorce aside from sexual immorality. I am SO GRATEFUL for this research and such thoughtful, in depth teaching. I always felt in my heart that God did not want this for me, and I am very very thankful to have clarity on this now. May God bless you, the BT team, and your ministry!
Even the Bible says ‘we only know in part.’ I don’t think the Bible covers everything. If my husband tried to murder me- you think I am not going to divorce him? Yet, the Bible does not cover that. If my husband emotionally abuses his kids- you think I am not going to divorce him if he refuses to stop?Yet, the Bible does not cover it. The Bible is not a rule book. It is the story of the coming of Christ. Yes, we should try to follow it as much as possible and use it for guidance above anything else-but like I said- EVEN the Bible says we only know in part. Therefore, the Bible is admitting that it does not cover everything.
@@sandrabennett4300 for example, Christ is clearly issuing a command, in 1 Corinthians 7, to both covenant spouses. One to the abandoning spouse to "remain unmarried or be reconciled", and one to the abandoned spouse "not to divorce" the abandoning spouse.
Q Question for Mike Winger - thanks a lot for your video. May I ask you to add a more thorough part where you rebuke wrong "justifications" for getting a divorce? I know there are multiple places where you warn against abusing the exceptions and you even give a list, but I think it would be beneficial to put some bold and strong arguments in a video, lovingly as you do so well, to remind "divorce candidates" when NOT to get a divorce, because this issue is so common and so difficult to deal with when anger, loneliness, envy or other flesh issues come in. Of course, we are responsible for our sins, but there are those people who are really, really tempted to sin, but who would still agree to watch such a video because they still care about doing what's right - maybe this could be the right video for those people who are on the verge of doing wrong, but still open to change their mind and return on the right path.
This teaching has been a huge blessing in my life. I've been married for 6 years at the age of 31 now and have faced divorce twice now from my unbelieving wife, the first time on false accusation of domestic abuse and now the second on a reason I haven't even seen yet. She has no desire for reconciliation and every conversation has her restating her deep desire for divorce because she is tired of me serving Christ and has pleaded with me several times to turn away from my faith for the sake of our marriage. I've refused to deny Christ which has led to the most unexpected series of events to have a separation from my wife while I give her time to reconsider. Now I have the confirmation that if she continues to go forward on her one sideded desire for this divorce, I can exemplify Christ by honoring her request to separate from me permanently as God allows the lost the same for all eternity.
So sorry to hear about your struggle brother. ❤🙏 I pray that God heals your heart and I hope brings your wife to himself. However, "And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life." Matthew 19:29
Yeah, you only owe her a chance and offer my friend. After that, if she refuses to take it, and especially if she's actively calling you to leave God, I wouldn't even say it's permissible to let her go, it's probably sinful not to. We have ZERO obligation to let someone have access to us that is pushing our damnation.
Romans 7:2-3 King James Version 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Luke 16:18 King James Version 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Matthew 5:31-32 King James Version 31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Those are Jesus words not mine in the Matthew Luke mark.Mark 10:9-12 King James Version 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Your 1st wife is still your wife till you're dead.
@@nathanmccumber8965 1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
Second question: One issue I'm dealing with as a pastor is the legitimacy of elders if they have been divorced and remarried. Till now I have tended to interpret the requirement that they be 'the husband of one wife' (1 Tim 3:2, Titus 1:6) as meaning they can't be remarried (which comes from combining the teachings in Mark 10:9 and Rom 7:3, which I know you refuted well in this video). I'd just be interested in hearing your take on this situation - because honestly it would be really great if I could come to your view as there are great guys around who till now I have not considered as qualified!
@Channelname Well, not really, since death annuls a marriage according to Rom 7:2-3, as Mike pointed out (point 8). I was meaning one wife currently, not one wife over your whole lifetime. I haven't seen Dwight Pryor, but I've heard many other teachers make this point, which may well be correct. I'd just like some clarification.
Calvary Chapel has no rules....one person who committed adultery, on his wife, and she divorced him....he married the woman that he had adultery with....and was in the music ministry....in our congregation....ergo....no rules...
Thank you so much for this. I've heard this asked of you and have been waiting for you to do this study. I've been apprehensive about even dating over the past few years bc I haven't been sure about how to handle past relationships from before I was a believer. I'm not even half way through this video and already have a better understanding of what God expects of me. Thank you thank you thank you. God bless you and your ministry. You are truly doing God's work with your study work and thoughtful teachings.
If you are divorced from a covenant spouse and your spouse is still living, you are not free to remarry until after your covenant spouse is dead. Read Romans 7:2-3 & 1 Corinthians 7:39. Do not make the mistake of remarrying if your covenant spouse is still alive because you will be committing adultery (Mark 10:11-12 & Luke 16:18). Matthew 19:9 is the only place in the New Testament that seems to allow divorce and remarriage, but it doesn't. All the other scriptures in the New Testament plainly state that divorce and remarriage is adultery. Remember that God's Word never contradicts itself, so dig deep and find out what Matthew 19:9 really means. I made the mistake in thinking that it allowed for divorce and remarriage if the covenant spouse committed adultery, but it does not. Seek the Lord with your whole heart on this matter and with prayer and fasting and God will reveal the truth to you that you cannot remarry as long as your covenant spouse is still alive. Our purpose on earth is to glorify, honor and obey God who does not want anyone to perish. God is much more concerned with your eternity than He is with your happiness here on earth.
Thank you Mike, awesome teaching. My husband’s ex wife left him, she didn’t want him and they did a no fault divorce. I came to Christ after we were married and always wondered about this. Now I feel free from guilt about it.
@@gamota4523 i presume that the lady married BEFORE coming to Christ implies she had a different attitude to divorce at that time, which then caused spiritual conflict AFTER her conversion, when she has taken on a new set of values. However, the explanations (of abandonment ) and wisdom given here, have brought her reassurance and peace. May God bless them both as they journey forward together. May God bless us all with the joy of softened and open hearts, that we be mouldable vessels ever pliant to His Grace and Mercy.
Romans 7:2-3kjv. Woman bound to men doesn't matter what state or church say. Stay single. Fornication is b4 ur ever married once married it's called adultery.
I asked God in prayer to tell me if it is ok for me to remarry and right after that your long video came up. I watched it all. Thank you for the research you’ve done on this and your thoughtful explanations. Pointing out for us exactly what scriptures discuss this helps so much to those of us who have limited scripture knowledge.
Do not remarry. Unless your spouse has died or was previously married, do not enter into sin. Mike Winger does not clearly interpret the scriptures. Christ and the Bible speak plainly. No remarriage after a divorce. Man cannot break a marriage in two. Watch Pastor Logan's marriage series through Truth Baptist Church.
@@truthmomEmma Amen and Amen! Good call out re: Pastor Logan F. @ TBC in Lewiston, ID. His teachings on this subject have been an immense blessing and encouragement.
I watched this video in two sittings. I loved this video, because it was a topic that has been beaten over my mom's head after my parents divorced. Thank you for your clarity, insight, and knowledge.
Remarriage - An Adulterous Lifestyle 💔 Much as divorce is sinful, remarriage following divorce is yet more sinful. It is a step 🚶♀️ further against the moral laws of God. The Scriptures consistently describe remarriage while a person's partner lives as adultery. Consider the following verses: "And he saith unto them Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" (Mark 10:11, 12). "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her who is put away doth commit adultery" (Mathew 19:9). "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery" ( Luke 16:18). "So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man" (Romans 7:3). These Scriptures consistently describe remarriage as adultery. The Greek verb tense translated "committeth adultery" shows present continuous action, suggesting not simply an act of adultery, but a practice of adultery. The verse in Romans likewise shows that while a person's partner lives, remarriage is not a valid marriage👎, but an adulterous condition. There is an act of adultery- the sin of sexual union while married to another. There is also the condition of adultery - the sin of a marriage relationship with another while one's true 💑 marriage partner is living. With such clear Scriptures, why would professing Christians ✝️ 🤔 attempt to justify divorce and remarriage? One lady who herself married a divorced man and later denounced her situation as an adulterous union described her downfall. REASONING is one of satan's 😈 most effective weapons. How easy 😏 to reason away obedience to the Word of God. The eternal purpose ✨ 💛 of this life is not so much that we should be happy but that we should be holy. Yet there can be no true happiness apart from righteous living... "I fasted and prayed 🙏 a great deal, seeking God for an answer directly from Himself. But, although I sought a word from Him, no word was given. Nothing. Complete 🔕 silence. Only later did it come home to me that it is vanity seek a rhema (utterance) from God when He has already so clearly spoken in the written Word. Yes, a word may come which contradicts what He has said in the Scriptures; but that word 🤔 comes from the wrong source 😈. It is impossible to remarry with integrity while one's partner is still living. The treacherous spirit which leads to divorce is the same spirit which leads one to remarry. It is a betrayal 😔. In marriage , 💑 one can give his commitment to his partner, but in remarriage one can give only his treachery and 💔 broken trust. - Christian Family Living, pgs 173-175, John Coblentz.
I have a hard time believing that God would expect someone to stay single if they were cheated on and the unbeliever left after doing so. They could stay single but why should you have a life of loneliness and financial disaster because someone was unfaithful and doesn’t love you. It seems cruel.
My husband which has passed away 6 years ago. Two days before he passed away, he threatened divorce for me telling him about a woman I used to work with and telling her about GOD. He said, why did I do that? I told him we are to tell others about HIM. That is when he said about he wants a divorce. He was both mentally and physically abusive toward me for our 25 years of marriage. I was reading my Bible and I was in such deep study in the WORD. My dog came into the room I was in and cried and cried, then I got a gut feeling something wasn't right. I got up to check on him, he was sleeping, then I turned on the light, he already passed. He looked just like he is still sleeping. I called the ambulance and they couldn't believe what they saw, they said Wow, just looks like he is still sleeping. My husband always threatened divorce through out our marriage for no reason, he threatened divorce two days before he passed, so GOD took him
I have had this question asked of me, as my previous marriage ended in divorce because my husband entered into an affair and became very abusive towards me and our child during this time. It was a horrible heartbreaking period and it was my faith as a Christian and my trusting in God that got me through this. To be clear this man wasn't open to anything other than being ' free' to be with the new person. I was on my own for many years and then met the most amazing man, long story short , I have such joy and I thank God in Jesus name . I have also forgiven these people and it wasn't easy. I say this, that Jesus knows my heart and I will stand before Him and He will decide. Praying for all those going through the pain of loosing the one person you thought was your forever 🙏 ❤
It shouldn’t be surprising, as people who espouse the “marriage permanence” stance are often abusers themselves or adulterers trying to instil fear in their spouses.
@@pabsdog74 where's the proof of that. Nobody I know that believes in the BIBLICAL permanence of marriage is an abuser or adulterer.. Sounds like a false accusation from someone who defies Christ and the clear biblical teaching of marriage for life.
Thank you for taking the time to research the most judgemental, hypercritical, merciless, discriminating topic. Speaks volumes of confidence and forbearance.
