Women get hooked on men who have an abundance mentality. In other words, he's willing to let her go because he knows he can get any woman he wants. But she doesn't want to let him go because she doesn't want another to take her place. So even though she doesn't like the fact that she can't manipulate him like she manipulated other men, she would rather live in his world than live without him, in hers (Gladys knight).
Hi Dating skillz, I just need some advice. I just want to figure out what is going on here! several weeks ago I met a girl who is going through a breakup-like situation with her bf (But seems to be it is still going on she keeps checking her phone, but kind of separation there due to pressure from the girl's parents! but not fully as I can sense from the girl, she always posts heartbreaking posts). I knew that after I was speaking with her. This all started with I caught her staring at me on public transportation and she is always looking for talk with me (still). When I talk with other girls to test her idea about me, she goes crazy and passes hints to me saying " have you finished talking with your girls!", " And when I staring at any other side rather than looking at her, she uses to check where I am looking at often, and when I look into her she slowly and surely gets her default position where I cannot see her looking where I was looking" like that, and keep telling me that girl is looking at you sort of. Yet when I ask her about the relationship between me and her, she keeps saying that she use to talk to me because we are in the same working place, yet i don'tknow you well sort of. Yet she is keeping eye on me to check who I am talking to especially girls. Can you recognize what's going on here? Later I found out she still continues her relationship with her bf (but she refuses me to explain her relationship status, and she was refuse one of her office members to explain her BF's job because it is not quite good to tell any other). Yet she keeps eye on me if I talk with another girl she use to upset and frustrated. Yet she claims she has no feelings for me. Can you figure out what's going on and how I know what kind of feelings she has for me? If I wanted to attract her what should I do? Do you suggest me to do no contact rule? (she and I have a considerable age gap of more than 13 years. Is that a problem? My appearance is much younger than my real age. Many people are around me telling me that my appearancelike I'm 25 or 28. She is 22 and I'm 37
Confidence, variance of modes, desire. The key aspects I'm missing in my life which you've mentioned just kept on resonating in my head! Thank you Appolonia!
@@growing.grounds4054 feelings come and go. You can't sustain 'feeling' confidence. But if you build a life for yourself, achieve goals and don't need validation from a woman because of how you have built your life, you will be 'confident'
A real one is going to understand that I have things I'm not secure about. Because I am human. If I show 1 insecurity, and she leaves, whatever. That woman may have had like 5 insecurities 😅
"The life that you create with the money that you make" - Appolonia Ponti. High Value man that has never grasped this concept will never reach true ascension. A High quality man will surpass easily because of the fine details and works in his character. The missing piece to the puzzle, thank you Miss Ponti!!!!
Wow I'm a 45 Latin man.. I thought I knew a lot about being a real man. I've learned so much from your videos. A break up brought me to youtube and try to find the help I needed. I'm definitely in a better position as man thanks to all this amazing videos. My next relationship better be ready because I'm coming back with a better version of myself.
This video will change my life. This woman should have a TV show to save countless men from ourselves. I have never been so thoroughly enlightened about what I have been doing wrong all my life. I have three kids with an ex and we've been a mess since day one. Now I realize all I had to do was build myself to be the best man I could be in order to even have had a chance of us raising our family together. I also realize now that she may not have ever been the right woman for me. Thank you Apollonia 🙏
In short, A man should have these traits: 1) confidence 2) happy with your life and job. Be the best version of yourself 3) decisive with masculine energy 4) have standards. How does she compliment you in life? Is she the right fit 5) give her rollercoaster feeling (show her different modes of you) 6) build on connections (ask better questions, their lives and values) 7) pickup on her cues.. be daring to get comfortable with opening up and flirting
Great video!!! Also, having an actual plan and interest for the woman you’re dealing with is key when getting one addicted to you. Days of intimacy without direction and substance is easiest way to lose a woman
Dam! not only your style is hot , but ur knowledge ,intentions and the efforts to make vedios to help us men is so attractive personality. Keep it going , from uk 🇬🇧
Sup fellas straight to the point She pretty much said s you need game to get women if not your put of luck so my best advice is just pay for it easier n less stressful and its guaranteed
Help: Slept with a coworker and her bf called me a month later. The no contact thing is hard to do when she work with me. We both pull back, but she is still showing signs, and her bf actually called me second time.
Hi Apollonia, a question, a girl I like, slept with and dated for 5 months, suddenly stopped the relationship, I was acting needy and she even told me, be less into me, I'll be more into you, but she ended it saying something I want in the future, she never replies, but reads my msggs, I'm madly in love with her, and she is the one, what should I do. Many thanks
You nailed it at the end for me. A woman I desire has to have those main elements…respectfulness, attentiveness , and is she trustworthy. Problem is I have yet to come across women who exemplify that
I love this. I have boundaries and the confidence as well as the skillset. I don't chase, I attract but I do act and respond. Mixed emotions are unexpected shifts to show your complexity and keep her guessing not knowing what is coming next. Leading is better than pleading #bossmode ☯️❤️🔥♾️
One of the best videos I have seen on having standards and reaching out to achieve them. It took me an hour and 10 minutes to go back and forwards ,making notes . Guys dont let your eyes glaze over after a few minutes. Take a notepad out and start writing down what she says. Because this content is pure gold.
Public comment. Very good information allow you to think before you act. What is the true purpose. What do you want in a relationship.?? It is very important to know that you want.?fact . Unity and love and dedication to each other..
Good question 🤔 Why do men have to plan the dates? Was very dismissive of the question and didn't answer it, but it's a legitimate question. There's no law that says the men MUST plan the date.
It’s crazy that I’m looking at all your videos and I never once dated so this is just all learning experience for me.Sad to see that I’m learning it late but I know there’s nothing wrong with that
💯🔥🔥 One question, is the pace and patience The same if it’s a crush you have at work compared to if you met her out at an event? I will have to do a video on how to approach your crush.
Thank you so much Apollonia , for waking me up 🤗 I almost lost the very women whom like you said , i already know actually is the Right woman for me !!!! 🤓
This could just be high quality life advice, without the emphasis on attracting women, for teenagers and young men. Because it is what is needed the world over. You need to take stock, do a personal inventory. What past events in your life do you feel guilty about, embarrassed about, what looking back do they teach you? How can you improve? And when did you hit it for six? (Cricket reference for those not familiar with it) What do you learn from that? How can you improve? What are your core beliefs? Why do you believe what you do? When you've looked fair and square into the face of some of these questions although it can be painful it can also make you more confident in who and what you are. Then! Then look for a woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Going to spend most of Saturday doing an inventory for myself.
@Apollonia One of my favorite videos! It really resonated with me bc I've been really focused on building my life and the best version of myself as possible. That being said, I bumped into someone and we had a our first date and everything seemed to flow. She even commented that even though we've only known each other for a few months, she feels like she's known me forever. Now the challenge for myself is to keep that flow and life of abundance going and not to fall back into my old self of overly obsessing over dating and staying on course with my goals and the life I'm building. 🔥🔥 And as you say, that just builds the attraction in a natural way.
Some time this is not easy find a woman who want to level up, while she ask you to do it. But I believe bye showing example she level up little by little but she's doing it. If she's not or won't do it you have to decide if that may continue or not. I agree with you saying you make the choice, but if you agreed of her level don't be made of the result. You pick so deals with.
Thank you I appreciate you.I been learning from you for awhile and healing myself. Thank you. I sored a high quality woman . I said your not the woman I thought your not. Your so so right she did. Say what and what do mean. I said don't worry it all good. And she said it again. And I said u have it all and more. After that she opened up I will say she made me work for this relationship. I did the same She can't get enough of me. It all good
Excellent video !! Apollonia, I appreciate all your efforts on this channel. I have noticed throughout all your videos on your channel, you haven't changed your message on dating and relationships. You haven't changed your narrative to reflect the social conditions of present. I commend you on this. In regards to this video a man must have a firm knowledge of their personal frame. This basically means he must know who he is. What he want's and what he needs to work on to give himself a better chance of being successful. A key point you made in the latter part of the video is "There has to be a level of desire from the woman.........." This is a huge issue for most men. I feel a large part of your viewers are men much like myself. Men who don't have the "Looks, Money, or Status" that is said to be the basis for what a majority of women desire in a man. The question is, is there anyway really to overcome this ? In my life's journey, I have seen first hand how those of us who don't meet the above stated requirements get passed over time and time again by women. Regardless of our character or what we have to offer. This is REALITY for us. Will this ever change ?
I get your point but you cannot blame it on yourself. You’re putting yourself in the victim mindset. Looks, status, money is often a easy way to attract a women. But that doesn’t mean all women are like this. It’s the toxic ones who look for that. The way the media, movies, tv shows, social media, society degrades men and women. This is why people think that being nice to a girl is mistaken for flirting because they never were taught this. The guy is a nice dude with boundaries. Once the boundary is pushed, it gets ugly. Old school is gone, replaced with new misled concept where men and women think that it’s cool to be a “savage and rude af” but it’s highly unattractive. Hooking up, etc are the normal. That new normal is unattractive and causing world wide problems. I’m old school I’ll be very happy when we go back to old school. It will put people in their place and hold them accountable.
Hi Kevin, I've actually talked about this in a video. I think this also comes from how we vision our reality. Many women love a man not because of looks but many love because he has money and status. Does not mean he has to be rich but does mean he has to have a mission that brings home something they can both enjoy and ambitions. I coach more successful men than I do not successful and a lot of men think that successful men have it easy with women which is not true. A lot of them struggle as well. What is the secret sauce about you? What is it that you offer? What are you confident in? Embrace that with abundance and look at yourself as a woman dating you to be a pleasurable experienced and not "She will find the next best thing" You are the best thing! Understand? Starts there.
@@ApolloniaPonti The most disingenuous comment you've made. He asked you about a woman's nature & you ultimately made it about him. When we both know female nature never changes. So you have to use it against them.
Hey I am divorced twice and widow for 13 years, now I meant a woman on of we dated too months now and she and I are addicted to both of us I love her and she loves me that's what matter.
Apollonia, you are a very, very bright woman. I am so glad I found this channel, never stop doing what you do: Teach us what you women want. The thing about the roller-coaster I found out myself 15 years ago in my interactions with women. Your videos are gold!
The one girl that I really want the most she told in text.... Look ... I'm not interested and it has been ignoring me completely for two and a half weeks now I would love to be able to tell you the whole story but I can't in chat
You gotta leave her alone and forget about her. She will likely become curious about your absence and reach out at some point. Or she may not, but clearly chasing her isn't working, and it denies you opportunities to be with women who do want you. If she reaches out make a date with her, and let her do 100% of the reaching out. If she blew you off, she'll have to win you back.
Thanks Appolonia, I have the greatest confidence in the world. I won't tell any one how I got this confidence. I love you Appolonia for mentioning the phrase "confidence mysterious component" Appolonia you're gifted for coaching on dating.
You know why because being a successful man doesn't make you attractive to women I did my homework. and these men make this mistake believing that nonetheless get your money up and guess what they still alone be your self and stop try to. buy women it's how you make her feel. what's drawn a woman to a man like Confidence is a must have to deal with women
Hi Apollonia, I just need some advice. I just want to figure out what is going on here! several weeks ago I met a girl who is going through a breakup-like situation with her bf (But seems to be it is still going on she keeps checking her phone, but kind of separation there due to pressure from the girl's parents! but not fully as I can sense from the girl, she always posts heartbreaking posts). I knew that after I was speaking with her. This all started with I caught her staring at me on public transportation and she is always looking for talk with me (still). When I talk with other girls to test her idea about me, she goes crazy and passes hints to me saying " have you finished talking with your girls!", " And when I staring at any other side rather than looking at her, she uses to check where I am looking at often, and when I look into her she slowly and surely gets her default position where I cannot see her looking where I was looking" like that, and keep telling me that girl is looking at you sort of. Yet when I ask her about the relationship between me and her, she keeps saying that she use to talk to me because we are in the same working place, yet i don'tknow you well sort of. Yet she is keeping eye on me to check who I am talking to especially girls. Can you recognize what's going on here? Later I found out she still continues her relationship with her bf (but she refuses me to explain her relationship status, and she was refuse one of her office members to explain her BF's job because it is not quite good to tell any other). Yet she keeps eye on me if I talk with another girl she use to upset and frustrated. Yet she claims she has no feelings for me. Can you figure out what's going on and how I know what kind of feelings she has for me? If I wanted to attract her what should I do? Do you suggest me to do no contact rule? (she and I have a considerable age gap of more than 13 years. Is that a problem? My appearance is much younger than my real age. Many people are around me telling me that my appearancelike I'm 25 or 28. She is 22 and I'm 37
I totally agree with you! I chased a girl that I got infatuated with in my early 20’s Didn’t know any of the stuff you were saying and things never flowed, I was always jealous of my brother in laws that got a totally different treatment from their wives, etc Then that day came when she started cheating then blamed everything on me, some lame stuff, it was ridiculous. What sucks is that I could’ve spent the last 21 yrs with someone that would’ve been a good match for me, ugh.....
Apollonia, I was with this young lady, I'm 16 years older than her. We were together for 5.5 months together left me 90 days + but around the third month she started changing a lot in the beginning she would say she love me and I was her soul mate I was the one etc. Then she started insulting me in text messages I fell for her she blocked me from texting I helped her a lot but seems to be insulted by me helping her and her children, not sure how to read this why she decided to stop everything, when I thought she was at least appreciative from my help, and would want to keep some kind contact. Not sure. Thank you.
I lost a woman i was in love with. I found out a couple of year's later that someone was calling her and pretending that it was me,OMG! DAMN IT TO HELL!!!!@@@!
