Making Metal Friends 

I think metalheads spotting other metalheads is like the equivalent of two dogs meeting each other and going " you are dog? I am dog to!"

I've been a metalhead for 22 years and none of my closest friends are metalheads. Friendship is a lot more complex than just sharing a common taste in music.

One time at a convention I was wearing my battle jacket and this old 70yo grandma woman walked up to me and said "Heeell yeeaaa pan-a-fuckin-tera! 🤘"

True fact: We are Metalheads and listen to the same music but that doesn't mean we have the same opinions, the same life views, the same life goals, the same whatever. Humans are strange creatures so we have to learn to get along well with each other.

Something that sucks with "non-metal" friends is that when you're drinking or having a party you listen to their music the whole time (don't get me wrong, i listen and enjoy all kinds of music). But i would much rather blast some metal while drinking or hanging out, and its not possible if your friends are not into it. You can do other fun stuff with metal friends, but you can't listen to metal with non-metal friends

The worst “Yeah man I love death metal” “Really!!? What bands you into?” “Bring me the horizon and shit bro”

I met some dude in college who was really into death and viking metal, I'm into thrash, but we got along great! However, I have met two other metalheads older than me, they were jerks.

The best advice I’d give is do it naturally don’t force it, I was at college in my battle jacket a few years back and some other metalhead approaches me speaking about my jacket, the next day he brought his to college and we started listening to metal and eating chicken and drinking beers we became brothers ever since even to this day. Also along the way we ran into another guy getting into heavy metal and he eventually started a jacket and started hanging with us then from there we met another metalhead that we go with to gigs, we’re all from separate towns and meet up whenever we’re all free too. I never tried to make a friend group full of metalheads but over time it built up naturally and I’d recommend everyone doing it this way! Also remember being the lone wolf sometimes is just as badass 🤘🏻

34 years of being a metal head and no slowing down, it's a personal thing that I don't push on others. So, I have a mix of friends from all walks of life, ethnicities, sexual orientation, and they all like diverse types of music. That being said. I think there's an underlying link when you meet someone else that's into metal, an unspoken acknowledgement that you get it, that you understand it, and that you love it.

As a single female metalhead it's difficult. Most of my metalhead friends are internet friends, it's so hard to make metalhead friends in the wild. I usually go to shows alone and it's hard to talk people at shows and most people are already grouped together. Sincerely, Introverted metal head girl

Having the same interests and hobbies is a plus but not the core of a great friendship. Your hobbies and interests dont define you, your choices define you.

This is something I've been thinking about a lot in terms of dating. I like to have some common ground musically with people, but I don't like placing a lot of emphasis on it. The most I really want as far as music taste goes is just someone I can maintain a conversation with about the stuff and isn't the kind to be dismissive of that music I'm into because it's either unconventional, underground, or older.

I've been a metalhead for 13 years, and I've met many other metalheads that are douche bags.. they'll see my battle vest, and patches, or I'll be wearing a Archspire, Mastodon shirt etc.. and they'll see it, and they'll be wearing a Cryptopsy shirt or something, and they'll still ignore or pass by me. So I guess it was meant for me to be a metalhead to myself.. normies don't like me, and people who share the same thing don't like me.. I love talking about many things. Nature, mythology, science, history, Pokemon (I've been a Pokemon fan for 19 years), Horror, Cemeteries etc... Metal is my life, and helps me function.

I'm scared to make friends who aren't into metal, because I know that they'll play their music around me and except me to like it, but then when I play my music around them (with zero expectations) they'll say I'm weird🤷‍♀️

A couple days ago I found out one of my coworkers was a massive metal head,it was a slow day at my job and it was late at night so me and him talked about grindcore,darkthrone,mesarthim,author and punisher,repulsion,power trip etc for 40 or so minutes one of my other coworkers (who isn’t a metal head at all) also got involved in the conversation it was really cool to find “one of my own people “ at work

When I was a freshman in high school, I met a group of metalheads but we didn’t really have any other common interests aside from that. Eventually I switched schools and in my sophomore year met another metalhead. This time we had a lot of the same interests and we’re still great friends to this day

Going to my first metal concert in August, I hope it's nice and I am able to meet more genuine metal heads. Most I've ever seen in one spot is like 3 in my small city.

my junior year of high school, I moved across the country. I wore my emperor shirt the first day at my new school and I met a friend group that way, because a guy at lunch noticed my shirt and invited me to sit with them lol

It would just be nice to have someone to hang out and listen to metal and go to concerts with

My best friend and I bonded over our love of video games and movies. I'm gradually converting him into a metalhead, he got Raise your Horns stuck in his head the other day. But I've known the guy for 20 goddamned years, he's always been cool!

You totally nailed it at 1:53 I’ve been a metal fan since the 80’s and I haven’t had a “metal friend” since I graduated from High School. So obviously black metal became my favorite type of metal.

I've never been the type of person who's looking for metalhead friends. I have this one friend who talks about metal most of the time and it gets really boring very quickly. That's why we don't see each other much nowadays. And my best friend doesn't even like metal or rock much. Few bands (Sabaton, Amaranthe and Papa Roach from what I remember). We're just couple of goofballs that like roadtrips, travelling in general and talking about whatever comes to our minds. She's an awesome person. I'm usually the only metalhead if we're going somewhere as a group anyway. I don't give a damn about my friends' music taste, I like them because they are what they are.

I wish I had metal friends. My friends think bon Jovi and linkin park is as heavy as it gets.

when i was at middle school, high school in Thailand, there's not a single metalhead or even rocker at my school & i've been left isolated since i'm the only one in whole school. they listen to mainstream stuff like Drake while i'm the only one listen to Metallica (and i used to be so out of touch of pop / mainstream / chart music that i didn't know who Drake was).

This actually got me thinking of a few things, in comparison to what you explained about jerk offs who attack your love for metal in one of your previous videos and trying to find a metal head friend as you explained here I've faced those things before as well and realised that having the same interests doesn't necessarily mean getting along and I've met a few people sharing interests in metal who at first seemed nice but then turned out to be jerk offs

I dont have many metal friends and my best friend and i are literally complete opposites she really likes cute stuff and she listens to pop music and in fact a lot of my friends are like that

I agree with you...Metal is a great way to meet people,but not the end all ,be all in a feiendship

Just listened to the album you recommended..... absolutely love it

1:06-1:16 Exactly! Just because your music is awesome doesn't mean you are.

Yeah, I think Varg proved thirty years ago that sharing similar music taste with someone won't automatically make you besties.

I live in the Sacramento area and almost every metalhead and punks that I see at shows come off as pretty distant. Especially the girls. When the bands aren't playing they either zone out with their phones or huddle in tiny groups and drink heavily. It's pretty rough being newly sober at 41 at shows and trying to strike up a convo with a cutie and being silently judged for not slamming shots. Not only that, my only two friends are headcases. One had a drug induced meltdown and disappeared into the forest. And the other is an awkward idiot that gets very nervous around the ladies. Lol damn.

The shirts and long hair always worked for me. It was harder when i went through a clean cut phase, but now im back.

Right on man! Could you imagine in a alternate universe there’s a metal language where people just say names of bands. Asking where to stop for lunch: “Gwar Septicflesh Mayhem, Tsjuder Kreator?” Dimmu Borgir Amon Amarth” I am fortunate enough to have a few full on metal heads and out bond continues to stay strong but what’s funny is my full on metal friends introduce me to their friends and they are like the ones you mentioned, bunch of stoner jerk offs with nothing in their future, so i just avoid them. Even my best friend since the third grade (we’re both in our early 20’s) I’ve introduced him to some of my music and that grew our bond stronger. Also, wanted to mention about the friends we make from meeting at shows, I’m still in touch with a couple but the majority I made were only temporary at the show and we never really got each other’s contacts. Just that short epic time of meeting someone new, hanging out for a bit can be really appreciated since that’ll probably be the last time you ever see them again. But it’s a cycle that happens over and over again. Stay awesome everyone!

I'm too black metal for having friends. Having friends isn't black metal lol

Not many metalheads in Perth ( WA), I definitely miss living in Scandinavia & Europe for metal pubs and constant gigs & festivals 😢.

I agree with you on this one. sure having the same taste in music is cool, but that shouldn't be the only thing you have in common. the closer your friends are to you, the more you should have in common. might sound like a generalization, but in most cases its true.

I don't necessarily look for metal friends, but for friends who are interested in music in generell. If you are really, and I mean really interested in music, you cant have a boring taste and you can maybe have jam sessions, and that's often a good start.

I really enjoyed this video. It’s always great to meet other Metalheads but I always assume that they’ll be very different than me because that’s generally been the case. I tried my best to promote some Metal to my close friends along the years and it just never worked. Most people prefer what’s familiar to them and rarely ever expand from that. The adoption curve explains this pretty well. Most people just aren’t innovators and early adopters when it comes to music and that’s ok. I have many other interests and I’m ok with Metal not being an interest that I share with my friends, as frustrating as it can sometimes be.

Making friends who is also a Metalhead is great but I also like having friends who have different tastes in music like I’m friends with someone who loves kpop but also likes the same metal and rock bands as I do. I also like other things besides metal like I love anime, video games, and reading books and my other favorite genere of music is Lofi. If someone I’m having a conversation with also likes metal then that’s awesome but I also like hearing other people’s taste in music as well as their other interests. I also would love to go to a metal concert with people because I never been to one before.

I’ve been a metalhead for 16 years and not all my friends are metalheads. Having a common interest in life is important than same taste in music.

When I was in my early teens (which somehow feels like a lifetime ago, despite not being THAT old), I always wanted metalhead friends as I just found it better to have more relateable friends in general. But over time I became dissatisfied with this decision as it often narrowed things too much in the relationship, and not to mention differences in terms of preferences as well. Then, I also became dissatisfied with the fact that more pleasant metalheads ended up becoming a rarity for me, regardless of whether real life or online, practically the more extreme the music, the more elitistic the fans. The elitism alone pretty much killed the "scene" and metalheads in general for me, nowadays not only that I don't have such friends anymore, but I also hardly find it desirable to look for such people again, after realizing I was also slowly becoming what I dreaded. It simply became too much of a headache, and there's far too much division, fragmentation, and even outright pettiness going on, killing the passion in the process. Presently, I just stick to the music (look out for bands and labels I like and get the albums, that sort of thing), and virtually ignore everything else. Going beyond that just isn't worth it in my book anymore.

I’d love to make some metal head friends. None of my other friends like metal, and last year I moved down to Florida so I don’t really have people to go to shows with. I try to make friends at shows but mostly everybody is there with their friend or significant other so I find it hard to talk to them. I don’t think metal should be the only thing you have in common, but if it is, maybe you just go to shows with them and leave it at that or something. Also, I saw frozen soul yesterday, they were one of the openers for dying fetus! Great video.

I have recently lost a friend who had the exact same tastes in music I enjoy: black fucking metal. But that was the single one and only common ground we had. I didn’t know this guy from high school, his past or any of his background history. He was rather very introvert and mysterious. Enough said. That said I completely agree, you can never have a lasting friendship if it just hangs singularly on the music theme. It just doesn’t work that way.

My best friend isn't a metal guy at all, lol, he even makes fun of me for my music taste at times. Never gotten along with someone as much as I do with him, honestly.

I totally agree with you a good lasting friendship my best friend and I have alot more in common we love to cook shopping and ETC, im introducing her into more metal im getting her started with the bands that got me into metal she likes a few bands already so that's a start for her. hope you and I can be friends

All my friends are Metal fans, but Heavy Metal is not the only topic of every conversation with them. We're also talking about video games, books and movies! Album recommendation: The Slayerking - "Tetragrammaton" 🤘🏻STAY BRUTAL!🤘🏻

Metal Singer here. Although I love having metalhead friends, but out of my friend circle, very few of them are metalheads and they're really amazing people to hang out with. I genuinely love being friends with people who are neutral to metal(don't like or hate metal). Most of my best friendships have been with people not into metal.

Great video 👍

Yeah I still have 2 close friends since high school & they're not metalheads, but now I do have a group of friends that we share love of music (and not just metal) but anything with guitar & drums. Idk, I think sharing similar music taste goes a long way, as long as there's still respect & have each other's back.

I've heard it so many times but have never found out but what is the song in your intro?

Petition for there to be a Metal station on the radio like To say yes

You’re right but it is really nice to have friends that you can go to concerts and festivals with tough 😊👍🏻

I go to a metal show to mosh every month at the same place it's called mosh in a sanitorium and I have tons of metalhead friends nowadays and a couple months ago it helped me start my thrash metal band called speedburn I play lead guitar in the band

Me and my cousin love your vids keep rocking

I listen to so much metal everywhere that my best friend was like ( you know what, fuck it let me try what ever you're listening to ) He's a metal addict as much as me now, also all my friends like it too now, but not as much as homeboy🤘🤘🤘

I search for friends mostly in metalheads, goths, punks, and even emos. It’s generally easier for me to get along with these types of people for me because of our common interests. That being said, if someone isn’t any of those things, it’s completely fine as long as they’re fun to hang out with. Some of my friends right now decided to shit on me for my taste in music, and they seem genuinely mad that I’m into metal. That to me is definitely grounds to stop being friends with somebody when it comes to not liking the same music.

Well said . 👍

The one day I was in my usual metal bar waiting for a show. Usually the bar patrons hang out until shows start. One older lady stayed around, noticed my 61 49 patches on my jacket and said "The Crossroads". We struck up a conversation. It was awesome talking to her

Honestly, I don't care if my friends like metal or not. Although I try to look for at least one metal head friend, but that's very hard. I have a strong friendship with my friend that like she can bully my music and she lets me bully hers because we're that type of friends.

No one going to comment on the sick Necrophobic shirt?😁🤘🏻

I have a range of friends that are different ages, some like metal music some don't. I manage to find common ground though. I just subbed to your channel! Great content btw! When's your birthday Metal Wolf? Just curious.

I used to try and priotize metal friends but as I got older it definitely made sense to not make our music tastes the main priority. I love my current friends, but I still listen to my music and rock some killer band shirts because they love me for being myself :)

This video really hits home because I thought that being friends with people who dressed and listened to the same music as me would be great in middle school, however, they weren't really doing anything productive with their lives and were kind of depressing to hang around with. I regretted leaving my old friend group almost immediately and was grateful when they accepted me back with open arms. As someone who is a 4.0 student and loves cracking jokes, I wasn't able to find goths like me who actually cared about getting an education until high school and college. Nevertheless, it is important to remember that "normal" people can be just as badass and cool to hang with too. :)

I don't consider myself a metalhead but I have met a few in my life. Y'all remind me of gym bros, both can look intimidating but are some of the nicest people I've met.

Yes friendship is more complex!! I agree!!

I unfortunately live in a town that legitimately has no metal scene. We have a bit of a punk scene but their awful people. And no metal. I've seen a few very beautiful girls who obviously like death metal come into my store. But they vanish. I've met some old metalheads but they vanish too. I really wanna find some people I can actually be around and have a good time (of course them be good people)

This is the moistkritikal of metal

Don't really care about having "metal friends" but thanks to metal I feel a sense of community and of belonging.

my uncle met a VERY GOOD FRIEND for the metal! And my uncle made me a metalhead lml

I have metalheads friends, unfortunately I only have 2, the rest i don't speak to at all due to reasons but it's nice having people who like the same thing you do🤘 Edit: another ice black metal band would be called Imperial Crystalline Entombent

In my experience other metalheads are usually not the people I get along with. A lot of the metal I listen to has satanic or occult ideologies in which I actually adhere to and most metalheads Ive interacted with listen to the music but suppose the ideologies and for them it's usually just an image, so they are like posers to me. It's like that country song, they are songs about me and what I believe in and that's one of the main reasons I like certain metal bands, sure I like the instrumentation and I like metal that doesn't necessarily support my viewpoints, but I find that some people really lack understanding of the subject material that these bands write their music about. Like behemoth, I'm an avid reader of aleister Crowley, Israel regardie and Kenneth grant and there are tons of behemoth fans or black metal fans that hate Aliester Crowley and dont recognize the direct references to thelema.

As metalheads our numbers are dismal compared to non-metalheads. We are a rare breed of people. I have some metalhead friends that I never get to see or keep in contact with. Metal may not be our only common bond. We could talk about horror, science fiction, and suspense movies. Books, history, and politics. Unfortunately, most of my friends dislike metal. I wish more people would understand us but that is up to them! Everyone has a preference!

Hey dude!! Loved the video. What’s the band on your shirt?

I have a lot of friends who don't listen to metal and I'm good friends with and there is like 2 friends that listen to some metal but, it really just depends on the person if it would be a good friends ship or not even if you have same music taste

A lot of ppl with common music interests also have commonalities in other areas. I agree with all of what you’re saying but I do miss to be able to talk with someone about guitar playing or metal music in general on top of all the things you’ve mentioned. I live talking about religion and politics and ghosts and big foot. But I also like to talk about what’s going on in the metal scene. At age 40 it’s hard.

The problem here seems to me what a person considers music to be. To me, and most metalheads I've met, music is almost spiritual (even though I'm not religious), it's art, it's above everything, it somehow explains everything and doesn't at the same time, it makes you question, it makes you feel, it gives you strength, hope or even knowledge. It is specially bonding when a lot of people that don't like it, happen to be extremely ignorant people that cannot get complex music (yes, I am aware there are very intelligent people out there that can pin-point exactly why they wouldn't like a type of music and with valid responses, but let's face it, that is not the majority of people in the world) or even listen to music at all. If you just consider music "this one thing I like", the same way you like ice-cream or sports or some "fun" series on Netflix, then sure, bonding only over that seems extremely superficial. I guess it depends on the value we put onto something. To me, metal music was a discovery that made me want to gain more knowledge and explore more about this weird world we live in, to question everything. Sure, there's a lot of idiots like on everything, and there are whole sub-genres that just want to "party" (though that in itself isn't bad), but I think metal is much more than that usually, and the fact that there are "no rules" makes it infinitely more interesting.

I understand what you mean, but for me being into metal really does help with bonding into friendship. I do talk to others at work that aren't into metal, but they are not my friends. I don't go have a beer and hangout with them. Being into the same music honestly does help, cause if you're gonna hangout with me at my house it's Metal or nothing. Now I do have other conversations other than Metal bands with my friends, sometimes it's games, sports, or horror but it was the Metal that made us best friends. My dad has had the same friends for 40 years, it was the metal that bonded them. But again they don't always just talk metal they do in fact talk about other subjects. However, it was because of Metal that they all became best friends. I guess what I'm saying is, you can have other friends that aren't into Metal, but in the end they're Just Friends and not you're Best Bros to hangout with or travel to a Metal fest with.

For me its down to the person. What taste they have in music dosent matter to me . It would be cool to have a metalhead Friend , to go to concert and festivals with. Well it is what it is .

great video! this it out off topic but…how are you able to put those armbands on by yourself 😭😭😭please help!!!

Usually metalheads who like the same bands will make great friends but of course it's not 100 percent. Also like you said I couldn't be friends with metalheads who had no goals in life and furthermore if they're real life Beavis/Butthead clones forget them. Also when I go to concerts that's when metalheads unite but sadly you only see those people on that one night.

I have been a metalhead since I was 12 years old. I've met some cool metalheads and some assholes who don't give a shit about any other but themselves. Most of my greatest friends who went to school with me aren't even metalheads. I used to have a huge grudge against preps, jocks, and popular kids but after meeting some who were nice, humble, kind, and respectful people I grew out of that mentality because I realized that there are assholes and bad people in almost every group of people. Hell, I even dated a preppy girl who liked me for who I am. So the thing is guys that don't befriend people for what they look, are into, or whatever, befriend them for who they are

I find that some can be gate keep-y. Not all, obviously. Back in my single days, talking with other single metal head dudes they seemed to be rather aggressive with their preferences..one got triggered at the mention of a certain Metallica album 😳 I am a melodic death metal girl but man his comment still took me aback dude brought it up himself too! Needless to say, my partner is 100% not into metal a single bit and that's absolutely okay. I remember I actually got some friends INTO metal because they were infact so open minded so we were even better friends than before. But yeah I am not in contact with them anymore because life and stuff but I still wish them the best. I totally wish I could find more metal head friends nowadays, music taste isn't everything but after a while it does get lonely that I don't have the ability to share a new metal release or recommendations and such.

I'm just going to leave this: my wife is my best friend and shes not a metalhead at all. Our relationship is built on more important things such as our beliefs, values, and just the fact that we like spending time with each other. Aside from that, I have plenty of friends that are not metalheads but have been interested in the fact that I am and have asked questions out it. I also have other interests that I can connect with people such as movies, comics, and video games. Also, are there any fellow dog lovers here?

I think this is a good video, especially for metalheads who are teens. I spent most of high school hanging out with mostly assholes becuase they were metalheads like me and I didn't really think I fit elsewhere. So I felt kinda stuck. Shared love of the genre definitely isn't everything.

Man I wish I had metalhead friends. All my friends think metal is bad

53 yr old metal head here. I have honestly never had metal head friends. Every single friend I've ever had in my entire life. I've never looked like a metal head and never dressed like one.

personally, I enjoy having some metalhead friends that will join me for concerts or festivals... Still - it takes a lot more to build a longlasting friendship than a common taste in music

I've made friends in the metal scene here but I've also met people I super dislike too. Shows and stuff are a good way to meet people but it's definitely not everything when it comes to being friends. Actually some of my best friends don't even like metal, one of them is a huge Taylor Swift fan, it's all good.

It's like looking for other friends who are also heavily tattooed..

People are people but it is cool to have something in common.

I can't make metal friends because im the only metalhead at my school. Its sad as fuck.

Ironically you and my husband would be best friends. You look just alike, own the same flags, and like the same horror movies. We live in Michigan and literally only have 1 true metal friend because we don't use drugs or do stupid shit.

If you have a discord server il Join it ASAP

We like the same music, and dress similarly… don’t mean we will click and vice versa we appear different, but somehow click that’s how it’s been for me I live in Los Angeles, where there’s lots of shows and heads around, but I don’t talk to them. At shows I’ll run into some I knew in high school, but we’re not exactly friends.

Agreed. Making metal friends, let alone friends can be hard, in europe at least. I don't care too much if we like the same bands or not, but their actual attitude instead. Conclusion: metal or not, as long as you're cool. I'd rather be friends with a friendly non metalhead I can get on with than an unfriendly metalhead who I can't get on with.

I only want to make friends with Kjetil Vadir Haraldstad.

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For the record, the most toxic friend I ever associated myself with had the heaviest taste in music. *shrugs* weird how it plays out that way sometimes.

Awesome video man as always. I would love to do a collaboration with you some time if you were still interested. \m/

Idc what music or stuff people are into. Will say though, my personal experience the greatest friends I’ve made were people who have a similar music taste. That’s just me though. But I won’t judge I’m willing to befriend anyone almost