The teenagers in the comment section are just throwing random theories (to why the divorce rate is low), 😂 too bad we don't have proper old people more on RU-vid (to give real reasons) I am laughing at the comments of those young people. Divorces are not tabboo in India, in 2023 nor there is a societal pressure those young people make it sound like that you're going to get killed if you divorce how absurd their comments sound. The real reason for low divorce rate is India is a poor country and its infrastructure is still bad which makes it difficult for men and women to maintain standard of living.
One of the reasons why divorce rates are low could be the fact that divorce is still looked down in the society. So people who get into arranged marriages might not leave the marriage even if they're unhappy because of family, children and stuff like that
It's funny how people try to justify this by saying stuff like: In Indian society we value family a lot and we are not like the West and our divorce rates are less cuz we love each other and blah blah blah. People, humans everywhere love their families, you're not the only society that loves their family. And believe it or not, but Indian society does value community freedom over individual freedom, which is wrong because the constitution guarantees us our individual freedom, as long as we aren't harming others. People are just sick.
It was more beacuse of financial independence, my father mother always fighted but could not divource each other not because of what society would think but because my mother was totally dependent on my father financially and people in India dont have the luxury to pay alimony with their low salary, both my father and mother would be not be able to live on such low income after division of assets. This is the case for 90% of the fighting couples and that is why you see celeberties/rich people getting divourced so easily because they can afford to live alone. Its still the same case in India today with only 20% of women working in India, after 10 years in marraige if they even want divource their life will became hell knowing they now they need to work and start from scratch, no one gives a job to mid 30's or early 40's women with no experince. Its still the same case in India today with only 20% of women working in India, after 10 years in marraige if they even want divource their life will became hell knowing they now they need to work and start from scratch, no one gives a job to mid 30's or early 40's women with no experince.
Naah, in India when u are unhappy with marriage, ur family comes together to solve it so matter does not escalate to court. I have yet to see a marriage where people are unhappy in India. They may be there but me not seeing them in 20 yrs proves they are rare, especially in a city like Mumbai
I think it has more to do with the fact that there wouldnt be much of a reason to divorce in an arranged marriage as their is no "love" in it. both the parties signed up for it for mutual benefits than attraction. meanwhile in love marriages you are marrying because you love that person, and unfortunately love can end. hence the divorce.
@@gautaminandi5572 only if you're in UP or bihar, lol.. otherwise my state has low population and needs more so it's nothing wrong to overpopulate. It's you biharis and muzlims needs to control yourself
@@gautaminandi5572There is literally not a thing called overpopulation, if you think clearly there is still so much place in India that the whole population can live in a single state without any problem. The only problem is poverty.
@@sneha1848 population density in Delhi is high too . Even if the crime rates are high comparing to the population it's still less . You can't generalise. Capital cities of countries are famous for crimes too because of more opportunities in all good as well bad work . People migrate for crimes as well as good job opportunities. Delhi has areas where it's developed and also areas like rural one's.
Arranged Marriages should not be confused with Forced Marriages. Modern day parents arrange dates for their children and if they don't like each other, they say no. No pressure from any end. They move on and look for other people till they find the one. The advantage is that your parents are on the same side as you.
very much agreed with ur comment rather than just letting their children wildly experience love or infatuation and what not and harm their bodies themselves ,our parents come out of their comfort zone and start to look for potential and eligible partner for us whom we can deny if we don't like them and they still be like " yea ok it's not that this is end of the world we will look for more suitable partner whom you can feel comfortable with" people are talking about the mental pressure and emotional damage that we get by having arranged marriage completely forgetting that the love of the life they look for in nowadays trending western style give us youngster more of heartbreak, emotional psychological ,physical damage after experiencing some time of love if breakup happens than these so called love obsessed people are the one to upload status, bio and comments here and there in social media saying "love is nothing but illusion" "people are fake , no one is genuine" "I am insecure about way I am, why did my partner abandon me " and also "suicidal thought" etc. I am personally not saying that one is best and other is not, Yes I agree that there are abusive arranged marriages which the media portray as the bio of India in general but equal no. of abusive love marriage do exists and there are marriages that are wholesome and fulfilling too in both cases the thing that doesn't set quite right with my core is that don't generalize the whole elder generation that all of them are just control freaks and they don't have life of their own and just want to control their child and plz for the god sake don't demean their effort as if it is crime to think of the well being of their child, it is what make us different from whole world where generally where parents just let their child with whoever they want with and rarely get any update how's they doing and what not or even helping them financially parent in India never abandon their duty in any phase of life they still try collect assets for u and ur spouse to live comfortable with, assets for grandchild and many day to day life it's as if our parent are always on our side no matter what
this is a minority of arranged marriages. some of us are lucky our parents have evolved. but a lot of people are pressured into marriage and pressured into picking a specific person. this is the reality of india today as well and still the status quo. arranged marriage is not that easy and problem-free. there is a lot of societal pressure which takes away the individuals freedom - and to the point that i would call a lot of arranged marriages forced. modern people in india are becoming less and less thanks to the government and this conservative agenda. unfortunately saying no is a privilege for most girls, not the norm. forced marriage is something else, but truthfully noone uses that word to describe their situation, and would still refer to it as an arranged marriage.
Disagree, based on what others on this page are saying as well as in the video. When parents are pressuring to get married around a certain age, then increasingly so as one gets older, then that is a type of coercion/force.
Dear sister just ignore these buggers they don't know the difference between Arranged marriage and forced marriage Parents will never forced their children to marry against their will definitely if they are true parents
I got arranged marriage as well. Till 25 i was focused on shaping my career and being an introvert it's difficult to approach a girl for relationship even though I had many female friends. I had worked only for 8 months in office and once pandemic started it's all work from home till now and there's no question of meeting new people if my world just likys to home and countable number of friends. Just because it was arranged marriage, it didn't go against my will. I met my wife in restaurant which was planned by both our families. It was like date by your parents fixed it up but not through friends circle or some fancy dating app.
@@harshadashinde259 yup... We both are sports freaks and ambitious. There might be small uncomfortable zone if relatives exists but when we both are live in privacy it's all good
@@abhishek8243 I was also an introvert and I was totally unemployed till age 26 with a PG in Electrical Engineering. At age 28 I got my first full time job in the private sector but the work pressure was terrible. I resigned to join an even lower paid contract job in a PSU for better work life balance and it only got worse with a micromanagement boss. I married at the beginning of age 30 through arranged marriage because my family started telling me that no body would marry me after 30. It was economic struggle for the first 1 year thanks to my low paying contract job, work pressure and unemployed spouse. But fortunately when I turned 31, my wife got a degree level government job and by age 32 my job at the local state PSU got permanent. Now we are both happy with the turn of things and we are so far happily married.😊
As a person from North East India where Love Marriage is a thing since the decade our parents never try to find partner for us. The only time when they'll try to find is when you turn 37+ to 40+ that's when they'll try to tell their friends and cousins to look for man/woman that can be in relationship with their kids but they never take serious. On other hand, what I've notice from mainland North Indians many go for arranged marriage and many of their parents start pressuring their children once they reached 24yr old. When I first came to Delhi in 2015 it was a culture shock for me to finding out how my friends are getting married in 24 yr old due to family's pressure as apparently for them they're getting old. In North East India 24-25yr are still very young to marry. Family pressure often start when we turn 30+ but that too they only tell us to be in relationship and to marry since arranged marriage isn't in our culture. Lastly, As a 30yr old woman still single for 5 years my parents only pressure for me is to crack UPSC and state exam or to get job in government sector cus they're not interested in corporate job. Marriage pressure isn't common in North East India. Sometimes we're blessed to be born in NE.
I don't it's true for men. Parents only pressurize women because of culture taboos. I have seen my cousins get married at right age and many get married before also because they find better person at that time. I too want my own sister to get married at around 26-27, coz that's the best age for girls considering future.
@@saman_pradhan as a doctor i would like to give you an insight. Very common mislead preconception is 25 -28 good age good egg. It's all different for different mind. No Age is perfect to get married or have kids . Nowadays even in remote areas early 20 something females are coming with same complications the ones encountered by 30 something females.
People commenting about arrange marriage lasting longer ....idk man in india divorce is a taboo still and if you make a decision to choose a partner it's easier to divorce. And Personally I see many adults keeping their marriage together for their families even if it's abusive. I'd choose short marriage over an abusive one anytime.
@@dy578 Domestic violence isn't properly reported in India and even when reported it is dismissed, most marriages in India are arranged. In love marriage people are more likely to report abuse.
@@therealgrimreaper68 not true. it's exactly opposite. People in love marriage is more tolerant to abuse than people in arrange marriage (if you ignore the society). "Love is blind" statement is very true, many time people stay with abusive partner while ignoring all red flags.
@@dy578 there are love marriages which work and ones which don't work but in love marriage they are more likely to leave if it doesn't work. If they are tolerant to abuse then why isn't divorce rate lower? Why is it higher? It is because they are less likely to tolerate abuse.
Being a northeastern Indian, i can say we girls from northeast are living our best life. Here parents don't really want their children to get married before age 30 and we don't really have arrange marriage kind of things . My mom herself had love marriage at the 28 age.
I have nothing against arranged marriages if it's consensual and not pressurised. Being from NE India, I will always opt for love marriage (in case I do plan to marry) I'm a 33 yr old female and unmarried. Not once I have been asked by my family to get married. The decision solely lies on me. I'm all for a committed relationship but still unsure about marriage and having children, especially. Whether people plan arranged or love marriage or no marriage at all, the most important thing is your happiness.
Why do u even think arranged marriages are forced??? Look I know NE people are attacked by some racists in mainland but that never gives u the right to attack every mainland customs.
@@Naveenbr-kp8gc1yi3d arrange marriage is not a foreign concept in NE buddy. She has the right to attack a custom from her own culture and country. hmm, You are failing to realize that not all arranged union is consensual. Yeah some may be pressured but also there's some that is happily done.
@@blazingst4rz Buddy, 33 isn't considered an old age. I don't have any plans to bear children so it doesn't matter if I get married at a later stage. 🙂
if you are just asking questions in Delhi and city areas you don't even know the surface of Indian society 👀 Most of the Indian don't even relate to these peoples who your asking questions😂
Agreed I bet this was South Delhi that area along with South Mumbai are totally different from rest of India they should go and talk in Nagpur,Bhopal,Patna,Ujjain,Jabalpur,Pune,Amravati,Bengaluru, Hyderabad,Warangal, Thiruvananthapuram,Chennai
@@Indian_Tovarisch interestingly the "Love marriages" are getting very popularised in Maharashtra, it used to be tabboo to even invite people to weddings of their sons and daughters if they married into another castes, nowadays it has become normal to get a wedding invitation where a groom and bride are from different castes.
Dude get some common sense. They're obviously likely to approach English speaking folks as it's a channel catering to an international audience. Ask your local journalists to cover regional issues.
According to me one of the main reasons Arrange marriage is popular in India is because there isn't much interaction between boys and girls especially speaking from male's perspective most of the men in India have a very little interaction or no interaction at all with the opposite gender in there entire life, so when the guy is settled and looking forward to get married he has absolutely no idea how to approach a girl because of lack of communication skills and understanding of opposite gender and what should he expect out of that marriage that is where parents come into the picture and look for a suitable partner for the guy plus there is societal pressure as well
@@sidhkon8543 Environment in home and outside is totally different. In home male or female can interact each other every time. But they see them as a family members not as a friend or partner which impacts the feelings of people. But in outside people try to become friends with opposite gender but most of the time they are shy. Due to that they can't able to approach anyone. And not able to express their feelings for them. In one way or another way arrange marriage is not bad. Neither love marriage.
To those who think arrange marriage is better because divorce rates are low, it's not. Because divorce is taboo, not because people are happy in their marriage. Women don't file for divorce even if husband is abusive most of the time and they don't get family support because of how stigmatised it is. In love marriage people are more empowered in their marriage, they have more freedom in their marriage. Low divorce rates are not a good thing
Correction: Low divorce rates are a good thing provided that individual freedom to divorce is not restricted by factors such as family and societal pressure.
It depends on your perspective. It is true that women don't file for divorce even if her husband is abuser therefore low divorce rate is not a good thing But you are forgetting that domestic violence is not the only reason for divorce. There are many other reasons too. Thats why in some cases low divorce rate good but not in every case.
12:10 That guy with eye glasses has really deep insight. Are you in love with the person you loved 20 years ago, or the person you just married for 20 years?
The reason why arranged marriages lasts longer is bcoz of the indian society. Firstly most of the women don't work here after marriage,so they're dependent on husbands,so even if they don't like the person,they have to stay with dem. And the society treats a divorced woman kind of bad, and there's no concept of dating here,unless they find some uncle,they will stay lonely. Unmarried men + divorced woman is a bad combination in here, society wont accept it but for divorced men, they can marry an unmarried girl again. So its mostly the women that hold their relationships together bcoz of these scenarios in arranged marriages. In love marriage,they only stay together if they love each other. No responsibilities r upon them bcoz its their choice to get married and no one can come between them,even their families. So there's more room for divorces bcoz they're not forced by the society to stay together.
@@manurvabhah Yep. In fact it is. One of the solution to reducing caste differences, as suggested by various academicians and even by Ambedkar and Phule, was of intercaste marriage, so that there is more mobility and mixing of castes, and the identity of it is lost. But Arrange marriages itself is the basis of marriages to someone from primarily the same caste, and then comes other factors of job, family wealth, status, etc. Even if we see not of regular middle class arranged marriages, but rather of the rich Indian Marriages, there might not be a single example of intercaste marriage, and it is not by coincidence, but it is how the institution is designed. No wonder caste is mentioned as a social division, that lacks upward mobility.
@@manurvabhah Yes exactly you stated the reason in your question itself, that is they do practice endogamy marriages or consolidation marriages, and the concept of arrange marriage be it religion or caste or tribe, it is still the consolidation if the identity. But with the specificity of caste is that, unlike other identity of religion or tribe, caste is a non mobile means of social segregation, , and is discriminatory in its idea itself. That is why this consolidation of marriages on the basis of caste is creating more caste consolidation rather than intermingling of caste. And yes for the fact you stated, it is very correct, it does happen with other identities too, and the same logic applies too there. But just the caste identity is rather a very exclusionary identity rather than inclusionary one
@@yachishairclips2250 For us Yadavs, Jatt and Marathas, some others, caste is more like clans. Actually, it is our clan. So, what's the big deal if we want to marry in the same clan. Of course, if one wants to marry in different caste, he/she is free to do so.
An Indian here, I have already rejected four boys introduced by my parents And not even once did my parents put pressure on me. There was no argument like "why don't you like him or just get married to him." after my No, arrange marriage is just like you get married to person introduced by your friends or dating app and in our case, parents unless you decide to jump to conclusion that your parents are forcing you.
I also rejected 6-7 girls which was selected by my parents(arranged marriage). Bcz majority of these girls came for 💵 or nothing 😅. And also somehow I deleted my matrimonial id bcz I'm too much fed up with these gold diggers and their fmly who are looking for an ATM for their daughter 😂
@@Here_we_go..557 look for women who are self sufficient career wise. If you’re looking for a housewife of course she’s going to want you to be a high earner.
Men asking for dowry and then pretending girls digging for money is like chicken saying KFC protected her from living a worthless life, bas kar Bhai. Aap konsa prince charming ho jo Cinderella se shadi kar loge, pehle paise loge phir pura Ghar milke ladki ko taane maroge, aap shadi mat karo, sukhi raho
@@multiverse6989 lol with the kind of gender biased laws in the practice, not even a girl with a look of cindrellla or whatever is desirable. There are very few women out there who are desirable. Women lost prime purpose of their life which was raising families with so called feminist and women empowerment movement they are now distracted with charm of being independent and strong which they clearly are not. A man can survive without a woman but a woman can't. The civilization is bound to fall. Very few men will get into a marriage in future
Just stay single this is the best 😂. Both Love and Arrange marriage has equal toxic side. I would prefer staying alone than forcing myself to be in a relationship with a man that I don't even love.
Judging by your PFP and name, im guessing you are between 14 and 22? Well I will just say that that whole young idealistic notion of "just stay single" gets really lonely in your mid to late 30s and that tune changes real quick. Once you realize you are mortal and that life gets scarier and lonlier as your family starts to age and die and your friends just aren't around as much because they have their own families, suddenly you feel incredibly alone in the world.
@@Bushviper yeah I'm 19. And yeah if I ever feel like I'm in love then maybe yeah but marrying someone just for family sake is completely no for me. And ofcourse even if I'll do love marriage I will want my parents to be happy with my choice as well. I have relatives that's 35 and when I ask her if she wants to get married or not she always she marriage is just headache,she only dated once and after that decided to single which is the perfect choice.
@@Bushviper there is nothing wrong with staying single and wanting to. Don’t try to pressure people into “life is short! Just get into a relationship!” I’ve seen plenty of people that are older and are happily single.
So I'm an Indian and I personally have no problem with the idea of arranged marriage. Arranged marriages are not like what people think they are. it's just your parents find a guy/ girl for you instead of you while considering all the factors ( family background, education, job) and then you do get to decide if you want to marry that person or not. I agree that it's more like gambling too because the decision could be wrong too but then again the biggest perk is the blame does not come over you as it will be in love marriage. I guess most people are against love marriages is because they believe love alone can't work and other factors are not considered (like family background, financial stability, CASTE) . Also, people thinking that arranged marriages are forced and there's no love are wrong too the idea is people get married first and then fall in love. And even if they don't, most of them still decide to continue the marriage and not divorce as india is a collectivistic society so people tend to think of society, family, children and many factors rather than leaving each other like people in individualistc society do. So there are pros and cons but things are changing for the better too as people in arranged marriages are choosing to leave if that's a abusive one rather than continuing it forcefully .
Yup ideally this should work. Ideally arranged marriages are very good if both partners click. But in some parts of India it is not a choice and even divorce is not a choice even now. I have an aunt who got divorced but she is looked down upon even when her ex-husband was the one who cheated on her and abused her. This stigma should change as a society.
I mean you literally customise your partner and then decude to fall in love.While in love marriage the love thing the falling for taht person is completely natural
@@imr004 Agreed!! Divorce is itself seen as a taboo and for a woman it becomes more difficult. And yes I missed this point, the choice need to be given whether it's for love for arranged!
Which part of India did you go??? I am a genz working women financial independent but i will go for arrange marriage. This is priority of most Indians frankly most of us have no time or luxury to fall in love convince our parents then go throught breakups then marry...everything is complex. In arrange marriage you can specify what you want clearly. Also the girl who says arrange marriage is a gmable is wrong...the matchmaker did not search a good guy and you alwayz have a choice of divorce. I would rather say love marriage is risky because you know only 1 dimension if that man who acts like a Bollywood star for u. In arrange you know his family, drinking smoking etc., you check everything from neighbors to degree to income everything there are very less surprises in arrange marriage. The couple with white shirt man and specs is right for most answers.
Marriage in India is a whole another game. It is not about two people wanting to live together but it is more of a family affair. The family "name and honor" is still a big deal and they would never let you marry if the person you are marrying has an equal or lower "status" than you. If you are marrying rich, they'll have ZERO qualms about it. Marriage in India is very intrusive and the couple marrying has no rights over their own marriage. The word "privacy" in the Indian dictionary means the couple is rebellious and is actually trying to disregard the emotion of their parents. A married couple can have the "privacy" if their parents allow them to have it. P.S. by privacy I mean privacy, not sex. That is a different story.
Worthless question this is, it's an individual's personal choice, whatever the reason is, that's personal as well. Let me give an one line answer of this question: We have couple of options to find a life partner while the rest have only one.
I know a lot of people who are with a bad partner and living a unhappy life and all of them had arranged marriage Arranged marriage has a big chance of ending up with a wrong person since familys can do background check and they cant assess their personality thats why dating is important The thing is we have to normalize divorce and not be judgemental and shame love marriages
????that's why education is important...think 2 times before you speak.....love marriage too have bad partners...sala jitna chutiyapa love marriage me hota hai...usse to kam hi arrange me hota h....ttu love marriage hi kr lio...agr chal gaya to thk agr nhi work kia...to yaad krna apne baap ko...ki are baap ne to bola tha arrange marriage krne ko...mai hi chutiya tha jo nhi kia..
well the courts say, more divorces come up from love marriages. So clearly the mode of marriage is not correlated to the partners' efforts of sustaining the marriage. Ignore this statement and act cool. hahaha culture bad hahaha.
Our marriage was arranged by our parents 46 years ago. We are still happily together. Arranged or love marriage does not matter. You must make a commitment to your spouse fully and strive to make the marriage work. Ideally, you should be willing to sacrifice or forgo anything to keep your commitment!. My biggest worry today is "will she be able to take care of herself once I am gone? "
Assamese here, me and my friends are in a age group where we're all financially settled and now the next step is to get married. our parents are telling us to find OURSELVES our ideal guys and then our parents will contemplate whether they're suitable or not. My Colleagues who are from UP, Rajasthan, Haryan and Bihar mostly ALL of them had arrange marriages some of them are happy no doubt but some of the men are cheating on their wives and constantly tell us that they're not happy with their parents' choices and thus the cheating. It's sad really
My good friend didn't like the first two men her parents wanted her to marry. She liked the third guy & married him. My friend told me that its ridiculous how much money parents spend on Indian weddings. She's not going to spend 1 million dollars like her parents did for her. I couldn't believe 3,000 people came to her wedding. Plus, many people go to Indian weddings without being invited because all are welcome. I told her in America they have restaurants require a body count so they know how much food to make.
Honestly it makes me sick thinking about all those people at one wedding. I can’t even imagine more than 30 people at mine, and that’s including my bf’s side of the family too. That’s too much work, money and energy to keep up. Seems like people just want to take advantage of when it comes to Indian weddings. Sounds like a nightmare!
😂😂 girls rape cases rising in India unmarried girls specially Teasing unmarried women 😂 Women safety until when you will live in your parents home 🏡. Until when your parents will be there with you
These people are just parroting stuff they read on the Internet and this is tad bit boring that they asked only young people. Divorce rate is low not because society hates it, or just like how these people made it sound like the society gets you killed😂 if you divorce. But the thing is divorce doesn't happen because there's no proper infrastructure, for men and mostly women to live life as a single parent. Also there's a less participation of women in work force so it makes it even more difficult for women to survive. Other factors include, people are lazy in India children are not properly nurtured to be independent or live on their own since childhood. So for young adults who recently got married and thinking of splitting may have a difficult time to just go for divorce since that would make their standard of living dropping low.
Its pretty normal for me either love or arranged marriages both you have to give your 100%. And nowadays who only sees a picture before marriage, people go out check their compatibility and then only decides for themselves. Its more like tinder except thro your parent rather than app.
I am from northeast, the cultural shock I had when I started living in Delhi was when I came across marriage ads like those people are basically products for eg cars.
@@Naveenbr-kp8gc1yi3d Did i say thats an issue? See you are projecting your negative outlook you got. I only said that was a cultural shock. Go touch grass.
Arranged can be happy too so is not all tragic like people think. I know 2 arranged marriages that are extremely blissful and happy. One is my sister in law’s parents who were in an arranged marriage and are now very happily married for 61 years now. They have 8 kids and 20 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. Another is my friend’s parents who are happily married for 47 years now with 3 kids and 6 grandchildren. Arranged marriages or any kind of marriage takes work and effort. Dating for long periods of time prior to marriage is not a guarantee as you need to learn as you go since you change as well as your partner.
Arranged or love marriage but anything without support from Family and more importantly without support from relatives and society is bound to face much more hardships. Because the concept of love itself has become more individualized. But love must come with respect and it must be with everyone we encounter in our life. Marriage is a part of the whole bigger love we give and get from this world. Due to industrialisation, modernisation and westernization the idea of love also has become commercial that people say arranged marriage/ love marriage!!! Actually there was 8 types of marriage in ancient society of which only one was illegal - the one without the consent of the girl. Remaining 7 are acceptable as per traditions.
@@devraajmoran5969They are only 5 he is talking rubbish OK just ignore OK 1.Brahma Vivaha 2.Daeva Vivaha 3.Arsha Vivaha 4.Prajapatya Vivaha 5.Gandharva Vivaha
I am glad to see this insight from India. As a person who has lived in multiple places, I have heard this question so many times. Also, since India is such a huge and populated country, I think the insight of south Indians should also come up on this channel. Looking forward to that video too!
I think the olden days when most people lived in agrarian societies, arranged marriages worked because they’re similar / homogenous cultures fewer range of professions. These days there are so many options and personalities that it can be more difficult to land a partner that’s compatible. As long as both the families and the partners are committed to helping the marriage work, it doesn’t matter whether it’s from love or arrangement.
I am just here watching all these videos because I am inlove with an Indian guy, we were doing great. The respect, the mutual understanding, care and love is there.. not until his parents decided to find someone for him and at some point even if it’s hurting both of us. We needed to let go 😔and me on the other side left shattered and thinks I would never love again, he will always be my “the one that got away”. What we had was perfect unfortunately he is arranged to marry someone else
@TwistLeak - The Aspirant no it didn't. Love marriage for me. Almost 20 years together. Happily married. Still having a bad relationship with family, but I don't give a f**k 😁
Because divorce is taboo, not because people are happy in their marriage. Women don't file for divorce even if husband is abusive most of the time and they don't get family support because of how stigmatised it is. In love marriage people are more empowered in their marriage. Low divorce rates are not a good thing
I have two friends who married through arranged marriages and are happy- I can appreciate that in a world where the norm is for men to use women and vice versa until everyone is single and heartbroken. The families liking each other is a big plus!
Basically people are talking in English and blindly follow western culture and on the other hand western people coming to India to follow our tradition
The thing I find most funny is how people say in arrange marriages many people are suffering even though they want divorce because of their parents pressure but don't you think divorce is more embarrassing in love marriages where you fight against your family only to get divorced in the end and who said always love marriages end well not at all. Even after years of dating before marriage many people end up getting divorce saying dating is different than living together.
@@mystica7284definitely like divorce is normalised but the problem is in old age you end up fending for yourself with no relatives, I have heard of my relative who died after slipping and for two days no one knew.
@@multiverse6989 yeah society needs to change, some isolate the ppl who are divorced and treating them as someone to look down upon.. we still got long way to go as a progressive society.
some people areip ignorant. arrange marriage doesn't mean a firced marriage. your families just provide you a match and you have to mee that persn not just decide by seeing a photo. you go on dates and it's just like tinder for a serious relationship
Last year, a survey conducted among Indian youths. The question will you marry someone from outside your caste ? 90 percent of them responded “NO”. Even if it’s love they will prefer from same caste like forward caste will marry from other forward caste, OBC from other OBC etc.. If this was the response from Indian educated youths I feel very sorry and hopeless. Still many of my friends say caste is no more an issue in India but the survey tells a different story.
There is this stigma going around, when it comes to arrange marriages in India. Peope imagine that Arrange marriages are forced upon Youngesters, and the partners are strictly their parent's choice. Which might be True in some Cases, but at least in the Current the reak meaning differs from it a lot. Arrange marriages are supposed to be Decisions taken on with Rationality and Logic aspects rather letting you emotions take better of you (which is the case in some love marriages). Rational/Practical factors like, Education, Family Background, Beliefs, Income, Same culture are somethings which is considered firsthand by both sides, as having some sort assimilation and similarities among each other and among there family is very important. Arrange marriages are bascially like taking advantages of you parents or elders experience in consideration, which might prove to a very big factor in for a happy relationship. At least in my community it is very common to let People choose there Partners on their own, and supported by their parents as well, as long as it is based on Practicality and not on Emotional Bias. And it also very common to let your parents find you a suitable Partner, which is true for both Guys and Girls (Inclusive of other genders as well).
desi garls dont have brains, they just copy paste whatever gori mem think about them. sheeeps.. once gori meme start doing kundli milaan , kallu desi girls wil copy them too. like astrology
Before it was physically forced but now it is mentally forced or emoitonal balckmail !! Tbh, the concept and purpose of arranged marriage was very cheap from the beginning only!! If you want to do arranged marriage then arrange yourself and then bring your parents I to scenario... Coz your perspective of life and spending if life is totally different than your parents .. When you choose you do mistakes then you learn but when someone else do for you and you do mistakes then you won't learn much from that be it for marriage , education , job anything ...
@@ranjitamalakar2297 So your idea of life is to make mistakes and then learn instead of trying to be responsible wow. Purpose of marriage is enforced monogamy to prevent a polyamorous society and not find some love story for everyone. Law of attraction is chaotic and unfair but you stick to surface level whataboutery of youth's mindset, openness, infatuation, love etc.
My grandparents are happily living their arrange marriage and they r in their 80s , its been 60 years since they married and they still love and care each other, so i thinks arranged marriage is good ❤. But in my case it will be not possible as i am a gay and i thinks i will be die 😅 without getting married or life partner 😊.😢
It is the single most important reason why caste is so important in India. The first criterion is caste, the next is color and the third is money. Horoscope matching gives credibility to the process.
If one wants to marry in same caste, what's the problem. If their preference is fair skinned person what's the problem. For Money no argument. You must know the difference between "Preference" and "Discrimination". For some fair skin is more appealing than darker skins, what's the problem in that? Problem is he/she should not be harassed for her color. Preference is different for everyone. Some prefers more intelligent, some more good-looking, some prefers same caste, I don't see any problem in that. Though, forcing is wrong. Some parents want their children to marry in same caste, but if they are able to get a good person, what's the problem in that? Simple.... People in the west or anywhere in the world do that too. Why are Indian taunted for finding bright skin girls or boys or using bleaching stuffs (Though I hate chemicals) when even in west people go for tans parlors or beaches, those who have very pale white skin, do make ups like eye lashes and all? It's simply they prefer to do it.
In short, if the boy & girl can't marry by themselves with their own will then how can they go for divorce by themselves 🤣 BTW I support love marriage only because I have a lots of trust issues & I can't give my whole life to a stranger to whom I had met for a few days only. I am an Indian only & indian parents always taught us to not to trust or take anything or don't go with any stranger since childhood days.. then in this age how can we marry a stranger with whom we had met for just few days 😑 I love the British accent of that girl with specs though
In india kids actually know who their parents are and what are their genders. They are not confused about their gender ,their parents gender and majority of them also don't have daddy and mommy issues unlike some other places. They also go to schools and other public places without thinking that someone might randomly shoot them.
You can give people the option who can't speak good english in these videos to speak in hindi and provide subtitles. Make the interviewers ask the people if they are comfortable in english, or would like to switch...
I would never marry someone i don't know about. I might get divorce but the time we'll spend together will be more amazing than arranged marriage for hole life😑
Firstly what's probability that he shows you about his hidden side. Noone upload unhappy pictures in Instagram. If anyone upload it then he has some motives behind it.
I bet you're 16 years old. Everybody talks like this when they are 16, but eventually you'll have some relationships and at the end you'd ask your parents or agree to the parents wishes to find prospective matches. Lol
@@kdrama1218 the question isn't about the love/arrange marriage. You can't get love marriage just because you want it, you've to actively look for it and find people to date. And quite a very few marriages happens after dating, most don't find their partners financially sound and dump their boyfriends and marry by the arrange marriage process. And for the arranged marriages in 2023 it isn't really much different from the Love marriages. The only time the difference is huge when in "Love marriages" the couple had lived in as a live in couple.
A warning for delhites and foreigners never say "Baal Vivaah" and "Child Marriage" in Rajasthan you will literally risk yourself getting beaten and yes its true and common marriages at 16-17 yo is common
14:41 not just girl try to make marriage work boys also do the same And its not just because of society pressure alone there are moral values ethics sanskaar (family morals)
Honestly I feel marriage as a whole is a gamble and I'd rather not gamble. I did have a talk with my parents, and they aren't being pushy as of now but I def think soon they will. I'm already being pushed by relatives to start looking for grooms tho. :'( What's sad is when I meet up with my friends, they always mention how they are having a hard time being forced to get married. They do have the option to say no, but things are getting really sour with their parents the more they say no.... :( As for me, yes I know being single forever would be hard and lonely... ig? But I'd rather have my freedom tbh. Aaah relationships have too much restrictions and compromises and I can't! Goodness I am already done with this life. I was done with this life years go!
I am from Maharashtra, love marriages are really common here. The only guys and girls left for arranged marriage are the leftovers. All the good ones get into relationships and get married later on.
Not true . I have seen lot of marathis who are unmarried. Also what I have heard is that most marathis don't prefer non marathis for marriage since they don't like non marathis. Some of them are quite egoistic about being marathis especially girls which seems quite annoying to a non marathi person.
@@raghavrathore3698 this has nothing to do with my comment. I said that marathi youth gets into relationships and marries off. Then it may be within community or outside.
@@ameyatikhe3336 since I live in a democratic country I have full right to express my views. At last I will stick to my point that you people don't like non marathis. You have full right to interpret it your way.
M from north east n had love marriage....the best about love marriage for me is that i still share the same memories with my wife....those dates, photos, roaming in auto, rickshaw, bikes,messages,meeting at our spot, celebrating festivals .....all these memories will be there forever n i still feel young in mind n heart thinking about all those beautiful memories....still feel the same....but thats just my opinion....
If we apply a little common sense, we can say that sustainability of marriage is independent from mode of marriage. You can't project your personal experience to form facts regarding social institutions.
Nowadays arranged marriages are like love marriages where you get in contact with a girl or boy with the help of a broker/matrimony site.Then you get a few months or even a year for courtship. In the end its a better deal bcoz you get family support and can blame your parents if it doesn't work out😂
In HInduism we say a marriage is for 7 lifes a marriage is not a mere contract its the marriage of two souls who are not bounded by their physical existence i believe in this I believe in the love of Radha rani and Krishna ji
A big reason for our parents to prefer arranged marriage is also caste. In love marriages, the chances of your partner being of a different caste are way higher, but in an arranged marriage they always go for the same caste. However, there are exceptions even in love marriages, like a friend of mine preferred to date a guy only after ensuring that he is from the same caste as hers because her family would never have accepted a guy from another caste. Very rarely some parents look for partners of other castes for their children but this is also an exception because in such cases their own child is either divorced, differently abled, or manglik (a problem in astrology), all of these make their child a non-suitable partner for many. Indian parents still can't accept their children's love marriage if their partner belongs to a different caste. Sometimes the parents even abandon their children if they go against their wishes to marry someone from another caste (let alone religion). Indians are still living in the 14th century.
This is the reality of most of the families specially middle class and lower class. Surprising how nobody mentioned caste system much as it is a product of caste system and yes India still lives in 1400s when it comes to these issues even in cities.
@@ritwik99 Ya , that's why 70% of people taking reservation ! On the basis of caste ! I'm a rajput , mine age is 18 and marrying same caste is good make your blood pure and your culture !
@@Ansh.Rajpu.t Agreed on the reservation point and I feel it is bringing in unfairness and difficulties to the people who do not get it. Marriage is one's personal choice, love or arranged both are okay if your parents support. And it's just my opinion and one can disagree.
@@Ansh.Rajpu.t That is such a stupid ideology and the aspect of blood being pure only if a person marries of the same caste is completely illogical and is the reason why India is still lagging behind various factors.
hey Asian boss, can you please let interviews in India be in Hindi or their mother tongues, i have seen a lot of your videos of interviews in different countries, everywhere they speak their mother tongue but in India everyone is speaking in English (which is not bad of course). But it would be really nice to see my people talk in our mother tongues to show the world our languages!
Why do we use English in every field of India? *(Why do we need English)* 1) India is a *"multilingual"* country & we have a different language family's *(Indo-european, Dravidian, indo-iranian sino-tibetan, Tibeto-burman, Semitic, astro-asiatic Etc..)* & India has no _-national language-_ or any _-monolingual policy-_ the country of India is a *"union system'* and "all languages are respected equally" 2) Only English is recognized and used as the *"second official language"* in all states of India! (After their state's official language) 3) English is the only language used in all fields of India *(science, technology, education, medical, business, job field, information, space field, Navy, etc..)* 4) English is emerging as the future *"lingua franca"* of India and the World 5) English is *"indispensable"* today and giving more value to "English" after our "State language" is also good for our financial empowerment.
I think arranged marriages are fine as long as it’s consensual. My uncle got arranged married, but he and his bride had a bit of time to get to know each other and agree.
No in current scenario we are looking for working woman no housemaker. That was thing of the past maybe early 2000 and if people saying that no they still look for housemakers then your bunch is just "Tribal groups who hasn't advanced"
Well in my own opinion i prefer love marriage because its much to know the person's personality before marrying just like that and marriage must not supposed to be forced because marriage means to show love and affection
