ALL THE TIME! I plan every conversation especially when I feel I will upset someone.I plan what and how to say it and how to react ,I assume their reactions and kind of prepare . Most of the time my worrying that they will get upset make my lie or try to escape the situation which is the real think that upset them but I can`t stop
Yes. I sometimes stay awake at least half the night planning how I will respond if they say certain things or how I will explain something so that they will actually understand what I am saying. This is understandable as I have had many situations when I have, for example, failed to get help which I really needed, because of communication breakdown, including a situation where I was being beaten unconscious regularly. Because people on the Autism Spectrum cannot do the same amount of processing in the same amount as time as most people, it really helps to do some processing in advance. So if you are expecting to have a difficult, or important, conversation about something, it makes sense to prepare for it, identifying precisely what you want to focus on, perhaps preparing a vocabularly, using a dictionary & thesaurus, and working out how to describe events etc, in terms the others involved, will understand. This means you might not have to do so much processing during the conversation especially if it does not take too many unexpected turns. I also find it really helps me to prepare for visiting unfamiliar places, because that reduces the amount of processing I have to do during the visit. So for example if I am going on an outing to an unfamiliar place, I get maps of the area & study them, till I have a general idea of the layout. I get any leaflets or read information online, so I am aware of specific features I want to see. If possible I go on google streetview, familiarise myself with the visual landscape, & learn my way around. I find places I can use the toilet, buy a bottle of water, sit down & rest, find shade & shelter, and get food. Sometimes I also locate somewhere I can go for help. I work out what it will be best to wear, (allowing for changes of weather), & what bag/s I will need. I prepare what I need in advance & gather together everything, including such items as a binoculars or a camera, snorkelling gear etc. If using public transport, I get all the timetable & route information, plan my journey, & I identify how to get home if I miss a bus or train etc. This involves hours of work, but makes it possible for me to enjoy outings & sometimes it means I can really help my friends too. It also helps me not to fall over, because I have more processing capacity left to use on processing the lumps, bumps & changes of gradient underfoot. The more familiar a route is, the less processing you have to do, because you have already done some of the processing. It is anxiety provoking to walk an unfamiliar route because it is too much processing for your capacity. The feeling produced by not being able to process what you need to process, when your processing capacity is being overwhemed, is of sheer panic, as if you are about to be obliterated & leads to meltdowns. There is a core impairment involved in Autism which causes the difficulties, symptoms & characteristics, this impairment is called 'Stasis' &, once you know about it, it really helps to make sense of Autism.
I'll occasionally go through a "dry spell" where I won't have a special interest or an extreme one, then I'll latch on to something soon, and they switch through the years
I feel like crying whenever I watch anything about Asperger's because everything in them describes me. I have always felt like a weirdo since highschool. I definitely need to get a diagnosis before I die. I feel like I need to have that closure and validation.
Me too. I'm going into my junior year of high school and I've realized that my friends will point out how I'm very sensitive to certain things and ask me why, but I never know how to answer. My mom has talked about how she thinks I might have aspergers but she doesn't know how to find out if I do.
I pretty much cried through this whole video. I'm not sure if it's because I'm sad that it's fully discribing me... or if I'm happy because, there are others just like me, there is a reason.
I know it’s not a clinical term, but I think people with ASD are empaths. They are super sensitive to the energies around them and they can be very overwhelming for them. And they say Aspies don’t understand what someone else is feeling, but that’s because they cannot label it. They FEEL much more keenly than other people, that’s why they’re so particular and have meltdowns.
I have a tendency to get overwhelmed by other people’s feelings. I get lost in the emotion of someone else and I don’t know where my own emotion ends and the other person’s emotions start. I even get this when watching movies or tv; if there’s a baddass hero kickin’ ass I feel badass, if they take a drink I’ll get a drink etc.
I'm not sure about every single person, but this is very true of me. Or I label it with very simple words like sad/mad/happy. But I am overly empathetic, and people I'm close to I can end up feeling what they feel even if they're miles away. My mom was in Illinois a month or two ago, and she was so upset and exhausted, she couldn't stop laughing. But I felt it and couldn't stop laughing either.
I do as well believe this. I remember being extremely sensitive as a child (I still am today) and getting too emotionally connected with movies or people I don't know and getting very disappointed when I saw someone fall and imagining their emotions and the tragedies in their lives. I don't know if anybody else can relate, but I spend more time thinking about how others may feel instead of myself, and I definitely do relate to the term "empath".
I'm 35 and just always thought my anxiety was really bad or whatever and I found your videos and you've opened my eyes so much thanks a ton great videos
ive found a way to make yourself look like you are looking somebody in their eye and its super simple: all you have to do is look at their nose and the point of it. the part where you would boop :)
I look between people's eyes (at the "third eye"), or at just one eye, or if it's a girl I like...I will alternate between staring at her lips and her eyes (as mentioned previously). They like when you look at their lips, I noticed.
That's super helpful and should really be more well known. The only issue is that my co with eye contact is based on the situation and the person. I can look my little sister in the eyes for a bit, I can't even look at the face of somebody who's angry or otherwise unpleasant and untrustworthy.
Leticia Rabelo Same 😅 I find it so much more effective to learn by myself instead of how it was at school 😁 Much interests and so little time to dig in... ich hoffe du bist dran geblieben 😉
At 78 I’m just learning about Aspergers thru videos like yours. Arriving way late to the table but so glad to have finally found answers to the lifelong feeling of being “different.” My daughter at 36 recently discovered she is an Aspie and thought I might be too. Now I’m spending a lot of time on RU-vid learning about Aspergers and really grateful to channels like yours that give me a sense of community. (I’m female, born in New England but transplanted to the beautiful Ozark mountains in Arkansas thirty-five years ago.)
I use to have really bad issues with eye contact, but as i got older i kind of got more and more use to it. Now i tend to completely stare into the person's soul though lmao. This video makes a lot of sense though. It puts a lot of pieces together in my head Edit: this is more of a self diagnosis, but i should see a doctor
The exact same thing happened to me. Right now I can look straight into their eyes when they talk to me, but I think it's comfortable for me because I feel like they are focused on their thoughts and what they say and they don't pay attention to me, I guess. But then it happens to me that I get lost in my thoughts so you can see that I look directly at you but I'm lost, I'm not there paying attention :( And I miss part of the conversation because of that, like I remember something or they say something that reminds me or makes me think about something and I don't stop until I realize it late.
There is a Tex Avery cartoon that told a story and gave literal depictions of many, many idioms, and I LOVED it! I only saw it once on TV, but I remember it still as an adult.
@@GBfanatic15 Yes! That one always freaked me out. It also freaked out my daughter when she was 3, she changed the words to “the baby will not fall”. 😊
Newly found autistic and autism has become almost a special interest to a degree. I'm constantly thinking and learning more about it and I love learning more about it!!! GREETINGS FROM NY
OMG same! It's extra interesting because as you learn you learn about yourself too. It's awesome to learn about a trait you didn't know and realise that that's why you act that way or why you find something difficult
Do you think having other disorders (like OCD, ADHD or depresion) make it harder for an aspie to get diagnosed? Like, they would ask me if I had any special interests but I couldn't say any because my depresion made me lose interest in anything (but later on I thought about it and I definitely had special interests in the past)
Without a doubt it makes it harder. The other disorders are more common and have a lot of overlap so they are likely going to be explored first. I honestly don't know if i have ASD, i suspect i do, however i am diagnosed with Major Depression and treatment is focused on that. I laughed so hard at the "throw this in the bin" because i've been there many times. People say to do something that doesn't make sense to me, but its what they said to do, so i do it, then they get upset and ask "why did you do that!". I had to learn not to take things literally, which then means interpreting, which has variables, and what variables they are the weighing and what weight are they giving to each? Combine that with how often people want you to do EXACTLY what they said, no matter how little sense it makes to you, makes following instructions stressful for me.
Definately, since asperger kind of consists of parts of adhd, ocd, depression. Some aspies like me even have some sociopathic symptoms. I have now watched a few of this guys videos and one thing he doesent really talk about is aspergers and empathy, and many people with aspergers dont really feel empathy like other people, similar to sociopaths with the difference that they can still feel empathy and they can feel remorse over their actions. I was first suspected of adhd as a kid (and rn i think i may have it), but the meds they gave me just made me really sad and didnt really work.
I haven't been diagnosed (I'm on a waitlist to see a specialist) but I'm still trying to differentiate between my panic attacks and possible meltdowns and its really difficult. All my other symptoms make sense, especially my sensitivity to sensory things, but I have a hard time figuring out what meltdowns really are, how they differ from person to person, how I can tell its not just my anxiety. I have so many of these signs, its crazy that no one even tried to diagnose me earlier! Love your videos, watching all the way from Canada!
It took 10 years of various counselors, therapists, diagnosis, and medications until I started seeing someone who put all of the signs together and referred me to a specialist for testing. I got diagnosed this past summer, I’m a guy in my mid 20’s. As far as panic attack vs meltdown goes the way I am able to tell is I recover from a panic attack much more quickly. A meltdown can knock me out of sync for several days. Panic attacks I recover the same day. Good luck to you, testing was very interesting. Mine took 12 hours over the course of 4 days, but part of he process taking so long was due to my excessive detail sharing.
Same, fellow Canuck here! Waiting list, bummer it's years long...I even looked up in the private sector but it's loads of money and a year wait time!! 😱 meanwhile I'm struggling, daily.
May be different for you, but for me meltdowns involve strong irritation and anger which tends to end in tears. Panic attacks are not angry, just rapid heartbeat and breathing, feeling like a weight is on my chest, like I'm dying almost, racing mind etc.
I didn't really know much about Autism. My best friends son was diagnosed in his mid-teens about 3 years ago and over the past two years I have met and formed friendships with several Aspie people. I stumbled on your vids by accident and they have helped me communicate effectively and be more patient with my Aspie friends. I take it as a huge compliment when they tell me "you get it." I can say that you gotta take credit for that too as you explain your reality so very clearly, that I can't help but get it. Thank you for posting these amazing videos. Watching from Sheffield, UK.
I have questionable social skills.I can't engage in small talk I can only discuss things that I have spent hours researching and are very precise. I spent all my time listening to podcasts and lectures so I'm able to speak to other people but I come off as intense. Is this ASD?
“So I can just sort of overdose on this information” Yes, that is the perfect way to phrase it! So relatable. I am so excited to have finally been properly diagnosed because it is waking me up to this whole world of possibility that there a people who actually understand me and I can understand because we think similarly in that our thought patterns and sensory experience is so very different from the average person. Thank you so much for your videos!
TL;DR, Great video! My feedback: I don't identify with all symptoms but I'm still on the spectrum. Don't let not identifying with all symptoms stop you from exploring a diagnosis. I know, I know that's not what you're saying, but it bears repeating. You said you don't know anyone on the spectrum who doesn't have obsessive interests. Well, you do now! :-) Thanks for your vids! ASD woman here, formally diagnosed three years ago at the age of 43. The diagnosis made so much sense to me and clarified a lot. I always suffered from anxiety, especially social anxiety, and this was a large reason for me to explore the subject and I eventually received the diagnosis. Previous to my diagnosis, I thought, I can't have autism, because I have no "obsessive" or "narrow" interests. So, for years, I thought, I might be a lot of things, but I'm not autistic. BUT, that's not true. So, although having intense interests might be an important indicator for some, it doesn't resonate with me much. To be fair, I think obsessive interests were a factor in my childhood, and perhaps I don't think of myself as having obsessive interests in my adulthood as they're not apparent to me as such. I don't like fantasy novels, SciFi or video games. jk :-) Oh, where I'm watching from? From South Africa. On holiday. I'm Australian and live in The Netherlands.
Along with echolalia comes reciting lines from one's favorite movies... My daughter and I have complete conversations back and forth just using movie lines!
Hello, I'm 37 and for the last couple of years I have suspected I might have aspergers. I'm awaiting an assesment and I've been afraid to do research as I don't want to convince myself I am just to have the test say I'm not. Today I got over my fear and decided to listen to your podcast. I listened to about 4 episodes on a walk. During this episode when you talked about achaelea I stopped and my jaw dropped and I just cried and cried (luckily I was on a forest walk with no one around). It's like you're describing my life. I'm happy that I might finally have an answer of why I've always felt different and strange. Thank you, I just wanted you to know that you've helped and affected me and I'm so grateful. I'm now going to listen and look at everything you've done!
I was planning on doing a collab on common traits that most aspies have that I don’t. I was hoping you’d join in but you don’t have to if you don’t want to. Also I’m watching from Virginia USA. Hopefully you can come there soon 😃
Thank you, I have all three twoo, which made it hard for me to know what was going on. I'm literally answering YES to ALL the symptoms (women and men have slightly a bit of different symptoms...) on top of it I have also have CPTSD too, with abusive parents as a child, and as an adult husband... I'm strong though, and my best and onky friend aside from my kids, who knows a lot about ADHD said she would have never known... I'm not happy to have these issues, however I'm happy that I FINALLY know what was "wrong" with me... Thank you for your information - you and the ithet GREAT people on YT have been such a relief for me. Thanks!!!!!!! 🌷
I've never been diagnosed, and probably don't meet enough criteria for Aspergers, but I have a lot of traits- enough so that when I meet new people on the spectrum, they will often ask me at some point if I've been diagnosed. Sensory issues (esp fabrics! And lights, smells, and sounds), social awkwarness and talking, and obsessive interests are very apparent with me. My husband has echolalia (repeats your last word as you say it or mouths it), sensory issues, and other things as well. Our son is a true combination of us and is your completely, absolutely sterotypical Aspergers kid- all 7 characteristics and then some. He's 14 now and my absolute favorite human. Thanks for being you, and sharing yourself, your experience, and your knowledge with all of us :-)
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Hello from The Philippines! 1. Eye Contact: Although I can look people in the eye, I can only look for a few minutes. I really can't explain why, I just feel uncomfortable when I do eye contact for too long. 2. Special Interests: Like I said, I'm currently interested with History, Autism, and Video Games. 3. Literal Thinking: I'm very much improved with this aspect, people tell me that I'm the most sarcastic person they met, so I must be doing something right, right? 4. Routines: Although I pride myself with a flexible routine, I still follow a routine. It's a simple one really, wake up, eat breakfast (or Brunch), take a bath, and recreation. 5. Sensory Processing Issues: There is only one kind food I refuse to eat, even if I starve: Curry. Not only is its texture looks like puke with yellow food colouring, its smell is utterly disgusting. Oh, and yes, I hate bright light, especially sunlight. 6. Repeating Words: I've never caught myself repeating words. On the flipside, I do speak in an American accent but with a British vocabulary. 7. Social Cues: Come to think about it, I've always barged into my classmates' conversations. Unfortunately, they're too polite to point out my wrong-doings. As of now, It's 4:14, so I should really go to sleep.
I just found your channel and appreciate your videos. I'm a recently diagnosed Aspie and a late diagnosed (37). I always thought I was just weird but it all makes sense now. I've always been drawn to music and I have been playing piano since I was 10 (self taught and play by ear)
just gonna add my comment to everything! 1: i did always avoid eye contact until everyone pointed it out a lot and said it was disrespectful, now i can't keep my eyes of theirs and feel uncomfortable hoping the conversation will end asap! 2: all of my attention goes to harry potter, it was once one direction but i grew out of it and continued with harry potter. rn i get obsessed with crystals and incense stuff. all i talk is about this and people are so annoyed, all my money goes to this, i got a lot! and i never get tired of it 3: things like the one with cats and dogs, i never understood. i still have difficulties understanding these and always have to ask. also since i always get called out for taking literal i started asking for what to do exactly. i get scared, i get a panic attack, anxiety attack. it freaks me out.. 4: i have this routine on how to get up in the morning, what to do first when i arrive at work. i always have a lollipop after work, i get freaked out when i don't. i hate when this change but i also have another routine at my boyfriends because it's not the same if i do my used routine at his. 5: i have a problem with loud noises. i cover my ears, i panic, i start to cry. when people touch me i flinch, expectations are people very close to me even tho it still happens with them too but not that often., textures like meat or mushrooms trigger me, i can't eat this. it's just no!! also bright light! bright light always is and always was a problem to me.. my boyfriend has very bright light and he always put it a bit darker for me so i don't freak out. 6: repeating word is a thing i always catch me doing, i mimic the other people, i copy other people for so long until i talk it out loud like them.. 7: social communication? i work at a kindergarten but other like that it's hard. i have problems to know when i should start talk. i have problems to stop talking especially when i'm at my boyfriends
So I have always worn black and grey shirts with jeans and it took me until I was in my late 20s to realize this was autism related or that I even did that lol. I would try to buy different cloths and colors, but then I would never wear that.
I have three shirts and pants I will wear out. Usually, I'll wear a sweatshirt, even in the summer time. It's just comfortable for me. Done this with other clothes my entire life. Hate dresses and baggy pants, etc.
I have Aspergers. This video sums stuff up nicely. Not too in-depth, but enough for people to get a basic understanding of what they're looking for. But god damn it is SO hard to NOT perseverate on my hyper-fixated interests when talking to people. I used to do it all the time when I was little about Sonic the Hedgehog, of all things. In retrospect, I can actually _feel_ the eye-rolls I gave my entire family at the dinner table whenever I'd bring up anything Sonic related. With my current interests, the desire to regurgitate anything and everything about said interests still remains; but somehow, by some act of God, I can manage to suppress it enough that it doesn't annoy the living hell out of everyone.
hi dan! Can you make a video about autism and sexual orintation or gender identity? 'cause i feel like there is a lot of people with autism that struggle with it (of course neuratypical people struggle with it too) and i think that it would be a quite interesting video! and to answer the question in this video i'm from denmark!
@@maiynnai From my comment above you can see I try to figure out if I may be autistic and there is big chance I may be had this topic is huge for me because I struggle a lot with my gender identity that lead to strong anxiety.I will be really happy to see video like this !!!!
@@behindzerosp you might want to check out Aaron Ansuini or the channel "ask an autistic". Aaron is a disabled, trans and autistic advocate on you tube. He talks about gender and disability a lot. Ask an autistic is a bit more autism focused.
wow. a few years ago, i had to move to a different school overseas. when i got there, my english teacher wanted to know what i sounded like because i came from new zealand and the new zealand accent is very distinct. i read out a passage from a book to her and she said that i had more of an american accent. i watch a lot of youtube in my spare time. thank you so much, this explains a lot
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I often get SUPER interested in a topic for like a couple of weeks and I try to learn all thing about that subject,, then i´m completely exhausted and i need rest. After a few days i find something else to be really passionated about. It goes on and on and on. Somebody else?
Oh my gosh!! I am so glad I found you!!!! And by accident at that. I really really appreciate the topics that you are covering. As a mom of a 14-year-old boy, who I believe has aspergers, I want to keep one step ahead of his issues. THANK YOU so much from Dallas, Texas!!!!!
Hi from Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. I'm a 54 lady, and I believe I also have ADHD, autism, OCD, and dyslexia - just like you. Lif2 have been super hard, but little by little I've been literally beaten out of me, andvibhad to work extra hard to fit in. It made me quite high functioning. A good example is that I was the class clown asd a child, and whatn I tell people today, they can't believe me - im so put together. I also got thick red 4 for behavior, yet I eas super smart, and after a tests with v several 10s of thousands of other kids my own age, I was one of the top ten. My father and brother were geniuses. My mother was never tested but it wouldn't surprise me now that she too was "weird." Every time you have these lists, or others asd well, I always get 90% of your lisr. Would you talk more about your ADHD, dyslexia and OCD please - especially dyslexia. That one im suspecting lately because I see the word correctly on my text, but after I reread what I already sent it, it's riddled with misspellings and I get super embarrassed. Thank you 😊
From Wikipedia: "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater" is an idiomatic expression for an avoidable error in which something good is eliminated when trying to get rid of something bad, or in other words, rejecting the favorable along with the unfavorable. It comes from German. I don't know if it will help, but I always picture it (or any idiom) literally and then translate the items into other items. For instance, “They don’t want to make the distinction between one independently owned franchise location and another. They’re throwing the baby out with the bathwater with this regulation.” [The Washington Times]. So I picture the individual franchise location as the baby, and the whole corporation as the bathwater. I don't think that's a very helpful example but I can't find one online and I can't come up with one off the top of my head.
Hello and thank you for sharing this information. I am from Michigan, USA. My mother's family comes from England and Wales. We are related to the Drakes. I am 57 years old and it is the first time that I have ever commented on a U-Tube video. My daughter has been researching this subject quite a bit. She has been sharing a lot of what she has learned with me. I often wonder why so many people (including myself and my children) have autism. It was very difficult for me when I was a child, getting the impression that there must be something 'wrong' with me. I have ALL of those symptoms. I am very independent and have a difficult time being around people. Even those that I love. Ironically, I am a hair stylist and I talk a lot. But I am getting better at listening and allowing silence. Yeah, it gets painful. Major accomplishment for me.....lol
This is what I do because I can't make eye contact: I look at their four head. This makes it looks like you are looking into their eyes to them but you actually arent
Watching from the USA, state of Arkansas! 😁 I am undiagnosed but I struggle with all of these things you said and I have Autistic/Aspie friends that understand me and we have a lot of things in common/similar.
My 7 year old daughter has learned a great deal of her language from tv and music. She will play pieces of a show or music over and over and Over. Then she takes that language and applies it appropriately in real life. She has a more severe form of autism however and is still minimally verbal with receptive language difficulty as well.
I do relate with almost all of the traits in this video especially the texture one. But I don't think I've ever had an actual meltdown with overwhelming things. Sometimes when I get frustrated with senory things (or in general), I kick a wall, desk or chair. But never a meltdown. I think I may have experienced shutdowns but I can't describe it. I think the lack of meltdowns (maybe shutdowns?) would make me not qualify for a diagnosis.
Hi! I'm watching from Argentina. I'm here because I've suspected I'm somewhere in the spectrum for years. I've finally started to see a professional who could provide me with a diagnosis soon.
Little note: Watching the TV show "Lie to Me" helped me be better able to pick up on more body language cues. Some of the cues include looking at people's feet to see if they are still interested in talking (feet direction has helped me a lot with understanding when to stop).
I knew I had these symptoms. As well as adhd and ocd. My mom was told to have me tested as a kid and she never did because she didn’t want me on medication. I’ve been suffering from it for 29 years and I knew something was off I wasn’t just different. Thank you for the videos . Jesse Chicago Illinois
watching from Oregon, I just found your channel. I was diagnosed 4 years ago at 20 years old with ADHD and Asperger's and it changed my life. Everything makes sense as to why I am the way I am.
watching from Denmark. Heey dan im Sarah. I just want to tell you. That you make me happy. I'm not the only one who has the same problems. people don't understand the Issues. And it make it harder to fight every day. Thanks for making me not feeling alone about this. 🌼
I watched your video out of interest and it turns out I seem to be an aspie...it explains a lot. When I see a new movie or interest I throw myself into it and want EVERYTHING about it...whether it's knowledge, equipment for a hobby, all music tracks or whatever it is. I can't handle a change of routine and need a set routine or it throws me off completely . The clothes...I like a change of clothes each day but as I usually wear dresses I'll buy three of the same one....usually three though my record is six. I'm awkward in social sotuations... ill either speak too much or clam up and not know when it's my turn...if I begin to talk I'll apologise like mad for interrupting people that aren't actually saying anything! I'm near permanently single because it's so hard for me to meet now people and begin talking to them...very socially awkward and I wallflower. I've no clue as to what to wear and when and often feel overdressed or underdressed for situations and self conscious...my judgement of often skewed. The food....I can never eat breakfast first thing on a morning. I usually have to wait till 11ish or more and anything before that makes me feel sick even if I wake up at 7am. I need a particular coffee...double choca mocha with 6 sweeteners (I can hardly taste sweeteners) in when I awake and that makes my mind focus on the comfort drink and I begin to gather my thoughts and start my day...a different type of coffee... Irish coffee...plain coffee...or anything and it throws me right off as my mind is expecting mocha. If its not there it drives me mad. I am from North East UK but don't have a regional accent...people think I am from London with a texas twang! If I visit people from any other part of the world or they visit me I end up with their accents for a week or more when they've gone and I was forever copying people off the telly during the 70s and 80s when I was growing up....I still do. If I watch a favourite show or film that has a fave character I'll pick up the actors accent for a bit along with the dialogue And so on... The only one that doesn't apply to me it the eye contact. It's not a problem to me. In fact I think I stare too long at people sometimes and don't know when to drop the gaze or they'll think I'm being either rude or impolite or something. What do you think? Am I an aspie candidate or something else?
I either have Asperger's or an intellegence deviation and not enough patience for stupidity. Which would be dumb to believe. I am non testable but should be right in the 4+SD range. The reason I don't believe this. I've met someone who was 6+SD. I had to ask it was noticable. This guy made me feel like I just didn't understand anything. But his personality is what I admired the most. His demeanor was incredibly kind, he had absolute tolerance for ignorance, he even had perspective that made me really think about the world. Which it's usually myself who creates this impact. So after studying what's wrong with me, why can't I seem to control certain pressures?? I'm either someone with Asperger's who relies on microexpressions as I can read people too well. I can see disconnects, boredom and even predict things and change how I talk while watching someone. It helps me find their level of detail as I call it. For me to fit in. Everyone seems to have topics of interest that do intermingle. With everyones intelligence. But for intelligence, you basically have the same hobby and care about something slightly more details than average. This changes your vocabulary and everything else associated with it. But in person, you don't want to come off pretentious so you start slow. In the back of my head I'm just yearning for the ability to communicate with someone effectively and smoothly. I can yea. With everyone, but I limit my level of detail to theirs. I feel my brain can't open up and it gives me anxiety. Not at first. But if a conversation goes on and I feel I hit their "wall" This didn't harm the other guy and he's a fn genius genius. I don't consider myself one even though IQ claims I am. All of these questions I have to answer exactly as I have Asperger's, even though I seem to not be able to fit the outside mold. I can break my habits because I enjoy the challenge of change. However they could be related to ADHD. Which is hard to diagnose because we would be dealing with dual diagnostics. OE is diagnosed. Overexcitability due to giftedness. It seems arrogant but I'm really seeking personal development and nothing more. I believe I've been able to hide from the public my Asperger's. I'm extremely athletic, well spoken (not texting a RU-vid comment. I mean in person😂) I believe socially I was able to read and react really quickly, more so than actually feel. But I feel a disconnect from a majority of society and I don't understand. I've listened to the huberman labs podcast on ADHD and ocd. ADHD is plausible as you can tell from this elaborate word vomit. But what further should I do to differentiate between what I could have so I can begin some sort of process to become better for my family?
"Throwing out the baby with the bath water" actually comes from a literal meaning... Some centuries ago, when tap water was not readily available, taking a bath was kind of a problem: you had to fill a large tub with water and then the people that made your household used the same water to bathe in a hierarchical order. That usually meant that the older male of the house used it first (usually the father) followed by the mother, and then the kids in order of their age. Obviously, the youngest (baby) of the family took the bath last, so by then, the water was quite unclean and murky (yuck!) So you could literally get the baby lost in the filth and toss him out with the contents of the tub, if you were not careful. Basically, it is a metaphor for one to be careful about something. You don't want to throw out something valuable (the baby in the story) by being inattentive or careless. Greetings from tropical Costa Rica!
Interesting im not autistic and interpret this slightly differently, a bit more abstractly. Rather than simply be careful in a general or vague sense I have always understood it to be referring to not engaging in black and white thinking where you might be tempted to instantly disregard all aspects of something because in doing so you might miss something valuable. For example my husband being quite a black and white thinker is quite distrusting of medicine because of the extensive and proven mistakes and corruption among the medical industry. But I use this saying to remind him not to instantly disregard all medicine because of this, as I doing so he will be throwing out alot of the valuable things medicine has brought society
Hello from Germany. I officially have Asperger Syndrome and I have decided to celebrate it. 🥳 I tell people that I avoid looking them in the eye because I much rather look in the distance. They have to live with that. I also tell folks that if they find ME weird, they simply cannot imagine how weird I find most people around me. 😉 Everybody is different anyway. In a world where there are so many certifiably mad and dangerous individuals, let us not disqualify anyone just because we deem them weird. Just because a person is weird does not mean they are not loveable. Oh, and I hate the smell of onions. 😎
Hi and thank you for making these videos 👍🏻 You have probably been asked before but do you find being in a relationship stressful? Do you find the words I Love You hard to accept? I ask because I believe the man I love has Aspergers and if I say those words to him he becomes distant and he has told me that he isn't a relationship person due to the stress being in causes him?
Oh I am so thankful for this! My 12 year old grandson has every single 7! I personally think he's amazing. Hard I'm sure for him... but his detail to art is on another level! He also loves games, mind craft even history ect. Too such a point, awards should be had! Haha. I find my grandson more of an advanced human. Take the greatness and go forward! I wish they had schools to bring this fascinating brain wave to a place that is amazing. I know my baby struggles with social skills but holy shit! Makes up for it in such Beautiful ways! Thank you so much for this information. So helpful.
Hi my name is Danielle, and I have ADHD, ADD, OCD, and anxiety, and I think I may have Asperger's Syndrome, I find myself fixated on things like Astrology and (i know it is not good but) Jail. When it comes to Astrology and jail I must know everything about it and memorize it all. I also love Paw Patrol, my favorite character is Chase. I have a hard time making friends because I'm the class "weirdo". When I was younger my parents thought I could have been Autistic because I didn't start talking till I was 5 years old and had to go to speech therapy. I am 14 now and my sister is friends with my old speech therapists daughter!! The friends I have accepts me for who I am. I hate eye contact, it is just so awkward to look someone dead in the eyes it is almost like they are feeding off your soul so they can know more about you. I have been told many times that I am very sarcastic, but I can also be very serous and think very literal from time to time. I have to have a routine to live and if I don't then I get bored and I either sit on my phone or clean my room. I hate LED lights, intersection lights, and computer lights being on full brightness. I hate parties, concerts, or school dances or just dances in general, Carnivals, Circuses and many more places. I also hate pies, the smell of melted butter, velvet, cotton, polyester, gravy, gnocchi, cooked fruit, cooked vegetables, celery, string cheese, basically anything that has a clumpy or stringy texture. I don't care to be touched but when I do I have to have a nice firm hug to make me feel secured and safe. I repeat a lot of my words from time to time. I repeat my words from time to time. and I repeat others words a lot to make sure they know I am listening. and I repeat my words from time to time.
i never have more than 4 or 5 interests or hobbies at one time and they change here and there. thankfully fishing has stayed in my brain and wasnt just another phase.
Realizing that freaking out about anyone other than me touching my bed when I was a teenager may have been more of an autism meltdown rather than my OCD.. like I pushed my sister as hard as I could to get her off immediately because she sat on the edge. I panicked, felt like it was the worst thing that could happen, but why
I related to everything in this video! One example I can think of is my finger tips and nails are extremely sensitive. I can't file my nails, scratch anything if my nails are long, or feel clothes with my nails. My sister was so confused when I told her the sequins hurt my fingerd on the pillows that change images when you move them back and forth. I dont know how to describe it more than hurting and making me cringe...
Commenting from México :D, I always wondered why I was a bit awkward towards other people and why it took me so much time to talk or make communication possible, I got few friends who kinda get what I struggle, idk what I'm trying to go here, that's how bad goes XD But thanks for making these videos, they kinda help me to know more about myself, my habits, a bit of my mind and know a few answers to my whys I'm like I am.
Found this video EXTREMELY helpful I can relate to everything in this video and have been wondering what is “off” about me for years and years now. I am going to go get a diagnosis ASAP due to this video and all the other research I have done. Thank you!
I was diagnosed with Aspergers at a VA (Veteran's Affairs, USA 🇺🇸 ) hospital. It made so much sense. It explained a lot. It was "obvious" for my entire life. The eye contact is mild for me. I used to joke that I had a "near autistic obsession" with the Electoral College. I was fascinated by it from age 8 at the 1988 US presidential election. It turns out that I was more correct than I knew. I am very proud of predicting Trump's election based solely on the turn out of the New Hampshire primary. No one believed me.)
