Do you want to forgive the ones who hurt you? - Parashat Vayigash - Rabbi Alon Anava 

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Peace and love

Todah for this teaching filled with gems of wisdom Rabbi. As the saying goes....people will forget what was said to them, but they will never forget how it made them feel.

Just the subject I been thinking about today. Perfect timing….

Forgive but not forget

God sent me here. “I Love You Man Thank You For Believing In Me”

G-d bless you Rabbi!!

I lost this teaching half way through and did not find it till today.thankyou.just what i needed

You are by far my favorite Rabbi. This video was posted in the perfect timing. Thank you Rabbi for spreading light and knowledge to the world. You are a gem to this world. Hashem should continue to bless you and guide you.🙏🏻

Yes, we need to forgive the ones that hurt us because we have hurt others also and need to be forgiven as well. This does not mean they will become our new best friends though. God Bless you brother!

The very first message I listened to as in 2023!! Happy Spiritfilled New Year Rabbi Alon families & his community! 💐(^o^)🎉🕊🐔🥚🐣🎊🙏✨ I kept looking until thrones were set up, and the Ancient of Days took His seat; His vesture was like white snow and the hair of His head like pure wool. His throne was ablaze with flames, its wheels were a burning fire. Daniel 7:9 The Lord is in His holy temple; the Lord’s throne is in heaven; His eyes behold, His eyelids test the sons of men. Psalm 11:4 And to the eyes of the sons of Israel the appearance of the glory of the Lord was like a consuming fire on the mountain top. Exodus 24:17

I want to 'want to forgive the ones that hurt me'.

Baruch Ha'Shem! Thank you :-)

God bless you rabbi that was wonderful explanation You have no idea how much hashiam loves you

Toda Raba for Ur Teachings Dear Soul…🙌🕎

Thank you so much, Rav, for this amazing class!

Awesome shiur!

We are fortunate to have such insight being poured out upon us and the have a rabbi such as this tipping the vase. Hashem bless all of you who are seeking a higher understanding. Shalom.

I have had to forgive a lot in my life, including people who did even ask for forgiveness. I did this primarily because I could not bear to go about with bitterness and resentment in my life. I had to accept what was done to me and move on. Otherwise I would have ended up blaming all my consequential failures on them and would have to wait for them to right the wrong they did to me. Forgiving them enables me to take responsibility for everything in my life and only when I do that, can I really change anything for the better, right that wrong myself. I hope that makes sense to whoever reads this. That said, I am not helping those who trespassed against me by doing that, on the contrary, the evil they threw my way, since I eventually managed to let it bounce off of me, by the above method, now bounces right back at them. It would have been better for them had I not forgiven them without them righting the wrong the did to me. Now they are going to have to pay the full price come Judgment Day

Surest thing is that when there's apologies, there should be forgiveness too, and efforts to prevent harm on both sides in the future. Also, it's important to remain truthful and realist in what we consider to be "hurtful". Some people perceives truth as hurtful. Maybe in that case it's more a matter of having better perceptions, than having anyone to forgive at all but the own self.

May GOD bless you as Messiah comes

I wonder how people would feel if you was a Messiah...your an inspiring person

hazak u baruch for all the help you provide us with your lectures, dear Rabbi 🙏

Thank you thank you gracious blessings to you

I'm very good at this. It's being assertive with the ones close to me when it comes to communicating their behavior is no longer acceptable moving forward in a way they understand I'm serious is where I fall short. They take too many chances and then I have no choice but to cut them off for my own best life health.

Thanks for sharing your insights on scriptures. This is a great lesson we all need to learn. My your life be filled with opulence.

Thank you. HaShem bless you and yours

Beautiful sermon - especially learning that Benjamin’s 10 sons are named after events that signify what Joseph missed in their lives -- very moving that Joseph was memorialized. I’d like to read that Rashi commentary. And I will look in this week’s parsha to see if Benjamin’s sons’ names are listed.

Thanks rabbi! Another excellent lecture! Baruch HaShem

Thank you rav

Good timing. Hazak Baruch.

I m crying when I listen to this story, let alone Joseph.

Thank you

Beautiful message as usual Rabbi Alon. Am In need of prayer. Financial and marital prayer. God bless you. May the master of the universe give us all peace and love poured out forevermore.

Shalom from Denver Colorado 🙏🏼

Wonderful!! Thank you, Rabbi

Thank you Rabbi

Yes, I've forgiven those that have hurt me, and those blocking me from getting work. And I've asked my siblings to forgive me if I've hurt them. Even my mother, I want to do more charity, but I am limited. I intend to do better....

this is a great lecture Reb Alon. a lot of food for thought.

Excelent!!!!!Amazing Shiur! Thank you so much !!

תדע רבה ברוך יי

Yeas I do pecause I must do so I can not carry that hate It make me sick but I know We are only people Forgivenes is better than angry fealings Thanks to Rappi Happy New Year 2023

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The wisdom and powerful beliefs within them is righteous as through of tetragrammaton

OMG, I found an answer for my many years question! Thank you, Rabbi Anava

Yes certainly 100%

Shalom 🐣 Forgiveness is constant in the Universe's ... . like ... inflationary Inflation inflating 🇸🇦

His brothers had a level of repentance. Sometimes family must be let go of when you know they will just continually hurt you and hinder your growth as a person. But of course if they were at risk of famine and I had the finances I would help them.

Amen

That was a state of civil war, in those times. He meant "if you walk in a movie theater and somebody steps on your Pumas, let it slide..." :)

@46:50 Curious perspective, for example, why would Hashem agree to what happened in Germany in 1933?

Anyone with vindictive predisposition could never possibly understand, at all, about the forgive and forget concept. Anyone who is prideful, or any tinge of egotism, could never accept forgiveness when too much trauma has done to them. Joseph was my favourite character in the whole Tanakh. It was his character and faithfulness that brought G-d's plan into fruition. If he had gone astray and became a vindictive and vicious man (because of what happened to him), his destiny of saving lives including the lives of his own family and his people, would not have happened. Shekinah was with him all his life. He even did right by asking his father to bless his eldest son first (always proper). When he saw his brothers after so many years, he cried bitterly in secret (to me that was when he knew he had forgiven them). He tested his brothers, because even though he had forgiven them, he still knew what they were capable of. G-d bless!

BUT ... in this past 2023 on October 7 is Divine order “ REMEMBER WHAT AMALEK DO IT TO YOU “

Rabbi how do we reconcile forgiveness Numbers 14:19 and Psalms 130:4

Baseless hate, hate for free.

The Torah also does not tell us that Joseph gave a bad report to Jacob as he did before. Jacob died without knowing what the brothers did to Joseph.... Joseph went thru all of that to get free from Lashon Hora.

Yes we can be evil, i dont like to tell Hashem His job, but sometimes the punishment does not feel like it fits the crime. The punishment can be rather cruel, then i start to think of Hashem in a different light, i dont like to think Hashem as cruel CHAS VE SHALOM. But there are some really cruel things going on in this world. If a person makes me angry and continues ti do so, i never hate them, i just walk away from their behaviour toward me, i cant subject myself to ongoing abuse. I dont bear a grudge if they sincerely apologise, if they dont apologise, and continually treat me like such, im better keeping off my distance

*I believe that Yosef forgave his brothers. Why? It states in Genesis 45:14-15 Yosef fell on Binyamins neck & wept, Yosef kissed all his brothers & wept upon them and after they talked. While is possible he was hurt with grief, to fall on your so called "enemy's" neck and weep is very humble. To be that close to your so called "enemy" weeping on their neck beckons the mind to think they could have embraced while weeping. The actual act of weeping on each others necks is a form of forgiveness. Binyamin was not even with the other brothers while they threw Yosef into the pit. Binyamin was the first that yosef wept and fell on his neck. Later in chapter **46:29**, it states yosef fell on Ya'akovs neck and wept. Now if he did this same action to his Father, why would he not be re-instututed through the medicine of forgiveness to his brothers? It is the same.*

"His mercy was *stirred*🍸 ..." (Pronounced "sterred")

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See Tora...funeral of Ya'akov..b'resheet 50 : 19,20,21 But Yosef said to them" dont be afraid .Am I in the place of God?....God meant it for good...I will provide for you

OK, THEN WHY DONT FORGIVE TO NAZIS ? NEVER !!!

G-D FORGIVES SIN NOT YOUR EXCUSES! DIOS PERDONA PECADOS NO SUS EXCUSAS!

No , I want to punish them

Egiptians should look differently than Israelites, so that is normal, then you don't recognise somebody in a new setting. I am pretty sure, the scripture told, that they spoke through a translator, and he wore make-up. Maybe the torah writes it differently... I mean, they thought him dead.

THERE IS ONLY ONE G-D IN ISRAEL! HAY UN SOLO DIOS EN ISRAEL!

AWESOME OXYMORON!

THERE IS ONLY ONE TRUE G-D IN ISRAEL! G-D FORGIVES SIN NOT YOUR EXCUSES!