Dr. Gabor Maté ~ Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human 

I have just found Gabor Mate. I'm 62 and he has literally just changed my world. What an exceptional human being. ❤️❤️❤️

Wow, powerful. "Our addictions come because we don't want to grow up."

At 19:06 He quotes: 'All the difficulties you experience. All the problems you have. Exist quite simply because you don't want to grow up.........' On some level.......we don't want to take responsibility. Amazing!

After numerous therapies without any impact on me, the lectures of Dr. Maté opened myself up for life. After decades of suffering and blaming myself of being weak I now can understand. I can understand myself, my parents, my fucked up life as of now. I can forgive me and I can forgive them. It is like stepping out into the sun light. I barely recognize myself. Thank you so much, Dr. Maté.

What happens if I'm addicted to Gabor Mate?

I have been listening nonstop to Gabor Mate for over a week. Mind blowing insight into my addiction, codependency issues from childhood trauma carried over into 40 year marriage. I’m breaking free from this trauma!

" Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed that is. Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose." Master Yoda

We admitted we were addicted to Gabor and that our consciousness is becoming increasingly refined in Truth.

I have a low grade of education, but I find alot of he says is common sense so that I can even understand what he is saying as an ex- addict with only 6 mnths clean. thankyou

I just detoxed from a thirty five year addiction to heroin, methadone... My mom let me kick here in the serene beauty and safety of her townhouse on Bainbridge Island, WA., and she gave me Dr. Nate's book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts," it's such a great read.

The beauty of his thinking is that it is actually so simple and clear that I mistrust my own mind and find reasons to reject it basically because it sounds so simple and my addiction to complexity keeps me from readily accepting it.

Me sober 20 year 19. Feb. 2023. Gabor is spot on ❤🙏

52:26 addicted to love, too nice 53:16 loss of who you are is the big loss 54:36 wont come from the head, needs to come through the body and the core of your being 55:48 don’t shut off your pain, discovery of what lies behind, and experience; “the surest way to get to hell is to avoid going to hell 57:07 interconnection arising; without one there cannot be the many and without the many there can’t be the one

This amazing being picked me up hitch Hiking 4 years on Hornby Island in British Columbia.

Is anyone else wondering how they've missed Dr. Mate before now? As much reading, listening as I've done in my life, I did not know of his work until the past 6 weeks or so. He's a game changer.

Reconnecting to your inner godliness, not to outside attachments.

My father was a new man I got to know and it was so good He gave up alcohol and cigarettes at age 70 and 10 years free and loved life for a change.So well worth it

"All addiction is about the 👉conditioned👈mind controlling you"

44:00 it's difficult to think outside the box because thinking IS the box

I like how real he is

My names Heather and I'm an alcoholic.. Sober today and for the last 15 years Thanks to a power greater than me.. I say this to remind me of the hell I came from..and I'm a quick forgeter.! Joyous happy and free..day at a time From bonds I alone could not see.. Love and blessings to all. Great video ..thank you 💜

It is a shame there has been a large amount of disinformation spread about Dr Gabor Mate's work (such as psychology today, which coincidently is the first thing which appears when his name is googled) I think he is spot on about the trauma but the current societal paradigm defines trauma as some big event that happened to a child however, it can be defined as anything really which leads a child to maladaptive behaviour in their adult life (such as many small events). The entire definition of trauma needs to be clarified and broadened widely. Most people don't seem to understand what it is and it is their ignorance on the matter that brings about criticism of his theories

I had that experience with the trees when I was about 10 years old, and I had never taken Ayahuasca or any mind altering drugs. But I knew from that point onwards that trees were beings that wanted to communicate and felt empathy!

I just realised that I have more addictions than Ive thought I had. Im addicted to feeling smart, being wise, talking about these things and Im also addicted to lots of other things(drugs too, not in any severe way though but bad enough).Gabors books have truly enlightened me and this seminar enlightened me further.

For me, loving yourself is like not being in conflict with yourself, not being in constant opposition with yourself, being at peace with who and what you are. It can be quite difficult to attain this state, though.

i like that he was vulnerable and open about his own experience about his recent several weeks of being in a deep funk. That really makes it even more relatable and make me realise that WE ARE ALL REALLY IN THIS TOGETHER AS HUMANITY. This is a human struggle, not an isolated, individual struggle. Good talk. Thank you.

one of the quotes of Jesus that he talks about, he only gives you the gist of... it is a quote that is far too wise and beautiful to only get the gist of, and it has gotten me through so many crises i cant count. so, i wanted to share the whole quote in its entirety exactly as it is written... i hope it touches at least some of you the way it has me. "If you Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Save you. If you do Not Bring Forth what is Within you, what is within you will Destroy you." --Jesus of Nazareth

I deeply admire his humility when he says "How can I talk or give you that when I have not been there" and then he actually gives us something as deep.

If I could only watch one talk for the rest of my life, it would be this.

Please allow Closed Captioning for people with hearing loss.

This is an exceptional talk, he moves through it so effortlessly and beautifully. , His quotes from Joan of Ark, Camus, Buddhism. He speaks for All of us., And we get it, don't we? His honesty we recognise in ourselves. Sublime X

Addictions are escapism, when we're not addicted we're enlightened xx 😘

"The very culture that we live in denies that there's truth, makes people hungry, hurts people, leaves them isolated, therefore empty, therefore wanting satisfaction from the outside, therefore addicted, and then it creates all these products, and all these activities, and all these cultural diversions to fill the very emptiness that it creates. And then they say, "That selfishness is the nature of human beings." And there's the complete circle of the ideology." 47:25

I'm 37yrs old and I'm so glad i found Dr Gabor Matè, your books and lectures and the way you talk and present yourself is amazing 👏🏼 You definitely deserve a Noble Peace Price! I have so much respect for this guy.❤

I focus...and then refocus on what I can do that brings me joy, it brings me out of depression. What makes me feel good... I think about it... what I will do that makes me feel good. I imagine Simple little things like having a nice relaxing shower, tidy my room, organizing my clothes. Also I try to only keep things that I really enjoy. Good feelings, baby steps.

I did a lot of speaking and liked it. I realized it was like an addiction. I let it go, and focused in another area. In retirement, I took up making art. I gave all my work away. I let it go. Now I live in another country with a large family that will not even kill an ant, no exsggeration. My family is very beautiful and I am learning.

The idea of "being still" is the one, ultimate truth I have found in life that brings a person to the place of peace. The place of still, peaceful, oneness with everything. Your breathing slows. You do not thinks thoughts anymore...You just....ARE. Learning how to just simply sit with myself, and just BE was the most amazing thing I ever learned. It was so incredible that once I learned how to just BE, I was no longer depressed. I was no longer anxious. And not just in that moment...nearly all moments now. I dont even have to try anymore to get to that place, I just go there. If I notice myself feeling anxious, giddy, wanting wanting wanting, needing this or that, etc, I go to that place. It centers me. It grounds me in the real world. The one that my mind covers up and lies about so often to me.

When you learn how to suffer you will suffer no more

Another wonderful thing about Canada.... Gabor Maté :)

“Habit energy” dragging you off the cliff. What an incredible image of unintentional living!

Gabor Mate is a man who understands egoism and addiction intimately because he’s lived it. And he keeps his ideas beautifully simple.

I traveled once , a dusty road, Extending from my sight..... Young and strong, full of life, I journeyed with delight..... The rain it came, washed away, The path I had desired.... Searching left, spying right, Soon finding myself mired.... With bliss at stake, decisions made, To take another course.... Need take a chance, become not idle, Dwell not on remorse..... Trials arose , on my sojourn, That kept me from my path.... Fate convened, to set me straight, Lest I should feel its wrath.... Suns return, healing warmth, Drying mud from feet..... Feeling stronger, ever lighter, Leaping from defeat..... Lifes ups and downs, ins and outs, Lead us not in vain.... Joy and love, not all there is, We must embrace our pain.......

I wish Gabor Mate's talks got translated so that many more people get to hear them. So few people have this combination of competence and the balls to be honest about how things are really like.

I have watched this lecture over and over since my breakdown in 2019. I always learn something more every time I listen. Thank you Dr Mate. You are a treasure for seeing the deep truth so clearly.

God I wish we had more teachers like him ❤️🙏🏼

Gabor, thank you for your book "When the Body Says No". Possibly a life-saver. Thank you

"Thank God I am out of my mind" I love it!

I just found Gabor Mate these days.... and he changed my thinking, understanding and hopefully feeling. This came at the right time for me. Many blessings!

Here at minute 20:38 I'm just overwhelmed by this man's beauty of mind-he speaks of how people being benefitted by Aids or cancer by their own admission. It goes against the grain of our whiner-type culture with an extremely gentle integrity. He claims to have an unspiritual mind, but unbeknownst to himself he is spiritual beyond most.

Compassion for self..is critical..but also for others.

dr.Gabor your vibrations reach my soul. my inner dilmas and weaknessess with a great hope to reach the state of possible human loving myself and others. Thank you.

I love Dr. Maté's lectures. Write these lessons on your soul. This lecture is nearly 10 years old, and the material is timeless.

This video was almost an hour and it didn’t even feel like it. It felt less than. I only recently discovered Gabor Mate and I feel seen and guided listening to him. For that, I am grateful.

I just discovered him a month or so ago. I just love listening to him. He has such a gentle, but wise, and real persona. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and insights with us.

Ahh those darn samskaras! His presentation/interpretation of ancient concepts applied to everyday life if just magical.

Grateful for my traumas and addictions because now I know how to heal myself, others, and listed to my inner true needs.

I don't like this man - I just love him! What a beautiful mind inspiring gentle and with all freedom in thought thinking deeper.

Think this is one of the best lectures I’ve ever heard in my life. I’m speechless, and that’s not easy to achieve for someone as garrulous as myself!

This cancer has been the best thing happened to me or the addiction. Its the necessity to love themselves or live in the alienation as we are. He's a genius. Wow. It's all awakening, it's all God's given gifts 🙏🦋👌🌺🌹😘😘😘😘

He really has great comedic timing. Can see him being a stand up in a different life

I can't justify it. I was just plain wrong, reacting to the book's title rather than its content. Even Dawkins, of course, has acknowledged how his title may be confusing: "In the foreword to the book's 30th-anniversary edition, Dawkins said he "can readily see that [the book's title] might give an inadequate impression of its contents" and in retrospect thinks he should have taken Tom Maschler's advice and called the book The Immortal Gene." Still, the mistake is my responsibility.

I love this guy's honesty and openness.

I love this man!!!!! It drives me crazy too all the spiritual stuff that Adyashanti and eckart tolle talk about. They look like in another planet and not resolving anything.

Gabor is really deep and funny at times, incredibly open, easy to listen and understand I think I am addicted LOL

Great talk! One of the few people talking about spiritual seeking as an addiction, which I can totally relate to!

This man is enlightened. No joke,he is teaching beautiful things as it as. Thank you doctor

Our lives mainly resolve around making money. We cannot ever hope to realize our potential when almost all of our time is spent extrinsically motivated. First you have to become financially independent. Then you can live your life intrinsically motivated, your journey will begin, and maybe if you are lucky you can reach enlightenment. And even that is not the end stage. After this period of calmness, the storm will pick you up.

(Deletes 300 word essay on how great this is and describe it in one word) ....PERFECTION!

what a beautiful and profound speaker

This man is an abtract of spiritual awakening

Great speech! Thank you so much! I am having spiritual experiences, it is most beautiful thing that could happen in my life! I love Eckhart, Adyashanti and other spiritual teachers but it's true that someone who doesn't experience inner self naturally will have no clue how to even practice it and the mind will trick on you again. For me it is a blessing in my life journey. This blessing will come to everyone "sooner or later".. . Wishing you all best and much love!!! :)

Most excellent! So much condensed wisdom, humor, and encouragement in one segment. Seems long. But passes quickly. Much love!

Time is never wasted listening to this remarkable teacher

Has tears in my eyes!! So much truth!!!

Thank you, Gabor Mate, your videos have proven extremely life enhancing to me at this time.

God I'm gonna have to listen to this talk again sober tomorrow

Wounded healer

At 34:09 He says "In order to get over addiction you have to actually have the courage to look at how things actually are inside here.34:40 When somebody says I'm so and so and I''m an alcoholic. Something in me does not quite like that language, because the language identifies the person with the experience,and says I am that experience.Well you're not that experience! Addiction is not a person.Addiction is not who you are.When you say I'm an Addict.Nobody is an addict. That's not who you are.

"Its difficult to think outside the box, because the thinking is the box" - genius realization.

one of the best, most compassionate person the entire Earth! Namaste! you r a hero indeed!

I love and admire Gabor's honesty, and humour of course! :) I can listen to him for hours.

I am so grateful that I have found Gabor and to now understand childhood trauma for my own childhood and for my grown children.

His transparency is so authentic

This sharing is so good. Gabor is so honest, vulnerable, human. His voice and presence resonates deeply in me. Vibrating with this far away auditorium in Vancouver, thank you guy.

as always amazing speech. i love Gabor's honesty and sensitivity. thank you 🙏🏼💖

someone finally got it right. I love gabor

Gabor is a gift, so raw, so real, so easy to listen to and learn from.

How ruthlessly honest Dr. Maté. You silenced me. ♥

How humble he is....

Very few get what's wrong with people and the world in general. This man does and it should be people like him in government fixing problems.

Thanks for being so open, so venerable. I wish you calm,peaceful mind and spirit.

when said "addiction is not a person,nobody is an addict" he means the very essence of a human. in our essence we are pure human beings.but to once again become one, we must face our flaws inside us - inside our corrupted nature, which is just "a part" of a human's pure essence.

I'm glad I found this guy.

Absolutely right on the mark about so many things. Incisive. Condensed wisdom.

So refreshing to hear humility and genuineness.

They way he talks always make me calm down and relax! He is a genius man who can point at problems in recent society . I can't believe how calming his voice is 🥰❤️

Wow.. Just wow. What great wisdom and perspective that he offers us.

This is so awesome 👏 I wish I could have Gabor as my inside voice, guiding my hand and giving me advice at the crucial moments. Well...I guess I can. Lol! I love you so much Gabor.

After those 3 long replys... I love your WORK! YOU are one of the bright lights helping heal our world! I pray we all find our personal work as you have and also find our peace. Love to you...and peace deep to our souls!

I love that Gabnor Mate' can be honest and being honest is connecting to the best form of our inner child, honesty and honestly he can get as many people to understand that there are no exact answers. But we can work on finding them at least in doing so become our better self. Thank You Gabnor Mate' Love his sense of humor