Lol. You said when they don’t come after you any more, it’s a good one. It’s been a year. No contact at all. I am finally realizing that I am lucky I stuck to no contact and I’m glad thanks to you I begin to understand who she is. I have had to cut 4 friends out of my life. 2 of them where my closest friends. However, I now only have my friends that stood by me all the way. I am very blessed to have these people in my life. At times I still get sad over my ex friends but then I remind myself, how they treated me and I then smile and say, “ I am enough “ and I know the truth. Thank you for doing what you do! You have saved my life.
You are always in the narcissist mind. It could take many years sometimes even decades but they will 98% to try to contact their victims. So don't never ever take away Your NC to the narcissist.
Very important point. They do distort reality and change the narrative to fit their version of the story. It's has nothing to do with you. It has all to do with them. ❤
This is what I was told... "You're always going to be in my head." I think I will never forget this sentence for the rest of my life. I can barely remember any other part of the conversation in which the narcissist kept going on and on without allowing me to speak.
'It's skewed, their version of reality is different to [yours]...aka actual reality!' 💯 He wrote an [unpublished] book all about being the victim of and male survivor of dv. All his claims in this book are examples of what he spent years doing to myself, his ex-wife, daughter, sister, colleagues, and all his other exes. The lies and manipulation of the truth in this book to paint himself as a victim have given him support and sympathy from the internet. The book does breakdown in to the remblings of a grandiose delusional centered around conspiracy theories, but it detracts from the point that he is a very dangerous man and not a victi at all.
@@palapalak.8907 probably don't even know they are one just trauma growing up. They still know they do wrongs on 2 u. I agree no therapy, couples therapy would be the worst waist of time... No saving them.. 💘
No one should be harming anyone and everyone has the right to have freedom to live their life the way they choose! Besides, these Narcissists are fully aware of everything they are doing and it is intentional. They are a abuser, assaulter and a attacker so their actions is not worthy of forgiveness. They see people as objects!
Unless...They where not narcistists but...psychopats ? I heard Narcistist can't thrive& survive on its own . Need people for validation. Well I had kinda covert vounerable narcistist and she is type lonelyner. She is alright on her own after discard .And she was covert passive aggressive vounerable type. So maybe it's rather psychopathy? Because psychopats are OK on their own
@lisaking87 I being dumped like trash without any explanation clousure and clear cause.( After many years marriage) . On a top of that even more confusing: you don't know this person from sutch behaviour. Rather opposite: modest :" gentle soul " . She dissappeared for 3 years with complete silence and after 3 years she claimed divorce ( also without meeting clousure conversation explanation) . When I asked her in court " What happend darling where you being ? What's all this means ? There was one sentence " I got nothing to tell you" ...During 3 years I was trying to contact her though emails , other phone numbers to solve all situation either positively or make steps towards divorce ( because we are In 40s not 20 anymore, so it's just waist of life) . No chance for contact explanation solving problems or possible divorce.. I even thought she got schizophrenia? But from my research schizophrenia develop only before 25 yo. Not I 40s. There was also no financial problems or " game to play with houses" . We got money and houses ( me and her...) No mortgages. So .. i don't know 😕. Oh yes I got only 1 email from her saying " I got enough of controlling you and living in fear " 🤔😕...Whaaaat???!!!
“Narcissist” metaphorically do you mean? Maybe your boyfriend? Maybe your doctor? I don’t know. I don’t have the answer. A pill maybe, against the stories he tells.
