Do Age Gap Relationships Work? 

Thanks Damien for such a pertinent video. My 2 cents is they can work if you don't let your fitness slide - physical, financial and emotional fitness slide!

The legal age is 18 who cares. Live your life people. Why loosing sleep.

This video hit on so many great topics! Especially the changing your age on apps over 40 and the reasons why we do it. As someone who prefers the age gap I can attest to just about everything said in this was true.

Love the setup!

I know I am too agree able. Yeah I got baggage but I am still trying to deal with being a person that runs away when there is a hint of someone I am into having a crush. I even find it hard guys fancy me as they can be 4 or 9 year younger when I seem to try to go for guy 5 years older. I would want a click and have great chats and enjoy the person company without a worry. I know I had times fancy american but most of this is web so only one guy I meet in real life. I just hope I can sort out these issues I have so I can be a great catch even if I will never feel like I ever will be. I will keep watch even if start of video seem chop. Hope the video you did upload and change your mind on was good. Glad to get back into your content and glad I can see other people view.

Unfortunately I missed out in my late 20's/30's meeting women due to certain Government agencies. Now in my 40's the talent pool is very limited. The women my age are not that good(Don't have careers, Already have kids, Let themselves go, Not good looking, Live unhealthy life styles, etc). Also the places to meet high quality women is very limited these days Apps, Clubs, Sports, Bars etc.

I'm 42, and the dating pool SUCKS. too many divorced with kids, out of shape, etc etc. I dread not being able to find a partner in time, as I imagine it gets worse when you hit 50. Most 30-35 year old women do not want to date someone 50.

I would never do it intentionally but I did meet a much younger woman and I thought we had a connection but it never materialized. She was nice in a lot of ways but flaky as hell and wasn't true to anything she said or did and not because of her age just part of her personality. I'm probably better off.

It all goes back to biology and men and women being wired different. Men seek younger women because they are fertile and beautiful. Women seek older men because they provide security and stability.

Damien, this was such a fantastic discussion, and I enjoyed the format. I could have easily listened in to this conversation for another hour or so! Perhaps more of this style will be posted in the future? There’s far too much for me to comment on here, so I’ll just remark on a few discussion points: 1) Re: 40+ year old men. As a bit of a “late bloomer,” I really didn’t gain career traction until about 6-7 years ago. I’m now 40 years old, a Masters-level clinician, and currently in a doctoral program. I’ve never been more excited for life, incredibly fit, single with no kids, and always open for new experiences and learning opportunities. Additionally, my past relationships, albeit mostly short-term, have all been positive. No drama or irreparable harm. I simply HAVE NOT been able to find a female “equivalent” at my age. Those 35+ who are single seem to be vastly negative about men, unfit/unhealthy, and/or encapsulated by drama. 2) Re: 15+ year age gaps. In my school and work setting, I frequently garner romantic interest from women in the 24-29-year range and have never had an easier time connecting with them. Of course, there’s sometimes an initial surprise about my age; but when there’s attraction, no one cares. As you mentioned, I do believe a big part of this attraction is my life experience and perspective. But, at this point, it also seems to coincide with comparing positively to younger male options who have less direction, have yet to establish purpose, and may lack maturity. 3) Re: Frame. Let’s say a 28-year-old woman marries a 43-year-old man. In 15 years, she’s 43 and he’s 58. In another 15, she’s 58 and he’s 73. Let’s go another round: 73 and 88. I mean, will anyone look twice? (Haha) 4) Re: Other variables. Had I been a part of this discussion, I would have likely used the following personal anecdote: I’m a vegan minimalist, fitness enthusiast, and future psychologist who doesn’t want kids. Do you know how challenging it is to find a vegan woman? And one who primarily lives the lifestyle for fitness? And one who doesn’t want kids? Or hoard cats? Haha, in other words, when there are so many other factors important to you, you’re more likely to be flexible on age. Recently, the owner of a vegan café I visit gave me her phone number (unprompted). She’s 27. We went out and had fun. We’re going out again tomorrow. She’s yet to ask me my age. Why? Who cares? … I’m vegan! (Haha) Thank you for the continued videos! You’re appreciated!

What’s your thoughts on a 30 yr old and 23/24 yr old dating ?

What an irony to this video title..."Do age gap relationships work?" Of course they work, since there is a biological drive on the part of men to mate with younger women! Women are fertile only when young compared to men who can fertilize until their 80s or older :). 2. Older men have better communication, are emotionally stable, financially have the resources, and older men have a huge advantage over younger guys, in that they are far more disposed to have fidelity to their partner.

Whats your opinion about a 18-19 year old dating a 22 year old if both are in college? I am a 22 year old guy and I like a girl in my college who is 18 turning 19 in August and my birthday is in December so according to our birthdays we are only 3.5 years apart in age. She is in 1st year of college and I am in last year of college.

You are asking the wrong question. The right question is "Is it worth dating older women?". Not if you are looking for a serious relationship. If you take 100 women at age 25 maybe 10 of them are capable of having a normal relationship. Those 10 will have realistic expectations, no mental, health and behavioral problems. By the time they are 30 all those 10 women are married or are in a serious relationship that will end up in marriage. Trying to find a good relationship with a woman over 30 is like trying to get rich by winning the lottery. What is the norm and an average relationship anyway? Two people around the same age who don't even like each other, they fight a lot, and eventually get divorced or stay together only for the kids or financial reasons. Why would anyone sane want this?

FUCK YES !! when i crossed 40, my matches dropped big time ! fuck my life. women do put their age cap at 39. And even if women are over 40, they might still leave their age cap at 39 hahah

I was seeing a woman, who was 10, closer to 11 years older than me. We met when I was 39, turning 40 that year, and she was 50 She had the issue with our age difference, and was pushing me away, to find someone younger. This lasted 4 years, probably should have been 3, or less. I've always related better to older people, in general. At 24:16, the comment about the Man being the head,but the wife,is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants, was made in the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding".

Those who have a history of 'casual beddings' with random men they met at the nightclubs and bars seem to think they're still a catch- even after amassing a high bodycount ! Yeah, a catch of chlamydia, crabs, or worse! They are no longer able to pair-bond, and I do not regard them to be suitable potential mothers for my future children.

Nope...

I'd say, you date the women you have acces too, in todays world everyone has this attitude " I can do whatever I want, but it's creepy if you do this (x)".Freedom of choice.

I think the ladies are forgetting one important thing . human biology . a woman's best years to give birth it's between 16 and 25 so naturally the man's gonna date the woman who's 18 to 25 IF HES SINGLE

That discusión is far too political (correct). I am a man 57. My first sex was at 14, she was 28 and a stripper. It was an amazing experience. It was biological perfect. In my 20ies girls were slightly younger, perfect. At 34 I had the last woman my age, no problems. Then the older I got the younger the girls. In my 50ies I tryed 4 women my age. I am a big strong man, I walk fast, I am still sexual powerful and there are many physical problems. I still like dangerous things. There are Men that age different, but most of the guys are biological still in reproduction modus. Older women might have still libido, but God is asking why?! There is a desert syndrome, the bodies and the bones are weak, I just don't wanna kill them. I date late 20ies and early 30ies. Kids from other men is a no go. I take it like a lion. Why? Cuz I can. This might not be sympathic, but the best sex I have if a girl hates me. But I can't invite you to Sudamérica, it's quite far away.

Women are soo jealous

After watching this video, if I connect to my emotions, I feel the urge to say this: "It's so funny that the progressive crowd shames men who date younger women but does not shame women who date older men. "You are dating John, the 31-years-old engineer? Eww, you are gross, you are just exploiting him to feel protected and cared for! Why don't you date Mike, the 21-years-old student? Sure, he has less material wealth, he is still finding himself and is emotionally unstable, but come on, you should date people of your own age!" Maybe it is not "fair" for older men to date women in their 20's, but how is it fair that a man should live his whole life not experiencing, how it is - to date a woman in her prime? The same women who bullied me when I was young now think I owe them relationships - now, when I build myself from scratch, when I fixed my mental problems and became more attractive? No. If a woman in the 20's is not "obliged" to date a man of her age, then a man in the 30's is not "obliged" to date a women of his age." Yes, as you see, I feel a little bit triggered ;-) But even logically, the decision to date younger women still makes sense. Remember, Damien, as you always say that women don't pick wealthy guys because of their wealth, but only because it correlates with positive stats like decisiveness and leadership? ^_^ Well, for me dating younger women is not about their beauty, but about the same correlation. It is much easier to find a person without mental problems (or with small ones) when they are young - especially in Russia, with our culture of "vodka is the best therapist". It is much easier to find a girl in her 20s without big mental problems than a girl in her 30s who fixed her problems. Sure, if I meet a 36-years-old woman and she proves to me that she has no high expectations, does not rush me into commitment, does not force me to have a child with her, does not expect me to compensate for all the bad things her previous husbands did to her, etc. - then I'm fine with getting into a relationship with her, even if she is older than 31-years-old me. But if we are picking based on heuristics - age is a good heuristic for lack of this problems ;-)

I'm 39 and in Ukraine. There are very few girls left in my country. But still I managed to get 25 year old GF, who is smart and decent. How? I put up my age as 33 on a dating app and only told her about that on a 2nd date after sex. Now she is chasing me. I'm not a provider. She is paying for a taxi to get to my place and I drive her home. It is just another proof that a man has got to his game.