@@zodienani9147 A gentleman is not a man who A - dates single mothers B - allows woman to dictate the terms of the relationship C - date an older woman ( I assume Bongani is younger). Let's call it what it is he's soft
@@Tales_Thomas A-dates a single mother Yibambe nje kanjalo I don't even wanna entertain this conversation sthandwa saam. If you believe in being toxic and playing games yeyakho,this is a real man to me nothing more nothing less
@@zodienani9147 A woman has no right to say what a "Real man" is. Aren't you guys the same gander that complains about men's definitions of what a "real woman is"?
If this is real, I didn't like how she addressed the I don't wanna be married issue...Well the first problem is that it's on Tv its alright not to want to be married but her delivery was a little off for me...hmmmm
I think her delivery was perfect. We shouldn't get married because we're pregnant or because our parents want us to. We should get married because we've arrived at that point in our relationship TOGETHER
I agree. The delivery seemed insensitive. It could be very damaging to her relationship with her bf. He kinda took an L on international tv. If it was the other way round and she wanted him to marry her, and he was like "for what, for who", we woulda been on his case. They don't have to get married but the delivery ON TV was an ouch for me too.
@@leonaking287 some conversations are uncomfortable and that's fine. I shouldn't shrink my beliefs or experience because it makes the next person uncomfortable. Truths are uncomfortable and that's fine. It's not about who's winning or losing so what you mean Murdah took an L?
@@melaninkosijoseph6904 ask any guy what it feels like to have a wedding proposal or suggestion shut down like that. It hurts and they kinda feel like a loser. Problem is we look at it from her perspective only but not also from his end. "I'm not yet ready" would still hurt him but is better than "for who". The way we speak to each other is just as important as what we want to say.
I like the fact that Zinhle doesnt want to get married because of the situation "pregnancy" or the family & societal expectations. She says she wants her and Bongani to get married on their terms. That's a real inspiration right there...get married for the right reasons not because you are pregnant bakhithi
@@DJPapzin even after having a baby you can still get married if you feel its what you really want with your partner, not because you two have a child together. People are open to getting married to partners who already have kids because they want to share the rest of their lives together not because there's a child or children involved.
@@mathusomakhabane7059 the men you are really attracted to won't date a baby mama, there's a reason why Zinhle doesn't wanna get married to the current guy, he's not the guy who wants, she wanted AKA but she let him have a baby first and once a man gets that, he has no incentive to marry you.
@@DJPapzin That couldnt be further from the truth but then again I guess you are speaking for yourself Papzin and that being the case is ok🤷♀️ just dont generalize please
@@mathusomakhabane7059 I have to generalize because this is what women generally think. Why have a baby first then think marriage is optional? This is what leads to the rise of single mothers and no man of value will be proud to commit to a baby mama, why raise another man's seed when you can create and raise your own? . Marry first then have a baby, not become a baby mama and hope for marriage. Why must a man of value date a baby mama when he can get a woman with the same qualities and younger with NO CHILD?
For real thou this is a reality show after things happen people talk about it and they move on they should just upload full episodes here too qha qwaba
zinhle: kairo do u know whats a secret ? kairo : when you dont tell anyone zinhle:can you keep it ? kairo :NOOOO!!! Am taking this for a meme !! am tired of my friends telling me their secrets akusa vumi mangithule...
Bongani you shouldnt be getting anyone pregnant or wanting to marry someone you are asking if they committed to your relationship 💯. When you have doubts don’t do it despite what they say simples
Is funny how some ninjas complain about baby mamas but they make them. Getting woman pregnant and leaving. I understand that a child need stability and a home with both parents, but does that mean you should get married for that nnje??? And the funny thing is woman who get married because of kids or societal expectations often get tired of pretending to be in love with their spouse and can destroy a marriage leading you to a single mom that society frown upon. Some woman would rather have the ring and become miserable in abusive marriages just to avoid being so called baby mom's. When are woman going to understand that their value does not rely on a ring. You should just get married nje so that other people can sleep at night, as if they will be there to support you through a dysfunctional marriage. We tend to avoid the fact that a dysfunctional marriage can be more detrimental to a child psychology then a child being raised by a single happy mother who loves and care for it. Ladies, the ring does not define you!!!!
Lol!!! That's why mother's stays and dies in abusive relationships because there are people in society who believe and push the notion that a ring defines a woman!!! NOT A CHILD OR A RING CAN DEFINE YOUR WOMANHOOD LADIES, DO NOT DIE INSIDE WHILE PROVING YOUR WORTH TO SOCIETY. DO YOU, LOVE YOU, SAVE YOU!!!!!!
@@obakgwadi7672 A man wins by getting children without commitment therefore it means a women automatically loses cos she didn't require commitment before giving a man the highest honour she could give any man. AKA is living his life while his legacy is being raised by a so called "independent baby mama" lol A child but no ring? Why should society praise a baby mamas who are most likely going to raise degenerate people who are a burden to society? You can try and run away from society's expectations but you are not exempted from society's consequences
I'll never understand being willing to commit to a child for the rest of your life versus committing to a husband. You can divorce one, the other you're stuck with. Make it make sense😐
@@sanelisiwebhengu9403 she is talking about willing to have a baby with someone even thou u don't see yourself getting married to them, AKA and DJ Zintle broke up a while back, but because they have a child together he is still a part of her life, u heard her mentioning him to her new bae..
Don’t really follow Dj Zinhle’s life on any real level… randomly clicked on this video on my feed. And I just feel as though this type of life is an extensive lesson on what not to be in life for young black girls. A baby mama by different men and claiming not wanting to be in a marriage. Wishing her well in her life nonetheless…
I think the challenge we have is we want people do things the way we think is right. But people can actually live lives without always following the norm and please people and societal expectations.
@@millennialhomesteader People who don't follow societal expectations end up in jail. Because as a society we expect people to not steal, commit fraud or hurt others. You "woke" people are some of the most illogical lifeforms on this planet.
@@rosequartz2290 Lol us "woke" people, understand that life and success for a woman should not be measured by marriage (a societal expectation). We also understand that not everyone should have a child and when they have had children they should not be forced to be with a man that they do not want just in the name of society expecting you to have kids by the same guy. Us "woke" people would like to make sure that stigmas associated with these kinds of societal standards don't affect women in the future. PLEASE NOTE: We "woke" people understand that marriage is an incredible thing especially for a child, but we also understand that there is no need for a woman to be forced into it just to please society. So, please forgive us "woke people the most illogical lifeforms on the planet" for wanting people to live their lives how they chose especially if no one is being hurt in the process. Finally, from us "woke" people, not wanting marriage should never be compared to society fighting crimes. Also going forward, Be kind. Sitting behind a computer does not warrant being rude. We can actually have civilized discussions, disagree without calling each other names. Have a great day ahead.
its actually scientifically proven that marriage is important. this mentality of strong women blah blah is causing more harm to women. like in America and Europe many women cant find partners. Its a sad movement "WOKE"
A HEALTHY marriage is important...many dont acknowledge that element. Marrying to simply marry is the reason you're commenting. Throughout history women have been giving their ALL in "marriages" losing their self, putting their feelings aside for their counterparts who typically dismiss the feelings of their wives, with rampant infidelity & and inconsideration. Women as a collective are growing tired of the lack of accountability, loyalty, lack of provisions, etc. Basically, Women not wanting to marry is part to do with the long standing affect of toxic masculinity & patriarchy.
"I'm just saying no to marriage generally. No" I like the fact that she said this out loud on record, one day she will be trending because she got married in a secret location overseas with someone else, and when asked about what she said 7 years ago which is the time when this episode was recorded, she will calmy say, "I sat down and thought about it, eish guys I was pregnant so my hormones were through the roof and they blocked my cognitive faculties, so I was thinking, but not straight, you understand?" Women and their fickle nature🤪. To get married and pairbond is in our genetic code, same as religion, when someone say they are not religious, just know that there is a culture that carries the dynamics of a religion, that they are following, they just don't call it religion. Someone screenshot this and save the date. I rest my case!!!😅
Zinhle still loves Aka ...which js why she won't marry Bongani...How can you not marry someone if you're really in love with them?....She wishes it was Aka...but shame man.
To be quite honest sis i expected so much more from the series, the entire show is about your pregnancy, you are 34, une ingane already, you are independent, come on, even a 25 year old’s pregnancy isnt that big of a deal, pregnancy is a beautiful thing for sure but ah wena mma you over exaggerated the whole thing. Im not bashing her honestly, I just expected more from the show🙆🏾♀️ ingaphi i content, you are a business woman with multiple ventures, I thought you would be wanting to show the ladies how its done, how you pushing etc bt ah😭 we have to listen to the pregnancy story every episode🙆🏾♀️
Zinhle is rude that is not the way to talk to your boyfriend It looks like she doesn't have even a single respect for him..may she try to pretend for the cameras henceforth
@@ayandangcobo6773 I'm not judgemental it was an observation. Yeah she always speaks to her in Zulu but she doesn't understand (or she understands a little) u can tell cause when they were talking about her they had to change language
Guys don't judge. Yazi I made that mistake because I wanted my kids to communicate with all kids. They're 10 now and their Zulu 😫💔... they've been learning isizulu now that we're homeschooling. It's never too late.
