Do Straight People REALLY Understand Their Queer Friends? (Shocking Answers)  

I'm not part of LGBT but one thing that always makes me side eye is when people say "it's not my place to judge, thats gods job" cuz it implies that if it was, you would be, and it would be a bad judgement lol.

I’m not black but I’m Latina and experience this too. It’s always “I’ll love you anyway” but no one gasses me up when I wear masculine clothing or bring a girl back. There’s always an air of discomfort and disapproval. Even some friends that are seemingly okay with that are uncomfortable with PDA with my gf or talking about my sex life with her, despite me being able to talk about that with men (I thought I was bi). I feel you a lot, sending love

There is still a level of uncomfortableness in the black straight community and it's going to take more time to overcome this. We are slowly evolving and are at a point where we can acknowledge, talk and tolerate to a certain degree. I'm older and can see the progress. We now have a face and are out in the open which forces straight folk to see us. With that comes normalization, coupled with generational change leads from tolerance to acceptance.

I noticed this awhile ago. I came out to a few of my straight friends while I was at university. One in particular, we were friends from the same high school. I would always be a listening ear about issues with her boyfriend and life. I genuinely asked how things were going with him and she would vent to me. So when I came out to her, she 1st thought it was a phase, cause I'm at uni and she thought that's what some people do apparently. Her reaction was very nonchalant when I came out to her (*should mention I'm Jamaican, so its not a common thing to do and be open about*) Anyways years later after college we would check in with each other and I would ALWAYS ask her about her life and how things are going. Then I would realize she never asked me about my life in the same way. Mind you we would have long phone convos and none of that would come up. She had no curiosity of how I'm living as a lesbian in Jamaica, none whatsoever. But she was able to vent to me about her life. I eventually broke that friendship. If the friendship cant be a two way street, its not for me.

This is good, it’s making me think. You’ve covered what a lack of support looks like, what does real support look like?

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. Thanks for defining what should be a norm. So many parallels with this and racism. It is wild to continue perpetuating a practice of not honoring someones full humanity. 🤯

This was an amazing video!! Thank you! I've got a completely unrelated question, are you from New Orleans? Your accent reminds me of home.

Great video ❤

I don’t feel like it’s right for me to require my friends to date/marry people who are affirming. As long as those people don’t desire to harm me, what their partners feel is none of my business. That person isn’t my friend; their partner is.

There's an opinion and there's just dead wrong. Hating a group of people for something uncomfortable is wrong. Supporting and giving energy to someone like that, willingly and consensually shows the lack of support. That's not a simple difference of opinion, that's human life and existence. You can't be an ally while support and anti. Thats all

K lol

Maybe, your friends just don't like you. My friends don't let any homophobic shit happen around me

Also, don't you have a spine? Or a mouth? Feel free to defend yourself or just walk away. You don't have to like all of your friend's friends, and neither do they have to like you