+Dana I'm so glad that you identified your problem, some people live their whole lives not knowing that they compare themselves to others in an unhealthy way
For me I just can't stop comparing Because one day we're gonna die and what will be said about me I was a good family man, brother, friend, etc While others will be remembered for being successful,powerful,skilled,etc It just feels like that is something worth fighting for, for attention
You shouldn't care for what will others say or remember about you because this depends on them and how THEY view you. Instead find your own purpose in life, whether it is making your relationships with your friends and family better or pursuing your dreams, and focus on those things. Don't care about what other people say, care about your opinion and your wills, because this is YOUR life, not theirs!!
I never compare but some rude people compares me w other people just to let me knw that i'm no better than that person, and I'm aware of the complete idiotic disrespect and assholeness (such a waste of time but life is testing if I desreve much better people than this) . In this situation ,where people try to compare you w somebody else and make you look smaller, this is proof that, they're obsessed or disturbed over something you have, I think no one will waste their time on someone that they don't even care . They can't stop disrespecting you, because they want you to feel "miserable" , just like when they compare themselves with you". It's proof they're jealous .It could be jealousy or simple jerks.
I did something similar to this. I started doing exercises almost every day. I started with few exercises with few repetitions. Every time I added some more repetitions or exercises. Everything was fine. Now problem is: I don't have motivation at all. It was easy for me to do for example: 5 push-ups. Now when I have to do 50 of them - I don't feel motivated. It is hard for me to start. How can I deal with this problem?
It's not only I compare myself to others but I also find myself worse than the other person almost everytime, something I believe it's a big problem...Maybe you should do a video about this "perfect other",as he appears in the eyes of many of us.
Project Better Self I'm from Central America I country called Honduras and my first language is Spanish :) I wish one day my English get as good as yours!
Okay really late to this video but I’ve been going through a tough time in my life and this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you so much for getting this message out!
Can someone answer why do people thats doing better always say what they would and wouldnt do...i feel like they compare... Like if someone got pregnant at 15 the other female that is successful might say..thats exactly why i didnt want a child and im focused on success cause i know it would of been hard for me ... Or THEY might say back when was in school i know i didnt want to have a bf like other girls and be tie down. Cause when i make a family i want it to be right
The entire basis of modern social interaction, especially for males, is based on competition. We’re socially engineered to be competitive... oh wait, on another video of yours you said complaining about the system makes me a miserable outcast. Never mind then, I guess I should just stfu about that unimportant subject and live on in blissful ignorance right? Your channel is deceitful and puts blame on the individual when there’s obviously a bigger game being played here. Oh wait! There goes me being a miserable complainer again, and it’s all my fault right?
Also being competitive with others or myself is not something I’ve ever cared about nor something that has made me happy. It’s just not who I am. The only things that make me happy are hobbies and spending time with decent human beings, I could care less about rat races.
Yesterday my motivational speaker told me, "stop comparing yourself with others and start competing with yourself by being a better you today than yesterday." He was damn right! So the next day, I've stopped comparing myself with those that have six packs and start eating 2 donuts for lunch since I only had 1 yesterday.
