"How To Be A Husband" - The LOST art of biblical manliness! 

That’s such a blessing to hear, Joseph. God bless you and make you the model of Christ in your marriage!

I've actually been blessed by all of your sermons. The only one I've had issues with was the explanation of open theism. But no one really understands us. Lol.

One day I’d like to address open theism again and to do so in a way where you would say “that’s an accurate representation”, even if we don’t agree at the end of it. Feel free to offer me any insights where you think I got it wrong. I take correction as a kindness.

I know you do! Which is why I love your sermons. There is a book from, the 90s that really defined it called The Openess of God. Open theism is more about creation than God... kind of. It says that God DOES and HAS soverignly intervened in history, eg Jesus, but for the most part the future is unsettled. It also says God knows all possible futures at any given moment. He also knows the end... which He's told us about in Matthew 24 and revelation. I could go on forever. God Bless you, sir. I appreciate your ministry. Keep speaking the truth.

Maybe one day you could find at least one tiny piece of EVIDENCE that your invisible god is real, and show it to everybody. Then you could stop PRETENDING to know things you do not know.

You have ZERO evidence that a god even exists, so it is pretty meaningless to call someone "godly".

@@nicholasflamel1134 you know God exists

@@jacobstravail So now you are going to LIE and PRETEND to know what I think as well? What a PATHETIC fraud you are. It is obvious to everyone following along that you are only LYING about what I think because you have ZERO evidence for your invisible god. You aren't fooling anyone.

Nicholas Flamel God exists because the world is sinful, and He is teaching us how to go against the culture to live as a better human being. If God didn’t exist, humans will tear themselves apart because of sin.

@@Guyfrom-dg7ek exactly

Its good to watch before you get married too as a reminder of what you are signing up for.

@@framboise595 wow you are really camped out on this video. The bible doesn't command us to get married but it does tell us not to commit adultery so if you want to have sex or have children then you should get married.

Same bro :)

@@framboise595 You're correct in the fact that Paul does elevate singleness as a higher calling for the church because a single man focuses on the things of the Lord (see the video for scripture reference), but if you can't handle being single, then get married. The other reason is that in Genesis, God gave Adam and Eve the commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and it makes it clear that the only place we can do that is through the covenant of marriage. I'm not sure why you're so angry over this, I was just commenting my thoughts.

@@framboise595 so why are you taking this out on me?

Great to hear that but some unfortunates will never hear this from their wives but their reward is from god.

Wow, I wish God could bless me with a man like this

Oh that is so true I believe I'm with a man of God too and he has helped me see my flaws and grow and change.

That's awesome to read, glory to God!.

Same!! I’m very blessed.

Keep praying, stay faithful, follow the lord.

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Same my brother

All the best bro

Hosea gives us a great example of this as well!!

​@@framboise595 I love to converse and my purpose here isn't to tell you that you are wrong but rather to find some middle ground to our views!! There is no doubt that in the Bible you can see the Lords gentleness, but also his judgement and severity. We see that Christ both laid himself down on the cross for his bride willfully, but he will also return in an epic and violent manner to retrieve her. I believe to understand what Mike Winger is saying we should first take a look at the consequences to the fallen nature in Genesis 3 and see how it relates to the redeemed state we now have in Christ. Specific to the woman, her consequences would be that her pain in child bearing would be multiplied. By the style of language it implies it would be more severe pain than the pain that already existed. In addition, it says that her desires would be contrary to her husband, BUT that her husband would rule over her. Again we can imply the opposite that prior to the fallen nature, her desires were once in partnership and in harmony with her husband vs opposing him because of the new presence of the sinful nature. In addition, prior to the fall, her husbands nature with her was in partnership, but now in their fallen and sinful state, her husbands nature is to rule over his wife out of the consequence of Sin. My next point would be to present what Christ did for us on the cross in relation to the original consequences of our fallen nature. His blood is now our representation of purity and righteousness before a God. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we can operate, think, feel, speak and do as originally intended (Prior to the fall) as Children of God. A wife's desire to be in opposition to her husband is now atoned for by the sacrifice of Christ. Does that mean her sinful nature to be in opposition will no longer be there? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Her case is no longer subject to her husband but rather directly to God because of her redeemed state in Christ. This is why Paul in Romans 8 says we should not abolish the Law but continue to Love it because it reveals to us our fallen state. When our eyes are opened to our sinful and fallen state, it ought to humble us because our destiny should be eternal death vs the present which is full redemption in Christ. As a Husband, I can no longer judge my wife by the standards of our fallen nature but rather that of the atoned state of Christ. Now that doesn't mean we ought to be ignorant of the sinfulness that may exist in a husband and wife relationship, but the manner in which we handle such instances are paved by the example Christ gave us and what Paul directly reference to in Ephesians 5 which is to be self sacrificing (From the POV of a husband). The Washing of her bride is simply making her aware of her sinful nature and the now redeemed state of deliverance we have in Christ (The living word). Personally in my marriage, I have found this model to be most fruitful. Just because I choose to show love and grace to my wife does not mean I will not correct her for her wrongdoings, no differently than she would do to addresses mine. Now...What that person chooses to do with their sin is their own choice and between God and them. For example, let’s say I address my wife for being disrespectful. Let’s say she called me a bad name in front of a group of friends because I disagreed with her view. A Godly response would be that she adheres FIRST to the word that commands her to respect me. BUT if she chooses not to, that is her contempt with the scriptures, not me as her husband. I then will have to ask myself if greater is my desire to be respected, or for my wife to recognize her rebellion towards God. If I ask myself that question first, I can then operate as Christ did. Ideally I will be given supernatural wisdom, knowledge or abilities to convince my wife of her actions. But most of the time its plain old and reliable prayer and dependency on the Holy Spirit that will change the heart of any human being, including my wife. I can go on for pages on this and I would love to further the conversate! Please share with me your view! I only wish to bring context to what has been said to Winger and my respect for his view. Thanks and many blessings to you.

@ Saad Bin Masud that is not Biblically correct at all. If my husband does wrong to me, I will try and show him the love of Jesus. There is nothing wrong with that. I would hope my husband loves me enough to do the same for me.

They (men and women) will know you by your fruits. @isabelle M

@@framboise595 You can't really use the results of using power as an argument that women are impressed by power. It's just how power works - _it's power_ - so since women are generally weaker it just trumps rebellion with sheer force. You can't count on taming rebellion in women's hearts this way. And history should tell you that as well. Also, as a woman, love and kindness impresses me, as it is most certainly God who worked in my heart so my heart desires righteousness, and not any guy or any human, and therefore I seek it because I seek God, and therefore a man who acts like God does, i.e. with love and kindness, yet firm on what is right, as God has done in my life time and time again, that is what impresses, and that is what further encourages me to seek righteousness. And of course righteousness is _not_ rebellion against God. I could never be intimate with anyone who just brute forces everything. And I mean that not just in a husband and wife sense, but any type of relationship. Friendship, parent-child relationship, or spouce relationship - I wouldn't be emotionally intimate with such a person. However, I think what you wrote is the fruit of recognizing something very important which many people miss. Some men are kind and loving as a way to get their wife to stop yelling, stop making fights. That alone is disasterous. A man should work on issues. It's not the women's responsibility to take care of emotional issues, it's not a "female thing", it's very much a male thing as well and men should put in effort to work out whatever needs to be worked out. If a man is firmly standing on God's word then there is no need to worry his wife would manipulate him and what not. Just pray, seek God's Kingdom first, be consistent in that, and God will reveal to you whatever you need. God will make you firm in the right ways and sensitive in the right ways. I think you've recognized some men are sensitive in the wrong ways. And that is disasterous. But I think what you call men to be in your comment is to be firm in the wrong ways, not the right ways. I hope this makes sense. Of course, no sin should be tolerated. But deal with it like God does. God is very firm on sins, or would you say He isn't? Yet He helps us to deal with it in so many ways. There is so much mercy, love, kindness, forgiveness always readily available. Yet He is firm. All the best to you. :)

God bless you!

@@framboise595 the hate you spew everywhere... nonstop You really are not a spirit filled, humble, born again Christian, are you? It becomes pretty apparent to anyone reading all the nasty paragraphs you're posting throughout this guys youtube channel

Psalm 18:35 Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy right hand hath holden me up, and thy gentleness hath made me great James 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy Psalm 111:4 He hath made his wonderful works to be remembered: the Lord is gracious and full of compassion Matthew 11:28-30 King James Version 28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Galatians 5:22-23 King James Version 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law 1 John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love Jeremiah 50:32 And the most proud shall stumble and fall, and none shall raise him up: Malachi 4:1 For, behold, the day cometh, that shall burn as an oven; and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble: and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the Lord of hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch James 4:6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble Proverbs 28:25 He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be made fat Hosea 5:15 King James Version 15 I will go and return to my place, till they acknowledge their offence, and seek my face: in their affliction they will seek me early

Amen brother, same for me as well

@@framboise595 tf

Proverbs 9:8 Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. :)

@@framboise595 3. Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.

@@framboise595 Get behind me Satanas!!!

Isabelle M not once did he say in this video husband obey your wife. And this video elaborates very well what it means for the husband to love his wife like Christ love the church. How did Christ demonstrate his love for the church?

Isabelle M Marriage don’t last because of mindsets like yours. Men and women lost biblical, godly morals and principles not only pertaining marriage but also life. You clearly know very little about the role of either the man or the woman. Nothing but love but I haven’t read so much misguided words. The man is the head, he’s not taking away from that. But emphasizing and how the man must lead. A man must love and respect and honor his wife and if she doesn’t and while doing so her eyes may be opened and her heart transformed by the Christ like love the man displays towards her. Luke 6:32 ““If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.” In the light of this scripture, so what you love those who love you, if you really want to be like Christ love those who hate you and want to harm you. That’s what’s being taught here. A takes a true man to love when loving seems to be impossible. It’s not taking away from being the head. The rule of the head is to take care of those around him, leading them faithful in sickness and in health, leading them in the right way, and if he goes of the right path the woman doesn’t have to follow him off that path. If you truly read scripture and allow God to open you up you’ll realize the truth being taught in this message. God bless.

Isabelle M You never fail.

That is the best time to listen to marriage teachings! 😊

​ @Isabelle M I think you are well intentioned, but you seem quite misguided. First are foremost, as a woman calling for the greater authority and control of men over women, you sure do preach a lot at men as a woman. "A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet." (1 Tim 2:11-12) Where is your husband? Why are you here trying to teach and instruct instead of him? Is the internet really the ministry field you should be working in? Beyond that, you misunderstand who Christ is and what He did as the example husbands must imitate. Pastor Mike covered this passage, but it may have gone completely over your head: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless." (Eph 5:25-27) Likewise, "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Rom 5:8) The Jews expected the messiah to come as a king, a mighty ruler who would defeat their enemies and reign over them and establish God's kingdom among them. Yet Jesus defied their expectations, coming as a servant and a man (Phil 2:5-8), and they crucified Him. By your own standard of manliness, Jesus Himself--the Son of God, the Incarnate Word of God, the Fullness of Deity in bodily form--even He fell short of being a godly man because he did not properly control His unruly bride. Is this truly what you believe? Christ came not to a submissive and obedient wife, but to a world of sinners who rejected Him and crucified Him. And to them He laid down His life to purchase through His own blood a bride for Himself. The husband lays down his life for his wife, whether she is submissive to him or not. That is the undeniable example of Christ. You can see it in Hosea too, if you will read it. And if indeed a man is married to a believing, godly wife, she will submit to his God-given authority as her head. Yet if she is not believing and unsubmissive, the husband must still love her as Christ loved and died for him. Now that love may manifest itself in control, not permitting her to pursue that which is sinful and against God though she herself does not submit to God. I can think of at least one example where even a believing wife was not controlled/disciplined by her husband to the detriment of the church. But that does not mean control is the highest ethic and standard in marriage. Nowhere in Scripture (as far as I am aware, please correct me if I'm wrong) does it teach that a husband must "control" his wife. I think this comes out of your view of headship, but I challenge and encourage you to let the Bible shape your understanding of headship, not to let your own experiences and ideas dictate its meaning. I haven't read all of your comments on this video, but I see a distinct lack of Scripture in what I have read so far. Another thought: is Christ the head of non-believers? No, He is the head of His bride, His body, the Church. So what business does Christ have with those who deny and reject Him? Instead of controlling them to believe, it says in Romans 1:24, "Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." It is a similar story when considering passages that speak on church discipline (Matt 18:15-17, 1 Cor 5:11-13, 1 Tim 1:20, etc.) So then, if a believing man is married to an unbelieving wife (not encouraging unequal yoking, but if a man becomes Christian while already married), how should he be her head? Is it by controlling her? I do not see this as biblical at all. But if she will not submit to him, should he divorce her? Neither should he do this, as Jesus teaches in Mark 10:2-9, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate," and Paul in 1 Cor 7:12-16, "if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her." So what should a man do with an unbelieving, unsubmissive wife, who still consents to live with him? He should again look to Christ who loved and served and gave His life for an unruly and rebellious people, hoping and praying that his wife would be saved and come to know Christ through him. Finally, I once again want to bring to your attention Ephesians 5:25-27. Christ sanctified His bride, cleasing her by the washing of water with the word. Is this true in your life? Are you being sanctified by the Word of God? Or do you prove yourself to be in rebellion to the very Truth you declare? I don't say all of this because I want to dismantle your argument or put you down, but if you are my sister in Christ, you must present yourself as one in word and deed, showing the Lord as your Lord through obedience to Him. Certainly Christian men in our society have a long way to go to rediscover biblical manhood (I am doing this myself as I prepare myself hopefully for a woman God will place in my life), but the same can be said of the Christian women. God bless.

Still single?

@@framboise595 wow you’re still commenting on this video 3 years later.

@Isabelle M You seem to have forgotten that Samson and Delilah were not husband and wife, Samson should have some kind of discernment toward Delilah.

Isabelle M lady, calm down.

Relationships are difficult. I think it's beautiful that you are devoted to your wife and to God. I don't know what you are dealing with, but my husbands love let me heal from deep pain, pain that came from a lack of love and, while your wife might not change, I'm grateful for the love I received and the way it healed me. He's not even religious, but has the patience of a saint I assure you.

@@framboise595 A turn of phrase 🙄. You probably know what the bible says about loving your wife.

@@framboise595 Right... well, you've got some issues you might want help with.

Yes, but you just said a key part. Respecting each other. No offense toward you but so many women feel they have the blank check to just dismiss their clumsy ignorant men and show so little respect.

@@mo-215 Has to be mutual always, otherwise it's not a real partnership!

Now you can have a heavenly father you can look up to. He adopts us into daughership and Sonship if we accept Jesus.

​@framboise595 You need to learn how to write before criticizing someone else's statement

@@framboise595 tend your own garden

Luciano Camacho i did the same thing

@@framboise595 “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:18, 23-24‬ ‭NIV‬‬ “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:21-33‬ ‭NIV‬‬

God bless you!! So often Satan tries to turn me away from videos that God clearly wants me to see. That cynical voice interrupts God's calm and quiet one, trying to deceive me and drive me away from it. PRAISE GOD that you saw it and may God bless you and your marriage!

@@framboise595 it says wives submit not husbands force, it is an action of the wife that shows her fruits. Husbands are told to love and love is not forced. God has proven as much, he wants us to choose him, as forced love is not love at all. Christ died for our sins, husbands represent Christ as the head of the church(wife). Men must lead and if a wife chooses not to submit God is just and righteous and true and he knows the full story. Vengeance is for the Lord and him alone right? So we continue in our personal walk even though others may sin and fall short. Meeting sin with sin is never what we are called to do.

@@framboise595 who said anyone is scared of their wives? That's pathetic we should fear the Lord alone. Simp men who excuse sin to stay in good favor for women are pathetic. Equally pathetic is a man who has to force his wife to "submit" instead of her submitting to the authority herself. We should call out sin and if they repent not, confront them with a fellow in Christ. Unrepentant still? Bring an Elder. Still unrepentant? Then they've made their bed and you can rest knowing you did your part. We are called to love everyone, enemies included. No where do we force people to submit to the Gospel though it is the authority, Christ did not force anyone to submit to his authority though he'd be the most justified in doing so. Instead he proclaimed the truth and whoever did not submit to the authority he allowed them to stray and sin. Those who understood and submitted to the authority he anointed. If you have an issue with forgiveness and loving all you have an issue with the Word of the Lord. Men and women need to stand up for the truth. What should a woman do if her husband commands her to go against God's word? Should she submit even then? Women are told to submit no matter the qualifications of the husband as to win him over with faith and men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church(unconditionally) so as to win them over by faith. This seems like a faith issue. You don't have faith that God will honor you humbling yourself and keeping your hands from sin though the closest around you may sin. Women should submit as commanded by God's word but they have to submit. Forcing the Gospel or forcing submissions just shows how much you've failed to spread the light of the truth and be an example. Even if you were perfect some women will still refuse obedience and that is their problem God will correct them for. Vengeance is the Lord's do you not have faith that he will honor sacrifice and bring justice to you? Another faith issue. Let's be clear just because you can force someone to do something doesn't mean they submitted to your authority especially if they do so begrudgingly and with resentment. They can obey in the body and rebel in the mind and nothing you can do can get them to submit they must do it of their own accord. The same way no one can be forced to believe in Christ even if someone compels a prayer at gunpoint. They must accept and believe within for it to truly honor God's commandments. To be clear women should submit to the Word which tells them to submit to their husbands but you cannot force them to submit and you should never sin because others do so don't think a rebellious wife is an excuse to be rebellious to God's word. Otherwise how are they any different? Faith and submission to the word is required of all of us.

I'm 18 👀

Mike Zeke showing you age there my friend. That album was my Jam 😂

Look out we got us one of them Jesus freaks lol

Just hearing someone say "your primary ministry is your spouse" is a pretty radical concept these days, but it needs to be said, especially nowadays when marriage is treated with the same devotion as casual dating.

@@azurephoenix9546 I agree with you 100% If we cannot even take care of the people in our own home how can we be ready when God calls us to minister to the ones out side our homes

Actually the best thing you could do is tell them not to do what’s in this video. Feminism disguised as Christianity.

@@shebangsthedrums01 actually, the law of submission is directed at women. We do not subject our wives, they submit themselves

@@shebangsthedrums01 a Christian husbands play the same role as Christ did for his bride the church. He took on the burden on the cross while his bride was redeemed.

I want this for me and my husband 💗

That is amazing. I can relate because I am able to maintain being in love. Unfortunately the men I have been with have not been able to do so for me

Hallelujah

I think we need to be more careful with how we speak, how we say things really matters. Jesus calls us to love, not be in love. Love and in love are two different things and when you try to define them I believe you will see why it's not ok to be in love with your wife, but to love her as your wife. If you make the distinction you can help educate people on what makes a good marriage.

@@framboise595 I can't take credit. Reading the Bible showed me how important words truly are. Since Jesus is God's words and we are to worship him, words are literally what saves us. Psalms 138:2" I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name." As for sex in such an effeminate society, have you ever seen how beautiful women are? Not even the Instagram ones, just regular women l. Remember I. Genesis when God presented Eve to Adam, he knew about her, just saw her beauty and said, this is good. He also defied God because she told him too. I will never again under estimate the beauty of a woman :)

“Do whatever your wife orders you to do” is a beautiful message? Ok.

How do you know that god speaks through anybody? You have no evidence that your god even exists.

@@haploid2k I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.

@@framboise595 I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.

@@framboise595 As far as feminisation, I too am actually in agreement with you that our biological (and other) differences with men are what make us stronger together. We complete eachother, and the differences shouldn't be seen as something negative. I don't like how there is according to this new era of feminists a new 'feminisation' of men in certain aspects of life. I didn't gather though from this pastor's lecture that what he is explaining is that men should be submissive. I think he was simply explaining how men can show their love and then see the fruits of that love... to "Love your wife as Christ loves the Church." - Ephesians 5:25 As a Latina I can tell you that in our culture there is still a lot of Machismo, and while women are expected to still love and honor their husband (despite sometimes being abused and taken for granted), there is not always a focus on explaining to men this part of the bible and what that can look like. It brings the two closer when not all the responsibility to show love and be a devoted spouse is so one sided. Curious to know what you think though.

Congrats man, God bless your marriage

I hope you got a prenup

Joseph was planning on ditching her until an angel from God set him straight.

@@deborahjackson6108 Yes, but he wanted to spare her as much harm as possible by doing it quietly. Naturally, he thought she cheated on him.

​@@Melissa-gn3dvShe probably did,and probably whit a man but whit many other women her "Friends" thouch" kiss whit tounge since all women are eather bi or lesbian,but ya'll only be against gay men Who 75% have masculine type behaviour ,they dont put lipstic and act like a women,but more masculine that streight men,cuz they dont have to deal whit hoex foids,he Is putting men down and tellin em to love women even if dey behave bad,misandry matriachy sexism gynocentrism feminist BS he Is spreading, using the part of the Bibble he want to not be hated by a men hating country like shitty America

I hope things have healed in your marriage. Just as you are to love your wife, she is to submit to you. It is very sad that your godly roles were compromised. If you are still struggling, keep in mind that the Lord has a plan for you. God bless

@@BasedZoomer hi mate, Thank you for the reply. My marriage while a work in process has been completly transformed. Its funny i just got notified and forgot i had wrote this message... and i cant believe how things have changed. God has transfered my wife heart as she was going through so much from past.

What a beautiful testimony for the Lord and about your wife! I was blessed to have a husband who was better than I ever deserved (just like the Lord is better than I'll ever deserve). God gave us 32 years together before He called my husband home. I'm still counting time, waiting to see him again when I get home. God Bless You.

I hear you. God bless you brother. You have conviction and I see that you want to repent. God knows your heart. I have faith you will grow as the Holy Spirit guides you in the way you and your wife needs it.

​@@framboise595 ​it seems unseemly that my emotional honesty was misinterpreted for your own purposes. What might be happening within your thoughts and feelings that caused you to respond that way judgmentally? I see a lack of empathy and no compassion, and my heart goes out to you currently. I stated that I was in an unsupportive and hostile environment, while sick and married. Yet, somehow you focused on my emotional honesty to validate a cognitive distortion of your own making about me. If you go back to my reply, I never mentioned what my actions were as a result of my feelings, nor any specific actions of his. I said that I stopped feeling safe enough to submit. My point was that I stopped feeling safe with him, as he had proven to be self centered, and made reckless decision that injured me and my children as well. I am accountable myself due to my indiscretion in not knowing what I needed in a man, for being out of alignment with God before marriage, and for my codependency tendencies. This sermon was excellent for me, and it resonated very much with me. Yet, somehow my emotional transparency triggered counter attacks from you. Have you asked yourself why is it that you are disputing, invalidating, and counter attacking various comments? I wonder if the Scripture, "do all things without disputing..." and let every man be persuaded in his own mind", need to be revisited. May God's Holy Spirit cleanse us all!

@@framboise595 stopping going about and preaching this version of falseness. A man is the ruler of the house, and which of us thats to lead must become a servant. It’s a self sacrificial love.

@@framboise595 if you watch the video before this, he speaks of the duties of the wife, which is to submit to the husband. And That was which you call ludicrous is a Quote form Christ, A man leads by serving, who ever wants to lead shall become a servant, the point of leading is not to do what you please to house and to your family, but to lead is do and decide whatever is pleasing to them. A man doesn’t do whatever the wife wants, that’s the point of the video.

@@framboise595me and you are not disagreeing on this but leading is self sacrifice and Sex doesn’t change that. You are not leading you for you, the leading is for the person who is being led. The wife doesn’t need to be out in “check” for sun to be purged out. And they are instances where the wife shouldn’t submit, if you didn’t read the Bible with your own interpretation instead of letting the text speak you would know this. Authority is given for many groups, church leaders, secular leaders, and the husband, in all of them you are obeying to glorify God, if the authority these people have exercise goes against God, no one shouldn’t submit.

@@framboise595 the first part is literally a quote from Christ. You should stop reading your thoughts onto the Bible and the book speak. I get that you have a problem with feminist, or seems like women. But Christianity is not anti feminist. Stop projecting your political views on Christianity. And again she doesn’t rule over him, He chooses to do things that pleases her, it’s not worship it’s love, A SELF SACRIFICING LOVE. Joining that with Satan is a absurd. A husband is not a domineering figure in marriage who orders around the wife as he pleases. All things you mentions like feminism, emasculation in this particular case are all conservative views projected onto the word of God. I want to have this conversation with you, but you keep writing whole books, and I don’t think this is ever going to end.

Good luck! You can do it! ❤✝️👏👏👏

I wish I could give this comment 100 thumbs up. Well said. We are called to love, and love is putting the best interest of the other before our own desires.

@@framboise595 If the one who serves is always under the one who is served, (which is contrabiblical and false) then Jesus was under almost every person he ever interacted with. For he said of himself that the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve.

@@TheTrenchesYT good luck with him. He is literally everywhere in the comments teaching that men should control women

You serve your wife? Ew

​@@loveoflife709Would you say "Ew" when Jesus Christ Himself wash the feets of his disciples? Shame on you

@LN Jesus is Lord, we are his servants and friends, not the other way round. Remember Jesus said how servants are expected to serve their Lord without expectation of reward because it's their duty? He washed the feet of disciples that submitted to his Lordship. A woman should submit to her husband likewise.

Get pin n burst ants overgrown honey filled abdomen causing chaos n confusion in all it's surroundings

@@framboise595 I know I am 5 months late but that is just so utterly incorrect. It litterally says the wife shall respect and submit to her husband who is the ruler of the home. But yes I agree the bible does not pay woman on the back it treats them as the counterpart to man as they are.

I agree. 👏👏👏

Then they shouldnt act like sons.

I thought the joke was funny also!

mike is my favorite comedian

@@framboise595 What men, such as yourself, don't get, is that when a good or godly woman is consistently truly adored, loved, and cherished... her heart melts completely and she becomes ultimately respectful, softer, more relaxed, more willing, more generous. She will follow his LOVING lead with RESPECT. When a man isn't holding a safe space for a woman, isn't consistent, is demanding, controlling, and uncaribg for HER needs, she realizes that no one gives a flip about her and that she has to get stronger (more masculine/agressive) to look out for her well being within an environment seeking to use her up and wear her out like an appliance. That means resistance to him and power struggles will arise, eventually she will confront and then leave him if her needs are not taken into account alongside his. If she cannot or does not physically leave, she will emotionally leave and just go through the minimal motions like a robot and whether she pretends to go along or not, she will NOT feel any genuine respect for her husband. I know this as before I became Christian I was with one of each of these two kinds of men. If an outsider had looked in, I would have looked like 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT WOMEN!!! With the loving one, I was like an angel and with the controlling one, I looked like a fighter. Women are often the reflection of the men they marry. You think a woman is "acting crazy?" Ask yourself what he did to make her go crazy. The jerk I was with was cheating and drinking and verbally abusing while at the same time demanding I submit to his leadership. Where would a man like that lead me to except to hell? How could I put my faith or trust in him to care about my well-being? I couldn't. I left. Now that I have become a Christian, I am looking for a husband that would treat me like the first guy. If not, I would rather be single.

@@framboise595 Pardon for assuming you're male. My point is NOT emasculating men. It is looking for win/win options by what the Bible describes as "submitting to one another" and certainly respecting men is vital but that does not require squashing women at all UNLESS it is a demonic/violent/narcissistic or manipulative woman. Men or women like that need to be called out and their behavior squashed by the church leaders and authority figures, not enabled.

God bless you and stir in you great wisdom and sacrificial love as you move forward!

@@MikeWinger Amen 🙏🏼 my brother.

I sent it to my husband. He wouldn’t watch it and continues to be very cold, unkind, and rude. Pray for our marriage please. It’s coming to a point that I am ready to separate. He will not even consider meeting with our pastor.

@@MrsK976 pray for your husband like your life depends on it. I was where you are two years ago. I was ready to walk away with our 4 young children. I received wise counsel to stay and pray for my husband. I didn’t know it at the time, but he was actually in the middle of an extramarital affair. 😔 By the prompting of the Holy Spirit, he became strongly convicted of what he was doing, ended the affair, and turned his life over to God. He fully and completely surrendered to the LORD, repented of his sin, and became committed to our marriage and our family. If God can save my husband and my marriage, he can save yours as well. 🙏🏻

@@stephaniedagenais525 I have been praying constantly for a very, very long time. He has been given many confirmations by the Lord as well, and has ignored them….. he gets more and more cruel with time…. I do keep praying, fasting, worshipping Father. I would appreciate any prayers for our marriage you could add. God bless

Lol wow, sounds like you’re not willing to be someone who provides. Can’t relate

​@@bigbossadidoss8678Why is laziness okay?

Isabelle M WE SEE YOU! Stop LYING and TROLLING people. Not that anyone takes you seriously. You are a sex starved MGTOW man. That’s called a loser.

@@framboise595 then how do you have children? How do you explain “be fruitful and multiply?”

DeeM cSweeney My prayers are with you! It’s a hard calling. Have you read “The Love Dare” or seen its movie, “Fire Proof?” It might be worth a shot.

You must not have paid attention. This guy says the husband is required to love REGARDLESS of your actions. You have no obligations. Go cheat on him. Take his kids to drag queen story hour. According to this heretic’s video, you can do whatever you feel like and he has to love you unconditionally. Satanic feminism from the mouth of someone who claims to speak for God.

@@haploid2k not an appropriate comment for the thread. You could have posted this as a lone comment as opposed to spewing your disdain for the preacher on a random woman's post on an entirely different subject.

@@haploid2k well the bible says to love one another and forgive and not hold things against people. To love like jesus who died for people who mistreated him and hated him and still to this day do. Like people mess up a lot even Christians and God doesn't leave nor forsake them. He's always trying to draw people near to him. I mean I wouldnt stay with someone who cheated but If someone wants to show mercy and grace to someone and stay with that person let them. There is not harm in that.

@@haploid2k Mike is NOT a feminist. He already covered the wife's responsibility, and now he's talking about the husband's. He's reading what the Bible says, and teaching people to apply it. Be careful who you call a Heretic, especially when they are actually teaching the word of God. If you don't like it, pray to God about it and ask for clarity. If his teaching offended you, it might be conviction from the Holy Spirit. Blessings to you.

Welcome to the family!

Praise the Lord!

On average, but there are still lots of people who aren't average, which means that we can't have "rules" designed around an average. My husband is a very quick thinker, and somewhat impulsive. My father is a slow, thorough thinker.

I wasn’t able to get everything (mike often quotes scripture but doesn’t formally give the reference) but hopefully this helps Mike tends to use the ESV 1peter 3:7-> Ephesians 5:25-33 1cor 7:32 -> Colossians 3:19 Proverbs 19:22 Gen 1:27 Titus 2:4-5 1 Tim 5:8

Jesus says to love that person as well as a spouse. Obviously physical abuse warrants separating from that person for safey reasons but not to abandon the marriage or to stop loving them.

@@framboise595 as I've been scrolling through comments, I've noticed anything with the reply also has your name attached with a wall of text. You seem awfully opinionated for someone that claims to believe in God oh, you're a very judgemental person. I think you're getting mixed messages on the whole pedestal thing and saying how you're supposed to put your wife first and she will do the same and that way your needs are met and so are hers. I believe you're looking at this in the wrong light

@@framboise595 YOU TELLING THE TRUTH!

@@framboise595 you took what I said and twisted it, please re-read my reply to your original comment. You spent it off in a different way saying that God should be cut first when that was not the original intent, if you're going to argue please get the facts straight. Being right does not mean that you want an argument. You seem to want to be right in your own mind rather than achieving a common goal with the person that you are starting an argument with

@@framboise595 your still getting it twisted. You have preconceived ideas of you're talking points.