Dad: "The only reason why you listen to that devil music is because your friends pressured you." Me: "My friends don't like metal, they like video games and anime." Dad: "Then why do you listen to metal?" Me: =_=
@@rufussamsquanch_6547 It is a pen name I use as a graphic novelist. I basically took Anton Levy's Surname and Aleister Crowley's First name and combined the two. I am really fascinated by the occult.
I wouldn't say its 100% necessary, but it is nice to have a friend or two who does listen to similar music. Having someone who understands your love for a particular band or genre and can get excited with you is always nice.
I'm the thrasher dude with long hair, battle vest, and only listens to thrash, that has friends that only listen to rap or hip hop, but the best part is that they accept my music tastes, and I accept theirs
@@mike285 Because rap does suck. Your friends didn't write that music, so you're not insulting them, and if they can't take a joke at rap's expense then they're wussies anyway. I never get offended when someone says that metal is noise. It makes me laugh every time.
I’m a 23 year old black guy who’s a metalhead and of course I get funny looks but I think respect is all that matters. I’m more respected because I own it.
I've been in relationships with people that didn't like metal before, and whilst we bonded over shared loves of gaming and comics, anime, fandoms etc it always kinda felt as though there was something missing because metal is such a huge love of mine if my significant other didn't also listen to it I'd feel quite sad that they didn't share that part of my life and also uncomfortable in a way feeling like I can't play my favourite music or having to listen to music I really didn't like. It'd be quite rubbish. I've got plenty of friends that don't like metal but I do kinda look for a partner that shares that particular love of mine. I'm very fortunate to be in a relationship with a fellow metalhead I feel very lucky to have such an awesome other half. We also share a love for all kinds of things, star wars, lotr, comics, gaming, food, anime, tv shows... the list goes on, but the fact that they love metal as much as I do really was what drew me to them in the first place
Same with me, though I unfortunately am lacking the girlfriend part. She "grew out" pf whatever little metal she liked, she still listens to the same 4 or 5 bands from when she was a teen, and I discover new bands (at least new for me) very often and am always exploring music. I can't listen to a lot of music in front of her lately, and it's kind of uncomfortable sadly.
@@MoonOvIce exactly mate. I so fucking hate having to listen to the shit they listen in the car, hence, why I always bring headphones everywhere and they said I disconnect from reality (Tends to happen when listening to psychonaut 4). Music is such an intrinsic and important part of my life that having a person that just "tolerates" it isn't enough. At least they should try to show some goddamn interest in trying to understand
I got into Death Metal by someone who used to be my friend, but sadly we aren't friends anymore, due to our differences... Just like many, i don't have any friends, due to this introvert mindset, and all i have is Mum in my life! For those who get lonely, you definitely aren't alone on that one, i promise you!!! Keep strong and i wish you all the best for 2021!!! \m/
Not to shit on you or something but check the book "No more Mr. Nice guy" by Glover. Suggesting the book cause it's surely not the best thing to only have mum in your life.
Having metalhead friends isn't a must . and it definitely shouldn't be something that makes or breaks your friendship because if it is ...? Uhhh you may wanna re evaluate that friendship . BUT it's always nice to have someone to send metal memes to at 2 am lmao ❤😙
I’m 56 and have friends and acquaintances from their 20’s to 70’s. Some like metal, some hate it. At the end of the day there’s more things to talk about than just metal.
Idgaf what my friends like as long as the respect is mutual and our morals are on point. Like you said most of us are into non metal things as well. However, a good portion of my friends are also metalheads because we mostly met at past shows.
Haha...friends? I already have a friend. It's called METAL!!!! I've been a metalhead for 12 years. I survived 12 years without friends and I spend my days listening to metal. So yeuh. I don't want friends.. My town barely has an alternative culture even though it's a "friendly" diverse town. I've seen a few Punks, and a couple of goths, many gay and lesbians, but that's about it. It feels like I'm the only metalhead in my town. I'm into Technical death metal, dsbm, Progressive metal, extreme metal etc... I personally live and revolve my life around metal, and I don't want to deal with people unless they talk about metal because I'm kind of sensitive towards talking to people.. I'm not really one dimensional either. I love Orchestra music, goth rock, etc... I'm 25. I love nature, art, music and playing video games like Pokemon, Naruto, Dragon Ball Z etc.. That's just my story.
Well I'm musically intolerant, so yes. All my friends like metal, others also like art, classical music, video games, technology, philosophy, sociology, playing instruments and making music. All like me, I tried a million times befriending people that are pretty different from me, it never works, I can't quite understand them and they can't quite understand me, so it ends up being very superficial. Most metalheads I've met happen to be thinkers and fans of real music that has something to say or some feeling express, so people who appreciate superficial low quality music, tend also to not be thinkers etc. I'm pretty eclectic, and a lot can be seen with my music taste, everything is connected. I can't 100% connect with the academic crowd because many of them end up being too rigid and prudes, while a lot of metalheads have that perfect mix of intelligence, thought, and even deviance and "live and let live" attitude that others don't have. I'm definitely not into the gatekeeping attitudes of some fans of onle one sub-genre of metal, or that stupid competing attitude some have.
I totally agree with Werewolf. Someone's attitude is the number one factor to a friendship. Happy New Year to everyone! 🍻 P.S.: "At The Edge Of Time" is an artistic masterpiece! 🤘STAY BRUTAL!🤘
I did grow up with metal parents and my oldest sister got me into metal completely. It's a good feeling though that everyone you know accepts each music taste and still listens to metal every other day. A metal family for life 🤘
Killer Hellripper shirt! 🤘🏻🖤 I think sometimes a plus to having metal friends is that they don’t usually judge you for liking the things you like. It’s shitty when you meet someone that you connect with on other things besides music and then they dislike you just because of the music you like.
My friend groups have a super diverse taste in music, clothes etc, We all have stuff in common ofc but nothing is a deal breaker. I feel very lucky to have such great friends who I like as people who are also into the same stuff as me, funnily enough I didn't meet most of them through the metal scene but instead TCG scenes, University and mostly in my local Fighting Game COmmunity. Having friends you can share obscure BM on Bandcamp with is opretty sick
Good video. Living in a large city with a declining live music scene of all music genres, let alone metal, I am surprised all the time that appearances can be deceptive. Lots of people, without the dead give aways (long hair, spiked leather, band shirt), are into metal, extreme metal. So, its always great meeting people into metal and hearing their experiences and opinions. Could be a basis for a friendship, but just one piece in the puzzle.
Always a pleasure seeing my werewolf cousin's I haven't met yet. Not too many metal heads in LB either, but also like you am on the vampire schedule of working all night and sleeping all day. Is that a circle of dead children banner behind you? I think it is or just a similar calligraphy. Anyway dude I subbed, you're a werewolf, you're a metal head and seem to be a pretty low key guy. Breathe of fresh air it is really. 💪🐺
I'd say in my opinion, as a metalhead myself it doesn't matter if I have friends that do listen to metal music or not. It's all about being respectful and being a good friend to you. Because nobody likes to be friends with lowlifes and scumbags So I absolutely agree with you 🤘
That said, there are also people who you might not be close with, but you can talk about music together when you see each other, kind of like somebody talking to a mechanic who they know about cars even though they don't necessarily associate with them on a daily basis. I guess you might call these people acquaintances rather than friends. Also, thanks for mentioning that people CAN be friends even if they have different opinions, something that a lot of people seem to have forgotten.
Yea, for me some of the top dealbreakers when it comes to friends is if they hate cats, think getting married and having children is what life is all about, and want abortion to be illegal. Musical taste becomes irrelevant if they think that way.
Abortion may not be the most pleasant subject but I don't think it should be illegal as there are cases where ppl desperately need it or they risk dying and of course someone is raped they should have the right to end a pregnancy they never wanted
Not gonna lie it's a nice common thing to have. Having a common ground in music I believe is a really good but it doesn't have to be there. Also if you start a friendship with someone and you have just one thing in common I think it's also ok because that way you could learn new things or even begin new hobbies. Exchanging opinions and views could be really healthy for a person. Myself I don't really have many metalhead friends and with the two people I have we're not really into the same bands so there's not really that much to talk about but we find other things and I think that this is very good for our relationships
Most of my friends I grew up with like metal,we all got into it at roughly at the same time. I havent got to see my childhood friends and ex coworkers in a while. COVID and life got in the way. My wife likes System Of A Down,Amon Amarth,and stuff like Wardruna. I had a metalhead friend who turned into a Juggalo overnight almost,ha ha. Good vid,man. Yea,people who are rude and obnoxious aren't good friend material. Friendship should be based on mutual respect like you said. I can tolerate alot of different music,but the auto tuned shit grates at my sanity.....
Especially being a girl, I feel it's highly unlikely to find friends that also like metal :P Although most friends these days are online friends, which makes it a little easier. 09:36 This couldn't have been a better recommendation! I'm starting the process of making my own battle vest (just 15 years overdue...lol) and I've kiiiiind of been wanting to put a Blind Guardian patch on it, but I feel like I haven't heard enough of them yet - even though I saw them live once (an online friend took me with!) so I'm def checking out more of their stuff. Usually I like to start with the old stuff though
My wife is my best friend and she's not a metalhead at all. Now, after a few years of marriage, ive gotten her into a few bands like Dokken, Scorpions and Dio, but its still not something she's passionite about like I am. What it really comes down to is at the end of the day, we still like being around each other.
its funny i dont have friends at all. i am a lonely guy in this dark rotten world living my life waiting for this to be all over. so i am thankful for it that we have metal music. especially depressive suicidal black metal atmospheric black metal. my 2 favorite genres. at least that keeps me company
Its always nice when you can relate to anything you have in common with someone regardless of musical taste or whatever it may be. It's pretty funny someone even asks that. They should ask themselves first of all why are they are even asking themselves that question. I have some friends that love metal and have friends that don't really listen to it on their own but they probably wouldn't even say they don't like it either. I just think they haven't really listened to it. I could care less what music genre they like. It's cool when you can talk about a certain genre you both like as well but to simply base your whole friendship off of a genre is pretty stupid and doesn't make sense if you ask me. I just get along well best with people who are cool, respectful, kind, funny, and just not a dick. Pretty plain and simple
Back in the 80s my friends and I had the common bond of Metal so we had each other to go with to shows but we did other things. I remember one night we were watching The Evil Dead at my then best friend's house snd there were a few of us and every time a deadite said "Join Us" we wpuld say it backwards like Slauer did at the start of Hell Awaits.
I have a lot of non metalhead friends and a decent amount of metalhead friends actually, the latter is certainly a plus, but like you said it's important that they're decent and respectful, good people at first.
Good video and all, but I find it quite easy to talk with my best friend about metal, there are always certain subjects within the realm of heavy metal music that we haven't discussed, like for example, on new year's eve, we talked about the lyrical content of Rammstein songs and why so many people misinterpret what they are about.
Currently I'm in school, and I have no friends but when looking for friends I don't only care for there music taste, but that is always a plus they just gotta be nice and have other interests too 🙂👍
It's nice to have a friend or two that likes metal, but that mutual interest is never the foundation of a good friendship. Most of my long lasting, close friends have completely different musical taste from me, but we have other mutual interests, our personalities mesh, and most importantly, they're good people. I've had many friendships that started based on a mutual interest where the person ended up to be complete garbage, at which point no mutual interest is going to make me want to continue being friends with that person. That said, I was a bit more like this in middle school and high school, but I think that was mostly because I was just kind of a weird, shy, awkward nerd that no one wanted to hang out with anyway, so I ended up hanging out with the handful who did, who also liked metal, though their taste was very different from mine and that difference grew through high school. Most of them turned out to be shitty people, and the friends I kept appeared to be nothing like me outwardly, but we had more significant things in common than a single interest.
Friendships definitely not a big deal if they don’t listen to Metal, as for relationships I’m willing to date someone who’s not a metalhead, but I feel more confident in the relationship if they are a metalhead
Met most of my friend group bc i complimented one guy on his iron maiden t then he invited me to sit with him and his buddy at lunch to talk about music and the rest is history
I just discovered your channel and I don’t know if anyone’s asked this/you’ve made one already, but could you perhaps make a video about where you get your clothing and accessories etc!
Friendships ok, I really doesn't matter if their like Metal, or the same music as I do, but, in a relationship I do think is important to share the same music taste. At least in my case, I really love going to metal concerts and having a bf that loves that kind of vibe is key and we can enjoy it together. I have been in relationships where they don't care about music and was a mess, always telling me that I was wasting time and money on concerts. Just didnt work out.
I have to agree. While I've never been in a relationship myself, I do think that if music is a big thing in your life, when it comes to relationships it's probably better to be with someone who felt the same otherwise you can run into problems like what you shared with how they'll feel like you're wasting your time on something they deem a waste of time. I'm not a Metalhead myself, mostly just a casual listener but as a lover of most rock, I'd prefer to date a guy who liked at least a bit of rock lol.
I think that having at least one friend that is into metal is cool but It can't be the only thing you have in common I have some friends with similar music taste to mine and other that define metal as "just a lot of screams". I have a great time with both types of friends because we are friend in first place and enjoying similar music is just a plus
It definitely isn't the only important or the most important thing - none of my friends listen to metal but I obviously still love them very much because they are awesome people and we always have fun together. But it would sure be great to have at least one person you can occasionally talk to about metal, for example if you find a new band or a song that you like or to have someone you can go to concerts with. That's why I would like to have some metal friends but those that are good people, I wouldn't be friends with a metalhead just to be friends with a metalhead.
I don't think that's the point though (being a friend with a metalhead just because the other person is a metalhead). But assuming the other person is nice and probably has other interests. Most of my metalhead friends share my love for good music in general (not chart topping garbage for the masses), science, philosophy, etc.
What's going on Dude cool to see a new video from you. Awesome yeah Lol I'm pretty much the only Metal head in the town I live in Awesome pictures on your wall Darkthrone is Awesome. I heard their coming out with a new album some time this year. I used to have that album panzerdivision Marduk good one. I like your Gauntlets I have one not quite cool as yours I have a wrist band with the Spikes There's a lot of Rude people out there kinda crazy Blind gaurdian is cool anyway Awesome video I'm going to have to get a patch from you those are Awesome bro well keep it Brutal your self have a great day Bro keep it Metal
It's always good to meet people that likes the same thing. Metalheads though tend bicker over styles, bands, and genres, subgenre, etc. It's a very niche subculture. The average person wouldn't know the difference between glam or death metal, or be able to tell Bon Jovi apart from Cannibal Corpse. A lot of Metalheads in my experience tend to become Frenemies. I love hard and heavy music, but I just got tired of the "I'm more Metal than you game" For example, I also love classic and hardcore punk. Punk is a bad word to a lot of metal fans. God forbid I mention that sometimes I listen to rap and R&B. My Tina Marie record would be Kryptonite to them. Leave that BS in highschool!
Haha, the "I'm more metal than you" reminded me of one comment I read not so long ago. It said more or less that clean vocals would suit the band better instead of using growls "to sound more metal". Surely a band that's been around for two decades feels such need to "fit in"... :))
For me, being in a similar situation in a mid-sized town without a *huge* metal scene, a lot of the people I've really come to be friends with do share my taste in music. With that said, some of the people I've hung out with over the years have other traits that I don't find appealing (super negative view on the world, no ambition to ever do anything, take your pick.) All of my best friends share traits with me that aren't related to music, and I think it really comes down to how easy and natural it is for two people to talk and interact that determines how strong a friendship can be. On a somewhat-related note, I've noticed a funny thing as a guitarist over the years. If you really want a good gauge as to how well you'll be able to write songs with someone and even be in a band with them, just jam with them. Start with any random riff idea that pops into your head, see if they catch on, and if you can keep playing off of each other, that's the sign of a great player. I only know one guy to this day who I can do that with. We've started with random ideas and turned them into entire songs on the spot more than once. It's like speaking volumes without a single word, and it's an amazing feeling.
I used to be friends someone who constantly shat on me for liking classic rock bands such as The Beatles, Pink Floyd and Led Zeppelin. We're not friends anymore. Hope he gets shipped to Siberia.
Great video with great points. Really appreciate what you do, keep it up! A little offtopic but 4 years ago in a Q&A you mentioned you were learning guitar, and to be honest I'm really eager to see a video about that,if you still play, that is.
Me and my best friend became extremely close when we had the same music taste. We were friends before but when we both liked the same music we spoke more and we shared a lot of common interests. When I grew out of those bands there was a rift between us but things stayed relatively the same besides conversations about music. Now the only time any of my friends hear music I like is in the gym cos thrash is more energising than what they listen to. I once tried pushing metal on to someone but that just pushed them away from me.
in response to the question, yes! because of the friends that I have, 2 of them do listen to metal, but none of them is obsessed with Vintersorg like me, and I really need a person who appreciates that band at the same level i do XD same with Katatonia well, after that, not really ... people are people beyond the music we listen to, I met wonderful people within the metal environment, as well as horrible people, and the same happens with people who don't listen to it. But one thing I like about having a metal friend is that we could go out to the same places on a weekend (in Argentina at least, on weekends, before the pandemic of course) people go out to have fun, to drink , to dance and there are also places like this where metal music plays, then to drink a few beers one weekend while you listen to the music you like and all the people in the place listen to the same thing and we are all dressed in black, and you go with your friend who enjoys the same, then, well yes, it's nice to have a metal friend... Recently, with the death of Alexi Laiho, I felt very bad, not only for him, but because his music meant a lot to my best friend and to me, we have been friends for about 10 years, and Children was a band that we always listened to , we love his music and it hurt us both, the music brought us together and the music that played in the background in our young days is something that we will never forget, and always treasure, so I think it is nice to have a friendship and that both share the love for a particular music, that every time you listen to it, it will also take you to the good moments in your memory
I don't have friends who like metal very much, I tried to show a friend some bands and she didn't like them, but it doesn't matter, friendship is not based only on musical tastes. Anyway sometimes I need to talk to someone about it, that would be nice lol
I agree with you. I would get tired if I talked about metal all the time. I have both metal and non metal friends and in both cases I always have something to talk to them except metal or music in general
I got a few Metalheads where I live here in Louisiana. In New Orleans being that they have a few metal bands that are from there, I'm planning on moving there since the metal scene takes place in New Orleans.
I'm not allowed to go to concerts alone (technically i am, but it wouldn't be safe or comfortable). Sadly, i don't have a close friend that's a metalhead too and who would like to go there with me. So i'll probably miss out :(
I agree with a lot of points but my main purpose for basing friends on music taste at a young age wasn’t because of being young and stupid, it was always because it was my life goal to start a band, which I’m so hyper focused on that I always direct myself towards people with music taste, but also having to line up with being a good person in general and being nice to be around. That’s why I started rapping, I take metal lyrics and translate it to a rap flow with darker trap beats and I can do it all by myself or with one other person producing and don’t have to wait on life to find other band members to be on the same page.
I’m the only one who listens to metal in my friend group at school. Kind of a group of random people with different interests, being anime, sports, outdoors, and some other stuff. Mostly we all just hang out cause we like similar video games and share lots of classes. To me shared interests is a bonus and not the first thing you should be looking for in friends or relationships.
Same. My friends like Green Day and Linkin Park, but when I bring up Marylin Manson, Disturbed, Rob Zombie, they go " Hey man, that stuff is creepy and it has Columbine written all over it."
@@mike285 Yeuh. I've been a metalhead for 12 years. I'm 25. I was in high school when I discovered metal. I'm mostly into Technical death metal, extreme metal, some Thrash metal, dsbm, Progressive metal and some nu metal.. a little bit of metalcore and deathcore as well. You should check out Archspire- Human Mumuration, and Calamus will Animate, and Revocation- Re- animaniac if you like fast bands. I mean if you like FAST bands. If you like it let me know. Stay Metal dude!
I don't need no friends :P Just kidding, but yeah I used to go to metal shows by myself and always had a good time. I didn't have to worry about where my people were or having to regroup or nothing. Plus, I'd meet new people in the crowd, and moshing with random folks can lead to fun chats between songs XD
Awesome album recommendation. I think for me I don't need a similar taste in music for most friendships. But if I am going to spend a lot of time with s person we need similar musical taste, Inlisten to music constantly and cannot stand most other genres for too long. I got very lucky with my wife being into metal and hard rock. Though she does always bust my balls on the extreme metal.
In my experience with trying to form friendships or romantic relationships based mostly on music taste: at best, I just didn't click with the person and eventually stopped trying, no harm done. At worst, I ended up in a toxic relationship that did deep damage to my confidence for years to come.
