There’s one big no-no when it comes to a woman’s personal space… never touch her hair! Watch “The Real” ladies break down this golden rule, plus Tamera shares her big chop story, in this clip. Find out where to watch: bit.ly/1y8pmiN
I swear people have a problem with a black woman's hair no matter what we do with it. Whether it is relaxed, natural or weaved up, it's always an issue. Worry about your own hair and focus on growing them edges back. 😘
I dont care. I have natural hair and i think people of other races arent educated in it so when they ask questions i use that op to educate them. I was asked about hair growth and then some girl touched my hair. I have no problem.with it but i can see Tamar's issue because its not hers.
blakebymharris Wow! Whether it's hers or not that is an invasion of privacy. A lot of White women don't like having their hair touched because they said it makes them feel like a dog. There is no way you just come up to people you don't know and touch them - their hair included!!!! To me that's my personal space weave or weaveless!
French Vanilla I agree. A stranger can not just walk up and touch my hair, natural or not. People I'm close to, I don't trip. Then again, people I'm close to have the decency to ask first. Strangers, never, I don't know where your hands have been. Everybody don't know about that soap and water and/or sanitizer. LOL. Just keepin it Real.
Being a black girl with real almost waist length hair when I blow it out, I relate to this video I hate when people touch my hair and ask if it's real like black girls can have long hair too it just takes time & care,
Exactly if most took the time on our hair because we have good, fragile hair, then our hair would be just as long. Black women has really good hair it takes more time to keep it healthy so that it can grow. its how society has conditioned us to how we are "suppose" to treat our hair and its very different and special than most. I LOVE OUR HAIR lol
17iamhere and I almost want to say it really doesn't take a whole lot to make it grow our hair grows just as fast as anybody else like you said it is fragile so it does break off if you don't pay careful attention to our ends but even still I neglect my hair at times and it still grows it was only when I had a relaxer trying so hard to be somebody I wasn't that my hair would not grow and now that I think about it under those conditions nobody's here would grow a little white woman put a relaxer on her hair every 8 weeks and then try to flat iron it every week on top of it and then bleach it cuz she wants a new color she be more bald than I ever was
It's so annoying, but I do understand that they never see our real before even our own black people, thinking that it wasn't possible. But when you think about it, the whole time our hair was growing, but we just perm it and then say it never grow, but we basically kill whenever it does. When you're girl women and go natural there's a certain confidence and freedom that comes with it, specially when you wear it out a lot. Sometimes I miss my hair after putting it in braids a week later. It's sad that as black people, we cannot be ourselves and people will not understand the big deal, but it is a big deal.
In USA everything is rude; everything is taken personal and everything is offensive... people here should relax and remember that in other countries the culture is different too and people don’t do it out of respect sometimes is just of admiration
The world of Daniela and Dariana There’s a little concept called personal boundaries, which you clearly do not understand. Regardless of intent or culture, you are not entitled to anyone else’s body. So they absolutely have a right to be rude if it comes down to it. Don’t touch people without permission.
Courtney Taylor thats what Am talking about people take everything personal and so are si dramatic, if you would visit a third world country you will see what real problems are.
The world of Daniela and Dariana What does third world countries and their issues (while no doubt serious and deserve to have awareness spread) have to do with basic manners and respecting personal boundaries? The main point is don’t touch strangers without permission.
This girl touched my hair when it was really greasy then continued to say, "omg its so greasy". Then I said, " well I never told you to touch my hair". She was shookth
i hate when people touch my hair!!! especially when they dont ask, have dirty fingernails, or the next thing they say is "are you mixed"? YES! imma mix these lefts and rights if you don't back up. All black women dont have short, unmanageable hair
No one's hair is "unmanageable" it is simply a matter of learning how to manage your hair and not care for your hair based off of European beauty standards. Don't reinforce stereotypes.
Tamara S you say tamato, i say tomato.... im not reinforcing any stereotypes. What may be manageable for you may not be manageable for me and vice versa.
No sweetie. You said tomato, I said oranges. Two different things. Don't be defensive, i'm just trying to spread correct messages, not ignorance. Yes management is "subjective" but you saying that something can be manageable for me and not for you is the same thing as saying, "i'm too lazy to take the time to find a way to manage my hair." With time and patience, anything is manageable as long as someone with the same hair texture can manage it too.
Tamara S im not defensive. And I'm in no way, shape, or form ignorant. You're knowledge of hair is clearly not needed here because my hair is very manageable. So take your "i can do it" mother of the earth ass some where else. The only hair I'm concerned about is my own. I don't let people touch my hair and i dont put my hands in others' hair, PERIOD! So go teach a hair class to people who want to hear what you have to say. Be blessed!
Oh hush, everyone is ignorant to a certain extent. Look ignorance up in the dictionary and maybe you won't be "so" ignorant. Mother of the earth? Lol girl please. I'm in no way, shape or form a natural hair enthusiast, but i've done the education on our hair and you should too. Enjoy your day.
As a DARK skinned girl with curly wavy long hair you would be amazed at the crazy things people say and do to me... I have been told that I must have a perm, relaxer, texturizer or some chemical service. Or I can't be ALL black? Or I must be ALL BLACK cuz I'm too DARK to be mixed. All these things are usually said while the unknown assailant is elbow deep in my hair....Simultaneously having a hairgasm and checking for tracks.....Had a manager once (white with locks) who patted me like a damn dog every time she saw me. So one day I bit her....She was like WTF? I said Hey sometimes u pet something without the owners permission u get bit. She got it......lol....Reach One Teach One!!!
+Tanesha Richardson I go through same thing. Always thinking my hair is weave, and because some can't find the balls to ask, they decide to pull it instead. I couldn't stress it enough how irritating it is.
I think it's great that Tamara is confident enough with herself to wear her natural hair on national tv. It speaks volumes about her! I am a huge fan of hers!
I have lived in South Korea for almost 4 years and I have natural hair. People always want to touch my hair and not ask. When I first got here I didn't mind, but then I start to feel like a "pet at the zoo". So now, when they go to touch my hair without asking, I pull away so quick. And another thing that kills me is when Koreans try to tell ME what I should do with MY hair. I say to myself, they have lost their mind.
That's what Africans do to white people visiting their countries... You gotta be a little more understanding when you're in a place that has a different culture and attitude towards what is considered appropriate and what not.
ZosiaSamosiaOo I'm sensitive because I said that Africans do not tell white people what to do with their hair? Is that a false statement? She said the South Koreans told her what she should do to her hair and since you decided to compare her staying in South Korea to White people coming to Africa, I decided to make that known to you. As she stated in her comment, the thing that aggravates her the most is when the south Koreans try to tell her what to do with her hair. Oh, and I love how you generalize Africa like it's a country. And I do leave my house Thank you. As a matter of fact, I left my country.
I think so many black girls/mixed girls look AMAZING in their natural hair. Especially when it's big or/and curly. I know many black girls that don't wear weave or wigs but relax their hair. I personally think it looks best natural!!!!
+Jviie57 Doesn't your natural hair gets pulled and actually damaged by weaves rather than protected by them? When I see girls with short little curls get a super long weave I feel like it's all going to fall out along with their real hair that won't hold the excess weight.
I think its bullshit that black women say my hair is too course, hard or difficult to deal with and manage. News flash ladies, you need to put water in your hair for moisture everyday. Water and oils are afros best friend. And yes your afro hair will have shrinkage it's a good thing! Also deep condition your hair as needed and seal ends with oils. Also rinse conditioner with cold water to closed ends of hair. These tips help my hair grow longer, thicker, stronger, and shinier. Now I understand and know how to take care of my natural hair and I feel if more black women know how to take care of the hair, then it would not be so many black women wearing weaves. Because we are the only race with this type of coils hair texture and its beautiful.
Allthingsmindless143 You have to love your coils. There's nothing wrong with your tight coiled or kinky hair or naps for you. This is the problem with black women. They always want straight hair, like straight hair is better than what you have. I think weaves as a protective hair styles is bullshit too, because if that was true then people with weaves all will have healthy hair. And what you protecting if your hair is cover with someother hair and you never wear you own?
dcj5885 I'm talking about nappy to the point where you cant even get the comb through it. And since you want to start, White people have naturally thinner hair so they get weaves and clip ins too. They and the ones getting lip injections and changing the size of thing on their bodies so its them too.
YAAAASSSS, TAMERA!!!! I'm a big fan of yours and a fellow naturalist. I follow you on social media and knew you had big chopped. I love that our hair is versital (i.e. curly, straight, wig or weave). I'm so excited that you felt comfortable to wear your beautiful natural look on the show. Don't get me wrong your styles are always on point, but rocking your curly fro on The Real is so refreshing. Stay encouraged in all that you do. Peace and love.
I'm half black, but I was adopted and raised by my white grandparents. I love my mother to pieces but she had no clue how to manage my curls. My hair was straightened and relaxed to the point where I had to do "the big chop" in high school. My family always singled me out and teased because I never wanted to get my hair wet in the pool, or if I'd just decide to wear it curly one day I'd be so embarrassed from all the name calling, I'd straighten it immediately. Now Im twenty two and I love my curls. They're soft and loose and now that I'm an adult, I know there are fun ways to style my natural hair and I know which products to use. I see these little girls, (I'm talking as young as four and five years old) either with a white mother who isn't educated on how to manage their hair, or a black mother who hates her own hair so she fries her child's head as well. I want to shake them and tell them to leave it the hell alone. It's beautiful.
I love Tamera's hair, and how the curls really show the true compassion of it. I hope her hair stays like that for a while because it's my most popular hairstyle by Tamera. Love you, Tamera, and keep them curls like that, girl!
The reason why so any other cultures ask black women to touch their hair is because they so use to women like tamar they that be astonished by our real natural hair! Not soo much anymore since a lot of women are natural again
you are a smart girl. that is what I have been saying all along.it is only recently that a lot us are proudly wearing our hair natural so other races are just now discovering our hair. we have been hiding our hair under straight wigs and wavy wigs for so long.IF white woman wore Afro wigs all the time us too wouldn't be familiar with white peopl hair but they mostly wear their own hair and when they use extensions they wear something that looks like their own hair.
Right as a people we need to embrace ourselves my motto is "not against them(whoever them may be in the scenario) but with us! It starts at home with your little daughter of sister or cousin or mentee or niece. It takes a village to raise a child out community has forgotten that
Shemashay I had just posted the same comment above. Black women shouldn't take it personal because like you said, most of society don't see black woman rocking their natural hair on the regular anywhere on mainstream TV.
Loni, honey, I love you, but you need to stop generalizing black women's hair experience. I wear my NATURAL hair proudly, and have never touched a weave or a wig. Though if others choose that path that's fine too.
Zhane Doethere is more problem in the world than hair..i dont understand it when people sit down to have a conversation about hair, put a weave whatever and wear it natural which i do and get on with it. please!
aintnobodygottimefadat yes she did. people touching a black person's hair and somebody getting their hair touched by someone who is not black are not the same thing. It happens way too much. Loni hair is straight so it is different she can not relate.😒
I'm latina. As a person with naturally thick straight hair, I have longed for curls like Tamara's. I think her hair looks amazing. In fact, I loved other people's hair more than mine because it is different. I'm not saying I hate mine at all, I just find it boring. lol
I hate when strangers are all up in my personal space trying to touch my curls..... n then they have audacity to ask if my hair has been always curly like that.. I guess it’s rare for men to have long curly hair...
Omg!!! Thank you for this click. Im black and use to work as a cashier in a predominantly white neighborhood and the customers were fascinated by my hair. They gave compliments, they wanted to touch, it. I remember I read an article about black women hair during segregation. Men of all races were so fascinated with admiration with the styles we wore during that time that authorities were legally trying legally band us from doing our hair certain ways
I'm not black but I've had people touching my curly hair without asking since i was a kid, it really is the most annoying feeling in the world. when I was 7 I was at church and I felt someone stroking my hair, i turned around and saw a woman telling another woman "she has such a great hair" like, hello? lady? I'm a human being, u can't just touch me and discuss it with your friend like I'm not there.
Tamera looks so cute with her natural hair! I love my weaves but lately I've been embracing my natural hair as well! Also doesn't matter if its mine or not I hateeee when someone puts their hands in my hair, at least ask! come on now!
I actually don't like the black hair on Tamar. I think lighter tones fit her skin tone better and make her stand out more. I think this look is really just...bland. There's nothing special about it.
See, I'll agree with the bangs, but not about the light blonde being too light for her skin. Light brown would be good with her skin tone, but not dark brown and especially not jet black. Tamar has always had a lighter tone. She looks too bland with it this dark. The lighter color makes her stand out more.
I hate when people put their hands in my hair especially the ones that dont ask permission. I sat down detangling my hair for hours after people kept putting their hands in my hair, pulling it, doing the little shaggy thing you know playing with it. I started to cry because I had to cut a chunk out that had a ball. They were like "no way thats your real hair". Now when people criticise the wigs and the weave and say they prefer my real hair i just laugh. They dont know the struggle
I love this discussion. I went natural in 2008. I have not had a relaxer since the summer of 2007. That is almost 10 years. I love my natural hair. Tamera's hair is very cute. If you want to go natural, what is stopping you? I say just embrace your natural hair and you can love it as well. It is a little on the high maintenance side, but it is so worth it!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE TAMERA'S HAIR!!! She is so CUTE!!!!! And Tamar looks real real good with black hair. I love it. Jeanie too...Her hair looks really good. And yea...I'm cool with some people touching my hair but some people are over the top and are Team Too Much...so I'm not cool with EVERYBODY touching my hair.
I know right. I don't see why she made a point to people not to ask for her to wear her natural. I'd like to see her hair to. I bet she looks good with her real hair.
Tamera with her curls to me is the most natural and beautiful look to me because that's how I saw her when I grew up was that curly beautiful hair and it matched her quirky personality. I hope no one here ever feels ashamed of their natural hair. You are all beautiful💖🌈 God made no mistakes.
I’m mixed race and have long curly hair. The other day, some woman touched my hair without asking, like put her hand in my hair. I always get compliments, but I’ve never experienced anything like that before, and she kinda did it from behind so I didn’t really see it coming. I was too stunned to do anything😔
omg when Tamera said her husband like her natural hairs that reminded me of my mom and dad and how my dad lovessss my moms natural hair. I always remember my dad be all over my mom (in a good lovey way) and noticing her beautiful short curls.
See? I'm opposite of Loni.....I don't touch my husband's hair, he doesn't touch mine......happily ever after, BOOM!! Not even during sex, hol up playa, let me grab bonnet! That's what it's for, to preserve my hair. Say what you want, it is what it is. #Ijs
I'm mixed, so I have thick, curly hair, and EVERYONE WANTS TO TOUCH IT! I've been in public, and I get compliments, which I appreciate, but a woman came up to me one day, and said, "Oh my gosh, your hair looks so exotic, can I touch it..?" And I was like, I'd rather you not, and went on my merry little way.
I loooove my natural hair and I'm never processing it again! I can't believe I ever did! I would probably have more hair on my head now if it hadn't tried to fit in.
when I was in middle school I touched my black friend's hair and she got upset. I had no idea why, my white friends always touched each other's hair. Now that I'm older, I feel bad. but I was young and I just didn't know!
I think she was upset because black people get told a lot of mean things about our hair since it's so different from white people's hair. There were even times when black people couldn't wear their natural hair in work environments because they were told that it wasn't "professional". So I guess her hair was very sacred to her or she just didn't want to feel like a petting zoo. Either way it's not your fault because you were unaware and young :)
