@@HopieMMTuko wengi. But I always say that as much as it looks beautiful to me, I still understand that it's not an easy thing to be in and therefore I have to figure out myself first before I bring someone else into my circle.
Off topic but Judy has the best genetics like sis is aging backwards, she doesn't look her age and is a natural beauty. This is the most swahili Wanjiru has spoken on an episode, she seems lighter and free around them
I'd love to think that what keeps the spark in our relationship is the fact that we are constantly talking to each other. In the beginning of the relationship,we realized how we could wake up an hour or two before the alarm when either of us lost sleep and since we're both light sleepers,we just start talking about anything and it moves from udaku and hot mucéne 🔥😅 to plans about how we'd like our future to be. At some point,we kind of lost that and found that we'd argue and fight alot. Sometimes even,as soon as one woke up, they'd go to another room and just watch something by themselves. It took almost a bad breakup to realize where we went wrong and we slowly got back to intentionally Talking,appreciating and understanding one another to get us back to that 'honeymoon'phase. And now life together is better than ever. So definitely talking, whether on phone,texts or in person ❤️❤️And I'm blessed because it's never a dull moment with him 😊
Hey guys!! recently discovered you and I am loving it(from wabosha's channel)so I am in a long distance relationship ,my partner is in Kirinyaga county and I am in Kisumu because of school,now one thing that keeps the spark is the friendship ... yaaani he's my only mdaku mate...we all involve each other kwa our day to day moments.... after a long day at school I just can't wait to face time him and tell him how the lectures were boring or how smart I felt that day or how many people commented on my outfit..you feel me?😂... and its been 3yrs now and still going 🥰🥰
Ben na Mkuru pamoja! Leo tutacheka tukufe 🤣🤣 On to the question of how we keep the spark alive... My husband and I have regular 'review' sessions where we ask each other questions like 'Have I been a good partner to you this week?', 'Is there an area you think I can grow in?', 'How can I love you better in this season' etc... Such conversations keep the spark alive for us.
Interesting how we have this version of love and relationships existing but what's getting more latitude is the "negative" aspect... And you can read genuineness in between their conversations.
I feel like reminding each other how special they are will always keep the spark...sometimes we forget how special your significant other is when it becomes like a hamster wheel.
The worst thing about this episode is that it ends! You two wonderful couples dropping gems. To keep the spark in my relationship we started working out and reading the bible together and honestly i live for these moments. This is our 6th year and it only gets better. Also we have taken lots of notes there. #Tcb_naturals.
One thing my partner and I do to keep the spark alive is to make sure we talk out our problems as soon as they arise to avoid any resentment from being formed because we know that that's one thing that brings relationships down. We also actively tell each other why we love each other and what we'd like our future to be like and those are just the few things that keep the spark alive here 🥰. We've been dating for 11 months now, turning an year on December 3rd🥰
Amazing people, these guys make marriage beautiful, it helps debunk izi story tunashinda kuambiawa marriage is not an achievement, it is. You graduate into a critical step in life and if it's that beautiful, you deserve applause. Many people can't even embrace the responsibilities and values that come with it
Hey Wanjiru & Ben. After 7 years in our relationship, we ensure that we keep the spark alive by doing things that your partner loves that you might not necessarily enjoy and doing this genuinely. It doesn't cost me anything to participate in what he loves. The fact that we put in the effort to be present in what we both love brings us joy and keeps the spark ignited. I don't have to love what you love, but because you want me there I will be present and I will fully immerse myself in the experience. This has really kept things alive for us because we are not closed off to what each of us wants.
Being best friends, finding laughs and fun in the simplest things. Saying please and thank you, it never gets tired. Pray together. Thank you for sharing your personal journeys, helps us all relate. You all seem to intentionally make your relationships fun rather than work. Kudos.
At the beginning the year we wrote down things to achieve together. Regular home dates .Babe buys maize and anachoma kwa balcony.We also have regular deep conversations
What i and the mandem do to keep our relationship alive is definitely trying new activities i.e games, new cuisines and restaurants,travelling and the new goal is to finally move in. We really enjoy our quality time together. I also love that he involves me in his work and i get to put in my creative perspective and it goes a long mile.
What makes our relationship spark is our friendship , words of affirmation and encouragement to each other , communication and respect to one another 💯
Honestly,,,I have watched this episode twice and I'm sure I'll still do so over and over. I use some of these questions on my partner and they've really helped us to understand each other, contributing to our growth.
This episode has taught me to appreciate different phases in life esp when you are in a long committed relationship, people change and evolve in different stages, and it's okay. Live for the moment.
The things we do to ensure there's the spark in our relationship is by constantly pursuing our friendship because it forms a basis of our romantic relationship and this way,we always get a trajectory from the basics of our love journey.... Really loved today's episode ❤️
Abel Mutua is an intelligent 🧠 person. Intelligent people are found to be more forgetful than those with average intelligence. Intelligent people have selective memories. They choose to retrieve specific facts and events and exclude others. They focus on what's important and have the ability to discard the rest.
Hey guys! I absolutely love your podcast, found it recently and have been enjoying the content so far. I was looking forward to this episode, but I find it a bit hard to understand it because of the language I’m not Kenyan, so it would be great if you added some subtitles on the videos when you are speaking your language for us to follow better. ❤
What helps us keep the spark in our marriage is learning together. We strive to be learning something new,that will either grow us individually or as a couple.
What we do to ensure there is spark in our relationship is learn new things together like for instance right now we are learning how to code and it's really fulfilling when we complete a project successfully
To keep our spark alive, my boyfriend and I plan adventures. We find that experiencing different things together (especially for the first time) makes us want to have more together.
My favourite episode yet It was so refreshing. It felt like unawatch mastory ya mabeshte. Best collaboration very natural, wonderful. Good mentorship from veterans hapa. I like what Abel said the environment you raise watoto has alot of influence on personality. I am so impressed the level of trust that Phil and Judy can meet and their partners are cool and their friendship helps both marriages that's huge!!
I always look forward to a notification of a new episode. Wanjiru has really become more comfortable in the podcasts. The couples are very authentic, you make me appreciate that relationships are not hard but require work. Your relationships look as real as possible. We can easily relate with you guys. Asanteni sana.
Waaa i watch this podcast religiously but hii i feel like i want to get married now 😅😅😅 you guys are lovely and fun loooved every second of this episode the stories,the humour perfect ❤️
What we do to ensure the spark is still there is understanding that whatever we go through individually affects the both us, so as much as it is hard ,we address all issues, call each other out (respectfully) at any given time and commit to change whole heartedly. He eliminated the idea of I and introduced a 'we' notion which creates unity in all aspects, emotionally, psychologically and even financially (budgeting together). I'd say its a working progress and i love it.
What I do to ensure the spark is there ,is work on myself and also make sure am pulling for the best of the relationship also being intentional in the little things like just celebrating a win even if its a small one.
I relate to Abel's first statement...my Form 1 business teacher used to say..."Joyriders, please... don't choose this subject in form 3...Just joyride until then and select a different subject!
for me I think doing things that the other person enjoys intentionally maintains the spark....also ensuring that you're present in anything that matters to your person...
The thing we do to maintain the spark in the relationship is to remind each other that we are still friends and ensure the friendship grows and is mutually beneficial so that it can reflect on the relationship because the growth reciprocates on us together and personally for each of us ❤
Such an amazing episode 🌟 What we do to ensure the spark is still there is doing intentional check-ins with each other on what we’re struggling with, what progress we’ve made for a certain goal. Also having different types of dates indoors or outdoors to break monotony.
The one thing I promised to do but have not kept it till date is kununuliana jezi ya arsenal. Na vile sai tuko side ya ushindi! I should definitely grab this chance otherwise staki kusemekana nimekuwa kama gavment please. Also, the episode is F for Fire!!!!!!
Two of my best couples. Really enjoyed this episode. Friendship has been a pillar for my relationship for sure, even when things are rocky we still find our friendship blossoming.
Wow😃....this show is the best ☺️🥰azin I love how wakurugenzi n the Ben's combination.....you guys are open n make us understand things that are in relationships especially....plz bring wakurugenzi many times 🙂
Everything is in point but the most important thing I got 'when there is unity God commands a blessing' am married and this Bible verse is a turning point.. encouragement. Bigup
My husband and i have date nights once a week, we been on this for the past 9 years now.. this is what we do to keep the spark.. loved this conversation ALOOOT!
wow, you guys are so inspirational Mungu aki atuoneanie sisi masingles with such or even better relationships. You guys give me so much hope that all is not lost in terms of relationships.
Iam a newbie and this episode is so refreshing, fun and has agreat lessons. I love men who do house chores I'm honestly thankful to my partner he cleans ,cooks and etc. Keep doing what you're doing good job guys.
I hope the German car we're talking about is a BMW🔥Ben chose a Mercedes over a Beamer when he was at collective worship and my heart broke. Wanjiru I promise you, X6 2020 model will look more beautiful on you😌💯
I think the highlight for me sana sana is seeing Wanjiru speaking Sheng or a mix of swahili with English.. This way I feel so relatable to her and even to her aura as a human being and that she is not an influencer who is out of reach..
To keeping the spark between I and my partner is that we maintain that respect amongst ourselves that friendship last forever n incase of misunderstanding, we resolve it asap. And above all making sure that we keep it on high in achieving our dreams putting them down on pen n paper on level of achievement.
If there's a project that has kept us together is having two kids under 2 yrs weeh. It brought out a side of us we didn't know, and we knew we have to fight together for our sanity🤣🤣. Bt other financial projects too. They drain you financially sometimes but once you achieve it weeh, that kafeeling acha tu
My first time to comment on this channel... I have watched with a wide grin 😊as though I know you both very well. Godly united marriages are just a blessing; preservation to you both in Yeshua's name! Thank God there's a part 2 coming...