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Been in that situation. I’ve met my man when he has nothing and still dependent on his mom. Instead of leaving him , I was with him to uplift and cheer him up until he finally found a job he’s passionate about. Now, he’s the one spoiling me without me asking him anything. ❤
Sana all nlng po . Ako ginawa ko lahat Ng sakripisyo . Nag struggle ako pero d ko sya iniwan. Bigla ako pinagpalit sa seaman . hehe ngayon nakuha ko na gsto ko at ok na ako hehe .
It will only matter if both of you let it matter. Me and my husband were married for 25 years now and money was never an issue cause we don’t let this be an issue. We live in the US now and I earn 5 times more than what he earns but we always make sure to uplift each other all the time. Position and money never became a gauge in our relationship. He is the most supportive, caring and religious husband I know of.
It takes a special husband to give his wife's career unconditional support. A man who is comfortable with himself doesn't feel threatened by his wife's success. It also takes a special type of woman to realize that her husband's masculinity is not measured by his earnings. This, too, requires self-esteem. - Mary Kay, You Can Have it All
When I met my Filipino BF, he was unemployed, from poor family background, but he was kind and I fell in love deeply. I was from a Chinoy family, I had my own business and savings. I never felt it was a problem, we got married. I set up another new business, he never found a job but instead helped and supported my biz. Many times I asked if he wants to work or do business, he said he is happy supporting me. So I thought we were OK. During our 23 years of marriage, I caught him cheating 3x. I would always forgive him. But the last one, he left me and our kids for a younger woman 24 years younger. So yah, I guess social status matters, especially if the guy feels insecure, and cannot be happy with a strong independent woman
True. Men like to feel needed. Not the other way around. They will cheat if you are taking the lead. Heard so many failed marriages because of this dynamic of women taking the lead
As we elevate in life we also want to be surrounded with people who has the same passion in succeeding. And that's when we begin to question some things, e.g. (relationship, friendships.. etc). We lose relationships, friendships, and certain people as we transform to be the best that we can be. As much as we want to bring these people with us on our jouney, but some aren’t just ready to grow; we can try to make them understand something, and hope they comprehend but we can't force people to evolve. With regard to money issue, I think this can be discussed privately. As you go along, just don’t let anyone make you feel bad for evolving and maybe no longer being available.
It matters,whatever you do,khit ok sa girl,in our culture nakakadown ito sa guy internally.guys like these tend to cheat,become violent and abusive to feel masculine,i know cause i grew up with one,society judge men on his capability to provide and add value sa family.real talk lang.
And guys who got status and money don't tend to cheat, become violent and abusive the same way? Nasa tao yon kung magpapaapekto siya sa emosyon niya. Pero i agree with you, female hypergamy always triumph over love, majority of the ladies mas gugustuhin maging single forever kaysa mag date down, that's just how the female psyche works. A King would turn a peasant to a Queen, but a Queen would never even look at the peasants way.
Real talk lng talaga. A woman can provide for a family for a temporary time. Pero hindi permanently. Kung mag asawa na, nakakapagod as a wife na ikaw lage. At nkaka down sa husband over time. It won't matter as long as hindi ginagawang big deal for the woman that she earns better. Like what Kryz and Slater says, never complain about it.
We all know modern women will not "date down" nowadays. This situation is .99999%. 😅 If ever the woman is a "boss babe" she will surely jump to the better deal guy the moment she meets alpha chad or Tyrone in this situation.
This is my situation right now. I earn way more than my partner, but he's undeniably loyal, masipag, sweet and mabait. He accepts his economic status hence walang ego and thankful to me and I appreciate it and sa akin walang issue because he compensates it with what most financially stable men lacks. kaya di ko gets yung sinasabi na kelangan iparamdam yung male ego kaya nag che cheat. Napaka immature na reasoning.
The fact that the guy was able to build a house out of his meager income and save some says something about his potential to be successful in the future. In my case, I’ve never looked at the salary or whatever is in his pocket. It has always been the drive and grit to succeed and from the looks of it, he has it. He was just unfortunate to be born in a financially incapable family. Hence, the lack of opportunity to study. But looking at it from a third person point of view. The guy is definitely way better than you for achieving things that seemed impossible for someone of such a background. You’re blessed to have parents who were capable of supporting you. So, the question should be “Are you good enough for the guy?”
I'm in the same situation, nonetheless i still married my husband. Money is easy to get for as long as you work hard, but peace within and a kind person is something rare, it is more than money to be honest. As long as I see him working hard to earn then that's okay, i doesn't matter to me if I earn more,at end of the day, you have to support each other, never ever make your man feel less just because he earns less than your salary. And to the letter sender, if you truly love someone, you'd never have doubts, in this case I see you don't trust him fully, it's best to separate ways because if you marry him in that situation, you guys would end up counting that money you are putting in your marriage and argue about everything, its not healthy.
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if that is your perspective in life then why did you choose that guy? maybe find a man that earns so much more compared to your earnings, and see if you will be much happier. if not then teach yourself on how to be contented and grateful with what you have.
huhuhu OMG i think this connects to what happened to me and my situation ship. The reason why it didn’t work it’s because he feels inferior daw, about how things go and I look expensive kahit i don’t even brag about something or what :(( it’s sad na he was able to think it that way. Maybe because kada lakad namin I always offer to libre, and mostly all our lakads-we use my rides. So all he does to bring is himself lng talaga during magdate kami both. But, it wasn’t really an issue for me kase I’m single for too long and I know i’ve healed and learned from my past relationship and know that I am really next and looking forward na sya talaga ang magiging karelationship ko and i’m willing to give everything I can offer to show na yun nga, I am ready for him and I really do see my self spending my life with him. But iba pala yung take nya 😢 it’s just sad that it didn’t workout. Maybe i’m just too much.. idunnooo bahala na oyyy waHAHAHHAA haysss ngano man mga laki pa-ego ego pa jud oi, wahhahaa jokes. but lagi, it is what it is. 🥺🤞🏼 so relatable kaayo ang topic hahahhaa na memories bring back memories bigla tuloy!! 😅😂 love youuuu kryzz and slater, love u skyfam sending hugsss 🌷💗🫶🏻
I feel you sis. I feel sad na meron ako ng mga meron ako kase naiinsecure BF ko sa mga meron ako. Ano gagawin ko? Tanggalin ko lahat ng meron ako para magka peace of mind sya at mawala insecurities nya. 🥺
Ladies..take it from me who made this big mistake. Good thing you are not married pa and not invested many years in these kind of men. Blessing yan na nawala sila.promise!! Kung insecure na sila sa simula pa lang, their insecurities will grow bigger the more they see you succeed in your careers. Eventually they'll look for other women who are below them. Yung mas mababa ang pangarap at mas madaling makuha (if u know what i mean)... they'll lie and cheat on you to feel validated... madami ng ganitong lalaki ngayon kaya ingat talaga gurls. I advice you to look for men not boys. Yung kayang lumevel sa goals mo.. hindi yung kailangan mo pa siyang hilain pataas kasi nababaon na siya sa insecurities nya. Malaking pagsisi when my husband cheated on me and left us with some wh*re. I was there when he had nothing..sacrificed so much to help him grow..dumb myself down para maitaas siya but wala parin.. take this advice with a grain of salt.🫡
And how your partner is,if he's greedy and slacks all day then it does matter especially if ikakasal na kayo. Its beyond unfair that you carry all the responsibility and your other half doesn't even support or show special care.
It's very hard for me. Same situation with the letter sender. Only child, but I already have my own house, so far so good sa career ko ( supervisor) and like the sender I earn more compared sa bf ko. yung bf ko working in a bpo company. Only child din bf ko, but wala na both parents nya. Lately nagkaroon kame ng pagtatalo because hindi na nakayanan ng insecurities nya kase "Girl boss" nga ako, achiever talaga ako. Idk just one day he just broke up with me, I'm super clueless. Then non nahimasmasan sya sinabe nya na super accomplished daw ako, hindi daw nakaka proud na maging bf sya. Wala daw syang sariling Bahay, walang car at walang property like me. Tbh hindi ganon ka big deal sakin yon as long as he is trying to earn money for his future and I'm also encouraging him to get a house soon. Ang hirap parang kasalanan ko ba na only child Ako,at Buhay pa parents ko and I have my own house na katas ng paghihirap at pagiipon ko. It's so hard. Nag apologize sya and tinanggap ko. But IDK for sure it will still be our problem lalo na eto yon insecurities nya na parang need nya ako mapantayan para magka peace of mind sya.
@@MK-tk9sv yes. Everytime pipitik insecurities nya sakin nya ibabaling. Like he will break up with me out of nowhere. Then apologize after. I'm so tired. Finally cutting ties with him. Thank you. 🥺
I understand you better. I was in that kind of relationship too. Let me tell you this, it is never your fault that you are smart and better. You work hard for that. Harder than he knows.
@@MK-tk9sv I just want him to appreciate me. I mean being with him thru thick and thin. But all he did was to project his insecurities, broke up with me for the nth time and now I've had enough. I just can't take it. Thank you for understanding me.
I had the same problem with my ex. We were LDR for 2 years and then pagbalik nya, he was shocked coz I achieve a lot and he thought he can’t reach me anymore. And he found a young girl.21 years old haha. They are now married
@@exmrsnowwomanscorned8369 Men are pressured to be the providers. A man finding out a girl makes 10 times more than him can be a turn off while for women it is the opposite. Thats why a woman dating a rich man is something that makes most women excited. Reason why women are more goldigger than men. It’s understandable why he left the relationship.
Money is important to the extent it provides security to the person or a relationship: food, education of your children, household needs and medical bills. Money only becomes a poison if the person uses it as an entitlement to flaunt, have extravagant lifestyle, luxurious parties, and excessive buying of material things. the person's identity becomes his financial wealth(money) where money is already a god.
Men providing for the family is biblical. But, if they plan ahead then they can do something about it. If they get married, she can petition him in the future so he can move with her abroad and find a very decent job. They can work it out as long as they have no issues about it. Issues tend to arise when you listen to all the noise/ opinion people who surround you make. Thats when we tend to feel insecure. If the foundation is strong and both are determined, then there should be no problem. As long as Jesus is in the center.
I think we must also think on what kind of marriage issue we can only share with others because there are some things that are meant to be kept between the two of you
hindi enough ang love. Money is the most important lalo na pag tumatanda na kayo, ang love, sa mga teenager lang pinaka importante yan na akala nila ang bf/gf nila ay buhay na nila.
Mahiya naman ang mag asawang ito doon sa mga totoong nagtatrabaho. Kung maka preach ng hardwork akala mo naman, naghirap sila 'no? I would rather listen to people who build themselves from scratch and rose from the ranks than listen to these two who literally has everything handed to them.
Ampalaya naman to. Ngano naminaw man ka nga mas prefer man diay nimo tong nagstart from scratch? They were asked for an advice so nagshare ra sad sila unsa paminaw nila ang pwede nila mahatag na good advice. ✌️😁
Then don't listen, everybody has their own perspective in life. Its obvious that they're well off pero may nag tanong sakanila eh and they shared their thoughts. Why not create your own podcast and mag advise ka? And hardwork doesn't just revolve around sa nag hirap ka o hindi.
