Do Couples Remember Losing Their Virginity the Same Way? | Side x Side | Cut 

Virginity is not taken or given, just an experience.

mans didn't even know his boyfriend's age 💀

She had a point about "women lose" and men "have their virginity given"

the duct tape thing is just horrifying, i'm sorry it was said to you. Can we just stop comparing women to objects? You know what women have in common with duct tape, keyhole or other objects we are often compared to? LITERALLY NOTHING, those are objects we are people. Imagine if people started comparing men with objects and sexualizing them in order to say how invaluable they are. Like "A hammer is only there to bang on the nails, if it doesn't bang it, it's useless": it can work both ways, you know, because you can make analogies with literally anything to prove a point

I'm just fascinated that two people can experience the exact same thing at the same time and remember different things.

I remember my mom raised me to not only save my “virginity” for my husband but also my “first kiss”. I remember the day I finally kissed my boyfriend (who is now my husband). We had been seriously dating with the intent for marriage for 7 months at the time. I was 19 and my husband was 18. It was a simple sweet make out with the love of my life who I had fallen deeply in love with. Neither of us knew what we were doing but it was very innocent. I came home that night around midnight and my mom came into my bedroom, sat on my bed and looked at me blankly and asked “did you kiss him?” I could never lie to my mom… (especially not back then) and so I told her yes. She stood up, walked towards my bedroom door, turned around just before exiting and said “I’m very disappointed in you”. I cried like a baby… feeling like something had just died inside of me that I could never get back

Can we take a moment to think about how cruel the discussions around sex are in religion, particularly in the Abrahamic religions? I left the church (I'm EXMO) when I was 15, moved out of my parent's house as soon as I turned 18. I am now 36, years of therapy later, and I still deal with shame, embarrassment, and body issues stemming from religion trauma.

I understand when she talks about being raised in a super Christian culture, most of the time we feel guilty for having sex (no matter what age) about something that is natural.

I'm not fully convinced the gay couple has ever actually slept together... they're literally recounting entirely different stories 😭😭

I LOVE LOVE LOVE THE FACT THAT YOU GUYS ASKED THE GIRLS TO SAY WHAT THEY THINK ABOUT THE TERM "VIRGINITY"!!! tbh it's a word that makes me deeply uncomfortable and i was kinda thinking of messaging you about in on ig, but i mean... you're just perfect

"How long did you last?" "About 20 seconds" "Rate it out of 10, she said 7" "Oof, I think that goes back to that she-finished-and-I-didnt thing" BOY SHE FINISHED IN 20 SECONDS? As if lol

The fact that one said it was planned and the other one said it wasn’t.... then one person said they used protection but one said they didn’t... geez... But kudos to them for staying in touch with their first partner lol

The whole duct tape analogy is so messed up 😩🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Do another 12 hour blind date

I was 16 and freaked the hell out about how disappointed my family would be. The guilt after made me feel like I was walking in a dream. I was so out of it. My bf at the time thought he had done something wrong lol He hadn't. So not only did I feel guilty about my family but also about him. It was a mess. I don't regret it though. It's just another memory from my younger years lol

"I was 19" "and how old was he?" "he was also 19" "I just turned 18"

I just love how the backdrops match their clothes and skin tones in a way

i’ve written this before, but i’m going to write it again… some people choose to do it with someone they really care about. some people choose to do it with a random hook up. some people like the feelings or emotional parts, and some don’t. it doesn’t really matter which one you choose. just do it on your own terms not because someone pressured you. it’s also okay if you choose to not have sex again for awhile after for whatever reason. it’s also okay if you want to do it immediately again right after. you might not like it your first couple of times, and that’s okay. sometimes people just need to find the right person to realize that sex can be enjoyable. the person who makes you realize sex can be amazing can be a significant other, one night stand, friend with benefits, etc.

I am so HORRIFIED by that duct tape analogy are you kidding me!? had me in actual tears. It’s horrifying and heartbreaking that that is how so many people represent something that is supposed to be the ultimate love and justice and GRACE like bro have these people even read the Bible they claim to be speaking for. 😭 the using religion as an excuse to be awful makes me sick to my stomach and genuinely angry because not only is it HORRIBLE and chronically harmful to so many people (and from such a young age!!), it’s also a complete misrepresentation of what the thing they’re claiming to stand for is supposed to be!! AH. hurt people hurt people but my goodness don’t pretend God is telling you it’s good and fine because I promise you He isn’t.

"I loved him a lot more" precious.

being a 21yo Christian female who has yet to “lose it”, i totally understand the guilt she felt afterwards, even if it was only 20 seconds. i feel guilty even thinking about it.

the guy in the hat and his s/o are so freaking cuteee😭😭

virginity does not exist. its not a thing. what is sex after all? its up to YOU! you dont loose, u just gain an experience.

Good work Cut. Glad to hear you included questions regarding the terminology surrounding virginity.

This was so sweet! This was surprisingly... wholesome? Very cute. Good job to all involved!

I count losing my virginity to myself, cause like I'm the first person to make me feel pleasure and I opened that door of sexuality to myself. Even when I had sex for the first time it was like me gaining my confidence and being comfortable and in control of myself.

Makes me sick hearing "took" the virginity. No one is taking anything from anyone, it's a made up nonsense that no one can take

The religious woman made me wanna hug my younger self 😭

I'm so glad my mother was too chicken to give me the sex talk, because I'm sure she would've said some duct tape bullshit to me lol

I am sorry to all those who have felt guilt and shame by their religious institutes. While I personally am waiting til marriage with my partner, it is not out of fear or guilt. It is because we were raised to view sex as something so bonding and intimate that you’d only want to do it with your spouse. I couldn’t imagine being that vulnerable with just anyone (not everyone views it that way of course). And I definitely think it’s pretty harming to put just a woman’s virginity on a pedestal, it goes both ways I feel. Great video for discussion 👍🏼.

I love all the couples!!

Really random and not making any philosophical statements lol but the girl with the glasses is absolutely beautiful. & I love her smile! I'm so sorry for her and anyone that has to ever go through anything that makes them feel anything other than completely happy worthy and free.

I love a good Ole CUT vid❤

This Doug guy. So respectful ❤️

he thought she finished in 20 seconds?? LMFAO

I shouldn't be surprised by how different their recollections are but I'm somehow shocked that they remember things so differently.

Purity culture has such detrimental effects. I wish education was promoted in religious communities so their reasoning behind younger people abstaining is so they avoid STIs and STDs as well as unwanted pregnancy. To guilt people into not having sex is not beneficial. I know it's always been so taboo for sexuality in general to be discussed in my immediate family. It led me into relationships and situations i never should've been in. Finally had sex at 27 and i have nobody to go to for advice because both my parents would be disgraced and disappointed. Wait til they find out I'm polyamorous

my ex bf and I at the time we’re both 17. We were in high school and one day we decided to be each other’s first time after school. It lasted a total of probably 20 seconds and then nothing happened after and I just cried in his bed and he held me. I have no idea why I cried because I wasn’t emotional that day but I think when you give away something you promised your church you would never give away until marriage it kinda makes you feel guilty. Especially because my christian best friend was judging me for years after. However, now looking back my best friend and I laugh about my first time and honestly it’s just an experience everyone goes through unless there is no consent.

Her: desciribing a pretty horrible experience Also her: 7/10 But daaamn... The duct tape

3:48 i laughed so hard when he said "probably a 3½" 😂😂😂

Amazing stuff!

Cut found a way to completely camouflage backwards cap dude

The couple that got married and the wife took his virginity gives me hope lol❤️

doug has the flex seal

This is awkward but intresting

HE’S WEARING A JON BELLION SHIRT. elite.

Back of a Blazer at 17 lol I was so nervous but even more about what my girlfriend thought 😂😂😂. Love these videos 🤓.

„Then we got out, put our clothes back on… then I cried“ 💀😅😂

This is so sweet

Lol why is the background the same exact color as the white couple shirts'? Was that intentional?

Doug killed it

Communication is key to getting the best outcomes.

Lost my vCard the night/morning, twenty one pilots -stressed out, came out lol. Was fire

Love this 😂❤

Dude fuck yea the duct tape thing fucked up my whole teenage year

The phrase “losing my virginity” should be replaced with “giving my virginity” as lose sounds like lost which give a sad meaning of a bad sexual experience. Just think about it.

aww I love them

0:28 inside out shirt 😭😭

the concept of virginity is pretty sad

Do a 12 hour blind date

I need Woody again!!! Love him🫶🏻

I thought they were in the same room lmao 😂

doug rocks

I "lost" mine with my best friend from high school. We were both 16 at that time. Ngl I was quite nervous and expected the worst but I haven't backed down. In the end, it was the opposite. It was thrilling and orgasmic. 😂

Y’all peep that andafterthat grahic tee?

bring doug back

That duct tape thing is so so disturbing

I say study ahead of time. Articles, interviews and doctor's journals. Anything to have some type of clue.

Nah the duct tape thing is hella on point

The best video in the world 🤣

"Did you use protection?" Him: "Yes" Her: "No" *Something may be wrong here*

bring fear pong back

Bring back Daniel and Dietrich!

It was her first time! I HIGHLY doubt she finished...

Please read my whole comment and reply on it ! I am 22 year old, good looking, handsome guy, topper in school and college and currently focusing on my career. I never proposed any girl. Instead ‘I got proposals from 3 girls’ and many indirect proposals from several girls but I rejected their all proposals with respect because i have some morals, ethics and rational thinking. I believe first to focus on education, career. I don’t want to betray my parents by having love affair at the time of studies and personality development. So my point is i am ‘proud virgin’ by my choice. I believe in marriage system. I want to love only one person and stay loyal for lifetime to that person. in future my wife is going to first love for me (emotionally and physically). So why should I don’t expect same from her? I am not judging anyone. But in some youtube videos,articles they all are only getting side of non-virgins and they are imposing non-virgins on virgins. They are asking virgins to have big heart and accepts directly non-virgin, why ? If loosing virginity was their choice then its our choice to reject them. They don’t have right to judge us. I looks at this things rationally . And in my personal life, I am behaving in the same way that I expect from my future spouse (not having a past love and physical relationship with someone else). So my expectation is based on equality. I like to think rationally and keep modern approach. I am not judging anyone but yes virginity matters for me.(‘ I don’t believe in hymen and bleeding at first night etc.’ it is unscientific & judging someone on the basis of this is also wrong.) You will say ‘what about trust,love,care etc.’ so then yes! With all this things virginity equally matters a lot for me. I want to explore those things emotionally and physically first time with my future wife and expecting same from her. This is my wish, my choice. So whats wrong in this ? Who are this people to call me narrow minded ? Try to understand our point of view. Get one fictional example. If one Girl is having all random relationships and at the same time one boy is struggling to achieve something in life and he stays single for that. After he became well settled he wants same virgin wife as he is. And after all random casual/serious relationships now that girl wants serious,caring,well settled guy. Whats now ? They both deserve good partner. But no one can impose that girl on that boy. Its their choice. Every relationship should start with honesty and truth. Each and everyone has right to choose their life partner according to their preferences and values. Past matters ! What is my present is because of my past. Today i am enjoying success cause I struggled lot in past. So I respect everyone. I am not going to judge anyone. But try to understand virgin’s point of view. their is no one who can talk about virgin like us who stays virgin by choice until marriage, And expect same from future partner. Each and everyone just normalising non-virginity and imposing non virgins on virgins in the name of modernism,21st century and bla bla… And sorry if I hurt someone. If someone suggests me this illogical suggestion that ‘past is past’ and focus on present for marrying non virgin in the name of love so I have many doubts. some querys. after knowing the fact that she is not virgin what if i started imagining continuesly her with another guy and feeling depressed, still you force me to marry her? After knowing the fact that i am not first for her still you force me to marry her? If i can’t digest that fact and not seeing myself happy with that girl still you will impose that non virgin on me ? Rethink ! what about if she is medically ok or not (std)? What if her ex had some photos of unethical activities and blackmail us after marriage and spoiled our married life? Or make fun,troll or teasing? what if she never forget her past ? What if she compares? What if i found that born baby is not mine ? And in todays world considering gossiping,social pressure ..divorce is punishment for whole family although mistakes was done by only one partner. I just want to be virgin for my future wife and expecting same from her and want each other to be loyal for life time ! What is wrong in this ? If i am perfect, I deserve perfect. Even if we agree on other points and we like each other then i will be ready to marry rape victim or person who had faced something wrong in past because in this case it was not that person’s mistake. Even i will give emotional support to her and stand for her. After our marriage if any disaster comes newly then i am ready to stand with her and fight for her but i am not ready to handle problems related to her past relationship which she did by her choice. Why should i take unnecessary risk. I want to be in monogamous relationship. I am the only one for her in whole life ,she is the only one for me in whole life for the “first and last time.” How beautiful feeling is this ! But it is very disgusting that everyone is avoiding our point of view, just trying to impose directly non virgins on virgin and trying to make atmosphere where non virgin can feel comfortable and easily ask to virgin that have big heart and accept us. No one trying to put our point of view and side. You may express your opinion! I am waiting for response. This all are my humble queries. Anyone can reply on it. You may express your opinion! ….. In my opinion those who wants to be in relationship should clear each and everything before getting into it. Both should clear honestly everything regarding past,expectations and another things related future life. If matching then be together and if not then give wishes and move forward. There shouldn’t be lying or cheating! I am against hiding,cheating,lying! I just want to say like others, virgins also have point of view and honest expectations which i have mentioned in my above comment in detail. Because of that no one should call us narrow minded. Respect our expectations as we respecting your personal decisions. i always try to have rational,progressive and liberal approach. And as per this you have to respect each and everyone’s rational and good personal choices. But i am against those hypocrites. I hate their hypocrisy that at one side they support personal choice but at other side they are opposing and denying totally the personal choice of choosing life partner on our personal terms and criteria. I think people like me or people who have attitude like me don’t have representation. I am against judging someone and against extremist of both sides cause I would like to think rationally.. I don’t judge anyone and totally respect each and everyone’s past and their personal and private life. I am no one to make statement on it . But their are many hypocrites who are indirectly making atmosphere In the name of ‘past is past’ against us where we just cannot have our terms. If we put our terms or criteria then they are ready to attack and comment on us that ‘we are narrow minded’. With this attitude they are making environment of inequality where we just can’t demand or expect like “if our partner is going to first love for us then why we should not expect same from him/her ?” I am against imposing opinions, defaming our personal criteria and purposefully making unfavourable atmosphere related us and our opinions. I believe in ‘live and let live’

good job doug

DOUGLASSSS

Bro looks like deuce Tatum

The guy with the glasses sounds like a white Tyler The Creator

damn they’re still together

jon bellion shirt!!!

Does ANYONE have a GOOD first time????

The two people talking about their first time make me concerned. Their stories are so dissimilar that I wonder if they weren't talking about the same person. Oh, dear.

something I am wondering while watch9ing cut an jubilee videos as an italian is, if theres really that many hardcore christians in the US? I always thought my parents were hardcore christians because they wanted me to go to church with them every weekend, but here noonce cares whenever you lose your virginity and noone really puts pressure on you. but if I look at some of these guys from the video it feel like christianity is taken way more seriously than here, it honestly feels like a sect.

I guess you could say the gay couple couldn't get their story... straight 😎

I'VE WATCH

is that coop772

2/10 but expectations were too high.

I was 27 lost my virgin

Sex has a lasting bond remember that kids…be safe out there

I lost it and had my first kiss at 18, with my current bf, he waited 8 months and almost two weeks for me to get comfortable enough (religious trauma) to do it. For his 18th birthday his friends gifted him condoms (regular durex) and we decided to use it, we also had lube prepared, when he tried putting on the condom, he went soft and couldn’t understand why so I said it’s okay, maybe it’s the condoms, let’s just buy a bigger size tomorrow and we can try again. So we went and bought the XXL (60mm diameter ones) and they fit him and he wasn’t going soft anymore and we could do it in peace. He also had his first orgasm that day so I was very happy about it, it was very romantic even if it was in the middle of the day while my parents were gone, it just felt soul tying to me and he also expressed that after like a week he felt really attached to me. 10/10 experience.

seems like religion is still doing what it does best, traumatizing kids

honestly i cant imagine being told the story with the duct tape. i have struggled with feeling shame after sex for a long time with just a few shameful comments (not religious at all). i dont know how i would be if i was so pressured from a whole community

I officially have a fear of missing out….19M still single never have a GF

I think it's adorable home boy with the backwards ball cap thought she 'finished in 20 seconds.'

I never lose🗿

You don´t lose o give you virginity, no matter if you are a male or female. Is better to understand it as you start you sex live, like the guy with the glasses said is not a lose is a gain.

the ductape ???

5:47 Sorry, what? Did this guy just foreshadow intent to break up with his boyfriend or something?

3:58 she finished job accomplished th is he upset about.