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@@venturerweegee64 we win these, man. We win these. Gotta bring em to the edge and wobble em. Don't let their wavedashes fool you, anxiety has zer0 air fighting skills.
As someone struggling with an anxiety disorder, this is important. Waiting to feel comfortable with a thing is a losing game. You're just prolonging the anxiety snd letting it build. Spend that effort finding ways to just do the thing. Get someone involved for support. Plan out what youll do and say (write it down or practice if you need to). Get your ass through that proverbial door however you need to, and THEN start the work on getting more comfortable.
The best I can add to this is: Don't think about it. The more you think the more scared you'll be. I find that I do many things that I'm initially scared of, in a moment of thoughtlessness.
@loganallen6250 While I agree that it's very difficult to just straight up not think of something that scares you, I interpreted this more as a "clear your mind and just do it" statement than a "forget about it entirely" statement.
@@loganallen6250 I have complete understanding of that. I never said that it's easy to not think, especially with something you are scared of. I simply said that the first step is easier when your fear hasn't been building for too long.
Except they're still semi-right. Still be scared, but you need to have the confidence that you will not hurt people. Learn how to take those precautions to keep other people safe, but don't forget that fear.
You literally can't be brave without the fear. If you're not scared, that thing you did was just a thing you did. Bravery is doing the thing inspite of the fear. Hell, bravery might be doing the thing Because of the fear.
Answers like those are how I got my friend to go on rollercoasters, my friend has gone from being afraid of them to enjoying them a ton. She’s afraid of drop towers though.
That's also how you fight a panic disorder. Going against it helps your subconscious realize that buying bread in a bakery is not, in fact, deadly. Source: my own panic disorder
Indeed. Bravery isn’t the lack of fear, it is being afraid and still doing it. Doing something scary and not being afraid is not bravery, it is stupidity
This is half true. Sometimes our fear though becomes paralyzing. We know we just need to ultimately do the thing, but getting unstuck sometimes takes help. Example: I once went rock climbing with my family. We were out most of the day and I was doing fine. Then suddenly my fear kicked in. A climbing move I was already skilled at suddenly seemed impossible. I knew I needed to get down from the rock but there was suddenly no safe path for me to take. I was like a kitten stuck in a tree. Ultimately my brother had to help direct my movement. Put your foot here, now reach for that hold... And we are down. But there was ABSOLUTELY no way in that moment that without his instructions, that my body was going to attempt those fairly simple movements.
My mom sometimes tells me the quote "there is no growth in the comfort zone and no comfort in the growth zone". Basically, it's easy to do what you're comfortable with. Doing something you're not comfortable with is hard, but it's how you get better.
I was terrified scaling a cliff in a thunderstorm. I didn't have any other choice though, it was keep moving up, or be stranded in the storm. Most exhilarating experience of my life, but next time, I'm not trusting the condemned "shortcut" XD
Having left fear behind during my teenage years, i struggle to understand this idea. You can also think about what you're gonna do and realise you're unlikely to die, and be serene. Only thing I'm afraid of these days is getting bit by a snake, or a gunpoint robbery given how rare they are here and it's likely they'd just shoot me because they can.
My favorite example for this is Courage the Cowardly Dog, because even though he’s super scared of the episode’s monster he still goes in to save those he cares for thus being courageous in spite of his fear.
Luigi in a nutshell. Man is reasonably scared when deadly ghosts steal his bro, yet he sighs and moves forward anyway, being terrified out of his mind.
Here's the thing that i think this thread is missing: Don't just do it scared, do it at the minimum level of fear you can achieve. If you're *too* scared it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you're not scared at all you don't truly understand the risks and could get yourself or aomeone else hurt. You need to find the right balance of fear and courage where you know the consequences of failure well enough to avoid them, but have the courage to not go too far in the other direction either.
Courage/bravery is doing something despite being afraid. You can't be brave if you aren't afraid, because doing something dangerous without fear is foolishness, being afraid means you still have your wits about you in a dangerous situation, courage is not letting that fear stop you and instead turns that fear into a shield and sword. It means that you are aware of and can act when it becomes too dangerous and get yourself out to safety.
Just my philosophy: I personally am much more afraid of the fact that I still don't know what death actually _is_ other than; living thing becomes object. The perspective of life is alien in the face of it's antithesis, It's a fear of the unknown. Sometimes fear is something you have to live in spite of, like trauma. You sort of just have scars and one of those scars is the reminder all things must pass. You're not alone though, don't let the anticipation of last page stop you from reading a good book. Don't let spoilers control how you feel about your favorite shows. Don't let death scare you away from life; let it be a reminder of how beautiful living really is. Chase that beauty. Also just talk to one of your friends about it, tell them your having a rough time. Don't have friends? Get out there and make some. I know its scary and hard but most things are at first. Take your time. Good luck out there.
Courage always feels like a terrifying rollercoaster for the first time > Might as well do this now > WHAT HAVE I CHOSEN TO DO GO BACK GO BACK > I'm gonna close my eyes and hope the bad feeling goes away > Huh... This isn't so bad. I'm gonna open my eyes. > Hey, this is fun! I love doing this! > I'm going to do this again soon (Last few steps may not apply all the time, but there's always a feeling of accomplishment after doing the scary thing)
i remember i was climbing a big rock and there was water and i was scared but i couldn't go back because the path was one way and everyone was going up so i went and that was like the most terrifying experience in like, a month since it involved real danger. i could've fallen off at any moment, it was so slippery, and i was standing on a very small "spike" (i dont know what to call it)
I would add that learn the distinction between being anxious about something, and shitting yourself with anxiety-anxious. It is fine to face things while not feeling 100% confident about something... But, for example, don't force yourself to get up to a high height while being extremely anxious about it. Try to calm yourself down to the level, at the very least, where that fear doesn't make you prone to have an accident. Let the fear focus you, not blind you.
The start of this sounded like it was condoning prolonged exposure therapy. 😅 Also, there _are_ psychological ways (like mental rehearsal) to increase your confidence before you do the thing.
I do want to say that if you have a mental illness, it's not that simple. You will probably need therapy to be able to do things again. "Just do the thing" is not necessarily advice that applies to you and don’t feel bad if you can't do it. Your fight is a different one and that's okay. Maybe you'll have days you can do the thing in spite of your fear, but if you can't at others (or never), that's also okay. Get the help, take your time and know that we are rooting for you!
Fun fact scientists have recently discovered the part of the brain that produces willpower they've actually stated that you can grow your willpower by doing things you don't like or even are scared to do
I tried to do it with donating blood (I'm afraid of medical settings). Didn't work, because freaking out is counter indication on it's own, and "I'm not allowed to freak out" doesn't work
Find one that's specialized in people who are afraid of dentists! They exist. They will work with you and talk you through. Some will even be able to give you medication to calm you down.
