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I watch this over and over again, because I've always been a giver and don't know how to receive without feeling guilty. I think it comes from having to take care of my mother when she was sick and I was still a child. My parents were divorced when I was 13, and I was forced into the "parent" role because my mother had health issues and needed help. When it comes to gift giving, I always make a note to remember what people like and remember them on holidays and birthdays. Thank you so much for this great vid. Helps me to be more aware of what I should give and when to give.

I dated a (very grumpy) guy who said I was "score keeping". Umm, sure, because I am being observant as to what you are offering and bringing to the relationship because I'm a very charitable, helpful person who has gotten screwed over and over by giving too much of myself! LOL So glad to be rid of him for many reasons!

This is very timely. I am very generous and enjoy giving. It is his birthday today and wonder if I was too generous. I will listen intently, I love gift giving and do not care if I receive equally but maybe I should care? I'm not sure how to measure whether I'm giving too much,

I did that. Overly, and sure enough regretted it. Never again

Thank you Susan, another priceless advice. I’m a over-giver of time, affection, gifts, resources. Usually to takers who don’t reciprocate, which creates hurt and resentment on my part, and confusion on theirs. It’s something I’m working on, but it’s extremely hard as it became a part of my personality by now. Greetings from the UK ❤

Words of affirmation & flowers in my book or cooking dinner :) Anything more ---> actual gifts - jewerly, vacation trips, etc. too early is pressure for me. For a gold digger, they will love it & expect more & more.

Wow this is so good! Thank you Susan and also Alexander who sent in the question🙏

It also was my #1 weakness.

Susan, I just wanted to pop in and say that you look extra lovely in your recent videos, so whatever you're doing, keep it up! 🤩

This is an especially important topic. I have experienced this because of my ability to and normal personality trait. After all these years I’ve learned a lot.

I needed to hear this. I downloaded this video into my playlist for a frequent reminder. Giving is my love language but I am learning to give time and space to the recipient for some form of reciprocation as guidance.

Thanks Miss Susan for always taking every situation in context and giving lessons accordingly. You're such a valuable teacher for me. I was able to move on from the psychological mess I had few years ago because of the unreciprocated love that I have experienced. More power to you! 💟

So true! Thank you Susan ❤❤

Wow, I really love you. The first 5 seconds were the first thumbs up. You are very kind and it shows that you love helping others. So nice of you. Thank you! You have also helped me with the thoughts that have been going through my head lately. This gift thing was something I've been experiencing lately. And I tend to think it will be answered the same way. But it's not like that. It is a donation that needs a balance for both parties. Well, thanks again for this content. These are the things Mr. Beast couldn't fix with money alone, and you solve them only with words. I LOVE THAT

Your channel is most useful

"Giving is more enjoyable than taking " has been a lie poiaoning me to be a beautiful soul but taken as stupid by opportunists.

What counts as gift giving? My boyfriend before we defined what we were and when we were just getting to know each other (didn't date, hadn't met) would send me nutritional supplements (he would ask first). We were both interested in nutrients and I was really thrilled.

What about when they ask you for financial help for a reasonable sounding endeavor and you come to find out they used it to bail a woman out from jail? My love language turned into a bunch of expletives...

Dzam u look great

Great content 👌

Thank you so much. This was so helpful.

Thank you😊

Hello Susan. I would like a perspective on my situation but i don't really know where to ask this. It's quite long. I started dating this guy in sept didn't feel like it was working. Broke up. Rekindle 2 months later and still with him right now. There are several things that have happened and I'm not sure what to think about it. First, i saw a message on his phone (he showed it to me because he wanted to know what that girl was meaning) it was a friend of his which said jokingly that he was intrusive. So i asked what it was about and he said that the girl was going abroad with her family and he asked her jokingly if he could join. I thought that was inappropriate. Then he also told me that he texts his ex occasionally to tell her happy birthday but only because they are in the same chat group. Then he also told me that ge sends meme to this girl he was previously interested in even when he knows that her husband does not like this interaction. Then his brother got married to his long time gf and she lives with them on (another floor). His brother is always working and he takes his sil to dinner, lunch. They meet one on one often and when we are together he talks about her sometimes and he tells me she did that, she took his food etc all while smiling like how someone would behave when they are interested in someone. I once asked him when his brother are sil were having kids (we were talking on that subject) but i also asked to get his reaction. He looked pissed, replied in short almost rude upset way and did not talk much on the way home. He also told me he has a girl best friend with whom he used to go out one on one with even though they were both in relationships and even planned a trip together because her bf supposedly dropped out but her sister joined in at the last minute. I've also brought up the official gf and bf talk a few times and he told me he will ask me to be his gf but how sept was supposedly not a good month etc but i just don't buy it. He is also not very affectionate except holding hands and kissing. He barely hugs me. When i brought it up he told me he was uncomfortable with pda and he didn't want to look childish in public. I don't feel like I'm loved or special and feel like my needs are not being met. I have this feeling like something's wrong what should I do?

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