The concept of loyalty can be different for everyone.(However, I have found that there are a few basic principles) that usually align no matter what your view.
What I am speaking on is that your loyalty (to a certain person, place or situation) should not be causing you internal turmoil or destroying your sense of well-being because it’s so toxic.
It’s often when you take a step back from relationship, situation, etc., that you can see the full picture.
*Try noticing how your nervous system reacts when you’re not around said thing versus when you are.
I used to work at a preschool that was so incredibly toxic (that about halfway there on my drive each day) I could feel my body tensing up. I wanted to vomit. I was sweating. I was so anxious because I knew I would have to walk in that building and stay there for 10 hours…
I didn’t have a choice (or thought I didn’t have a choice) because I needed the paycheck. I felt like I “owed” my time, dedication and loyalty to my boss, the staff and the children.
However, it was not sustainable.
It was a mess.
I was a mess.
My understanding of loyalty was a mess.
Since then, I’ve learned, grown and I’ve completely changed many of my views and perspectives on what is the best life for me. Especially on how I can be of service to others and that is helpful not hurtful to my own self.
You should be loyal because you want to not because you feel you have to.
I think that’s the point.
I really want to drive home.
#loyalty
18 сен 2024
