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This is just my opinion ah, and based on my experience my husband did not proposed to me, when I turned 29 and i felt like im not getting any younger na and since we are already 4 years together, i did not wait na mag proposed sya. Out of the blue I asked him, do you think this is the best time to get married when he said yes the following year we got married na agad agad ahahaha,,, for the ring naman he gave me a promised ring thAt looks like engagement ring nung 1 year kami kaya di na nag buy, after we got married he bought me a diamond ring, hahaha. Syempre di rin naman ako papayag, hehehe. What I am trying to say is even if you’re a girl you can ask if he decline then it’s fine meaning his not yet ready, we girls as you mentioned may timeline like ako gusto ko makasal before 30. Ahahaha,,, so technically ako nag proposed and it’s fine it’s not that wala akong class or respect sa self ko it’s my choice and hellooo we are already in the 2022, ahahaha ayun lang just sharing may story malay mo may maka relate mag propose din…Hahaha
Dipende kase yan pero most of the time may isa sa relationship ayaw mag patali. Pero they don't want to get out of their comfort zone because of the convenience of having someone with them.
@@venimmortal440 tried to ask my husband about he just answered siguro sa iba pero di rin kasi bakit ka daw magpapatali if di ka masaya or di kapa ready.
Ako kasi, I know he won't do the proposal too soon since he wants to be financially stable daw muna, ako kasi nabudol na ako dyan sa previous relationship ko I spent 3 years before yung current partner ko now. He said, yes dapat na namin ma-engage. Then, sinabi ko na I can't wait forever dahil 27 na kami pareho and may timeline talaga ako, hello magbubuntis pa ako. Buti sana mabuntisagad diba? Reality check, we both agreed the first months nung naging kami na sooner or later magpapakasal kami. And now, by the Year Ends, non negotiable na hindi ikasal kami. Sinabi ko din sakanya na tulungan kami, we both have Decent job, he's an Engineer and Govt Employee ako. Kaya I decided to myself, you take it or leave it, so he took it. Kaya ayun. Normalize knowing ano ba talaga gusto mo as a WOMAN. And the right guy will make adjustments for you. 😊
I really love this ep ❤️ I agree hehe we were 6years together nang husband ko when I decided to make paramdam to him like “are we taking this to the next level or we are just staying as is” “nakikita moba ako sa future mo” ganong conversations hahaha 😂 when I did not saw any move or motives that we are getting somewhere , I proposed a break-up ng malala kase naisip ko baka sinasayang ko nalang ang time ko sa relationship na ito hehe I can feel his scared as well on the future (financial aspect I think as a major) buttt dang! He proposed months later saying, di niya daw kaya kami mag break and now we are nearing our 2nd year wedding anniv. with our 3month old baby ❤️ Truly, it takes two to tango to work things out, I don’t let him carry all the burden when I can also help him, I work as well as he is and we also help our first family kahit pa onti onti
Tama si Slater. While girls have biological clock, guys naman have “financial clock”. Kailangan lahat ready muna at stable na ang income bago mag-asawa. Hindi naman lahat ng girls gusto i-asa sa husband lahat ng gastos but the way our society is kasi, ang laki ng pressure for the guys to be the sole provider sa household. Sana lang marinig ng bf ni letter sender ‘tong advice ni Slater because it’s the truth. You will never be ready but God always provides naman as long as you work for it.
a very relatable ep again?! i want to take their advice and just talk through it with my partner but at the same time wishing for him to randomly stumble on this podcast lol i love you skyfam! 💛 another amazing ep
Just propose to the guy. Best part pa eh you get to decide when it happens. Kapag nag-no, eh ‘di hiwalayan mo. Tagal na ng 11 yrs na wala siyang plano for the both of you.
I listen to the full podcast on spotify, this conversation makes my heart tear and eyes cry. I am on a 7 yr relationship and i am having the same dilemma with the letter sender :(
Gents I understand that some of you doesn't want to get married, but at least be open enough to talk about this with your partner sa una pa lang. Be it Church or Civil, Women deserves to be asked to get married. Money will come later when you work together.
A guy might not propose yet, for whatever reason, but then he would show some evident signs that he has found the one. He would make it very clear that he wanted to marry his girl in the future through his actions and words. And so if the girl is confused or was "made confused" by her guy then look for someone else, she has no future with that person. End of story.
one of the best episodes! What I like about Kryz and Slater is that they’re respectful, not judgmental and try to understand the people involved and situation of the sender in all angles. And when they give advice, they really take it seriously (look at Kryz face here, intense😆). You can really feel their sincereness when they give advice na based from what they know and experience. Hindi basta-basta lang and nagpapaka-know it all. Keep it up Skyfam!
Big factor sa guys ang financial stability before getting married. I'm in a long term relationship and he proposed to me when we're on our 5th yr. But just as we thought we're ready, his finances plummet due to student loans so we postponed the marriage and fiance visa going to the US. It's difficult there in the US to start over. I was ready to let him go na and I was about to give up na because we're already in a very long engagement 8 yrs but I can see his efforts to turn his life around for the better. By the way we both take good care of our elderly parents. His Mom died recently. Reason why I stayed is that i see and feel his sincerity even though circumstances has been very hard the past years. We're both getting older but we chose to be optimistic. I can't see myself being married with another man na eh. So many colleagues of mine commenting na di daw ako pakakasalan ng fiance ko and promise ring lang daw engagement ring ko. But I don't care what they think. We just both know that what we have is real. So many married couples are separating because they weren't as connected and committed..
For me lang, 11 years is an ample time; a long time ma nga eh para makapag ipon siya to try to get married kahit may maitabi lang ng konti within 11 years and if wala talaga pwede naman civil wedding muna mas mura lang kasi yung civil wedding tapos pag nka ipon pwede naman sa church after nalang. Ika nga pag gusto may paraan pag ayaw may dahilan. She's right hindi naman kayo tumatandang paatras. Cause if a guy sees you in his future he'll do anything to keep you in his life. Some people say papel lang yan but it's not you're locking it in making it superrrr official like law official yung relationship ninyo. I once knew someone like that na they've been together for 7 years pero the guy has not proposed and meron na silang anak. Masakit din sa part ng babae yan eh kasi para mong sinabi sa kanya na least sa priority mo yung pakasalan siya I think guys just have to be honest to their partners kung gusto ba nilang pakasalan yung girl o hindi wag na paabotin ng 11 yrs. I think people think din na when you get married that you have to have kids. D nman ganum yun pwede ka namang ikasal ng wala pa sa plano ninyo magkaanak. Kaya takot mga tap ngayon magpakasal dahil sa stigma ng society na dapat may anak agad pagkatapos mg kasal. D naman ganun yun. Have kids when you're ready financially , physically, and emotionally.
I think Filipinos hyped up the concept of (church) marriages so much that they intimidate themselves out of it. It doesn't have to be expensive, invite every relatives you won't even meet again.
Wait what?? if Slater proposed to Kryz at 34 then the birthdate year in Wikipedia written as 1987 is NOT CORRECT. HAHAHA :D i mean that was few years ago na when he proposed
This is nice to hear, very mature idea in life perspective however, I think you guys failed to focus on your sender's concern? Did you actually answer directly the question? Sounded like you talked about yours most of the entire video. Well just a thought.
I was with my ex for 10 years and she never wanted to get married or have kids. I did. I always wanted a wife and kids. There wasn't much intimacy but things weren't bad. It felt like we were more like roommates than a couple after 10 years. Something clicked in my head at 36 and I just couldn't prolong the talk any longer. I decided to end it and found the love of my life 12 months later. 18 months in and the difference is night and day. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Cheers.
marriage and proposal must be discussed in a relationship, to be clear if alam mo if nasa same path ba kayo or not. bat ka mahihiya magtanong sa plans niya eh kung oras mo naman yung nasasayang, di ba?
Please dont hate me: If society gives the same benefits(easy buying a home, finance, adoption) for an unmarried couple, I will not get married. People & feelings changed, but you have to stay in an unhappy marriage or society will judge you.
Communication is key .. so you know where you stand. Cliche as it may sound, but communication is more that talking but processing information and accepting opinions, and most esp. meeting in between
Being 26, almost 10yrs in relationship. In first 8 yes feels soooooooo slow pacing. I've learned to speak for myself. It's okay to your whats, when, why's. Turns out he has his own timeline/plan but so different to mine. Now, he hasn't propose yet but at least we had compromise on OUR timeline already.
My bestfriend and her boyfriend has been in a relationship for more than 4 yrs, fights are very normal in a relationship but what bothers me is that they've been having "Cool off" twice already. was is already a sign to give up the relationship or fight for it? because honestly i, myself is also in a relationship for 5 years and getting married this November but never had cool off even once (because i dont belive that anyway) should i tell her to give up their repationship completely or i should really silent and stay out of it? thank you for the advice. 😊
Men is logical Women is emotional That’s why sometime relationship have conflicts. But the end of the day if you find true love. It is not about the time you spent with it. Is about how you survive all the struggles inside in your relationship.
I was also in a relationship for 14 years before we get married. I understand that it may be an exception not the rule. But a man has to grow up, especially if you want a traditional man. He would love to have to power to support not just himself, but you and however many kids you want. That's why until he's in that headspace he won't do it. That's why most girl prefer older men like 5-7 years older than them on average 🤷
